Living With Emunah (Part 313) - Download the Emunah Filter

good morning good morning BTO welcome back to living with amuna it's a reminder it's our uh final Shear for a little while taking a little break till after Tish you can go online you can catch up you can listen from the beginning uh I don't remember what number Shear this is but there are several hundred so it's always good kazara any podcast player YouTube you can find it and in our WhatsApp group we'll continue to share hopefully share inspiration Aruna series is generly sponsored by Dr zavi and Bella Morgan remain deeply indebted to the Morgans for their generosity sponsored in memory of Rabbi Dr Brian galet and in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer today Shear is also sponsored by Michelle diamond and the diamond family in honor of the third year at site of our beloved Kim Diamond whom we miss terribly was a very very special person authentic genuine real deep person of strength and faith and we miss him alah also sponsored this morning by Mrs deas it's commemoration of the year of her father MOS benal Ravis God has been with me all my life thank you very much the sh and alah as well and by Rona K in memory of her beloved mother Doris jaf sh and Aliyah thank you very very much okay we have a Flor of WhatsApp of amuna emails rather then we'll get back into the text we've been learning we've been learning the beautiful beautiful Torah ofap ons the truth that there is a God and then the application living manifesting implementing that there is a God and that's why these emails that we begin with I hold they're not B Torah it's not that the emails are delaying or they are distraction from our study of Torah they are actually the application the implementation they're part of the study of Torah because is Ms is that there's a the reality and the truth is the fact is there's a Creator there's an Almighty it's his world he runs it he controls it he is the source of all he is everything in it and the amuna is taking that truth and living it and that's what these emils are an example of I thank everybody who takes the time to write an email every email I read is deeply moving and meaningful to me I don't get a chance to read them all in the she or sometimes they wait to catch up but please write please share because uh it's deeply meaningful to me and I know we've all heard how many people write emails that say I heard all the other emails and that helped me live with amuna and helped me have my story dear Gober thank you so much for the weekly amuna emails they provide such a great boost of amuna for me every week this week was one of many tragedies in CLA Isel so in July 5th we lost 12 soldiers and my beautiful friend ad zahav I want to share some of her story with you because it gave me such in my Amun and I believe it can impact others was a terrible fire you remember a mother who saved her children and was and was killed tragic tragic a very special woman Adena was larger than life Who Loved everyone and had a big heart heart big enough for everyone her shiver was packed with people from all walks of life who all thought they were her closest friend because she made everyone feel that way but the thing I found most impressive about Aden is the she instilled in her family Adena gave her life saving her children from a fire in their home in the middle of the night she and her husband ran in and out of the house saving eight of her children from the Flames at the levia her husband and her five oldest children ranging from 19 to 10 spoke and every single one of them said variations of the same thing this is the Raton Hashem this is good because Hashem only does this is a family that lost everything went through an insane traumatic event lost their mother and despite their immense pain they see Hashem so clearly hanging in the Shiva house right now are signs that adena's husband asked to be hung up and they say accepting this with love I'm attaching the picture to the email MAA it says in the shiv home was the was the sign through their pain they can only see May maym provide her family and friends and please keep her son m inos he's an 8-year-old in the ICU with third degree burns should have a complete and Speedy how many of us are do we accept whatever it is that hem gives us with love we're not mael when the Wi-Fi is out we're not mael the the delayed flight or the canceled plans or the waiter messing up our order or the person who uh kept us waiting or the fact that we didn't get alyah and that same guy got alyah again every week we're not MAA the most minor inconsequential little things that won't impact Us in the long term and here there are outstanding People Extraordinary People and she's right what a testament what a testament to Adena that that's the Legacy she left that her children husband all all capture that attitude by the way MAA doesn't mean and therefore this music playing and we sing and dance and maaba so we're not say it maaba means with sadness and grief and tears and endless pain but MAA those who were here last night heard another example of Muma a a mindboggling hard to believe almost hard to believe real example of of maava just mindboggling the incredible Mark Edinger spoke last night and I won't take the time now and and uh her book is being translated into English hopefully everyone will be able to read it and maybe we'll have her on behind the beam so we can we can really share more broadly but her father was killed in a terror attack in which her mother was also shot and lost an eye and her brother was working for the Mad was killed and then her cousin was killed in B rescuing people rescued 100 people saved 20 babies and then was killed by Kamas teras and then her youngest brother was killed fighting in Gaza she lost four family members in seven years and when you see her she's just a ray of light and sun sunshine and smile and positivity and now is speaking to soldiers before they go into fight talking all about how we have to be positive and make our own story and not wallow in our pain and see hashem's hand and see this through and understand our mission there are such people there are such people maava maava I hope we will never ever be tested some here have been already but we'll never be tested please God to be maaba such such things