Living With Emunah (Part 338) - Im Yirtze Hashem

somebody doesn't have to die does have to come out a year later because of our but every day my houseal it's like you gave it to me a new our Compass of life is Torah Torah is the na Love is in the air and we are just going to go there and see between what I was seeing with my eyes change the atmosphere of your home and chabis so much always the navigation good morning good morning Boer to welcome back to living with amuna so great to be together and to live with amuna to work on our amuna muscles and see through our amuna glasses and to live life with amuna Aruna series is generous sponsored by Dr zavi andella Morgan in memory of RAB Dr Brian galit and in memory of her mother Dr Ellen shanzer we remain so grateful to the Morgans for their generosity and sponsorship also sponsored anonymously and gratitude to V BRS for all the Torah brought into my home and countless others and anonymously in honor of the upcoming schisa Lisa Basra May her have and Aliyah and sponsored by our friends Lisa Gladstone and Leslie ABY abadi AB whichever way you know her as for of Jordan Blum of yard we're D every day the has a complete speedy and gives tremendous to her beautiful parents and grandparents F and Jeff wtz we should hear good news in BOS toos successful outcome and a complete Rua shalma okay as you may have seen or heard we are in the midst and almost hopefully the homestretch of our Global campaign of our Global campaign I got one very strongly worded email from someone yesterday he sick and tired and how dare we and why will we and I basically I just took him off all the list but I said I don't know when you watch YouTube and there's an ad you yell at YouTube this is the C do we charge you are you entitled you deserve everything has to be free this is life this is life this is the way it goes so if you have not yet given if you watch read listen follow join benefit I have to tell you if only every person who emailed me saying the amuna has changed my life contributed we'd have a campus here a campus in Israel on the Riviera we'd be okay so we just need the people who say this impacted my life this doesn't impact your life I hope less than Netflix or Hulu or your gym membership or your Costco membership or you it doesn't impact your life less if it does don't give but if it impacts your life as much as your membership at the aai bowl store then uh give us by the way if you give us what it cost to get in aai Bowl we'd also have several campuses God Bless the asai bable people no uh you know they deserve what they what they can get anyway please join us BRS online.org Global we have a very ambitious campaign yesterday and today to get to $6 million that's a lot of a cable $6 million we have three million of matchers and we're trying to match it and many have answered we're well on our way we're halfway there but today we've got today so if you've not yet there's a form in front of you you could click the link you could go on the QR code you could fill out your credit card number if you've given you've given and we appreciate it we deeply appreciate it many of our members have given meaningfully but I'll just end with this BRS is not a local community there's a global movement of people around the world who listen read watch connect with and and we're trying to build something we're building it together and we're not building it none of this campaign goes in my pocket we're not getting a bigger house we're not getting a nicer driveway I've got to pay if you heard I've got my kids competing with each other who can bring in the most money and if I told you what the award is this whole campaign's costing me a lot aside from what we gave to the campaign aside from what we've given to motivate my kids it's costing me I'm surprised yeah if they haven't texted you you're one of the lucky few on the planet my kids are beasts beast mode they're at it God bless them never been prouder of them and their mother's doing pretty well herself on her page she actually hit her number so we just doubled it so um but we get nothing out of it but we're we're a Global Learning Community and if you're part of our Global Learning Community then help enable other people all the money's going to produce more Torah more panels more podcasts more conversations more meaning more inspiration more light more content more not just offline more more more more I shared last week that two people just last week told me they named their babies amuna because of the amuna share that got them through difficult times and one of them I mentioned on chabas someone we've had a relationship a correspondence with I don't know has ever been to Florida or BRS but actually sent out that in Lee of gifts for the baby that she waited a long time to have she should have many more and a lot of Nas from them she sent out to friends in family in Li of a gift for this new baby amuna please donate so that the amuna sheer can go more places so if you want to be an ambassador we'll make you a page it's not everybody donate on your's page let her beat my daughters so we don't have to get them a gift and save the money although I think she wants that gift too so if she looks a little different on her head when she comes in next time it's because she won it's because she won okay let's start with some emails and then get back into our text the great yeah she's not having any work done it's sh okay I just want to clarify I just want to clarify for everybody the winner doesn't get BOTOX or plastic surgery that's not the winner the winner is not getting hair plugs or anything else it's a perhaps a new hair a new hair accessory yeah a Shel you know how expensive this thing is for me can't