Living With Emunah (Part 273) - Finishing Hashem's Sentence

Muna wonderful to see everyone want to thank our generous sponsors of our Muna series Dr zavian Bella Morgan in memory Dr Brian galbot in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen Chandler was the 10th of Adara is also sponsored by Tammy press on the other side of and malka Michelle and thank you so much for the generosity and sponsorship we are Paige pay base 82 before we continue there just to share with you keep the emails coming I love the emails that I get got a beautiful email from somebody about living with emuna and how it helps so much and they live in Israel they needed a passport it was difficult to get a appointment and they got it in stay wrote and then the Rockets were falling you remember a few weeks ago and they thought it'd be canceled and it was canceled and not knowing what was going to happen Sunday afternoon all seemed quiet a friend wrote on the Yeshua she's looking for someone who can transport milk to a young mother in nativo 10 minutes from State Road who has twins but can't have formula that's when I realized hashem's plan for me I need to make disappointments they wrote so I could help someone else sure enough Mr Adam and say wrote opened up Tuesday morning my daughter and I left early to bring the mother breast milk for the babies everything went according to plan she's even scheduled to get her passport two weeks before her flight thank you for the weekly reminders even though it all worked out it wasn't so clear it would happen and I found myself extremely calm very not like me knowing that he had a plan for me I didn't send this email right away not sure if it's up there with others but felt I would like to know how wide the impact is blah blah blah so yeah living with emuna that's why we get together every week because looking at the mirror brings a calm and a piece and a tranquility and a Serenity that you're going to figure it out by the way speaking of passport stories nobody's curious whether my granddaughter got her passport or whether my kids got back to Israel I was told to post it on the yamuna WhatsApp group but I did not Barack Hashem Friday afternoon at 4 35 in Manhattan Mary Miriam liba got her passport and they left on Sunday back to Israel when they're in Israel doing well so Barak Hashem it all works out and they were calm the whole time because Hashem is a plan life is an adventure and we find out what's in store next and what was the worst that would happen you'd have to delay the return until you got a passport a day a week she'd have to stay with her zaida for a little bit more time there's worse things in the world worst things in the world so when you live with that Muna when we work out those amuna muscles when we have the amuna muscle memory kick in you never get frazzled you never get frightened you never worry you're never anxious because life is a big adventure and you're just waiting to find out what's in store what's exciting on this next step we spoke about the last Shabbos for those who are here when you view yourself as always being in hashem's arms wherever you go that was the dress shop it's a beautiful Insider of it how could the Jewish people be described as being in one place when they went many places I'm simplifying his insight it was very technical I'm simplifying his Insight right now but said you have a mother of a newborn baby she's a businesswoman she has to travel the world she goes for Boca to Miami Airport from there flies to Brazil South America South Africa Australia all throughout Europe and ends up in Israel and after two weeks when you check her passport what does it say three continents 20 countries she's traveled all over the world and if you ask the baby where have you been the baby says I was in one place one place the last two weeks what do you mean you're in three continents 20 countries he says I was in one place I was in my mother's arms all along emotionally his passport is only stamped with one spot he was in his mother's arms true she was all over but when he saw himself being carried safely securely lovingly affectionately in his mother's arms that's the only place that he was and we too have that ability so we don't know what twists and turns life's going to throw our way we don't know how we're going to be redirected and rerouted what detours will come but if you know that you're in hashem's arms then you don't care because wherever the GPS tells you reroutes you detours you but you're in hashem's arms all along so it's where you're meant to be safely and securely it's what's right it's where we're meant to be and we're going to get through it we're going to get through it there will be a tomorrow there is no other choice sometimes often it's incredibly difficult or painful the baby in the mother's arms Financial lovers doesn't write this part but the baby in the mother's arms doesn't always appreciate where they are if the baby in the mother's arms also has a big flight delay or the AC on the on the bus isn't working the baby's also crying and miserable but the baby noses in his mother's arms so it doesn't mean as we go through life we'll always be happy we'll always be comfortable but it means that we know that we're in our father's arms and he carries Us in his arms we know that there's a reason there's a purpose there's meaning and therefore our life should be guided and informed and inspired by API Hashem wherever we go wherever this adventure called life brings us next whatever's waiting in store however this turns out is what's meant to be it's API Hashem I uh somebody sent me something else I don't know the author of this but I love it so listen