Living With Emunah (Part 206): Worth Staying Alive for One Beracha

good morning and boker tove and welcome back it is another monumental morning as we resume living with emunah in person after way way way too long of a break and i learned yesterday from the parshasher that is categorical different to be learning with people in person to see facial expressions reactions the energy the electricity in the room and together versus staring only at a camera if you're listening online we love you too but find a way to be here we have granola bars to make it worth your while there you go and that laugh is evidence i'm not alone in this room there is no laugh track so it is great to be back together again thank you make sure to tell a friend for next week the woman's living with one of the highlights of the ammunition for me because living with amuno we all need a reminder and we all need to be uplifted and we all need uh to be recalibrated back to what we really already know which is that we didn't come to exist something from nothing we weren't born out of nowhere there's a creator there's a god he's by our side he has expectations of us and we live with emunah our life is so much better physically mentally spiritually emotionally we are much healthier we have much more of a balance much more of an equilibrium and so we have to get together once a week really every day and every morning and every evening to remind ourselves to live with that and but minimally we get together uh in this frequency i want to thank our generous amount of series sponsors for the year dr xavi and bella morgan in memory of rabbi dr brian galbit who just had a grandson born this morning mazda center and yael who had a baby boy this morning and in memory of bella's amazing mother dr ellen shanzer of elizabeth new jersey i lived a life of great immune herself so a lot of gratitude to the morgans for sponsoring this morning shooter is also sponsored by yvette cable in honor of the harvard kadesha volunteers thank you to the cowboy and our amazing chevra bye mrs sylvia brody in memory of her mother yet the cats thank you so much gila and aaron solomon in honor of their children tila rahel and akiva and a refuge slammer for avraham mayor benjaya rahul having a procedure right now we should hear only bisarastova's good news should have a complete reforeshima uh one housekeeping note before we dive back into living with emunah and that is as much as we're trying to build momentum barakasha might go to a wedding next week in new york so i will not be here wednesday morning so next wednesday we're off so we're starting again a little teaser a little appetizer wet your appetite and then i'm away next wednesday and then after that please god bless smooth sailing through the winter wednesday mornings also coffee available in the back freshly brewed dunkin donuts in addition to what you find at your seat okay and with that we begin so what you have in front of you is a new section we've been learning for those who are new to the living with the municier wednesday mornings we get together and our goal is to um to study something which is thought provoking which moves us with jogs us which makes us remember where we come from to whom we report and to be able to live a life of emunah to not have to fear and to not have to feel with anxiety that we're going through life on our own worried about what we'll be and what we're in control of and what we should regret and how guilty we should feel but rather to recognize that everything that happens in our life is by design nothing is chance or random everything is coordinated everything is curated from above it is all from hashem and when we live that life with emunah then as we talked about the results are unbelievable so in the living with the monastery i always tell people to share their muni stories with me so i can share them in ammunition and the backup that we haven't achieved in a little while means i have some stories to share so today i'm only gonna share one and this is a wonderful email i don't have permission to mention the person's name explicitly so i won't but she writes one of them una podcasters mentioned anyone has a moon a moment we should share it so i had one two days ago and it might seem like a small one maybe it is but the long run it's huge um last month's shoppers had an international flight departing at 9 30 p.m shabbos came out at around 7 15. right after abdullah my father took him to jfk which is pretty close to where my family lives i took that i knew that i had a flight at 9 30 it was a bit risky when i went to check in the lines were long and moving slowly but i had a still a good 40 minutes till boarding which for most people would be like grounds for a heart attack but this courageous young lady was like 40 minutes plenty of time fine besides that i noticed more jews coming in the line after me so i sure that i wasn't the only one taking risky that night i checked in the suitcases headed to security uh it was 8 25 and the flight was boarding at 8 30. i honestly felt calm the security line was pretty long but hashem wrote yeah yeah there was a couple behind me started counting how many people were lying in front of them calculating which line was the fastest they seemed a bit antsy i started talking to them they weren't on the 9 30 they were on the 10 pm flight assuming that they were totally fine they left and said they'd just like to be early when they found that my flight started boarding five minutes ago they asked how i was so calm and here we get to the punch line i naturally answered stressing out won't help the situation and if i'm meant to be on that flight i'll be on that flight long story short security took a while once i got out of security i was reminded how far the gates were hashem i got on the flight thinking about it i really was calm and felt really cool i kept thinking if hashem wants me to be on the