Parsha Perspectives for Today (Acharei Mos, 5782) - Making Space

good morning booker tobin welcome back to parsha perspectives for today great to resume great to be together and hope everybody had a wonderful pesach and a good zoomer as they say parish series is sponsored generously by becky and abby katz and family in memory of becky's father david grossman our learning is lately this morning is also sponsored by our dear friend mona hirschhorn on the occasion of the second year site of marvin hirschhorn motion ben menachem we miss marvin it's a wonderful wonderful member of our community by eliza waxman or foo shleiman for miriam bastilla and basically as well as yesterday we have the privilege this morning of learning page 636 in the art scroll stone hummish which by now you should have heard the opening of i think we read it like four or six times because of the way that yanta fell out this year at least here in america in the diaspora in the gulas we read it so many times so you are familiar with the opening of it god spoke to moshe when was this communication when was this conversation after the death of the two sons of aaron their tragic premature inexplicable death because of all they were trying to do is draw close to hashem they offered a sacrifice that was an esther commanded of them in fact so enigmatic so ambiguous is the text itself that we know that it's unclear what exactly happened what went wrong why would they hold so accountable why did they lose their lives all we know is they cross some boundary or line because some of the hashem when they tried to draw close to hashem they did it in some inappropriate way so much so that veyamusu so much so that it was a capital punishment of capital crime they literally lost their lives in this spiritual quest and we know now in the shadow of that death we have the introduction of the yom kippur service moshe is instructed to speak to his brother aaron and to tell him you cannot be casual in your relationship or attitude towards holiness you cannot come in whenever you want below you can't simply enter you can't enter out of habit or wrote el panica yamus bizos only with this can you enter the paraben we've studied the opening of this parachute before you can find it online what was the concern the beautiful insight of rohingya we've analyzed previously that familiarity breeds contempt familiarity breeds contempt you become too casual too comfortable too familiar then you lose that sense of holiness you lose the spontaneity you lose the energy you lose the romance you lose the love you lose the passion you lose the mindfulness and the connection any behavior or activity that becomes a pattern or wrote with which we are too familiar it breeds contempt loyal bachelet salah familiarity breeds contempt and the torah says to our own the holiest place you cannot be too familiar with you have to pace yourself and you have to protect and preserve the sense of excitement within yourself and what's true here in the beginning of our parsha is true and is a great lesson for life about spontaneity and electricity and energy and excitement and having boundaries and being able to be disciplined in order to protect and preserve that sense of and excitement why is all this being given now why is all this being given here and the answer is that this is the reaction or response at least the torah to this premature death of the sons of of aram the measure says bishfiel kamadovaram now we're invoking the death of the sons of aram we know again i told you there are countless explanations that are offered within ghazal themselves and within the commentaries that have followed since then what did the sons of aaron do wrong where exactly did they go wrong what did they do wrong and why were they struck down in the prime of their life and what should have been our own's happiest day where did they go wrong says one of them is they answered a halachic response they adjudicated a lot in front of moshe their teacher and we know the governor tells us we learned something here if you're in front of your rebbe and a question is posed and you should defer you should submit you should with modesty be quiet and allow the rebbe your own teacher or the greater authority to answer but instead you arrogantly insert yourself you respond without any sense of context or acknowledgement you're high of misa you're high of misa and asks if where they went wrong was that they answered a question in front of moshe if that was their mistake which proved to be a fatal flaw then why did the torah describe it as because of hashem torah says after the two sons of our own die and what precipitated their death what was the cause of death on their death certificate because of some of the nation they tried to go close to hashem then why does the medrush fill in no the cause of death was they answered a question in front of moshe they should have been silent humble modest and deferred to moshe but they inserted themselves they thought that they were an authority even though of course they were much younger and much less in stature so why why then right the reason was the karvasam it's in his torah the safer diastole the collected teachings of says a person needs to know in life stay in your lane stay in your lane i love that expression but stay in your lane know who you are and be makier s makomo know your place know your place this is an enormous challenge in our time and in our generation here's a partial perspective for today at the risk of sounding like an old you know in our day but it's a big challenge in our time young people but it's seeped in not only to young people who don't know how to stay in their place who don't know how to stay in their lane who think entitled to opinions when they have no knowledge no life experience not authority and when they are in the presence of people who have so much more of all of that and don't know their place and don't know how to stay in their