to have to hang such a sign in a Shiva home but it should inspire all of us that whatever's going on to live with amuna means that whatever is going on whatever is going on big or small maava whatever is meant to be someone here recently shared a story of sitting on a plane for three hours delayed not knowing what will be whether they'll be able to make their flight and if it gets canceled it was already Thursday and you can't get there before shabas and how does that change all the plans and all the schedule and everything that was done in advance and then you remember oh yeah I'm supposed to be maab I forgot I go to the Amun here I forgot I'm supposed to just let go and let God and it'll be what will be and you know what will not make the plane take off any faster you know what will not make the pilot pull back on the throttle your worry your anxiety you know what it will do it'll ruin your vacation your mental health your physical health it'll drive your spouse crazy they're going to move their seat and switch with somebody else move into a coach to the back rather than have to live with that ball of anxiety and worry and nervousness and that's all it's going to do is push people away all it's going to do is keep you grounded instead of help you take off in life so m If people could hang that sign ma okay the Wi-Fi went out okay the waiter messed up your order okay uh the person kept you waiting okay what okay MAA MAA RAB Goldberg thank you so much blah blah blah blah I'm a relatively new listener I've seen much change in my Outlook as I work to apply what I've learned one thing that repeatedly comes back to me is a Jew is never stuck a Jew is never stuck and I have an example to Share story I have didn't involve me but instead involved my teenage sonan is lifeguard and counselor at a local Jewish Day Camp on Friday he was assigned to the pool for the five to sixy old boys after swim was finished he had to put away the numerous pool toys and as he said he was pretty annoyed that all the counselors took off without helping straighten up he said that while he was cleaning up he saw one of the counselors lying on a bench so he went over to this boy and said hey what happened to your bunk what's up the boy said yeah I'm just taking a rest in that moment Aton knew something wasn't right because the boy wasn't looking at him or focusing properly Aton started tapping his knee asking hey you all right he didn't get much of an answer this time so he looked around quickly and saw one of the camp EMTs Eton told him something was up he said oh yeah he wanted to rest a bit Eton said no come over there's something wrong EMT and another adult then took over and got the boy cold water and began giving medical attention he knew that if there had been other people around cleaning up he might not have noticed this other boy and if he himself hadn't been volunteering on an ambulance Squad he might not have realized something was wrong it was an incredibly hot day when this took place and if Aton hadn't been in the right place at the right time the story could have had a tragic ending thanks for reading thanks for helping us grow in amuna we should see yeshu and toos speedily a Jew is never stuck even putting away the pool toys you're not stuck you're not St it doesn't mean you're not allowed to go inside and say to the counselors hey where' you all go and next time you have to help me I want to be clear because I know this can be misunderstood and misrepresented living with amuna doesn't mean not holding other people accountable living on amuna doesn't mean that you can't tell your children you got to clean your room put away your laundry to your chores help out at home living with amuna doesn't mean that you can't sit down respectfully and productively share with a spouse how we can improve our communication or this made me feel that way or we could do this differently again productively living with aun doesn't MAA doesn't mean being a punching bag and being a being a floor mat that's not maava maava means whatever is happening is what's meant to be I'm never stuck I am where I'm meant to be and whatever's happening is what's meant to happen and now I can still take action so you know somebody slams into your car you know oh I'm a cin I'm gonna hang a sign in my windshield that my car that's all dented up and can't drive anymore I accept with love that this is what was meant to be yes Bea and now go get the other person's insurance information MAA put the note on his insurance MAA Ma so yes hold accountable follow up speak respectfully but communicate resolve and reconcile and living with amuna doesn't mean being a punching bag doesn't mean being a floor matat doesn't mean sweeping everything under the under the carpet and under the bed living with amuna means doing what we need to do at any given time in any given moment but realizing that whatever position we find ourselves in a a Jew is never stuck you're never stuck wherever you're grounded you're not stuck it's where you're meant to be and whever you find yourself even if it's cleaning up alone you may figure out right this boy found out why he was meant to be there cleaning up by himself because he potentially saved that other boy's life what if he what if all was well and good you'd never know why you were there that's most often in life that we never find out why we're stuck where we are to that's just the way it's meant to be in that momenta today during the Amun you read an email about someone in English who had written an amuna email but kept it in their drafts folder you remember last week the boy with the broken engagement well I didn't physically keep it in my drafts I've been contemplating writing when a mental draft folder if you will please bear with me it's the ultimate email touching on fertility missiles and even flying a little over a year ago my husband and I began fertility treatments it's difficult for me to delve deeply into this topic even though now we've been blessed by Hashem with a beautiful baby girl I want to share a glimpse of our journey and express how the Amun supported me during this challenging time I started a note section on my phone titled all the places I see Hashem and actively chose to recognize hashem's hand in everything the monitoring and specific medications required