Bring God to Work Day is Every Day | Living with Emunah #377

Good morning. Welcome back to living with we love to say every year that doesn't mean when you enter the calendar because it's not so simple. Some people sitting in this room, people watching, listening online, there are things happening in their lives that just because the calendar says the first of doesn't mean you're happy. Doesn't make you happy. people who are struggling, people who are lonely, people who are longing, people who are waiting, people who are wondering how they're going to pay their bills. Just because they flipped the calendar from the funeral home and it says doesn't mean that all of a sudden you become happy. So what do you mean? Oh, oh, it's supposed to be happy. I didn't realize, but I still don't have a job. I still don't have a spouse. I don't have children. I still have this ailment. I still Oh, I didn't realize. So I say every year I'm talking to myself you can listen in doesn't mean when we enter the month of means when enters us is alf is the alum the almighty al the letter olive the one the one and only is hashem dar means to dwell when hashem dwells in us when we realize that we embrace our place and we are where we're meant to be and everything is for a reason our lives are not random and But everything is carefully choreographed and curated from above specifically and directly for us. There's no coincidence. There's no chance. There's no randomness. It all is the way it's supposed to and meant to be. So why are you panicked and why are you worried Shabasem? We'll see what happens. But taking 25 guys from the community we're going to learn in Israel for a few days and everyone's super excited. There's a lot of work that went into it. And now all the talk is everybody put in to try to get an upgrade and everybody's worried and wondering and dabbling and I said first of all certainly Hashem's going to give it to me so I don't have to worry. Just joking. Just joking Hashem. I was just joking. But what do you worry? You did what you needed to do. So you'll end up in the seat where you're supposed to be sitting next to whoever you're supposed to sit next to. It's when you when the when you don't just enter the calendar but enters you from silly things like that to big things of life. You're not worried because you know everything is the way it's supposed to be. So you're right. You don't just become happy because you've entered the month of but means when enters you. If you walk around thinking I'm in charge, I'm in control. Oh, it's all on me and what's going to be and I don't know how it's going to work out. Then you're miserable and negative and resentful. No one wants to be around you. But when Hashem enters us and our lives, so now you're calm, cool, composed, confident, have clarity, patient. Now I'm I'm joyful. Why am I joyful? The problems are still there. Joyful because I take my initiative. I do my thing. So doesn't mean that we enter the month, we enter the calendar means enters us all that is a long way of saying a good to everybody should be a wonderful we have many sponsors this morning the share first of all the series is generally sponsored by Dr. Zav and Bella Morgan in memory of Rabbi Dr. Brian Galbet in memory of Bell's mother Dr. Alen Chanza remain very very grateful to the Morgans. Also series is co-sponsored anonymously in memory of the fallen soldiers and alumni of Ben David Mkini after 31 weeks of honoring the heroes of October 7th. We honor the memories of additional alumni who fell in service of their country like Lieutenant Hadar Golden Hashem Yikum Damo who grew up in Karaba with his twin brother Tu their siblings. 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Oh, the sheer the first half or more they read emails then they we don't read emails. We darian emails. We learn up emails. We read an email and it gets us to extrapolate and extract and understand and analyze and dive in. So the email is just another platform for the learning. So we have the safer which is the Torah text and the emails which are Torah text that people are sending in their real life living with them. Thank you for the teaching blah blah blah. Don't worry my family has donated to the global campaign. Oh I forgot. Thank you so much Maz. I forgot because you don't have to hear about it anymore. All youras have been answered and you're done having to hear about it. But from the bottom of my heart an enormous thank you. We've reached 107% of our campaign. So thank you. Thank you. Really applauding for yourselves. Really, really grateful to those who are partnering. There are over 800 families in 167 cities around the world, which reflects just how far and wide our movement of learning and growing is. That's an enormous source of satisfaction and pride. We learned in the par yesterday, you have pride when it's a something that's serving Hashem. And it's not me, it's us. And it's a Torah that we're learning and teaching and sharing. So I thank all of you around the world, 167 cities and counting. Thank you for your generosity. So the author of the email writes, don't worry, we donated to the global campaign. I also want to thank you raising awareness about the importance of donating to the establishments and services that help sustain Torah mitzvah and everything else. I'm writing because this Khan myself insisted I ask her for something and I ended up asking for a new Tanakh, specifically a pink Coran with the tabs. pink. There are tabs that delineate the different of Tanakh. When I went to send her the link, I accidentally clicked on the identical sitter. When I opened it, I realized my mistake, but I couldn't return it. It came with my name engraved. Previously ordered a sitter with her name instead of sending a link for the Tanakh. By accident reordered the same sitter she