lane when you're meant to be heard from you know when i was growing up my parents would always say you know not that children are meant to be seen but not heard or whatever the expression is but if you happen to be around and adults are having a conversation if you don't insert yourself or make your presence known you'll get away with the fact that you're eavesdropping that you're there but the moment you feel to weigh in the moment that you make your presence known by sharing your opinion or your thought now you've alerted everyone to your presence and you're likely going to be excluded from the conversation you have to know your place you have to know when your opinion is welcome and invited and wanted when you're entitled to an opinion and when not but we're living in a time a dangerous time in which all opinions are equal in which everyone's equal so the 90 year old with 90 years of life experience 90 years of learning under their belt and 90 years of learning in the school of hard knocks and then you have the the uh 14 year old who says my opinion is just as valid it's just as legitimate just as meaningful and i'm just as entitled to it and who says you're right just because you're older now of course we recognize and respect the dignity of every person and the right to a thought and to an opinion but we have to understand how to be makiras makomo a person has to know to recognize their place in life and the principle the importance of being quiet he spoke about this recently that revolver taught we always reward the child when they begin to speak we copy they said a word they said a sense we go it's so exciting when they learn to speak but we forget to teach them the importance of how to be quiet we don't reward them or clap we don't have that same enthusiasm when it's time to be quiet and you learn much more when you're quiet than when you speak and a person needs to know when to speak and when to be and when to be quiet the peace that's hashem who was murdered by the nazis in his introduction to them bemoans this thought i always say when i share this that when he wrote him in his introduction he lived in a small town outside warsaw pizzetzna then he was in the war so ghetto is the rav of warsaw but he led an educational system of hasidus and when he long before he knew the holocaust was coming the biggest danger he thought that loomed and threatened was the premature arrogance of young people he's writing about this in the early 1900s the 1920s early 1930s and he's writing that young people in our time think that they are entitled to opinions they think they're more sophisticated they think they have more knowledge than they really do so how do you if you just tell them you're an immature unsophisticated child be quiet you're not entitled to an opinion that won't work that won't engage them that won't convince them that won't persuade them so this beautiful introduction is how do you engage a generation that think that way it's a brilliant brilliant introduction i highly recommend reading it he was writing it already then and all the more so now you see it seeped in i'm just getting this on my chest and then we'll go on but you see it seeped in even the vernacular of a younger generation they use an expression we never would have used when we were young which is guys guys are you ready to go what do you want guys guys did you guys it's like you're talking the president united states again apolitical whatever you think of last this president ex-president but they it doesn't matter who they're talking to they say guys guys two holocaust survivors will speak at our yamaha program tomorrow night you guys ready to go here's you guys you guys did an amazing job tonight now it goes you guys you guys you hear that all the time from young people today nobody's correct them nobody's taught them that you don't refer to everybody turkey dollar door can be sitting there you guys are amazing and they mean that you're amazing but you're not you guys you guys so anyway rabbi rocco says that a person needs to be an oculus makomo you have to know with within whose machita you are in whose presence you sit when you should speak and when you should be silent thank you for listening by the way i feel so much better if i feel it with sovereign mohammed when you're in the presence of greatness of greater people of your teacher then even when you think you're entitled to an opinion and even when taka you are entitled even when you studied it when you're brilliant when you're well versed in it but a person should condition themselves that when the presence of someone greater a greater authority someone deserving of greater respect it's as if i don't exist i'm not an entity i'm a non-entity i don't exist and i'm not waiting to express or exert who i am i'm a clea keyboard i'm receiving from others and that's what it means testifies what was the violation because muslim they tried to draw close to god come along and say what does that mean they were murdered they answered even though moshe was there it means because you're trying to get too close to god do you know in who's mahita you sit what are you and god is god now one of the guys also good job guys good job guy god is also not one of the guys you have to know when to recoil with humility with modesty you have to know your place in comparison and in contrast so it is a parallel to not know that vis-a-vis hashem and to not know that vis-a-vis others and that's therefore what the answer is what does the torah then continue with here in our parsha what's the next ashara what's the next warning from hashem you can't approach whenever you want this isn't a casual relationship you don't walk in without knocking you don't come without being invited you don't access whenever you want and you don't speak casually to god that he's one of the guys there isn't a sense of casual random rote familiar familiarity there has to be a sense of dignity and awe and awe