Living With Emunah (Part 294) - Need Torah to Persevere Challenges

good morning B it should be a good morning we should yes for we should hear only only good things I want to thank our generous and sponsors Dr zavia and Bella Morgan sponsor in memory of Dr Brian gin in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer we remain always appreciative to them also this morning is sponsor the coveres in memory of Dr Jacob M Hiller who exemplified and modeled also this morning is dedicated for a speed M Le we are starting a new Li we completed that and we're going to start learning something new together we'll dive into it in a moment but first a um a couple of thoughts and comments first of all you know you're successful when your children are also always thinking about good druss material for you and amuna she material for you so my holy son-in-law hill yesterday said that his beautiful daughter my granddaughter Mary was lying on her stomach little baby and he went to pick her up and he picked her up but as she was being lifted and she didn't know who was doing this to her she started to cry she panicked she was frightened and when he turned her over and she saw that it was her father she had a big smile and she was Cal so he wanted me to know there's an amuna message that sometimes it feels like we're being jolted and lifted and there's a bunch of um we're going through turbulence in our life and we feel why and who and what's happening and where am I going but if we just turn over and look up and we'd realize it's our father who's lifting us up if we'd look at Hashem and we'd see it's our father who's lifting us and carrying us then we could have a big smile then we go for the ride now he didn't tell her where she was going he didn't tell Mary what's happening but she didn't need to hear because as long as you look up and you see your father once you know it's your father you're not panicked anymore you're no longer frightened that's all you need so today's uh amuna message brought to you by he'll Storch my son-in-law he's good he can stay he can remain in the family was a good uh was a good message bar was a beautiful beautiful Amun thought number one number two number two in these difficult dark days this this mat that we still find ourselves in and we're so desperate to get out of we want to wake up every day we want to wake up and we want to see a headline that sino's head is on a plate he was taken out that the hostages were brought home that Kamas is no longer that hisbah was eliminated every day we want to desperately wake up to that to that reality and we feel and we fear that we need mashiah to come for that to happen we want to hear the president of MIT was fired we want to hear that AOC is no longer in Congress we want to hear that we got a long list of things that we want to hear and it feels like it it will take until msia comes and on the way in someone shared with me gonna give out those cards for mhia mhia br's cards what are mhia br's cards what are they bras to say when mhia comes okay I wasn't even familiar it's good to know we got to all get ready we got to get ready we hope he comes before the end of our Shear so on the one hand we're gonna take a card and there's a will say to welcome and we can't wait even though it's taking time nevertheless every day we're waiting every day we're waiting patiently and patiently and patiently and we wanted to come but I want to share with you as we begin this morning a mess of thought thead from was at my home last night he gave a Shear to men in our backyard and he shared the following thought among many others he's an author of 50 far he's a big sadic he's a very holy person Ruger said the following he said sometimes we're sitting and we're waiting for mhia and every day he doesn't come every hour he doesn't come we Define and we describe as a disappointment it was a it was a failure mh's not yet here o NE what's the point what's the point of it all he's not here what a failure what a failure and to live a life that we're only sitting and waiting and in the interim and during that time we see it as a failure that's the failure that's the failure because while of course we long for We believe We Get Ready for we should have Ron the of that we've gotten very close with and uh the I don't even remember when but videos of him that I've shared when I've been on the trips to Israel r who's serving in the North of Israel he he took with him a suit he took with him a suit when he's called up for meim because he's ready for when mashia will come who did that people grabbed some forgot to take their Fillin they left on Sim T October 7 they didn't bring the Fillin but he had the where with all his mindset was I'm being called up in the reserves I'm going to the northern northern border to fight he brought with him a suit so that he's ready to welcome Messiah that's Ron I shared with you he's the one who carries the in his pocket and he said to me you want to see my secret weapon I thought he was going to take out a grenade and Uzi and RPG a new type of gun or a bullet with a new tip at the end he takes out this tiny little tiny little sh and he starts waving it to the enemy says this is my secret weapon take that take that take that is he's living with with we're sitting and we're waiting for Masia but saider last night we shouldn't think that in the interim a life until he comes is a