had. I was a little upset at first. I felt bad for not reading the description, wasting my money on something I already had. I knew that I must have been meant to have this new sitter, but I was unsure why. Then I listened to last week's living with Emma and I heard the letter from the woman who had taken upon herself to listen to sitter snippets from the very start. You spoke about the importance of highlighting and annotating especially our sad. You remember last week we spoke about the sitter is a safer. We think about our bookcase our wall the Jewish decor of and the sitter oh that's just the thing I daven from and many do it from their phone today which you shouldn't because the phone is filled with distractions. Actually, we're putting out our conversation with Rabbi Kish. I think next week's behind the bea this week was great. If you haven't yet listened, listen to my friend Rabbi Steve Berg, CEO of Aish. What they're doing is unbelievable. How many millions they're reaching and they're just getting started. Well worth the listen. But next week, Rabbi Kish actually interestingly endorsed Davening from the phone because he just got a smartphone filtered careful. But he holds that the phone is a vessel of holiness because it allows you to connect and care about people. It lets you facetime with children and grandchildren. It lets you check in on people and make sure they're okay. It lets you sign up for meal trains and bring food to those who need. It lets you and when you dive in from it, he holds you're holding in your hand a cle a vessel of holiness. An interesting take. More on that conversation. You'll hear it next week. So, the sitter is a safer. It's a safer. And I encourage everyone like every other safer, don't let your others inherit it covered in dust with the bit the uh binding unbroken. Break it in. Wear it out. Mark it up. I know this isn't typical Amuna letter since nothing so dramatic happened. If anything, something beautiful came. But in that moment, I felt bad for being careless. Oh, sorry. I I skipped. That's when I realized that perhaps I was gifted this beautiful new sitter to motivate myself to listen to sitter snippets and annotate it. I know this isn't a typical amuna letter. Nothing dramatic happened, but something beautiful came my way. In that moment, I felt bad for being careless. I also wanted to let you know since I saw the purpose of my sitter through the shear as a reminder myself that every moment could be an amuma moment. even the smallest things in daily lives which they can. So instead of being annoyed, frustrated, why did I press the button? Why did I waste the money? Why do I have a duplicate sitter? What's the message? And that email is a reminder to all of us. Sometimes we're living in supersonic speed and things just happen. We have enough room and space to be annoyed, but we don't actually press pause to say, "What's the message? What's the lesson? What's the avoid?" Joey Nukem was just here at the amazing Hadar dinner. Join Nukem. Everything that happens whenever he's flying, he always posts a video of himself landing, taking off. What's the What's the What's the What's the So when we go through life and things happen to us, I just ordered a duplicate sitter. Let me press pause. Let me stop and think. Let me consider. What's the deeper meaning? What's the deeper purpose? What can I do at this moment? Not because we're trying to play God and figure out his ways. That we can't do and never will be able to do. Included in the belief in God is the admission that there are things we can't and won't understand. And to demand to understand, to feel entitled to understand, to pretend that we understand is to play God is an act of heresy. So we press pause not to play God. We press pause to say, "What can I do at this moment? What can I learn from it? How can I grow from it? What can I change about it?" Or in the words of Rah, not to ask lama why, but to ask lima for what. So not llama, oh why' I wait, why did I press the button? Why did I reorder the same sitter? Llama, why? Why God? Not a big why, but why? But instead lima, okay, what should I do with it? I'll start listening to sitter snippets. I'll mark it up. I'll have an extra sitter to ask and to think in that way. Hi, Rabbi. Hope all is well. blah blah blah. I'm writing after coming off an incredible community event that I was to help run here in our community. This is not yet a tale 23 sighting. I'm still waiting. Maybe one day soon. The tremendous cost to plan and run a community for the women and girls of the city Baltimore. Over 750 women and girls attended. That's a bake. The goal of the event was to come together in a in a time of sim and to unite in. Sadly, over the past year, our community has gathered far too often during times of Sara. We wanted this to be a moment of joy and togetherness. As started off the night sharing that she grew up in Baltimore, never saw so many women in one room gathering not in a time of Sara. Our goal was accomplished. I want to share a personal muna moment, one that felt like a real turning point for me. spent weeks, months planning the event stories specifically about our centerpieces. Coordinating centerpieces tables for 750 women was no small task. We wanted everything to be elegant and beautiful. Many of the centerpieces included wheat. One shipment arrived the week before the event, but two large orders were scheduled to arrive Wednesday morning so we could finish everything in time for the Thursday event. Here's where the moment happened. All day Wednesday, I somehow thought it was Thursday. As I always do on Thursday mornings, I put on the living with him in a shear completely unaware that it was actually Wednesday. In the year the woman was sharing a story about a woman who was always mafala even in Bulgaria. In the middle