a lost art today ah that which we get goosebumps over that which we feel awe of alia because the antidote in the response to the behavior of the s they might have had noble intent because hashem they wanted to draw close it was noble intent but even with the most noble intent you have to know where there are boundaries and where there are lines and where there are machitas and stay and operate within them not run right through them has a great teaching on this opening of our parsha too it says this beautiful safer we've been going through it's not rav nachman and the parsha but its teachings of nachman adapted to the parasha very beautiful necklace another one of the opinions of why the two sons of aaron were cut down the prime of their life is they were offering unsolicited sacrifices namely the incense um a fire came out and the fire consumed them there are countless commentaries on what did they do wrong and what caused them to do it where'd they go wrong noble good boys raised well incredible role model father mother uncle family aunt where'd they go wrong and what led them to go wrong so one opinion is they were drunk they came in intoxicated the michigan was a dry place you weren't allowed to have alcohol in the mishkan how do we know that that might be the reason because right after the two of them die not in our parsha but the parasha when they die and shmini what is the next instruction you're not allowed to drink alcohol in the mishkan why would you insert that right there if it had no relevance the answer is where'd they go wrong they were inebriated they were intoxicated some people think when you drink too much oh that's that's spirituality when you lose yourself and you get drunk now you found hashem tells us the exact opposite that is a counterfeit high the greatest most authentic most real high you can get is to get high on god so when you're in god's presence and you have the ability to get high on him to instead get high on a substance is the ultimate slap in his face so it's a capital crime it's a capital punishment if you drink in the michigan in the mikdash what about outside the mishkan and the mikdash when you're not left ashamed when we don't have the privilege of getting high on god with the intense presence the way we do in the mishkan so maybe then i've shared with you before the insider of salvation that's why purim khabib islam because when we don't have a mikdash and we don't have access to god in that way maybe it can loosen us up a little bit to feel a connection when we're struggling to find it because we're still in the gulles but in the mishkan and the mikdash don't substitute the authentic thing for the counterfeit thing and therefore according to some that's what they were guilty of oh another opinion others say you know what the problem was they were waiting and eager in the wings you know when moshe and aaron croak when they kick the bucket we're going to step right in we are in the on deck circle we are in the batters but we're ready to go all we're waiting is for them to vacate the fiat another opinion tells us you know what their problem was they never got married another video never got no it doesn't mean that they were you know stuck in the system they tried they dated incessantly but it never broke through it means they told all the sharkhanim we're in the freezer for life we are frozen section for good we're not coming out we're not thawing we are not dating we're not in the pasture we're interested why why were they not in the parsha move on take our name face and picture out of your file why is a phenomenal interpretation becomes over looks and he sees that they're cousins moshe's children can anyone here name moshe's children were moshe's children his successors did they take over no they look at their cousins and they say you know uncle moshe uncle moshe was shown that so dedicated and devoted to serving claudius all he never saw his kids and they paid a price so you know what we can't do that and we won't do that to children we're going to inherit the place of our own and we're going to have to be devoted to the service of the people we're not going to bring kids into this world who we will be absentee parents too even this they didn't get married because they didn't want children because they didn't want to neglect those children because they led lives of service to claude israel and that was the wrong thinking they were held accountable for it that's what they say that's not what he says here here he says you know what the problem was they were arrogant they said you know why we're not getting married there's no woman out there for us is nobody good enough have you read my profile my resume have you called my references have you seen my picture there's nobody out there for me don't bother adding a shidduch don't bother trying because there is no one ramnassan what's the connection between the fact that they refused to marry they remained outside the system they stayed in the freezer and the fact that they offered this unsolicited sacrifice of the katoris of the incense in yarms listen to this teaching beautiful teaching but nothing quotes his master as teacher of nachman what is the essence of marriage connection to integrate and to blend in to become one to bridge heaven and earth to bridge and to transcend differences incense is also all about unifying and unity and connection how is that so hashoresh is really sure is to tie together to tie the knot to be connected it ties everything and everyone it binds and bonds us to the ribbon shalom now here's the thing what the taurus is supposed to do what's one of the ingredients of the ketores the galbana the katoris has very pleasant fragrances and aromas it has this the kibiako the cinnamon and the persimmon what's it called i don't even know i just cinnamon that's all i got that's it it's got these pleasant smelling things but it also has one other ingredient called ghalbana khalbin is