Living With Emunah (Part 337) - Do it with a Smile

good morning boero welcome back to living with amuna a difficult difficult day for clly Israel for Israel funerals in Israel today that we all feel around the world Wherever We Are We join with the bibas family with our brothers and sisters leaning into that amuna because there's no other way on the difficult and painful days like this I want to thank our generous amuna series sponsors for the year Dr zavi and Bella Morgan so grateful to the Morgans who sponsored a memory ofab Dr Brian galber in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer a big thank you to the Morgans also this morning it's sponsored anonymously in gratitude to BRS for all the Torah and also sponsored by F and Jeff walowitz and EDD Blum Bloom for Speed of yarda liba should hear B's good news and yarda liba please God should have a complete Speedy painless recovery and be a source of tremendous Nas to her whole whole family we are running every year we do a global campaign for those who watch and listen and read and follow and connect and feel connected if only everyone who sent me an amuna email would participate in the campaign we'd be done so maybe we should make that a little a little tag on the bottom of the amuna emails this year we're doing something a little bit different which is not only asking people to participate but to participate more and deeper than they ordinarily do next year we'll go back to the regular amount we're not raising the bar going forward just for this year we are building our campus we're doubling our campus and we're building it so that we can build Isel build build build Torah build build Outreach build Jews and we're running a campaign next week in order to finish up this project and we really need everyone's help so we're looking for 250 Global ambassadors 250 people around the world who watch read listen follow and enjoy and benefit and are enriched and connect with our Torah Community who are willing to give or get $1,800 could give the $1,800 make it easy or we'll make you a page and give you a link and you could send it for everyone who tells me my friends my family my cousin my niece my I was at an u a couple weeks ago someone from our community and he had a friend who spoke Friday night who was hilarious he was fantastic his timing his delivery he was great you know these ofs have turned into roasts whether that's good or bad or right or wrong is not the point right now he was great so he decided he was going to go after me he says we have Rabbi Gober here tonight I said no I've been the subject of roast at a lot ofs it's not my kid I'm not related I did nothing I don't know why I'm on the hot seat and he says if I have to hear any more from my mother my grandmother my sisters about this living with Amun here he said every sh date I go on I hear Rabbi gober's amuna Shear I'm only dating girls with no amuna going forward it was a great line so you could give the 1800 you could set up a page and get all the girls you went out with to give to your page and get to the $1,800 and the rabbis BRS are going to New York will be in Israel and here in Florida we're having three dinners to show appreciation and gratitude for free to invite you to anyone who helps to give or get the 1800 plus giveaways of our Torah little booklets exclusively for those who do you don't have to give only 1,800 you could give a dollar anywhere from a dollar to 1,800 or 1,800 to 18 million we won't cut you off we won't say no but we're looking for 250 Global ambassadors who will help us we'll be done we could just turn back to our Torah you could find it easily at BRS online.org Global BRS online.org Global so last Wednesday we didn't have Shear last Wednesday last week we did sheare on Monday instead of Wednesday because bar we had the grandson we had the bris of our grandson last Wednesday morning and thank you thank you thank you we should all have many many Simas many Healthy Babies should be born and we should all have Nas only anyway at the bris there was not only a place to get your bagel but there was a machine when you cut the bagel in half you put it in and then it goes on the little it's a toaster a little conveyor belt toaster and it comes out so I put my bagel on top but there were like Bagels that had come out they were toasted and nobody took them so I thought maybe what you do is you take one that came out and you put your one on top you pay it forward I thought and that's what happens so I took the newly toasted bagel and whoever would come next could take mine and as I grabbed the newly toasted Bagel one of my daughters said hey ABA walked up at that moment that's my bagel and it was on my plate she said why is my bagel on your plate and I said to my daughter your bagel is exactly where it's meant to be so I'm now paying it forward I was told last week about my car not in the driveway that your car is where it's meant to be now I paid it forward to my daughter your bagel is where it's meant to be which is on my plate so anyway this is our new uh embrace your place everything is where it's meant to be if I have to say we we barem I don't even know if we've orig ated any of them but we have shared the expressions and phrases from the Torah and that hm is always with us wherever we are we've shared countless expressions of Torah and let go and let God and embrace your place and but of all the Expressions most emails and and contact I have