Parsha Perspectives for Today (Korach, 5782) - Do This for Enormous Blessings in Your Life

good morning bogartov so wonderful to be back together in person live from the book return synagogue partial perspectives for today i want to begin by thanking our generous sponsors becky and abby katz and family dedicated the entire series in memory of becky's father david grossman legally initially this morning she was also sponsored by david meyer felt in commemoration of his father's your site manfred meyerfeld the leninism by rona cohen commemoration of her mother's your site doris jaffe the chronolog and this morning is also a memory of my grandfather's your site is which is today sam above for whom my son is named my beloved zeda so the shaman should have and aliyah think about him continue to be influenced and inspired by him often last i want to remind everyone if you've not yet signed up for our one-on-one campaign in the merit of our beloved st moscow it's just our day of giving a minute a day of torah study you can go to brsonline.org one and one please join we are learning pressure score of page 820 in the art scroll stone cast our passions continues the adolescent journey of the jewish people towards self-discovery the maturation the growing pains some of the difficulty for moshe albanian of god as the jewish people are growing into their own they went from a family to the birth of a nation an incarnable difficult nation and emerge hopefully to grow to be a holy and model nation but it takes time and here we have not only the underpinnings the source of rebellion the sugiya of what it means rebellion rebelliousness but of mahlokas the danger of the insidiousness of mahloka's conflict of unnecessary tension of how that destroys and tears apart families and communities and a people and we'll get into that in a moment but let's begin with the name kodak itself i picked up while i was in new york and you say for outstanding satoru it's a thick big new safer this is just by mid bar and basically somebody did some hard work to dig up unusual uh interesting dug up some fast and interesting things on each parsha so he begins with the following quotes to say for or moshe who says something a dover nifla says something wonders says something incredible he says i by the name not to employ not to use not to engage the name of david ben levy what's the name of the parsha ben levy who's the one who rebelled and challenged moshe ben levy don't use his name don't refer to him articulate by name why why and for example he quotes the nephesh near the first rabbit ben levy as an example and and all this referenced yakit ruvaini ben kahas they called the name of our partial not korach they call it ben levy ben kaas they use another association another name another reference to identify the name of the pasha but they refuse to reference to call it ben to call it kodak to use his name itself where does this come from i am a perishable he says if you look at the torah and parasha's pink the family of quran who brings in the name of the ramban the vinayats are the sons of yitzar are called by workford why we have a tradition that the children of korach in fact repented they did shuva we invoked their name and they say for telum because unlike their father their patriarch they did not join the rebellion they did chuva they re created and reestablished themselves they were tsaddikim however the two writes on this listen to what he says any should be spoiled the name of the wicked should be eliminated should not be used vain roy likros bishmam we should not use their name so the tour therefore says it's wrong don't invoke don't use the name kodak because kodak itself kodak himself was wicked he not only led for his time in incredible rebellion he created the precedent he planted the seeds he sowed the seeds of rebelliousness that we continue to suffer from until until today so the tour says don't use the name korach don't call the parashakura ben levy call it ben ben call it another name however however many most are not careful with this most before shiato kula bytes name parshas korach among them greatest perhaps among them none other than rashi rash writes pasha's korach and the swahili refers to it as pasha's korach the rambam and pasha calls it the parsha writes it here as well and we have many who do call it who do call it they'll say well who cares about the name of the parasha where the names of the pastures come from this is not for now for another time where the names of the pastures come from are they from our rabbis are they referenced in the gemara the madrish no where they come from we don't know we're not exactly sure we don't have a strong tradition of who exactly named the parshiots coin of lublin is safe received writes shame shall cause siddhis whom shall cause siddha al-dara sharma just like when parents have a level of prophecy when they give a name to a child which we'll talk about in a moment so too whoever established the names of the partios encapsulated they were able to describe the essence they got to the core of each parsha when they gave it its name every name is bolasian kodesh says it is the root of the his of that thing the names of our parshis reveal the essence of that parsha whoever gave those names was endowed with a certain level of of uh oppression prophecy had some deeper insight or understanding and therefore we don't dismiss the names of those passions the only other thing i'll say on this he says a couple of sections later he quotes why did they name him to begin with there was an earlier korach in the torah who else is named korach and the torah who's kodak for whom is qurach named one of the children of asaf one of the children of asav is named it tells us the names of asap and one of them was quran sulfur says when they named after a wicked person they already predetermined that this would be a wicked person when parents name a child there is an awesome responsibility it's an awesome responsibility in the name that we give names are not random labels they're not something that we all agree upon to be a description a chair is a chair that's an arbitrary english word we all have agreed there's a social contract to use the word share to describe a chair so we all know what we're talking about but that's not true when it comes to our children it's not a label or tag it's not an arbitrary word or name we use so we're on the same page about whom we're referring to it's a description it's a description it's a trajectory we are putting a child on a path in life with the name that we give and that's why it's an awesome responsibility when we name after people i'm proud of my son it's named after my grandfather's your inside is today and grandfather both of them were incredible people we we give a child we