of listening to the story about the mitzvah and by the way Gobble did work from Bulgaria. She wrote it didn't but she made her donation and we're very grateful about the mitzvah of Rashkala. I received a screenshot from the woman running the event. The wheat delivery had been delayed until Friday. The message simply said um I paused this year took a deep breath and sent a voice note back saying this is the craziest thing. I'm listening to Lemunachir and our wheat is exactly where it's meant to be. We're going to embrace where we are and we'll figure it out. For me, that reaction was huge. I don't know if those would have been my words or my response in the past, but the story ends well. Ran to Trader Joe's, found four that could work, and we adjusted. Everything came together beautifully. No one even knew there had been an issue. But for the next 24 hours leading up to the event, the phrase became our motto. Each time something else came up, we handled it calmly with smiles, knowing Hashem was running the show, and we simply announced, "We are where we're meant to be." want to thank the RA for the blah blah blah with much sounds like a beautiful event again. I'm just repeating. I can't believe you come back or listen anymore. But for me, it's every week because we all have those moments. You could get bent out of shape. You could lose your cool. You could get angry and frustrated. You could point fingers and blame. Or you could press pause and say, "Okay, we did everything right. We ordered it in time. We paid. We did all that we were supposed to do. For whatever reason, it wasn't delivered. So, we weren't meant to have it. What's next? Let's pivot. What's next?" And you can still smile. When adar enters us al is a synonym for amuna aldar god dwelling with us. I don't want to get into this but what is purim? What is the month of how many times does hashem's name appear in the migilla? >> Zero. None. If you read the migilla as a critic, if you read the migilla as a cynic, then you'll say, "Ah, what a string of coincidences like how things worked out. What does that do with God?" You could read the migill as an atheist or agnostic and still find it to be a nice story. But what's our mission and purpose? We reading it's called migillas >> Esther. Miguelas Esther because we're mealaist. We are revealing that which is hidden. Migilla means a scroll, but Miguela means to reveal. Esther is her name. She's named that because God's hiddenenness. Nistar is hidden. Migillas. Esther. Megala the nister. We don't read the migilla like everybody else. The atheist the atheist agnostic cynic. They read the migilla sarcastically saying ah string of coincidences. We read the migilla and press pause figuratively and say oh that was god. Ah, that was a hashem moment. Ah, there's a hashka protest moment all over the migillo. Purum is one big hashkahus voice note. Purum is one big hashkah practice entry into our journal where we're meal we reveal the hidden and the whole aod the whole work of this month that we've just started is to do the same in our lives where you could look at the event of your life and say god's name doesn't appear I don't see god where did he reveal himself there's no open miracle or we could write his name in we could read between the lines we could reveal that which is hidden we can find him in the story you could be frustrated at wherever you ordered it from angry at Amazon What happened? We ordered it on time. We paid in full. Where is it? Why hasn't it arrived? Or you could be the and say, "We weren't meant to have that. We have better centerpieces in mind, ladies. Let's figure it out. What's next? What's next?" And you do it with a smile. That's the isn't fake. It's not artificial. The is real. Because when you live with amuna, you find joy and happiness. You find serenity and peace. Peace of mind that we all so desperately want. Dear Rabbi, I would love to hear Rabbit behind the beimma more often for a woman's perspective. There's nothing to do with amuna, but we allowed it anyway. I'd also love to hear her answer to the question how much to open up about her personal life challenges through the community members. On one end, it makes being more personal. On the other, important to be guarded a little. Maybe she'll speak about it next week when she gives the amunir when I'm away. Everyone want to hear give the amir next week while I'm away. >> Okay. I don't know if she's going to record it and stream it. Sorry. >> No, but she may give it. We'll announce it. We'll let you know. My weekly Amuna moment. Now Rammy Le's a new weighted system where you scan items as you go and weigh the card at the end to check out. If you haven't seen it, it's Israeli innovation. It's fantastic. You get a little scanner and as you shop, you scan each product and because the computer knows whatever you scanned its weight and it knows how much the whatever that thing is called weighs the cart. Then you stand on a scale. probably not you because then no one no one would shop. But you put the cart on a scale and it knows precisely like if you have an extra feather in the cart, right? You have this experience if there's an extra feather. If you put an extra like little ketchup packet, it'll be like extra ketchup packet you didn't scan. It knows precisely. But also if you forgot to scan something, it knows precisely. So the author writes, "My weekly Amuna moment is my shopping for my campus Friday night." This is from a Rebbitson who uh the Jewish learning initiative on campus. very special people doing amazing amazing holy work. When I'm shopping for my campus Friday night meal and usually one other event, sushi rolling night, birthday kittish, couples day night, late night ladies rush roish, I have my cart full on the scale. I pray to Hashem as I'm holding the scanner that I've scanned