Introduction to Eicha - Badad and Bidud

my dearest friends my dearest friends my brothers and sisters in boca raton and from wherever you're watching in this most unusual what's the most painful it's most complicated tish above let's be honest most years most years we struggle to connect to tish above the calamities the tragedies of the past are from so long ago they are so unfamiliar to us do we even begin to appreciate it to relate to what was and what was lost how can we mourn and how can we grieve for things we never knew what does it mean to have had a base i make dash what does it mean to be exiled from you shall i am what does it mean to be sent away and to sit alone this is foreign to us it's unfamiliar to us we hear the words most ears of the megillah that will read momentarily how could she sit alone and while every year we can translate the words we don't connect to what they mean yes to sit alone most years we listen to icha in a show that's packed with people from wall to wall most years we're sitting among friends and though of course we're restricted from greeting one another nevertheless surrounded by people we know we feel companionship and community and connection and while we hear the words of icha most years we struggle to manufacture the feeling to generate the emotions that they're meant to create but my dear friends not tonight tonight this year those words they pierce our souls and they break our hearts because of just how true they are and how deeply they resonate with us and how accurately they describe our condition how accurately they describe this moment how accurately they describe how we are feeling but that means alone the word for quarantine in hebrew the law in israel for those who test positive who are exposed to corona to cove it is they must sit and be dude they must sit quarantined isolated alone tonight instead of sitting on the floor together we're spread out we're each in our own homes we're divided we're apart we are distanced from one another not by choice normally every year we end the evening and i remind everyone that the lawyers we're not allowed to socialize and we can't say hello and as much as we're drawn to one another and as much as we are accustomed spend time when we walk out on tish above we go our separate ways but i don't have to remind you of that tonight because the moment we turn off the technology the moment we stop this dream we're apart somewhere listening or legally and be good but every one of us every one of us is feeling bad but distance from one another and distanced from our helicosho driven from our holy sanctuary you know we never knew a life none of us none of us know what life with the mikdash was like we didn't merit to live when the basarnikta stood in all of its glory we don't know what it means to be exiled from it but we do know what life with our mikta is like it wasn't that long ago that our vibrant shul was active and bursting at the seams and multiple minions and multiple simchas and endless torah learning and shiurim and speakers and kiddish and challenges and events and programs our miktash ma'at in its glory and we've been exiled from it and shoes that are open they're open minimally while still yet many continue to dive in outdoors and so many still have to dive in by themselves and in their homes in bed alone we are badad from learning torah together in a bass madrish we are badad from joining together to hear sheer we are by dad from making the walls of our shore of verbally from the collective sound of song we are badad from having a kiddush or nourishing our souls at a collective shall shoot us we're celebrating a simcha in all of its glory my dearest friends on this test above night in tough shin pay things are not normal this is not the world the way it's meant to be sitting alone and apart exiled and driven from our mikdash ma'at the central place from which we draw inspiration from which we draw a connection from which we feel in the presence of the ribonus this is not normal modified simchas and nearly empty funerals and virtual shivers grandchildren waving at grandparents from the street children holding up signs to their loved ones in a nursing home sending messages to nurses in a hospital this is not normal a life of badad be do it is not normal it's gollus it is a gullis within the darkness of our gulles friends and family that were here and healthy a moment and they're gone the next it's not normal so many of you so many of us who are here gathered tonight have lost loved ones over these four months tamid righteous men and women family and friends is it normal to need refrigerated trucks because a morgue runs out of room for bodies is that normal my beloved cousin of zamin hilo fendell secretary who was robbed and stolen from his 12 children from his family his torah that he was yet to write and teach and share gone it's not normal it's horbone we are living in a state of horban of abnormality of bedouin of badada of loneliness and isolation abedius or loneliness the likes of which i have never seen is it normal that i'm pesach i've been show me shabbos my whole life i never violated shabbos yanked if i've kept my entire life i'm privileged to grow in an observant family and this past for the first time in my life i left my phone on because everybody had to be bad alone apart and so that someone who fell desperate and someone who felt the pain of loneliness and someone who was going to do something desperate and devastating and i left my phone on thinking i'll make it to the end of yante and certainly nobody will call they'll be reassured to know the phone is on i spoke on the phone more times on this yantif of pesach than i have on a yanta for shabbos my entire life to lonely and desperate people this is not normal my dearest friends i fear i fear that for too many of us parts of being in goddess driven and exiled from our mikta at our community divided fragmented spread apart my greatest fear my deepest pain is that well this will start to feel normal that instead of streaming tears and instead of having a broken heart from not being able to gather in shul i've heard from some who are relieved they can dress down shabbos youngt of shorts and t-shirts david in the driveway instead of longing for davening to