putrid it's disgusting it's melodorous and it has to be part of the ketores it has to be part of the ketores any jewish fast day that in our prayers and among our congregation are not violators our torah if we don't make room and space and we don't warmly welcome those who are imperfect those who are broken those who fail then we don't we don't really have a tennis game the potion those who can't find themselves and those who consistently make mistakes and those who've fallen far to have a place they're one of the ingredients in our mixture in our recipe our recipe is incomplete a recipe is a flop and a fail if it doesn't have the putrid milodoros spice because everyone has a place and i'll tell you a little secret i said this in a drusha a couple months ago are you sure that you're not the ghalbana before you sow higher than now holier than now don't make room and don't allow someone else in the community are you positive that you're not the kalbana that other people are tolerating we once had a very unusual circumstance it was popular someone who underwent the transition in their gender it's a very complicated allah spoke to one of the greatest postcards of our generation their ability to continue to david in our community and the sensitivity that demanded tried to educate the community someone came to speak to me and said can't have them you can't be here disgust me it offends me i can't tell in the same shul this person forgot that just a couple years earlier they used to drive to shula and shabbas and while they took the extraordinary step of becoming a balaschuva and they now keep shabbas to its fullest and they're inspiring it's beautiful did they read the torah's punishment for the person who's violated shabbos in public before they so self-righteously and sanctimoniously came and said i can't be in the same room as that two years ago they were the other people were tolerating how do we know when we're the ghalbana and we're being tolerated and shouldn't we therefore be more tolerant of others who might be the khalbana in that moment because the gemara concludes that the torah which is a connection it's binding keto shame bachelor absolutely if it's missing that ingredient it's ineligible it's inadequate and that's why how do we begin yom kippur the torahs are out they're on the bhima the helicopter president of the congregation is standing up there next to the khasen and what does the hazan say call niger night we're wearing white we're aspiring for holiness the holiest moment of the year and how does the chasen begin materian let's dive in with the avaryanam we haven't filtered out all the people we think don't meet our standards everybody's welcome there's room for everyone sometimes we're allowing the avayanam sometimes we are the avaryanam not all year is that easy not in every moment sometimes we have to distance ourselves and sometimes we have to maintain an atmosphere an environment that's aspirational to protect the environment not so simple but ako and god will be on our keeper economist only the calling could enter the code and the high priest on the holiest day of the year in the holiest place of the year brings us incense when he's connected to all israel but someone else i feel like even the coin god will not on your kipper is not allowed to let's say the coin god oh in the middle of of february says you know i feel moved by the unity of claudius by mika israel i want to go in the code of darshan because i feel it today nope only onion because marriage is all about connection and you know what marriage is also all about marriage is about not only tolerating but loving the imperfections in the other and loving that our imperfections are loved by the other there is no perfect marriage of two perfect people marriage is all about i don't want to say tolerating because at such a low level it's all about compensating and complementing and connecting one with the other with our imperfections that is the essence of marriage so it says the helicopter of nachman says of nachman what was the hate of schneider aron why'd they die because they refused to get married they stayed in the freezer and why they refused to get married because they thought they were above marriage there's no one worthy of me i'm perfect and all the women out there are imperfect so how could i get married first of all you're not perfect you're not perfect the fact that you think you're perfect is your greatest imperfection evidence of your imperfection the more perfect you think you are the more flawed you are so first of all you're not perfect but second of all that is the essence of marriage we grow we become better we improve ourselves when we're married and connect and complement with imperfections of others and they with our imperfections so that's the connection between that they were mocked of this guitarist but they didn't understand the khalbana so how could they be the koingodo how could they inherit their father's place how could they ever serve when they need to feel room and space for the imperfect for the what a teaching yosef has been guest to our community several times shared with you joseph you deliver writes he tells another reason writes the following for four reasons the sons of aaron died via shalom one of the reasons is they did not solicit advice one from the other wow it's a capital crime now when you act in life without getting advice when you go at it on your own without seeking advice or guidance from others now a capital crime our own sons died they were struck down why they didn't consult they didn't get advice everyone came to their own conclusion they came to their own their own conclusion the great nobel prize winner professor kahaneman daniel kahneman was asked if there's one word in the one thing in the world he could change what would it be that would make the world a better place to know what his answer was overconfidence world wars famines crashing economies people killing