Parsha Perspectives (Behar, 5784) - What's in Your Heart?

good morning Boer to may it be a good morning we should hear BOS toos please God good news from a Israel for Jews in Israel and around the world may the hostages come home sweeping victory over our enemies and the soldiers return to their families want to thank our series sponsor of the parat and family and memory of David grman we're very very grateful to the Cates for their generosity and to all who sponsor on a regular basis thank you it's good to know that you're available Monday mornings as well for the par year it's good to know I appreciate everybody adjusting their schedule this week uh we have our planning meetings every year our staff gets together for a few days off campus to reflect on the year that was and to begin to prepare and vision the year please God that will be hopefully we'll all be in yush together but if we're here a year here together so we had to adjust and appreciate everybody's flexibility moving the Pas sh to today we have the privilege of studying Pas Bahar page 696 in the Arts girl Stone Kish by the way as always if you want to be up to date on the schedule bonus material the paraa writeup make sure you have joined the paraa WhatsApp group where all gets posted on a regular basis ordinarily Bahar often are read together which means we can't really do justice to either when we study them this year due to the leap year we read them separately Bahar is read alone which means we can concentrate a little bit more on pares spend a little bit more time studying it so page 696 in the Arts girl Stone Hashem spoke to Moshe at har and this is what he said he said everything but we don't say everything right now we give that introduction hasem spoke to MOS for one specific mitah speak to the Jewish people and tell them when you enter the land that I'm giving you because by the way God gave us that land thousands of years ago it's ours he gave it to us and we bought it and we even inhabited it and according to every legal Rule and right it's ours you should begin to observe honor the land by resting by having a sabbatical six years you should plant six years you should you should uh prun thank you no thank you and then gather in all of your produce and if you in fact earned it you worked for six years you you plowed you planted you pruned you harvested then you earn the seventh year shab seventh year is a land year that you let the land lay fallow for the land shabas more don't work your field don't prune your Vineyard everything you should leave and that is the institution of what we call shita shita we didn't observe it right away when we entered the land we had seven years of Conquest and then we had six years of working in the Land seven years of working in the land first we we conquered the land seven years then we divided the land seven years and then we only observed the first shita in the 21st year after having entered the land of Israel so it says when you enter the land that starts the clock of Conquest division of the land and then the six years of working in the seventh year of resting we've shared previously if mosha Feinstein points out and do others as do others that the Torah could have started and said seven here's a sabatical year rest be at peace with nature be at peace with your land let the land rejuvenate but it doesn't say that it says six years work the land first why does it say that first because to us work says R mosha is not a concession work is a value we value work it's why we're here to toil to work in order to produce in order to improve and repair this world redeem this world we're here to work similarly shabas six days we work and the seventh day is shabas why don't we observe shabas all seven days because there's a value to work and it's the contrast between the work and the rest which adds value to our lives so as we alluded to this Mitzvah is introduced with the words Bahar says I spoke to Moshe but this isn't the only law that was given at Hari all the laws were given at Hari so why is this one singled out why is this one singled out so Rashi famously tells us Rashi famously tells us what's the connection between the sabatical you're observing a sabatical and that the Torah and mitzvas were all given at they were all given there not just the Mitzvah of just like the general rule as well as all the specific details the Mina of shita were all given at sini so to when it comes to all Mitzvah the general rules as well as the specific details were all given at sini did Rashi answer this question Rashi doesn't seem to have answered this question the question was all Torah and Mitzvah were given at SII when Moshe climbed that mountain and stayed there for 40 days Hashem transmitted to him all Torah and Mitzvah that he would descend and transmit to us so why aren't all Tor mitos introduced with the geographic location or the metaphysical location of why specifically to which Rashi answers just like the rules and details of so to the rules and details of everything so that's what the quotes wonders once we extrapolate once it's true that all the general rules and the specific details of all T are given at if we're going to Z going to zoom in on one Mitzvah and extrapolate from there that all Mitzvah all the rules and details were given why now okay so we're learning fromita to all Torah and Mitzvah that God didn't just give us the big picture the principles the theme the big idea all the details they matter they matter to Hashem too that's true about all Torah and mitzvas but if you're going to choose one Mitzvah to learn that from why why is that Mitzvah the Mitzvah of shita we've discussed this in the past but we're going to bring in new interpretations and ideas this year so to begin with so the the great cabalist shita occurs in what year it's not a trick question what year very good the seventh year I didn't know if your brain was working by Mondays I thought only on Tuesdays it's good to see by Monday it's already back you had your coffee if you count the which you'll say I'm not a cabalist I don't but we all do right now we're carrying seven weeks and each week is brought to you by another one of the cabalistic energies and then each day within that week so you have the day the week is one theme and then each day of the week is a theme within the theme and we're reviewing the spos we are reviewing these metaphysical energy manifestations Expressions connections we have with hem which is essentially the extent to which I understand it but the seventh one is the SPH of malus monarchy royalty kingship hashem's dominion and Providence over the whole world soita happens not coincidentally in which year the seventh year shita is an exercise in amuna shita is an exercise in faith surrender and submission six years go conquer plant and plow and harvest and produce and sell and ship and manufacture and scale up and kill it and the seventh year