Living with Emunah (Part 153): Confidence and Calmness

good morning good morning to all and welcome back to another installment of living with a muna where we are all working on ourselves to live every day with a sense of Emunah and to not think that we're in charge we're in control to not be filled with the panic the anxiety the worry the envy the arrogance but instead to live each and every moment of our lives to feel Hashem guiding hand on our shoulder his hug to feel his presence and his love to believe that we can and we will one day make sense of everything and all that happens I want to thank our friends dr. avi and Bela Morgan who sponsored the a miniseries for the eel is a knish most rabbi dr. Brian Cabot Berkeley Ben Rubin at NASA but we know it lived a life of emunah I'm happy to say that yesterday the galbart celebrated two simcoe's and there is no doubt that Brian is smiling down from shamayim a Mazel Tov his daughter Shoshana had a baby boy which is a great great Bravo hopefully will bring great Mohammed comfort to the family and his son Center got engaged to syphilis on one day and a mid-session legaia should only celebrate simplest also they thank you to our dear friends dr. Karen and Evac a bloom who sponsored this morning's particular share in commemoration of the earth site of Yvette's mother manish Lhasa the Cronulla for our house neshama should have an Aliya Yvette and Aaron's incredible work in our community thank you for all that you do and thank you for your sponsorship this morning we continue with our study of revita Marsh warts the blobbies sa does biscone F&O yerba Tohono we've been defining now for many many months the notion of a betta hone that to live a life of faith means to not see the battles the struggles the tension to not wake up every day and feel a sense of conflict which of course exists in the external superficial sense of selves but to be able to actualize and realize to be able to access the internal godliness within us and therefore to look at the world as operating in harmony to see the peace of the serenity to know that there's a purpose and a meaning to all that happens around us and we've been repeating each and every week in fact for many years living with Emunah has basically been the same class now 175 times in a row which is don't panic and don't be nervous or anxious and don't get angry take that deep breath and realize let go and Laham there is one above put our trust and faith in him and realized that after we've done all that we can and we've taken the initiative that we can it is in his hands and it's up to him so we're living in these two worlds simultaneously under Schwartz has been careful to emphasize over and over that these worlds it's not that one is true and one is a lie it's not that one is authentic and one is counterfeit they're both true simultaneously it is true that around us is a world filled with tension and doubt and uncertainty and conflict and challenge and challenge constantly whether its challenges in insignificant negligible ways like fighting the battle for the corn chips or whether it's much more meaningful challenges like a person gets bad news or suffers suffers loss or suffers something terrible and needs to find a way to persevere nonetheless so we battle everyday and that is a true world that we are living in but we can let that define and inform who we are we can let that capture our emotions our attitude our philosophy our mental health emotional health spiritual health or we can live in that world and fight those battles because they are real and nevertheless the true us is the internal sense of self the true us is the one with the beat of the Batak Basham the one who says i walk into the city betta i have a confidence and a calmness because I know that whatever turns it out and however it works out it is the way it is meant to be my daughter mr. Shem is getting married August 4th now in New York and we have to quarantine in New York for two weeks before we can see anyone or celebrate a wedding so amidst assembly a an hour with a sham stop we're gonna try to go to New York at the end of next week and we found a home and we are going to lock ourselves in it and we are going to have two weeks of quarren torah where all the sheering will come on zoom from Quarren Terra from our quarantine in New York but now we're nervous what happens god forbid if one of us catch it before next week how do we travel we don't have it please God we won't catch it nobody should be nervous the mid-session so you get you the panic and worry and you could say what will be or you could say I'm gonna take all the precautions follow all the guidelines I'm going to be as careful as I can be and then at the end I said let go I said let us share externally there's a lot of calculations do we go out and who do we see and how do we operate but internally you say I do the best I can and the rest is up to a sham he's got a master plan I can be confident and I can be komm I don't have to panic and I'm not to worry and I don't have to fear because and again I'm just giving you every one of us we can turn the sound on I can take you off mute and I'm sure we can go