#9: Iggeres HaRamban (10 Minutes of Meaning) - Humility

good morning Boer to welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting please help yourself to a coffee and refreshment I want to thank our generous sponsor SCH and es shyt in honor of their parents and children for sponsoring our 10 minutes of meeting we've been learning Gan the Ran's letter originally written to his son but really written to each and every one of us to help us be the best version of ourselves and to uh not only read the ramban's letter but much more significantly to live the ramban's letter to implement it into our lives and to follow the formula for the best life will bring with it all kind of incredible BR so the Ran's first message it began with the PK Mish of course to listen to our father and mother but told us the First Quality to conquer is anger is anger to transform ourselves condition ourselves to calm people of peace and Harmony to speak to speak softly and gently and the way that we conquer anger is not to think about or address anger at all but simply to speak calmly and when we do we eliminate Anger from our heart and what fills our heart instead ra told us that if anger is the worst categorically bad quality that a human being could have anger clouds judgment anger self- sabotages anger makes us make mistakes then if we remove and eliminate Anger from our heart we fill that space instead with the best quality the greatest quality there is which is anava humility humility is the greatest quality as the tells us that because of anava when we live with humility and modesty when we see ourselves in a context and a perspective then there's room in space forem if we have an inflated ego as we've shared before not my own but ego stands for edging God out if we have an inflated ego we think we're all that we have power we have Fame we have money we have influence and we think we're all that we're smart we're handsome we're athletic we think therefore we're so great if we live with an ego we've edged God out there is no room forem hem can't well in the same space as a person who has an inflated ego but but if we live with humility then now there's room forem and that humility that modesty is what comes to help us I mentioned last week as we've been saying in t May where will my help come from y my help comes from when we live with a sense with an attitude ofon I'm Anon and an effes I'm a gourish and a nothing if we realize who we are we realize how little we are if we realize ultimately pathetic we are May from a sense of then that's where our help comes from that's what our tells us can only be M we can learn Torah in Torah listen to Torah but Torah is only M Torah is only really fulfilled when we're mous the atmo if we can get rid of and eliminate the atmo the ego if we live with then there's room for the there's a big question that arises continues because if we can achieve and live with an modesty and humility then if you're living humbly through life what can you acquire next Midas the quality of not fear fear is a mist transation of the word is all is all of there is a low level of really is a greater sense of awe so if you if you don't have if you don't have humility and modesty so you're never in awe of anything nothing impresses you I've shed many times that's the challenge of Our Generation we are living in the generation of e e e means you know what' you think what you think of the sheer what you think of the speaker what do you think of that restaurant what you think of that concert that singer what do you think of this piece of art h h everything's a Big E Eh so hard to impress a generation who are the information age they have access to everything they have ai they have all the answers in life if you have all the answers at your fingertips terabytes and terabytes if you have all the information all the answers then everything is a big that's the of theid of a is not e it's whoo all it's all Aid looks at everything and sees Hashem and says wow K is incredible look at his world look at his world look at nature look at history of course look at the Torah kosha everything is wow there's awe mik was mikra chance Randomness happen stance so only with Anova only with humility can you say wow everything is amazing everything is amazing someone once went into Mozart's home where they have his piano it was a tour of teenagers a tour of teenagers one of the teenagers jumped to sit in the bench and start playing the piano and there was a famous pianist a worldclass Pianist who was invited several times and toured that home and never played the piano and when I asked why he just said I'm unworthy I can't how could I touch those same Keys how could I play those same keys of such a great and that contrast of the generations the one that jumps and says oh looks like fun let me play and the one who says Whoa there's something here worthy to have awe of to have distance fromon sh this is his world it's not a playground we live not with a sense of e but a sense of a wow wow so only only if you say you know I'm humble I'm modest I'm unworthy I'm inadequate then you can now say okay but you you're everywhere and you're amazing you're incredible you're everything but if you think you know I'm everything and I have all the answers then has who's Hashem what has he's he's so only so here's the here's the question that arises the ra just told us that is what it's the greatest of all the mid if it's the greatest of all the mid you'd expect it to be the end of all the mid the climax the culmination the