Living With Emunah (Part 336) - God Willing

good morning welcome back to living with amuna thank you for adjusting your schedules traveling for Simas but grateful to be together and to start our week together this Monday morning am Min series is generously sponsored as always our series sponsor Dr AV and Bella Morgan in memory of R Dr Brian galet in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer and as always we are tremendously grateful to the shanders this morning is also sponsored anonymously for the of y and anonymously dedicated to kro for being so resilient to Hashem for giving us the strength also sponsored for the second year at site of eser g p pre precious Nite is tonight and tomorrow her should have and Aliyah and yudas B should have a complete and Speedy Rua scha okay uh first of all if anyone didn't get a decal for your car we're also printing luggage tags and stickers for cell phones embrace your place exactly where you need to be could order them online if you're listening or watching and you want this incredible decal at BRS online.org decal and I want to start not with a Amun emails although we have many as always and grateful for them I want to start by telling you about something amazing I saw last night we had a beautiful beautiful chabas and last night culminating in a concert with AKA turjan The Great Israeli singer AKA and AKA not only has tremendous songs beautiful beautiful music soulful music music that comes from from his heart but AKA is a a wonderful person really a special special year a special n a special Jew we're a little bit M his sister is married to my cousin who came for shabas and was here last night as well my cousin itai and AKA is very very special so I saw something nobody else did I was in my office with him I made the introduction and I snuck into my office as the band began and he was about to come out last night we had 1100 people at SCH and a magnificent tremendous beautiful concert if you were here you know what I'm talking about if you missed it you missed something very special but I saw something very special in the office it was a private moment maybe he doesn't want me talking about it but I will anyway and that is I watched him he walked over to the muza and he put his hand on it he put his head down and he said hasem and he daved that before he went out and before he went on stage Hashem let me be successful let the music flow let it be a good performance let me connect with the audience let me be let it a k I actually saw something even before that before they went out when everyone was there there was a lot of energy particularly the young people in the room so the whole the whole staff the whole band got together I happen to have some drinks in my office so we poured and made a but he gave them all a pep talk and he said normally we perform in arenas normally we perform in theaters tonight's concert is in a and therefore we have to be mindful we have to be aware we're doing this and we're serving hm he said during the concert itself he said he often serves as Ain and he faces the he said today I'm on the be but I'm facing the people but my heart is still towards the I'm facing the people but my heart is still towards Hashem so anyway before he went out nobody else was in the room and I don't know if he saw me there put his hand on the muza and I saw he put his head down and he said a per ofum everything should go well everything should go smooth so that was incredible and I'll tell you and I'm not flexing because we had this concert last year yeso I saw do the same thing before he went out on stage these are incredible panim that's why their songs are so Soulful and they're coming from such a a beautiful beautiful place and they touch Us in such a deep place because they're not just musicians it's not a career and a profession it's coming from their Nisha but then I saw something else I'd never seen before the second the concert ended he ran into the office the band came security blocked the door all the groupies were trying to come take a selfie with him and I saw something I'd never seen before he pulled everyone around they put their arms around each other and he recited another par to mmod thanking Hashem that everything went well M soda so what an that's an amuna email nobody wrote the email I'm writing it to myself but that's the amuna email before whether you're a performer in front of thousands of people whether you're coming home and making dinner for your family you got to do homework you want carpool to go well whether you're walking into a a courtroom an operating room a boardroom whether you're trying to pick up customers or clients whether you're meeting whether you're soliciting to expand your campus and you're nervous to go well because you want to be done with it already but before everything we do Hashem give me the words let it flow let it go smoothly let it be successful Hashem I'm doing this to make a Kem to sanctify your name to be to advance your interest in the pa the repair the world in your image and if you walk out you had a successful meeting many in this room have been incredibly generous for our campus walk away I M thank you thank you for bringing us one step closer to the dream of expanding what we can do for you for us whatever meeting whatever effort the the food came out of the oven and it looks right and it tastes great M hasem thank you for these kalas thank you for this cake thank you for this cougle thank you for these children thank you for this carpool thank you for this parent teacher meeting nobody ever said that before later today we got parent teacher meetings I'm not hoping for an emergency Shalom just