each other all resulted from overconfidence it's a fascinating answer over confidence says the medrush the sons of ara nadavanavio had they they died from a classic case of over confidence they didn't consult one another they each acted confidently on their own what do you mean they were aligned they were partners they came to the same conclusion they were brothers they said let's bring this sacrifice together so what'd they do wrong they needed to consult one another they did better they came to the conclusion together maya moa alicia later zouay zaza how would it have what do you think what do you think what do you mean what i think what do i think we're about to do this together isn't it clear what i think so how could the major say that's what they were held accountable for when they were overconfident and they did it on their own they failed to consult what do you mean they did it together listen to what he says says nira lavar betray angpe you could answer you could understand this in one of two ways i think it's a tremendous insight in parliament you know what happens in life sometimes we're all gung-ho we're geared up you get excited and passionate about something you're going to start a new project going to start a new business you fall in love really in lust or longing the very beginning of a relationship without really thinking it through without realizing without really absorbing or analyzing without really evaluating so what happens it wears off and then what's left what do you have how many people come out of the gate with a business idea they thought was a great idea a project they thought was a great idea but they didn't go strategically and methodically and slowly they didn't get guidance and speak to others his lavas there's a passion there's a fire you know what happens sometimes when there's a fire and a passion it blinds you creates blind spots you come out of the gate with an incredible business idea so overconfident and arrogant you don't run it by anybody you don't get expert advice you don't study the market you don't understand your competition come out of the gate with incredible idea passion fire full steam ahead you sink your life savings in and then you know what happens just a little bit into the new business something sinks your ship that you would have seen coming if you'd only asked somebody if only you had consulted if only you had gotten advice so number one is you're right they were on the same page but what if they had stopped and said to one another you know what talk to me like you're not doing it with me what do you think of this have we thought it through entirely is it entirely a good idea number two because they were going to do it together each was excited to do it which meant they were bias about it because they were already invested in doing it themselves but if they'd give advice one to the other from a position not of i'm your partner doing it with you but talk to me like you're an outsider who's not invested in doing it have we missed an angle have we thought it entirely through is this entirely a great idea as la says there's a reason he doesn't quote this the mission of navas teaches says the missionaries seek a lot of advice if you turn a lot for advice you'll gain a lot of wisdom the smartest most successful are not the people who go at it alone who have an overconfidence and an arrogance but they're the people who have the modesty and humility to get advice from everyone you learn so much from other people's mistakes rather than your own so say one of their causes of death one of the reasons that's offered is they didn't get advice one from the other over confidence and overconfidence can be a killer okay moving right along speak to your brother i said we've spoken about this in the past the greatest familiarity breeds contempt he can't come in whenever you want this special t-boy that came to the coin goddale he can't enter the code of gosh whenever he wants or else he'll drop dead however i knew kippuri comes in and why does he go in a new kipper what is he removing what did he bring into the kadasham he brought in a shovel the ingredients of the incense we just spoke about were left they burned and then he went to retrieve the empty shovel they break great is gold investments changes wardrobe change wardrobe change takes off the gold investments and puts on the white ones all for what reason to go get out the empty shovel he's never allowed to go in the whole rest of the year he's not only allowed to go in casually for no reason i have objects and yet this is so significant it's worth going in and it's worth changing into other clothing wardrobe change why not leave it there till the next year when you bring the next shovel in the next year you'll bring out the empty one what was so important or significant that it was worth going in for a space that he was never allowed to go in i evolved it's a great question listen to the answer says caleb in a holy place there's no room for empty vessels and emptiness are two opposites what is holiness holiness is realizing that there's meaning and purpose and sanctity that fills every space holiness permeates holiness spreads it promulgates holiness is seeing the hand of hashem and the opportunity to come close to hashem and the sanctity and the significance that fills everything so in the holiest place there can't be emptiness where there's holiness which is fullness there can't be emptiness and therefore so incongruous and so inconsistent was having something empty in a holy place that it was worthy of going in to get something empty and bring it out you're not nearly as excited about this thought as i am maybe the matzah is still sitting in your stomach i don't know what it is you're still you're still waking up but it's a beautiful thought it's a very deep thought holiness is fullness and therefore emptiness they can't go together okay we'll move on plus a gimbal so you can't go in