Parsha Perspective For Today - Behaalosecha 5783/2023 - Listen to Hashem Talking to You

good morning Booker toe welcome back to partial perspectives for today I want to thank our generous Parsha series sponsors Becky now the cats and family and memory of David Grossman our learning should be linishment today she was also sponsored by Alan Avi Miller remember everybody and in memory of Michelle mondovich thank you to all of our generous sponsors we have the privilege this week of learning 774 in the art Scrolls Hashem spoke to Moshe saying love speak to Aaron and tell him when you Kindle the lamps when you Kindle the menorah the Candelabra toward the face of the menorah the seven lamps is the way that you should light it and there are of course while this position speaking specifically about the Mino itself this Clea of the Michigan Leader of the base on nickdosh there are messages we don't have a minora today but the menorah stands for Torah it's the light the illumination the warmth the power the impact of Torah and that continues its deeper messages even today so let's take a look at a couple of them one of them comes from the safer imros tahoros the imros Tauros is the Insight of the Reba I got it out okay I'm not going to try it again imros tahoros and he says the following I've spoken about this many times rash is bothered why means like the language the word Aliyah you get an Alia to the Torah you step up to the bhima to get the Aliyah you move to Israel not if but when we all belong there we will all make Aliyah Alias to go up is to raise to elevate to go up if we're talking about lighting a flying flame letting a candle then why are we describing it as raising as elevating as lifting up and Russia gives two interpretations one is that the candelab or the menorah was large there was a platform in front of it because the coin had to step up on it in order to be able to reach to be able to clean and later to be able to Kindle to be able to light the manure but she brings a second shot Rashi says it means raise the flame how do you raise a flame hold the match hold the candle hold the flame to the wick till the wick catches and the wick flickers up on its own that you don't have to hold there in place you don't have to leave it there but when you withdraw your Flame the wick has caught fire and now it is flickering up on its own so that's why caused the Candelabra cause its Wick cause its flame to flicker up until it catches till it's on fire so the flame is going on its on its own in fact many interpret from here this is the mission the message of every pair this is what is all about we represent a candle of flame and we touch our flame to the wick of our children of our neighbors of our friends in order to ignite their soul on fire till it lifts till it rises till it flickers till that flame illuminates and enlightens on its own we can withdraw we're no longer there we're no longer present but it continues it continues to flicker that flame continues to Glow that can flame continues to burn bright even on its own is an allusion to the value and virtue of learning Torah every day before you go to Davin some people said there were alarm clock they know exactly nine minutes I could brush my teeth get dressed make it to shul the only four minutes late catch the end of karbanos how do you talk to Hashem when you barely have woken up the crust is still in the corner of your eyes you've not yet really fully become conscious and yet you're going to be talking to Hashem how do you do that so there's a value and a virtue says there ever to learning Torah before you Daven ground and Center your mind remember who he is and how God are categorically different we are reinvest and re-engage in the relationship and now when you have the conversation it'll be so much more meaningful where is that hint to do in the possum where do you see that in the beginning of parishes if you learn Torah and you touch that flame to that Wick then the wick of trilo will rise it will Elevate it'll burn it will illuminate on its own and that's winoki near mitsuba vetora or the Posse tells us that amits was like into a candle and Torah is likened to the lightning and that's the meaning of the possible when you stand in order of Davin you want to connect you want to be in communication you want to Rendezvous with the Divine it's turned to the menorah and hold that flame learn Torah or Haman who remembers oratora the idea is there yeah you're near mitsut Fila was the parish Rashi sorry if you want the candle of FILA to go up you want to light that spark of davening of genuine authentic meaningful conversation with Hashem first learn the menorah represents Torah first engage first learned Torah and then they shall have then it'll flicker up or you'll be able to have a conversation all of this is a Shameless plug for the Colo Boker we're in the second week of the Kola Boca it's going phenomenally well 6 15 to 7 every day then seven o'clock we grew out of the basement already there's no room more than 30 men every morning 6 15 a.m incredible we're learning every day Cola Boker it changes not only your day and your learning it changes your davening by the time you come to chakras you've already been talking to Hashem for 45 minutes but to come come to chakras you've already been remembering who he is and engaging and learning about him so you see this from our password that first turned to the menorah engaged Torah and then the shalhavis of FILA will be oleme Allah but it's true even if you're having at home many women who don't go to Minion all week long it's true even if you're not making it to the Kola Boker spend a couple of minutes open Something challenge your mind learn some Torah re-center yourself in terms of who he is and why you're having this conversation why is he the one that you're turning to to ask because re-centering through Torah will be enormously influential impactful in then the quality of the Fila that will follow has a different interpretation says is the symbol of Torah and the Seven branches of the menorah are the seven wisdoms of the world Torah of course is the primary wisdom that's the Center branch of the menorah but the other six branches are the other wisdoms that the gross