wasted squandered life this is life this is where Hashem wants us this is what we're meant to be doing and we can have a meaningful and full relationship a rich relationship with Hashem so if you're sitting and waiting and watching and saying he's not here and therefore everything is a failure because he's not here yet so then that's a failure of a life you've forfeited and you've squandered all that opportunity and all that meaning but we need to lean in and we need to embrace and we need to make the most of and we need to bring him and we need to to bring him and even if he's not here but Hashem is here even in the gas of MIM those are the Paras that we're reading and they're very appropo as we're reading the harshness of the gas of MIT the Exile in Egypt in which we spoke about yesterday in the parm turns to mosha mosha turns to enough enough enough funerals enough widows enough orphans enough parents bearing children enough shivas enough enough enough we can't take it I can't take it it's enough this G we just want we just want G he said also last night of kuger he said you know we want a small goola goola means Exile darkness and harshness and bad news goola is exile and we want AEM it should be small why do we have to suffer it should be small so but you know there's only one difference between the word goola and Gula what's the difference between the word goola and Gula one letter the letter Al Al is always the Al Al is the one and only the unique and sing the one hasem Al the master of the universe Al the so he said if you have a small go and you add the AL to get to Gula but it's going to be a small GAA because you made the font small you made your Goa small and you add the Al it's GNA be also a small G so get out of the way and let Hashem do his thing he knows he knows when it feels like a big G because he's setting us up for a big G and the AL is going to insert himself the AL is going to enter the picture and enter the scene and on the heels and on the shadow of the Holocaust was the birth of the state of Israel and The Six Day War that hovered over us where they dug Graves hundreds of thousands thinking they were going to lose a significant part of the population we recovered and we have a unified yush IR Kesh and sometimes when it feels like that Goa is so big and so overwhelming and where is mhia when the AL adds his on the AL of answers so that big Goa is set up and positioned for that big that Big G we're waiting we want we're longing but in the interim while we wait it's not squandered and it's not wasted in the interim and while we wait is an opportunity to be with and to feel the presence of of Hashem to be with and to feel the presence of Hashem so each day we're in Gus is not a farf fallen day and it's a wasted day and it's a frustrated day and it's a day that we forfeit because after all here we are Hashem is pasin we're still in gullas Hashem has determined and decided here we are still in Exile it's not a wasted day that's where we're meant to be that's where he put us this is where we have to be for right now and now the question is what do I have to do what's my mission what's my purpose why am I here what difference am I meant to make what's my role how am I a leader what am I meant to do while I'm here so yes I'm waiting yes I'm longing for mashia to come but it's not a holding pattern it's not like while I'm here there's nothing else I can do and my entire definition is determined by whether he comes or not and we'll have a card and in our wallet in our pocket with a br we're ready to say to welcome him by the end of this year he should be here and escort us all we'll go see Rabon in his white suit in Israel coming from Victory Hal and if not that's not what was meant to be today and what's meant to be today is the we're gonna do and the daving we're gonna do and the bras we're gonna say and the we're gonna feel and the amuna that we're going to practice and all the other things that we're going to do to repair hashem's world to repair world I thought it was such an important message he said many things more than that but among the things he said of kuger I thought it was such an important message is that we shouldn't Define our day by whether mhia came or not whether this Goa ended because we have to be ready for a big big G the AL to add his letter to add his name in I want to share with you onea email and then we'll get into this new Lima the new Lima today is fromit was rebi in the miror in in Europe Shanghai and thenes and we have a collection of the of the of the mus that he gave in the Mir it's called it's called and at the end of s mus is an addendum of the of the S the new edition of mus is an addendum called he spoke and he gave tremendous to the Yesa to the m yes throughout the sixth day war when the period of the Six Day War and those were collected so going to learn the same message is what we need to hear now the same messages are what we need to hear now but first a quick email from our not from our sponsor I've been listening to the quite some time always look forward blah blah blah I'm at the stage of and the be a lot of through the Journey every share I look forward to hearing the emails where everyone takes the lessons gives over and app applies them to their lives I have a story and I'm excited to share around nine months ago this is more this is a great story but it's not an Israel war story