endow a child with a future with at least potential through the name that we give nakhsam sofa says it was a terrible mistake of binet levy when they named after one of the children the offspring of asav shame asham yirkov we're supposed to rot away we're supposed to distance ourselves from names of wicked not even to use them let alone name our children after them assam sofa says shakomishi it was all the result of naming after a wicked person it goes on and on fascinatingly safer i look forward to sharing some of the insights from it some of the uh unusual things that it digs up in there from it but let's go back with an introduction to our parsha to our parsha this introduction is critical because when you read our parsha when we study the rishon and khazal on it we are understandably always led to see korach as this heinous villain as this horrific person as the epitome of evil as we just saw the psalm sofa have that attitude towards him but it's not so simple it's not so positive it's not so passionate the misha navas para kay mr yazaya tells us what's of an example of a machlok is driven by impure motive what is a mach locus which has a personal uh agenda attached to it so when the mishna when our rabbis when they capture and communicate in that context you can't up a feel well hello we'll speak about in a moment the lack of parallel hello my word adversaries intellectual adversaries kodak was an adversary to moshe not the adaso so what is it set up as korach so it should say hello if you listen to today's one minute in the one-on-one campaign rabbi mirosev quoted a beautiful insight mother shamesh because kara dasa he didn't even get along within his own party in his own people there was strife and there was mahlokas even though they joined forces to take on moshe within his own party he couldn't get along and that's why it's called so there are other answers which were given which we'll see in a moment but the mishnah rabbis set it up that korach is a villain qaraka is a wicked person but it's not so simple in fact greatness to korah possibly the measure says the measure says korach was equal to aram their righteousness their brilliance the greatness that sidkus he was great aaron moreover the message there further says greatness he carried he lifted the aram kodak was not simple person korach was not driven by a simply impure egotistical motive right he was incredibly wise he was a great he was in trying to incredibly had great achievement moreover rashid quotes he was a pikachu he was smart he was insightful he was wise so how could he have fallen and how can we see him and paint him as a villain the arya kadosh great kabbalist writes that sofi tavos the end of the word korach are sadiq the last letters of sally katamarya a righteous sprouts like a day tree sadiq korach was not some pedestrian simple civilian bala boss rebellion ego driven korach was great great like aaron he was a hakam he was a godot he was sadiq in the second one of the day and preet sadik writes to us knew how purely he was driven that when he had this instinct intuition to confront moshe he felt that kurdish planted it within him he felt he had arrived he was such a sadique and such a that if he felt that and was drawn to that it must be the will of hashem so attributes korach a pure motive even though of course he went horrifically wrong sir negan goes the opposite of this you see that there was some jealousy there was some envy that behind the greatness and the brilliance behind the righteousness and the virtue behind all who quran was and who could be ultimately what was there envy and jealousy so the altar of the verdict says that that's why it's such a pernicious media jealousy to envy comparing and competing with others it'll be our downfall it's our kryptonite can have all the potential in the world you could be on track and trajectory to be an arrow not going but when you're driven by jealousy and envy but you're looking at and competing with others it's your end so the out of the variety says that envy and jealousy and taiva desire cover the desire for honor they remove a person from the world so the altar right these three qualities are like horsepower they're like the horsepower in a car they can drive you right out of this world right off a cliff but the horsepower of the car can drive you off a cliff or into a tree but it could also drive you straight to do a mitzvah to arrive at some destination that you're meant to be the horsepower itself is not intrinsically good or bad the steering wheel is what makes the difference it's how we drive the direction that we turn it's how we steer all that horsepower so kin and type and covet are not inherently or intrinsically bad qualities we know that we have only two inherently intrinsically bad qualities what are they there and the rambam both agree rama is mr turd and abandoned what are they gaiva arrogance arrogance which was talked about this morning arrogance you have to be extremely humble and what's the other anger there's no room for anger every other quality is called a meda they're called midos we work on midos because the word mida means a measure they belong in some measure i always give the example of the orgasm you're making a chicken soup you put no pepper in it's going to be bland and miserable if you pour the entire bottle of pepper in it's going to be miserable you're going to spoil and ruin it you need to put it in the right meda the right measure of pepper belongs that's why they're called midos so every quality belongs in our recipe in our repertoire but it has to be the right media there are two exceptions anger and arrogance so the author of the verdict says kenneth uncovered those are middles that could drive you to greatness cover not honor that's driven by ego but honor of hashem and taiva oh if caseville is but if you tap into that drive and that hunger and that appetite you can direct the atahara to great things and kenna envy and jealousy you see the way someone else diamonds and the way they learn you see their instincts for and you say i want that i want to be like that i want to become that then it's a great thing it's not the horsepower it's the steering wheel it's which way we direct he steered the wrong way he was in the wrong direction he drove off a cliff quite literally into the ground because even though he had the potential for greatness he blew it he blew it said about revlo bian in the name of the altar of kelm iran what was the last thing said before he died he said the last message of muslim before he left this world it says that these three things can a time of accompaniment see an s doesn't say adam it doesn't say these three qualities remove a person from the world it says removes the person means the great person no matter how great you