studied the gra was aware of and familiar with Science and Mathematics there are all kinds of wisdoms through three access according to the rambam we come to learn and thereby to love Hashem and the menorah is that symbol of wisdom the symbol of Torah and Ruben Ackman writes are you there tourism Israel without Torah Fila is inadequate without learning Torah engaging Torah living Torah being curious about Torah and you're all fulfilling this being here at a parish here listening and watching and imbibing and absorbing the messages of Torah that is the prerequisite to a meaningful feel how does that work can't a person be an ignoramus can a person choose to not challenge their intellectual approach don't learn but Davin Davin sincerely and from the heart and Shuckle and sway why they connected because if you don't learn Torah let's feel is not accepted as the Apostle says a person who removes their ear from hearing Torah it's very intentional the language May sear us now you remove your ear you don't want to hear you know I was raised my father always taught me it's one thing to not make it to a sheer but it's another thing to get up and walk out and you see this phenomenon all the time daily between milk and Mario there's a divided every day six minutes Snippets or some other dry Torah and there are the people after get up and walk out they'd rather they'll come back in in a couple minutes where you have a long share between America and a Marv they get up they walk out they go schmooze they even go learn in another room it's one thing to not make it to this year it's another when you were there to get up and to walk out not interested disconnected today you don't have to physically get up and go out in order to check out today between men hamar if you take out your phone and you think you're listening passively but you're really scrolling and texting and you're checking what happened that day in checking your status and checking the stock market checking what time the Heat game is tonight you're not really there physically you may be present but you're absent present because you're really on your phone you're not really there such a person who is invited and has the opportunity he's already in the room when Torah is being proclaimed Torah is being shared and their masir ozno mishma attorah shot one's ear from hearing Torah not interested disconnected distracted literally walking out or metaphorically walking out the davening of such a person is repulsive to Hashem so it means the marav after you spent between on your phone is a toeva to Hashem maybe we should post this in shoes everywhere Kyle yo said let's follow me where does this come from says which is harder to Daven or to learn it depends who you are different people have different inclinations but on the whole we know there are people who haven't three times a day who barely ever open a safer Dominic you feel connected I need to ask I need to thank I need to praise I need to communicate but learning is hard learning people struggle to relate to but is Hashem without it being on the foundation and against the backdrop of learning Torah so that Fila is lacking a value it's lacking a context it's lacking a credibility how could I talk to you and have a relationship with you I'm going to try to suggest what means doesn't say it here in the safer I would suggest maybe what he means is the following how could I talk to you if I don't bother ever listening to you if I'm never interested in hearing what you have to say What's the value of my communication with you our davening is our talking to Hashem are learning Torah is Hashem talking to us whenever we open a safe or whenever we go to a share whenever we want to hear what the Divine message is for us we're listening to Hashem he's sharing his blueprint for creation he's giving us this instruction manual for Life he's giving us insight into our own psyche into relationships he's telling us the prescription for life and if you never open a safer you never go to a sure you're not interested in what he has to say then what value is there in your talking to him when asked one of the pieces of advice I give what to look for on dates a young couple during I say you know does the other person only talk about themselves or do they have an interest and a genuine curiosity about you does the whole meal revolve around them do they monopolize the conversation are they offering everything about their life do they ever stop and say enough about me tell me about you let me hear where did you go this and how was this and what do you feel about this and what what's your hobby about that if the person's not interested in you what's the value of their communication so if you never learned Torah if you never want to hear what Hashem has to say and all you want to do is talk to him I need this I need that I need the other thing thank you for giving me that yesterday please give me that again tomorrow and Hashem says can I get a word in here edgewise do you mind can I say something can I tell you about my needs my wants and now not interested I go on my phone between America I don't go to any Shear in fact I walk out even when I was there and there's one being offered so sorry Ash I know you can't get a word in edgewise I just want to talk to you about everything I need but I'm not really interested in hearing what you have to say you're about your needs such as Fila is a toe Ava says the possume not just that Fila is not the highest quality that Fila is in fact a to Ava it's repulsive to Hashem what does that have to do with anything here it's a longer but I'll skip to the end this is the chat in the possum we take this from the saver the teachings of applied to the Parsha El Arron is love when you want to lift when you want to elevate when you want to inspire when I want to ignite the spark of the year of a Jew where do you need to direct them where do you need to turn them turn them to stop and listen to what Hashem has to say learn Torah engage Torah connect to Torah and then it'll change your darling and your in your relationships and your life are you the man or woman every day needs to engage needs to experience Torah is the tavlan Hashem created yet we have all kinds of impulsive and