were hard and tiring but strengthened by my amuna I was able to see hashem's love even when the outcomes seemed Bleak I wanted this Amun Ima to be one that can offer hope to anyone struggling with fertility but articulating the process remains a challenge for me perhaps one day I'll find the right words thank you for nurturing the amuna providing the strength I needed during the period our daughter was born on uh April 12th just before the missile attack from Iran which occurred while we were still at the hospital I was awake in the middle of the night feeling unwell and had asked the nurse for medication when the missile struck reflecting on it I marveled at the hash that I happened to be awake at the moment enabling us to take our baby to safety promptly due to me being in a wheelchair my husband couldn't manage both me and the baby but a visiting stranger kindly assisted us truly exemplifying mik when people found out about experience during the attack I honestly had no recollection I had completely forgotten about the missiles perhaps it was postpartum fog but in the moment I felt an overwhelming calm and gratitude to Hashem for placing us exactly where we needed to be ensuring the best care for both baby and me we managed to obtain my daughter's well before our flight home though not without its own challenges we navigated a Long Way to the Embassy encounter delays due to unforeseen circumstances including an Arab holiday and juneth throughout the uncertainty my prayer remains simple Hashem let what is best happen what a great prayer Hashem let what is best happen I did not ask to force our way onto the flight I saw guidance and acceptance of what was meant to be we made it thank you for the amuna uh time is it okay we'll read one more and then we'll get back into the into the text that we're learning okay a story for you almost a year ago at this point my husband and I were Desperately Seeking into apartment in the area in which we lived my husband is in the and he really didn't want to leave his Yeshiva but we really couldn't find an apartment that was good non- sketchy area and not a basement since basements give me allergies where I live it's really hard to find an apartment that meets both of these criteria since all the apartments in the good area Are basements and the ground floor apartments are not we know she doesn't live in Florida and are not in the best areas we were looking and trying for months but with no luck one day we were feeling really down about the whole situation walking around the streets in the best part of the neighborhood and my husband and I were talking about am hasm can truly do anything we were saying how if Hashem wanted one of the homes we were walking by could totally just have a first floor apartment for rent popup it sounded crazy crazy since it really didn't exist but at that moment we believed that Hashem could do anything in the world literally a few days later I saw on a WhatsApp apartment chat that a first floor of a house in the best area right next to my husband's Yeshiva was for rent not only that but it was beautiful newly renovated and seemed perfect we went to visit it immediately and essentially told the broker we take it since it was such a good apartment it was so rare to find tons of people were coming to visit and we had to apply to live there the landlords would choose who they wanted I was really doing and hoping it would we would get it since it felt I felt like Hashem answered myus and it was so perfect later that day the broker texted me unfortunately another couple who applied had a connection some out of the landlords so the landlords chose them to live in the perfect apartment I was devastated I really really wanted the apartment so badly was so stressed about what my husband was I were going to do was expecting my first child and we need to move took a few days but I finally worked hard on my amuna and came to the conclusion everything Hashem does is for the best clearly it wasn't meant to be Hashem knows what's best for me a hundred times more than I think I know right after I finally Feltes knowing with full confidence that Hashem is the boss and does everything for the best the broker called he said the apartment fell through with the other couple and the landlord was willing to give it to usem we ended up getting the apartment we've been living there for almost a year now and it's really perfect husband is able to live right near the Yesa I'm so happy happens to be this amuna has a story has a happy ending but throughout it all I really concluded hem loves me more than I love myself and he knows what's best for everyone I realize that a life of the is incomparable to a life without it thank you and I hope in this the of all the will come soon eem amen amen okay I'll have to put aside more for the next Shear when we come back because we got to get to the text why do we read all these stories from getting the right apartment to making it to the flight to fertility treatment to and each of these stories become for us an image in our head a reminder that when we hopefully don't find ourselves in similar circumstances but less significant circumstances in that sh home if they could hang a sign MAA and that's an instruction to all the people who visit don't sit here and wonder where is God be said be cry shed a tear grieve feel a loss lean into the pain but M all of it with a sense of in the middle page wonderful the chapter ofs says we're now in the month of and soon we'll be beginning the three weeks hopefully we won't we'll be Ines together the next by the time of the next am we'll be hosting it we have to find a place but Ines and we'll be learning together there forever with Messiah and peace and a host's home and our soldiers return to their families there says that since the was destroyed certain things or aspects or miracles of it have been lost and one of the things that were listed what are an what does it mean since the end of the mikash since its destruction as we've been living and navigating these 2,000 years of Exile so the people who live with thata we've lost we've lost that art we've lost that trait anyone who has Paso you got bread in your basket you've got money in your bank account and you're still asking what will I eat tomorrow you are deficient diminished