carefully one evening the prayers of a poor family were answered there was a knock at the door and tens of people stood outside who are you asked the father I'm happiness this is a moon of faith that there is Joy this is Health standing there is success and tough guy over there is power we are what you requested in your prayers he said to the stunned family members but you're only allowed to choose one of us the family members were perplexed what would be the best choice success or health happiness or power eventually the father went over and said we choose amuna as the moon started to enter the house she was followed by all the other wishes what happened to ask the astonished father you said we could choose only one that's right explained happiness but wherever amuna goes we all follow not adorable I don't know who wrote it it's adorable wherever amuna goes we all follow so We crave all these things in life we want to be joyful and happy we want power we want humility we want wealth we want Health we want stability We crave all these attributes We crave all these components of a life but there's one of them that they all follow and that is emuna reminds me of salavechik alachuva Salvation says that there was a psychologist in Boston psychiatrist who came over to him and who said I don't understand this Jewish days of awe days of awe days that you're filled with fear and dread and fright and panic he says I'm a psychiatrist I'm a mental health professional I spend all my time trying to heal people from those very feelings and you're dominating for them Hashem let us live with a healthy fear and awe of you I spend all my time trying to with therapy and support and heal people from that your salvation said that this mental health professional psychologist didn't understand that there's one fear that can alleviate all other fears there's one healthy fear that alleviates and provides relief from all the other debilitating and unhealthy fears so whatever your fear is your fear is public speaking your fear of heights your fear of failure your fear of a Health crisis your fear of the government your fear of War your fear of whatever your fear is if you surrender to Hashem if you if you accept Hashem in life if we live with a healthy fear in awe of him then there's nothing else to fear because he's in charge he's in control so that one fear relieves and resolves all other fears and similarly if you choose that Muna wherever you let amuna in everyone else follows everything else follows so it's a matter of the mindfulness and the Consciousness to be able to make that choice when given all these choices of how to live and what to think about and who to be live with their Muna see the world through emuna filter the world through emuna interpret the world through emuna whatever is happening Lisa's at the airport in Seattle right now wherever you are and whatever you're doing whatever's happening I hope everything's on time you have a good seat there's enough overhead but that metaphor a flight for Life whatever happens it's an adventure Hashem has to be with us wherever we go throughout our journey throughout our encampment he's the one who dictates when we go and where we go and how many legs our journey will have and how it will go and what we be rerouted and what will be detoured or will it go the way that we planned how our itinerary will work out it's all API Hashem it's all from above and the sooner we accept that and the sooner we lean into that and the sooner that we are mindful of it the easier our ride goes as a passenger and the more that we're fighting with him over the steering wheel the more we're in a power struggle over who sets the itinerary the more unenjoyable the ride's going to be so sit back and enjoy and enjoy the ride they tell uh they tell Another Story Another metaphor of a person who had a lot of luggage who needed a ride and so there was a person with their horse and buggy and they saw that individual as Bacha said the rat wagon driver decided to do so he stopped and he said I'm happy to take you I'm going there anyway so he takes the person into his buggy into his wagon the man sits in the back of the wagon and he's clutching his his luggage his suitcase so wagon driver says what are you doing he says you know I feel bad you were kind enough that you're giving me a ride at least let me hold the luggage so the wagon driver said either way I'm carrying it all you might as well put down the luggage and enjoy the ride either way I'm driving either way I'm taking you there so you might as well put down the luggage and enjoy the ride and whatever baggage that we're carrying the baggage of our child's in the baggage of our bringing the baggage of our history and the baggage of our DNA and the baggage of what is around us our environment and the condition and the people just put it down and enjoy the ride let go and let God understand that he says I'm driving and I'm giving you a ride so you might as well put down the luggage and enjoy the ride because you're not helping bike the tighter you hold it the more you clutch it all you're giving up is your happiness all your forfeiting and surrendering is your Serenity so you might as well put it down and enjoy the ride and enjoy the ride because uh we're not in control we're not the pilot anyway all this reminds me that next week our Hashem traveling to another simcha Wednesday so this year next week will be Monday we'll send that reminder on the WhatsApp group if you're not on the WhatsApp group sign up for the WhatsApp group get bonus and money material did everybody listen last week to the song You Only You you alone Only You Hashem if you didn't you failed on your