flight i'll be on the flight and if not i'm not meant to be on this particular flight it may not seem like a big deal maybe it's not but thinking back to the situation well listening to your sure made me smile letting go and showing hashem that we know he is the one running the show is a gift emunah is a gift don't know where i would be without it right now and the airport story is the smallest of all them keeping calm without even realizing we're so lucky to have our father taking care of us even if the times aren't clear but we know it's up to him only hashem so it's an example we all have these small examples in our life but she made the flight so she could have either made the flight and lost years of her life of worry and anxiety and sweating and high blood pressure and angst and if she was with someone maybe a spouse they would have been in a fight not talking the entire flight blaming who and why they left late and they have to get more on time next time instead she was calm because living with emunah does that to you so it's a challenge it's a challenge to remember to live with a munda that's the problem that's what we meet regularly i need to meet more regularly so we have in front of you is the new excerpt we had been learning we're going to pivot and we are now learning a little bit from a new safer that came out it's called and are the teachings of obama was a great mashiach was a great sadiq has an extraordinary life story a journey towards observant judaism himself and we've learned many many of his teachings together including the woman shiron simkastora we talked about his essay on savlanos on patience which we got like one paragraph in and need to continue it i'm trying to be patient with it um so this is a news statement that came out from one of his time one of his students and it is some of his teachings on a collection of topics and there's several essays on his teachings on emunah and i thought this would be a wonderful thing for us to dive into for us to dive into together so paige pay gimmel that it is it's great and he begins the following but the rome he says i got a letter from a educator a teacher in israel in the south of israel i'll translate everything so don't worry if you don't understand the hebrew and he wondered and he said what do we do what happens in our schools in our jewish day schools in our khadar in whatever the nature of that school is the teacher steps out for a minute teacher steps out when i went to high school i had a rebbe there was a pay phone next to the classroom and the rebbe you know when you want to reach rebbe's salary you know you got to supplement your salary so he used to trade stocks so in the middle of class he would once in a while go out in those days you couldn't check what the stock price was there was no such thing as a smartphone a dumb phone a flip phone so he had a pay phone he would get calls and make calls because he was trading stocks while teaching eventually they moved his sheer room away from the pay phone was the way that we were able to get his attention he was a wonderful wonderful gemara rebbe in any case arabia needs to supplement so the rebbe steps out maybe the rabbi is trading stocks maybe there's an emergency the rebbe leaves the students still uh davening but what happens kasha malami yote la rega m tatfila when the rebbe steps out when the murder steps kids are kids what do they do so the sitter doesn't speak to them what are these words they don't know how to translate them they don't know what it means they don't know what's going on so the teacher steps out the cat's away the mice will play teacher steps out trades the stock and the kids close the sitter and they start playing around so the teacher wants to know from a vulgar the great mosque what can i do what should we do how can we inspire students how do we inspire these children to stay connected not only when the parent not only when the teacher is watching but even when they step away and we've tried to bang home this message over and over i'm trying to bring it home to myself and my family and all of us the challenge and the struggle that we all have in davening and i say we all is we all on sim castora we had an ask the rabbi a short one between mirka and marv a little live behind the bhima through musculature and myself and that was one of the questions what area of hashem do you each of the rabbis and all of us essentially answered like everyone else we know daphne it's hard it's hard it's long it's repetitive and redundant we're speaking in a language which is not our first language and parts that are very poetic hebrew and not necessarily accessible or relatable i teach sitter snippets i can't tell you how often i'm embarrassed in the hallelujahs after ashrae like what does the sentence mean didn't i give like two weeks of sitter snippets on it and i don't remember what it means a year a couple years later i try to go back and take a look davening is really really hard so what's the answer what's the antidote how do we fix it what's the repair for our students and for ourselves so that davening is not a chore and dominating is not a burden and davening is not something we're counting the pages until we're done but dominating something we love it's a conversation it's a rendezvous it's an opportunity to have coffee with the almighty to be in conversation it's an opportunity to connect the answer is emunah you see a challenge in dominating says revolbe is the symptom not the disease the disease and the core problem is a lack or a failure in ammuna in faith if we really knew that god existed if we really believed and we submitted and surrendered to him if we were grateful if we saw him throughout our day and throughout our lives then we would want to talk to him all the time when someone you love you want to spend time you want to talk to him you want to be in conversation we know the core of any healthy