you are lacking in amuna you are mikat am you're lacking an amuna if you have money in the bank account and you're still worried about what I'll eat tomorrow so Rashi explains what does it mean who are the Kat who are people who believe it's not just amuna in general the general category of amuna but it is the people who believe that whatever money they spend to beautify a Mitzvah whatever money they give away in staka whatever money they spend on chabas or they're not really giving away at all because replaces IT Supplies it and they'll get it back that's what it means to live with amuna that's what during the time of the B people were able to do they realize you know I'm just the steward of this bank account I am the custodian of this bank account of this trust created a trust and it's called and Mitzvah and trust it's four of those things and you know no I'm just the trustee but he's the funer of the trust and whenever the trust goes down he puts in more so I would never hesitate to spend it why would I hesitate to spend it imagine a billionaire billionaire philanthropist came to you you should imagine it because it would be a dream come true a billionaire philanthropist comes to you and says I have a charitable foundation and I'd like you to be the CEO I'd like you to be the director of the foundation and the foundation has billions and trillions and gazillions of dollars and every year in the foundation Charter and the foundation bylaws you have to give away 5% of the income or we have to whatever the case may be we've got to give away we've got to give away there was once a holy Jew sford Bernstein who made such a a is that what it was called he put together that money and said it must be distributed to transform Jewish Education and enrich the Jewish World Imagine who was the lucky lottery winner who said didn't get the money but got to be in charge of the money decide where does it go would you hesitate to give it out would you hesitate to allocate it especially if you have some billionaire funer who says every year I'm going to put in X and you should distribute y would you not distribute why because you know you know that the person who's Who provided it who put it together will replenish it so says you should view a part of your assets as a trust that you run you run a foundation this happens to be the best way to give staka if you've not done it you should some people think well I don't qualify to do this because I not a billionaire so I can't create a chable foundation but anybody can open up another bank account and simply take 10% of their after tax income and put it in the bank account and you know when you give stucka sometimes it hurts and it's hard because you say this is my hard-earned money and really I could redo my kitchen or get more jewelry or go on a nicer vacation really I could worry less about paying tuition and instead I'm giving this at sta it makes me more nervous when I see my bank account it hurts it's hard I know that because I see the look on some people's face when I ask for money it it would be easier to ask for their kidney I think some people would be more open to giving their kidney than to giving staka because for some it's hard in fact in the talud the word for money is Dum which means blood because money is our hard-earned blood we toiled we sacrifice it's our hard earn Blood Sweat and Tears to earn that money and to give it away is to give away our blood and also it's called dumb because it's how does one live you need to have confidence and trust that you have what you need to live and if you give away too much then you're risking your blood it could be dangerous so for some it's very hard but if you set up a separate account and 10% of your after tax income you put into the other account you never look at that other account as if it were yours to begin with it was never yours so now you just get to be there's no difference between Bill Gates and Warren Buffett and you you also have a foundation it may have a few less zero in it but you have a foundation too and so when you get to have fun now you sit down with your spouse or whoever you want and you say oh what do we care about what matters to us which envelopes we want to answer which matching uh which great nephew's text would you support this m my Yeshiva is running a matching whoever invented the matching campaign God bless them so which what do you want to give to but now you have fun with it instead of it hurting you you but that's all if you have amuna that what there's someone is going to keep replenishing the fund if you're worried about the fund then it's going to be hard it's going to be hard has a similar idea my children trust me lean on me and sanctify the day and believe in me and I will pay and I will pay so you say you know I'm sorry but we've got to serve P andus for chabas because I'm not going to spend money on chabas because I don't know where the money will come from now Hashem promised us whatever you spend on honoring shabas within reason you can't go out and buy an $800 bottle of wine and first cut corn beef and things you can't afford and go in debt and say Hashem what's the deal I thought you said you're G to provide Sherie boards and kiddish and fancy whatever you can't go spend beyond your means but spending within reason hasem says spend within reason I know different neighborhoods now have different definitions of within reason let's try to keep ours within actual reason so spend within reason and hasem says I got your back I'm going to replenish I'm going to provide so it says what does it mean to live with amuna is to have a grasp on this world to see clearly to not only see the surface and The Superficial to not only see the number in the bank account but to see the banker behind it to see the funer behind it if you live your life and you live a different calculus some people's calculus their calculation their Matrix they live by is only money money money money you know such people none of them are here right now or listening of course but we all know such people who the only filter through which they see the world you don't know this but like children teenagers who are on social media or on your phone you could add a filter and it makes a funny face and you see things differently what's a filter a filter is the way