everything and I don't have to rescan with the cashier. See the photo? That's that's a that's a lot. Hashem usually passes me. There've been a couple of times where I have to unload everything and start over, but I try to tell myself the delay is where I'm meant to be. This week it passed with a little moola jingle and text appearing on the screen of the SC of the scanner. So there you go. Little amuna moments when it works out in that way. Also grateful to Hashem. Okay, this one's a little tougher. I want I want to do something a little different. I want to read you the email and I want to read to you what I wrote back in response because we're learning it up. This is not the emails then the learning. We're learning through the emails. Rabbi, I hope you and your family are well. Thank you for all you do. And the author writes, "Yada yada yada." You always talk about a wink from Hashem. What would you say about the following? The night before I was scheduled for a cancer test, we went out to dinner at a Chinese restaurant. When I opened up my fortune cookie, there was no fortune. When we left the restaurant, my car wouldn't start. The next morning, my watch stopped working. When they wheeled me in for the biopsy, the clock on the wall wasn't working. You always say there's no such thing as a coincidence. What do you make of all these things? >> By the way, PS, the results of the biopsy were not good. That's a tough email. >> The wink and the nod work out when you got the parking spot, when you made the flight, when you scanned all the items in your cart. Those are wonderful hugs and winks when the results came back and I worried for nothing. But what about that email? So, I wrote back the following. First, I want you to know how much I admire your courage to go through what you're going through and still be looking for a wink from Hashem. That itself is a wink and that itself is a is a muna. You describe a string of things. No fortune in the cooking, the car not starting, the watch stopping, the clock frozen. It's eerie. It gets your attention. And you're right. I do say there's no such thing as a coincidence. But here's what I would gently suggest. Not every sign is a message about what will be. Sometimes the message is simply, I'm here. Feel my presence, talk to me, or even scream at me. When time seems to stop, watches and clocks. Maybe the rebon is whispering, "Stop. This moment matters. I'm in the room with you. You're not alone in this biopsy suite. I was with you at the restaurant. I was with you in the parking lot. I'm with you now." A missing fortune may be a reminder that our future is not in a cookie, not in a clock, not in a test result, but it's in Hashem's hands. And while that can feel terrifying, it's also the most secure place we could possibly be. The results were not what you hoped for and I'm so so deeply sorry. I'm dabbing for you. It's heavy. It's frightening. And amuna doesn't mean pretending otherwise. It means crying when you need to cry. Ding when you need to davin and questioning while still holding on. The fact that you're strengthening yourself with living with ama. You're searching for meaning instead of surrendering to despair. It's heroic. A wink from Hashem is not always that everything will be okay. Sometimes it is that he is with you even when it's not. That you're not alone. Not even in the biopsy room send you strength for your body, calm for your heart in ways that defy the predictions of any test. May you continue to feel his presence in the unmistakable love. Please share your name of course so we can dive in for you. These are tough tough moments and not easy. And I want to reiterate really coming back to I guess what is a theme of today so far which is that when we press pause it's not to try to play God. What does it mean? What is he telling me? What is it all about? What is he saying? Because we're not God and we don't know and we can't understand. He's infinite, omnipotent, and we're finite and limited and we can't play God. Not in those moments, not in any moments. What we can do is say, "Okay, what can I do with it? How can it motivate me? How can it jumpst start me? How can it inspire me? How can I interpret it for inspiration?" That's our mission. That's our mandate. That's what we're supposed to do with that moment. Tough. These are tough. We'll read one more and then we'll get into our text. Dear Rabbi Goldberg, thank you for being the messenger to give me my hug from Hashem. Here's my 23. You were worried that we were going to break our streak. I saw the fear and panic in your face and we couldn't go on. Here's my contribution. I'm working on a project with my Talem teacher and friend who lives in Israel. This was written for a seven-year-old child going through a difficult period in her family life, but it could be for anyone, any age. When I was just starting my journey to knowing more about Judaism, I used to go to shall I jump to the day I'd be able to sing ms when I would know the song. Tam is my passion. When I read I can feel David right next to me giving me hope, giving me a hug from Hashem. Now I realize I don't only need to sing this Mismore but live it. It's literally living with Amuna, right? Mismo. That's how we started this whole string of sightings. Hashem is my shepherd. I shall not lack. Loar. What I shouldn't lack is knowing he's my shepherd. In the biopsy room, at the Chinese restaurant, when the car won't start, he's still my shepherd. He's my shepherd. And not just talk about the shepherd, but know the shepherd. You can't imagine the impact. yada yada. So, this is a poem written to 23 for a special girl. And this is it. We could post it later if you'd like to have a copy of it. Long ago, there was a king named David. He was the greatest king of the Jewish people. He was very brave. He was very kind. He loved Hashem with his whole heart. Before David was a king, he was a shepherd. He watched sheep all day. Sometimes he was alone. Sometimes he was scared. Sometimes things were very hard. When David felt sad or worried, he did something special. He sang to Hashem. He made songs called These songs helped him feel strong, safe, and loved. 