imagine how expensive this is for me one of my sons-in-law so smart he figured it out that if he donates to his wife's page it'll cost a lot less and then she wins the it'll call Less last I'm going to buy the sh good business people okay anyway before we get back into the text I'm going to be talk on a few emails I got this one yesterday and it was fascinating hi Rabbi we had a meeting and he was referencing the meeting thank you for the stickers gave out the stickers hope people have them in their windshield and we have more coming and we got I want a big thank you to Alana who's back today for Designing that and everything else behind the Bea that we do from behind the be Amir from behind the Bea logo to the Amun Shir logo to the caffeinate with cavana logo go to the uh to the uh you're never stuck embrace your place you are where you're meant to be and thanks to her we got luggage tags coming we got cell phone cases coming embrace your place you are where you meant to be yes it's a motto in life so I gave it to this person a sticker we had a meeting and it was to solicit for the campus and the sticker was a small price to pay barash he and his family are giving a very very nice uh contribution very grateful for his $36,000 so he put the uh put the sticker in his windshield and the day he tells him textt me the following he was driving and he had set in the car and he got pulled over for a speeding ticket pulled over for a speeding ticket and he says he was so annoyed and he was going just a little bit 15 miles an hour of the speed limit which everyone knows you can't go more than nine miles an hour the unwritten rule you shouldn't go anything don't go over the speed limit my kids are watching under the speed limit under the speed limit but anyway he got pulled over he was very annoyed and after 30 seconds his son looks at him and says points to the sticker I put in in the windshield last night after our meeting I'm not saying it saved me from getting a ticket I got the ticket but it kept me grounded and put things back on track no need to get angry to be sure tempered or bad mood it's all from Hashem believe you me next time I'll drive slower but as we know it was a test and a lesson to learn going forward it helped me embrace my place but The Story Goes one step further I not only received a speeding ticket I was so flustered I couldn't find my insurance card guess what I received a ticket for that as well so I called the insurance company once I boarded the plane he was on his way to the airport to get copies for the rest of the family make sure the premiums were paid up I began reviewing the policy and the amounts this is crazy I'm going to shop it around I ended up getting the same coverage for $6,000 less so the speeding ticket was a tiny price to pay to save $6,000 which never would have happened I don't think I would have shopped it around if I didn't get the speeding ticket just 45 minutes prior PRS I made it to my meeting with extra time barem and thank you for being whatever whatever whatever blah blah blah so embrace your place you got to love it you in the windshield then your own son calls you out for it says what are you getting bent out of shape it's for a reason and he only had to wait 45 minutes to find the reason sometimes most often in life living with means that you never find the reason you don't know we don't know why we go through why we are where we are why that moment happens why the policeman pulled us over why he was in that spot we don't know but 45 minutes later he found out why because that's speeding ticket she says they drive slower never get again we have to be responsible but that speeding ticket saved him $6,000 he should put it on top of his contribution to the campus okay maybe that's part of that's that's part of the way he's paying the the contribution so very grateful I'll tell you that we just put out this morning our new behind the beima we interviewed zie samit fantastic basketball player and even greater Ben Torah and Yeshiva bakar he is the Superstar in Yeshiva University's team that hit the winning fadeaway three to win the whole division championship game and is the player of the year for the whole division this is not yesh League once you get to College you're not Yeshiva League kids playing against each other I'm talking he's these are secular non-jewish colleges division three basketball and yiva University a bunch of Yeshiva B won the championship game and he was the player of the year and they're on the way to the big dance the NCA tournament that's very big Nas anyway but what's I think most impressive about him was not what he did on the court it's that a couple hours later a picture went viral of him sitting in the Wu Bas medish learning Torah and he went from winning the game to the audience of w the championship of sitting anding of learning with Hashem and we had behind the beima he's a big bentor big masma we talked about balancing basketball and the base medish he learns 10 hours a day plus he has his regimen of of uh of uh practice and exercise plus College on top of that he's incredibly driven incredibly disciplined balances it all that's not why I'm sending you to listen it's available already online but he has a whole piece we had a conversation about am where he's trying to influence the whole team and all the guys many of whom were not as religiously inspired as he is but a lot of talk and including in the game what's extraordinary about this championship game that they lost each of the last two years is this year they were down 16 points with 15 minutes to go the goal game was all but over but zeevi was having a conversation with Hashem throughout the entire game including when he took the