homework you may have to stay after but listen to that song listen to it on a loop listen to it while you're trying to get into a good headspace listen to it if you're forgetting to work out that amuna muscle or you're a Muna memory listen you alone only you you alone only USM okay when I pay base a person asked to try to transcend this world and serve Hashem we could live in this world the here and now only see what's on the surface or we can transcend it and live in a world of possibility alert world the Jewish people ain't masal ISRO we're not bound by what other peoples are bound by we're not bound by rules of History if we were would have disappeared we would have been erased we would have been exterminated long ago we are not bound by the rules of history and the Rules of Nature and mausoleil Israel we're still here we're still talking about it so don't live in the here and now we spoke yesterday in the parish here don't hear the voice of the maraglam in your ear loyako we can't do it hear the voice of Khalif who stands up and says we've got this that if we will it it's not a dream there's nothing that is impediment or will block us if we want it so a person lives with a Muna the piazeps nereban is Ish kodash foreign they were buried in canisters and they were discovered in the onigyanantev archives underneath not all the canisters have been discovered there might be more writings of the piezefner that we are yet to have and anyway 1940 the French had just Fallen to the Germans German iconic and France and he stood up to give a drusha in the Warsaw Ghetto in 1940 and it looked hopeless and Bleak and the Germans were marching taking over all of Europe France had just fallen and what was his message this message the voice of Khalif the lesson and the message of Khalifa he said sometimes in life you're in a dire circumstance and if you're trying to imagine and dream of a way out and it seems beyond the realm of possibility then you're going to give up so stop trying to dream and figure it out because the more that you feel limited by the Box called nature science doctor statistics data the more that you're looking at the reality with the limited finite human eyes and now you're narrowing your options until they disappear and there aren't any or then the more yayish the more Despair and despondency you're going to feel but the point at which you can say you know what Israel Hashem is above Teva he's above nature we are not subject to statistics and data come to this because he says if you look in the Parsha the merograms stand up they grab the mic got a huge attendance and they say to all the Jewish people you know they're Giants they're very strong they're fortified cities look at the size of the fruit they they give out an entire list of very legitimate reasons why it's not going to work out what does Kelly do he gets up he doesn't refute one of their reasons he doesn't take on any of their very compelling arguments he doesn't refute them and dissect them one by one what does he get up and say how despite that so what nevertheless true but we got this because he's got us he's got our back and as long as we surrender to him we've got this now that doesn't mean that every time you say your problems will be cured yeah I wish it were that easy that's not the world that we live in terrible painful bad things still happen to good people and it's not so simple that if you say you get married you have the baby you find the job everybody's healed of illness it's not so simple and nobody should ever suggest it's so simple this world is filled with unbearable pain and disappointment but it means that how do we endure where's our resiliency come from how do we navigate when going through a challenging situation like the piazetzner who has to turn to this people Francis foam the Germans are Marching through Europe the Jewish people are being decimated and exterminated and the piazepzner gets up and the Warsaw Ghetto in 1940 and he says would you believe that in eight years they're going to declare a state of Israel and a Jewish Army would you believe there'll be more total learned in Israel than ever before 8 billion a population in Israel discovering medical breakthroughs don't Despair and don't give up and March on when you embrace them and allow Hashem in our lives we have to leave don't be bound by the limitations and the boundaries of this world the Jews we don't live in this world lived in this world there'd be no shushan the Jews and the Crusades and the Inquisition and the Holocaust lived in this world we wouldn't be here we're only here because we don't live in this world we're not bound by this world news don't be don't live a life that is influenced by by ego and by other motivations and by personal biases by the way remember last week I told you the story about the woman in Starbucks yeah and I said you know it's amazing non-jews they're not shy they're not embarrassed they don't hesitate they're not ashamed but you don't see Jews doing that so I was at a wedding I had the privilege of officiating a wedding on Sunday and the two boys often the Husson choose his friends to be the idea so outside eight minutes I feel responsible when I'm inside a condition to be there also just to help stand guard still some paperwork so these two boys are standing outside the eagle room and uh I just danced up a storm they're and one says to the other you know let's take a minute and dive in for our friends for his marriage and the two boys embraced in a hug and I'm standing there listening eavesdropping and I'm Blown Away these two young men these two boys these two products of our community embraced in a hug eyes were both closed and