compulsive behaviors Temptation Drive desire and what is the tablet what is the what is the medicine what is the antidote it's it's Torah Torah gives us it empowers us to navigate this complicated world so Hashem says stop talking for a minute listen to me because if all you know how to do is talk and you never want to listen we don't really have much of a conversation going on here at all and in fact all your talk is is a toeva to me because all you want to do is talk you're not interested in listening so where does it begin listening to Hashem and once we listen we say now Hashem we have something to share I want to say thanks want to say praise and also I want to share in with you our needs because we're conceding we're surrendering that you are in fact the source of being able to provide whatever it is that we whatever it is that we need so our own receives this instruction about how to light the menorah and the Torah tells us something Aaron was told what to do and taka he did what he was told to do in fact lit the candles towards the Candelabra exactly as Moshe had instructed Hashem had instructed through Moshe and we've alluded to we've spoken a little bit about this in the past partial is the same Parsha so much of the Parsha we've always spoken about in the past each year we bring new ideas new sources and New Perspectives for today so much ink Harvey Dion says much Inca spilled a much many quills have broken over the question of what is the Torah telling us that Vayas Aaron did what he was asked foreign a coin to say Aaron did what he's commanded tell me something I don't know he's our own he's our own Aaron mosh are the greatest of the generation of course he followed and Rashi compounds it because Rashi says this is the praise of our own he didn't deviate he didn't distort he didn't change he followed what he was asked and much ink has been spilled and many coils have been broken trying to evaluate and analyze what in the world is Rashi telling us this is the praise of an iron that he didn't deviate a distort or change or pervert what Hashem had told them of course he didn't he's our own he's compliance he's obedient foreign [Music] first time he was asked to light those candles how do you think he did it did it with passion and energy and enthusiasm and vigor this is his moment he was jealous Russia also tells us he was jealous at the end of last week's Parish Allah why do we have the menorah right after the story of the carbonus I'm going to see him the 12 princes who offered the exact same carbon because Aaron looked at Hashem and he said it's not fair to me how come they bring to bring a carbon and I don't and what did hashems say I would have expected Hashem to say what's the matter with you what are you two years old it's not fair to you it's not your job your job is your job their job is your job what's what's the problem don't worry you also get yours you get to light the candelabria can the lobby will do that in perpetuity you light the menorah it's a very interesting answer from mashem instead of putting hour in this place he seems to reward our own for his jealousy we've spoken about that in the past you could listen to a previous year to find out the answer to it means he didn't lose his enthusiasm he didn't lose his energy his excitement the millionth time you let the menorah had the same energy enthusiasm and passion as the first time so those two words shalloshina he didn't change did he not change the Commandment how he fulfilled it did he not change his own attitude or did he not change what he brought to the Mitzvah his energy all those we've shared in the past both Satora quotes several others be honest instead says the following how tall was our own tell us he was 15 feet tall Esther Ramos is a man literally is it meant metaphorically he was tall no growth hormone for Aaron he was very tall so he didn't need that step up remember I told you one of the interpretations of Rashi is that there was a platform in front of the menorah you could step up to the menorah to light it otherwise you'd have to reach that Arrow need that platform no Aaron was 10 hours tall he could have reached it nevertheless he stepped on the platform because that's what the Torah told us and when he stood on that platform he had to bend his head otherwise he would have hit his head on the roof of the mishkan is even though he didn't need the platform he could have moved it out of the way he stepped up onto it to not stand out if all the other kohanim would need to stand on it he did too I am meant he had to bend his head he was humble enough to bend his head when he needed to but loshina it wasn't going to change or deviate from the way all the other kohanim did it as well so that's in Turbo petition number four that's new this year Venice and I'm schitt's and Mr Ferris Johannes son tell you another one comes from the Utopia Torah himself he says shalom how did he spend his day tennis golf Mahjong Lying by the pool reading a book what did I don't do with this time he was busy he never retired he didn't slow down didn't have hobbies you know what aarona Cohen's hobby was making peace between people reuniting family members Friends Community hayators he was doing marriage counseling he was doing mediation he was bringing peace and Harmony to the Jewish people always and when he wasn't busy doing that you know what he was doing Outreach key roof putting to fill in on people he was teaching them Torah he was running Partners in Torah he's a pretty busy man when you're involved in engaging in Outreach follow up you want to come for shabba's dinner you want to meet at Starbucks and learn a little bit to come Partners in total don't miss that night let's solve another makalokas he was busy he was running um so you might have thought our own he's running he's doing Noble things so he'll delegate he'll delegate the lighting of the menorah to somebody else or the menorah could take five minutes to light if you have a lot of Cabana it could take 60 seconds to light because you got to get back to kiriv and and you got to get back to mediation you got to get back to getting rid of makalokasina he didn't change whatsoever he had the capacity unusual difficult that with a million things