relationship is communication is communication whether you're preparing the khasan kala for marriage or marriage counseling later in life often at the very core of the breakdown or the challenge the friction in marriage in friendship parents and children colleagues is a failure to communicate there's not dedicating time to be together not dedicating time to confide to be good listeners to have conversations to exchange to connect so davening is our conversation dominating is when i have confidence and trust and confide when i make myself vulnerable when i talk to hashem dominating is the recognition i try to every morning in my dab and i think what is coming up during that day and how well i need his help hashem we're doing the amunisher first time back in person let's hope the coffee makes it let's hope the technology works let's hope anybody shows up let's hope everything goes smoothly i have a big meeting this afternoon hashem i really hope it goes well put the right words in my mouth let the outcome be one which works well for all of us if you're in conversation then dominating is not something that you resist and it's not something you resent and it's not something that you want to be over it's something that you look forward to you count down to you're excited about so that's true for ourselves all the more so for our children if a child has trouble talking to god it's because maybe they have no relationship with god maybe they don't believe there is a god maybe nobody's taken the time to talk to them how do we know there's a hashem and where and when and how do we feel him in our life and in what ways does he speak to us and why is there value and benefit in reporting to him what does it mean what does it mean is not just rambling some script we're not just getting through it so we can put a check mark we read the script close the book close the script we finish the script we'll open it again tomorrow and then our script gets worn out we're so proud my script is all worn out because i keep saying the script it's not a script that we recite or repeat it's a conversation that we're having and the davaning is the template for the conversation but we have to fill in between the lines if you don't make davening personal you haven't darvened you haven't davened we're not supposed to make fila keva tell us you can't make your davening permanent or established it's got to fluctuate and be fluid it's got to be introduced with new things every day are any of us the same person the same day every single day of our life that we wake up we're a new person wake up different side of the bed we got a different amount of sleep the night before we wake up to a new day with new challenges and new issues but also new opportunities and new blessings and invitations no two days are the same in our lives go even further no two diamonds are the same have you ever been the same person by the time you got to milk at the end of the day that you were chakras that morning did any day go the way you thought it would go sometimes the day goes better than you thought it would go i read late last night that someone in boca raton won the lottery twice this week in boca raton won two one million dollar lottery tickets in boca this week and if you're in this room please right now make yourself known and make a nice donation to the boca raton cine guys so right now i'm like why don't i and by the way what was the location a gas station on camino riel if you're in this room right now make yourself known so when that person woke up that morning in davend their day at the they're dabbling at the end of the day is a very different happening than the beginning of the day but god forbid a loved one is rushed to the hospital he's rushed into a procedure you got news that wasn't so good you got back a diagnosis that means it'll be a long road and please god a healthy one and a full recovery the dominating at the end of that day is very different than dominating that morning not only are new 2ds the same no two moments within the day are the same and there are conversations that need to happen so adavaning which looks exactly the same we deposit the same shmona esri tashem imagine you're 80 years old and you're saying the same shimona yesterday same schwann esri how i know that because i've been here for 23 years and there's people in the shul hadersham esri is the exact same amount of time from when i got here 23 years ago and today every single day three times a day how do i know that most of you don't topple with a minion regularly but days like today rosh chodesh every shul has its cast of characters and one of the characters i wrote an article that i did not print about this who i missed during corona when the shul was shut down it was all the characters of a shul that during corona i really missed and this was one of them there's that guy who wants everyone to remember jalav or al-anisim so while the rest of us are up to magen avraham they yell out yala villavo al-anisim you know they fly through schwann ashrae so they're doing a great service to the rest of the community taking one for the team they're yelling out and letting everyone to know so like you're up to goliath and they're screaming so there's that guy there's i don't know if that woman exists in the women's section but there's that guy in every single in every single men's section so that guy has been dominating the same lens from sra from his bar mitzvah to his 99th birthday there's nothing new or introduced there's nothing fluid about it it's not a reflection of his life or what's going on or what he needs there's nothing different it is the same schwann necessary you can time it you can time it it's you know one minute seventy one minute forty two seconds whatever it is so harsh when i say should fluctuate there are days that i'm connected i'm plugged in there's a long amida i'm lost in it the words are moving me i'm meditating