fadeaway three so he lets you into his head a little bit in his conversation with what's a fadeaway three I your s your sister knows exactly what a fadeaway three was star of the stern basketball team I anyway Fade with he hit a long shot from far away while falling down with a little time on the clock down by two to win the game you're welcome okay everybody relax anyway it's worth listening to him talk about okay a couple quick more emails and then back to the text de Rabbi Goldberg I hope the email finds you well I've been wanting to email you for years now but I never had the guts but I guess Hashem had me save my email for the best opportunity on Kaneka you read my brother's email and I knew right away it was him from the context in details I didn't tell anyone in the family I decided to keep it to myself I couldn't control myself and texted my brother right away that I'm so proud of him as amuna was inspiring he responded in the best way possible with the following text I knew the only possibility of somebody figuring out was you lol later that night I saw at a family Sim we gave each other a big hug I told him that was Amun email inspired me I was so proud of him I also told him I won't tell anyone else in the family he sent to Gober I'm keeping his privacy if my email ended here it would have been enough of a story and a cute wink from Hashem moment but the story gets even better you remember last week in yesterday's living with Amir you started reading an email about a woman who had recently started listening to the sheir I thought that's funny I just had a conversation with my sister the P shabas how she just started listening to living with amuna on her way to work as continued reading the email she described how Spotify happened to play her random living withun she realized Raab Gober was reading an email from her brother at this point I paused the she and thought to myself am I hearing things or is this now my sister I never told my sister about our brother's email but maybe she figured it out too go I rewinded this part of the she five times to make sure I wasn't hearing things I couldn't believe it here I am listening to the weeks living with them air hearing another one of my siblings emailing you I texted my sister right away again me being the little baby annoying sister that I am and I asked can I ask you a crazy question did you write Rabbi Goldberg an email my sister responded she was she sure did and she was waiting for me to text her since she knows I listen every week so here I sibling number three writing to Rabbi Goldberg by the way I try to get permission I read anonymously nobody should hesitate or worry who's going to figure out what they write I try to always leave out the details of where the place is and so on and so forth besides the fact that it's a funny and cutest story I was able to pinpoint my siblings I see the incredible Ash that took part in this I've been listening to Raab go for years and never thought twice about the identity of any of the amazing email writers yet twice within two months I heard two of my amazing siblings emails and was moved by both Spotify didn't happen to play her a random year that happened to be our brother everything is orchestrated from Hashem and today I can say I was truly able to feel that M we always be able to truly feel that everything in this world is orchestrated by hasem thank you and a goodes sincerely sibling number three if I had all the money in the world I would send them three t-shirts sibling number one sibling number two sibling number three Alana if you want to design the logo living with amuna sibling number one sibling number two and sibling number three we have a lot more quick I'm a big fan of the blah blah blah reason I'm running to is because I want to let others know anonymously about the power of giving my Ser I didn't put this author up to it the timing vs online.org Global or charity.com vrs help us me our campaign I did not put the writer of this email up to it my husband and I are in the mid-30s embarrassingly enough we've never been super careful about giving Myer sure we give staka but we've never been meticulous about giving 10% of every paycheck bonus gift it is something has bothered me for a while yet our expenses have been so crazy like every else's I want to tell you and I said this before I'll say it again every problem in the Jewish world that could be solved with money would be solved if Jews only tithed like non-jews in other religions they pass around the basket and they have a culture of really getting people to tithe 10% of your after tax income and if we did that we would solve every single problem now the answer is always oh they don't have to pay Jewish Day School well guess what state of Florida is now paying a part of your Jewish Day School there's more money to give TOA and sadly we don't see it flowing in instead there's more other things happening with that money and God bless everyone should enjoy it it's wonderful you're entitled to it but if we'd only tithe if we'd only tithe you know how many Jewish billionaires millionaires I find the people who make less money are more careful with tithing even though it hurts more than the people because it's a much bigger number it's hard to part with it but it's the same 10% if you view it as a percentage responsibility 10% of your after tax income is not yours as we spoke on chabas Hashem is the senior partner in all that we do he is responsible for 100% of the success and yet he says keep 90% could you imagine you had a partner who without his connections her connections their hard work their Ingenuity their creativity their entrepreneurship you'd never get off the ground you'd never make money