return to its full glory pining to your kriya satora and of torah there are some who think this new abbreviated format not that bad it wouldn't be terrible if we keep it going forward this is horban when the abnormal feels normal when the loneliness becomes what we've come to anticipate it's not normal it's corban it's destruction brs is open again boca raton synagogue our holy shul for minion but it's not right for everyone to come there are many invulnerable populations there are many who cannot take that risk there are many who don't feel comfortable and there are so many legitimate reasons it's okay it's correct it's right to still daven outdoors or to daven home alone if you can't or you shouldn't come back you're doing the right thing and we love you and we think about you and we are searching every day for ways to accommodate and to welcome you back but in the meantime don't give up and don't ever adjust and don't let darwining at home or in your driveway become a new normal it's goalless it's exile it's not normal and if you can come back if your health allows you to come back if you can come back don't ever shalom choose not to simply because of comforts or convenience could you imagine could you imagine you're allowed to visit a grandparent to finally enter the hospital or facility to spend time with a loved one but you choose to still wave from the parking lot instead or to hold up a sign from outside because it's more convenient three bonus shalom is found in our miktas the shima what those walls have heard what those siddhurim have absorbed the shul is the holiest place until we have a base on our sanctuary driveway miniature dominating alone for some it's what's necessary and needed right now but it's a gullis it's a gullis within a dark gullis it is not normal it's not normal we have an amazing member of our shul who's deep into his nineties mr mike sanders alzheimer should have good health and long years and i try to call him regularly to check in on him my neighbor my mentor my friend and do you know what that phone call is like each and every time he's in his 90s and do you know what he lives for his entire life revolves around going to show and for four months every time i call him it's the same conversation rabbi did you call me to tell me i can come back should i come now when is the next minion is the show open is it time can i come home so far that i have to bend the truth every time we talk i have to tell him well the show's not really open it's not open for you you can't come back just yet soon mr sanders soon we practically need to hire security just to keep this man deep in his nineties away because my friends that is what it means to know you're in exile it's what it means to desperately long to come home it's what it means to peacefully yeshua to wait for the salvation for the redemption to want to go back to the way it's meant to be to want to return to normal to want to come home and to be together with your family and to be where we belong these four months our current goalless our condition the reality of being exiled from our mikdash from one another these four months are a microcosm of a bigger and broader goddess of the exile that has lasted for two thousand years the same way these four months are not normal these last two thousand years are not normal and they must never ever feel normal it's not normal to face growing anti-semitism celebrities and athletes who have no fear in a world in which no one is free to express bias or hate towards any group but still license to talk about or to retweet it to repost lyrics against the jew not to mention adversaries and enemies in iran or surrounding israel or right here in america who seek our demise and extermination is it normal to have to confront hate is it normal for shules to need security guards to make sure its members aren't stabbed it's not normal to not even know too many jews don't even know they have a father or how to talk to him or to feel his love or his support or his affection it isn't normal not to have a massive family reunion for our entire people to gather at the base i make that aliyah the regular every holiday it's not normal not to be able to offer a sacrifice to say we're sorry or to bring a corbin to express our gratitude when a miracle happens to us it's not normal these four months are abnormal and these 2 000 years are completely abnormal as much as we have adjusted and as much as we have adapted and as much as we've come to not mind the diaspora so much it's not normal it's not normal there will be a need for two gulas there'll be a need for two redemptions one redemption to take the jewish people out of gullis and the other goula another redemption to take gullus out of the jews because we've been in it for so long we've adjusted and adapted we have allowed 2 000 years of abnormal to become a new normal and if for nothing else that we cry this next night and day we cry we mourn and we grieve for how normal the abnormal has become for 2 000 years and in these last four months we must never adjust to being bedude and we must never adapt to being badad it's not normal during the six day war soldiers ran to the newly captured hotel one of the non-religious soldiers saw the religious soldiers crying and he too began to cry the religious soldier looked at him surprised and asked i know why i'm crying but why are you crying and the non-religious soldier famously answered back i'm crying because i don't even know what i'm supposed to be crying about i'm crying because looking at you i don't even know what i'm supposed to be crying about my dearest friends most years if we cry and tish above at all we cry because we don't even know what we're supposed to be crying about but this year this year is different this year is different than all other tisha buffs we have an opportunity over the next day that most of us have never had before and hopefully we pray we'll never have again we can and we must channel the misery and the loneliness and the agony of being in a pandemic godless exile into relating to an understanding and feeling what the bigger and broader goddess means we can and we must channel our desire to go back to shul not in a minimal minimal or modified way but back to what we knew and loved what we