on your mind and so much to do noble mitzes righteous things so hard to concentrate and be present for a Mitzvah but despite all that iron on his mind despite all that he had on his plate despite all that he was doing he was never distracted he had the capacity to be present in whatever he was doing when he was light in the menorah he was lighting the menorah when he was doing Kira he was doing kirov when he was making peace he was making peace but they didn't overlap or infringe on the other activity whatever he was meant to be doing who is fully present in that moment doing that thing in that moment the other night the community welcomed that sadly Kluger if Kluger is a great kabbalist a great Mystic a great time he's a great rabbit in bechamish in Israel Nazar Israel is the name of his base major she's put out many many's Forum very very special person and he's here and he spoke at the Yeshiva in conjunction with the shul the other night and there he mentioned in passing that is from a rabbi who is so occupied and preoccupied with the zavodas Hashem of teaching and helping and supporting and inspiring others he says I can't concentrate in Dominic I go to Daven and what happens when I go to Daven I go to Daven and I go to Daven sorry I've been on the wrong microphone I go to Daven and I'm distracted I go to Daven and I'm thinking about all the meetings I have all the follow I have to do all the people who are suffering and struggling and I can't Daven and all of your doubts and all of your challenges are coming from a very holy and very pure place and even though I'm empty and I'm poor maybe the fact that I'm a little bit older and maybe I have a little bit more experience maybe I could approach your question and he writes he writes himachuva and towards the end of the Cuba he says the following and I just heard this one of Kluger this week and it reminded me of this Insight of the ultra plusina he never got tired he never got overwhelmed he never got distracted he never wasn't able to he never wasn't able to to uh to concentrate and any poetry we cannot exempt those who teach Torah from davening the lowland circle is you have to assert yourself you have to have the courage the conviction the resolve the resiliency to do both this is be present fully present with whatever you're meant to be doing when you're giving a share give a share and when you're diving into Hashem into Hashem and don't stand during davening flipping through the safe for preparing the sheer find the ability to be present with whatever you're doing says but if it comes out if it turns out that because you're so overwhelmed and you're thinking about your beloved students and you are so devoted to them and you're concentrating on caring about them and all the follow-up you have to do with them and because of that you're distracted from davening don't become despondent don't become depressed don't give up so if the quality of your dominant is not a 10 out of 10 the quality you're dominating is a two out of ten because you're so distracted thinking about the Yeshiva and you got to raise the money and you love your tell me them and gotta prepare this year Ain't No Love didn't feel loved don't worry that's still davony that's still a davony don't become depressed don't become despondent but what's the goal what's the ambition and now you understand who's so distracted and he says I can't my davening is suffering thinking about my sheer I'm thinking about my tummy them I'm thinking about the money I have to raise I can't remember says you can so this is the this is the praise of an hour on a coinoshina that he was never distracted in the in the process okay a lot more he has on this as you can imagine that's a close-up though but let's move on Turn the Page consecration of the levium towards their holy work and though them take over for someone the levium have a very significant role and very holy work however they were not originally designated for this holy work and for this holy task says pitch 776 Israel sorry I skipped which sorry sorry who should have been this designation who should have had this role the Bahar the firstborn that Hashem took it from the firstborn and instead gave it to to the Olivia what happened what went wrong why was it withdrawn from one and given to the other gives a very interesting reason gives a different reason listen to this partial perspective for today what would be the problem of the bahor served in that role of the levy ran the base contributed to the leadership of the base of mikdash what would be the problem the firstborn so just because someone had a firstborn son doesn't mean that they were a firstborn son so what will that behor be lacking what will they be missing an example a role model a father who already is the precedent sets the precedent how could you serve if you don't have a parent who's a role model for the very service that's expected of you and that would undermine the service the quality of the service that would undermine what they would what they would do and therefore and therefore because took it from the bukhor and gave it to Levy because every lady's father was a Levy and they'll leave his father his father is a levy and the lazy son will be a lady so there'll be a transmission because there'll be an example it's a very interesting beautiful insight into the danger and the risk of leaving the leadership in the hands of the bahur is that the this father might not be a bahor and then one of an example you see this also in the half tour of last week's Parsha Schwab says when the angel visits the wife of Manoa and says your son's going to be a Nazir no haircut and so on and then Asia's Manor comes and Reports say nah get the angel back I want to hear it again and then the angel comes back and simply repeats the exact same thing he once said and now manok says okay we're good to go so first of all what kind of marriage was that Monarch didn't trust Manawa he had to have the angel come back and moreover the angel didn't add anything new so why did manok accept it now sort of Schwab brilliantly says look at the possik he did say something a little bit different when the angel comes back he repeats and he says tishmore all of these things observe Safeguard