they are 100% the business and yet they say to you ah you keep 90% enjoy it just 10% don't even give to me give to my kids that's what Hashem says 90% enjoy it's all yours 10% don't even give me give to my other kids take care of a community build community build Torah share inspiration that's what he says 10% it's a percent it's a percent and if you make $100,000 a year $100 million dollar a year it's a scarier number or you feel so much more philanthropic the person who makes a100 million do a year after tax and gives $10 million away a year feels like S I give 10% I give $10 million a year but guess what the person who makes a h 100,000 a year and still has to take care of their family and put food on their table and buy matah for $44 a pound and gives away $10,000 a year it hurts a lot more than the person giving the 10 million don't look at how big the number is look at the percentage if we'd only tithe we can solve every problem in the Jewish Community back to the email it is something that bothered me for a while nonetheless after having auna mindset that this money is literally not ours to keep and was given to us I needed to make a change I was done with the excuses about a year ago my husband received a significant raise I told him as a way to say thank you to Hashem we must start calculating our Meer on a monthly basis by keeping spreadsheets making a separate stock account which is the best way to do it if you have a separate account I don't just mean a Donor advised fund which is a wonderful way to do it but I just mean make a separate checking account and before you could ever think it's yours 10% of your after tax income put in that account and now all of a sudden you just became in charge of a foundation and it no longer feels like you're giving away your money and it hurts now you're just in charge of someone else's foundation and it's fun to give away the money that's what they do I told my husband he must be as meticulous with this as he is with his work rated Excel spreadsheets colorcoded and all one year later on our Meer anniversary we won a $10,000 raffle I told my husband the amount of 10 was no coincidence additionally my husband's job gave him a $110,000 bonus a few weeks after that his industry typically does not give bonuses Hashem has shown us that when we keep this MIT carefully and amuna he will take care of us he most certainly does not only is HEM shown us the monetary blessings there's no greater gift than to be a giver it just makes us want to continue to keep giving I hope this email can encourage others to take the plunge into Myer Masters the BR awaits this isn't just the author of this email making this promise she didn't just become a overnight This is's Promise say the one area of life that you can test hem don't test don't test them don't mess with them don't start with him don't test him except when it comes to St a giv because Hashem say whatever you give not only will I replenish not only will I repay I will provide multifold and here this woman writes we weren't careful all these years we made a determination to be careful 10% we won a $10,000 raffle and got an unexpected $10,000 bonus and Hashem fulfilled his promise you give and Hashem gives back whether it's bokeron synagogue and you want to help us spread light inspiration or whether it's somewhere else that's welld deserving because I'm not just making this just for myself certainly it's Israel it's soldiers it's hostage families it's all the mental health work that's going to need to be done there it's displaced families of course and the people who say to me Rabbi you're doing this here we need to send the money to Israel I say you're right if it were either or absolutely send to Israel but you and I both know you can give to both so give it up to us also so we absolutely wherever you're giving it but fulfills that promise oh I have so many more emails but let's get to the text and we'll save these for next week the hugs and Winks from hasem that he provides for us on a regular on a regular basis okay we're on page l l heart the heart of am the bottom right in column up in this is the meaning of the verse there are many thoughts in the heart of man and hashem's advice is so we already saw that the word he are is an acronym it's for how have you been doing on your homework I signed homework last week homework everything has to be with God willing please God with God's help everything beforehand I'll meet you for coffee God willing please God the campaign will go God willing and afterwards how was it thank God it went smoothly thank God carpo worked out thank God the flight went on time everything God willing and thank God he you know the other that I'm about to get in big whole world of trouble the other is when there's a newborn baby at home waking up every three hours there are a lot of thoughts in the heart of man who should wake up who should diaper who should feed that baby there's a lot of thoughts a lot of debate a lot of questions a lot of thoughts who should be the one to wake up you knowem says he she should wake up no okay anyway some reject that okay that's one shot but the other is man makes many plans I'm gonna drive to the airport and I won't get pulled over things will go on time there won't be any red lights or traffic I won't get stuck at any train we make a lot of plans but there is no fulfillment or success to our thoughts if we don't mix in God's presence everything that we do we're about to invest money we're about to start a new business we're about to suggest or accept the suggestion of a sh we're about to start a a uh extension on our home whatever project whatever plan we wake up in the morning and we have plans we have plans the plan