it's more back to the old days of of the mundane story but they're important also to see and to feel hasem in our lives every day and and where he is around nine months ago my mother gave me a shopping list of things to buy for pesak well I'm very aware of the stereotype of not sending men shopping I decided that day I'm going to prove The Stereotype wrong as I went through the list thoroughly making sure everything on the list was marked off with perfection I was excited to come home with a great job well done as I came home with a big smile on my face handing the bags over to my mother I said who said you can't send men shopping she went through the bags one by one seeing everything those been checked off exactly the way she want until right before I was about to take my Victory lap I heard oh boy I turned around confused thinking to myself this can't be she looked at me holding the cranberry sauce and said to me this isn't Kosher for pesak not to mention the story had been turned over a 95% Kosher for pesak I somehow managed to get the non- Kosher for pesak cranberry sauce versus the Kosher for pesak one but the story was not over yet fast forward nine months later the family is having a big get together for shabas a lot of cooking had to be done my mother was making her delicious cranberry apple crunch however we ran out of cranberry sauce she wanted me to go quickly out to buy the sauce because if not now there is not going to be enough time before shabas to do it all the cars were currently being occupied there was no way to get to the store and neb the family would not have the world famous cranberry world famous cranberry apple crunch it's good stuff makes cranberry apple crunch once upon a time that was called dessert somehow that made it into the main course of the meal made it into the main course of the meal but anyway I digress let's get back to the email um as she looked desperately through all the shelves all through the kitchen hopefully to find one more can I heard her scream my name saying look what I found lo and behold the cranberry sauce I accidentally bought for pesak I didn't know then but I was really buying for this shabas the moment this all occurred I knew I had to share the story with the r showing a classic example of was orchestrating everything from All Points in time causing me to buy the B cranberry sauce in order so we could have it for shabas N9 months later nothing is a coincidence a pull the strings the whole time and every time a mother sends her son shopping if they make a mistake it's really Hashem telling them what to buy I like that moral of the story I fully concur with that conclusion thank you much I hope you enjoyed the story I very much enjoy the story and I agree entirely with it and it is a great example not every example is at the highest level of the person who suffered a terrible loss some examples are also uh are also the mundane type and this is one but what's beautiful about it and we'll get back to my encouraging you if you don't yet have with your family or friends or for yourself a WhatsApp group called WhatsApp group in which every day you find the story to share of what happened the parking spot turns out you got the cranberry sauce that you thought was the wrong one was the right one the flight it was changed it was delayed it was canceled but it worked out there's always and you don't just you don't just leave a message a voice note for the stories that worked out and then can you believe it it all worked out perfectly but also when it didn't and it was frustrating or disappointing it's all from above it's all from it is all from Hashem tonight's behind the be that's going to be posted dropped tonight is a conversation with hadash lern his husband Alicia was killed in Gaza this Friday night shabas will be the schim marking it his grandparents Alicia's Grandparents were members of ouru for many many years alone and Sterns his uncle lives still in our community he's a member of our our community and he was an exceptional person who Amun and were off the charts and how he lived and how he lived his life and the conversation with her is she's just not from this world the stories that she tells and the feeling that she has and the Gratitude to asem all with her six children the youngest is 10 months old who won't have memories of her father and never even said the word ABA yet she's not speaking yet and she addresses that and yet within it finds the capacity to feel that everything is from Hashem and when I asked her he he was done with the reserves I didn't know this there a law in Israel once you have six children you are released from the Army and you no longer have to serve in reserves you no longer are called up in miluim so when a war broke out and his WhatsApp group with the rest of his unit everybody was mentioning they were called up he wasn't called up and he called his Commander why wasn't I called up he said because you were released because you're 10-month old now 10-month old because your sixth child was born he said that's nice I'm showing up anyway and he went to serve anyway put on his uniform and he served anyway and I asked her do you do you regret his decision do you think he made a mistake would you take it back and you have to hear her answer it's just not from this world it's not from this world for everything and for everything including the fact that she says