be careful and Cesar Schwab that doesn't mean safeguard that your son is a Nazir it means whatever you expect of your son you need to keep first what was Manoa saying to his wife I want the angel to come back why well manok was saying was a Nazir how how will he be another how will you know how how will he know what to do how will he have the conviction to continue to be a Nazir so the angel comes back and says I'll tell you how you be a Nazir you want your child to dive in well how do they see you Davin you want your child to love Shabbos what do they hear are your feelings towards Shabbos you want your child to have a Muna do they see you panic or do they see you living with emuna whatever you expect and want in your child you have to first exhibit you have to practice first and that's the reason that his Cooney says so much so that krishborg who changed from the Bahar to the levim because that inherently wouldn't be possible with buhar not every bakura's father was by definition a bakur as well then continues with Passage page 778 parakeets in its time now Fast Forward by yanashim what happened there were people they were impure why what was the source of their impurity why were they disqualified from participating in the original passage so the gamara records several positions one maybe they're carrying the bones of Yosef remember Yosef made the Jews promise don't leave me here in mitzrayim Take Me Out bury me in the holy land when you get there so I'm gonna have to be carrying his bones so those who are carrying around if those who are carrying yosef's bones were impure they were ineligible to have participate in the first passage and now they are the ones who come and step up and complain and need the second others say it was Mitzvah there was a Jew who died and there was no one to care for him and they stepped up and these were people who were tomatoes because they they cared for him because they cared for him or and they come they step forward to motion we were disqualified from participating in the first carbon Passage it's not fair to us second time in the parisha first our own partial begins with our not fair to me and Hashem rewards him I love that attitude I love it nah because I want you to be jealous and envious and overly competitive with your brothers but I want you to be hungry I want you to have Drive I want you to have ambition I want you to feel you want a chance to stay up all night and learn with your father anxious you want a chance to go to shul you want a chance to volunteer for not fair to me not fair to me because you're hungry for some spiritual ambition that's fantastic and now the second time the people who precipitated those who were the Catalyst for the whole holiday they said those iconic two words why should we be deprived I ask you if you were told you don't have to keep pesach this year you're off you're ineligible you get a pass you're disqualified no hard feelings you're good to go no punishment not your fault take the ear off no pesach how many of us would be screaming from the rooftops no way not fair to me I want pesach no way I want to go show I want to learn I want to do I want to go on that trip I want to make that difference he loves the attitude of Allama our own exhibited at the beginning of the Parsha and now we have these holy Jews who exhibit it and to introduced because of them we are introduced to an entirely new Mitzvah Shani Turn the page so Hashem Moshe takes this to Hashem it's above his pay grade so to say one of the areas of Allah that was there was novel and new and Hashem gives them the answer is if a Jew isn't ineligible to be part of the carbon passage because he's in Pure or because he's too far away in the second month on the 14th day um you don't have to clean the house you the four cups of wine but it is matzah and motor the carbon pesacherman you can't leave it over until the until the next night so why is er they didn't need a full month in order for those who were impure to become pure those who were too far away to get there so why is it a whole month later the 14th of er rather than the 14th of Nissan why is passage a month later it's about tourum writes the reason is the following Nissan when you when you add a leap year what do you add a month of other so it turns out that without the leap year the 14th of er would have been the 14th of Nissan so you see yeah those two months have an overlap they have a connection it's only with the introduction of a leap year that you pushed it off but otherwise they could take up the same space so to say so when there's a delay for a passage happens on in the month of ER in the month of er the ivitz writes in a sitter Tom pesos in ER was revealed to me from the heavens you know why that's the date that we ran out of matzah from Egypt when we left Egypt we left with matzah and that's when we ran out yes just like you did the first place and that's why it's in ER on the 14th of VR that's when we ran out that's when we ran out that's what the ivitz brings very interesting language when he says it was revealed to me for heaven and that's all the ultra plus needed to hear to then go on for pages and pages and pages of other examples of great rabbis who say it was revealed to me from the heavens how did I come upon this idea how do I know this truth it was revealed to me from the heavens pages and Pages the Rival and the rambam rights was given to me in a dream we have the chuvas everything was revealed in a dream who used to come to him in his dreamsaram the answers to Allah questions that were reveal to him in his sleep in a dream and we have many others again he goes on and on such a beautiful he collects these great every time an Akron said how did I know this how did I stumble upon this yeah it came in a dream it came while I was asleep it came while I was dozing off was revealed to me from the heavens very very interesting that's why pasok Cheney is in the second month again you could lessen the previous urum and we dived into the pasakshini much deeper it's the month of second chances that the antifa second chances of Second Chances what's the connection to Joseph at sandik Yosef gave his brothers a second chance and that was the argument Hashem we're carrying