i'm reflecting there's a phrase that catches me and i marinate in it for a little bit there are days that every brah something to talk to god about in in atahone and i'm working on a sheer hashem give me some good source material refined there's people i'm barack helene stocks could use them having a little uh markets been downloaded every bracha every bracha and there are other days that you're not connected just not working it's just a slow wi-fi day with god you're just not plugged in so it's different every single day and a dominant which looks exactly the same every day every week every month every year of your life is probably means you've never darvened yet so the dominating the sitter is the template i've given the marshall a million times is a million and one it's like the hallmark or american greetings hensha is listening from israel henshaw i hope you're doing fantastic in israel so we'll go with american greetings it's the american greetings from her father's company it's the american greetings uh card that you give on mother's day or a birthday or an anniversary imagine you go by the card you hand the card and there's nothing in it the recipient of that card is going to probably throw it back at you you say what do you mean i made it to cvs i made it to publix i got you a card so yeah the card's nice you didn't write anything in it you didn't double underline any of the special words in it you didn't figure out where there was space with an arrow now go to the back and now go to the front and i'll go upside down and now go you just handed a blank card so the bonus slime says he said the words of the city just handed me a blank card on the other hand you take out a napkin and you write dear i love you and my life would be empty without you and you're the best that ever happened to me you handed over this really nice sentiment that really moves me where's the card where's the card so bonus wants us every day to hand them a card called our davening and to fill in between the lines to write our personal and personalized message to him and when we don't we've given him a static fixed tila keva as opposed to one which is fluid as opposed to one which reflects the changing life that we have so this is revolver's point ain's this is not easy to teach children to teach a child you're diving into the day of your soccer game it's not the same as the dominant is the day of your test it's not the day the same as the dominant when your grandfather went into surgery is not the same as the dominating when you have a new niece who was born is not the same as the davaning that it's the last day of school and you're so grateful how do we teach our children it's difficult he's invisible you can't smell him you can't feel him you can't touch him so it's very hard to connect with him how how you know we used to talk on the phone so we were talking to something invisible but there was a voice on the other end but now even that's not good enough we face time with everyone or what's that video with everyone we are literally seeing the people that we're talking to they could be 6 000 miles away we're living in an enormously incredibly blessed time and monday for six hours we were all reminded of that when we reached for some of that technology and it wasn't available we were all silenced and distanced even more so hashem who you can't face time with can't watch that video with does an answer back there's no voice so it's not even heavy breathing on the other end so it's really really difficult it's really challenging it's really really hard so where does it come from it comes with a muna in other words if you never talk to hashem when you're not davening then you're never going to be able to talk to him when you are adopting if you never ever talk to hashem outside of davening then you're going to struggle to connect talking to him when you are in davening it's just not going to happen what i mean talking to him outside of davening talking to him when you're driving to the airport and when you're online security you don't lose your calm you keep cool and you don't when you put the potato in the oven dive it into hashem that the khala rise and let it all work out perfectly and then it not overcook and undercook and it all come out exactly right darwining to hashem the calendar not looked the way it did for sukkas for a very long time on again off again yantiff stopping cooking up drushes cooking up hollows cooking up whatever you're davening is dominate him so the majority of our davening should be outside of davening the majority of our talking to hashem should be outside of davoning why did hashem tell us we have to darwin to make sure we do it to make sure that we actually do it because often life gets in the way dumanis so i love the way revolving this classic revolver pivots away from the emphasis on the children don't blame the children don't criticize the children don't shame the children these children who their rebbe or their mother steps out to trade their stocks this uh it's amazing that that happened and that wasn't shut down when i think about it but anyway this uh these children whose teacher steps out and they start talking to one another the children aren't to blame the children aren't at fault are we any different are we any different the typical shul nobody has to step out and we start talking in the middle of davening nobody takes the time out the authority is not outside the room and we talk in the middle of davening so we're going to blame our children that they talk when the rebbe steps out of the room so let's stop talking about the children let's start talking about ourselves and the answer for ourselves is amuna a challenge to connect in davening is not about davening of course that's about the opening study the sitter learn the sipper sign up for center snippets or some other safer or learning opportunity to understand the words to invest in learning the sitter like a safer of course it's about dominating but it's not about davening it's not about davening if you don't have a moon if you don't have faith if you don't believe if you don't connect if you don't attach if you don't submit if you don't surrender if you don't feel his presence throughout your entire day and throughout your entire life how in the world are you going to talk to him of course you're not going to be able to talk to him is our faith so clear is it so vibrant is it so alive is it so dynamic is it so electric so where it reveals itself that there's a virus the virus is most pronounced in our davening and in the brachos our dominant is most pronounced when we don't feel like doing the mitzvah or in our failure to learn torah misdama in london cavanaugh how connected how plugged in how high speed is our wi-fi connection to hashem what do our children or grandchildren or neighbors children see in us in shul at home when we're making a before or after eating food is it calm and is it patient and is there the inestimable the value of a bracha are we using it as a point of connection as a bid to connect to god as a moment of recognition as a moment of gratitude as an exercise in humility it's a millisecond a fraction of a second what do they see in us and then are we surprised that they don't make brachas you see parents snap at their children you need to make a bracha make a bracha don't worry you didn't bench how come you have a bench while the parent is clearing the table while they're benching hand signaling or actually talking in the middle of their benching not benching from adventure and mentioning and benching in a record time but then the kid we don't understand why they skip benching why they don't understand that benching is a bracha and an opportunity and a chance we're on gimel paragraph three king david party if you remember maybe we'll have another one a maya bracha's party established that we have to say a hundred brachas a day hundred bucks a day hundred brachas a day so there are nineteen brackets in china and eight times three is a really good head start ashkenazi digestive system you're well on your way to 100 brahs a day ashiyata and the various other brothers live in florida in the summer you're getting a couple lightning a couple thunder you add it all up you're going to get to your 100 brokers a day 100 brokers a day you have to be conscientious and conscious and the young man who sent me the mayor broncos cards still working on his we're going to get him married we're going to celebrate those of you who've been with us since then when we learned mayor brachas and he sent cards with paper clips to count the 100 buckles a day i don't know yet if someone has an app for that the mayor brought us app counter hundred brac a day why why did david also make a hundred bucks a day a burden to slow us down to make us religious and faffrunt and move the community to the right why did david malak establish making a hundred brachas a day why because said we're living in an increasingly chaotic world you're increasingly preoccupied and distracted and a hundred times a day we've got to pause and just remember that there's someone above 100 times a day i think the last time i told this like a desk of the moon issue here because after a long break i'm reviewing a lot of things we said before i apologize if you've heard it before but it bears repeating from me at least i don't know for you so you know a great therapist who i admire made a great point that it used to be that people a husband and wife said goodbye in the morning and then they spoke again at the end of the day and didn't necessarily connect much in between you were at work it wasn't appropriate to have long personal phone calls at work there wasn't the ability to have long phone calls at work so they said goodbye in the morning and you caught up at night when you got home and there was no way to converse on the drive because there was no such thing as a cell phone and so on but today today we're living in a world of temptation and desire today there are opportunities and invitations to act out and to be unfaithful it's a very very challenging world and whatever exists in the greater world exists in the torah community the orthodox community and i promise you every single segment of it i can promise you conversation with my colleagues there are enormous challenges in this area so it's not enough to say hello goodbye in the morning and hello again when you come home for dinner 100 times a day you have to text your spouse check in a conversation it's a reminder when you're sitting at work when you're in that work meeting or the colleague asks you to go out for a drink or coffee or lunch when there are those opportunities and invitations and challenges of technology in general and real life people in particular it's good to have an anchor and remember that you are married and accountable and have responsibility and obligation 100 times a day the therapist didn't say 100 times a day but meaning those texts and those check-ins and those short conversations and those bid for connection they're not a luxury in today's day and age they are a healthy necessity for protecting and preserving marriage now you'll say really does a marriage need that if you don't check in 100 times a day if you don't check in 10 times a day if all you do is say goodbye in the morning and hello at night everyone's going to run around and be unfaithful of course not however that relationship investing in that relationship nourishing that relationship often through the day will be very healthy to build up that relationship so it's fortified and protected from the challenges that it will face and i applied the same thing to emunah the distractions that we live with if you lived if you were tevye and you lived in the barn and all day you're talking to god while you're flipping the bella hay and