can be who we're going out for lunch with the plan could be right I spoke last week about what's on tap today every day starting out in a healthy marriage with a couple caring enough to ask what's on once one stops caring about what the other one's doing that's a bad sign it's a red flag what's on tap today is a sign of a healthy marriage what's on tap again too much what's on tap today can destroy him but what's on tap today what's on tap what do you have what's on your plate what's on your schedule come on let me in your life and then afterwards that night how was the day how did that thing go how did that work out of course maintaining confidentiality appropriateness not being a nudge and not going overboard but a general interest and investment in each other's life so what's on to today what's on tap today so everyone has plans of what's on tap today I got to take the car for an oil change I'm going to the doctor I'm going to the kid has an issue with this I'm going to meet with the architect and the uh designer whatever is on tap that day I'm going to the gym I've got to buy food to make shabas it's Wednesday whatever's on tap everyone's got things like tap I'm going to consider a new big investment we're going to open the new business today we all have big thoughts big plans we all have things on tap but whatever's on top won't be successful every answer to what's on tap have to include IM God willing with God's help if it pleases God Le so that the sh sh the name of God should be on the edge of our lips always quoting always talking always referencing and in the most subtle nuanced way you could transform you could change a world Ze Sam talks in this conversation about what it means in a locker room before a game Z Tor after a game let take a moment D and thank Hashem the minion the the team has its own Minion very subtly and not so subtly when you involve God in every conversation there are people who weren't putting on fill and now putting on fill and on the team there are people taking on all kinds of things commitments together shame sh by talking about Hashem can you imagine the impact on cooworker colleagues friends neighbors family members children children's a big one a lot of people talk to me we started recently a support group in our sh in conjunction with an amazing Organization for people struggling having children who are not on their DK and not on their DK can mean so many things who are struggling in life in many ways identity religion orientation relationships and people talk to me often about this issue about navigating life and children and what to do when do you push a child they don't get up and they don't come to minion they don't put Onan they leave the house not dress the way that you would want or wish or the standard you've made so do you police and do you come down and do you punish how do you navigate that how do you navigate that I certainly don't have all the answers but the gray and the beard gives me a little bit of Life Experiences at this point one of the new podcast please God when we can finish this campaign that we want to start the Ritson the rabbi the rabbitson in real life would you like to hear that podcast the rabbi the rabbitson in real life and talk about some of the issues how to navigate with whatever wisdom we've learned from others and we're trying to practice ourselves so do you come down hard do you punish do you scream do you yell and the answer I I try to say is when it comes to our children you got to practice the long game you're in it for the long haul and long term and don't freeze the frame on any particular moment and lose your cool in a away which will set that child back instead Nuance if your child grows up in a home and it's never too late if your child has grown up and has their own home and only now if your child is a grandparent and has the children who have their own home it is never too late to start using the shame sh they may think like what kind of Kool-Aid what drugs are you on where are you going who who you know where what happened to you but in your next phone calls and conversations and family get togethers and Y of tables start talking about Hashem God willing with God's help oh thank God and very subtly in a nuanced way when you invoke and you mention and you drop hashem's name it changes other people around you to cast onto God that's the throw onto all your problems so that hm will help us from the head to the heart Ze sammon had the wherewith all the mindfulness in the middle of the game down 16 with 15 minutes down two with a few seconds left to say Hashem I don't know how you're gonna make it work out but I'm I'm throwing all my problems on you I'm casting it all on you throw all your issues on him if you can live with with the mindfulness and the Consciousness and the presence to whether it's putting the cook in the oven or whether it is putting the extension on the house or whether it is starting the new business or going to the doctor or whether it is whatever it is on you have to do that day whatever is on tap that day IM God willing God willing it should go well God willing it should go well everything is God willing and everything afterwards is thank God and so often so often we remember the first part God willing God willing God willing if you want to increase your doing if you want to improve your concentration for doing I have a fantastic suggestion for you ready announce that you're going to raise $6 million in two days and I promise you you will be focusing for the weeks and months before doing your heart out now again thank God that's all you have to doin for if that's the biggest challenge in your life you are blessed any challenge that money can solve is the