you see something you can overlay a filter and now that's how you see it right so some people they overlay a filter and they see the world only about money it's all they see they walk in a room what's that person worth what does that thing cost how much does that person own how much do I have how much will I have how much have I spent their whole life their whole life usually they grew up in such a home they live with such a fear and now that's passed on to the next Generation their responsibility is to break that cycle and not pay it forward and not pass it on but their whole life is just the Matrix the calculus the calculation the spreadsheet all of life is just money how much was the gift that they gave my children at their wedding I'm not giving a penny more so they've got to spre there people who have spreadsheets but who gave gifts that were worth how much to each of their children at their Sim so they know how much to give to the other person you don't believe me I've seen it there's people who have such spreadsheets they have such spreadsheets when they had me over for a shabas meal they serve chicken I'm not serving them meat when they're people who have such spreadsheets they walk in a room who's worth what how much have they given how much is everything is money why because the more I give the less I have the more the more a vacuum the more space it creates but a person whose calculation what if your overlay what if your filter we not seeing the world through money but seeing the world through mitzvos what if you saw the world through not the physical material world and again I'm not endorsing living irresponsibly and spending beyond your means and going into debt and just trusting in Hashem that's not trust in Hashem you have to be reasonable and normal so I keep giving these caveats these disclaimers because they're they're important but a person can live with a filter and an overlay where they see the world through Torah and Mitzvah they don't see The Superficial on the surface they walk in a room and they see oh what a that person has incredible amuna that person doin amazingly look at the that person learns that person's mitzvos that's what they see the net worth of the other people around them is nothing to do with their assets or material possessions but Torah and mitzah and they see their own net worth they see their own net worth and they measure every day how many did I accumulate how many Mitzvah did I forgo or forfeit and fail to do the whole Matrix and their whole overlay and their whole spreadsheets in life are all about the mitz the mitz and the Torah and the and the and the relationship with hem and they realize that when I do a Mitzvah it can never create a it will never lead to a so you know what that person served me chicken but if I serve them meat well I'll never be out I'll never be at a loss I'll never be disadvantaged because I went above and Beyond when I do when I sign up and I cook that meal for the meal train when I show up and I volunteer when I stay behind and put the pool things away when I do whatever is about I'll never be lacking it'll never be a loss for me it'll never be a loss somebody who says if I spend that money on a Mitzvah it'll be a loss and I'll be lacking such a person can never give of themselves such a person is living without Amun if you think if I do that Mitzvah then I will be lacking I'll be deficient I'll be without but if you know that when it comes to Mitzvah in particular I have a donor I have a fun every Mitzvah I do I have a fun there are there are extraordinary people have come to me who say Rabbi if you ever have this give me the privilege I want to pay for it there are such incredible angels in life Rabbi if there's ever a funeral and the people can't afford this the grave let me know that's my Mitzvah and somebody else Rabbi when you have people genuinely can't pay their rent or have let me know not endless not endless but let me know I want that opportunity I want that Mitzvah so now as the rabbi or as the person in charge of that committee or that now you know I have a funer for this so anything I give out it doesn't come out I'm not lacking I don't lose because I have a backer I have a funer I have somebody who cares about this and who has the capacity to provide it so now I'm never going to hesitate to allocate because I have a backer who has the capacity to provide so ronam wants every one of us to walk around our lives and say when it comes to the pursuit of Torah and mitzvos I have a backer I have a funer and he has the capacity within reason again I'm not saying you should go home not saying you shouldn't but I'm not saying you should go home check your bank account and write the entire thing to Baton synagogue because there's a funer and a backer and he's going to take care and that's a Mitzvah within reason we have rules we're going to get to in a moment in fact you're not allowed to one of the rules that the funer gave is you can't ever give away more than 20% of your income that's a rule of the fun Our funer God our backer says I want you to give give 10% don't give less of your after tax dollars but also don't give more than 20 The Sweet Spot is between 10 and 20% now there is an exception to that rule the gamar says if utaka are Bill Gates or Warren Buffett if utaka have billions of dollars and giving more than 20% will never put you in a position that you'll ever need to collect beun give much more than 20% and there's a beautiful movement I don't know if you know it in America it's called the something pledge what's it called the giving pledge did Warren Buffett started someone some great philanthropist started Bill Gates started it right for people who have billions of dollars the giving pledgees to give away at least 50% of your net worth because for generations to come they will not be impacted in Iota but you can enormously impact the world Hali we created a Jewish there is a movement and there are people working on this but the Jewish giving pledge because there are there's enough Jewish billionaires to solve every Jewish financial problem on the planet and uh one of them is the state of Florida we're grateful in Florida to them for for helping solve the Jewish Education one but there are enough out there to solve it to be able to solve it but if you're