are no matter how great the potential you have to be if you don't steer the kenneth uncovered wrong how many great people have we seen accomplished famous distinguished people who kinna taiva or kavod one of those things misguided misdirected led them off a cliff led them to end their reputation in their lives so it's not just adam not every simple person needs to be careful idea the greatest of people sukkah says the greater you are the greater your tahara so the greater people the greater the importance of steering correctly of steering in the right of steering in the right direction okay megan yosef my name is father i love the safer he gave me joseph megan yosef listen to this insight so we said the mission of navajo sets it up it's not parallel it should be hello in shamai or intellectual adversaries and mo korach moshe what do you mean code of odds we've given answers to this year's past and one of the challenges of the parashat class is as you look at the parsha you remember all the fantastic devetora that we shared before and i'm tempted to remind myself and you of them again but you could listen to old years over and over again good review there are seven days in a week one of them shabbas but six days leading up to each office we have at least six of previous year's partnership i say that not to promote myself because i say nothing novel in my parsha class i just repackage and recycle and redistribute everyone else's incredible torah so it's worth re-listening in their personalities they were peacemakers they were peace lovers they were very happy people socially well-adjusted people they got along with people they loved and they treasured and they pursued peace it just happened to be shamasa on a certain topic they had disagreement so they appeared as adversaries because on a certain topic they came to separate conclusions but that was about their intellectual position their halachic position that wasn't about their mahouse their character who they were who they were if there was no hillary to be disagreeing with shammai and shamai simply had his opinion if there was no shama i disagree with hilo and hilla simply had his opinion there's no maglokas they weren't in their nature in their character people of tension and conflict they just held opinions and when the opinion was in conflict with another it appears as a mach lokas and that is they're disagreeing about a position they're disagreeing about a conclusion but they're not people of disagreement allah they were people of conflict they got a thrill they had some endorphin release they had some pleasure out of the fight out of the fight you know we know people like this they're balling they love to fight they love a fight they're not happy unless they're in a fight with someone they get a thrill out of the fight they have some distorted joy out of the fight they love a fight now as community leaders our job is to say fantastic let me give you a few causes to fight for last night someone distributed anti-semitic packages and driveways all over montoya's circle terrible the defense league the defense league if you remember the van that passed us by they distribute little anti-semitic in our own backyard we have to fight anti-semitism we have to fight for agunas to get their gap you have to fight for claudius israel there are so many worthy causes to fight for so you take the person predisposed who loves the thrill of the fight and you unleash them on a worthy fight that's our our job and our responsibility but if sorel can regulate points out that's why the mishnah doesn't have a parallel shamanism because they're not balay they're not people of conflict they're not people of tension you know those people that around every table or in any conversation they wanna you know drop something that's gonna create escalate they love it there's a thrill people fighting yelling screaming not talking to each other they love to whisper the cheer the fight who's not talking what's happening the controversy that's kodak so they were looking for a fight they happened to find it with moshe if they couldn't find it with moshe they would have found it with someone else so moshe is not the other side of their equation it's not korach in moshe the way it's hillary because when you're obama the subject the object the target is not someone with whom you have a different opinion or position you're not intellectually sparring or in disagreement you're simply a person of mahlokas and you chose to pick it with that person but it's not really about them or their position it could have been about with anybody so it's korak moshe was not part of that he was the means he was the target of the choice of the moment yosef's beautiful insight beautiful insight on this uh on this puzzle on the opening really on our on our introduction okay let's go let's go fighter let's go fighter pass a gimbal so they gather they gather because that's the way it is by the way that's the way it is and this has been escalated thanks to technology enormously when you're sincere you approach someone directly you have a conversation say i'm trying to understand your position or here's why i disagree or here's my concern hear me out but when you're looking for the mach lokas when you're looking to escalate conflict when you're doing it not to resolve but you're doing it in order to become a fan favorite among a group then it's vaii kahalu you gather you come as a group see this all the time where somebody uses social media to attack somebody let me just reach out to them i'm not talking about personally your flight was cancelled so you use social media to call out the airline could you how dare you someone get back to me talking about somebody you know a neighbor someone you live near talking about a rabbi principal had a school where people will use social media when they have a relationship rather than reaching out rather than having a direct conversation by ikalu it's nothing new nothing new that methodology of mach lokas goes all the way back to the birth of our people to the desert so they gather on moshe quran was as much playing to his audience as he was speaking to moshe and our it's too much for you it's too much for you you have too much power you've consolidated all your power quality everybody's holy musa and inside of them all of us is god why are you elevating yourself over why are you expressing authority over who are you who are you in years past we've discussed that in fact there is some truth a kernel of truth it's a compelling argument that's why i persuaded so many to follow it's empowering many dick many many uh charismatic leaders through history have said exactly this they said why are we listening to a dictator why are we listening to a centralized authority we need to spread the power power