whenever you want how can you go in what is the prerequisite what is the key where is the cost bezos simple understanding is what's the bezos with this iron can come in a young bull it's got to bring us a ram for carbon allah what's the bazos you know we say mammon som the gematria we've spoken about that in the past what is the bezos what is the with this he can go in says rashi afzoo even the bezos with this he can go in we're not talking about whenever he wants the bezos that which allows and gives license for him to go in is still not casually whenever he wants it's only onion kipper the major shrabba expands before we get to the mega shroud but bezos how does it know it this is what the major says i'm sorry rashi says it has to be on yom kippur bezos says the with what merit does he enter the holy holies in the merit of torah how do you know that can you think of another phrase that is the word zos i'll give you a hint hagba zo satora zosa moshe says the majirs bizos what's the bezos what gives them the strength what gives them the credibility what gives them the credit why is he allowed to enter bizos zosatora in the merit the torah he's learned and the merit of the torah he represents the zosa torah bezos yavo writes there's a fight as a battle as a war the adversaries the enemies the alter egos the prosecutors of the jewish people are fighting in heaven about our unworthiness they come against me in a war when our enemies stand up against us to battle be they physical enemies hamas hezbollah iran anti-semites the ishaam the beholder of adorama whoever they are in our generation will they stand up against us where they're the prosecuting angels who are trying to convince the heavenly court of our unworthiness how do we get through how do we break through with what merit what's the bizarre torah what is our weapon torah in the merit of learning torah and the merit of living torah in the memory and the merit of protecting the torah values and torah definitions and torah principles and torah way of life bezos they rise against me in war what's the zos in this i trust the merit of torah what's the besosi of o with what merit does aaron go in in the merit of torah zosa torah what is zos zosa torah and that's when you see the word zos whenever you see the word zoe's besosia the word zos means zos is torah and how do you know that because of zos okay moving along turn the page trying not to get carpal tunnel testing test turn a couple pages don't hurt yourself page six four to the art scroll stone made our way through the opening i'll say one more word about the opening only because tomorrow night mashawa we have our animal annual yamashoa program and frankly it's a scary time i officiated a funeral sunday of a woman who was a survivor the mother of one of our members she was a survivor and i said in opening the funeral i turned to the family for whom of course this is the most acutely painful loss they feel it the most personally but make no mistake in our time the loss of every survivor is not just a loss for that family it is an enormous loss for our people we're losing a generation we're losing an era of heroes of an imagi resilience and faith and fortitude who were role models that maybe we failed to appreciate enough in their lifetime among our greatest heroes in history we're losing that generation used to be packed with survivors from that day meant so much and we honored the memory of who they lost and we honored and celebrated the lives and the rebuilding they did we're losing it it's tragic it's painful anyway i said at her funeral the whole name of this pasha is what did aron do and that's what we're going to get to now he lost two sons inexplicably prematurely tragically was he debilitated did he stop did he become a hermit iron mourned he grieves no doubt no doubt there was a hole in his heart that was never filled but he was strong faithful and resilient and he was committed to a continuity of this mission and he carried himself with a joy for life and he found the ability and that's the name of the parasha ahrimos there is an ahrefs so the way i eulogized that woman was to say there's an ahrefs she lived her life with her she built a beautiful family she was committed to a jewish continuity and that's true for survivors after what they lost we get that from avraham avinu says when he lost sarah who was not only his other half he was she was his whole avram lives another i think 37 or 38 years after he loses sarah and we don't hear one word from him the av the father of ethical monotheism the creator of all nations he's done when sarah is gone he's done he's nothing without her literally what does he do after he buries her vayakam may al-pine mesa vayakam the jewish ways we get up from shiva that's what we say we get up from shiva that's the jewish way acharemos we get up from shiva tomorrow night we'll have the privilege of hosting two survivors who were only reunited recently after 70 years you might have read about them they've been in the news they're going to be our guests and tell their story and be united together on this bema and i hope everybody will show up to honor them and honor those who are no longer here and continue to to recognize what this means in our lives and how we can learn from them so ah that was just the other last word i wanted to say on page 640 the incense service the kitauras possible we provide atonement for the sanctuary of the contamination of the jewish people and so you do for the tenth meeting that dwells with them in their contamination what does it mean what does that mean says even though they are impure the shrina dwells and is among them the sin the hate that you're bringing the bull and the goat is tumas mikta dashev that means what's the case someone entered the basa mikdash when they were a state of impurity or they were pure but they ate something which isn't pure that's what we're talking about over here afa even when one is impure