passive spectator watch your land your business just sit there and trust and have faith that it will be okay that Hashem will bring you back that you'll have enough to live on from before and that you'll be able to make a comeback and rebuild and have enough to live on afterwards I how could you do that unpaid sabatical that takes a lot of faith and that's the idea that the farmer in that seventh year would be working on his her faith on their faith so God says to the Jewish people you think it's your land because you have a deed to the land you think it's your land because it's registered at the at the uh Courthouse it shows that it belongs to you you had a surveyor come and determine it's your land you think it's your land right wrong all the land is God's land and he lends it to us he's incredibly generous gracious magnanimous kind he lets us use that land to work it to harvest it to live off of it but ultimately the whole world and everything in it is his and how will we remind ourselves when in six years we're doing so well and accumulating so much and building out our Empire in real estate in nursing homes in whatever build whatever business we're in we're killing it we're acquiring we're constantly growing it we're adding to it how do we remember that it's not us it's not our entrepr entrepreneurship it's not our Ingenuity it's not our vision it's not our business acum it's all Hashem because in the seventh year you sit back and you rest and you watch and you let go and you ad MIT and you surrender and you remember the land all belongs to him so is revealing God's monarchy and Dominion he's invisible you can't see him how does anyone know that he's there how does anyone know we believe in him we worship him we surrender to him the answer is when we demonstrate it when we live with it then we're showing the world that we understand that everything we have is in ours it is all on loan from Hashem and he can take it back anytime time he wants when a person lets it be known that everything is is none of it is ours yes we work hard and we should be proud of our hard work but we're the junior partner he's the senior partner plenty of people work hard and don't have breakthrough we're so much smarter we work so much harder we're so much better ultimately decides he's the senior partner and that is the attitude so what isita really all about then shita is an exercise in in faith in God it's an exercise in surrender and submission to his Dominion that he is the meel malus the seventh year the seventh is malus that he is the king he has Dominion this is his world this is his world that attitude that approach that perspective is relevant not only to that is the attitude that is the underlying driver for all don't just go through the motions don't just mail it in don't just put a check mark next to it connecting to I believe with complete faith just God Joy just gave me this great book the small things that make from Life sweet I just flipped through it right before Shear the small things that make life sweet freshly baked round kala with dripping golden sweetness the first bite of Kala and honey kak it's a list of all the little things it's gak bring a Gak to yish a Gak to be Aid because through each thing I'm connecting to the creator of the universe I'm tapping in to the source of everything of all goodness I have a connection with the King of Kings so that same notion that shmita is surrender to the king because it's his world it's his monarchy I'm just a member of his kingdom we learn from shita to all other MIT because that is the attitude that we're meant to bring to all mitz so when did we learn that when did we first get exposed to that where did we see that it goes all the way back to it was the greatest moment of Revelation in all of history it's actually the second greatest moment of Revelation there's a technical problem with the first one namely none of us there were there to see it creation is an even greater moment of Revelation ex Neo something from nothing yes that God created something from nothing he created order out of the chaos the too of the universe he practiced simpsom he constricted himself to make room for a world that was the greatest moment of Revelation however none of us saw it so what was the greatest moment Revelation that human beings saw and then passed it down person to person to person to person so you know how I know everything that happened to our happened I wasn't there I looked like I could have been there but I wasn't there how do I know it happened my parents told me they heard it from their parents who heard it from their parents who heard it from their parents who heard it from their parents who were there that's how we know not because we read it in a book the way we know it's there the rambam writes is because we heard it from our parents we heard it from their parents we heard it from their parents and if our particular parents broke that chain that link in that chain maybe they didn't tell us but our neighbors parents told us our aunt and uncle told us our teachers told us we heard it from people who heard it direct testimony from those who were there it was the greatest moment of revelation God revealed his kingship his Dominion his Providence his strength his hand and that's what it means shmita is a continuation shmita is har we saw the revelation of malus of malus where do we re-experience that every shita we stop we submit we surrender we affirm that God is still the M He's Still The King and that's why we are just members of his kingdom and this is whole world and that's what we learn from shmita that attitude that exercise that perspective that that approach we apply to all of Torah and Mitzvah to all Torah and mitzvas what did we were shown to not believe we were shown to know as we speak about Amun every week no leap of faith doesn't take Faith to believe in God you don't need faith and you don't have to believe you can know that there is a God examine the evidence and it is overwhelming at least as much as everything else that we do that there is a God you have been shown not to have a leap of faith not to believe you've been shown to know because we're capable knowing this is the essence of all of Torah so just like the principles the detailed the details all of it was given ouri because all of it is given by The King by the M malus it's his world and the King told us in his world here are the general rules and here are the details and it all matters and it matters for shita which is a continuation in that exercise of surrender submission of SII of Mal and it applies to all Torah mitz as well number one all that was number one how to understand the opening of our what does it have to do with the price of tea in China what does it have to do with the price of tea in China I've shared with you before one of my teachers by JJ Shak said he was once in Israel and the show cojac was on apparently