should be among the people let's lead a rebellion and it worked and it worked rashi says on these words ben gitzer ben kaspan levi sorry i skipped this let's go back to the opening puzzle going back to the genealogy of korach from whom he did benjitsar ben kaspan levy lohideko says rashi whom did we omit we left out somebody in azir's when korach was dating on his resume why didn't it say yakov benitsar benka levy you'd think that the alta zeda who's going to even make a phone call after you put on the resume yaakov everybody what medicines was yaakov okay we'll leave that up i don't understand so rashford says it doesn't say yaakov back to rashford doesn't say yakov because yaakov anticipated he knew that there would be mahlokas he said keep me out don't attach my name don't identify or associate me with it at all i want to be as far away as i possibly can from so i don't understand so he dove and leave me out so if he's not mentioned in the parsha he's no longer kodak's altazeda he's still the zeida it's still his great grandchild it's still on his record there's still the association because the name's not on the resume because his name is omitted from the passion none of us know ben kaspe and levy oh who was levy's father again we don't know what did it help to be left out why did he darven for that as far away as possible if you see somebody as a thief it means the father the grandfather the great father was also a thief maybe they didn't steal possessions material things they were gonna das they stole people's impression so yaakov [Music] he wasn't davening that he wouldn't be identified with the great grandchild he was dominant that if the great grandchild would have an itia towards mahlokas that it didn't come from him this tefila made no sense to be about his progeny just because he wouldn't be named in the list wouldn't make him not related so why did it help the davin so says the author of the filo was not for the great grandchild that fila was whatever quality is expressing or manifesting itself in the great grandchild let it not be because it's coming from me let it not be found in me let it not be some form of what originated within within me that is the altar of altar of slovakia okay now back to our past apostle kimmel korach makes this argument says that that same language that same clause rav it's too much for you that korach used he later paid for when he was told where did it come from what was the motive he said why are you the kohanim why do you have the position of distinction why are you serving in an elevated fashion extensively above everybody else we want it we have to drive ourselves as far as we can go but we have to know our our limits as well know our limits as well conscious has an amazing comment here kolai dakulam kadoshim he made a compelling argument the problem was the mach locus came not from a drive to match to meet to be on the same level what did it come from we've said already came from jealousy came from envy so the mishnah says when you have a locus that's so full is gay what does that mean it's a very funny language so fullest gain what does that mean no somebody offered translation what's sophalesca you mean it'll come to be how is the mahlokas come to be it will come to fruition it will be fulfilled it will be enduring it will be justified valid legitimate what is so fullest sofa in the end his kayam it will endure why would you ever want to make locus to endure even if sustained shayna washington and then what's the example of each other and the rambam is writes when the reason you came to your conclusion is not in conscious distinction to the other but to defend your belief so for this i then your opinion will endure but if you arrive at your opinion not because you believe it to be true or as part of the pursuit of truth but only to be different than the other then it's not sufficient i'll tell you as an aside a beautiful is a shield they're shield bearers shield carriers why are they called bali tree sin shield bear shield carriers sort of cook right in his ain't ya his commentary and shas and the agatha of cook writes because khazal didn't carry a sword they didn't see their mission as piercing the other they carried a shield to defend their position they weren't concerned with taking down the other person's position they weren't concerned with proving the other person wrong they weren't concerned with delegitimizing invalidating marginalizing the other they carried a shield to protect themselves this is who i am this is what i'm about this is what i believe this is my messora and i carry a shield to protect where i come from and who i am and you be who you are they weren't about destroying the other they were balay trees and they were shield bearers they were about protecting themselves and that's what the rambam understands sofaleskai means your opinion will endure when your opinion is a reflection of your pursuit of the truth when your opinion is simply to be contrarian we all know people like that too whatever you they say whatever you say they'll take the opposite opinion there's a strategy so you play a little reverse thinking with them but the contrarian they just always take their opinion they don't even believe anything they say they just have to be the outlier they just have to stand out they just have to be the contrarian that's not so false i am when you have a contrarian opinion it doesn't endure it doesn't last because it's only a contrarium so the mirror explains the rambam rama gives us the cloud god you said if the tooth started if the two sides are ready to listen and to hear and when one side hears something persuasive compelling from the other they stop and they say you know what i think you're right i admit i'm wrong i had the wrong way of looking at it i was thinking about it wrong i had the wrong facts my data was incorrect i read the wrong things you know what i agree i've been convinced that's lashing but each have their heels dug in so deeply that they can't listen and they can't hear that there's no opening there's no window there's no opportunity at all to be willing to be persuaded that's not the shame so you ready what i'm about to tell you is worth coming to the whole parish issue just for this they say one of the name of the tsadikim we heard from so what does it mean flipped the entire mission on its head and he said when you believe that your opinion is then you're going to dig in your heels and you're going to fight forever when you recognize not lashing you don't have a monopoly on the truth when you're willing to listen and be open to the opinion of others it's not so full of skying it means it won't last forever you'll be able to resolve it and you'll come to the truth entirely flips the mission on its head so for the skying is