with people who say embrace your place so I'm thinking about writing a book called embrace your place embrace your place because I think that's the one that has the biggest impact de Goldberg I'm a new listener from New York and I've become a big fan of the amuna this week with all the devastating news occurring in Israel I've been making a conscious effort to have amuna and Trust on hashem's plan for claw Israel yet the sadness and pain have been overwhelming and painful the tears just don't stop as I woke up from a night of tum and crying myself to sleep I asked hm to help give me strength I needed an amuna hug from this nightmare it feels like October 8th all over again my Spotify tends to play your amuna episodes out of order but because I listen while driving to work I can't always go back to the actual episode I was up to today my SP Spotify decided to play an episode from Kaneka someone who needs amuna in Spotify my greatest sh played her an episode back from kanaka and you happen to read an amuna email from my very own brother I'm 110% sure it's him based on the details I couldn't believe my ears I didn't even know he listens to the shear he probably does it at night while his wife's asleep and nobody knows sneaks it in like the men tend to do I've gotten several emails like that anyway not only did my brothers email give me that I needed I felt it was also a sign from Hashem CL our all family literally and figuratively and with our Brotherhood and we will be okay even though we're hurting so badly right now we're all connected when we feel each other's pain we're United Hashem gives us a hug and reminds us he has the ultimate plan the perfect plan we're all Brothers thank you for the podcast shabbat shalom only toote so again an amazing just when she felt she needed it and which Random episode the one from Kaneka right before perm and what was it she heard an email I read I never say who wrote it and she realized it was her brother and then realized we're all brothers and what a beautiful Insight Rabbi and this person actually wanted me to read this email and probably I have permission to use the name but I still won't I'm a firm woman who reluctantly followed my husband's job to South Carolina I struggled here a decade to maintain from children it is a miracle they keep shabas and mitzvos one especially is a giant and queens I would cry and not understand why I was stuck in the this place as you often remark a year is never lost late 2023 I took upon myself three specific projects I volunteer and she list the things that she volunteers for one case in particular the child surgery needed to be paid upfront so the parent surprised I looked up and said quietly Hashem please reward my family with a shff for my oldest daughter I charged my credit card a fortune and was repaid within 48 hours right so this person one of the things she does is she's a physician and she often Volunteers in that capacity and someone needed a surgery didn't know how they'd pay for it she took out her credit card and paid for the surgery and said to Hashem in that Merit let my older my oldest daughter find a sh find her husband and was repaid in 48 hours shortly thereafter a handsome young Texan appeared at our scho and I immediately adopted him a complete mench who had been in October eth Jew Rabbi he came from such a distant spiritual place I saw genuine Nisha and I set right to work to be of him the deadline I had was PES when my daughter would be returning from Seminary I gave him Hebrew lessons planted many seeds I introduced him to your podcast and he's a regular listener now soon after he independently decided to work keep on situs I created a shabas room for him at the Sho he started keeping chabas KAS followed along with daily minion attendance he DAV with Incredible kavana and runs to sh withus he has four kusas and loves learning Torah the time had come my daughter returned from Israel to find the phenomenal Young from Man The Wedding is Sunday March 2 they'll be living in Virginia while he's assigned to the USS New Mexico nuclear submarine in charge of the nuclear reactor he is the only from Submariner in the US Navy and here is the young here is the young couple so this is a woman who knows what she wants and goes and gets it I'll give her 10% of whatever she brings in for the campaign you're hired in South Carolina text everyone you know and you don't know and keep 10% of whatever you bring in to do your mitzvos and it's a it's a deal I have so many emails I want to get to our text we'll read just a couple more dear by Goldberg this is the second share I heard from you about the importance of today I want to share with you an incredible story of how this impacted me in a huge way I listened to your Shar in the car on the way to work I have a 15-minute drive so I listen on Parts about a few weeks ago was a Monday morning and I just finished the shear ending with the lesson that we only have to get through today we've been speaking about that Hy today amuna is not projecting tomorrow next week next year what will be how will be will it work out what's gonna amuna is today do I have what I need today get to the end of today get to the end of today so that Monday was the beginning of a life-changing situation I had chest pain on and off but mostly off and I just assumed it was indigestion I was taken to the doctor that day and an EKG came out fine so I figured I was okay after I got home from work