saying I hate parent teacher meetings anyway but M thank God I have parent teacher meetings to go to how many people would give anything to have a parent teacher meeting to go to to have a parent teacher meeting to go to Rabbi Dr Brian galber from whom we learn every Wednesday morning the she is dedicated generously by the Morgans so he once stopped me he said you don't go to parent teacher meetings n it's not for me he said you don't take the opportunity to go thank the teachers who are dedicating their lives to teach your children so I went to the next one and that was it I I could go but I did go to the next one because of Rabbi Dr galet and what he said anyway it was an amazing it was sometimes the muser comes in the form of words and sometimes you just see what people do and they don't even know you're there and they don't do it for anyone to see or talk about but I saw it and it was amazing so AKA became my rebi for a few minutes last night before you go hash Hashem move my lips give me the right words to say let it flow let it be smooth and again you don't need a mic and you don't have to be on stage that doesn't have to be a spotlight whatever it is you're going into for a difficult conversation you're having coffee with a friend you're paying a Shiva call you don't know what to say a hospital visit you're whatever it is Hashem give me the right words give me the right words and you walk out and you feel it went well M Hashem thank you Hashem thank you it was amazing it was an amazing thing to see let's read a couple emails and dive back to into our learning into our text together nobody tell a I shared that whatever you do dear Gober my wife and I were one of the co-sponsors listen to this email I got after last week's Shear I don't know if anyone remembers what last week's Shear we focused on one word in last week's sheer it's in the text it's right in front of you dear by gor my wife and I were one of the co-sponsors of the week's lesson in Amun asir we were originally co-sponsoring For an upcoming year at site and an upcoming birthday but two weeks ago one of my daughters-in-law was diagnosed with a serious illness I contacted the BRS office to switch the sponsorship for for my daughter-in-law shortly after she was diagnosed she and my son had their misas checked one mza was pule and the Sofer said the word that made it pule was needless to say I was blown away while I was listening to the shear this morning which was sponsored from my daughter-in-law's Raa and the one puzle word in the mza was ha and the entire Shear focused on that word ha as you frequently say it's hug from hasem telling us he's always with us even in the most trying times may we only share revealed good news you remember last week's year was all about to be present to be mindful on that day and we saw and last week over and over again we focused on that it's a lack of amuna to eject to the Future don't fast forward to tomorrow next week next month next year that's a lack of amuna amuna is I'm today to get to the end of today I have this moment and I have right now and I have what I need for right now Hy it's what we spoke about last week so here she sponsored the she changed the sponsorship in honor of a daughter-in-law who mza was checked and the word that was missing was Hy and what did we speak about now you could say wow what a coinkidink what a coincidence how random what chance what are the odds or you could say it's a hug from hasem it's a wink I don't know how it will turn out but we can DAV and hope that today please God everything will be will be good dear Abbi I started listening to your recently and really gives me I want to share a story about accepting where I am and I didn't then I got a hug from hm I decided to tell you both I gave birth to a baby boy on a Wednesday I happened to have given birth the same day as a colleague I was late she was early we were going to have our bris on the same day I was induced on Wednesday specifically Wednesday so I wouldn't have to be in the hospital over shabas everything went smoothly I was planning on spending shabas at home with my other children I even cooked my food early Wednesday morning so everything would be ready and I wouldn't have to stress then the that's like next level by the way to cook your food on the morning you're being induced so you come home and chabas is ready that's impressive then the next day the pediatrician came in and said it would be better if I stayed in the hospital over shabas for a special test I can only do after 36 hours so I stayed in the hospital I felt I did my Estus and worked everything out and then Friday night when I was sitting in the hospital just me and the baby I started to cry I was upset that things didn't work out the way I wanted but I remembered the shear this is where I meant to be so I accepted it embrace your place you are exactly where you are meant to be which continues to be thrown back in my face by my family won't say who one member of the I came out yesterday into my driveway needed to go somewhere and my car wasn't there I texted who has my car say a member of the family used the car without asking and when I was about to get upset a different member of the family said your car is exactly where it's meant to be so this is getting it's getting annoying it's very annoying to have to practice what you preach it's so much easier to just preach it to have to practice it is not easy so she shares that while she was in the hospital that Friday night crying she had to remember to embrace your place you are exactly where you to be so she accepted it now since my colleague and I gave birth on the same day we decided to do double bris