not the good thing it's the bad thing it means it will last forever so when you're a la shame shaman you've never seen anyone by the way in a mahlokas have you ever met someone who says yeah i'm involved in this it's not really the shame shamayim i was bored corona there was nothing else to do so i got involved in this locus i started this mach lokas you know if i get a lot of followers i can monetize that make a lot of money so i incited him nobody ever says that everyone involved in mahlokas always believes always believes it's always believes that it's because for the right reason always believes it's purely driven so it's only when you admit only hashem knows i can't claim that i'm fighting for god i don't represent god god didn't give me a monopoly of truth so therefore i'm listening yaakov aveeno was yosheva o halim not o'hell he sat in many tents he learned in many bhatte madrish he heard different opinions gomorrah irvine says why do we pass in like hello hello and shamay are these intellectual adversaries they're the example of why do we pass him like hello and everyone says because they always heard the opinion of shammai before they arrived at their own opinion before i make my conclusion new let me hear what you think why do you think that way what led you to that thinking i hadn't considered that angle i'll only come to my conclusion once it includes your thinking but if i've already come to my conclusion before i even hear you out if i'm closed i'm shut down i'm not open to any other way then i'll never grow then i'll never grow so he entirely flips it on its head in such a beautiful in such a beautiful and fascinating way this is the i mentioned the insidiousness of of mach lokas just how terrible and how dangerous and how negative it is so i want to tell you something about the power of mach locus we're going to get back into analyzing the themselves in a moment but just looking at the big picture of our parsha and they say for yosef to hilos he writes that hashem is so amazing that even after a person makes a mistake we come up short we fail hashem he nevertheless still gives us parnassa and he helps us have a roof over our head and he gives us food to eat there are people all around us who do not meet hashem's expectations and yet somehow they have a roof over their head near futi because hashem provides and that's what we say he provides for everyone what is ours to be mara but includes even even the people who are hote the people who rebel against god who disobey god the people who dismiss god he's not saying he gives everybody parnassa why he leola because he's a magnanimous magnanimous generous hashem he's kind he's giving and he's a loving father so he's forgiving even of the people who are continuing to rebel against him he gives everybody indeed the day the jewish people built the eggel and worshiped it the mon still fell madrid says in the words you were righteous and kind when you gave us the man and we lana boshes upon we were brazen we rebelled against you when so the day of the ego you understand what the day of the ego was we cheated on hashem on our wedding night infidelity and unfaithfulness we stood under the we pledged to be faithful forever and then we cheated on hashem right away you know what hashem did he said here's the credit card anyway use it buy what you need here's the mon enjoy despite how egregious the eagle was the man continued to fall however according to the shaivid muslim on the day that korach led his rebellion on the day that he sowed mach lokis among the people the mon did not fall on that day there was no mon six hundred thousand people really two to three million went hungry that day there was no income no livelihood there was no food to eat why because the locusts the division and the fighting that was reigning within the camp was intolerable it was inexcusable it was inexcusable will push away a hundred forms of parnassa a hundred forms of paranasana mahlokas and tension and fighting conflict they're toxic not only with kodak and his co-workers swallowed alive but their wives and their children went down with them because when someone's in makhlokas it brings down the entire family they're all spoken about they're all named they're all marginalized rashi says samia you see the severity of mahlokas based that only punishes a person after the age of 13. and based in shambhala the base down in heaven only punishes the person at the age of 20 and yet mahlokas is so noxious that even these young children went down with korach the infants of the families involved in the mahlokas died as a result you see how terrible it is how terrible it is our parents know that there are many things we can tolerate from our children we can tolerate a lot when they don't listen we can tolerate when they sneak their device can tolerate when they don't do exactly what we ask but what we can't tolerate is when they fight with one another within our own children within our own family there's so much that we can accept so much we can look the other way and we're not saying we still shower them with generosity even though there's so much we're disappointed in but what we can't tolerate is that doesn't mean they have to conform with one another you can disagree not to eye to eye with one another have different lives and lifestyles than one another but you can't have much locus you can't have conflict because the same way the monster fell rebellion on faithfulness to hashem he still provided says i'm out of here i have no interest in continuing to be generous to you our passion says and though the rambam itself omits it listen carefully the baha'i the smack the safety uranium and others they count mahlokas as a mitzvah it's one of the tarjag in the torah we have 6 13. you put on thousand filling this morning keeping kosher you're going to keep shabbos we have 613 mitzvos there is a specific love there is a mitzvah in the torah not to get involved or dragged into mach lokas no matter how good your intention no matter how noble your calls revolve a quotes from the altar of kelm that the issue to get involved in makloka's applies even or especially to noble causes or intentions fighting for this reason someone has to speak up to them someone has to push back someone has to write that public letter someone has to write that post online korach was fighting for the every man koledakulam kadoshim everybody's holding the sokha mashem he was representing and advocating and fighting for the every man korok's fire plans were ultimately used to cover the mizbayach because he had a holy carvana he had a holy intent but despite his holy intent despite his noble cause said the altar of calm you see how pernicious how destructive bachlocus is that it brought his own demise that of his children what a message