one-by-one and zoom on Facebook on YouTube on all the different platforms that we're learning together right now I'm sure every one of us could describe what they're going through in their lives that they are struggling or panicking and how they nonetheless have to persevere and remember to let go and let God remember to say I'll do the best I can and after that what am I going to be anxious and worrying what am I gonna have sleepless nights is that going to actually change anything all we'll do is make things worse in fact the worry and anxiety will lower your immune system and make you more vulnerable and susceptible to the very thing that you're so worried you're going to get so it is counterproductive it actually exposes you and makes more evolved more vulnerable to exactly what you're trying to avoid it makes no sense it's illogical rather rather we have to work on we have to constantly work on we have to on a regular basis work on doing all that we can doesn't mean we could cop-out take the lazy way out or lazy way out and not do what we have to do is to take our initiative we have to make our effort we have to be partners with Hashem but once we've done our part and once we've done all we can we've planned we put the guidelines in place and we're operating it the best we can at that point it's time to let go and to let us share my so something very interesting very beautiful but why why Jacobson in his very last Shabbos he quoted the Austrian British philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein anyone ever hear of him Ludwig Wittgenstein he lived 1889 to 1951 I'd never heard of him not that I am so steeped in philosophy he's considered by many to be one of the greatest philosophers of the twentieth century and he once said that his aim the aim of a philosopher is quote to show the fly the way out of the bottle to show the fly the way out of the bottle I read the quote and I said what does that mean so by why do I explains what it means is you ever see a fly caught in a bottle it is flying around and banging against the walls at the bottom of the bottle it just keeps banging its head against the glass in vain attempting to get out and the more it tries the more it fails until it drops from exhaustion and maybe even worse and the one thing it forgets to do is look up to the sky because if it looked up to the sky it would find the opening and it would find the way out and he said that's his mission as a philosopher to show the fly the way out of the bottle we are living our lives and we're banging our head against the wall we're betting at you banging your head against the walls of the bottle and we're trying to get out we're trying to get out of this place of doubt and uncertainty that that place of panic and anxiety and how are we trying to get out by banging our heads against the bottle but if only we'd look up we'd see the opening if only we'd lock look up we'd see the way out if only we'd look up towards the heavens towards the sky we know we could start banging our head against the wall and we'd find the way we'd find the way forward such a beautiful depiction I found that fantastic the image of the fly banging its head in the bottle if only we'd look up towards the sky we'd find the way out and that is the way so many of us are living our lives we're banging our head against the bottle and we are literally injuring ourselves emotionally spiritually physically we're injuring ourselves we're harming ourselves by banging our head against the wall by thinking it's up to us by trying to get answers to questions that have no answers and instead we look up towards the sky we'll find that opening we could find our way out okay continuing in this essay the neverending constantly giving me Brava called this essay ever of Schwartz and he says the following Cameron if I chose company autumn more covers me premieres four hits only Allah don't get so nice and efficient in his ocular lutein Marcus came before Adam I am entirely be talking about Morocco sake Teleservices oh the theorem as our heroes get so near snap shall we live in both these worlds simultaneous they were operating in the physical world and there's something called a virus and it is there something called spread and contagion and there are decisions that have to be made and planning that has to be done and we're living in a world in which there are external forces there are temptations in the world of food and wellness there are temptations in the world of honesty and integrity there are temptations in the world of immorality and promiscuity there are temptations in the world of gossip and slander there are temptations in the world of laziness and procrastination there are no shortages of areas of our life where we're battling from the moment we wake up until we fall asleep but we also have that internal voice that sends himself that calmness that confidence that godliness and the question is which defines us which one are we really or put differently and again I've repeated this a million times and I'll tell you now I'm gonna repeat it a million more if you don't want to hear it don't sign on and that is you could look at yourself and you can