23 is one of David's songs. It is a song about Hashem taking care of us. Just like a shepherd takes care of a sheep. Shem is my shepherd. Shem is like a loving shepherd. He watches over me. He keeps me safe. He gives me what I need. Just like a sheep never have to worry. I don't have to worry because he's taking care of me. He lets me rest in green grass. He leads me besides calm water. Hashem wants me to feel calm. He wants my heart to feel soft and quiet. Even when things around me feel busy or loud, he gave me peace inside. I can close my eyes and imagine green grass, soft wind, and quiet water. He's right there with me. He makes me feel good and shows me the right way to go. Sometimes I feel tired inside. Sometimes I feel sad or mixed up. Hashem helps my heart feel better. He always shows me a good path. Every place he leads me is a place where I can grow and become stronger. She goes through the entire posted if you want to read it. It's a beautiful poem that breaks it down. We can all do it in our lives for ourselves as well because it is so incredibly powerful. Okay. Oh man, so many. Please keep writing them. As I always say, I got such a I got such a pile. I don't know how to choose. They're all amazing. Okay, one more. Two more. 10 more because we have such incredible text today. Also, so many more 23 psalm sightings. I'll leave you some to read next week. I enjoyed listening to Living with Amuna. I am where I'm meant to be has become part of my lexicon. I was thinking in addition to Psalm 23, it might be time to add to Kuf Malisoda. And in particular, after listening to Rabb's description of people who came to the house requesting intervention but never followed up to share whether their prayers have been answered, this lack of followup could be perceived as a lack of aarov even to Hashem. It's wonderful to feel God's presence during difficult times. All the more wonderful thank him for his intervention and support. Here's my Tahill Kuf Psalm 100 story that inspired this email. Our family is going through a bit of a challenging time at the moment. We've been truly privileged to see miracles of Hashem's help guiding helping hand guiding us. But the stress is ever present. I often listen during my morning swim including little muna. This morning I just couldn't concentrate on the shear because the stress. I decided to switch to a music track. That's when I got a wink and hug from Hashem. The first song that popped up was Ms. Moroda. I smiled and was grateful for the opportunity to thank Hashem once more for his abundant support during this time. Yes, for all your amazing holy work. P.S. You're not going to believe it. Just as I signed off on the email, Spotify decided to play Ms. Mora David Psalm 23. That wild, >> unbelievable. Another great one. Um, Rabbi Goldberg, it was nice to see you recently. Last couple of weeks have been truly roller coaster. Two days after I came back from a trip, my father who suddenly passed last year at the young age of 70 came to me to dream two nights in a row smiling. His first year had just passed a few days before. I realized I could be pregnant after taking a pregnancy test. In fact, I was. I had just been on roller coasters taking strong medicine for a cold. Everything you're not supposed to do when you're pregnant. It's been four years since I was able to get pregnant. So, I was not expecting and it was very surprised. First, my husband and I were taken aback because our kids are older. We didn't think we could anymore. And then we received this braha. We embraced it with caution and were grateful to Hashem. Unfortunately, I did not feel so great for the first couple of weeks and blood work wasn't promising. Last week, I was told I was going to have a miscarriage. This is my fourth miscarriage. However, I have three beautiful healthy children. My husband and I try to take the answer with love, understanding that sometimes all needs is kosher conception, but it's never easy. So, here I was, not knowing when the cramps would suddenly begin, going to a work event. I armed myself with all the strength I had and got in the car. A ride that should have taken 1 hour, was saying it would be an hour 45, which would mean I'd be 45 minutes late. So I channeled Rabbi Goldberg. I am exactly where I meant to be. I put on the living with Amunashir. Along my very long ride, I just I got pulled over by a cop. >> You were speaking about Talem 23. Honestly, I wasn't sure why you kept going on about it as it was based on another shear. But as the cop went to check my record, I said it along with Talem 86. PEV which is also very powerful tillum. Anyway, the cop came back and gave me a warning. No ticket. That was my first wink from Hashem. That was Hashem saying to me, I got you. The cramp started literally once the last donor left the room. That was my second wink from Hashem that day. I went on with my very long drive and then you started speaking about women who had miscarriages. One on Paras Pashalak. The week of Parashak, we went to the doctor for an ultrasound because blood work wasn't making sense. He thought he'd find nothing but in fact he found a sack measuring five weeks. We were all surprised, especially the doctor while the pregnancy didn't materialize. It was a wink from Hashem that there was something there. We spent par singing Shir to Hashem, making kdish and hoping for better news. While that's not the news we received, Hashem let me know I could get pregnant even at my age. I don't