greatest blessing in the world because there are so many too many challenges that money can't solve and those are the real heartfelt filos that we have so we are in a blessed position that this is the the Fila that we're concentrating on but if you want to improve your concentration publicly announc that you're going to raise $6 million in two days I promise you you will be more focused in daving so constantly please let this meeting go well let this solicitation go well let that person find in their heart to give please let people give on their own please let Ambassador setup teams please let it go viral and be set up please let people hear it's coming from our heart and want to give from this please please please please please please okay if when and failure is not an option so when we meet our Mark and we are successful so we remember to say thank you what are we gonna do to have a huge thank you to hasem party thank you whatever it is on the way to the doctor on the way to the laboratory to draw blood please please let it be a good outcome let it all go well please please let the test let the procedure let the therapy work please please please please please what about afterwards thank you thank you thank you thank you so imem God willing please God with God's help please please please that we're pretty good at but how about afterwards so you know Tako that went well the shot fell we won the game the money came in the lab report came back the I would say positive but positive news which is negative which I don't know whoever came up with that but the new the the lab report came out with what we wanted do we pause and stop and say not only the the beforeand but the afterwards enormous thank you has we need both more because as we've shared so many times what increases am you want to improve the amuna of the people around you not everyone in this room not everyone in this community not everyone in this world is aligned in amuna with their spouse with their children sometimes there's a misalignment where one is entirely into it and the other less so so again what do you do buy them books make them listen to podcast lecture them all day prti auna make them sit through a a Bible codes uh evidence-based class absolutely not I promise you that will all that will do is drive them further away drive them further away that is the number one thing that will drive them further away if you ever asked somebody close to you who you thought would do better off if they skipped the dessert and you suggested they skipped the dessert I promise you they'll have two pieces they're going to eat two pieces so the person who's not yet where you wish they were with you on this journey of living with amuna and seeing and living the benefits of It Don't lecture don't indoctrinate don't prosze put a little decal in the window of their car and talk about Hashem and before something say God willing yeah God willing we'll meet we'll go on vacation God willing this will work out God willing I'll take your dry cleaning in God willing you'll remember to put your socks in the hamper God willing just drop God's name every chance you can and show them because they'll see they'll be with you and you'll be pulled over by a police God for bid stuck behind the train sitting in traffic the flight delayed and they'll be losing their cool and you'll be sitting there saying I'm embracing my place we are where we're meant to be it's all good say who are you what happened to my wife where'd you go everything okay what are you on and you'll say no no no it's just this is the benefit of when you when you re realize that you surrender to Hashem that we make all our plans we do all we can it's up to him this is how I'm not telling you out of feel I'm just showing you that did you hear my blood test came back and I no longer have high blood pressure and I no longer have high cholesterol I no longer have high sugars because I've been living with amuna and using the ice bath and now I'm perfectly and now I'm perfectly healthy and they're gonna say you know what they're going to be like the other husbands we're up now up to two who've emailed me that lateer at night where their wife is asleep and they won't find out and they clear the cache and the cookies afterwards they're not sneaking to the other room to watch something they shouldn't watch they're sneaking to listen to living with thema but they won't give their wife the satisfaction of knowing two men have emailed me they're now hooked on living with amuna but they won't let their wives have the satisfaction of saying I told you so so they do it in the middle of the night without their wife knowing and deleting and erasing the history of what they were listening to on podcast but you know what who cares who cares whether they tell you or not so whether it's with our children or our spouse and it's the other direction too there are men on fire with amuna whose wives are not where they are don't indoctrinate Don't lecture absolutely not it will backfire and it will not work they'll have two pieces of cake I'm telling you instead live it sh talk about and drop hashem's name now I must come back to that reference this past shabas we had two extraordinary people speak in the afternoon in this conversation and if you didn't come shame on you and you'll excuse me for saying it but we have almost weekly at BRS hosting incredible historic Heroes of the Jewish people people who have experienced and sacrificed and are leading extraordinary things and the least we can do is show up and listen to them give them the honor and the love of supporting them and yes a shabas afternoon oh there's nothing better but give it up for what they've had to give up and come and listen