I felt the pain again I went to the Urgent Care who said I need to go to the ER in the ER the doctor said they had to keep me there because there was a number in my blood that was elevated next time they checked my blood for a heart condition it went through the roof I had to take I had to have a test done to find out what the problem was and there were three blockages although I partially put out for the procedure I heard the doctor say I need a triple bypass surgery I heard him consult with other heart doctors who agreed I was in total shock when I heard the news surgery was set for the next morning having heard your Shear just before the incident gave me the Just when I needed it on the morning before the surgery I kept telling myself and others that I just need to get through today it's 4 to six week recovery I've had a constant pain in my chest every day since as I recover I'm supposed to walk and do exercise for endurance the pain is so great it's hard to push myself the main point I want to share with you is that I don't need to perseverate a word I learned from you about how strong I will feel tomorrow or when I can drive or get back to work she is a great reminder I only need to get through today thank you for the lesson I love theun especially in the days I'm down because it always lifts me up thank you for the uplifting sh so whether it's a triple bypass or whether it's reconcil with family member or whatever it is in life we just have to get through today we just have to get through today okay I have many more emails but it's going to be hard to get through them I did get two yesterday and this blew me away I'm so moved and grateful and proud but two people shared with me yesterday who had taken me through their journey of some of the challenges that they had with having children two babies were born in the last week that were named amuna because of the shear oh my as it got them through and that's unbelievable unbelievable that's better than $1,800 I mean also give the $1,800 but it's but it's a lot better than $1800 it's incredible I want to share one last thing before we dive into our text together before we continue to learn about and live and practice and execute not just the MS that there is a Hashem who controls the world but the amuna to put it in our lives at the 8 o' minion there was a man doing and on his tals bag and his filling bag was a bumper sticker it's a picture of a and it says if you're doing something if you're doing it already do it with a smile and it says 2001 to 2024 it was on the man's tallest bag and the gab of the minion who happens to be my brother-in-law notice that the same man who had the son his toss bag with saying KES so he went up to him to say you have this bumper sticker do you know he said yes that's my son so I brought me in there and I just gave him the biggest hug I hope he's okay with it and won't get a restraining order against me because I didn't let go because I wanted him to just feel the energy from our hearts and our community and all of CLA Isel and it's so powerful and so I asked you have more of these and he reached into his Talis bag so happy and so grateful to give them out in Israel for all these Fallen Soldiers this is what's been happening and there are walls in many places where stickers are put up and one of the things that the family of Fallen Soldiers gives them strength and comfort is to know that their child is not forgotten that their sacrifice and the price that they paid for our protection and our future and our people was not in not so I have a pile of them here please take them post them keep them look at them if you're G to do it do it with a smile and that was clearly look at this because Hashem only took as a great Jewish poet said only the good D young the most handsome and sweetest and the biggest smiles and the kindest and the the ones that the most amazing stories are being told about so please take and please think about and please when you don't feel like smiling on his way into Gaza and didn't come home and if you're gonna do it already do it with a smile so if you have to take out the garbage do with a smile if you have to cook for shabas do with a if you're driving carpo do it with a smile if you have to go to work if you're doing a do it with a smile and he gave me also and I have a pile of these to give out that words written by Captain before entering Gaza what I'm fighting for this is what he wrote take it stick it into something that you'll look at and you'll read and you'll think about for my country the place where my entire past is found the essence for which I live for my land the views the neg galon every piece of Earth in this beautiful land of mine the most beautiful place in the world for my nation my brothers and sisters those who live in Israel the entire family of mine that lives in every place I'll never be in this world that's why he went to fight that's what he wrote on the way into Gaza for my brothers and sisters in Israel and my entire family that live in every place I'll never be in the world those who be in times of distress will always be there by my side for my friends the people who I love who bring me joy and push me forward the compass of my values in my sight for my unit my little brothers the people who I love most in the World those who I'd be willing to take a bullet for and more than that I'm willing to live for on their behalf we're all together until the end going