in the school we both work in the night before the bris we got the news my husband's grandmother passed away very suddenly I realized half the people I invited for the bris wouldn't be able to come and I was grateful that we decided to make it a joint bris so I wouldn't be at my Simka with a half full hole Hashem orchestrated it perfectly so on the day of the bris we had a bris and a Leva in my community we Nam after the living the community was named after my father my husband's grandmother who passed away I felt like Hashem was hugging me and the whole family thank you for the inspiring she looking forward to more okay let's do uh one more I want to thank you for the weekly inspiration blah blah blah been listening blah blah blah I was driving one day to an appointment and my Spotify was plugged in and randomly started playing your sure to an exact story about infertility and I started to listen every week I even was able to attend in person a few months ago when I was visiting from Israel I've been meaning to write you for a while but now but every week I think maybe my story will have a happy ending so I wait but I felt like it was full finally time to write to you I feel inspired tired every time I listen to hundreds of emails written and I think it's important even though I've not received the outcome yet I know it will come my husband and I have been trying for our second child for over a year and a half I've been to numerous doctors we recently started the path of IUI I just found out yesterday I had what was called the chemical pregnancy which means my body was pregnant for a few days but it didn't continue in the moment I found out I was sad sad I had to break the news to my husband sad I had now go through more injections and hormones but I soon came to realize how great Hashem is how his plan is always perfect I know what he's really trying to tell me is that my body knows how to do it but right now is not my time I'm focusing on that and gives me Comfort that Hashem is telling me that Hashem is telling me that it might not be your time yet but it will be soon and it really feels like a great hug I know hashm has a greater plan for my family and will come at the exact perfect moment for us all I can do now is dve and soak up all the love I have for my first amazing child spend more quality time with my husband continue push myself spiritually until Hashem tells me yes it is now your time I do not think I could have thought like this even six months ago without the inspiring beautiful stories that are shared in this year I hope to soon write with a beautiful update on good news please God for now thank you it's never a no it'll always be at the right time please God it should be at the right time we D and for all those waiting for healthy children and for Simas for good things okay but that's why you see that people describe the they get from these emails so please keep writing them and sharing them not only when there's the hug or the wink or the nod and it worked out and it was perfect and a coincidence and amazing they made the flight but also when it's not because those two give tremendous tremendous okay we're on Page lamed in I actually posted as it was wisely suggested to me in our WhatsApp group what we're learning so people can follow along the text inside and we have been learning about being present amuna is about being in the moment being in the day we start to get anxious we start to get envious we start to get arrogant we start to get angry when we fast forward but if we take that deep breath we could just be in that moment then we can realize again I am where I'm meant to be and it is happening what's meant to happen and everything is choreographed and curated carefully from above nothing is coincidence or random and then I can endure whatever it is so we last left off that the M fell every day a double portion on Friday and if you didn't take the M if you try to store up the M if you tried to freeze it anyone get muddy buddy since last week if you try to freeze it if you try to freeze it and hold on to it it didn't last why because Hashem wanted you to know you can't Bank it I don't want you to have the security the Comfort I don't want you to feel you're good to go I want you to know every day be in that moment every day have that relationship every day lean in with me every day know I'm the one who provides for you and so when you have the two kalas on Friday night and two kalas on chabas day when you remember that man don't just say Bash don't just say it one day of the year every day remember that just like the M fell from heaven just like the rain provides the nourishment to the ground that can nurture us so too whenever it rains be a rain maker when it rains when the business is doing well when the paycheck is being cashed it's all from Hashem in the bottom paragraph bottom left Page and even if a person says I'm sick and tired of living dayto day paycheck to paycheck hand to mouth I want to have enough in the bank I want the security for my future know that that vulnerability that fragility that that lack of comfort is actually an advantage because it means that you will have a closer and a deeper relationship with Hashem you can have more authentic and genuine conversation with him you will feel his presence more than the person who thinks good to go I'm covered I'm able to to be okay forever forever some have the custom of saying not only they say and that toov the almighty should give you and the med the med expands on this should give you he shouldn't just give you once Costco size he shouldn't give you once one big payout but rather give you and give you again he shouldn't give