yet have my bigger wink of a baby in my arms and maybe I never will. I don't understand why my father came to me in that dream to announce the pregnancy and then then it didn't work out. It's still very hard and yet this time I'm calmer than other times. I understand it's better now than later on and if it's not meant to be. I also internalize that maybe all the Nishama needs was a kosher conception of Nick Mitzvah's parents. I apologize for long email. I appreciate again the comfort. I'm going to read this part even though it's awkward for me but I ran into this person and she shared it with me. She wrote, "I appreciate again the comfort you gave me. I initially brushed it off and the more I thought about it, I really appreciated it." My friends and family around me all said, "Maybe it's for the better. You so much on your plate. Maybe you should think about not trying anymore. I know it comes from a place of love, and I know I have a beautiful family, but that's not what I needed to hear. What I needed to hear was, "I'm sorry you're hurting. I'm sorry for your loss, and I feel your pain." And I'm so grateful that's what you said. Shabas she shared as we've talked about before that even with the amuna here and as much as we are learning it and trying to live it we're not meant to impose it on others amuna is how we interpret and experience and go through what we do comfort I see you'll send her there are amazing organizations for people who are going through these difficult moments but as we learned and shared our is not meant to be imposed and projected onto others you don't tell somebody going through a tough time who told you about the miscarriage they're having or at the shiva call that you're paying or the shabas you're delivering you don't say I just heard this mash embrace your place you meant to have this miscarriage the best thing that ever happened to you why are you so sad sitting shiva that person's in a better place you had them all this time smile you don't say that it's not how we supposed to live with amuna amuna we don't project or demand or coers on others And so when someone's going through a time you say that stinks. I feel your pain. That's so hard. I'm with you by your side. What can we do to help? You don't give a lecture in amuna. And that she shared with me. Again, I'm grateful in that moment. Hashem put those words in my mouth. I don't think I'm exceptional. Many of you, most of you, all of you do too. But it's important to remember that as excited, as pumped, as much as we're turning and expanding this into a movement, it's a movement to inspire ourselves. That's true with people going through a hard time. By the way, it's true with your spouse and children or your neighbor or friend just because you're on fire with amuna. Don't come home and demand or expect from other people in your life because instead of their being more excited about it, you can actually push them further away. The best thing you can do is model it and show and demonstrate, wow, you're different. You're a better spouse. You're a better parent. You're a better friend. You're a better worker. You're a better colleague because you're living with amuna. smile more. You're happier. You're more go with the flow. You're more flexible. You're more living life. And when someone says, "I notice you're different. What's going on? What's happening with you?" Then you could get in and explain, you know, the more I embrace my place and I let go like God, the more I live with Hashem, the more I press pause and try to grow from the moment, the happier I've become. And if you want to know more about it, I'm happy to tell you. But that's the more important and the better attitude to bring. So, as inspired as we are, as much as we're trying to grow this, last week somebody sent me a picture of a shul. You know, shulles have big screens and it promotes upcoming program. So, there was a picture of the cover of the podcast living with Amuna. And apparently in that shul there's a group that get together to watch it and then they talk about it. So, they watch it together and then they talk about it. Where in their life did they see all kinds of exercises, conversations, discussions, love to duplicate and replicate and expand that and grow that. It was really exciting. page. This is very important. Listen carefully. This beautiful teaching. We have plenty of sheets up here if you want to read and follow inside and mark it up and underline and asterct and highlight and translate. Write the translation. You want to grow your Hebrew, write the translation on top. My first summer at Marsha Colo in high school, which was my breakthrough in learning, I still have it at home. a cherished cherished possession of mine. I had a gamarra rashana and in those days there was no art scroll. I had the maroon sansino gamarra and I sat that whole summer and I wrote over from the English sansino on top of every word. I have a gamarra rashana that over every word is handwritten the translation every daf every om every word of that gamarra. That's the only way you're going to grow. So don't just be a passive spectator as I'm reading and translating. This safer I don't think is out in English yet. Sit. I make the handout for you. The trees died for you. So write write the translation. Underline. If a sentence jumped out at you, look at it later. Share it. To fulfill and live the holy Torah while occupied with business and with life is very difficult. It's very hard. You know, it's easy when you come to Shu for living with Amuna. You pour your coffee or your slasher, you take your pastry, you sit back, and oh, I'm on fire. Hashem, he loves me. I love him. Oh, it's amazing. But then you go to work, you've got that miserable boss. You've got the person who's not really performing. You've got incredible work and deadlines