not a billionaire if you're not a billionaire then you're not allowed to give more than 20% so don't be irresponsible this is 10 to 20% and then we have a fun we have a backer he has capacity and he says what you're going to spend on your L vaness Rogue get the nice one when you have a choice you go I get this a lot you know I I get the privilege of being invited when people knock down a house and build a new house or do a major renovation as the rabbi I'm the first one to see it why not to give it a blessing Rabbi can you walk to house with me to tell me where and how many muas I need almost every time I have the same experience which is incredible shock when we get to the end how many doorways they inadvertently built that need muas and the reality of how much a mizza costs and how much was not included in the budget of their new home for Maas and then the follow-up question comes when they contact the Sofer and the Sofer says I have muas for this price this price and that price say Rabbi does it really make a difference like it's just going in the case and you roll it up and does it really matter the Sofer told me that even the minimum one is kosher so isn't that good enough to get the minimum one that's also kosher isn't that isn't that good enough to which I answer iess toward your new home was everything else you put in the home good enough or did you go for a little more than good enough and on my way out of your home I noticed a car in your driveway and was it good enough was it a car that got you from point A to point B because there are cars that get you to point A to point B that you can still roll down the windows there are cars that get you to point A to point B that still uh have a tape player in them so is it good enough it gets you point A to point B or did you want some bells and whistles did you like a nicer ornament on the hood did you look for more features so K says to us when you're going to buy that muza I promise you I'm the funer I'm the donor I'm the philanthropist I've got the capacity and I'm telling you whatever you spend to do the Mitzvah right I've got you covered and I'm telling you within reason whatever you spend on chabas and Y to have a beautiful chabas and Y within reason I've got you and I'm telling you that when people are hungry and when people need and you're asked to give up to 20% I've got you and when you say I know that and I live that and I don't hesitate because of that you're living with amuna and when you say but I don't know and it still hurts and I don't want to and do I have to and now you start to rationalize everything else also but a portion of my tuition already go and by pay taxes and from the government they also provide welfare so I'm get you start to figure out why you're already doing enough and you don't need to say yes and you don't need to give so are you living we really living with amuna are you really living with amuna here we're going from the MS to theun Ms is you could chuckle all day in sh you could answer you could talk the talk all day long and now someone ask you to give St you're going from MS now the question is is it all talk or is it action because it's all talk until it's action is it lip service or is it ven moelle check credit card service are you ready to cash we take whatever you know whatever you want to we give we're happy to accept but says I'm testing this is the test of your amuna I'm the one who provides and you're good to go and this is a separate fund you could decide when it comes to the rest of your assets you want to go out to eat not go out to eat redo the furniture what kind of what you can afford how you want to live that's all up to you but this separate fund shab and what was the last thing H Mitzvah that separate fund I'm the funer I'm the donor I replenish it I've got the capacity to do it and I'm telling you don't hesitate to do it within my within my rules because those funds have rules and my rules 10 to 20% but don't go over the rules within my rules you have nothing to worry about and if we still hesitate and worry it is a gut check about how much we really live with why was this H why was this harder after the what did the say that once the was destroyed we lost the kind of people who so happily and readily give for mitzah shabas andak why why did we get this little hesitation this little hiccup this little delay this little will I have enough what does that have to do with the because what was the the bikash was the intense accessibility to Hashem the intense experience of being in the presence of Hashem B MDES had 10 Miracles a day that happened there b MDES was a place that you came with confidence B MDES was a place that you came with absolute knowledge that there's Hashem and he has a plan and with the absence of the b mikdash in that vacuum the that that absence that then now there is doubt and uncertainty and delay and hesitation and wonder how could it be how could it be as I re described last night she sat on a bed getting up from Shiva after one of her four and 10 terrible losses unbelievable woman unbelievable amuna unbelievable speech presentation but she sat there and she felt that moment Hashem where are you and how could you and enough already how many times how many people how am I meant to continue on how that's aik when we had a bikash it didn't mean that nobody died there wasn't illness and tragedy and loss it meant we could go there and we could feel that there's a bigger plan there's a Master Plan and there's a Creator and there's a source and somehow it all makes sense and we go to the B mikash and we'd be comforted and we get confidence we could walk away having resolved that uncertainty and doubt and where do we go now and what do we do now when but we read more of these stories of soldiers whoan are killed of families who are sending sh please God should be no more of friends who are overcoming illness or waiting to have their child or looking to get married and living in loneliness and we say Hashem where that's is the month of Tas and as I said please God we won't have a three weeks this year but if we do this is the mood and the mentalities that where all of that is a result that doubt that uncertainty that pain that feeling of why and that it's random and that it doesn't have to be that it doesn't make sense is