out and coming back all together for my family my mother and father grandmother and grandfather brothers and sisters the vision of my childhood the people who raised me and grew up with me they are everything for me and for my grandfather my grandfather B Aliah as a true Zionist he built us home in a small mashav with a huge dream to build the land he raised a beautiful family with values for love of each other and For the Love of the land my grandfather fought to be able to live here and my job is to fight that we will remain in this land forever what are you fighting for this is what he wrote on his way into Gaza 2021 sorry 2001 to 2024 so please take one of these and one of these and think and remember if you're going to do it do it with a smile do it with do it for our family do it for our people do it for our future this is really what it's what it's all about and and this is the story right now of our people a random man sitting in a back row of AO happens to be saying kades and if this weren't sitting on his TS bag no one would know what a giant what a hero what an angel his son is how he's sitting next to the and how many hundreds of these families are anonymously just blending into the back row of shs or other places in Israel and around the world and our heart and our love and our comfort and our commitment go out to them and they're giving us strength if you're doing it with a smile so there's so many reasons you don't want to smile so many frustrating things we talk about them all the time the traffic the delayed flight the Wii is out again the cougle had burned the husband he left his socks on the floor the things that didn't happen or do happen the challenge of trying to raise money for a campus and all you're trying to do is be and make a and transform the world some disappointing meetings and difficult me just do it all if you're gonna do it do it with a smile do it with a smile if that could be his motto tweo if that was his model certainly it can be ours we're on Page in page 31 and we're on the left hand column the bottom side and I posted this if you're in the WhatsApp group I posted the text last week so you could follow it there I didn't repost it it's the same we're up to the same page and the chapter is called that when you live with faith and you live with trust when you live with Hashem in your life it brings great blessing it is the key that opens the door Hashem has such blessing waiting for all of us we won the lottery and there are winnings but to transfer it into our account you have to collect you have to turn in the ticket how do we transfer the blessing that Hashem designated for us how do we make that blessing descend how do we bring it down how do we cash it in the key that turns the lock is called it's a relationship it's trust in Hashem just as it is in every other relationship a lot of parents have presents in their closet for their children whether it's khaka or for some other reason but you don't get the present until you earn it until there's a relationship until there's a closeness till there's a connection until you come so it's there it's bought it's sitting it's waiting it's ready but you don't get it says I have so much I have so much blessing waiting for you designated for you but you got to come collected and how do we come collected what's the key to get it is is on us when when we trust in him when is it when do we get the and over and over again that's what we need to do in order to tap in in order to get these blessings and that's why we saw from the I hope everyone did their homework I sent you home last week with homework it's been more than a week because last week the she was on Monday so I sent you home with homework and what was the homework who said he is heem if wills it that everything we say oh you for coffee 10 a.m. God willing let's do p together God willing I'm going to Israel next week God willing everything we say God willing IM God willing because then we're oh have doctor's appointment this go surgery schedule God willing it'll be successful you're living your entire day and integrating prayer and faith into your day suddenly with Nuance you're not indoctrinating you're not lecturing you're not preaching we're simply living our day to to others and more importantly to ourselves when we incorporate imem God willing for the things we're looking forward to I'm going on vacation God willing to the things we're sad about or we're worried about I get back the lab results God willing in the next day or two everything we say or go with the oldfashioned English God willing if God Wills God willing God willing and then what's God's advice he you have to say then if we turn our faith into hem so that was if we incorporate which the yish is but it's really three words say it however you want God willing bar say it however you want and then s then please God God will stand up rise up he'll be there he'll be there for us which brings us up to the new section bottom left hand column now you can't sit back and say I'm Gonna Be Rich tomorrow in really how do you have a job do you go to work no I go to the Amun here and then I go home and sit on my couch and I wait for Ed McMain to knock on my door is he still alive probably not 'd be like a thousand I wait for him to knock on my door and say you don't know what I'm talking about I'm the lucky winner of the raffle of the lottery I go to the Amun and all I have to do is sit on my couch