the Sho was full don't get me wrong we had a beautiful crowd but it should have been overflowing with people who came to hear Sim grman and vered Sim grman in the first 12 hours of October 7th as a volunteer for zaka personally collected and transported 350 bodies not all full men women children some burnt and charred some stuck together I don't even want to describe what he saw what he live through and Sim will excuse me for saying you see it in his eyes his eyes are the saddest eyes I've ever se you you see it in you can't live through what he lived through as a volunteer who was dodging bullets while he was doing it you can't you can't and he described another one of the volunteers a big strong guy named manim who waited seven years to have a baby and had a baby and his wife a baby girl and he hasn't been able to hold this baby and he hasn't been able to come home at night and his wife doesn't know where he is and doesn't understand after seven years of waiting how he can't hold this baby and then and then vered who's the therapist a psychologist who's been working with released hostages and with the zaka volunteers talked about her her rehab um group therapy sessions with the zaka volunteer she's focused now on zaka to better understand to have them open up and to share this this they had that baby right before October 7th and when he went into neros Nal B I don't remember which one and he walked into the room and he found a child a baby it was the same crib he had just built for his new child so he was unable to hold his baby because all he saw was the remains of that baby and Simka who is a carpenter and an architect hasn't been able to open any plans because every time he opens plans all he sees is the layout of these homes in these in these border towns and all the bodies he found in the different rooms that's all he sees so they go went to this uh therapy session with vered who's amazing has her own credible stories are own right but I just the reason I'm bringing this up is because I just want to share that s voluntarily without probing or prodding and having absolutely no idea because he's never listen to One sh I've ever given said I want to tell you I want to tell you what gave me the Breakthrough what enabled me to heal and to be able to open plans again and and he said the answer is when we got together this thing called an ice plunge was that amazing and he described how it's freezing cold and you can't breathe but you breathe through it and the whole experience is that while you're breathing through it you say I'll never survive this and I can't stay here in this condition and I can't feel this feeling I need to get out if you learn to breathe you can breathe through anything and after 20 30 seconds then you're able to sit he did 5 to seven minutes that's impressive you're able to sit and he learned through that and that's why it's a great thing in life not that I make any money although Alana we have to brand ice bats living with him a logo get a little uh a little uh side hustle a living with amuna ice Beth but when you sit inside it and you say I can't be here but you breathe through with every breath I Praise You Hashem I can endure I can live I can sustain when we have a sense of he he so whatever is on tap today whatever is on your schedule or calendar whatever you have to get done may be overwhelming and it may seem simple and straightforward the laundry start to cook for chabas which is also not so simple and straightforward ever for anyone whatever we have to do can feel overwhelming for us in our place start out that's his advice and then you will find because he'll be present he's doing the laundry with you he's going into the big meeting solicitation with you he's heading to the doctor's office and will sit and wait in the waiting room with you he's in the ice bath with you there's room for him everywhere Hashem is with us when we invite when we welcome him in and then Sak it gives us it gives us the Courage the conviction the energy the faith to take on to persevere to succeed and and whatever we have on top that day let's just begin the next paragraph This is the solution the formula the recipe for life this is the prescription that we need to endure overcome whatever is coming our way it's not only true in physical gash till now we're talking about the physical world how will the coule turn out how will the carpool turn out how will the meeting turn out how will the whatever project turn out thank you hem God willing but now turns to the world of and he says what about my soul what about my spirit remember we've talked about a lot when you get together for that coffee don't TR say how are things how you doing what's new what's going on a good friend asks how's your Nish how's your Nish how's your Nish what are you doing to nourish your Nish what are you doing to nurture your Nish how are you taking care of your n what are you doing for Nish and and re ask me how my Nish is because that's gonna you know what and be honest and talk about what we need to do sometimes the people feel broken sometimes the N is through the roof I'm on fire I'm feeling it connected high speed in other times feeling a little broken I'm feeling a little disconnected I'm struggling to hold on I'm wondering where is God thank you for asking I'd love to talk about that what works for you what could work for me you're even just asking that question is making me think about that what do I need to do to take stock to measure to protect to nourish to take care but here to Hashem will help in our heart with and when a person does what's necessary for them to grow spiritually you go to the class you D from your heart you use the right words God willing will Merit