they were each offering their own Fila for their friend as they stood and it lasted 10 seconds and then they're like go and they went back to whatever schmoozing they were doing I was like so I was wrong I spoke about cloudy so I said only these women in Starbucks hold hands and pray on it and look at these young men look at these boys these bahram who I don't know they saw that modeled for them that you hug and offer us Fila for a friend in their moment of simcha there's like 100 remarkable things about the story 100 remarkable things about them they don't know that I was watching they don't know that I heard I doubt they're going to hear this and know that how much I appreciated it but you know everyone davins for someone who's in trouble for someone who's in dire circumstance you down for somebody who undergoing surgery was diagnosed with an illness needs a is trying to have a child here were two people the diamond for their these are both single boys they have not yet met their pasture so let's stop him for our friend who's we're at his simha he's done he's finished he's he's the lucky lottery winner he's married and they're still not but they didn't say let's ask him to Daven for us they said let's stop him for him I was just blown away and they hugged they were also disgustingly sweaty I was pretty Blown Away by that they were still willing to hug and they hugged and their eyes closed and they died not for the camera not for the Limelight not so that Goldberg would tell the story that is a moon is here they didn't know that I noticed it's just a beautiful thing it was a beautiful thing so that's what it means loka avodas called we're living a different life we're meant to be living in a different reality we're meant to be living in a different plane A Different Dimension the whole world is living down here whole world is living in the stock market statistics and data and politics and politicians and we're living in this place that says Hashem runs the world Hashem chooses leaders and politicians and who knows what tomorrow is going to bring and how things will play out and who will be left standing and who we're just we're looking at the same world but we're looking at it through a different pair of lenses we're living it a very different life so kosman love if the whole time you're thinking what will the people around me so what are the people around me I think I can't interrupt this business meeting and make a bracha what are you gonna think about me what if I lose the deal what if I get firewood if I don't get the job don't think that you say excuse me one second I just want to say thank you for the food I've never heard of anyone who did that with the person opposite them didn't have more respect for them I'm not saying you have to Shackle and I'm not saying that you have to scream and you're spitting on the person opposite you and I'm not saying you have to say pray with me and I'm not saying but properly appropriately sensitively respectfully ayushu it's the first step of and we dive in it every day three times a day we say what do we say what do we say don't let me be embarrassed let me let me be with let me be with those who have faith don't let me ever be embarrassed or ashamed Stadium I'm diving at the terminal in the airport I'm in a place where I have to make an Ashley outside the bathroom I'm making a bracha before I eat because that's what a Jew does don't ever let me embarrassed don't ever let me be ashamed don't ever let me hesitate to do the right thing about my business deal but it's Shabbos but it's like to shut down the website but I have to get a hat there is involved in the deal don't ever let me be embarrassed or ashamed without him that's what we dab him three times a day let me place my faith in you not men without an invention let me know where my real life and sustenance and health comes from because everyone else is always so worried what would love this thing will they follow me will they like me will they forward me will they hire me will they become a client we don't live in that place we do what's right and we respect that we care the environment how many people think that they're worshiping Hashem when they're really worshiping themselves when it's really about their ego their desire their Drive their name their honor their Glory commercials and how many people even were doing all the right things but are doing it for the wrong reason used to say you know life's like a circle and there are points all around the circle and those points are dominant learning all these points around the circle boom doing all the right things but what what is at the center of the circle all those points on the circle what do they point back to at the center of the circle is that Hashem or is it you is it that it makes you feel good that's why you do those things is it because it gives you honor and Glory going to give you good kids good is it because it gives you a good name or creates good business opportunities or helps your reputation what is in the center of the circle that's what he used to challenge us it's great that you're in Yeshiva you're doing all the right things on the outside of the circle toughening learning meet those working great wonderful but what's at the center of that Circle why are you the last one of the base measures because you can't get enough of hashem's Torah because you want everyone to say you're the last one of the best matters now by the way it's not so bad if that's the reason too not so bad even if you're doing it for the wrong reason not so bad you'll come to learn to do it for the right or the good reason not so bad but at least we have to have a self-awareness you