define yourself as I am a body and I have a soul if you ask most people I'll say Who am I I'm the one you see in the mirror Who am I the one who goes for the mani-pedi the one gets their hair done Who am I the one who tries to keep up with the style in the fashion the fed Who am I the one who goes to the adjustment of the chiropractor and the massage Who am I the one who enjoys the delicious food Who am I what I see in the mirror and what my lab report comes back with that's who I am oh yeah also I heard and sure once from a rabbi that I have a soul I'm a body and I also heard once that I think I read it somewhere that I have a soul I don't know what it means I've never been in contact with it it's never been nourished it never been alive I don't know what it means but I read it somewhere I heard it once that's not the Jewish way of life that's not our philosophy or our approach it's in fact exactly the opposite yeah I have a body it needs to be taken care of and it can even be pampered there's no reason not to indulge it can enjoy the pleasures of this world but it should never define who I am Who am I I'm a soul I am a soul oh yeah I also think I once saw in a mirror that I have a body Who am I at my core what is my essence I'm gonna show my soul my memories my experiences my conversations my relationships my aspirations my ambition my godliness my sense of discipline my yearning for truth for holiness for purpose for meaning that's Who I am I am a soul oh yeah I once passed a mirror and I noticed that I also have a body confusing the soul in the body is as foolish as confusing your clothing with who you are your clothing you put out in the morning and you take off at night and while you might enjoy nice clothing and you might indulge in fashion or fad or comfort or custom made but you never confuse it with who you are you take off you shed that clothing at night well our body we put on when we were born the soul was put into the body at the end of 120 years we will shed the body like a person disrobe like they take off their clothing after 120 and it is as foolish to think that the body is who we are as it would be to think that the clothing is part organically of who we are we are a soul that has a body we are not a body that has a soul as I said I've said it so many times and I continue to say it until we believe it until we live it until we know it because it is so critical so critical to be able to live a life of honeymooner NAVAIR kids Anita nahi not some anti ohio stateõs will happiness a car about to have beneficial Macromedia menachem so where did we go wrong answer Schwartz why is this so hard why is once a week living with a Munna not enough it's not enough because in between every Wednesday morning we forget on Wednesdays we reinforce for ourselves we have our support group and we remember oh yeah let go let God what do you panic what do you worry do your best and after that it's up to him this meaning this purpose this sort of there's a reason let go and that carries us till let's say class is like forty five to nine twenty nine thirty by 10 a.m. we're back to where we were it's so hard it's so hard to remember you see the news of the data when you hear what's going on around us when you worry when you're filled with anxiousness or you were tempted towards anger it's so hard why is it so hard and what is the strategy to overcome so bar freshener Schwartz helps us how do we get out right we look up and we see the opening in the bottle we see the sky and then instead of flying through it or even if we've escaped it we go back in the bottle and bang her head against the walls once again why a commercial in Turkey attire Mattia has its have uh Sinatra his atop now either mugshot of his bonus the answer to it is very simple I spoke about it last night we started a new series on Tuesday nights at 9:00 p.m. to listen to it on why you took over a rabbi from gory org about the best version of you when we spoke about mindfulness you cannot be the best version of you if you cannot control your thoughts if you are not present in your thinking your strategy your decision-making if you are somebody who just impulsively compulsively does whatever you want follows whatever you feel that's a world of addiction it's a world of of compulsion you simply say what comes to your mind you eat what comes to your appetite you go and you do and you look at what you want to do in that moment and you never stop and think there's no self awareness there's never interest section or reflection there's never margin or space to stop and think and say what is the wisdom of this and what would be the outcome of this and will this harm me or is this good for me how will it be responded to and how will it land and well that's right my shovel his bone honest we need to think it is a lost art in our time and our age there's too much noise and too much interference and too much static that we don't have the ability to stop and to think to stop and to think I went to attend the Kellogg management school for a month for an executive seminar and one of the people who presented to us was the CEO of a company that had literally a hundred thousand employees and he described to us that he has on his schedule actually at the time to go outside to his car and to leave his phone in his office and to stop and to think he had in his schedule thinking time thinking time Vicky in time anyone have that in their Outlook or Google Calendar time to think to put their phone on airplane mode to disconnect to actual schedule time to think it could be while going for a walk or it could be with a drive in silence or it could be sitting in your home quarantine quarantine it could be just sitting and thinking sitting and thinking what are the problems well the dilemmas you're trying to think through what are the calming that you're trying to do for yourself how do you want to reorient or recalibrate where you're feeling emotionally intellectually spiritually time to think my shovel is bone in us we are running it's such a rat race and even in the world that slowed us down this pandemic we're still operating in hyper super speed and we don't have time to think there's so much noise there's so much interference meet be a social media news we don't have time to think to be mindful to be present think be contemplative to be reflective so how are you gonna have breakthrough how are you gonna break through how are we going to reorient how are we going to do a paradigm shift in our thinking but we don't have time or the ability to stop and to think my friend Lenny shares the doctors are showing practicing mindfulness Ward's off Alzheimer disease dementia mental slowing down mentally is mindfulness which makes a lot of sense if you don't use your mind you're going to use lose it now I don't mean using your mind because we still are you know working or having conversations or debating politics of echo chambers I don't really consider that using our minds it's more using our mouths it's using our reaction time using our minds is stopping to think processing calibrating shirisha start Ruffa new to the marsh above his mother is the beginning of the solution the beginning of the of the treatment the beginning of the medicine that we have to take in order to recalibrate and reorient in order to be able to live the lives that we want to be living the calmness the serenity the confidence it begins with thoughtfulness and presence of mind other MIOSHA Bashar Sasha ket whom is born in El token I'll show you find quiet and peace and you enter your inner world have you ever been there before do you know how to get in there do you know what it looks like your sounds like but it feels like can you be comfortable there or is it so uncomfortable is it so uncomfortable I've spoken about and written about the time that I had a friend who was trying to help me overcome technology addiction and when I went to see him he took my technology and importantly he went through the ritual the visual ritual of locking my technology in a briefcase and denying the access to it for the day that I'd be with him and at first it was like he asked for my kidneys and my liver and my heart and to lock it away and to deny me access to it but by the end it's literally like going cold turkey on an addiction you can't enter you're own world if this something buzzing and beeping and vibrating in your pocket or you're just tempted to check the notifications and look what am I missing for the sense of FOMO how do you get into that world how do you get into that inner place and inner space how do you feel comfortable once you're there how do you hear you know Shama talking to you listening to you how do you get there and how do you learn from her own aftman had an idea road of zinger brings it down someone who was our guest really this year you know we talked to our sham with davon hang but I should i'm answers us also sometimes with his PO dudas and his bonus with self reflection and meditation what I mean by that we all have that element of kin within us we have godliness within us we not only believe in God we believe in the God within ourselves so sometimes when God is trying to speak to us he's saying how can you listen to me by listening to yourself your inner voice turn off the noise turn off the static turn off the interference and listen to your neshama listen to your pintle unit listen to your conscience listen to listen to your voice listen to what it's telling you I'm speaking to you from within you but there's so much noise and so much Netflix and some going on how are you gonna hear it shut down disconnect scheduled time be mindful and spend and and schedule time to simply be lost in your own thoughts to listen to ash I'm talking to you through you through you person sits by Chekov is moaning who misses a burrow akeakekiakaha boat Ella black coming a new nitra / course what happens when you sit in the quiet and you try to get into that place and you try to listen to yourself kyon becau haha boat a a few realize I have the capacity for trust I have the capacity for calm we've redefined it Batak on boat after doesn't just mean faith as in a leap of faith or a blind faith boat f means I have calmness and I have confidence be tough on bad smell Ober maracas get Sonya schemas Boyer so you begin by saying where's my calmness and where's my confidence maybe I believe in dr. pouchy maybe I believe in the stock market maybe I believe in what I'm reading maybe I believe in myself I have self-confidence you first acknowledge the notion of the capacity for confidence and calmness what do I believe in who do I believe in is there an expert is there a powerful person is that our personality is there something someone around me that I have trust in that I can put faith in that I have confidence in and therefore I feel like calmness from and when we create that foundation that nugget that seed we can really let go and submit to an ocean of confidence and calmness and something else then la crema K nu nutritional a score now we can begin to expand upon that now we can build upon it may Haven mokoro shallow sohe botella where does that come from where does it come from my ability in my capacity to have calmness and confidence where does that come from how do i generate that what does it feel like be honest the dignity of safale mine who show us at suppose so for example I finished my cup of coffee let's go back to that example where a person says I have a cup I'm a bucket I have a pail I have a mug of coffee of water and you say to yourself okay I'd like to lift it up I'm gonna make a cup of coffee and I'm going to and drink it am i confident I can get it done some of you men I see you are not even confident you can make a cup of coffee but most but should be confident they can make a cup of coffee so I have a confidence I can make the cup of coffee yes my confident I can lift it to my mouth and not spill it all over my shirt and tie I hope so at this stage of my life I hope I have enough strength and agility I hope I have enough balance in my hand that I could take the cup to my mouth and not spill it all over and not burn myself and not burn myself terribly so may he kinda be tough on shots there I need it though the motivation the Aikido show your oven Shoshanna Manavi where does that come from where does that come from that I believe that I can lift the cup that I can make the cup of coffee that I can enjoy it and not spill it on my face the gallon Matsuyama geishas yeah D Mia Marshall a academ in our hair Oh Mia mushiya by Coakley laughs roseboro's how do I know nobody will bump into me or somebody won't get it before me how do I know that I can hold on and it won't slip out well I had to have them make all my coasts maybe my hands will recoil from the heat maybe it will be slippery from condensation me Amish are like PSE idea how do I know I can lift my hand what if my brain is giving instructions to my arm at the muscles are not listening the joints are not functioning meushar coast Letitia there but there I got shot selfie how do I know there won't spring a hole in the bottom of the cup and it won't leak everywhere the canines do identify can kinda shadows but it's like medium are so you sit there here's the thought you ready here's the exercise for everybody here's your exercise do it today you have until next Wednesday the exercise is to take that cup of coffee and to ask yourself all those questions how do I know it won't slip how do I know wants to bring the whole how do I know it won't burn my mouth how do I know I won't spill it how do I know my muscles and my joints will be able to lift it Mia Marc who says who says who says this doesn't sound like a very smart exercise for a group working on be tough on but the exercise is to ask yourself me amar how do I know maybe it everything will go wrong let me imagine everything go wrong and let me ask myself me amar who said it will go right shayla's for hockey who say blue Xolos has caught a short vist our feet so knuckle in the poop chute to Cannes ooh it's like DOS what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to collect every voice or thought of opposition of obstacle of a friction that I can imagine that can make this go wrong hey my virus was born my boss permit by ABR so is Madison las lajas an enum of Taha'a and what is the sum total what is the result if I can imagine and I can write out a list of everything that could go wrong every reason this won't go right every obstacle every friction every tension every battle that I'm facing in order to lift a cup of coffee to my lips and further to go right what will I realize as a result I will realize as a result is it guaranteed is it guaranteed is it guaranteed I can look the cup of coffee and drink it safely Keegan has Mother's okay I have a cool enough in me i boorish I think against a bum managed cause - Coco asked me Baku Khan we're Tony's Berger who you Khalid O'Shaughnessy I tell toughest money's Dukas Misha I'm on the chemin Maluku Yamaha comet Whitlock bertoni's Barca get maria crowler she'll have a recursive cash is graphically team not Charlene is Rafael Gama from Osama cosmos ocean a mission from orbit item Isla del Sol there Schwartz the following I don't have confidence all the things that have to happen in the natural order have to happen naturally and my age and my good health and my athleticism I should be able to lift a cup of coffee naturally naturally there's nothing about the cup of coffee the cup is manufactured it looks like it's made well Dixie Cups excellent company should be able to not spring a leak no reason to believe that my arms my joint my muscles won't work no reason to believe that it will slip out of my hand condensation that never happened before there are a whole list of things but ever in the natural order that support my confidence and notion that it's all gonna go right nothing will go wrong but if you believe and I shouldn't mean know that there's no such thing as nature what's natural becomes supernatural what's ordinary is extraordinary extraordinary ordinary Cazale kumar tells us the story of the great rabbi whose wife is crying because she doesn't have oil to light for Shabbos so he says take vinegar she says vinegar vinegar doesn't ignite it doesn't light and he said it neshama and the chemin Viad look the one who told the oil to light will tell the vinegar to light you know what the difference is between oil and vinegar we've come to expect oil to light so we think it's natural we think it's supposed to happen we take it for granted whereas vinegar vinegar is transcending the natural process it doesn't make sense Hashem can turn things over upside down and that which seems that will not work out so again that only begs the question and reinforces the question how do I know I can set this cup of coffee safely how do I know the 15 things that could go wrong won't go wrong why don't I get stuck why aren't i paralyzed and debilitated with fear and anxiety when I have to drink a cup of coffee how is it that I'm able to make the coffee and drink it while being in conversation with another person and I don't even remember I was so mindlessly and so calmly and confidently making and drinking the coffee that I actually made it and drank it and finished it and I don't remember one moment of it because I was so lost in listening or following to the morning news or in conversation with someone else that's the level of confidence and calmness I have that everything's gonna go right now where does that come from we just listed 15 things that could go wrong and we just talked about even the natural order which would reinforce and support the fact that it might go right shouldn't because what is nature after all that can be reversed and suspended so why am I so calm and confident why don't I even remember that process why am i right why am i able to sleep at night I should be up the whole night gripped by fear that everything's gonna go wrong that next morning when I make my cup of coffee but it doesn't happen instead we don't even think about it instead it's second nature instead it happens mindlessly and we don't even remember it his Bonin assume Avila said oh no she'll amount he says penis who push it across he was on his office lockers I take a quiz show LA was coconuts me burro by talking to senators at loci she became me hey yo ma field called over says her Schwartz because implicitly without articulating it or communicating it without even feeling it consciously but implicitly we are letting go and letting God we're trusting in my sham I'm trusting in the history of sipping cups of coffee I'm trusting in the logic that it will all go right I'm trusting that the things of nature will continue to operate in the natural way and therefore I don't even need to think about it I remain calm and I remain confident I'm not gripped by panic or fear I'm not debilitated or paralyzed by what could go wrong because everything reinforces the fact that it's going to go right I let go and I let God kako da da da da ki I see about me mr. Carson Chico Poulos : new houses are Moroccan we need to say hello Keesha palmito honey Bryan coulomb Kadosh Baruch was the one who drives the world he made the rules of physics and chemistry kochevar who is the one who created the history in the pattern of the cup of coffee going right and just like I can with confidence and calmness and even on mindlessness go through my life and realize I've let go and I let God essentially what he's trying to demonstrate is we let go and let God all over in our life again I don't want to make you neurotic and ruin your day but anyone here take medicine I take medicines every day every time you put a pill in your mouth and swallow how do you know there's no poison how do you know it hasn't become contaminated how do you know it's not going to harm you how do you know the studies not gonna come out that says that you just destroyed yourself how do you know how do you know how do you know how do you know you buy food in the store how do you know that it's not contaminated how do you know it's not carrying coronavirus when you walk across the street how do you know you don't have a blind spot you're not gonna get run over when you drive your car how do you know the brakes aren't gonna fail how do you know anything in life how do you know anything in life again I hope I didn't just ruin everybody's day and now you're hiding under the bed and that's it how do you know no LMI rather what does it mean it means and what we're demonstrating is that essentially in so many areas and components of our lives we are already living this aspiration in so much if not majority the overwhelming majority of our lives our behaviors our actions our patterns our rituals we are already living the life that says I'm common I'm confident I don't give a second thought I don't worry I don't panic I'm not gripped the debilitated by fear or worry but I let go and I let God you know why because on the whole people who take medicine don't find it's contaminated poison and don't die and statistically speaking I'm fairly safe therefore I choose not to think about it beyond that but really if you go to the lair beyond that what you're saying is the reason I'm not worried is because I'm letting go I'm letting God the need to precisely upon me to kind of run coulomb there's a spark of godliness in everything in everything there's the harmony and a peace and a surrounding to the universe I make informed intelligent decisions if I do my best with them and so if if I designate time this is real short sasaeng listen carefully if I designate time every day how often as you can if I designate time to stop and to sit and to think these thoughts I have a nugget I have already a precedent of being able to live this way I don't need to create it usually I in something from nothing I already have it in my life all I need to do is expand upon it all I need to do is apply it in other areas and another place it is the most liberating thing in the world instead of looking at others and being envious of what they have and desiring it instead of being angry and losing your cool instead of being arrogant and thinking you're in charge and you're in control instead of feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders let go and let God now I don't mean to suggest or say that because it's easy I would be lying to you if I didn't tell you that your favorite and I are concerned and that we don't lie awake at night and ask ourselves what will be how will we pull off this wedding how will we get to where we need to go how will we quarantine effectively who from our family can be there safely what will be what will be you're not human if those thoughts don't come to you though I think we can control them and if we don't have time to talk about this today we'll pick up with it amid session next week we should never relinquish a forfeit our capacity to control our thoughts don't say I can't we can we choose not to but we also can choose to but I'd be lying to you if I didn't tell you those thoughts come to us that we don't struggle with them of course we do and that's where our serum and our support group come in and that's where the mindfulness comes in and that's where the thoughtfulness comes in and that's where the consciousness comes in and that's where designating that time to stop and to create partnerships alpha versus in emunah to create a Habra of Emunah to create societies of Emunah the reinforced and that helped us and support us to stop when those thoughts come and say what are you doing planned X Y & Z you've taken precaution a b and c we're doing the best and everything that we can and what's what's the panic or fear gonna do it's liberating when you oh yeah you know what you're right i forgot i believe in him i forgot i teach about that it made a whole career out of that got smith on that and work on that for my whole life oh yeah i forgot that i teach that that's right I also should live that so okay we're gonna institute a B and C family lockdown no kids are going to camp would stay safe until we can get to New York quarantine and you okay we're doing everything we can we're doing it right and now that we've chosen now that we strategized that's it smile let go feel Basim ha take a weight off your shoulders liberate yourself be a million pounds lighter because there's thing you're right if it were random and chance and you just wonder how the wheel the roulette wheels gonna land and will it land on you then you have every reason not to sleep but if you remember if you remember that the house is in charge of this of the role of that wheel and that he chooses who it lands on and if it lands on you it's for the best you'll get through it there's a way out and it's meant to be then you're liberated let go and let God you're a million pounds allowed it later and you're a million times happier and you're not robbed that that's serenity the peace the health and all the other good things I have seen several people start to go gray in four months from coronavirus me it was too late I can't blame coronavirus but I have seen people start to grow gray in three and four months the worry the panic the anxiety all natural and understandable it is literally taking its toll on us and I believe that for years to come we will look back and measure and measure the negative impact of this time I think there are people who will have PTSD when they wake up and realize I didn't even go to the funeral of a loved one I didn't say a proper Shiva I didn't have the celebration that I hope the dreamt of how are people who lost someone overnight with no warning didn't get to say goodbye or visit a hospital or simply people who endure three four or five months we don't know how long this will go on of uncertainty and of doubt of panic and it will take its long-term toll on us but it doesn't have to it doesn't have to we can control our thoughts we can decide what we allow in we can reframe and recalibrate and reorient our attitude and our paradigm we can lean in and trust in him and feel his love and his support and his guiding hand that doesn't mean to act irresponsibly of course we have a mandate and a mission we have a responsibility to be careful and cautious and all that we do but it doesn't have to have all that negative impact on us and so we're already a little bit over time I'll do a few more minutes if you want to hang up we'll lose you but we'll do a couple more minutes because I want to just finish this thought even I also need to tell ki Makai Yamaha they know me I see what my field called Delhi Calabria Lahaina your home love talk with club if there weren't the spark within you that gave you the capacity to trust then you could never have a cup of coffee so what we've demonstrated so far is that if we can have enough confidence in our life to drink the cup of coffee we already have the capacity within us to trust so the most suspicious the most cynical the most skeptical the most suspicious among us still across the street still order takeout food still swallow a pill of medicine still drive a car still do all kinds of things that demonstrate that even the most cynical skeptical doubtful among us still have areas of life where we have confidence where we trust where we trust kimimaro commercial Russian betta name is galih helo ferocious Hobart has Bay's test the male caller Matthias kalila hi sir how about toast our cows so better the opposite you rearrange those letters and you get a smack you get a patch if you don't want to be talking if you don't have faith if you don't have confidence you don't the ability to operate you know the capacity to live you're knocked down you're knocked down so they're opposites those letters can spell trust and confidence or those letters can spell getting knocked down and if you don't trust your neurotic I will never get on an airplane I don't get in a car I don't get on a train people are phobias it's a form of a mental illness it's mental illness to have a phobia that's illogical and irrational because you're not capable or confident in anything around you it knocks you down it's a passion punim it's a smackdown and the opposite is better beat on the capacity to trust have faith I feel my Buster tell him as Windows beats egos the mail-away eating tapas bye Berta babe it's Cobb and on August Iran it seemed like Lee's mission accom native rom the matter cuz I call on cool Oh hiya andromus yeah oh warm assumption later movie it's a world of randomness a light and dark are operating in a mixture well I need to lose my hushing idea Duma those people have phobias agoraphobia people who are afraid of being in public social settings people who are afraid of public speaking people are fights people who are afraid of cars and planes and trains people are afraid of afraid of afraid of that they're robbed of their life that's a fear so what is the opposite of being robbed of life because you're living in gripped by fear is having and confidence I did my research I'm confident and therefore there's nothing wrong with traveling in a car taking the medicine ordering the takeout you've been jumping out of a plane I've jumped out of a plane twice it's fantastic it's much less dangerous than driving on i-95 in Florida where all you see are fingers on top of a steering wheel and that's all you see it is much less dangerous statistically you do your research you make informed the decisions and once you do you can live with confidence you don't have to be gripped by a phobia or fear that robs you of your life literally literally paralyzes you well I need to know fashion media do more the main smart Amalia charlotte notion Binion but qiyam loomed over ever look at a skyscraper and you say am i insane to go into that building what's holding it up it could topple over one strong wind they were getting an elevator and you say a few strings are holding the elevator up again anyone who's nervous should not be listening to this class it'll make things worse not better but how do you get into an elevator how do you walk into a skyscraper how do you step into a car the point is throughout our lives a million times a day a million times a day we are trusting how do you take out step outside your home and not believe there's gonna be a sinkhole and you're gonna follow the path of CO Rock to oblivion there are no shortage of things that could go wrong at any given day so how did you get out of bed how do you open your eyes how do you start your day how do you live with calmness or confidence in anything because we make informed decisions and among those informed decisions is the know that there is a Hashem and he runs the world and let go liberate yourself unburden yourself and find the happiness that we deserve so thank you for joining for our support group it's good to see everybody should live with Emunah and then we can live with happiness holiness and good health see everybody tonight I'm behind the Bema wishing you a fantastic fantastic day