says rashi hashem is still among them is even when you sin when you're low the shrine is still among you and it comes cloaked it presents itself the shrina the presence of hashem how in the form of the feminine ima ema azaizar this is a teaching of our mystical great work the tsar why in ima why a mother if we generally talk about god of course does not have a gender god is not jewish flender god is not god is not gender fluid he doesn't have a gender never had never will have he's above a gender he's outside of gender he's god we don't know what that means or what that looks like because we can't relate but god is god and yet we anthropomorphize god we attribute attributes to god so that we can better connect and relate to him and we normally think of god as a man the masculine we talk about god zakhar as a he but says the zoar here in this teaching god here presents as a woman as an imam that even when we are contaminated and impure even when we are failed and we're low the shrine of god is still accessible and available to us and when he is then he's in his feminine form why what does that mean it says says both the father and mother love their children they hug they kiss they play they get nachos from their children but when that child wakes up in the middle of the night with the fever when the child has soiled their diaper and the child needs to employ the patience and the selfless dedication when a father says may day may day i can't change this diaper who's he calling may day for the mother comes in and rescues the moment there's nothing when it comes to her child that's too nasty or gross or disgusting there's nothing that she won't engage in for the good of her child and dirty and disgusting and nasty the shrine presents like a mother and comes down and says i'm not too afraid to change you i'm not too afraid to be with you i'm not too afraid to protect you i'm not too afraid you have a stomach virus you have thrown up the entire night this is the 15th time i'll be there for the 16th time too the father long ago ran away couldn't take it he threw up three times just because he saw or smelled or heard about the throw up i know i'm making stereotypes i got it save the email i got it these are stereotypes for the most part probably true so the zoar says when god is showing up even when we are throwing up and need our diaper changed when we're nasty and disgusting and repulsive when god nevertheless never fails to show up because of that selfless devotion and dedication then god takes that form of a mother the feminine form the loving feminine form of the mother vacations he wants to change us and clean us up and make us cute and adorable and beautiful once again and smell nice to free us and liberate us from that nasty stench that is the yet sahara that surrounds us that's of course okay now we move over skip a couple more pages we concluded the torah service and we move over the commandment of holiest day of the year yom kippur yum kippur peric test zion i will [Music] hashem provides atonement to purify us from all of our mistakes says the helicopter the holy kotzker and this is the day has an incredible ability good marathon teaches the day itself atones it is a national clemency day every now and then you hear they announce everyone who has an illegal gun if you turn it in today a great a national clemency and pardon no one's asking no one's following up just turn it in imagine a national clemency day everyone is delinquent and owes taxes everyone is falling behind and never filed this year we're wiping the slate clean everybody fresh start national day of clemency so it's true kurdish barack who created it's true that yom kippur is a day of national collective clemency clean slate for everybody the day itself as long as you arrive at the day on the calendar you tap into that clemency however says the kotzker when is that one is it only when alec we have to first come in with an attitude that we are muhammad we're ready the day can do the work when we have the want we have to want to start again we have to want to start anew sparkle will meet us more than halfway because will make it accessible will accelerate our success but we have to want that is the prerequisite we have to want to start to begin pairing possibly [Music] ammo plus a dallad torah tells us and he has not brought it to the entrance intent of meaning to bring it as an offering to hashem before the tabernacle shall be considered bloodshed he shed blood and that person necrosa that person is cut off what are we talking about talking about a person is not permitted to kill an animal a consecrated animal outside of the mishkan the act of slaughter reverts back to its statutes before noah slaughtering an animal is a tantamount to bloodshed the death penalty is only when you take a human life so what's going on over here what's happening in this puzzle so rashi says what's going on show it's like you killed somebody who was liable with their life gedalia eisenmann who was the masjid of kaltura says the goal and the role of the sacrifices is to elevate us and to bring us and draw us close to hashem so when the human being is elevated we elevate we bring the whole world with us when we are worthy and when we are elevated when we're living our best selves then we elevate the whole world adam shamakra of corbin but a person who if you sacrifice a consecrated animal that was designated for the mikdash but you casually make a barbecue with it in your backyard you violated it the essence and the goal which was to elevate the world to god so that's the essence that's the goal. in other words who did you kill possibly says it's like murder rashi says you murdered somebody who was guilty of death who did you murder says eisenmann you murdered yourself you were meant to elevate this world the best version of you elevates this world you're meant to transform yourself and when we fail to meet our potential there's the potential loss