Allan it's Allan so included in thatan of doubt and uncertainty and where are you and why is also and I don't want to give and how could I give and will I have enough will I have enough financial insecurity Financial anxiety a lot of marriages suffer a lot of tension there are three things that most couples fight over which all the data shows and one of of them is money I'll let you guess the other two because not you have it God forbid but you've heard from your neighbors so one of them is financial people fight over money and often it's because one of the members of the couple come from a background that had Financial insecurity and if you grew up not knowing where the food would be on your table if you grew up with hand me- down clothing if you grew up where you packed away all those leftovers and you never threw food out because you didn't know if you'd had enough it's hard to not take that into your marriage no matter how much you have and it creates a lot of tension sometimes where a person can't accept that they're comfortable even when they are they live in such a way that creates this anxiety but that Financial insecurity is all also because if we really believe that there's Hashem and he provides and we have what we need and will always be okay then we'd never feel Financial insecurity yeah we'd have to figure out sometimes how we're going to pay the bill but if we really believe that the food that we have is like the M that falls from shamayim and it'll fall for us we'll always have what we need and we'll have enough and we'll get by then we' never panic because we know he will always provide it doesn't mean that there won't be stressful moments challenges and that it'll be pleasant to get the B bills in the mail but it means that we'll live with confidence all that's so where did they establish where was it that that when you give away from Mitzvah what you spend on a Mitzvah you're not allowed to spend more than you give you can't spend more than 20% of your of your worth why was the city in Israel the place that the sanedrin the high court were exiled to after the destruction of the B mikdash when the B mikdash stood when the temple stood our high court our Supreme Court the sedon sat in the B mikdash because for us law is not independent of religion the SED was in bikash our law is a religious law and it's divinely inspired and our legal Scholars our our Supreme Court Justices are endowed with Divine insight to reach their conclusions but when the B mikash was destroyed where was the Supreme Court exiled to to the city of Usha so Usha they went from the city of yav so and they'd give even more than 20% away for doing mitzvas even on the Maas to buy the nice ones the nicean you could buyin I get that question also my kids Bar Mitzvah I called the Sofer there are do there are small and there are there are the uh I don't want to name cars because I don't want to insult anyone but there are the this kind of car and there's the that kind of car of filin and of muas there's the old iPhone and there's the newest model iPhone of tan and of mza deal so before people always spent on the Nic when it came to a Mitzvah when it came to a Mitzvah and they weren't afraid why because they knew that hem provides he takes care he's the funer he's the provider but after and they saw the panic in Usha they had to enact a rule don't give more than 20% if you really trust and believe in Hashem then Hashem comes through for you and you have nothing to worry about but if you have uncertainty and doubt if you have anxiety if you're will living with financial insecurity then they establish in order to protect in order to comfort the 20% rule we lost the we lost those special people we lost that capacity those who are able to live life even financially and say I'm not worried but I spend on my lul vaness and my Suka would I spend on my shabas table what I give to Saka I have no fear there's no anxiety or insecurity but Hashem will take care and provide that confidence that courage that was lost with theban but you see from here we'll read this last paragraph and end there shapo you see from here that the definition of if you live only in the here and now and you live only with the number it says in your bank account then you're living only in the here and now you're not living with him you're not living with him if you want to live a life of amuna if you want to live a life of amuna then your whole view the filter through which you see the world and interpret the world and experience the world will be altogether different it's what we've been talking about for years now first of all your filter of I'm never stuck if you live without Nuna filter then when your flights delay are cancelled or when you're stuck somewhere you're stuck but if you live with the amuna filter you're never stuck you are where you're meant to be and now figure out why what you're meant to do there what is your mission but you're never ever stuck and it's such a good filter because the other filters bring anxiety and angst and all kinds of blood pressure issues and health issues and emotional issues and the filter of amuna that lets you see everything and say I'm not stuck and I'll have enough this is what I meant to spend it on and it will all be good wow what a filter now I'm peace now I'm at peace and I have calm and I have my mental physical emotional health and my relationships are all enhanced and enriched what a filter you know how much the filter costs nothing you know what you need to do to qualify for it nothing you know who can get it who has a right to download it everyone so I don't wait just download that filter and look at the world and see it and the people in it and the relationships in it and your bank account in it through that filter of am through we can attach ourselves to him and you can accept through that filter we have the capacity to get a glimpse that the world is operating the way that he wants not according to me I wish that person were still here that's my plan I want this thing to happen on my schedule the building of this campus or of my house or of this renovation I want to go travel I want to go I want things to happen my way when I get married or when I have a child or when this fer will be answered but when we look through that filter we realize I make my