for our time that people can no longer disagree agreeably we've lost the art of how to argue to come to different conclusions you can have different opinions and positions we don't have to all look the same or be the same but we have to love one another we have to get along with one another and that's the outrageous the people who think you know what i need for parnasso the biggest school for parnassa i'm gonna read the pasha salman the entire red bendel i'm gonna repeat the my torso my cloth let's stick a key into a khala you want to do it it connects you to hashem god bless but the biggest school of harpanosa that exists is to not go near mach lokas don't touch it with a 10-foot pole don't be counted among either side taking sides stay far away no matter how noble the cause now it's not much locus when you fight anti-semitism it's not much locus when you're free in laguna when you stand up for israel or stop iran talking about mahlokas from within our people point out that in the quintessential what is the ultimate hope for shalom you have to take the first step you have to be the one who refuses to get dragged in you have to make the first move moshe abbayno in our pasha goes to see them he doesn't stand on ceremony he doesn't say do you know who i am do you know that hashem himself has endorsed me do you know that the bonus shall be said i'm categorically different than every other human being mushroom leaves his tent to go to theirs ultimately they're not able to resolve it says i'm not going to stay in that ceremony he tries to reconcile it's an amazing story i first heard this from my two guests tomorrow night in behind the bhima davi safir and uh yudhi geber the bhabhav mahabharata was known for his tremendous tremendous dedication to shalom to avoid my focus he was a man known for peace stay away from mahloka's got along with everybody he was beloved by everyone one time in fact someone published pashka villain you know the big posters that they glue and they hang they published pashka villain against the bubba forever and the rabbit was so afraid that it would lead to mahlokas that he gave the following message he said i've been mukal the one who spread the pashka villain but if anyone decides to start fighting with those who spread them i'm not mohal you not in this world and not in the next he didn't say i'm not mohal the person who hung the posters he said if you choose to make a mach lokas because of those posters i'm not mulholl you so of course nobody touched it and there was no locus as a result one of the oldest mahloksim in the history of hasidus maybe the worst in the history of hasidis was the bible great great grandfather the divre khaim of sans who battled against the sadiguru khasid the son of the riches of his problematic personality he joined the masculine the diver and therefore because he was suspicious of having aligned forces with the masculine that rejected all of saudi guru and he went to a bitter bitter battle that was very public a horrific mach locus stayed in galicia for years there was a tension between sans and all the branches of sadigur and it was a big big big mach locus between those two between those two communities fast forward one evening in borough park shalom above over the baba whatever is walking home from his base madrish and he patches it passes the steeple a branch of san diego and it was a eurotime it was the third of khajwan the euro side of the arizona the bubba for stops with his entourage and he looks inside this little basement he sees what's happening he says no let's go inside i want to be part of the fabrega tish it's gets all of his courage turns to the bob of arab and he says rabbit but but the zeida the diver he went to war this was the battle of his life how could you go against the zeta you're going to go inside you're going to make peace you're going to join forces how could you go inside it's the bubba that yeshua would spend his whole life trying to make peace he said the following to his god by he said i don't have my zeida the divrechaines torah i don't have my zeida i'm not my personality i don't have my zaid the diver said i don't have i'm not zoha to have my zeida devskidusa i don't have i haven't reached the level of myself i don't have i'll never be the div i don't have his leadership qualities i don't have anything like myself the one thing i should keep the one way i should be like him is to hold on to this mahlokas makes no sense if that is the only thing i have from him i can let go of that as well and with that he took his gap by by his hand and then they went in to the sadly here at saitish so mach lokas is a love it's an iss it's time to let go you see how destructive you see how negative it is i had to quote from her bender because my new son-in-law in the middle of shaba brachus i would sing for you but nobody wants to hear that son of bender and his beautiful savior he also talks about maflokas the nature and danger of it we know that ombun palace was meant to join kodak's rebellion but his wife yora listen carefully it's your job not that hillary would ever be in my locus his wife objected even though on ben palace was persuaded she uncovered her hair stood at the doorway the people therefore went another way and based on that we attributed her the pasta mishra sabesa she built her home the wisdom of a woman to be able to cut through that temptation to make locus because if we're honest most people get a little thrill like to stand on the sideline they get a little joy what is all sports if not watching the competitiveness who will emerge the winner who will triumph of course the yankees who will come in second place at least who will come in second place that's the nature of all sports is the competitiveness the war the battle the gridiron football field the long bomb it's all language of macholocas football it's the famous comedian the difference in football and baseball baseball the whole goal is to be safe at home football throw a bomb it's all about the gridiron it's all it's uh violence so we all have a little piece of that no one ben pelosi also wanted to be part of the action he was persuaded it was his wife who stood in it was his wife who had the clarity of mind it was her wisdom her inside her penetrating insight that bon sevela besa what does it mean to build a home what does it mean to build a home when you build a home you have to build it out of walls and what do the walls do they know what to keep in and they know what to keep out the walls are protective the walls are insulation it's the wisdom and the intuition and the instinct of a woman we all listen carefully that ban sabesa that's what we rely on we rely on judaism the torah is in are the original feminists we understand the beauty and the wisdom and the strength