and I'm sorry to get graphic but she says she says you know the anti-tank missile that that killed her husband hit him from the waist below so she was still able to have him to say goodbye to and to see his face one more time and Hashem is amazing and she's so grateful and so many didn't have that and she starts to list a long list of things that Hashem did for her even in this horror for which she is so grateful and sees the hand of Hashem so from the apple cranberry sauce stories of our life to the hadash lern stories of our life and many people in between the tools that it gives us to live our life I spoke to a group of women yesterday were here on AIC Mission and I met an amazing woman whose husband at ALS and and passed away and she told me she had stumbled Upon Our amuna on Spotify which is music to my ears I love hearing that I love Spotify it's a great algorithm that keeps me going that people stumble upon and she shared with me that from when she stumbled upon it until her husband's Nama left this world they listened every day together to an Amun sometimes two a day sometimes one more than more than once and that's not a big deal the Amir is very easy to give I'm busy thinking about apple cranberry crunch that's easy forgive but she then described to me and I told her to please send me an email not because I want it for my files because I want to share it with you and I hope she will take the time to do it because she's extraordinary she went on to list when he passed away and the family and what they were able to do and they were able to bury and Hashem is so amazing and the amuna muscle that she had so worked out and that was so strong and robust was ready to bear that weight of the experience of the loss of her husband it was tragic and it was horrific and she cried and she's grieving and of course he's Irreplaceable to her amuna doesn't make our problems go away amuna doesn't make H life be happy go lucky amuna doesn't lead to life Happy Ever After amuna doesn't do that that's not what amuna does but what amuna does is it gives us the tools and it gives us the kak and it gives us the strength to navigate wherever we need to go that's what amuna does Amun is like Torah the writes in he says torah's Torah comes from the language of light if the light is off in the room let's say it's night time there's no light from the outside if the light's off in the room and we're in a room there's a beima there are chairs there are tables there are stenders how am I gonna get from here to the door to get out if the lights's off I'm gonna trip I'm gonna stumble I'm gonna fall over I'm gonnaa hurt myself so what is Torah Torah turns the light on Torah Milla says tor turns the light on how the light help the light didn't empty the room of the table and the chairs and the standers you know what the light did it let me now navigate them I'm able to get to the destination to where I want to go and I'm able to navigate around or over or under or through whatever is in my way it doesn't change the reality of the world but it gives me the tools the light the illumination to be able to navigate that's what Torah that's what amuna do it doesn't Torah doesn't take away and a life of amuna it doesn't take away loneliness or infertility or illness or poverty or War it doesn't remove those things we live in a world in neb unfortunately until mhia comes those are the things that we have to overcome those are the challenges that we have to confront what Torah and amuna do is it gives us the strength the tools the power to be able to navigate to get to the destination to where we need to go for the little things like missing an ingredient that could frustrate having a flight canceled my 3:00 meeting just texted me right before we began he wrote mazeltov you have your 3 o'cl back my flight was just canceled I won't be coming in today but there's a me there's a me now for me it's easy I'm grateful to have my three o'clock what are you doing at three o'clock I get together at three o'cl I have a three o'clock there plenty of things to fill that time L you worry for me but um but for him it's frustrating he had a flight he had meetings he had plans he had some a whole lot of things that were orchestrated so amuna does doesn't change that well I have auna my flights aren't supposed to get canceled I have auna I'm not supposed to get bad news I have auna my husband's supposed to come home from war Amun doesn't do that tuna turns the light on it gives us the strength and the power whether you're missing an ingredient whether your flight is cancelled whether your husband doesn't come home from war or whether your husband is not cured from the ALS it gives us those tools not that we don't cry and we're not sad and we don't grieve but that we have the capacity the strength despite it to be able to navigate it I'll give you one other preview of the conversation with her many of the soldiers who went to war wrote a letter This Is tragically the minog to write a letter to your family in case you don't come back in case you don't come home Dr Joshua Burman is parents are members here wrote an article this week on Times of Israel he collected several of those letters and put them together we're going to put that article in the weekly because it's so powerful to read the letters of these fallen soldiers and what was on their mind before they went to battle so hadash shares