you once that is enough for your whole life a person should live with a constant renewal I skipped the line I have to go back to a constant renewal that hm is giving and giving again and giving a new and giving a new if each time we receive from Hashem we feel wow that's a wink that's a hug that's love that's affection why would you only want to get once if every time you get you feel he loves me he cares about me he takes care of me then you don't want to only get once and be set for life every time you receive you get every time you bank that paycheck you cash it every time the credit card goes through at the store every time you can pay your bills you feel it's a wink it's a hug it's a nod from and our grows our amuna expands so you'll say I could live without the amuna help me have enough to know I'm good to go and that's what we work towards and there's nothing wrong with asking for that we all want security we all want safety we all want to know that we think we have our health for a little while longer we think we have enough money in the bank to cover our bills and it's okay to want that but if we don't have it embrace it and accept it and recognize it that there's an advantage to it and that's the longine we ski by accident they quote from the and others what was the curse to the snake he mentioned this the other night in s Snippets when we talk about modim we're up to sit Snippets we're up to the 18th of the modim the BR of gratitude to Hashem every day we bow three times a day and we say thank you for the daily miracles in our lives for that which we take for granted but we refuse to take for granted that our Miracles that we have our hips and our knees and our balance and our eyes and our ears and our memory thank you for these daily gifts that we don't begin to appreciate until they disappear God forbid mod them we bow why do we bow the gor says in bakama that anyone who doesn't bow properly during modim there spine turns into a snake after they die spine snake bow what in the world's going on we shared instead of Snippets because bowing is the ultimate expression it's the posture of deference to submit to surrender to admit Hashem I needed you I'm grateful to you is an admission as a confession I needed you I depend on you I rely on you I can't do it alone I can't do it on my own I need you I depend on you I rely on you I bow to you and the gamar says we don't just give some nod some gestures some bow you bow at the waist fully try to make a 90 degree angle and you engage every vertebrae in the spine all the vertebrae in the spine and if you don't that very spine turns into the snake why because the snake was all about distancing us from Hashem the snake was all about you don't need him you're good to go on your own you're independent you're in charge you're in control you take credit for your life that was the snake's message to and eat theas eat from the Tree of knowledge God who's God what's God's wisdom you're a God we can be a God just eat from the tree the whole whole methodology of the snake was to say who needs God so when you don't bow when you stand straight and say I'm independent I'm proud I'm good to go I don't need him then you are acting your spine instead of deferring bowing surrendering submitting is acting like that snake I'm good I don't need God so your spine turns into the snake the snake tried to seduce who needs God we're independent we're good to go on our own we're not amuna means to wake up and to live every day and realize my health so vulnerable so fragile could disappear any moment my finances even if I think they're secure no matter how secure that investment no matter what's in the bank what's even greater than my finances are my health and they could disappear what good are all those finances what good is all that money because money can't buy Health can't buy health so to live every day with modin with bowing with surrender with submission with deference with acknowledgement Hashem I don't know what today or tomorrow will bring all I have is H and if right now I have my faculties right now I have the headcount my family right now I have a roof over my head then right now I am the wealthiest person alive I have everything I need what was the punishment of the snake that's what is alluding to what was the punishment of the snake who remembers Slither on its stomach Slither on it I got I got in trouble and sitter Snippets because I said Adam's punishment when he ate from the was he asked to eat he has to work from the sweat of his brow you got to go to work instead of having the ghen you don't just have a schorg laid out for you whatever you want you got to go to work what was K's punishment pay ful child birth so I made a joke I got in trouble with I said inoka you know what natural child birth is in Boone giving birth without your makeup on yeah that didn't goes so well I happen to have a daughter who gave birth the next day and that didn't go so well anyway and what was the she gave birth with her sh and what was the snake's snake's punishment what was the snake's punishment Slither on its belly and eat from the dust of the Earth that's a punishment there's no shortage of dust of the earth it's endless so the snake has all you could eat the snake has everything that's a punishment from God if God said to you all you could eat here is a endless credit card to the supermarket everything you ever need here you go Zant that's a punishment that sounds awful like an a reward a lot of people would welcome that and want that so where's the punishment in you know why it's a punishment it's a punishment because if you send your child off of the year in Israel and you give them a