If you do this, you'll DESTROY them

If somebody struggles with a diet, I've never seen anyone go over to the person and say, "What's the matter with you? Stop eating so much." If you do that to somebody, you're destroying them. To come to a boy in Yeshiva and send them a message, I expect you to come to Shakus tomorrow. I expect you to learn. I expect you to do this. That's like telling someone who's struggling with weight loss. I expect you not to eat so much. Who are you to expect someone else who's struggling with their diet, you're thin, you don't struggle. What does it mean to expect? I expect you to come to Shakas tomorrow. I believe there's always a struggle when someone's not producing. And you have to be understanding that there's a struggle. So you encourage and you [music] discuss and work with the person. By telling a person, where were you? I expect you to come. Very often you're basically dismissing completely whatever they're going through, whatever the challenge they're going through. [music]