that you have to meet and you have to get done. You're exhausted and so many other things going on. You can't get to inbox zero. You can't get to inbox 100 if your life depended on it. And now you're supposed to be thinking about Hashem and Amuna and Torah. It's certainly incredibly hard and it requires requires tremendous divine assistance. So hard to be honest and truthful to have integrity. You say that's not hard. We're honest people. But the truth is in business, business is a place of tremendous exaggeration, distortion, manipulation. It's so easy. And we're so invited. Why are you late? Dog ate my homework. Whatever reason, it's so easy to distort, twist the truth, white lie. And to not agrieve a friend, a colleague, a co-orker, a customer, to be mindful, spiritual, to be present at work with godliness is hard. It's hard work. It's toil. Listen to what we're up to. I didn't see this. I didn't plan this. I didn't prepare this. Listen to what we're up to. And listen to remember what we gave out last week. Shalom. So what should you do when you're going out to work? Stop at the threshold at the doorway and put your hand on the muza and recite. Last week we gave out the little sign to put under the muza. There are no coincidences. The fact that Julie Erlic gave me that box to give out the week before we're about to learn this suggestion of there are no coincidences. Hashem is loving this year. Hashem, I'm going into work. Help me, protect me, guide me, inspire me. Let me not distort or twist the truth. Let me notice be a clown, be frivolous. Let me not waste time. Protect me. Let me not gossip the water cooler. Let me not be filled with hate or introduce any tension for all other bad things that could go wrong. It's a beautiful image. I would expand it. Not only when you're going out to work, when you're going out, wherever you're going, going to the gym, I'm going to the supermarket, wherever I'm going. That muzza is on the doorway for a reason. And whether it's on our way out to take all of our values of our home with us, whether it's on our way in how we're going to behave, inspire, inform, empower us on our way in. Let me at the gym, let me look at what I'm supposed to look at. Let me think what I'm supposed to think. Let me be safe and secure. Let me be successful. Let it be productive. everything. Wherever we're going, whatever we're doing, there's the opportunity for a little tila, a little tila, a little Hashem, please help me. And what better place to do it than at the door with our hand on the mazuza. That's why Hashem did it. He put a little safer Torah on the doorpost of everywhere we go. If you think about it, it's amazing. On the one end, the shul is the holy place. What are we going to read this week? Paras Trumo. We're being introduced to the Mishkan, which is a mikdash mat, the miniature temple, the Mishkan, the OG Mikdash, the tabernacle, the Mishkan is the holy place because God wanted to have a dwelling place of the Almighty. I wanted to have a dwelling place down here on earth. So he gave us the prescription, the formula to build him the house of God. And when you went there, you saw miracles. The Mishna says there were 10 miracles a day in the B mikdash. So a person was filled with doubt or uncertainty. They simply made their way to the mikdash and then they gained their confidence. I have to embrace my place. Let go. Let God the mikdash is a place that I could be mindful. Remember that there's a hashem. There's a hashem. We don't have a base of mikdash today. What do we have a shul? The mikdash the miniature temple. And the shul is the place that we come to learn to daven to connect to feel his intense presence. So you might think religious life activity, spirituality is relegated to the shul my home that's a place where I make dinner, do homework, talk, schmoo, sleep, work out. But what a bar did for us is by giving us the mitzvah of muza and putting it on the doorposts of our lives. He's transformed even what seemed to be mundane places into another level of a little mikdash. A little mikdash. You don't have to go to shul and open the kesh. You don't have to go to shul and point or hold or kiss or touch the Torah. Every time you come in and out of that room, you put your hand on that mazuza. It's a little Torah. Two paras and the mazuza come from our Torah. It's written on a cloth. It's written with ink. Those who learn the daffome, we just in covered all the suga. What has to happen? Ink cloth. It's a little miniature. It's rolled up and wrapped up. It is a little miniature safer Torah on the doorway. The doorpost of our homes is a little miniature safer Torah. And we're supposed to, this is one of our themes. We're building on the capacity, the ability I have to work on it to press, pause. We're normally running in a room, running out of a room. We don't even remember the room. Were we talking to someone on the way in on the way out? We were on the phone. We were scrolling. We were texting the room, the door. We don't remember anything. We're living in supersonic speed and we're destroying our lives in the process. And the ability to slow down and live life because everything in life is meant to be lived and is better experienced when you slow it down. from savoring that glass of wine, slowly chewing that delicious food, enjoying that, hey, look, a cup of coffee, embracing that conversation and that time with a loved one or a dear friend. Everything in life is better. Slow down. We are better. We process more. We experience more. We embed and remember more. So when you walk through that door, slow down. Stop. Put a hand on a muza. You want to talk about the impact on others. Don't tell your spouse, your children, don't demand, kiss the muza, touch the mazuza, don't forget the muza. Let them just see you what it does. When you're