were elevated by into a longing to go back to the base i make dash and to come back to you shalom but here's what it's going to take and here's what we have to do if our pain is the result of being in bidud if our agony is the feeling of being badad then the antidote and healing will come from feeling by coming together we still cannot be together physically but we can still be united and connected nonetheless kova demands that we maintain our distance but having distance doesn't mean we have to feel like we're apart the reality is that we can't congregate and we can't use our campus but we can and still must connect with community shalom hashem build it build it take us out let us be together transport us to where we belong let us come home the karaoke we long for what we ask for what we beg for is usually translated means an eternal building an everlasting edifice the third base on you know what binyanola means it's a binion it's a building it's a capital campaign the whole island the whole of the whole world has to participate in this is a capital campaign that doesn't take money but it demands 100 participation nobody can sit on the sideline nobody can shut the door on the shoulder who asks for mashiach nobody can sit this one out if we want that binyan it takes the hololum one of us have to leave our comfort zone and our selfishness every one of us have to extend ourselves to others every one of us have to transcend the badad and that we do that have been forced upon us to create a yacht to connect with others the antidote to badad to being a part is to act and to come together to connect as a community to express care and concern community is more important than ever it transcends campus it transcends capacity to congregate it means reaching out to a neighbor a friend someone who's lonely or isolated someone who feels the worst of what it means to be bad and be dude it means to be a community thanks to technology we can still be a community of learners thanks to mignon indoors and outdoors we could be a community of governors thanks to incredibly coordinated efforts we can still be a community of ghasset and a community of advocacy and a community that refuses to adjust to this new normal we refuse to adjust to the normal of 2000 years and we refuse to adjust to the normal of four months covet can keep us at a distance but it cannot keep us apart and it's going to take the whole oil it's going to take each and every one of us you can't you can't delegate someone else to do it for you and you're not you'd say with your parents gift this is a capital campaign to bring a building that you don't have to reach into your pocket but you have to reach deep into your heart and into your soul and determine what kind of person you want to be how much you want to connect to your father in heaven and how willing you are to be part of a community that trans transcends the distance of a pandemic cobot is a potentially lethal virus it's horrifically contagious disease and of course we cannot and we are not cavalier are casual about it but do you know there's a spiritual malady that is a formidable threat that is potentially spiritually lethal tells us [Music] swear to me daughters of you in if you find my beloved mata gidulo you know what you should tell them tell them that i am sick in my love and in my longing to be together and there's only going on this pasta comments that there are many illnesses and there are many many diagnoses and there are many sicknesses in this world but do you know what the most dangerous malady is do you know what the most dangerous sickness is being distanced from hashem being exiled from my father living in doubt and uncertainty and not knowing if he's there or why he's doing what he's doing failing to feel his love and his embrace and his support do we feel that we have been exiled from his home we've been kicked out and alienated from him these next 25 hours tonight we'll read sasam tifilasi he's silenced our tefila do we feel the hola sahava are we sick in our yearning to reconnect to come home to him so my dear friends as we begin we start icha we turn to hashem and we tell him enough this isn't normal we refuse to stay in this state taramallah take my soul out of confinement as we begin echo we demand we turn to the ribonus take us out of this confinement we're sick of being distanced from one another and most of all from you hotel me mascara now she let me hug my friends let me dive in with a minion let me dance at a simha let me sit quietly and comfort a mourner hotel let me out let me out it's enough it's not normal i won't adjust i won't adjust to the four months and i won't adjust to the 2000 years i refuse to stay away from the miktash ma'at and it's time to come home to our miktas in yurushalayan may we feel that may we feel that sickness that love that longing that drive that desire to be together to overcome the bedude and the badad and to be be ahad with one another in your shall i miracules together with the reboner shalom begin [Music] is [Music] i [Music] how [Music] hey [Music] love [Music] oh [Music] is [Music] is [Music] see [Music] family [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] um [Music] it [Music] shalom [Music] m [Music] is [Music] oh [Music] hey [Music] um [Music] is [Music] ah [Music] no [Music] a continue with uh kinos just a reminder of the schedule tomorrow chakras at boca raton synagogue 6 15 7 15 8 15 9 30 9 30 to 1 30 there'll be an introduction to kinos and the recitation of kinos by the brs rabbis and some community robotim again that begins at 9 30 on zoom the link is at brsonline.org nine of brsonline.org slash nine of the introduction of keynotes will go from 9 30 to 1 30. 127 is khatos at boca raton synagogue 2 p.m at 3 p.m we'll have a conversation with sewer golden twin brother of hadar golden colonel of rocco whose body continues to be held by hamas and 4 p.m to be our youth department tisha b program 7 p.m teen panel discussion at 7 40 maravidi 10 and the fest ends at 8 46. we continue with kinah alev zakharov uh [Music] foreign [Music] foreign [Music] because leicester darling should be recited on everyone's own thank you for joining tonight amit hashem we should spend time in person in the rebuilding with shalayan hirako dish