that her husband Alisha did not write a letter and when the others in his tank asked why he didn't write a letter he said because there's nothing I have that's unsaid I've told my family exactly how I feel about them and what I value and what I live for they know it all I don't need to leave them or write a letter for them that's her message to us in his memor is don't leave anything unsaid go call go meet go reconcile go speak to go live go live so your children don't have to read in the letter oh that's what you care about oh we never noticed you do that live a life so that nobody needs to read a letter to know what you value they simply saw you demonstrate what you value it's an unbelievable idea that he said there's nothing wrong with writing the letter those who wrote The Letter left a beautiful gift in these circumstances to their family too so Kal it's not that anyone who wrote a letter left too many things unsaid or it's a a failure in them their letters are beautiful they're meaningful we're sharing them in the weekly this week because they are inspiring and Powerful for all of us but I thought it was also a very powerful message and an important charge that she gives us to say that live a life where nothing is unsaid go live a life that no matter what happens because any of us whether one is going to war or just wants to wake up in the morning none of us know what that day will bring none of us know so don't leave things that are unsaid say what we have to say the handouts here if you'd like to follow it inside this is during The Six Day War ER says somebody who weakens themselves somebody who weakens themselves who is LAX when it comes to Torah does not have the strength to overcome and persevere during a crisis during a challenge in time it's very counterintuitive I would have thought you're running back and forth to doctors you're running back and forth to a hospital you're running back and forth to treatment you're running back and forth to a to a a rehab you're running back and forth to the Army you're running back and forth to who has time who has time to learn if there's ever a time that you're excused it's during an illness it's during a war it's during a time of worry it's during a time of Crisis if there's ever a time that you're excused from Torah you're legitimately pre occupied with staying alive I would have thought but it's not what the says 63 say you want to survive you want to persevere you want to overcome you want to have the strength then you need to learn Torah you need to learn Tor you need to have contact you need to have connection you need to draw strength and power from and protection from Torah from Torah I shared with you eim Jackman the young Soldier was killed whose father texted me when I reached out to him that his son that epim got up early every day in Gaza to Davin without distraction and to learn the DFI and hadash is about Alisha too there was a picture she got from Gaza from his unit the tank unit that they had some downtime this one's schling this one's making that yucky Soldier coffee in a little pot on the fire this one is uh eating this one's resting and Alisha is learning DFI learning the whether it's Alish learning Jackman who woke up early in Gaza woke up early not after eight nine T hours of restful sleep we mentioned last shabas soldiers can't take their shoes off you go weeks or months at a time getting without getting undressed and without taking a shower it's possible when I told our son that his cousin hasn't taken a shower in weeks he's in Gaza fighting you know you can't shower for weeks a light bulb went off and he said can I join the Army you you don't have to shower for weeks he's an age that's okay that's okay if he were a little older I'd be nervous but he's an age that that's still okay when he said that so it's not like it was after eight nine 10 hour it's not like a hot bath and a warm shower and a f Jackman had a good sleep and now we woke up early to learn the DFI before going back to fight it's after sleeping with a uniform and shoes on and a vest and not showering or changing clothing in weeks or months and despite that waking up early every day to learn Torah because because if you disconnect from Torah if you disassociate from Torah if you don't nourish yourself just like you can't survive if you don't eat in as a rabbi go to a lot of people whether it's bedside in the hospital or elsewhere who are in a time of Crisis and one of the things you know the rabbi things that you got to say is are you eating you got to take care of yourself are you making sure to eat are you taking care of yourself why because you can't take care of others if you don't take care of yourself and you're not going to get better if you don't eat okay it's an a sar I understand it's a crisis but you're GNA not eat you're not sleep that's going to make things better you have to eat you have to sleep because you can't persevere through whatever you need to overcome and confront if you don't eat you don't sleep say you know what goes with eating and sleeping Torah if you don't connect with Torah if you don't embibe some Torah if you don't absorb some Torah whether you're listening whether you're reading whether you're watching whether you're thinking about Torah but if you don't connect with Torah like eating and sleeping you cannot persevere you cannot overcome whatever Torah you are facing now