the bones of Yosef Yosef the father of Second Chances he gave his brothers a second chance Hashem give us a second chance we also want to be able to bring the carbon the carbon PESA a lot more yeah foreign somebody who was holy was pure and was not on the road they simply neglected to make pesach did they also get a chance somebody said I don't feel like it I'm Tower I'm close by well not in the mood the punishment is person neglected to bring the carbon in the right time such an individual Bears their iniquity they bear their sin so listen to listen to this incredible rubiker the Lush on the language of the Posse was the language of the pasok Aya is foreign someone who is pure and who was not on the road you know what you can derive from here and where do you see the center to in the past look if you want to be pure if you want to have a good routine if you want to develop a good habit and pattern of how to live a righteous life I got my minion I got my duffyomi I got my sleep pattern I eat my healthy meals I got my Peloton I got my exercise I got my harusa I spend my time with my family I got all my routine I've got all my parameters in place I've got everything positioned to lead my best life and then you go off on the road I know people like this I'm related to people like this such creatures of habit all is amazing when they're on their home turf and then they have to go off on the road and there's a panic kicks in well where are we going what time is it going to be how do I go for this what do I do with this how do I grind how do I make my coffee where do I go so that's the rubiker says if you want to live your best self ish now some people have no choice the business people have to travel you travel for pleasure to see hashem's world to gain from it but on the whole don't always be running and going in frantic it's very hard to fall into a healthy routine don't be running around don't be frantic don't be switching it up don't be on the move have a pattern have a have a perspective have a uh have a strategy to live your best okay here we go next pack page 782 . you who designed trumpet for us they're used to call the people they're used to call deniseum they're used to gather everyone last year we shared a great insight and we'll revisit it this year another context every generation needs its own Trumpets the call for every generation is different we develop a different language a different vocabulary the Torah is timeless but how it's communicated needs to be able to land for each generation is different the order for breaking the camp Moshe invites before we get some more yeah Moshe invites Israel to remain s his father-in-law Israel no come with us Hashem Israel says I'm not going why I gotta go home I gotta go back to my hometown I've got to go back to where I where I come from Moshe pleads with the sphere don't leave you can't go I beg you don't abandon us meaning you're an outsider you're a Jew by choice you elected to join us you didn't have to you weren't born into this you're not obligated and yet you chose to don't go anywhere don't go anywhere we want you to stay we want you to stay don't go anywhere don't go anywhere and what does this or decide what does ISRO conclude what does Israel conclude not sure we don't know total leaves it is open-ended all of a sudden now they're on the road was Moshe compelling did he convince him did it work we don't know why does the turtle live in ambiguous day that Israel go we don't know very interesting very interesting now why was ISRO why did he want to leave why did he want to leave why was he struggling with staying so it's a plus a terrible quote something very interesting from the svarnow shallotism Easter says I have to go home you know why I'm an old man and I don't breathe well here and I don't digest your food well I've got to go home we just saw a person does best in their natural habitat that's what you do best and yesterday was saying Tim it's been fun I enjoyed it I've appreciated the visit but according to the svarna lotism my old age Camp bear your food and your air these uh swarnow also explains the Posse the same way and we see the same attitude and the safer yosefun what's up quotes very interesting the doctors saying that there are many people who can't drink the water where they go they can only drink the tap water where they're from our tap water is the best New Yorkers love to talk about the tap water our tap water is the best but then you go everybody knows you go to Israel you better buy them Eden if you're not there long enough to acclimate to the tap water don't try it you'll miss your whole trip we'll leave it at that don't try it so where does this come from the notion that when you travel and you go somewhere new and then you have to now adjust to their diet to their food to their air to their drink to their water Israel that's what you saw his complaint was I gotta go home it's been fun I gotta go home sign in my minion I gotta I need my bed I need my tap water I gotta go home isn't that interesting I found it interesting okay let's keep going Perkins so we're left not knowing did Moshe persuade him did he not don't know why would the Torah leave it ambiguous we've addressed that in the past as well they travel from the Mount of Hashem three days which is the harashem where they exit where they leave where they depart from and I remember and the auron of the Bristol Hashem they are on Journey before them three days distance to search out a resting place and the cloud was over them during the day as they journeyed and as they traveled the cloud was over them during the during the day of drunk gone back to ishtamin third drunk Rashia quotes by Sumi arsham they went for three days and the arm went three days ahead of them and all of a suddenly what do we encounter normally we're used to text in the Torah and all of a sudden we get not just text we get the upside down inverted nuns the nun that is a bracket before and after the Tupac we sing when we take the Torah out the Posse we sing or say when we put the Torah back that I bracketed off these two by the nun before and after why do we have these brackets so they don't really belong here chronologically or thematically why are they inserted here