completion of all the character traits it's it's mid and yet there's a mid that comes after it if you live with anava then you get to but I thought anava is theid so if there's something after anava greater than anava something anava leads to then anava is not the so which is it is anava the greatest of all the MOs or is z does Ana lead to something else which is even greater we'll come back to that question let's spend two more minutes on what is anava so how did Kaz know because they knew that anava is is the important and as we've shared many times the ran and the r both right the ran ran the ra his there are two qualities even though we look the golden mean be measured be balanced be normal just live the golden mean but there are two qualities we have to live in the extreme one is be extreme to never get angry and the other is Extreme humility to live extreme with humility and humility is the how did K know that V says they knew it from the fact that the Torah itself testifies hem endorses Moshe and what quality does he endorse him with Moshe had incredible qualities he was a super genius he was brilliant Moshe was Pious and righteous Moshe was giving and caring and had empathy Moshe had an endless list of outstanding extraordinary qualities and yet when Hashem comes to endorse mosha which is the quality he highlights is of that M's quality of an is what makes him unique and ifem chooses to highlight Ana humility and modesty then it must be because it is Theos it must be the peak and Pinnacle it must be the greatest of all of the mid what is anas and how do we achieve itar at the end of so tells us about certain character traits and reflects how the art of those character traits was lost Ana no longer continued after the death ofi comes in one second how could you say that but there's me I'm still the greatest I'm the most humble how could you say humility diedi I'm still here and look how humble I am look how humble I am seems like a contradiction a famous question anas is ordinarily translated we've been translating it inaccurately not precisely how do we translate Ana usually as humility but humility is a Latin word and it comes from humus notus but Yus which means Earth from the earth Earthly and most translate humility as being lowly you're garnished we spoke yesterday in the parir about why the paruma includes the eight eras and the aov the cedar tree is greatness and the a of the is lowly humility and Godless and Sh and they need to see with two eyes peripheral vision the balance the perspective between between the two but humility if you think humility comes from the word Earth lowly that's not what anava means anava doesn't mean you're nothing your future warm food you're pathetic you're terrible you're a garnished you're unworthy you're insignificant that's not what anava means what anava means is that you're great and you're wonderful you're practically Godlike and you carry God even onas you're still allowed to quote you're a piece of God literally you're great humility or Anova is not thinking you're not great it's knowing where does your greatness come from it comes from Hashem and it is on loan and it is never part of your permanent collection and whatever gift he gave you whatever gift to gave you a gift of a brilliant mind a gift of artistic ability a gift of athleticism a gift of Charisma a gift of a gift of financial Acumen and prowess whatever gift he gave you oratory skills it is alone it could disappear any moment can take it back and the question is what will you do with it the the root of the word means an answer a respon an is to look at yourself and say what are my talents what are my skills what are my blessings what are my gifts and how will I use them to be the answer how will I use them to create and to be the response I once read what we are is God's gift to us what we become is our gift to God what we are is God's gift to us who so therefore don't say what we are is God's gift to us what we become with it that's our gift back to God so anava is not thinking less of yourself it's thinking of yourself less often anava the real definition of anava is not loneliness being pathetic that's not a Jewish value the real definition of anava is not thinking less of yourself it's thinking of yourself less often so says there's me I'm still here and I'm humble I'm humble means I know my gifts I know my skills I know my qualities but I know where they come from I have them in a context of perspective MOS his introduction to Moshe talks about I have my own opinions who am I to disagree with theud El I think I'm and I have a responsibility mosha was among the most humble people anyone who knew him he was an incredible onov so how did he have the brazenness to take on these Giants he writes in his because if a person feels they can live with those skills those blessings those qualities and to do it and to do it with a sense of humility says to the humble gives and therefore when one lives without is chaos Noah is came after the Mable says the Mable is bilb was chaos and Ka everywhere and the antidote to chaos and Ka is is no and is from when a person is humble and modest so you'll never Raise Your Voice you never yell you never indulge anger and then you're able to live with anava when you live with anava now you can live with Y and this is our last year till after Tisha but we'll come back next time talk about answer to that question is or does it lead to something else which is we'll keep you thinking about that for a couple weeks and pick up next time may we hear BOS