again is giving the where Six Day War where is he giving this delivering this in the B of the he's speaking to B Yesa and he's telling them you have a greater responsibility this is your service this is your contribution to this war you can't say well it's I'm following the news I can't focus I can't pay attention I need a break you can't say that because you know said and many Russ Yesa said it again now after suus and khaka there is no B man there was no khah vacation the soldiers don't get to go home for a long weekend of khah shabas khah soldiers didn't get to go home for a man on the calendar so if your service is in a b Med and learning Torah there is no B man and the Yesa throughout University and elsewhere they cancelled there's no break there's no vacation there's no B man soldiers didn't get it we don't get it said to the Mir in The Six Day War in 1967 and the the col members married those learning in yes who are married need to remind their wives what women what is their Merit what is their women can learn here you are the we have our beautiful mid and we have Mrs can's incredible sheer that is you if you don't go you should all be going in addition to the other mid so women certainly can learn on their own but said the gar at a time that it was not popular or women were not literate to learn true women have many mitz they can do and many that they are occupied with but women's greatest Merit is enabling and supporting and encouraging and empowering the learning of Torah in the lives of those around them even in ordinary times and especially in this moment and I want to dwell on this for a second I want to dwell on this for a second because it often gets underestimated or underappreciated or even is perceived as being some bias misogynistic statement or approach and I want to strongly encourage exactly the opposite because sometimes it can feel you know the the man or the husband or the father he's back in the B medish he's at the col Boker he's at the dfom he's at the he at the he's at the sheer with Ruger and what am I doing I'm driving carpool I'm packing lunch for school I'm making dinner so that or I'm taking care of bedtime so you can be at night later what am I doing andaz say you know what you're doing your is the greatest of them all empowering and encouraging and enabling Li Torah it's the holiest activity and it could and it should transform that effort and that energy you're not driving carpool you're driving the coin to The Bash you're not driving carpool you're driving a soldier to the front line your fifth grader your little fifth grader who you fought to get his pants on and to take the shower and to brush his teeth that fifth grader that your little fifth grader that you're fighting with that is one of the soldiers of claw Isel that when you drive carpool you're dropping him off to his unit to go do his contribution to this war to open his mishna his gar his uh L what's the booklet called laen see how often I help with homework laen that's his those are his weapons so you're making sure his backpack is packed because those are his weapons and you're giving him his lunch because those are his provisions and you're dropping him in fifth grade because that's his unit and you're putting him in his classroom with his rebi because that's his front line and you can murn what is frustrating and annoying and difficult and exhausting and seemingly unfair into the holiest activity into a righteous religious Noble holy activity it's not all you also can come to the and did I leave anybody out I don't want to leave anybody out and uh whoever else teaches in the mid there it's not in Li of or instead of it's an addition to it's an addition to but it should not be underestimated or underappreciated the contribution of enabling and supporting and including muching y usand who wants to turn over and go back to sleep and not make it to the Dai and you throw an elbow in his side and you set four alarm clocks and six snoozes and you tell him hey iarf get out of bed I didn't marry a quitter I didn't marry some low good reject no good reject lazy good for nothing turn over go back to sleep get up and get don't say that I don't want to have to meet with you for Shing P but wake him up and get him and say I know you had a tough day at work I know you're exhausted I know you didn't get much sleep last night I'm not trying to make you feel guilty totally understandable if you don't want to make it out to the sheer tonight but I want you to know if you want to go to the sheer tonight I got your back I got the I got the house I got it covered go I want to encourage you and I want to tell the children isn't ABA amazing he's exhausted he works so hard and yet he still went to go learn you don't understand Theus that you have you don't understand the power that you have you don't understand the influence that you have in the tone of the home in the message to the children to a family into defining a family as a tot of family into bringing out the best in your husband who's counting on you because you're the aaras is that fair maybe not did you sign up for it probably not did the sh bring it up was it on the resume I would like to be in AAS I am prepared to annoy my husband and make sure that he goes to learn will be the best you probably didn't put that on your resume and you didn't tell it to the sh and it's probably not what you spoke about