and say is dinner ready you know the laundry done you gotta do the laundry you gotta make dinner you gotta work you gotta go bring up paycheck you gotta exercise you got to take care of yourself you have to do a the the he of s doesn't work if you don't do your part we do our half and he does his because according to the Natural order the way of the world is the natural order because Hashem says you need an account I have all this blessing waiting for you how do I transfer it you got to turn in the ticket you got to show me that you have the winning ticket what's the winning ticket living with he says great you have the winning ticket where do I send the money if you don't have an account that's open there's nowhere to send the money how do we open an account what's the clay what's the vessel that can house that can hold that can receive the blessing hasm has for us we make the Bless The Vessel through hisas when we make an effort we create the vessel everything's from him but hem doesn't perform open revealed Miracles I mean he did last week when he made five buses blow up and not injure anyone and we should say thank you for that revealed miracle and he did several months ago when he made beepers blow up and break the back and heart of Hezbollah and he has throughout the year and a half done open and revealed Miracles but generally speaking they're all explainable through nature because Hashem doesn't doesn't intervene or suspend or end nature in that way Hashem always operates within nature and the natural order is if you want to get better you got to go to a doctor you got to take care of yourself and the natural order is if you want to have money in your bank account you got to go to work you got to have a job it has been said the biggest schoa for parasa is having a job it's having a job the biggest schoa it's the biggest schoa tried and true proven the biggest school for barasa is get a job that's the way of the world so when we do our effort we create the vessel that receives the blessing now this is very important does the blessing always or even often correspond with the effort I can tell you personally no and you might mistakenly therefore conclude what's the point of the effort if I received the blessing and it didn't correlate or connect with the with the effort because the answer is the effort creates The Vessel and now the blessing can come what am I mean what am I talking about I'll tell you right now in this campaign by the way did I mention we're building the campus and you can join and Bs online.org glob everyone who sze and moans and groans just write me the check and we're done and we don't ever have to bring it up again and until then this is my his this is the unfortunate miserable I mean with a smile effort that I have to make on a regular basis you have meetings and people you anticipate or plan or hope or believe might have the capacity and the will to give you X and very generous and there's no judgment and we love anyone no matter what they do but they don't and all of a sudden someone else who you didn't think would participate at all says hey I see what's going on I'd like to meet with you about it about what I can give one second second where I met with you and then it came in from here a brother a relative of mine who's a lawyer in Israel has told me for years that sometimes when he wants to drum up more business expand business Make It Rain he knows he has to network he has to send on emails make phone calls come on a networking trip to America and invariably inevitably every single time when he gets back and business comes in it almost always has nothing to do with the meetings and the effort and the emails that he had so why do it next time why not just sit back and say to Hashem really have you seen the price of Al tickets these days do I have to go in if Hashem you're going to give me the BR anyway let me just say another par ofum let me just ask you for more help why do I have to network why do I have to have the meetings for the campus in business the answer is says why because Hashem has he's Gonna Make It Rain he's got lots of clouds of parnasa there's all kinds of precipitation and clouds of parnasa precipitation of parnasa it's the name of another book or a Jewish band or something like that precipitations of parnasa he's got it up there but what's going to make the sky open up so it rains into your bank account you need a CL you need a bank account and how do you open up a yisha bank account our vessel our to receive that blessing is the effort that we make the says will bless you with everything you do you have to do and then bless you first we have to do he'll bring the blessing he'll make it happen when we first show the effort but we have to start we have to start we have to have the bank account through the the work of our hand through our effort through our initiative through our action so when we go through the effort don't do it miserably first of all as AO taught us do it if you're gonna do it already you're gonna go to work already you've got to make the clay Kel already do it with a do it with a smile do with a smile do with a positivity do it with a joy do it the skip in your step what's the alternative if you walk away around miserably and frustrated someone just said to me earlier this morning they know like uh not just mine many of us have very busy schedules we're out every night and other things that we have to go to and it's just