we don't blur the differences or make everyone exactly the same we play the strengths and we rely on each for what they contribute and their role shalom was not apologizing and he wasn't defensive there was no movement in his time that he had to sound defensive or apologetic towards so why did say because he meant it because it's true because it's axiomatically the way god designed and created the world that we rely on that feminine quality of that instinct that intuition to bond cevasa to put up walls what can come in and what has to stay out on ben palace was ready to knock down those walls and to join forces with korach but mrs ombre and palace said no way not on my watch bun sabesa she didn't let it in she didn't let it in so bender writes i remember a beautiful family two siblings that survived the war it was just them everyone else had been killed rahman al-salaam fine people that raised a beautiful family but they fought two siblings did not speak for decades fight ended when one of them died and could no longer speak they never made peace everyone else had been killed and these two survivors agents of rebuilding had thrown away so much happiness so much potential to the neshamas of their parents so much shared joy over whatever insignificant issue had come between them i've seen families not talk for generations recently was dealing with one when you ask what happened nobody even remembers the origin of the fight nobody even remembers what began at all they just know armasora is we don't talk to that branch of the family the grandparents didn't talk the parents didn't talk we don't talk why what happened we don't remember we just know we don't talk baba whatever says you don't have any of the other greatness of the grandparents you can let go of that too you could let go of that too part appeared in antagonism and raden and the fire of mahlokis tore through the town the townspeople all got involved in this agreement between the local called the meeting of the whole town of radha says rebecca this is what said who fights is compared to a wealthy man with a pocket of gold coins but there's a hole in his pocket with every step he takes the money pours out of his pocket eventually this one small hole will cost him his entire fortune radina yiddin said what purpose is all your torah and mitzvos all the gold if you have a whole that's going to allow everything to fall out i beg you have mercy the day of judgement comes and you stand before the ki vote do not mention my name i've warned you proceed at your own caution will cost you everything that was the hakma of the wife of one bin palace the wisdom that made her build to put up walls to keep out what doesn't belong in to build you can build and build and build and you can be tasked after everybody passes away and you survive with rebuilding you could have gold of torah and mitzvos you could have health and parnassa you could have alamylas and allah brothers in the world but if you have mahlokas you have a hole in your pocket the gold coins are falling out until you'll be left bankrupt and indigent and alone with absolutely nothing left like me and the amount of time there is left in this year see if we're even going to pay turn the page heard and he fell on his face what does this mean moshe heard me fell on his face i'm skipping a beautiful roof okay i'll tell you fine convince me very quickly but outside outside kodak says everybody's holy why emotion arum why are they elevating above everybody else when you're in the presence of greatness it should make you feel not i'm as great and i'm greater it should make you feel i'm humble when you in fact have access and you're close to the righteous to great you're my shiftless you realize i'm a nothing and a nobody i need to make my life and make myself into something korach accused motion of arrogance you know why you know why because the gemara conduction says whatever you see in someone else is really revealing and reflecting what's inside yourself when you're critical of someone else when you accuse someone else of something you are in fact exposing or revealing what's inside you so when koda comes that motion out and accuses him of arrogance of ego it's really because he's arrogant and because he has ego whatever we accuse the other of we're revealing what's on our side so when you want to level an accusation when you want to walk for a criticism of another stop and immediately look in the mirror and say am i seeing that flaw in the other because really that's the flaw in me am i identifying the struggle the problem in the other because that's really the garbage inside me that i'm contending with that i need to be honest about that i need to overcome within myself when you point a finger at another there are three fingers pointing back at you whenever you accuse the other you're really revealing what's wrong and what's off with inside yourself another mega joseph quickly by ishmael moshe kumar and salejan says what did moshe hear vayishma moshe so they gathered they gathered on moshe they distributed a letter all of the community they wrote a post on social media they called for a town meeting a town hall meeting and moshe heard them what did he hear ishmael moshe says the gemara shama the murmurings the rumblings the whispers you know what they were saying is sleeping around with the married women could you imagine moshe rabbenu that's what they were accusing him of on the gemara says where did that accusation come from where did that suspicion come from how could they say that about a moshe rabbenu lahavdil i'm not even going to give an example because i'm i'm too ashamed too whoever they could guddle you're picturing picturing in our time the goddale of today the gundle of yesterday could you imagine that would break out and they would say that that gundle could say a lot of things about them but you're going to send and spread an accusation they're nik shelby they're sleeping with married women says do you know where it comes from that a person loses their moral boundaries and crosses that boundary of faithfulness when you're so arrogant when you're arrogant you think you're above the law when you're arrogant and you think that you're above reproach that's when you fall morally and you'll cross that line so this is exactly along the lines it's continuation of the inside of of what was at the core of korach it expressed itself as rebelliousness it was a form of envy and jealousy but what was the disease what was the malaise what was the malady what caused it arrogance ego so therefore because he was arrogantly egotistical he projected it on moshe and arrived at the conclusion i can't even say it that moshe albania was guilty of that biafra sotenira so the mega yoshi says khalsham someone says i'm orthodox i'm