in the Y room when you turn over and want to go back to sleep I will be there to throw an elbow in your ribs I will pour water on your head I will do whatever it takes to get you out that door probably not why is that fair it's not and when you do it and you are the anchor of that home that a and you are defining that home and you are bringing the and the Merit to that home and you are putting that shield and protection around that home and you are making that contribution to CLA into this war fifth grader first grader the high school kid everything that you're doing to enable to encourage to empower to elevate the learning of Torah and the energy that that's bringing to this world it's it it can't be put into words and it takes a moment of mindfulness to not be miserable about another carpool and miserable about packing another backpack and miserable about uring another lunch and snacks and miserable about having to meet the next bus drop off but all those are religious activities those are those are that's the these are units of the army These Are Soldiers giving their contribution packing that backpack with the mishna with the sitter with thees with the lunch that's those are the weapons of and cl it's extraordinary and it's unbelievable and it's unbelievable he's in the B medish 1967 Six Day War he's turning to the B and he says no excuses no b b Torah no long breaks in the coffee room no checking your phone they didn't have phones then no wasting time it's a war it's SAR it's only with Torah he turns to the married the he says to him you go home and you buy your wife a gift you go home and you say thank you to your wife you go home and you recognize and appreciate and put on a pedestal the wife who lets you leave to come learn and to learn extra to go back out for nights later and you make her realize that she is the key and the source and deserves the credit for all of it I'm not giving away the whole thing because I promise you it's still worth watching but ad said that her husband Alicia every roses for the 13 years of their marriage brought her a gift rashes is the woman's holiday they didn't give she didn't get into this but the women didn't give their money to the they didn't make the donation instead they kept their jewelry and when did they run to donate it to the campus expansion plan that's where they ran to go donate it where did they run to donate it the building of the mishkan building of the mishan so Hashem says what am I going to repay them with so he says what do I have left in my in my repertoire my Arsenal in my Storehouse well the I already gave to and he goes through everything that he gave out if I gave what do I have left I'm gonna give rashes to the women R is to women and that's why the records They didn't teach this to you women you know why because it was male teachers but women is a woman's holiday no lry you shouldn't have to make dinner on rashes which either he should make dinner or if you want eat better by takeout you saw what happened when you send the man shopping gets the wrong non Kosher for PES cranberry sauce that's what happens but R KES is a woman's holiday is that just arbitrary Hashem was like what do I have left let's seees I'll just give them that it's quasi holiday it's not even a full holiday you don't even have an no you know why what is rashesh you know what rashes is when is r what does the moon look like ones if I were in charge and I were making a holiday to celebrate the moon I would have established that holiday when the moon is full but when we celebrate rodes it is on the first of the month next time it's the first of the month go outside and look up and what will you see yeah that's tomorrow is tomorrow tomorrow taka so tonight tomorrow go look outside and you will see the moon is barely discernable it is a sliver it is a sliver that's when you make roses make when it's full when it's complete when it's round when it's brightest when you see it high in the sky you're making it when it's a sliver and you have anyone see it where's the moon did the new moon where's the new moon that's when you make roses because what is roses is to be the capacity to anticipate to predict to believe to have faith that something's yet going to come that's why the CLA we don't follow the solar calendar we follow the lunar calendar we are a people of the Moon not the sun because the sun is stationary that same sun is full and it's round and it's always there and it rises exactly this past Friday we had our Sunrise minion at the beach and it was one of those beautiful ones we punked exactly when the Lu says it's supposed to rise whatever it says sunrises you looked up and the tip of the sun came up over the horizon over the ocean was unbelievable unbelievable pictures of it as the sun came up right over the horizon over the ocean sun is predictable sun is full the sun is always there sun is always complete but the Moon it waxes and waines the Moon is sometimes a sliver then it grows larger and even after it grows larger it doesn't stay that way forever so it's not that tonight it's a sliver and then the 15th of the month it'll be full and finally bar it'll stay full it'll be full it'll remain full forever no what happens after it's full what happens the whole second half of the month then it diminishes and it's it's like the Jewish people grows larger and smaller we have our highs and our lows it's the