Relentless and endless and you got to stay positive so he said you know you seem happy to always be going out and being there are you and the answer is no even when I don't display it I don't want to pretend that it's not sometimes challenging and overwhelming will tell you some days and times I need a moment and regroup and gather and process and experience and disconnect but what I try to do the way I try to live I'm not always perfect at it is once you're there do it with a smile once the work has to be done if you're gonna be there be there and if you're gonna be there be there with a smile and if you have to do it to make that clay keybo because it can't happen on if you have dreams and you have Vision you have plans if you want to build if you want to get things done if you want to help people and you love people and that's in any profession career calling it's in your personal life with family and friends and neighbors if you're going to do it if you signed up for the meal train and you're making the meal do it with a smile drop it off with a oh I tonight that night I signed up that stupid meal train why do they have two weeks and didn't they already just have and didn't they come back from there and what then don't sign up if you're gonna sign up do with a smile do with joy do with positivity do with love do with energy because that's the energy that we're putting out into the universe and into the world and that's the clayo for the BR the initiative we make if you have to go to work already go to work with a smile and don't see work as this unfortunate unfortunate necessary evil of life I have to go to work I get to go to work I get to provide for my family I get to mold and shape and impact hashem's world I get to wear his brand and represent him and I have a great platform to make a KES hasem I I love work if you work if you love what you do you never work a day in your life but even if you don't love what you do you should love work because it's a platform to make a difference to make a change to see it as an opportunity to see it as an opportunity if you have a smile with everything that you do and you create that clayo that vessel then Hashem will fill that vessel with light with love and with energy and with blessing and that's what it means says our actions don't bring about the results what they bring about what they open up is an account what they create is a vessel so that means is says the kav that I have every meeting I go into is hm I don't know where You're Gonna Make It Rain where my business my client where my income is going to come from I know I have to do this effort take this initiative but I I'm not confused at all I have Clarity that it's not going to come from this meeting it comes from you it's just that having this meeting is what's necessary for you to open up the parasa precipitation and make it rain I know that so think about the level of mindfulness and cavana you can have when you're walking into a meeting so now every meeting is actually a religious experience instead of a mundane meeting a client a customer meeting with your staff meeting with your team instead of another meeting I can't tell you how many podcast I love productivity books and and podcasts so many of them are dedicated to how to minimize and eliminate meetings in your life meetings are enormous consumers of time Elon Musk for example is a famous uh practice in any of his companies he seems to have been pretty successful at building them if you're at a meeting and you feel you're neither contributing or gaining you're not only allowed to he wants you to get up and walk out in the middle that's a slippery SL and a dangerous thing to tell the people to measure on their own but if you're at a meeting for whatever reason you're invited to you're at that meeting and if you evaluate you assess in the middle of that meeting I'm neither contributing nor gaining from being in this meeting and there's other things I could be doing get up and walk out that's his philosophy I'm not saying Institute it that's his philosophy so much about getting rid of eliminating meetings but there are meetings you have to have and if you walk into a meeting in work in life the meetings you have to have parent teacher conferences are meetings no one likes one of the only good things that came out of Corona and should have for all schools but didn't were Zoom parent teacher conferences I hereby call on all schools to immediately if I had an executive order I would issue an executive order move parent teacher conferences only to zoom but anyway okay now back to your regular schedule program so whether it's a parent teacher conference or it's a meeting with your team at work or it's a potential client or customer where you're trying to help bring reconciliation in a conflict or you're trying to build a campus any of those can be transformed into a religious experience if at the threshold of that meeting before you walk into that room you say first of all Hashem I know you're in the room I know you're in this meeting let it be successful second of all let me find the right words I mentioned at the she earlier this morning on the ran i d to hem that in that moment Le give me the right words to say hm give me the right words but not only Hashem let it be successful in a positive outcome Hashem give me the right words to say but Hashem I know I'm going through the motions of this meeting and I'm going to give it my all