why did Hashem edit his Torah to put them here if they don't belong here because two bad things happen and it wouldn't look good to have two bad things in a row we don't want the momentum we don't want the poor impression of two bad things in a row so we break it up so we insert what doesn't belong here with brackets to break it up in order to interrupt the Piranhas one bad thing and the other bad thing great helpful useful good got it what are the bad things so the bad thing after the bracket I got what's the bad thing after the bracket what happens now yeah a bunch of abyss and miserable negative complainers some things haven't changed they're about to become complainers and they're about to illegitimately complain and of course book is about to Wallop them that's the Piranhas afterwards what's the Piranhas before Zion what's the Piranhas before before I tell you the gamar just look at the total look at the possible you have the partial right open in front you page 786 the art scroll Stone what's the promise before all we did was just read about conversation motion Israel now it's time to leave three days Darwin went ahead of them what's the puranos that precedes it says the gemara is Hashem they didn't walk away from harsinai the way we walk away from the kotel backwards had they walk away they ran they ran away they ran away it says this is the criticism of Israel that when they finally departed they ran like a group of school children who are as kids right now some of the schools are already done others are in the last week every kid from six years old to 16 years old knows exactly not how many days how many hours are left to school every teacher knows how many hours I left school every parent who drives carpool knows how many hours are left to school and I promise you believe me when it's over nobody's walking out backwards I'll miss you I don't want to go I love you why does it have to end nobody is walking out backwards why does it have to end they run so fast they are out of there so quickly they're out of there like Vladimir so what's so wrong how long were the Jewish people at harsinai how long was that stay they checked in for how long Shana shlima they were there for a full year at our Sinai Sivan they were there either the 6th or seven to seven in the first year until the 20th of ER in the second year foreign so are we really critical of the way they left when they were there for a full year and moreover says and if they decided we've had enough I'm out of here I can't take the water in this place anymore I can't take the meals I can't take the bed I'm done a year is enough I gotta go home then we'd understand why it'd be a legitimate criticism however who told them to go Hashem how did he tell them when the cloud lifted when the trumpets blue the message the signal came from above time to go the ultimate travel agent booked our next flight the next leg of the flight and he said it's departure time let's go so why are we critical of them they're both safer okay we can explain the criticism is not that they Departed the criticism is not that they left [Music] it was the way they left it was the way they left because after Christian says and Rashi says what happened the amps of split and what washed up on the shore all the silver and gold all the Chariots of the Egyptians who drowned in the yamsuf and washed up on the shore and the Apostle tells us the majors tells us the Jewish people were collecting it these slaves the slave Nation the slave mentality they were sticking in their pockets and the shirts and underneath then carrying however much they could take by the way what was what was Moshe doing Joseph he wasn't collecting golden jewelry in silver what was he collecting not atmosio safe but the atsum of Yosef he was collecting a masora Arturo or value meanwhile what happens tells us it's time to go Moshe goes to him and says it's time to go is it just one more minute just two more minutes just five more minutes can't go I have just I have more room in my pockets I could stick more things under my shirt I have more things I can take the CEO of Lululemon was there encouraging them take as much as he can go enjoy they were sticking it all in they were running as much as they could as much as they could just two more minutes five more minutes it's a couple more things and Moshe has to drag them out of there Cesar of druck it was the contrast of the way that they had to be dragged away from yamsov and Moshe didn't even get the words out of his mouth it's time to go from arsenai okay we're out of here we're done we're good we're gone and the contrast of the hesitation and the delay and they're holding on and give us a few more minutes when it came to yamsuf the contrast of we're out of here like Vladimir we can't go quickly enough like safer that they ran that they ran out of there and that's the attitude that we have to have you know the opening is over I wish it were still going on the state or the sheer is over I wish it were a few more minutes even when we're going to the next Noble deed and even when it comes from above from Hashem that there's the next task at hand but when it comes to Holy things we should want to hold on and when it comes to Unholy things and the experiences material ones that's when we should be ready to go so it could be perfectly legitimate to have to Pivot or transition or go on to the next step of our journey in life but the attitude we bring to it where do we delay and wish we could stay longer and where do we run at us so fast because that says everything about our priorities and it says so much about who we are says the second possible but I even saw our own and it was when the auron traveled and uh yomar sorry when the other one traveled what did Moshe say didn't just travel when the Autumn traveled which meant that people traveled Hashem and Scatter the enemies let those who hate you run away from you so what happened when the Ironwood journey and the people would Journey what would Moshe do you offered a atfila Foods says this is the original philosada you're about to set on a journey you're about to go you don't want to encounter an enemy the enemy could be the Canaanites the enemy can be the popo the enemy could be the don't