have to have self-awareness you have to know yourself and your drive and your motivation and your love language and why you're doing what you're doing and constantly be reassessing and reevaluating and bringing Hashem back into the conversation constantly be saying it's about you we have to constantly say to ourselves means that we have to surrender to Hashem we have to submit to Hashem it's about him it's not about us we work for him he doesn't work for us it's about his blood now it happens to be that in working for him he's the best boss in the world he's got the best benefits pays the best salary the most appreciative and he wants us to be happy he wants us to be happy what a boss we work for him but it happens to be that the work he asks us to do for him is the very work that gives us eternity the work that we have to do for him that he asks us to do is the work that gives us the greatest fulfillment and happiness and joy in the world there's nothing like it it's the greatest purpose for why we're here it's the best boss ever so we have to know that we work for him he doesn't work for us and we also have to know that the work he's asking us to do for him is really for us is really for us so um so when he says I need you to take off because it's going to make you appreciative and grateful and humble I need you to dress modestly it's as hard as anything in the summer in Boca but this is who you are and be dignified and Regal and Royal when he says I want you to do that I want you to do it for you don't stop and say but what will others think because I'll take a little secret we wrote about this last week's article what other people think about you is none of your business true what other people think about you is none of your business and we wrote in last week's article there's a balance we do have principle called marasayan it is my business if I go into Burger King to the bathroom and get a cup of water but others will misinterpret and mistakenly think you can eat there you don't want to mistakenly mislead people and they're going to make do the wrong thing that's one din the other is you're not allowed to speak about yourself famous story who was on a train to from and somebody was on the train he said it must have been too rotten and I guess he struck up conversation with the other party with the other person where you're going and going around and why I want to go see what's right what do you hear about him oh he's the Sadiq of the generation he's the greatest he's righteous he's modest he's Noble he's humble he's the greatest foreign he tries he tries but he's not so special he's not so great and the man slapped him across the face time later said I learned from this episode that you're not allowed to speak Russian heart about yourself too we think about the prohibition of gossiping about other people and we should be strict and careful and Vigilant don't gossip don't speak Russian or about others but also don't speak Russian or about yourself false humility this is what we're learning in missiles ashram before this year on Wednesday mornings false humility is lotion or about yourself if you're talented you're athletic you're artistic you're uh smart you have a great memory you're creative you're well organized and you say no not so much it's not so true I'm not so great that's speaking Russian era about the gifts and talents God gave you ah so isn't it arrogant to say yeah it's true I'm artistic I'm humble I'm the most humble it's true I'm the most humble isn't that arrogant so the ramachal teaches the round rights no The Humble response is to say Hashem has lent me talents and skills I feel responsible with them they're on loan and they can be taken back at any moment so a humble response is not to be in denial of the gifts that were given that's Allah about ourselves The Humble response is Hashem has granted me some talents I feel responsible to use them to my fullest not to steal from them by not using them and I recognize every day and every moment they are on loan they're not part of a permanent collection and they could disappear any moment they could disappear any moment that's a real humility so not only are you know how to speak Russian or about others said you're not allowed to speak Russian Hara about yourself why do we get to that about yourself this is going to be a group effort over here now come on people we're gonna get there can't speak Russian about yourself because we were talking about marsayan thanks no thanks we're talking about we're talking about marsion marasar says so I can't go into Burger King McDonald's even though I did nothing wrong I just went to get a Diet Coke I went to get a diet pitched Snapple I went to go get some Trader Joe's corn chips I don't know if they sell the number or anything I did nothing wrong but you're gonna see me and think you can go get a hamburger so now I led to that I'm responsible for that I have to care about my sign but the second Allah I can't go in is you would never go near Burger King you'd never go near McDonald's you know that there's nothing there that's kosher but now you're going to tell everybody do you know the rabbi eats in McDonald's so by going in I'm essentially an accomplice to speak English about myself so I didn't there's two rules of matter side so on the one hand you have to care what other people think because you don't want to violate marasayan you have to be Nucky is you have to be pure in the eyes of Hashem and others but on the other hand what other people think about you is none of your business if you can look in the mirror and live with yourself you believe that Hashem you find favor in the eyes of Hashem then what other