the blessing of we've talked about this before to it sounds paradoxical it makes no sense but when you're struggling with amuna if you're struggling with doubt in God D to God to have more faith in God that sounds bizarre and paradoxical and makes no sense unless you understand it makes perfect sense DAV to God that he give more clarity that he reveal himself more transparently that he give more winks and hugs and nods that he makes his presence more felt that he gives us that those those moments those breakthrough to see to feel to recognize he's there that's also a form of has I want to dive into you right now to tell you I don't know where you are I'm not even sure I believe you exist and I'm frustrated and disappointed and I'm protesting some of the decisions you've made for me and my family and now get me out because I need you to hold me in your arms and I need to collapse and I need you to make me feel better that this is going to be okay and I don't I don't feel it and I don't know where you are and I don't know why you're doing this but I want to because I know I can't do it without you so it's an unusual form of a but it's a to hasem in a place of doubt and uncertainty to feel close and connected it's a feeling from being low to climb high we find this with begins his career missing the letter hey he's not because he had all kinds of plans and goals and mission in life but he wasn't successful he wasn't having that breakthrough he wasn't living that best life to fulfill according to what he was meant to be accomplishing and doing however added the letter to his name you could spell if you have to spell out the letter hey the word the name hey hey could be written he Al or he could be written he or it could be written he he hey he Al or he or he and all three however you spell it spell hey the letter so the letter that was added to ab's name what was added to ab's life a little God awareness a little God speak a little a little God willing thank God please God when AR says I'm not I'm I'm there's resistance I'm hitting a wall I'm not breaking through I'm not having my best days I'm not living my best life Hashem says let me help you I'm giving you the letter hey because the letter hey hey hey of hey hey these are the letters of IM you know what's holding you back invite me invite me to be next to you wherever you're going whatever you're doing whatever is on tap today invite me you know you make a date with somebody they say you know send me a calendar invite Hashem says send me a calendar invite invite me whatever you have on tap today I want to come with you and you will see an altogether different outcome you will find success not necessarily in the particular Endeavor I'm very careful to always clar it's not that if you say while you invest in that you're guaranteed to get a return I wish life were that simple if you say while you go by that lottery ticket you guaranteed to win the Mega Millions I can tell you I tried it doesn't work it doesn't necessarily work and with all respect to zebie samon just because you say you're near T after the timeout doesn't necessarily mean you're GNA hit the fadeaway three and win the game that's not the way life works if it was we'd all have everything we want and it'd be a perfect pleasurable world that's not the way life works but I'll tell you the way life does work if you say however it goes and whatever the outcome you will feel better about it you'll be able to get through it you'll know what's next you'll learn to fail forward you'll learn to persevere nonetheless nevertheless like AB had the hay and it changed it he broke out he became a ainu he transformed a world when we live with a little more hay hey hey hey hey we live with a little more imem we will be successful if if the way people will know if you go to the living with or listen to it is you start talking about Hashem in your life that's how we'll know basically you got to do your homework do your homework I got enough kids who don't do their homework I don't need more do your homework do your homework I can't babysit you do your homework although we'll meet again next Wednesday but do your homework before everything before everything many of are going to walk out together first day and say all of let's complete all of Saum till all the hostages are home and the soldiers are safe we're still doing from the bottom of our hearts stay stay because talia's in the back and she's gonna barricade the door and not let you leave if you've not contributed to the global campaign and to helping spread Torah but at some point when you break through and get past Talia many of you going to walk out together and you're G to say what do you have on tap today what's next where are you going the success the determination whether you were really listening but not just listening whether we're really practicing is IM oh next I'm going shopping God willing next I have to get to work please God next I have to meet the soand so if God Wills let's use it in our vernacular in our language let's be distinguished and identified let's be known that I go to I listen I watch I'm part of the living with amuna community and anyone who meets me knows it and now they are also that's what the men who are listening in the middle of the night nobody knows it's going to slip because they're going to say gonna say gotcha I caught you I know it now so let's do our homework and like a ainu by adding the hay to our lives let's heak let's be able to see the success celebrate the success and please God only have bosos yesos BRS online.org Global or Char with a d.com BRS put it on your's page or Tal's page help them meet their goals until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay