Living With Emunah (Part 170): No Excuses or False Humility

good morning an Boer to great to be together again my dear amuna friends who join us every Wednesday morning our support group our group to be to strengthen one another to not forget to live with amuna it's so easy to forget we live in a world where we think we are in control we think that we are in charge we go on with our day and it is so easy to forget that we are supposed to be living with amuna I want to thank our generous sponsors for the series for the year Dr Ai and Bella Morgan who sponsored in memory of Rabbi Dr Brian galber a profound example of living with amuna and in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer so grateful to the Morgans for the generous sponsorship of the year I also want to take the personal privilege of dedicating today are learning to the memory of my dear grandmother my Grandma Rose Goldberg Ro Shalom David who uh whose year site is today she was a very special woman I'm not even sure she hit five feet tall she was a very small woman that packed a punch she um confronted the Nazis and took her family out of Germany after Christal which really obviously saved our family she was a special woman and we dedicate our learning this morning to her we are continuing this magnificent sa Morgan Stern on Deus how to cling to God how to stick with God how to feel connected to God whatever life throws our way to not give up and to not concede and to not lose hope but rather to stick with God Like Glue to know that God is our back and we stick with him we have his back and together we're going to navigate and figure this out so we last left off and he's telling us every Jew needs to believe every Jew needs to know that every Jew is capable of feeling the presence of the almighty in our life extend that antenna perk up your ears listen closely and carefully and you'll hear Hashem is speaking to you go through life with these questions and doubt and uncertainty go through life with complaints and challenges and you won't see God anywhere but extend your antenna and look at to live with God and you'll feel and see his presence everywhere that doesn't mean you'll always see and feel his presence for the good sometimes it's for the bad sometimes things don't work out on my family WhatsApp I'm WhatsApp group that I reference and flex a lot in this class and in others so we all leave each other these incredible uh these incredible voice notes of when things worked out when we felt the presence of Hashem when that coincidence several of them have had to do with the rain over this rainy season in Florida where I mentioned can you believe it I had to go to the funeral I had to go so the other day I had to go out I think I was going home from Sho it wasn't raining the second I stepped outside the sky opened up and then it stopped when I got home and I left it as a note I said I just got soaked the rain happened only when I was walking home so my kids wondered why would you leave that as a note that's not everything working out in your favor and the answer is and Hali that should be the worst thing that ever happens to me changing clothes because you got a little wet in the rain but the answer is that hashem's presence shouldn't only be felt he's not only talking to us when everything works our way when it goes in our favor Hashem is talking to us all the time the question is whether we're listening the question is can we decipher the message but he's speaking to us he's speaking to us are we listening and every Jew is capable call you every Jew needs to know every Jew needs to believe that we can get to this level that wherever we are God is over our shoulder he's listening and he's talking to us he's holding us up and he is supporting us he's also holding us accountable we need to know there's such a life and such a lifestyle maybe it's by reading a biography I think we spoke about that last week maybe it comes from maybe it comes from meeting such extraordinary people attach yourself to a holocaust Survivor and please God we have a long time still but we're running out of time Holocaust Survivors who went through the atrocities they went through and who maintain and preserve some level of Faith they are heroes and there are countless stories of AR is who talk about the fact that seek out someone with numbers on their arm and get a br from them what they lived through what they endured how they were most neish and yet preserved and maintained their faith in God attach yourself to them attach yourself to them use them as an example a model a guide see in them the capacity to live that life and we shouldn't have to go through what they went through to to live with that same faith we too ride their coattails but be able to have it be contagious we're living in this pant pandemic and we're talking we dealing with this disease daily which is highly highly highly contagious that's why it's a problem because it's transmitted so easily it's so highly contagious so it's contagious for the bad in the negative but you know what there's also things that are contagious in the positive for the good amuna and faith and Deus clinging to God can be contagious for the good the question is it's up to us so you don't want to be exposed to somebody who's got Corona we wear masks and we maintain our distancing and we do everything we can to avoid being exposed to someone with Corona but my dear friends you want to be exposed to somebody with amuna withus go near them figuratively I don't mean literally right now but figuratively attach yourself to somebody with great faith with great amuna don't wear a mask and don't distance and don't avoid someone who has great amuna again figuratively not literally listen carefully but figuratively find that person with great faith and attach yourself to them ride their cootel see them the example and when you have those moments of doubt you know people have asked me through the years RBI are you ever filled with doubt doesn't it ever happen I say of course of course it does you know one of the people for whom this year is sponsored for the Year by the generous Morgans is my dear friend Brian galet that the whole end of his life filled and now God it's you know my top questions when I get upstairs how do you choose your best how do you choose the very best people at such a young age to take from us saxs this world is so bere he's so Irreplaceable of course so the person said to me well what do you do I said you know what do I do I go over to Martin juditz what do I do I used to go over to Rabbi Klein what do I do I go find the Holocaust Survivor I say if they lost their entire family not one person well not one piece of bad news not one disappointment whatever we go through the worst of what someone goes through a holocaust Survivor went through by a magnitude by exponentially I don't even know what would they lost their whole family their whole life their whole world and if they can find Faith afterwards so can we so we need to know that there is such a life there is a life where you see and feel God everywhere there is a life where you talk to him and thank him there is a life where you lean on him there is a life where you're accountable to him there is a life where you're on a mission from him I love that language he's drawing it from says to get high on God some RV I'm not even sure who it was was giving a public lesser and he's talking about he met a kid who was high and he said you get high what do you get high on drugs I get high on God and the C kids turned that into some GIF or Meme and they have a lot of fun they put music to it this Rabbi screaming I get high on God but DAV was the first to scream it DAV King David andum said I get high on God and then talks about God doesn't give us the Torah admits Us in order to cause us to suffer he's not trying to restrict or constrict our lives so that we have to give up pleasure God says the opposite I want you to get the greatest pleasure and you know how you're going to get the greatest pleasure here's how you're going to get the greatest pleasure you're going to attach yourself to me because I'm the source of all pleasure so whatever you enjoy in life food intimacy money power music the beach whatever you enjoy in life God is the source and God is the creator of it all so God simply says get high on me by attaching yourself to me that is the ultimate and the highest pleasure you can get so we need to know that we're capable of it we need to know it's possible we need to know there is such a thing and then once we know it now we can aspire to live it when you meet a person who lives that level of mindfulness of conscientiousness and Consciousness a person who lives in that world in that realm then we know that we can too and if you say but who am I I'm at such a low level I'm such a nothing I can barely remember to DAV and make a before I eat I'm barely getting the basics right who am I to think I'm going to Aspire I'm G to stretch and reach excuse me to live on that level who am I I'm not worthy I'm not capable I make mistakes do you know what I said do you know what I looked at do you know what I did you know where I went do you know who I am I'm unworthy I'm incapable who am I to dream who am I to Aspire who am I to paint that picture and try to see myself in it we don't have that picture in our minds we haven't merited to be able to have that Vision we need to know every Jew can cling and attach themselves to God according to their value according to their situation of course God knows who we are he's the loving father I told you a few weeks ago by the person who met with me who had mixed mixed in with drugs and he'd been clean for two years but had some legal problems and he hadn't dominant in so long he grew up not only with a from background intensely very Stark from background and I said he's your father just pick up the phone and call him if you call your father and you say Dad I know it's been a long time and I'm not even sure where to begin or what to say but I just wanted to talk to you what father or mother hangs up the phone they don't say well where have you been or why haven't you called me you say thank God you're calling now and we can do that with God so it doesn't matter what level we're on or where we are or the life we're living it doesn't matter today is a brand new day it's a fresh start today your father is waiting for you to pick up that phone and call him talk to him I don't even just mean opening the sitter and saying its words I mean from your heart in the car on a walk in your kitchen while taking a break at work take a moment and talk to God unburden yourself what's on your heart confide in him cling to him know he's there protest object him by the way that kid did that he davened that young man I shouldn't say that young man davened and not that it always has a a the stories have a happy ending but the charges were dropped and it was all dismissed and because of the hard work he's put in in order to transform his life everything for him has worked out in that way his father didn't only hear his father said yes sometimes our father hears the question but the answer is no in our best interest in this case it was yes and that's such a beautiful beautiful thing it should be yes for all of us for our hopes and our dreams so rich May is saying that every one of us it doesn't matter what level you're on it doesn't matter what you did last night or earlier today it doesn't matter your mistakes your shortcomings every one of us have the ability to redefine ourselves to start again to start fresh to start a new whatever madreo whatever mat of whatever situation we're in in life and whatever level we're on talk to him he is waiting by the phone even if it's been a very long time unburdened confide don't get high on substances to numb or distract yourself from the challenges of life God forbid when you encounter or confront a challenge simply get high on God get high on God lord get me high as used to sing so you'll say today it's not possible you know Rabbi I read the tanak I read thees I read the stories of the great rabbis of the talud earlier Generations you can connect to God God did Miracles you saw his guiding hand you lived with a certainty that he exists and earlier times you can get high on God but today ah it's impossible today who can get high on God who can see God talk to God feel God today it's not just it's not gonna happen no Z this is a catastrophic mistake it's it's like saying you know what it's been so long I haven't spoken to my parents it's too late I can't call them it's too late can never call them never ever ever ever too late and when you make that terrible mistake when you think it's too late and therefore you don't even try and you forfeit the opportunity for the relationship that you could have in that time what have you forfeited what have you surrendered what have you lost out on this is the essence of it all all 613 Mitzvah are there in order to propel us and to encourage us and promote us and push us to feel hashem's presence vus is the foundation it is underlying it all it's what it's really all about spoke about it yesterday the par here that sense of an that feeling that connection to the Ani there's our Ani our ego our sense of self and that gets in the way it's a barrier to relationships and there's the of God that all there is is God that he is in control and he is in charge and the more we connect with him and the closer we come to him the happier the more meaning the more purpose we feel we feel God said I don't change I've been here since before creation and through creation and after creation so because God says I've never changed I've never been altered I'm not compromised this is who I am I am everything and that's true in every single generation so it doesn't matter where or when you live it doesn't matter what you're going through it doesn't matter who you are he's our father he's our father and he's waiting for that connection for that love for that affection for that intimacy he's waiting for us to confide and he's speaking to us he's speaking to us it's an amazing thing you know that when elzar goes to be able to find a wife for for yak and he discovers Rifka now he's negotiating with Lo to be able to bring Rifka back and uh and the response is from Lo from Basel is yeah yeah no we know the whole story you made the deal and you came and all the things and and we saw it all unfold this is this is what's meant to be take our sister take our daughter RKA she should go this is what's meant to be as God said and the Wonders what do you mean as God says where did God say if you read all saas if you read the whole story which is not short of elzar going to find that wife for it never God never speaks out loud God never has some Revelation where he shares that Rifka is the chosen one that she's meant to be so what do you mean as God said so you know what the ran says listen carefully listen carefully you know what the raan says means God speaks to us through the events that unfold in our life so when you came with all those camels and with all those possessions and when our rala she went out to not only give you to drink but gave to the camels when we saw the whole thing unfold we knew that God was speaking to us that this was meant to be and that's love L and that's I mean just think about for a moment who we're talking about who we're talking about and yet they lived they lived with an attitude and mentality that I look at this world and I say it rains on me and it just got soaked God wanted me to get wet that was from God God is speaking to us all day that's this idea of these hash proess WhatsApp groups and that's why I ask you my dear my dear living with amuna friends to share your stories with me so I can share them with us because it's m one another I want to share a story with a dear friend a member of our shul who has since moved to an assisted living facility she's a wonderful wonderful person I don't have her permission to mention her name but we miss her and we're so glad that she continues to learn with us I hope she's on this morning as well because she's so so inspiring so she shared with me where I'm living now we order our meals on a sheet of paper a day before on Friday I ordered such and such for breakfast um they weren't really for breakfast they were meant to come for me for lunch when shabas morning came my order never arrived and I was wondering what was I going to eat for lunch that day if you're an assisted living facility particularly in a pandemic where you're in your room and eating in your room and somewhat isolated in your room and they don't deliver what you ordered to eat you have nothing to eat shabus you go hungry you can't call you're not going to buzz I soon need to take a shabus elevator down to the main floor shabus elevator's program stop on every floor as it goes down the door opens for a short while and then proceeds to go further I got off on the main floor did what I needed to do and then I proceeded to go back to my apartment shamas elevator then went nonstop to the 10th floor and the door opened and standing in before me with the people delivering the kosher meals I quickly told him I never received my breakfast that morning and then the door proceeded to close I proceeded back to my apartment and a short time while the door short time later the doorbell rang and the delivery staff was there with my lunch I asked them why I didn't deliver it earlier for my breakfast and they said you forgot to put your name and room number on the sheet of paper you turned in we didn't know where to deliver it I felt so much that God was with me and was aware of my dilemma I literally saw the hand of God that's what she writes to me so there's a story and you could say what was me they didn't deliver it was supposed to come breakfast was meant to be my lunch I worried for nothing I didn't know where my food would go I live in a assisted living facility it's difficult enough as it is you can look at what's missing in the story and say wo is me or she chose to look and say can you believe it what are the chances that I would take the shabas elevator exactly the right moment and what are the chances it would open at exactly the right time on the right floor where they would be standing there and what are the chances that it would close but they would know to come and ring the doorbell and all because I left my name and room number out but Hashem orchestrated everything so the food would be delivered nonetheless and as she signed off I felt so much that Hashem was with me and was aware of my dilemma I literally saw the hand of Hashem that amazing that's this life ofus no no there is such a life and I just read you an email from a real life person who I know who this just happened to and please continue to share your amuna stories small and large inconsequential consequential because when when we share with one another living this life and seeing that hand of Hashem and then it brings you that calm it brings you that Serenity they didn't deliver it I wasn't meant to have it yet if I don't get it I wasn't meant to have it maybe it would make me sick if I did get it if it worked out that was the hand of Hashem you don't have to lose your cool you don't have to be anxious or worried you don't have to be envious or angry you're able to remain calm a life of amuna is the greatest life the healthiest life the most fulfilling life so again someone who says that today it's impossible you need to know in every generation every Jew needs to contemplate so if it's possible and if that's the whole purpose of life and if that's the whole platform of Torah and mitzvos to remember and mindfully live that Hashem is in my life then where's the light ofus why aren't I living with it why isn't it come easy why isn't it natural why isn't it obvious why isn't everyone around me doing it why is there a whole world of Jews observant Jews Torah Jews B Torah who are going through motions they're scrupulously paying attention to minua and details they are vigilantly observing Jewish law and there's no conversation there's no connection with God God is absent from it all it's also this week's para I mentioned that in the par but I'll repeat it that has his dream and he wakes up and he says he wakes up he wakes up from his sleep and he says God is here but I had no idea had no idea and the simple understanding of the P what it's telling us is that yakob took a nap and he wakes up and he says wow I had this revelation God is present right here I never would have gone to sleep I never would have been so callous to take a nap if I knew this was a Sacred Space that God was here and what was the dream and the interpretation of the latter binding Heaven and Earth all for para all for another time but I forgot which saw it from and I apologize that I forgot but he says no the word sha could mean to sleep but it also means to learn Torah like to teach our children sh means to learn Torah to review Torah and He suggests maybe what the means woke up from his learning and he said I finished the whole D I finished and I finished is not really Torah per se I finished all my class I finished learning Torah someone could sit in Yeshiva someone can go to Jewish Education and learn the entire day long and not encounter God once God's name didn't come up the relationship didn't come up the connection didn't come up the Providence didn't come up and that's a tragic tragic education all of and all of N and all of and all of gamar is there so that at the time each and every time we're done learning we say how is my relationship with hm richer as a result and it doesn't matter if you're learning it doesn't matter if you're learning about Jewish holidays or Jewish civic law or Jewish criminal law or it doesn't matter what you're learning it is all a reflection of God's blueprint and vision for his world and when you close that safer the the the Mish the gar the Mish whatever it is that you're done learning you have to ask yourself how do I understand Hashem and His World better how do I feel closer to him how do I understand my mission more and even if you engage in intellectual gymnastics the entire day of studying of Torah but you don't talk about Hashem once you don't talk about his presence he's not on the page he's not in that conversation wakes up from learning he say wow I didn't know hasem is in the gamar I didn't know hasem is in that's what the curriculum of our schools should be that when you tell the stories of kvi that the whole goal of the story is how does this promote amuna where was Hashem in the story where was he in the relationship did he show did he not show did he say why did he do what he did how does it reflect on a relationship how do we learn and grow from it that's the point when we learn this we say oh if two people your Ox Gores my ox and who's responsible and who has to pay not because we're just learning academic scholarship but rather we're saying how does Hashem see property how does Hashem understand ownership how does Hashem see responsibility to safeguard and protect and therefore what's hashem's conclusion about who owes whom money because that's his vision for this world we have to bring Hashem back to the conversation we have to speak that language and introduce that vocabulary we have to not be embarrassed or ashamed or think that somehow we're unsophisticated when we talk about thank you and thank youm when we talk to our kids and to one another acknowledging hashem's relationship and role in our lives that's the purpose that's the goal that's what it's all about and we reinforce one another with those stories so a Jew says why don't I have the light at veas why don't I see everyone around me if that's really what it's all supposed to be about why do I walk out of Sho and there was a room of people who were muttering words but was anyone really attaching themselves to God was anyone really transformed or moved by the conversation did anyone really feel in his presence and why is it hard for me why am I so much less than the righteous and those who came before who seemingly so easily were able to attach themselves to him why why am I struggling why am I struggling here's a footnote on this and he says he cautions us be very careful don't enter a world of fake humility a false humility fraudulent humility why there are some people that will say look the sadim the righteous the people who came before me Generations others in my generation but who grew up in a different environment and with different parents they can live with that amuna they live with that but me do you know my background do you know my capability I have no zit flesh I can't sit and learn I have no self-control I can't regulate my own behavior I have no ability concentrate I don't even know what daving means I don't even know that I have a soul so therefore I'm a nothing I'm an absolute and utter nothing and as a nothing that's not for me so I'll admire I'll write a check to those yeshivas I'll give to those people I'll talk about and tell their stories but me I'm an absolute nothing I'm unworthy I'm incapable it ain't gonna happen say that is a false sense of humility that is a humility which is a cop out you have to know there are no excuses and there is no cop out and don't pretend you're not capable we are absolutely all capable every one of us doesn't matter what level we're on doesn't matter what situation we're in we are all capable restart that conversation Dad it's been a while but I want to talk I want to see your presence I want to lean on you I want to feel you're in it with me you need to have in you have to have faith that you can have faith it takes Faith to to believe that you could live a life of faith if your conclusion is going to be just not possible it's not gonna happen it's not gonna happen I forget about God all day long even if I go to shakas at the end of the day I go to all day long I forget about him I give into my Temptations I'm so busy negotiating and succeeding and killing it at work I forget God every day everywhere I go so it's just it's not going to happen so if you don't have faith that you can have faith you're right it's not going to happen you're right it begins with faith that you can have faith the belief that you can live this life you have to never ever ever concede never give up or give in never say I'm unworthy I'm incapable it's not going to happen there are people who whatever you are and whatever situation you are we in much worse and they transform their lives and they elevated and they grew it is capable so the first step of of change the first step of faith is to have faith in faith to have faith and believe that we can have faith never say I'm a balava you're not a balava you're a good person maybe you've done AOS that doesn't Define you it's not who you are and it doesn't limit you or hold you back we absolutely are all capable that raah the mistake or the bad thing that you've done it doesn't Define you or limit you it's not who you are it's just something that you've done and just like you did it not everything that we do we can undo but you can undo the impact it has on you and therefore he cautions us that this description that we're that we're um communicating and this picture that we're drawing for ourselves of this life of and you know you might say that's a beautiful description and I believe I believe Holocaust Survivors and sadik andos I've read biographies of others they're capable just not me just not me but that's a mistake that's a don't trip don't fall into that into that hole and don't cop your don't cop out with that excuse by saying it's not me doesn't matter who you are or what cards you've been dealt or where you are in life we're all capable of it we're all capable of it we've got to get back as Bailey says back into that frame of mind to have that connection it's hard you know sometimes you're in a good place and you're a bad place sometimes you're really really regulated in you're eating and sometimes you've let yourself go sometimes you're killing it in exercise and other times you've let yourself stop sometimes you're this but you know what it's unhealthy that roller coaster of Life of sometimes you're on a high and sometimes you're on a low you know the roller coaster could be like this I go like that the roller coaster could be like this I go like this so the challenge is to limit it of course we're going to have highs and lows of course times we're in the frame of mind sometimes we're not in that frame of mind but we have to minimize and try to eliminate or consolidate the the how much it fluctuates how long it fluctuates for and try to be consistent in the lives that we live to consistently live lives now there are areas of life where it doesn't matter my frame of mind in marriage there are moments that there's greater love and romance and affection there's moments that there's some sense of distance and disconnection but you're married the whole time and the Rules of Marriage apply to you the whole time and parenting there's moments that you feel deeply in love and connected and have with pride for your child and there's other moments that you're ready to kill him that you want to throw them out that you need to break from them but you're still a parent you still have those responsibilities they're always your child so in our relationship with Hashem true it fluctuates with a frame of mind true it's not always entirely consistent we're constant but yet that knowledge that mindfulness that we are forever the evem that we work for him he doesn't work for us has to Define Our Lives it's part of our status and identity always it's not a membership I ever give up I'm a member of Costco I gave up my membership in Costco I'm a member of BRS never give up your membership in BRS I'm a member of God's club I'm on a little break from God right now you don't go on a business trip or vacation and be on a break from your spouse and you're never on a vacation or break from God you have to believe and when you struggle to believe that you can believe when you struggle to believe you can believe then you got a Davin to believe we've spoken about this before in the past as well that even though it sounds so counterintuitive and in some ways even bizarre the idea that I'm going to DAV that I believe I'm struggling to know that there's a God so what am I going to do about it I'm going to Daven to the god that I'm not sure exists that he helped me know that he exists it's paradoxical it's counterintuitive it's illogical it sounds like it makes no sense because in many ways it makes no sense and yet and yet it's part of very Torah attitude of with the eating comes the appetite start doing and you'll see that it will follow taste and you will know that God is good know sometimes say I don't want that I'm not hungry and the person says just just take a taste take a taste and you take that taste and go wow that's good all of a sudden you develop this appetite for more you thought you didn't like it you thought you were allergic to it you thought you had no room for it and you taste it you realize wow that's good not only do I want it I have plenty of room for it taste God taste that experience of a life of deus of God taste a lifestyle of the Serenity and the Peace of Mind of the capacity to be happy of seeing God everywhere and you'll see hasem you'll say you know what not only can I live with that I have an appetite for more I want more of it I'm capable of more of it every one of us need to know so don't cop out don't excuse don't live with false humility know know that we're capable of it and know that our life will be enriched and enhanced and elevated by it it's just up to us to take that step and to make that move and to be able to live that life every one of us can accomplish it according to our individual level this is what he wants and this is the essence of it all and yes it takes hard work and yes it takes mindfulness and yes it takes reinforcement don't just come to the Amun belong to every amuna group that's out there there's no shortage of amuna books and amuna groups and amuna texts and email everything there's there's no shortage it needs reinforcement over and over and over but again it's not easy but I'll tell you a secret most of the most precious things in life most valuable things in life the most pleasurable things in life they take hard work they're not easy but the payoff is worth it the payoff of that life of Amun makes it worth it if a person whoever you are if you work on it whether you're the highest high you're a righteous person or whether you're in a place in your life or you feel like you're the lowest low with hm's compassion and with our reaching out to him and with our believing in him believing in ourselves and believing in our ability to believe in him taste from the light of this most magnificent of magnificent life every Jew has true and authentic and meaningful feelings we have that spark inside us there's that P inside us we were designed and we've been programmed in our hardware and our software to know that there's a God and to live a life with a connection to him and to feel this magnetic pull towards him every one of us how do we know that because he created usim we have that spark inside us so you know that spark it can be a roaring Flame or it can barely holding on like a pilot light like a spark the difference between the two is whether you you turn the knob and elevate it do you fan the flame in order to expand the spark and turn it into a roaring fire so we have that nadus every one of us has that spark inside us but are we fueling it are we Fanning it are we doing the things that we need to reinforce it which is the life of Torah and mitos a life of and in order to fan that spark so that we can it can burn it can rage inside us and we can live that life knowing there's a Hashem it's what he wants from us it's what we're capable of it's what we're here for and most of all it's what will give us the most meaningful the most Pleasant and the best life yet Wishing every a happy healthy and a holy day join us tonight 9:00 P p.m. we go behind the be with Malcolm Hine the great uh leader of the conference of presidents I think the most well-connected person on the planet presidents Prime Ministers diplomats politicians very excited tonight 9 p.m. to go behind the Bea with him everyone remember to be thankful not only Thanksgiving and this week but always we're called y says we're called y because we are a people of gratitude that should be what defines us our gratitude not taking anything for granted even in a 2020 year where there's so much hardship there are still things to be grateful for focus on them think about them be grateful for them and live that life of amuna andus until next time see you next week stay happy stay healthy and stay holy