his sidekick used to say what does that to do with the price of tea in China and the Hebrew subtitle on the underneath said the Hebrew subtitle or what does it have to do with the price of tea in China is that means whatever producer whatever writer whoever was responsible for translating and putting it into the into the uh subtitle in the bottom that's how you bous this rash is this that's how we translate the words what does it have to do with the price of in China so how do you understand why everything was given in so the first approach is here by the approach of the aod is based on the AR and the first approach isita is a continuation of the Mal of that's why it's the seventh Year all Torah and MIT have to be at Mal all of Torah and mitz are all about it's Mal he's the m and I want to draw close I have an audience with the King I have an audience I have access I'm the son I'm the Prince the princess of the king I'm royalty and I live in the kingdom and this is his world number two number twoes is really all about humility that a person should be humble because six years I work that land I come up with a unique irrigation system I inv vent a new technique I buy more land I Mass produce I create efficiencies I manufacture I distribute I own the market on red peppers on coffee on avocados on whatever it is and I think and I grow very arrogant oh I'm brilliant I know how to buy land and expand my business and build the brand so it comes along schm and says hey tough guy hey brilliant entrepreneur hey big business owner take off a year sit it out for a year for one year you're not going to kill it ah but I have all these ideas and I want to plant and plow and harvest and workers and techniques and Innovation you have all those ideas come back in the eighth year for one year put all those ideas up on a shelf for one year you're gonna sit it out you're gonna sit and watch you know why because you're not so great because it's really me Hashem says it's my world shita is an exercise number one we said in amuna in faith number two sh is an exercise in humility humility we know a lot of real estate people and they're wonderful people and there are many humble real estate people but one can easily swell with arrogance the more real estate they own they can become very arrogant big real estate owner big Mogul big real estate how many apartments I own how many property how many acreage how many places look what I own look what I produce look how I'm able to put in a little bit and increase the rents and the cap rates and the a person can swell with arrogance as it says in the more money you make the more tempting it is to be arrogant person sees their bank account expand and they think I'm all that now everybody treats them differently now they're able to afford anything that they want now they're a big somebody you're going to swell with arrogance and what happens when you get arrogant ego the bigger an ego what is egoo stand for ego is an acronym for edging God out the bigger an ego the less room for God there's not enough room in this world for both so the bigger an ego big business owner my net worth who I am what I have what I can afford how I'm treated so then bigger the ego the more one has edged God out so you know what happens to your real estate inita Year all your fields and all your farms and all your real estate during shita hefer it's treated as ownerless anyone can come in and take anything that anyone can come in do you know how many guards I have how many fences I put up do you know how many systems and cameras and then shita I have to just let anyone in yeah shita you let anyone in what's yours is theirs you're not such a tough guy anymore you don't own so much anymore you don't have the corner anymore you don't have the whole Market anymore because now everyone can come in and take what they want why in order to remember that it was never entirely yours all along it was never entirely along it's the great equalizer shita the wealthy and the poor are all equal with no difference between them no difference a person won't become Arrogant with their property because in year there is no property sh year there is no ownership year it's all owner list so how could anyone get too proud so this is the second idea of shita is an exercise in faith in and surrender in Mal in the revelation of the kingship the Dominion of Hashem and point number two is is an exercise in humility what I thought I owned what I thought was mine belongs to everybody I have to let everybody in humbled we're truly humbled by that where do we learn humility when it was time to give the Torah hasem went to all the mountains but they were all Too Tall they were all too Hy they were all too high on themselves so he turned to har har the most modest the most humble the lowest of all the mountains because the Torah was given specifically on a topography that reflects humility because the prerequisite to receive Torah is humility we already said if you have a big ego you've edged God out if you've edged God out you certainly aren't going to receive or accept his Torah if you have all the answers if you know everything if you have a monopoly on truth so what does Torah have to teach you Torah only has something to share you share with you Torah only has something to teach you if you're humble enough to say I don't have all the answers I don't have a monopoly in truth I want to learn teach me I'm a white board tasa I'm ready to be taught Torah transmit fill me up teach me inscribe engrave yourself engrave yourself on me I'm ready so we learn that from sini which is why the beginning of it says M Tor it should say m Torah he received the Torah where at har doesn't it say that says he received the Torah Mei from sini what does the mean he receive the Torah from sini he received the Torah of humility he received this prerequisite this ingredient this critical introduction that you can't truly receive the Torah without humility so that's what it means of all 613 MIT that we could have chosen to derive that that all the general rules and the details all given at SI why did we choose shita because shmita and CI have everything to do with each other they're both about humility about being humble in order to receive in order to receive the Torah okay those are the two two ideas from the holy in his new also has an idea on this whyos in order to learn just like all the general rules and the details of so too that's true with all but we still didn't answer but why chosen we just gave two answers but didn't see the so he's saying he's saying why was shita chosen so listen to how he answers he wants to answer based on another Insight tees if you say as three times a day guaranteed to be a member entrance into the world to come we discussed this few hundred sitter Snippets ago when we were up to Ash if you say three times a day we say it we say it then after and we say it a third time at if you say Ash three times a day that's it guaranteed entrance to the world to come world to come why so the gar there quotes a few reasons it's an acronym that has the whole Olive Bays because it includes the p I was just touching my fired on bench he opens his hand and he satisfies everything everyone wants so is says hold on one second business you li you steal you gossip all day you don't keep kosher you don't keep shabas you eat on Kipper but you make sure to say Ash three times a day now you're a Ben you got such a great space a great spot in the world to come all because you mumbled Ash three times a day it doesn't matter what you did between Shak you were ruthless in business you were abusive to your family you were a terrible miserable person but you said Ash the morning say Ash now you're good to go what could how could that possibly be how could that possibly be so the P Yeshua Yeshua Fulk answers you know we live in a time that people are looking for quick fixes put a key in the kala you don't have to work hard you'll just get parasa you say Mumble P from a cloth then you can do whatever else you want Hashem is Gonna Make It Rain we we're looking for the quick fixes we're living in a generation of schoola do this school or that school everything will then happen everything will then come easy but that's not how it works that's not how it works you know how it works if you say three times a day and you say the you open up your hand and you satisfy every living being what they need and a person what is saying Ash three times a day an exercise you remember hasem whatever I have I meant to have if I don't have it it's not right for me because you open up your hands and you give each person Raton what you want not what I want what's right for me as determined by you everything that happens in this world is from hem and there is no one and nothing but him so says you know how it works to say as three times a day and your not because you're some AAR of low life cheat scoundrel and then you said as three times a day saying as three times a day will condition will cultivate within us must so it's not some secret school just say Ash it means pay attention when you say Ash concentrate when you say a be mindful when you say this p as and live Ash live it put it into practice demonstrate it live with the faith of that I'm not going to be ruthless in business I'm not going to cheat and cut Corners I'm not going to be filled with worry and anxiety about my livelihood you know why because you are you open up your hands and you satisfy all living with your will because each of us have what we're meant to have each of us have what we need doesn't mean we shouldn't work hard or have ambition doesn't mean that we shouldn't apply ourselves and have a great work ethic because maybe we're meant to have more but we have to go work in order to get it but ultimately when we' put in our time put in our work taking our initiative then we realize that it's all from you there are no quick fixes you can't just say Ash three times a day you don't just put a key in the kala I'm not ranking if that's your beautiful but the whole idea of the key and the Kal was that just like the the came from heaven from hasem my parasa comes from him now I have to go work hard because he's allocated the parasa but it comes from him but it doesn't mean I don't have to work hard it doesn't mean I don't have to work hard to be a good person and as long as I put a key in my kala or made my kala in the shape of a key now I can go gossip and look at what I want and cheat steal and cut corners and do Noom shom says R now we also understand the tells us the Torah was only given to those who ate the generation who ate the man the Mana that fell from heaven so not for us only what's the connection between learning the Torah living the Torah and those who ate the M lived off the M it doesn't just mean because the man was holy food so those who are holy and eat holy food and they're not drawn to eat the steak and potatoes and fries and onions and potato chips and and uh corn chips and you know if you're drawn to them to this world and you're distracted by all these delicious foods then you know then the Torah is not for you only only those that's not what it means that's not what it means if it meant that the Torah is only for those who are so spiritual that they're not engaged in eating delicious foods in this world it would have said but it doesn't say that it doesn't say that it says so what does that mean it means that the generation who ate the mun lived at the highest level of faith in Hashem you know why they had no savings account they had no checking account they had no account they had no safe in their home you know why they had no safe in their homes in their tents in the midbar because there was nothing to put in the safe because they had nothing more than what they needed for that day the MTH fell for that day and that day only and you didn't know where you were getting your food for tomorrow where will breakfast lunch and dinner come from for tomorrow I don't know all I have is today and you know what I'm okay with that because just like Hashem took care of today he's going to take care of tomorrow the lived at another level of Faith they didn't live with fear and anxiety and worry uncertainty and doubt they live with the faith that just like Hashem took care of today he's going to take care of tomorrow we emulate the M shabas we eat the two loaves at each meal commemorating the two loes that fell each day that we got the provisions of that day and it's supposed to remind us that we too live off of Hashem and yes you have to save and yes you have to put away and yes you should have a pension and a savings and a Roth IRA and use every means at your exposure at your at your hand at your fingertips for the future that's the only responsible way to live I'm not suggesting that you plow through everything you have and then say but Hashem will provide because one of the ways Hashem provided is by giving us tools to save we should save but we shouldn't panic and fear and worry but we should strive to live like the generation of the to live like that level of that where it's going to come from so it means the Torah wasn't just given for that generation it's for every generation those within the generation who live like The Who live as if they say Hashem gave me what I need today and therefore I'm not worried about I'm not worried about tomorrow I'm not worried about tomorrow and all of this he uses now to come back to it's a longer essay he has further ideas but I want to move on he says now we understand this is our third idea for the day to answer this question then we're gonna move on I promise if I want to learn this rule that all the general rules and the details of all Torah and mitzvas were all given at SII then choose some other Mitzvah why shita specifically the answer is because is an exercise in your land lays phow you're not in charge you're not in control you can't manipulate it you can't control it you can't expand your portfolio it doesn't belong to you it's hefer it's ownerless anyone has a right to come and to take you're dying you're dying could you imagine you had incredible investment an opportunity but you're not allowed to invest you got to sit it out you can't put the M but I have so much cash I have so much liquidity and there's an incredible investment opportunity it's going to yield such an amazing return but you're not allowed to invest it you know how hard that is that's what is your land and it's waiting plow it plant it Harvest it nope you can't touch it you can't touch it everything is exclusively only from all that humility is supposed to bring us back to the place of humility to be to live like those who lived off of the man to be like the to be like those who lived off of the off of the man see this also I said one last interpretation another saer I got recently called so he also quotes this notion of the idea that humility but it's more than that he has one last idea this is our fourth fourth idea fourth idea and he says the following what is the farmer meant to do during shita what should he do with his time her time do you remember we had a farmer who visited us Alana twig she came during shita she and her husband Duron took upon themselves to observe shmita fully not to rely on selling their field but to let it lay fallow to observe shita fully she came here and she spoke about that why they made that decision and what it meant the story of the yes who were in The Farm to get a from her husband because someone observing shita displaying that they are in a position to give bras they give bras she told us incredible stories we had her on behind the Bea you could watch that conversation the interview and then in January when we LED one of the missions to Israel that we've been on we went to her Farm in order to to learn and to volunteer because all the farmers are really struggling right now because the workers who were migrants from other countries left and went back home and they're left without being able to work their their field so she described to us when they kept their first shita fully which is a sacrifice of a lot of money it's a beautiful organization k k I encourage everybody to contribute to it it raises millions of dollars to help offset and support the farmers who are observing this Mitzvah in order to bring bra blessing for all of us and even with the subsidy they get from Karas it covers a very small portion of the income they ordinarily get they really dip into their savings and they they're sacrificing enormously anyway Alana described what did she and Daron do during that year what they do you know what they did what they were meant to do what they were supposed to do they studied Torah all the Torah that we say we don't have time for running to work I'm going to work I got to make a living got to pay for Jewish Day School tuition I got to pay for the matah per pound I got to pay for the kosher food I have to pay for the extra security at sh because all the anti-semites want to kill us I have to pay for all these things I got to work work work work work who's got time who's got time so Hashem says you don't have time for me every seventh year you're gonna take a year off to spend with me with me study Torah so with that we understand SII the whole purpose of shita is to go back to our SII which is to receive the Torah a new to learn and study the Torah a new to spend the sabatical of Our Lives learning and studying Torah he quotes the r that talks about the tribe of did not Merit land when we conquered and when we divided the land Ley did not get a portion of the land why not because the tribe of Were Meant to sit and study Torah they were the teachers of is and if you have to plow and plant and harvest and weed and winno if you have to do all those activities that being a farmer takes you don't have time to sit and study you don't have time to teach you're not positioned to teach well and that's why Ley did not get land and the ra says Ley is not only a genetic identity anyone who wants to volunteer to be a member of the tribe of Ley this is a big discussion not for now many quote the rambam as being the source of the original K anyone can volunteer to be part of the tribe of Ley where you're supported by others to sit and study but you have to look not only at the rambam you have to look at the C of mishna there to whom was the rambam speaking how many for how long you have to look at the r in the of mish there but the brings it in the context of shita because just like Ley never has land to work in order to learn Torah the farmer wants every seven years doesn't have land to work in order they sit and study and learn Torah that is the purpose that is the essence that is the reason that's theor writes theor writes shabas Shas the purpose of is a sabatical year for those who work the land the farmer in that year they're going to search they're going to seek who is the head space we're all always so distracted so fragmental so frazzled who has the head space to search to yearn to contemplate to think so we have to take a sabatical we building a sabatical for those things stop pause think be search yearn be curious satisfy that Curiosity through study through studying hashem's holy Torah moving along from Turn the Page 698 Torah now tells us do not Lo what does mean you're not allowed to AG grieve look at the look at the art translation don't Agri good now translate the word Agri it means don't be abusive and don't agitate and don't aggravate and don't harm and don't hurt be kind means don't be a jerk Don't Be a Jerk don't be obnoxious don't be difficult don't be harmful and hurtful don't injure others be kind be kind why be God-fearing and do all of that says because I amem your God those who those who are learning recently learned all about this because at the very end of the peric that deals with what's one of the hardest means you're not allowed to charge ex you're not allowed to charge excessive pricing so how do you define excessive pricing in more than a sixth if you charge a sixth you return the sixth less than a sixth it's forgiven more than a sixth bottle the wholesale is invalid the wholesale is nullified how do you determine what's the market rate you have to figure out what's a market rate Everything's Relative what if a person is willing to pay more because it has a particular value to them all this is complicated in but there are rules called you cannot charge excessive prices far above market value you that's extorting someone that's taking advantage that someone wants something and you're charging excessively it's called the end of the par the there derives the laws of based on this this what's is when you harm somebody with words when you harm someone with words when you're hurtful when you harm someone when you say you remember that terribly embarrassing thing that happened to you you had a you're at a shabas table you're in front of a lot of people and you say remember when you tripped and fell in your face and it was so humiliating you remember that time that you lost all that money because you made such a stupid investment and you lost your whole net worth do you remember the fact that you're B Chua and you used to party and you used to do drugs and used to not be observant and used to live another life lifestyle altoe all these are examples you can't hurt or harm somebody else's feelings which is worse or the answer is is worse why is on worse because first of all it hurts more it stings more it hurts to lose money nobody's happy to lose money but it's money but a person's feelings it stings and moreover money can be recovered you could always earn more money you could always earn more money but the pain the harm the injury the feelings cannot be undone and therefore it is considered to be it is considered to be worse points out writes that this prohibition of based on our is true not only with words explicitly when you say something it's true not only through an email or a text message doesn't have to be something you say out loud could be something that you write it's even violated through a gesture you make a face you make a gesture the mere Twist of the nose the PK says which literally means in their anger they killed a person we say anger aam but aam also means AF the mere you know the mere uh twitch of your nose thank you you can kill somebody you can kill somebody you make a face you twitch your nose you put your nose up at them you twist your nose that can kill somebody as well so we have the prohibition of applies not only to our peers and fellow adults applies as well to to minors to children and even to our own children our own children in fact it's much stricter with our own children why because until they're the age of Godless they can't be M when you're hurt an adult then they forgive you but a child is not the age of dvah they can't forgive you so therefore it's even more dangerous and a person has to be even more careful not to violate and we have all kinds of examples of that's harmful example of is you go I gave some when you remind somebody about their past that they're a convert that they're a b Chua you invoke the past in a way that will embarrass them that's that's when you single somebody out it could be if you rebuke them harshly insincerely it can beas onas another example you go shopping window shopping with no intent to buy and you take up time of the salesperson and you ask a lot of questions and you try on a lot of things and you learn a lot about the product and you never were even open you never were even considering buying there so it's hurtful it's harmful it's unkind is you see someone has something and you say what' you pay for oh you overpaid for that what are you crazy that's what you paid for that you bought that that's made that's terrible quality it's never going to last I can't believe you bought that all of these are examples of the violation of and is even worse than even worse than you thumb your nose at the dinner that you were served you're on kind and reacting when asked how does it taste do you like it are you happy all of these are examples of and uh a person has to be very careful there are a lot ofas that revolve around them there's a lot to learn about them that people have to to be careful that people have to be careful has a very interesting Insight we know the word s is always laus the word s is extra here the P says don't grieve don't hurt or injure don't be abusive to your friend it could have just said your friend what does the word s come to add says don't hurt someone else always goes above and beyond it also means don't be hurtful and harmful to yourself don't remind yourself of your past in a way that's going to bring you down just like you have to treat others people sometimes forget you have to treat yourself don't forget also be kind to yourself don't hurt yourself don't remind yourself don't go back in time and be paralyzed by the past for yourself the also has some insight here and he says the following he says the following because essentially when this period of Rik 24,000 students who died 24,000 funerals Raba spoke at 24,000 chiv calls Raba made and why did they all die to have lost all of his students to wipe out all of his legacy l celebrate M shabas Sunday is really all about Raba rebuilding not being knocked down and knocked out getting up and starting all over again but firsta lost everything why why they die in this plague why was it brought upon them Rabbi say because they were unkind they were harsh they were cruel they would learn together and say what a stupid explanation there's no way that's what it could mean they were I don't want to learn with him they said unkind things to one another which is in don't hurt your fellow and fear God because I am extract from here that it's even worse Rashid continues with the the end of the ends fear God because he knows all of our thoughts and he knows all your intent and Rashi concludes that whenever we find a Prohibition that with be God-fearing why do I have to be God-fearing just be nice don't be a jerk don't be obnoxious don't be difficult don't hurt people be nice but you know who else can be nice an atheist an atheist can treat people nicely an atheist can be careful not to harm or hurt or injure people so what do you have to throw in so don't be an obnoxious jerk that's how it Loosely translates don't be obnoxious and the be God-fearing why do we have to include and be God-fearing so the gamar adds another instance where the prohibition of verbal harassment is determined not by your actions alone but here what matters also is what's in your heart what's in your heart the gar gives the example we mentioned you inquire about a product and you have no money to buy the product so you go to the car dealership to drive the Ferrari you ask a million questions about the Ferrari you've studied Ferraris you've investigated Ferraris you get magazines about Ferraris you Google Ferraris and every now and then to satisfy that craving you go to the car dealership and you say I'd like to take the Ferrari for a test drive I have a lot of questions and how much horsepower and I don't even know what to ask or point out about a Ferrari but M there a lot of the tires what else to ask and then you're G to take it for a spin but you don't have enough money to buy in a a Ferrari you can't afford a Ferrari so that salesperson thinks they're going to sell a Ferrari I imagine the commission on a Ferrari sale is not bad and now you're going to lead that person on and all the while you had no intent to buy when the person walks out of the store you bring a certain measure of pain to the salesperson I just spent all that time they led me on they never could have bought so it's a matter that's determined by what is inside the heart because only that person knows whether they had intent to buy all along or not so there are only two people in the world who know whether there was a possibility they were going to buy them and and Hashem and God so means know that there's someone who else who knows what's in your heart you might be able to pull the wool over the salesperson you might be able to you might be able to in fact convince the the person at the store but Hashem knows so at first glance it seems that only instances of self- serving advice and insincere inquiry are contingent on the heart but insulting another would not be a matter determined by what in the heart so say yeah when it comes to going into the store and misleading the salesperson then but when you say something hurtful and obnoxious at your shabas table no one needs to know what's in your heart because you said it with your lips if you write a strong text you send a nasty email you hang a poster about someone outside your house no one cares what's in your heart you demonstrated it with your hands so why even in that circumstance so the mag the maged the peson wrote all of his maged books based on the inspiration he got from his relationship but the Magid who was the Magid of shadon the great uncle of Chef so the maged told over the following incident there was a who during of began shabas it was shabas was the of shabas and what's shabas which is the mus of every shabas what happened the forgot that chabas wasn't just shabas it was also rodes and what are you supposed to say notas you say what's underneath that line what do you say so there's always that guy some guy in sh gives a clap screams it's true it's not good now nobody looked because the needed to be corrected so somebody made the correction everyone went V there everybody just went on because all anybody was thinking about anyway was the kidish so they just went on but it so happens said said the that the person who gave the clop happened to have a vendetta against the km the person who gave the clop happens to have a history happens to have some beef some tension with this K so when he gave that clap he gave it a little extra hard when he screamed out to he did it with a little smile with a little Delight he caught the he got the Kazan doing something wrong he corrected the kazen he embarrassed and humiliated the kazin the extra decibal level on the clap the extra loud clap and the little smile in his heart when he corrected the was a violation of V so said the mag says the know that knows what's in your heart is not only when you misled the salesperson it's also even when you correct the kazen it's one example of Merry scenarios only fear of Hashem can be your backbone can keep you away from the sins about which no one will ever be the wiser because who knows who will ever know that your motivation to correct the actually had nothing to do with your love of of mus that you weren't trying to protect mus you just have always been trying to correct this K you couldn't wait to catch him doing something wrong so who will know what will inspire and motivate us remember that always knows is more serious but concerning financial fraud there's no such warning when it comes to there's no warning be God-fearing the commentary's note says Al this distinction doesn't necessarily imply an imbalance and seriousness it's equally serious so why doesn't it say it so he wants to suggest based on this two distinct explanations for why the Torah says the first the simple cause and effect when one fears Hashem you have the ability to fulfill those responsibilities of the heart if you feel Hashem knows everything he's with you everywhere he's aware of everything that you think that you do that you know that you say that you consider so the more Mindful and conscious and conscientious we are of hashem's presence in our life the more Vigilant will be the more scrupulous will be in living morally and properly the second is the opposite one who's careful with the Mitzvah and trusted to the heart will Merit in other words it works in both directions the more year the more you're going to be careful of the mitzil of the heart and the more you're careful of the mitzil of the heart the more it will cultivate the more it will grow a healthy sense of a healthy sense of in your in your life he has a lot more to say but we'll leave it we'll leave it there okay keep going yeah it's a beautiful on this as well which we will leave out let's go to that's what we can say we got to the end of the par 702 if your brother becomes impoverished becomes poor and his means falter IM in your proximity near you you should strengthen him who cares what his backgrounds who he is step in help Step Up bail him out so that he can live with you so he can live together with you say the following what does it mean he can live with you take care of help him out bail him out so he can continue to live with you what's the difference between the words emo what does emo mean with you what does mean with you now you get the problem what's the difference between IMO Ando if both of them mean with you so the says there it says b accepted he got permission from Hashem to goem said you can go get up and go Hashem seemingly gave him permission so why did he get angry later when billum actually went we're giving a preview for the par coming up par coming up soon but billum wants to go bolock recruits him to curse the Jewish people and at first Hashem says no and then Hashem relents and says you can go he says you can go eat with them bam goes and God gets angry so the girl wonders why did God get angry if in fact he gave him permission because he said you can go so the says and and the word IM means together United in consonance aligned the word means we're aligned we're aligned we're together the wordo in contrast in distinction we may be headed in the same direction but for entirely altogether different reasons we may be working in the same project but we have entirely different motivations so God said you can go don't be aligned don't be motivated by the same thing don't be on the same page as them and here he went IM he went with them so based on this you can explain here based on this maybe here as well it doesn't say you might be tempted to say I've got it together I'm the one with the wealth I'm the one who's the solution you're the one who's got the problem you're the one who's in trouble you're the one who can't make it so I'm bailing you out I don't need to but I'm helping you that would be an attitude ofoo yes I'm giving you yes we're doing the same thing but not because we're equal I'm bailing you out so Torah says bring an attitude not of but bringing an attitude of you're equals you're equals item gave the same of money for you to divide between the two Happ he