credit card with no limit and you say see you in a year from now versus you give them a debit card and you put money on the debit card and what happens when the money on the debit card Runs Out you get a phone call you have a connection you have a relationship so the snake Hashem says here's a credit card you have everything you need have a good life but we hashem's children he says here's enough for today now I know we're going to speak later I know we're going to be connected I know you're going to lean on me I know you're going to want a relationship with me that's love that's affection that's a hug from Hashem that the snake never gets that is a punishment so a person who tries to get to a snake life and say I have what I need I don't need him is acting like a snake but to be a Jew is to to say every day every day I'm vulnerable I'm fragile every day every day don't just give me once give me again I want to know I want to feel your presence in my life I want to feel you're giving me that's why we wake up every day we say the you gave me my faculties you gave me the ability to go to the bathroom you gave me my sight you gave me my hips and my knees and the ability to walk you gave me you gave me you gave me not I have Health until I don't but every day I have my health it's like you gave it to me a new you gave it to me fresh you gave it to me again you gave it to me to begin with and that is the greatest BR that's how we live with each and every day let's begin the next per that if we want blessing in our lives what is the what is the vessel that brings bra or put differently what is the key that unlocks the storehouse of the shef because we have a big belief that our father in Heaven he loves us he's a him he's a father he's a father a parent loves a child and a parent who loves a child has so much blessing they want to give that child so much so much so you know you come home from the store you come back from your trip to Israel and you've got particularly for your young children your young grandchildren you got toys you've got candy you got all kinds of things say I got blessings I've got so much but you need to say the magic word what's the magic word the child has to say please please they can't just say yes it's mine give it to me if you're a good parent grandparent you train that child say the magic word what's the magic word please Hashem is our father he's got so much candy so many sweet things for us in our life and the magic word the key that unlocks the shef is so let's let's begin this this character trait this quality this life this lifestyle of is the vessel to get us ready to receive that and According to which a person lives life with an active real Dynamic vibrant trust in Hashem and and relies on him and leans on him and turns to him and talks to him and hears him talking to us then we'll be blessed all of our needs all of our everything that will be on us to the degree proportional to the way we lean on him and before you react and you say what does that mean and why should that be and how does that work it's no different than human relationships do we not want to shower more blessing on the people who have a close relationship who show us appreciation who invest in us people who mistreat us people who are cruel to us people who are callous to us we don't really want to treat so well ourselves but the people who treat us kindly who are invested in us who are loyal to us the people that we want to shower with so why would hasem be any different when we trust in Hashem Hashem becomes our our trustworthy father who gives even as parents you have one child who says who says never calls never cares never checks in never shows up says I don't need you I don't want you I'm good to go so you say about that child no matter how much love I have to give no matter how much love I want to shower and share no matter how much love I have to give if you're not a vessel to receive if you don't want me in your life what could I do another child calls and texts and checks in and shows up and visits and hosts and loves and is grateful and gives and receives you just want to shower them with BR you want to give them everything you got and Hashem is the same way unless you think this is some radical neus pus new age perspective or view or Vision on life this is what the r writes if you look he writes in footnote the writes hashem's Providence to us is directly proportional to our trust in him hashem's involvement in our lives this is not like rabman and many others but the ra felt that do does everyone have equal Providence from Hashem is Hashem equally invested involved in all of our Lives the ramam said no he says the more you trust in him the more involved he is with you that means to say Hashem sets nature in motion and now there's a branch of a tree that's fragile that's a bre to break so to one person he's walking along and gravity makes that Branch break and it's about to fall and hit him on the head head a second person is walking along and the same Branch or a different tree with a with a fragile Branch could break and fall on his head one hits him right on the head knocks him out the other something happens he trips on the sidewalk delays him a moment the branch falls he misses it he's safe it doesn't hit him on the head why did one Merit that Providence and the other didn't so the ram says because the more you say I love you Hashem I'm involved in your life I want you involved in mine the more Hashem says Tak here I am I show up I'm involved the more you say I'm independent I'm proud I don't need you I'm good to go what is this talking Hashem who Hashem what Hashem where Hashem and Hashem says I see you