roller coaster of what it is to be a Jew and to be a yid so why do we celebrate rashes when it's a tiny sliver because we know it's growing to grow large We Believe with complete faith and optimism and hope and we know with certainty and confidence that it's going to be full again how do we know that the men they were reliable no the men were panicking and they were therefore building an agle and the woman said buddy husband relax mosha is coming back you miscalculated have a little faith show a little patience relax just relax what are you doing then Moshe says it's time to build a Mishka and they say now go Act take it now we're ready to give so Hashem says oh the women who excel at patience and looking to the Future and being rad and anticipation and Hope and Faith and optimism and belief in a brighter future those women who took us out of MIT we just read last week because when the men gave their wives a get divorced them and said I love you and I really wish I could stay with you but we have to have no more children so I have to separate from you because this world is so harsh this world is so miserable and cruel that we're not bringing any more children into it and Miriam looked up four years old and said to her father you're worse than parro par just wants to get rid of the males you're getting rid of everyone males and females you're worse than parro no children at all you're worse than parro and to am's credit after Musa from a four-year-old he doesn't say go to your room he doesn't say time out he says she's got a point she's got a point and the women went and they beautified themselves in their mirrors that they had in MIM and they attracted the attention of their husband and they reunited with them and they had children they didn't just have children they prolific they promulgated they multiplied they had an incredible amount of children who has children in such a miserable World those who believe that the world is miserable right now but the moon's going to grow full that it's going to be bright that there's a reason to bring children into this world you know when this happened again and what do we do with those mirrors those mirrors were the bottom of the Kor and while Moshe said mirrors instruments of vanity I don't want them in our in our holy mishan Hashem said those are the most precious instrument that there are those are the holiest vessels in a mishan because the women looked in those mirrors to beautify themselves to demonstrate their faith that the world was yet worth bringing children into and you know when we replicated that you know when there was an incredible Jewish population explosion immediately after the shawah in the DP camps displaced people who were skeletons who were Shadows of human beings skeletons survivors in the displaced person's camps had children many children probably again if it were up to the men they would have said we survived that's good enough who has the energy or wants to make the effort to have children to have to send them to school feed them wake up in the middle of the night change their diapers have the small children small problems big children big problems we survive that's enough let's just get on with it and again probably their wives said no that's not why we survived we survived so that we can have children and a continuity and a bright future and in those DP camps this is fact you know how it's fact because you can Google it it's fact check up on me if you want but there was a Jewish population explosion in the DP Camp a people who limped away from a holocaust as mere skeletons were determined that the world would yet become worth bringing children into those women those and because of that women because of that Alisha brought AES gift every every so tonight and tomorrow KES and she said what is she gonna do okay I'll get you a gift whatever you want three o'clock today we'll spend time together happy Roes so she said what am I gonna do Alisha is not here to get me a gift and you have to hear the most incredible story of hash prus when she heard that thought her dur rang and you'll hear the rest when you watch or listen to behind the be that ises so so this is what women Merit is is encouraging and enabling and empowering the learning of Torah their own learning of Torah but also their role and their responsibility to their spouse to their children the other learning of Torah so we only began with the first two paragraphs this week but this was opening message opening message this is my there are six six six speeches that he gave in The Six Day War to the talid of the Yesa we'll go through them together because the messages are the same in the war then and the war now and the opening statement of his message to the b in the war was this is not a time to be distracted from Torah to disengage from Torah to this is a time to IDE as much Torah as possible that's our anchor that's our strength just like we need to eat and sleep in order to be able to persevere and survive whatever we need to navigate so too we need Torah we can't have R you can't have weakening from Torah and so there B Double Down aim young Go Married students of Torah appreciate and thank your wives and double down this is a time that we need to double down each of us figure out in our own way andem will pick up next time please stay forward to we're going to complete all of saer everyone is encouraged to remain