observant i'm a shomer shabbos so we are immune to infidelity affairs and infidelity not by us not for the shomer shabbas not for the orthodox and observant but you see nobody's immune and nobody is above everyone's vulnerable and susceptible why because when you add arrogance to the mixture arrogance to the picture and you think you're above the law and abrupt approach that's when you are the most vulnerable and susceptible that's why that's why the torah has so many fences around promiscuity around this issue you see a world we're living our generation our time it's an incredibly arrogant world we understand where it comes from the technological advance and progress and breakthrough is at hyper speed sonic speed we learn and discover and introduce new things to the world at a faster pace than anyone before it's the information age we have access to gazillions of terabytes of information at our fingertips it makes sense that we swell with arrogance that we think that we're so accomplished but there's an enormous danger when a generation thinks it's arrogant you know what happens they forget god there was just a poll last week who does all the polls pew the belief in god in america is at an all-time low belief in god among americans is at an all-time low i don't think it's a coincidence that the belief in god is at such a low and the rise of immorality promiscuity licentiousness and all the challenges and dissolving of boundaries there used to be such a thing called boundaries hashem created a world of men and women we knew the difference created a world of relationships of monogamy of loyalty of marriage of contract of obligation of faithfulness a world of modesty person dressed person reserved modesty physically that you shared certain things only for a certain setting in certain people instead of with the world modesty emotionally there were feelings or thoughts you had that you kept inside yourself or shared with your closest confidants you didn't post for the whole world to read and see we had boundaries we had boundaries and they're gone and they're disappearing every boundary every boundary boundaries to our thoughts and feelings boundaries to our body boundaries to our definitions and i don't think it's a coincidence that belief in god is plummeting and these challenges are rising vaishma moshe understood he heard the murmurings they accused him why because they were guilty of it themselves you accuse the other what you're guilty of what you're capable of and when you're arrogant and you think you're above the law and you're above god then your boundaries dissolve and disappear and you're capable of unfaithfulness that was something they struggled with and therefore they accused moshe of ishmael moshe moshe he heard it and he understood it and he accused him of it we didn't even get past the first page today this is an all-time low for our sheer i'm humiliated and i'm embarrassed goodness gracious kodak eye tricked him or was it his eye that tricked him he saw who would descend from him also part of his arrogance okay well i'm with this because it's one last thought along the same lines peric tests i impossible also it enables us to turn to the second page moshe hears and he says put a fire and place incense on them before hashem incense is the answer by the way kitauras is what's mahaprabhu every plague in the time of uh there was a pandemic and it was we have a tradition about ketosis roll we spoke about in the past we've spoken about mahar tomorrow the idea and the ideal of tomorrow boker why both you got to listen to the previous year again because of the people i quote nothing to do with me is it's too much for you children moshe flips at it right the same thing that was said to him he says to them and god later says it to him you could spend hours just on those words how did he come to such misguided foolishness how did it happen came to such misguided foolishness we know that anytime a person sins we're overcome by insanity because if we stop and think this is what hashem wants from me right now is this going to be good for me or will it sabotage me if we actually maintain our clarity our consciousness our mindfulness our judgment then we can never do that thing so when we do that thing it's only because so what was the rush just that entered korach he was a pikachu he was a smart person what are you doing he knew it was going to end so rashid his eye tricked him as i fooled him what does that mean is i fooled him again we've discussed in the past not for now we have two eyes godless of them shiftless add them with one eye we see the greatness another eye we see we need the balance in order to have good vision peripheral vision you need to have a balance between the eye that's these godless shifts are them when you're blind in one eye as bill um all you see is godless adam you have no sense of shiftless of them then your eye has fooled you then you don't see clearly so what did he see offspring is progeny who was equal to motion he said all this is going to descend from me this greatness shimon badaro motion like motion around all is going to descend from me this greatness so he said i must be great if it's all descending from me and i'm the source i'm the origin it originates with me i must be great and i deserve great distinction and great power so the stipelers that's all is he should have seen that and come to the opposite conclusion if this is who will descend from me i need to ingrain i need to bequeath to them pure genetics spiritual genetics i have to stay as far away as possible from my locus i have to be the best version of myself so i can pass it on to them instead he came to the opposite conclusion if i stand to produce such greatness locus i must be great i deserve more he should have come to the opposite conclusion so the stiper concludes them with this so do we appear when a person wants more honor why didn't i get the alia why they honor me at the dinner why am i not the chairman of the president why am i not of the better seat when a person ever advances that they deserve or honor or why does someone else get it that's the answer themselves their very advancement of that argument is the tariffs they're giving the answer to their own question the very fact that they articulate that they pursue that that they feel that is the exact answer or explanation of why they don't have it and why i don't get it you're supposed to run awake from covered and not chase it when you run away from covered covered runs after you when you run towards covert the cupboard runs away from you so much more to say but for now have a great day stay happy stay healthy stay holy tomorrow morning still sasha i'm living with amuno tomorrow night david safir and yuli gebber are great behind the vemma have a great day i