want to live without me I'm exposing you to the elements and you'll be subject to Nature and good to go God bless good luck good luck that's how the Ram understands the ram understands that Providence his involvement in our life is directly proportional to our involvement in his it's directly proportional to our relationship with him with him that's the way the ra understands so you see from here says that we have to be a CLE turn ourselves into that vessel I'm here I'm waiting I have the key I want to open the storehouse I own the winning lottery ticket but I got to turn it in you could own the winning lottery ticket the winning lottery ticket for tens or hundreds of millions of dollars you could be holding the win ticket but that doesn't put the money in your account what do you have to do to get the money in your account turn in the ticket we're all holding winning tickets Hashem hasf for us in different ways that maybe we want we anticipate we hope in ways we can't even imagine but he has BR waiting how do we cash in how do we turn it in how do we transfer it to our account how do we turn the key his on us will be directly connected proportional to reciprocal to our relationship with him says this there is no greater someone who believes that in this world there's a God there's a big a source of it all who's infinite and omnipotent and that he's providential blessed is the person who trusts in God and God is the source of his trust WR of such a person is guaranteed to never go hungry like the says cast on Hashem all your worry all your troubles all your hope all your dreams put it and place it and cast it on Hashem and he will sustain you he'll take care of you but it has to be authentic it can't just be some scheme it can't just be well on my list of things I have to do is ask Hashem I don't really believe it I don't really mean it I don't really demonstrate it but it's just on my checklist of things got to go to the doctor got to take the medicine got to askm to make me be better whatever blah blah blah it doesn't work if you don't mean it you don't believe it but if you do it's an incredible spoke about last week Burger taught us all choose choose amuna in life and this cast on hem everything whatever you're worried whatever you're anxious whatever you're concerned whatever you're working on whatever you don't know how it's going to turn out put it on Hashem every solicitation I do we're on this deadline in a couple weeks and a week we have our major matching campaign we're trying to finish our campus we're doing it so we could have more shabas and events like we just had RHA last week schita to the unit of IDF soldiers who came to TOA and the concert to the ne unbelievable men women tonight's uh program unbelievable programs so every before I go in give me the right word Let It Go well and when I walk out if it didn't hem it's son you if you want it to be it'll be if you don't it won't it'll come from wherever you decide it comes from so I don't take it personally and I'm not worried a yes is amazing and a no is not too upsetting because it's all up to you and it all comes from you and whatever you're working on whatever pressure you feel nobody's more blessed in this world than I am believe I in Hara I feel like the most blessed person alive but I got a lot of my shoulders than a lot to get done in this campus and the pressure to come up with Millions more dollars in a short amount of time is a lot and this P carries me and what we're learning lifts me to throw and cast on hem everything he's gonna take care of it one way or another however it meant to work and and it's an amazing thing because you never panic and you never worry and you're never angry and you're never resentful and you're never anxious because you just say it's going to turn out the way it's meant to be it's going to turn out the way it's meant to be couple hours before the concert last night thanks to the incredible smoke machines the smoke alarm went off so you say okay there goes the concert you could Panic you could get anxious you could get afraid you could worry how much money was invested how many people are coming this is a disaster CH left to call everything a disaster everything's a disaster it's a disaster it's not a disaster Master you have the same headcount in your home you have your breath in your lungs your heart is beating in your chest almost anything else is not a disaster you figure it out you figure it what Hashem do you want it to work tonight or not do you want 1100 people to D to you through song or not is it gonna work out or not and happen to work out thanks to Jeffrey and others David Burger worked out but it's got to be real I don't know where I'm paying my mortgage hasem I don't know how this IUI this IVF this child this next child where they're going to come from Hashem I'm waiting I'm lonely I'm Longing To Be With You those emails we get I'm throwing it on you you're my father I'm putting it on you how could you claim to be my father and not care I'm putting it on you it's on you it's on you you're my father you need to help me if my child comes to me and says AB I'm struggling with this homework or studying for this test what kind of father says it's your problem they turn they say but you're my father who else am I supposed to go to who else am I supposed to go to I have this problem I have this challenge I need help to pay off this bill what do you say you good luck you're on your own say you know a stranger could say that to me a neighbor can say that to me an acquaintance can say that to me but you're my father you're my father don't send me away saying it's my problem I'm putting it on you you're my father