efforts I take my initiative I do my part but in the end of the day it's up to him he organizes and orchestrates everything and I trust and I surrender to him now you're living at a whole other level everybody else is living down here and you're living up here everybody else is living down here and you're living up here and you're living up here after you see and you know that this is the truth you know this past shabas aikan spoke fought in Gaza for many months survived near misses left his wife and had to escape out of Gaza to be present at the birth of his first child were a beautiful article on Times of Israel about it if you want to read it and he spoke on off the record on shabas morning and he said as a religious Soldier he said he feels bad for the non-religious solders with whom he interacts and his unit and so on he said because he walked us through the challenges and the difficulty and the losses that he experienced in this war how horrific the pain the sacrifice he said but the religious soldiers know how this ends those were his words we know how this ends this Hashem he's in charge he's in control there's a purpose there's a plan there's a g there's a Redemption We Know How It Ends and we know what we're fighting for and we know that he's got our back and these were his words he said those who don't have that they're only fighting about tactics and weapons and strategy and casualties and numbers and if that's all your living is in the north they have this how many rockets and who's backing them and what are they doing and tragically two civilians killed yesterday how many have been killed and you're living down here we also have to live down here the religious soldiers don't say no thanks I don't need a weapon I have they say yes I need a weapon and thank you for replenishing my ammo of course they also live down here but they choose to not only live down here they also live up here there's something bigger going on there's someone bigger watching over and there is a bigger plan and we know how this ends and now we have to go do our part that's our Mission that's how the soldiers are living who am I to disagree with him but one could argue that there's no such thing as a non-religious soldier right now because my experience in five trips to Israel since October and going to army bases is that without aipa having never put Onan never observed shabas in their life are some of the most religious soldiers religious soldiers not only because there's no atheist in a foxhole because October 7th woke up the Pint and the sleeping Jew and the October 8th Jew knows what we're fighting for and that there is someone something and something so maybe maybe one can argue there's no such thing as a secular Soldier as a secular Soldier fighting this fight but we are also soldiers in our lives soldiering on in the fight that we're fighting whatever it is that we're overcoming and we too are meant to not only live down here what was the lab report what did the doctor say we're meant to not only live down here what does it say in my bank account what did my financial advisor warn me we're not meant to live down here that says what happened with the flight is it the we're meant to live up here how do you get from down here to up here ma how do you get from down here to up here put on that filter see that world through the filter of amuna the amuna filter I wish it were so easy that in the App Store we could download it I wish it were at that easy it takes work but it's well worth it when we speak about hem then we find that faith and we find hem both let's finish once we know this is the truth this is the reality we can live with this that's how the truth can find itself into my simple life into each and every one of our simple lives this EMS that there's a God Finds Its way in through the amuna that we live with and the amuna that we live with doesn't happen in this room in this sh yeah the sh is a place that we come to talk to Hashem it's a place that we come to learn Torah and go to Shir but that's not the laboratory of amuna the battlefield of amuna it's easy that's where you open the sitter and you dve and you Shuckle you learn you listen you volunteer the place of amuna is real life in my simple real life how do we react from the little things like the Wi-Fi went down to the big things like a sh home and hanging aign that's the the battlefield that's the laboratory that's where we live with the MS manifest through the amuna by putting on that filter in seeing it in that way and what a better life it is what a more meaningful life it is and we have people to lean on who are our hotspots that when we buffer and we waver and we don't have bandwidth and we feel I don't know where you are and I have doubt or last night go find her online and listen she's apparently very popular on on Instagram did she say go listen to her messages go follow she is a hot spot of amuna direct connection high speed what she's been through a challenge other to match not that we compare everyone's different but what she's been through and she is an absolute highspeed Hotpot ofuna and there are others just a couple weeks ago I interviewed the Zimbalist who lost their son Moshe in Gaza and you listen to them and others we've interviewed and had on generly others they hot spots of amuna when yours waivers when your filter begins to fade and you need to download it again and it's not downloading and you have to rely on somebody else's lean on the incredible people we have incredible people there are incredible people around us and connect through them andem we will so that the next time we meet by the time we're back from our vacation we'll meet in celebrating the arrival of mhia please God until then we should hear and have Theos to us please stay for all ofum we're gonna complete all ofum it'll take only two minutes tonight's behind the be Douglas Murray great conversation with Douglas Murray and we also last we have incredible car magnets that's say I stand with Israel and American flag Israel flag our actual flags on the car became challenging there's a great big magnet put it on your car suggested donation to help us cover the cost but if you don't want just take it if you'll put it on your car they're available right now go grab them until next time may we have boros toos