milking the cows okay so the check-ins with hashem how much do you need but today we're running around and we are so distracted by the world in which we're living and the fast pace of life that a hundred times a day you gotta stop and say oh that's right there's a creator oh that's right i'm accountable to him oh that's right he's by my side oh that's right he has expectations of me oh that's right i'm so grateful to him that's right and how long are those check-ins this could be a suicide mission but a lot shorter than the check-in with your spouse the check-in with god that bracha is a millisecond is it i love talking to you i'm just joking it's a fraction of a second the check-in with the spouse is a lot longer than a shahakal is my point the shackle the burn of fascists is a fraction of a second those check-ins are very are very very short are very short so david alex said a hundred times a day stop and talk to god because then you're gonna remember while you're in the middle of that business deal while you're in the middle of that workout while you're in the middle of that shopping trip while you're in the middle of that parent-teacher conference while you're in the middle of whatever you're doing imagine you're a parent-teacher conference and you're taking a sip of your water but you take the millisecond you say just one second you make a bracha now in the middle of your parent teacher conference you just remembered that there's another parent in the room with you his name is god he's the third partner in the creation of every person and now you've just transformed your entire parent teacher conference because hashem is part of that conversation he's part of that meeting as well and what jogged you what triggered you what provoked you to do that because he made a shahakal that took a millisecond could you begin to imagine if a hundred if one day if for one day we concentrated fully if for one day we allowed ourselves to be transformed if for one day we were mindful of those hundred brachos we would be categorically different people at the end of that day we'd just be totally and absolutely and categorically different people at the end of that day says something astounding if actually we could reach a level of mindfulness for one day for one day for a hundred brothers to be present when we said them we might become a prophet you might be merit divine inspiration you might be in conversation with god you'd break through such a ceiling but what do we do we dispose of we dismiss we we just deposit abraca we mumble the shahakal we mumble the in particular we say while we're walking out of the bathroom and already checking the text on the phone and already moving on to the next thing and as has been said ashiyatsa is not feeling should not be said while you're walking or moving if you walk away with no other commitment from today it's a pledge and a promise for 30 days to stand still when saying ashiyat sir i'm still trying to do it a friend of mine challenged me to it a couple years ago i'm still trying to do it every time you start taking those three steps you start looking at your phone you say no no i'm just gonna stand still ashley yeah sorry that all the plumbing and all the pipes and everything's working that my body which is one of the most sophisticated factories that was ever designed and created is absorbing the nutrients it needs and getting rid of the rest and it's all working right that's worth a millisecond that's worth a moment in time i hate masks but one of the few breakfasts of wearing that mask in public was you could take your time with an ashy atta outside the bathroom and nobody knew in an airport in the store wherever you were at least one benefit of the mask was you could say ashiyatsa for as long as you want and you don't have to figure out you know how to how to pull that off without looking like a total weirdo so asha it's worth it it's worth it 100 a day but we we deposit it we throw it away we get rid of it and why do we do that why do we do that the person i don't know why i'm saying woman maybe the article said woman but the person who won the two million dollars the two one million dollar lottery tickets in boca raton two minutes from here this week i'll find them trust me the chabad rabbis in town are looking for him so i'll find him so you know that person they won the lottery i promise you they paused that day and maybe every day for a little while to say wow thank you i won the lottery you think someone had to go up to them and say as they deposited the two million dollar check don't forget to be grateful nobody had to remind them be grateful nobody had to tell them dwell on thank you for a moment they understood it they understood it you know somebody survives an operation a doctor saves their life i would hope i would hope holland i don't know tell me if it happens or it doesn't i would have a doctor a surgeon save someone's life they are eternally and forever grateful they should send a gift every year on the anniversary of their life being saved save their life if you're in a terrible car accident on the side of the road and somebody pulled you from the wreckage did cpr brought you back to life would you not do anything in the world for them so what about the one who gave us life if that's what you do for the person who saved your life what about the one who gives us life and sustains our life and saves our life every moment of every day is he not worth a thank you why do we need to be propelled and why do we need to be encouraged and why do we need to be reminded why do we need to be reminded we're not living with that with that reality with that feeling she called over that everything but um the world shackled but it all belongs to god i'm not entitled to it it doesn't belong to me it's not coming it is a gift from above it's on loan and it could be taken back any time the problem is that we are creatures of habit