you brought me into this world so we can put it on hem now again if we messed up if we came up short if we were lazy there another expression your poor planning is not my emergency which I sometimes say when they need that help with the studying for the test to doing the homework and then of course as a father you help anyway or you say call Mom she'll help she's more reliable with all your heart everyone sitting here right now is worrying about something something everyone's worrying about something maybe you're lucky enough that it's only about raising millions of dollars and I mean that maybe you're so blessed that the only thing you're worried about is Raising millions of dollars but there people here worrying about lab returns and lab results and health there people here worried about in marriage for themselves their children or grandchildren people here worried about how they're going to pay that next bill everyone here is worried about something something and now you have a strategy do your initiative take hisas you can't be lazy can't sit back you can't be a spectator to your own life you have to take initiative you have to make effort to take responsibility take accountability to DAV to Hashem and then Hashem I did everything I could do I'm doing everything I can possibly do and now it's on you tati it's on you ABA it's on you Dad I'm leaning on you Dad and when you do that and you say Dad now it's all on you I've done everything I can do I'm relaxed because I've done everything I can do now I'm relaxed now it's on you now it's on you now I can go learn Torah now I can go do mitz now I can go volunteer for because I'm not so worried in panicked and anxious and tense why not because I put it all on on hem put it all onm so whatever the outcome is going to be is what's meant to be so I'm not nervous and I'm not anxious and I'm not paralyzed and I'm not perseverating because I put it all on hem put it all on hem if you have someone in your life that you gave something to and they said I got it you why do you keep asking me I told you I've got it now relax and enjoy the ride because told you I've got it told you I got it I'm going to take care of it I've got it stop bringing it up stop asking me stop checking in stop ruining your day and mine because I told you I got it so Hashem says I've got it not for you to be lazy and passive but once you're doing everything you can do now once we're doing everything we can do and we put it on Hashem then Hashem says now I've got it relax and enjoy the ride enjoy the concert enjoy the day enjoy the Mitzvah enjoy the enjoy the Torah enjoy the we'll finish with this writes that before every before everything you're about to do a person should condition themselves to say the following words before you put the cougle in the oven before you pull out the driveway for carpo before you walk in to the meeting before you step up to make to make the concert before the drush or the shear before anything you do you say I'm doing this if God's will with God's will we say every morning and from he is an acronym for we say it very quickly we yed it there's noem if God wills it if God Wills so oh yeah I'll meet you tomorrow for Cofe for coffee if God Wills with God willing oh yeah we'll close that deal God willing oh we'll have the shear at 8:45 this week on Monday not Wednesday God willing would you like to come for shabas God willing I'll be at the wedding God willing that everything we say should be imem God willing because then implicitly in our conversation we're involving we're invoking hasem we're we're God willing I can't say absolutely abolutely I don't know what will be so God willing God determines my life not me I take my initiative I plan I execute but God willing you're gonna do business any business deal you enact any business deal you do any investment you make I trust God because we have a rule we have a formula we have a ratio that the more I trust him the more he provides so the more I express and I live and I practice and I believe I trust him the more he'll provide so in the opportunities for him to provide I.E the investment and the return those are the moments to trust in him so this is so important because most people mistakenly think you know I I have my religious life at schak I go to the DA I give my and then I go to my business life and then I go to my investments and then I meet with my advisers and then I review my portfolio what does that have to do with a religious life the answer is everything the time the time to invoke and the time to talk is not in TR that's that's doming when should you talk in business you're meeting with your adviser you're making an investment you're choosing where to put your money I trust you I lean on you I feel you I love you I depend on you I'm casting I'm putting it all on you let's buy that stock let's buy into that business let's sign this contract we're ready to go that's exactly the moment that's mugal that's the moment that is devoted that's dedicated that's the moment that's auspicious to so don't say that's a it's a religious thing that's at that's at home when kiss the mza that's when I open the tum business I'm meeting with my adviser they're not Jewish they don't believe in God what are you talking about no no no that's the moment when you're meeting with your advisor when you're in business when you're meeting that client that's exactly the moment that you say im God willing this will be a good investment God willing God should be present in this investment and give this return we'll pick up AEM next week thank you for adjusting if you didn't get and you'd like to 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