within ourselves and when we fail to live and meet our potential when we don't live our best selves we've committed an act of murder who's the victim whom did we murder our potential selves we murdered the best version of ourselves you can kill time and you can kill potential and you can kill creativity and you can kill certain skills and assets that we have when we waste them we squander when we don't take advantage or when we use them for the wrong purposes what the torah calls when you sacrifice something consecrated and holy and you do it in a mundane way you've killed who did you kill yourself so we have consecrated parts of ourselves we have holy parts of ourselves we have pieces and parts of ourselves that are meant to do holy things and when we don't we misdirect them and we use them in mundane ways we've killed a piece and a part of ourselves parakeets i am possibly based any person among you may not consume blood everyone who lives among you you're not allowed to eat blood torah here cautions us biblical prohibition we know we're not allowed to eat blood not allowed to eat did we think there were souls among us who could eat blood why does the toad have to say this what seems to be extraneous language called nephesh adults need to be vigilant work hard when your child is begging please can i have some blood please can i drink more blood please i want blood lahaz adults parents need to be vigilant no more blood for you you've had enough blood you're not allowed to have blood blood is prohibited you can't eat any now you're looking at me like i'm crazy which is exactly what the megan joseph asks ask her of saratskan are your kids clamoring for blood this is where the torah needs to go out of its way to tell us this is what the torah has to tell us be careful be vigilant it's not candy it's blood more than other prohibitions where else do we see the hazard one of the place in the torah where kohanim are warned what be vigilant that the children can't become contaminated just like you have to protect and preserve yourself and your purity don't become impure protect and preserve the children and rights there rav sarutskin's grandfather the megadosa's grandfather and his name the torah writes are not contaminated why that mitzvah more than others the answer of soruts and his grandfather writes is because when it comes to other mitzvots we're all in it together you put the child in a good environment and everybody will do the right thing but the little coin kids the rest of their environment are not warned about this the rest of their environment don't have to worry about this so the little calling kids the parents need to be vigilant because their peers are not going to support their vigilance because the coin stands out their peers are allowed to become contaminated the nearer decadent dwarf is down says the grants on the mega joseph are of sarat skin the same is true when it comes to eating blood such when it comes to all the other foods we can say it's disgusting we don't eat that don't go near that we don't value that we don't care about that but blood is different there's more nuance when it comes to blood listen to this interpretation why is there more nuance when it comes to blood there is no mitzvah when it comes to the pig or pork or bacon so we can say we're yidden we don't eat pig and pork and bacon move on disgusting should be repulsive to us we're not interested but the father can't say that about blood why blood has mitzvos can you name a mitzvah with blood a bris you have to expose the blood but with an animal what's a mitzvah with blood with an animal kiss is a mitzvah to cover the blood it's in the midst of ki sayadam after you and the blood spills we cover it mitzvah said what's another mitzvah with blood it's one of the four parts of the avodah the saddam slaughter the sacrifice and then srika saddam you have to sprinkle the blood on the altar so you see not only is blood have a role in a place we're not supposed to be replaced by repulsed by blood where do you see that oh yeah so many more things to say where do you see that we're just same as normal before pesach where do you see that gemara soccer tells a story that from the design there was a cohen who served in the mikdash with gloves why because he thought blood was disgusting he wore gloves he thought it was disgusting so the gemara says we threw him out of the basement you're so worried about touching a little blood you know what you're doing you're you're so worried more about yourself than honoring hashem he was thrown out for wearing gloves we wear gloves muslims should wear gloves i'm not knocking wearing gloves but that's the story in the mesa dish so says you see you know why mozart gadola malachitanam listen to this teaching this is another partnership perspective for today you know what we don't have today in our generation you know what we don't have nuance we live in a perfect world of all or nothing of binary this or that with me or against me love it or hate it torah says you know what there's about blood it's a little something called nuance on the one hand we do the mitsubishi adam and surika it has a value and a role and a place and don't be repulsed by it on the other hand you're not allowed to eat it so how do you communicate and teach that nuance la the more something demands nuance the more it takes maturity and sophistication of adults to be vigilant in teaching it to children anything that takes nuance takes more vigilance we've lost that art of nuance today it's so important to bring it back okay i only had about 20 more things to tell you such good stuff good stuff but we'll pick up with it again next year meanwhile tomorrow we'll pick up bait 15 with 10 minutes of meeting mississaura made 45 living with amuna tomorrow night behind the bima is the interview that we'll do at 7 pm with my show our program with these two wonderful survivors till next time stay happy stay healthy stay holy