and while it looks like here in this world that's a matrix that we're having a meeting and that will determine the result I know it all comes from you and this is just what I have to do now you've transformed that meeting into a moment that is a religious experience is a religious exercise you walk in you say im will be successful let's start our meeting God willing God willing will will be successful it transforms there is no mundane moment in life every moment macro and micro moments of amuna every time you say im is a micro moment of amuna what time are you picking me up o'clock boom micro moment of Amun everything everything is a micro moment of Amun put the cogle in the oven hem let it come out well micro moment of let the potato cookle have the right amount of saltem micro moment of amuna our day is filled with amuna macro and micro Moments by the bedside in the hospital of someone recovering from illness or giving birth those are macro moments waiting for lab results those are macro moments desperately wanting the hostages home and peace in Israel those are macro moments but walking into a meeting pulling out for carpool putting a coule in an oven meeting a friend at start those are micro put all your trust inem not in the meeting not in the people that's a performance that's the Matrix that's an illusion that's the initiative we have to show to create the vessel to receive the blessing but we really know she this is all really just what we have to do it is the precondition it is the prerequisite in order to receive the and if we profit and are successful by on our efforts in the same way the said before everything we do say God willing after the outcome particularly when it's successful say thank God thank god oh I heard the meeting went well thank God again it's sad and it's unfortunate that in many cases we've Incorporated this into our vocabulary but in a way that's meaningless we say all the time thank God but do we mean thank God do we we mean thank God how'd the meeting go it went well thank God but do we mean thank God did you come home did you make the flight did you make the connection yeah it all went smoothly thank God but did you mean thank God how was the cougle delicious whether it was or was it always is thank God it always is always particularly potato cooko recipe we're not putting it in the amuna WhatsApp group maybe we'll throw it in for the $1,800 Global ambassadors you get your Goldberg's potato cogo recipe and I have to tell you we have people who visit from Around the World Scholars speakers dignitaries one thing they always say when they try that cougle oh thank God thank God there are people who became religious because of that potato cogo we have people who converted to Judaism because of that kouo so 1,00 bucks you get the recipe maybe even a little cogle in the mail no C demo oh you'll be invited to a live cooking demo from coule you have to know when to add the oil how to heat the oil I'm not giving it away right now mushy solid how to do it I'm not giving it away I'm just telling you hands down by far the best so when someone says how was the cougle it was delicious thank God before everything we do imem God willing after every outcome how'd you sleep last night thank God I finally got a good night's sleep thank God thank God or I slept like a baby up every three hours thank God thank God thank God there are people who don't wake up ever at all so thank God it's all thank God it's all thank God just imagine what your life looks like imagine your smile your positivity imagine your relationships if before everything you bring him down and after everything you bring him down you connect each of these micro macro moments of Faith trust perspective perspective if you're going to do it do it with a smile and live for today for today thank God and God willing you know how was today today you know one of the things that that Char Samberg taught all of us to do in her Incredible Book option b is when someone's going through a hard time don't say how are you make them feel like a neb make it be awkward how are you someone who's experiened a terrible how oh I just made this m you lost your son as a soldier how are you someone's in a hospital someone's fighting and recovering from illness someone had triple bypass surgery someone's waiting to get married someone's waiting to have a child how oh neb how are you one of the things she taught us in her wonderful book is to say how are you today how are you today it reframes and it changes the entire question oh today today's a particularly hard day or today today thank God today's so far relatively today so one of the things that again today not tomorrow next week next year next decade not next life today how are we how do we get through what do we need to do today it's the right question to ask is not how are you but how are you today but however today is it's thank God God willing and thank God and how different every day looks if before everything we have to do that day imagine you look at your calendar every morning you wake up what's on tap today one of the questions my wife asks me each day we have a conversation what's on tap today it's a great question let me into your life me into your life what do you have coming up today meeting shum are you leaving town you forgot to tell me when are you coming back what's on tap today what's on tap today it's a great question and if you go through what's on tap today and