gave it to you and you're sharing with him but it's his as much as it's yours because really it's all his the M says more than the rich person does for the poor person the poor person is doing for the rich person the poor worthy cause gives the wealthy person meaning and purpose to apply his wealth so more than the wealthy person did for the poor person the poor person or poor organization or institution gave the wealthy person the person means meaningful place to use their money and that's why it's the expression IM not or but I want to end with one more insight bear with me with one more insight the PK ends PK ends Torah imperative to help somebody else who's fallen down bail them out in that moment we've shared previously by the way beautiful inside of the B I'm tempt to tell you right now but we're out of time listen to a previous year but I want to say something now the ques the a debate between and were all familiar with it what happens what happens two people are walking and they're in a lifethreatening situation siren goes off do you lie on top of the other person and protect them or do you only protect yourself two people are in a desert one canteen of water there's not enough water to sustain both do you drink it all do you share it and both die do you give it to the other they live and you die what happens what's what's the what's the helicopter goes down and the leadership of Iran is on it they should all die they did they should all die but what happens in these scenarios the raan quotes the comes along and he says you share the water bottle and even though there's not enough to sustain you both better you both die then one will survive and watch his friend perish could someone survive at the expense of his friend therefore says benur better they both drink even if they both won't make it let them both die and not let one survive and see his friend die comes alonga and he says no your brother should live with you once your survival is assured then you can care about another but if your survival is not yet assured don't compromise or sacrifice your survival for the other that's why everybody knows in the airplane that if the masks fall from the ceiling put on yours before the other person before the other person and this is the famous Source everybody invokes to solve the famous conundrums moral conundrums and dilemmas hopefully are hypothetical tragically they come up and they come up now on my first trip to Israel in the beginning of November we went up north and there was a crazy uh what they call purple rain coming from the northern border we got out our driver said get out of the car we ran out of the car and I had my daughter studying for the year in Israel with us and I instinctively ran to lie on top of her was that right is that wrong what's the that's what I did I don't regret doing it but this is the source that every time there's these questions that tragically right now are are practical that we wish and we pray would remain only hypothetical what should you do says you take care of you take care of yourself take care of yourself what's the connection between the impoverished person and supporting the Indigent what is it have to do with shita the end of the para is telling us care for those who are underprivileged the beginning of the para is about shita what does one thing have to do with another and with this will end the comments that this P reflects the same idea that it says in fortunate to see who's who's thoughtful of the impoverished what's the connection so there a sa s but and he explains based on paying careful attention to the language of the the says the simple understanding is his position becomes unstable with you whose position is unstable who's the P referring to the poor person but the sh S I would have it here to read it to you inside but we don't have time says it's an instruction to others when you see your brother struggling your first response Your Instinct should be IM he's unstable with you that his plight is your problem it's not that I'm stable I got it together I'm good to go he's got problems his problem is your problem IM don't feel sympathy compassion feel empathy you're not an outsider you're an Insider if one does then you'll support him if you really feel the pain you'll automatically respond by helping him that's what the m means that it's the same as this P Mas one who's thoughtful with the D the struggling person don't just stroke a check don't just Mumble tell him on their behalf be mindful be practice empathy feel connected to the pain of the other person who can feel that the farmer the farmer just went an entire year without bringing home an income the farmer just had a forced unpaid radical when he sees a poor person who doesn't know where his meal is going to come from you know who can relate the farmer so the Torah connects and J oppos to the two to tell us take your experience to develop empathy for another the farmu just lived a whole year not knowing where his next meal is going to come from Channel that uncertainty that doubt into feeling the sympathy for others so in the eth year when you go back to working your farm you go back to making a killing you go back to owning all this real estate you go back to living high in the hog don't therefore feel the poor person ah not my problem or I'll write a check because I'm rich feel no you know I knew what it was like to be hungry I knew what it was like to be uncertain the reward for fasting comes from the that you give on the end of a fast there's a Min today's bab nobody here is observing it but bab there are fast days the Min is the end of a fast day you should givea when you come to a fast give Saka why what does a fast have to do with Saka so M says don't just give sta you should give the value of the meals that you skipped ordinarily you allow yourself $20 on lunch put $20 in Stucker because you didn't have lunch that day because it was a fast day and breakfast and dinner whatever you skipped give it Stucker what's the connection what's the connection between the two so the sh says you know what it means you know what the means at the end of a fast day you know what it means to be hungry take that growl in your stomach that hunger pain take what it means that you know right now at the end of a fast day what it means to be hungry and give some to make sure that nobody's hungry don't feel sympathy feel empathy don't be an outsider be an Insider connect with genuinely take your own experiences whatever they may be in life in health in mental health in parnasa and livelihood maybe it wasn't getting married maybe it was infertility whatever pain whatever experience whatever patience whatever you went through a greater empathy for those who are going through it and let it be IM together with us in the Merit of our caring and feeling each other's pain let us have a today please remain to say all of as we do at the end of each year