so we're saying the same brachas in the same way that we've always been saying them or we're omitting the same brackets that we've never said we're saying at the same pace that we always did and we need to break out of those habits we need to unshackle ourselves we need to set ourselves free by creating new habits and positive habits being a creature of habit is not necessarily a bad thing it's only a bad thing if you have bad habits if you have the habit of exercising and eating right and getting enough sleep if you have the habit of standing still when you say ashiyata then it's a blessing that we're creatures of habit habits are not bad it's just a matter of having having the right ones so can't we train ourselves to have the habit to stand still for ashiatsa have the habit to be mindful and focused for one moment for a shahako for a shahako you know what the gift of one bracha the gift of one opportunity to say thank you believe it or not we are already over time for today time flies when you're in person and have granola bars and you're making up for things so i'll end by telling you a story i'll learn by telling you a story another story and we'll get back to this again no share next week resume in two weeks and please got smooth sailing from there if you want to stay alerted of when we have sheer and if we're going to miss it first of all it'll be in the weekly it'll be the website has a calendar our new website has an amazing calendar that you can click on any class and it gives you an option to add it to your calendar outlook google whatever calendar system you use so whatever classes or programs or anything going on at book return synagogue that you want to make sure not to miss and add to your own personal calendar from the shule website now you can add it so that'll be the best way to be alerted so we'll pick up with revolver next time in your shalim over 100 years ago there was an old widow that would be surely disconnected to visit she was very sick and among her sick the breakdown of her body she couldn't control her bodily functions and she had a colostomy bag she was attached to all kinds of catheter bags all kinds of things because her digestive system was no longer working she was unable to say broca's on food because in those days if a person was connected to those things the odor that was present was such that precluded making a bracha in the presence of what was that bag was filled with so despite her difficulties she would ask for a disc into to daven for a sure leap disc foreign over 100 years ago and she would say davan for me so he would say he once asked her tell me something why do you have such a burning desire to continue living you can't even say brachas so your your life is so compromised you're asking for longevity to stay in this state why so listen to what this older woman this old widow who was all alone in this world what she said to him why she wanted to continue to live she said rabbi once a day a nurse comes to clean me up and before the machine start working again i quickly take a glass of water and i bake a bracha charcoal that everything that came into existence is from god it's used from his word and she said for that one bracha is why i want to continue living the once a day that the bag's being cleaned and being replaced and therefore i quickly can grab a cup of water and make a bracha for that one bracha i could say every day i want to be able to continue to live for many more years to come so we can make a hundred bucks a day we can make a million brokers a day to be mindful to be present to take that opportunity that bid for connection to attach ourselves to him and to be mindful what a gift it is to be here what a gift it is how many of us know this last two years haven't taught us anything how much we can't take for granted what a gift it is to be here what a gift it is to be able to breathe freely and easily what a gift it is to be able to smell anyone who had corona belianara kaninahara i think i'm the only one in my immediate family is not at it who else didn't have it recently hashem was healthy but lost smell and taste if you lost your smell and have recovered it how could you ever make a barimini basam again the same way by the way that's not just a hazalah bracha you know we have certain things that we think are only like people think you're only supposed to dip red and salt on shabbos that's an all week long thing you only mark the khala before the hamutzi on shabbos that's a whole week long thing you know boring of some is not just the abdullah thing if you smell a beautiful fragrance sardine used to have it here before corona they had a plate that had several different types of spices because there are different braces is baby some they're all kinds of different brachas depending on what the where the fragrance is coming from you make a different bracha and they had it in this room because the people when they came to diamond every day would make the different broccolis and take in the beautiful fragrance if you lost that sense of smell if you lost a sense of taste how do you ever make a shackle of mizono's a hamotzi a boy priets again if you could taste the sweetness of an apple an orange of a mango again when there was a period in time where you tasted nothing the barakah should be different than it ever was than it ever was so these brachas are opportunities to express our gratitude to remind ourselves what we should not take for granted and to be connected to him so that when we get stuck online in security and the flight boarded five minutes ago like the wonderful author of our letter we don't have to lose our lose our quote either thank you to our generous sponsors there's more coffee in the back feel free to take your granola bar with you if you're listening and watching online make your way in here we'd love to have everybody in person until next time stay happy stay healthy and stay holy