get pulled over don't have a flat tire don't get in an accident don't be robbed on the side of the roads similarly Versace gone says only these words that was said and it's brought down that this is the origin of the whole discussion who instituted when you travel and you Journey outside of the city limits and to a place that's dangerous when you fly when do you say it in the airport when you get into your seat when the plane starts to accelerate in the runway when the first wheel lifts off it's a Big Mac Locus exactly when to say but we offer at Phila we offer a prayer that our journey be smooth and be safe that we arrive at our destination and who's the one who instituted it where did it come from soam says from this baliatosos you see and where did Moshe have been where was him this is where he was masaki this is comes from this is where it originates negative encourageable complaining people and Hashem is very strong with them Hashem is very strong with these people and there are a lot of questions on this section we'll end with this a lot of troubling details what exactly are they complaining about if you read this they're saying something's bad in the ears of Hashem Hashem here's them but what was the complaint it's too cold it's too hot not enough food too much food too spicy too sweet too much milk too much kale what was the complaint what was the complaint and and we we know they complain there's no meat says Rashi how could they say there's no meat the ear of RAV left mitraim with cattle tribes of Ruben and God when it's time to go into Israel say let us stay east of the yard and we have so much Canada we have enough flesh we have so much meat we don't know what to do so how could they say now we have no meat what's really bothering them and how do they conclude their complaint our life our soul is parched it's dry it's wilted if you're in the mood for a good steak you say my soul is wilted and dry you say my stomach is empty I'm starving I crave steak what does it have to do with the dryness of your soul and how does Moshe reacted the emotion reacts so harshly so severely they've complained they've rebelled Moshe could deal with it here you can't deal with it anymore what's really going on so perhaps we'll close with this perhaps the answer to this question can be found and appreciating the grammar of this word I don't want you to get allergic reaction here diktok but the grammar is the following in Hebrew when wanting to describe an action a verb we normally use what form the pl form misoneonym uses a different form which form is misone and it's not PL what is it it's a reflexive form PL is the active form I do a verb is I do to myself it's reflexive it's something a person does to themselves so maybe what the Torah is telling us by using this form of the verb they turn themselves into complainers it's not that they were happy people who had a legitimate constructive criticism they transform themselves into miserable unhappy hyper-critical people and that is intolerable that that is a cancer that metastasizes that is a danger it wasn't happy go lucky appreciative people who had a constructive feedback Kim is onanim they turn themselves into a group of miserable farbisana cynical pessimistic hypocritical people so they mentioned meat but meat's not really their complaint meat is just conveniently how they put forth their complaint right now but they claim complained before they'll complain later their entire mojos is to complain they walk in a room something's wrong they wake up in the morning someone's wrong they'll figure out what it is so for right now it's the meat soon it'll be the AC the thermostat then it will be the they'll find the complaint but if you wake up and you're a complainer before your day even began you'll figure out what to complain about but you're a complainer the Torah has a lot of tolerance for complaints I'm imperfect the shoes I'm perfect there's a lot that we need to work on we we welcome we invite constructive criticism suggestions ideas Solutions we don't welcome complainers so if you're a happy appreciative person with a context and a perspective who has something legitimate to share share it but if you become a complainer that's toxic that's poisonous the more of hashema says what's the root of the word the root of the word is onane is onane what's an onane in between death and burial before you become an Avila mourner a person is in owning why is the word missonin from the word onane because the person made themselves sad and down and grieving and Mourning over the thermostat or the brand of the tuna fish at Charlotte or something more significant but still I wrote an article last week about my JetBlue flight the woman next to me because her TV didn't work screamed nothing's working the flight attendant said nothing's working the plane is working and that's the most important thing and that was the message for us even when my knee my hip the Wi-Fi the it's not working the way I want but is my heart still beating and my lungs am I still breathing the main thing is still working don't be a complainer go fix any fix your hip fix the AC fix the wi-fi but have a perspective have a context don't be a misoneonym don't be an onane you're grieving you're mourning you're crying you're sad because the TV is not working you're acting like you lost a loved one they're crazy kimason we too fall prey to that sometimes when we choose sadness over happiness the Tsar says choosing sadness over happiness is a form of about the Zara choosing sadness over happiness don't be an Onan don't grieve and mourn and make yourself someone said over something over something which is fixable over something which has a solution to it don't pay somebody who's miserable look what's right not what's wrong a lot more to say about this and about the Parsha as a whole volunteer tomorrow morning we continue with 10 minutes of meaning living in the moon irregular times tomorrow night we go behind the beam at least the elephant the founder of adaptation very interesting person who's exhibited a lot of faith in recent time suffered a lot of loss lost lost tragic loss of her son was Victor tomorrow until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay holy foreign