people think about you is none of your business don't read the comments don't listen to The Buzz don't want to hear if somebody wants to say did you hear what someone said about you say no I don't care it's none of my business none of my business what other people think about me so a person says when you're trying to live a moon a life a righteous life you don't have to throw in other people's faces you should be Shame Shame it's good to say please mentioned says the mocker for saying God willing that is the source that before Jew undertakes any activity we say God willing I'm going to the ammonia God willing that it might be lunch God willing I got to go to work God willing to do the laundry God willing how to drive carpool God willing I have a flight to catch God willing so everything we do we say happy Hashem God willing so on the one hand we shouldn't be shy or ashamed or embarrassed or hesitant or apologetic to invoke hashem's name we're going to repair and transform this world through his name and by being married by unapologetically screaming it from the rooftops on the one hand on the other hand in a business meetings in order to start proselytizing in a business meeting where you're interviewing for a job you don't have to start sharing the Bible codes you don't have to become all on the offensive and aggressive with it but you shouldn't be embarrassed or ashamed at all of who we are to where yamaka or to dress visibly like an observant Jew or to make a bracha to make to offer a shimana essay to do whatever you have to do to do whatever you have to do what other people think about you is none of your business the only the only opinion that we care about is we of course care about our loved ones our family but Hashem what does God want from me in this moment what's the right thing to do right now what's the right thing in the Here and Now Daven here say this broken down do this go there say that wear this what does he want from me in this moment and if your entire life is guided and informed by what does God want do I meet God's approval what is Hashem saying about me then you'll fall away it won't bother you and you won't care over there and that's how you transcend and Rise Above This World everyone else can have Amateur hour we're professionals and as professionals we're living in a different dimension you could be analyzing the world down there you could be listening to all the political pundits talking about the primaries and politicians but I'm living somewhere else I'm living in a place of autism I'm living in a place of leave the the heart Hashem the heart of the politicians are in the hands I'm living here that you I'm seeing the world that I'm surfing entirely differently you know others are counting statistics and data and they're looking at Trends in history and they're subject to Nature and mausole Israel we're just living a different world in a different life and that's how you rise above it is what's the panemius of what's Happening so there's a war in Ukraine there are missiles in stero there's a former presidents getting indicted current presidents maybe will or should be indicted there's all kinds of things happening around us there's a virus there's a pandemic there's a you never know there's smog covering the tri-state area of New York who knows what's happening in this world from one moment to the next we never know how do I interpret it how do I understand that everyone else sees what's on the surface but a year it goes right to the epineemius a Jew goes right to the kishkas of it what's the lesson what's the message what am I seeing what's Happening Here the panemius the essence of the core whether it's in thought whether it's in space whether it's in action and all the distractions fall away and all the personal biases fall away and all the arrogance and ego Agave don't get drawn in to the nourish guy is Rise Above This World be living the premius what's the avoda of each thing that you see and that you experience and that you hear how is it meant to inform and transform who we are what's my mission what's my job what do I do with this information what do I do with this observation where does it leave me that's all what does Hashem want from me what does Hashem Want From Me In This Moment do what's right and what's just in the eyes of Hashem that's ultimately what it's really all about you don't always know because we have the four volumes of the Hashem dictates specifically our conduct he regulates our Behavior but we have the proverbial when something doesn't fall into the first four and we have to just try to Intuit what does Hashem want from me so how will you know how to answer that what does Hashem want from me right now I once wrote an article wasn't popular with so many but sometimes you know an airline has a glitch where all of a sudden they made a mistake there's a computer glitch not just an airline there was once a jeweler and the online jewelry had a glitch and you could get something worth an enormous amount for a fraction of it so what's the ethic of spreading that everywhere you know far and wide texting the world quickly go on and buy the ticket because there's a glitch before they discover it before they fix it so you could get into the halacha okay you can get into all the and my article simply said do you think Hashem is smiling down on you right now if you're taking advantage of somebody else's sorrow I know the people that they do it on purpose the marketing makes it all worth it it's at let's assume they don't if it were your brother if your brother had a business and something happened in the I.T department and there was a marketing glitch and it mislabeled a bracelet