walking in or out of the room, and when you do, how you're transformed by it. Maybe on your way in the room, when you come home after a long and difficult day, you're frazzled and you're miserable, you're upset, you're angry, you're working, but you touch the muzza. You took a deep breath and you restored your nishama with your nishima and it restored you and centered you. And now I'm ready. I touched the maza. I remember what has to happen in this home. I remember who I'm meant to be. I remember to be my best self. Let's go. Let's do it. We got it. What's my mission in this moment? That muza is incredible. There's no technology. It's not multimedia. It's not battery powered, but it's the strongest thing in your house. The muza is the strongest thing in your house more than any device. It is broadcasting the loudest message. It can inject us. It is the shot that we need. Stop and touch it, says So you're going out to go to work or wherever you're meant to go. Stop and touch them. A little prayer in the context of this doesn't just mean tuck your chair in. Certainly it does mean that says please say thank you tuck your chair and that's when the rabbis use the term they meant earning a living a livelihood that's when Misha says it means bring the Torah with you to work bring the Torah with you to work doesn't mean neglect your work to be learning Torah that's stealing from your employer that's forbidden bring the Torah to work doesn't mean imposing on everyone around you d Torah all day listen this gamatrio Listen to this vort bring to it's bring God to work day. Bring God to work day is every day. Every day is bring God to work day. And at work it means that when someone's frustrating you, disappointing you, something's not going your way, bring God to work. God's walking. He's by your side. He's right next to you. He's watching. He's lifting you. He's empowering you. But he's also watching you. How will you act and react? How will you treat the people around you even when you're frustrated and the planning it's not going right and you're in the office till late at night? Do you speak calmly and respectfully and nicely? Do you speak nicely to the people around you with the at your place of work? Bring Hashem every day is bring Hashem to work day. You know those people who when they're at they're one way sweet kind patient spiritual big givers of stuck they go to the dy they go to the sh and then when you encounter them in business they're ruthless they're mean they're cutthroat they need to win at all costs say what what what just happened here who are you which are you and in their mind there's no contradiction yeah that's sh that's spiritual that's kindness that's stuck volunteering work is work and work brings out of such a person ruthless competition marketing cruelty to the people who work for them. No, we have to be the same person every day is bring God to work day. And if you're a different person at work than you are in or at home, then who's the real you? The Gomorrah says, Garra says Yoseph would make a big meal, a big celebration when he accomplished Torah learning because he said without Torah. So the simple translation without Torah in my life, I'd be like any other Joe on the street. But the balos say noash how many versions of me would there be without Torah to integrate my personality and my life without Torah to make me live a consistent life. How many versions of there would me would there be? There's the mi at the mi at home. There's the mei on the pickle ball court. There's the mei at work. There's the mi late at night. The mei in the early in the morning. There's the mei when people are watching. to me when I'm alone without Torah informing inspiring our life. How many versions of me would there be? So here exactly when we needed him to tell us to remember the value of the muza just when we got the sign to put underneath it I love you Hashem is reminding us that our home is a little mikash and we have a little safety tora posted on the door and not just the front door. You might have thought the mitzvah of muza is on the front door. I got it. That covers the whole house. Every door. Because every room in that house needs that mindfulness. From the kitchen, the little prayer before you put the potato cooker in the oven, the little prayer when someone was supposed to turn the oven off but missed the timer and the chicken got a little well done. The prayer, the serenity prayer, that's the serenity prayer on that way out. There's the prayer in the kitchen. And then there's the muza and the in the workout space. And there's also the in the bedroom. There's the muza on all of these spaces. In every space, the little reon shalom for what we hope, what we need, what we're grateful for. In each of those spaces, we have a little safer Torah pinned to the wall reminding us. Stop. Don't live sonic speed. Pause. Put your hand in the muza. Say, "Thank you, Hashem. Thank you for this room and the people in it, everything I have. Thank you. Please, I need your help. Let this go well. Please let me live up to my potential and be my best self at work wherever we go. So amun is not meant to be relegated simply to what we call holy spaces like med comes with us and we live with it wherever we go and wherever we are. So next week is giving not live not uh streamed or recorded but she'll be giving the amunes and um I hope if we could wait a week to attack Iran that would be great if you're listening Mr. President, if you're listening, if you could wait a week, >> I'd really appreciate that would mean a lot to me personally and our group. If you can't, I understand. We are We'll embrace our place. We'll understand. We'll understand. But now, questions and answers quickly for those who are here in person and offline. For those watching, stay happy, stay healthy, stay holy.