with each thing you say this God willing and that please God and this if God allows with God's help you you just had an amuna Shear together you just had a religious experience together you just had a religious kumbayah it's all God willing at the end of the day how was your day all the things you had on to now came out of the tap how'd they go oh this thank God and that thank God and this was a big failure thank God it's all thank God good and bad and success and failure because it's all from him and even the failure is not a failure and maybe we'll end with this it's a new perspective on failure because if you don't see failure as failure what you see failure is creating the clay keable to get the blessing from somewhere else then it's never a failure I don't remember which great coach or sports Personality you said we never lose we we learn there's no such thing as losing a game it's not a loss it was a learning opportunity you have to look through life any meaning you walk out out of any solicitation any future client anything that feels like a loss was not a loss it was a learning opportunity but it was more than just a learning opportunity it created the clickable it was the initiative it was the effort it was what we had to do to be able to bring the blessing from everywhere so you know I can't sit back I have tell you I've tried I keep trying and he keeps saying no I don't want to do this effort I like learning Torah teaching Torah spending time with people I hate the some people go into fundraising God bless them I didn't I don't want to it's not what I want to be doing not what I want to be doing so what do I try to do every now and then to skip it I stop at the gas station and I buy a lottery ticket Mega Millions pixel lotteries I don't know why like when the sign says 100 million that's never good enough for me it's only when it's like 500 million up buy a ticket I don't want the money I want to do amazing things I have a lot of dreams I have a lot of plans I have a lot of big things I want to get done and it needs the money so I say Hashem like let's just skip right to it right but that's the problem says Hashem doesn't work that way you know what the odds that of winning the lottery they're they're Supernatural they're basically revealed Miracle it would take to win that's what it takes that's why I never buy more than one ticket if you buy more than one ticket did you double your chance you doubled your chance but your chance was zero and two times zero is zero that's why you see nebuch like people who have no money they can't afford the gas outside but they spend their entire paycheck on a 100 Mega Millions tickets they haven't increased their chance of winning statistically in a meaningful way now you need to buy one ticket because you gotta be in it to win it if you don't have one ticket you can't win you gotta buy one but Hashem every time I do it says nice try buddy sometimes he teases me and I win one number I have one number sometimes I even get a number that my $2 ticket yields $4 and those times I tell you about I don't tell the other ones because I say I bought a ticket and I doubled our money $2 to $4 doll never buy more than one ticket it's a waste of money you need one ticket in order to win and even then Hashem is gonna say no you know why because you got to make the clay keable and the clay keable are the retail one-on-one meeting everybody that's the ret I met somebody at 6:50 a.m. this morning we'll meet at late tonight and all day long I'm not asking you to have pity or sympathy or compassion except maybe a little bit of it and join our BRS Ambassador Global ambassadors but and and by the way I'm not an exception in your life and what you have and what you have on top today I'm sure people have on tap today things that are many many many many manyfold manyfold more difficult and challenging than anything I have to do but whatever it is that we have to do Hashem will not give us the results and the outcome unless we create the vessel to hold the blessing and how do we create the vessel to hold the blessing through the initiative and effort so if that initiative and effort effort feels like it was a failure it wasn't it was another building block in creating the vessel for blessing don't walk out of a meeting that didn't go the way you wanted don't walk out of a investment don't walk out of time that you spent and it didn't yield what you hoped for and feel what a failure what a waste of time that was the initiative that was the initiative and the effort to create the vessel that can bring the blessing so I'm continuing I'm giving you the same homework for next week as you had this week except I'm adding on a piece to your homework last week the homework was before everything you do first of all wake up every day and whether it's your spouse next to you or a friend or a family member what's on tap today you'll be much closer if you share what's in your life what's on tap today what's on tap today and then at the end of the day how'd your day go take an interest how was your day tell me about your day how did that go but the homework last week was before everything IM he then please God we should see success before everything God willing if God wants and then after everything say thank God after everything barem after everything before and now we're adding on after and it should be a day we can say a lot of please God thank God a day that we please God see yeshu