that was a hundred thousand dollars and it sold it for a thousand and everybody went online and bought it and now your brother lost a ton of money would you also be texting it to everybody you know if it was your brother's business so again I don't want to distract you by debating it because it is subject to debate I'm not telling you I have the only opinion of it but my point in that article was years ago was at least inserting into the conversation the question of what does Hashem want you to do right now what would make Hashem proud what would put a smile on his face what does he want me to do so everything I do every choice every SIM card I plan every trip I take the vacation of where I'm gonna go and that destination and what will be the activities and what will be my wardrobe and what would be like exposed every decision what will give to Hashem will make him happy well plus smile on his face I'm living a different life living in a different dimension living to the Primus and the avoda of everything what will make Hashem happy what does he want from me in this moment what does he want me to take out of this meeting how does he want me to plan this experience this event this life this next choice that should be so how do you know how do you know how do you know it's the briskarov and the briskarov passed away and his nephew of silovich gave the husband to the briskarov he spoke about there are different relationships people have to Torah there's a relationship of casual dating there's a relationship of aerosim of being engaged betrothed into the relationship of the soon you're married to Torah married to Torah so when I was dating not here today when I was related when I was dating I started to get to know her and I thought I knew her pretty well we had Marathon phone calls and dates was wonderful from the go and I thought I got to know her but I I looking back barely knew her and if somebody would have said does your wife want the chocolate of the vanilla would she prefer this vacation that vacation would she read this book or that book I was just getting to know her and just dating I don't know if I could have answered and we were engaged we knew each other even better made a commitment we had dreams of the life that we were going to live and build and where we'd live and and so on and I thought I knew her better but but now we're married 26 years and I still probably barely know it I'm sure at our 50th Anniversary I'll say 25 years ago 24 years ago I barely knew her but now I could finish her sentences and she could finish mine now she'll start saying something with no context I should have no idea what she's talking about I know exactly who what where she's talking about because you're married you come to know somebody that well that long that deeply you could finish their sentence you you don't have to be they could not be there at the restaurant yet you know exactly what to order for them you know exactly where they want to sit on the plane you know exactly what book they want to read you know exactly you could finish their sentence said about his uncle the more Torah you learn the more Torah you know the more intimate you have a relationship with Torah the more we can trust you to finish hashem's sentence how do we know the rats on Hashem how do you know when Hashem didn't tell us it doesn't appear in the sugar doesn't appear in the third doesn't appear how do you know what he wants us to do the answer is who are you going to trust Chachi BT Google somebody who's just been introduced to Torah somebody doesn't know which way to hold the safer up or down someone who can't make a landing on a gamara never finish them someone who barely knows Hashem that's you're going to trust to finish his sentence or are you going to trust the person who lives and sleeps and dreams and 24 7 is in conversation with Hashem who are you going to trust that's what the Rob was talking about who are the Bali hamasoda and the greatness of his uncle the briskarov and the God will be Israel is somebody who so lives and knows and is immersed in his intimate relationship with hashem's Torah he's the one that we trust to finish Hashem sense so the more that we learn Torah and live Torah the more we can be trusted and Trust ourselves to try to finish his sentence but the most important thing is to always ask ourselves sometimes we'll hit that wall I don't know then we go to a prescribe of Our Generation you go to the person who can finish Hashem sense and say I have a problem I don't know what to do I don't know what will make him happy I don't know what we'll give him can you help me finish hashem's sentence because I don't know what he wants me to do help me finish Hashem sense for me I don't know what the right choice is here so you go to somebody who knows him really well but sometimes we can finish that sentence but we have to start by asking that question and how many people do how many people ask themselves what kind of a simcha should I plan what should it look like where should I go on vacation should I take this job what does Hashem want should I order this thing should I take advantage of this glitch should I tell the world about it what is the righteous and just thing what is it that Hashem wants me to do that's the question we have to always ask ourselves did I buy the beam at speed Glock the founder and CEO of amudim amazing organization he's an incredible person with endless energy and the front lines of taking care of the Jewish people well worth tuning in that's tonight nine o'clock next week Shear is on Monday not Wednesday I'll remind you of that if you haven't listened 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