#31: Iggeres HaRamban (10 Minutes of Meaning)

good morning welcome back to 10 minutes of meeing I want to thank as always our generous sponsors for 10 minutes of meeing shitz Le of her mother as always you're invited to take coffee or slushies or pastries or whatever you like also our 10 minutes of meeting today is sponsored in memory of the second year side of eser Gabriel P which will be tonight and tomorrow precious should have and Aliyah we are towards the end of the the letter the ran wrote to his son the letter that ran wrote to each and every one of us and the ran last left off telling us to that a person should not just grip it and rip it in life don't just Coast through life don't just let momentum carry you in life and hope for the best but a person asked to every morning and every evening not once a day but twice a day evaluate our choices our actions our decisions our Behavior person should stop and say what am I proud of what do I need to improve what do I need to repair what did I do well what do I need to do better so a person is then spending their entire life re-calibrating their entire life recalibrating in real time we're picking up signal to say Where am I how close am I to my destination or where I'm going if I veered off you know if you if you move just slightly then over the span of time you're going to end up you know fure what the mush is you know the plane that takes off and it's a few degrees off so six hour flight later it's going to end oops what does this matter what difference does this make we just going to be a few degree different a few degrees off but it's going to lead to thousands of miles of of difference and so a person needs to be B every morning and every evening if we're constantly evaluating where is my GPS where I how am I doing how far am I so then I can stay on I can stay on route to where I want to go so the idea is CH is to return so I'm constantly returning recalibrating returning to my path to my D to my direction to where I want to go and to where I want to be and then the ran picks up and he says now he shifts and he pivots from talking about Chua recalibration return staying on a path getting to our destination living our best selves and all of a sudden he's talking about he's talking about prayer and what about prayer remove everything from your heart when you're ding why did he go from CH to why did he shift and he pivot so writes in that one of the important parts or portions of chuva of returning is we normally think of daving is daving daving I'm talking to hem daving I have all my requests and my needs and my supplications and chuva chuva is what I'm thinking about how do I get less angry how am I more patient how can I improve my mid how can I D better how can I learn better how can I be a better person but the truth is writes Ina that a a portion of chuva is how can you hope to return and repair how can you hope to improve and be better how can you hope to be your best self if you don't ask him for help if you don't ask him for help one of the ways that we one of the most important ways one of the most fundamental and foundational ways that we can in fact set ourselves back on course and that we can improve and live our best lives is asking Hashem is asking this is a fundamental we think that that there's hisas I take my initiative I make my effort I go to work I Market I Network I try to pick up clients and customers I take care of my health I work out I take my ice plunge I do what I need to do I eat right I do my thing right and then separate than that there's like doing is a checklist thing which Minion what room is it going to be in where are we going to be displaced today I got to just get my doing done check check check there's my doing so now that doing is done in the morning now I can do my real is now I'm going to go to work now I'm going to go to work out now I'm going to take my real initiative until I have to do that thing called Ding later today again what time is so I could put a check mark next to but it's really in between the doing that I do my I take my initiative I make my effort says the ra no the biggest Tas you'll do all day is your daving the biggest initiative and the biggest effort you'll do is asking Hashem the senior partner in everything I need your help whether it's playing tennis and taking care of Health whether it's going to work whether it's networking and picking up clients whatever whether it's raising our children whether it's having a happy and healthy marriage whatever area of life that we're working on yes there's the initiative and the effort that we make but the gar says har many tried and if you don't DAV and you don't ask Hashem for help then you can't you can't succeed so the ran says every morning and every evening be evaluate think about who you are are you matching up and meeting up to who you want to be and then also don't forget eliminate and remove everything from your heart when you're ding so much news going on and there's so many things to do and emails to return and phone calls to make so much money to raise to finish a campus and appointments you have to set and graveling and begging you have to do there's so much that's on your mind so you come into daving and all you're doing is thinking about all the things that have to happen all the things we got to do says the you'll never be able to doin you'll never never be able to DAV first thing you have to do when you DAV is remove everything from your heart the All-Star game last night oh what's the stock market gonna do today oh it's it's close today it's closed today because it's President's Day what's today President's Day it's closed today it's the stock market but what's it GNA do tomorrow and what work do I have to do today and and my kids are home what will I do with them today so you got to remove everything about the world from your heart I sometimes have this mental image when I take my three steps forward to D open my lips that I I have a picture of my hands just spreading apart there's like so many things between us and hasem a to-do list and tasks and anxiousness and worry there's a million things going on there's news alerts coming in you just you just got to open up the path you just got to open up the window you just got to get a direct line just set it all aside it's almost as like this paper's on the desk like throwing it all off you know this book just clearing it all out just clear it all out all that friction all that noise all those impediments just clear it out now Hashem it's just me and you it'll all be waiting there second doing is over it'll all be wait if you're lucky if you can make it to DAV the end of daving before it's all waiting there I promise you it'll all be waiting there it will all come back but in the meantime remove everything from your heart during the the time of daving because there is no greater hisas than itself if you knew that closing that deal later today depended on whether you were fully present and mindful during this doing you'd be fully present and mindful if you knew that making that flight later today if you knew that getting a good lab report or a doctor report was dependent on the quality of the do there's no greater stas so we make this terrible mistake of thinking there's my initiative that's in between daving and then there's daving that's just something I have to do d is the this is the greatest doctor the greatest lawyer this not only knows the judge he is the judge he is the source and the outcome of everything that we want and if we'd understand that H we'd be able to just remove everything from our heart and be present and talk to him talk to him talk to him understanding this is the it's a very very hard thing to do it's a very hard thing to do that's why the tells us there are four things that need constant constant reinforcement and strengthening and one of those four things is because you've never conquered it no one will ever say oh I DAV I'm never distracted I never think about other things when i d and I'm fully present fully mindful fully there four things need the Tells stories of would begin dominating in one corner of the room and they would end in the other corner of the room and they wouldn't remember how they got there it start at the beginning of the C the end the end of the center they don't remember saying anything and that's true for great and themselves tell us we need then that's what we need is and the ran is telling his son ran is telling all of us that the very first thing to do in order to D an effectively the very thing first thing to do to Davin successfully the very first thing to do to DAV in a way that daving is our establish it's our initiative is if you walk in and you got two cell phones and three beepers and a huge keychain jingling and a million things going on and it's all happening during ding you're not ding how could you be ding how are you fully present how are you mindful how are you engaged how are you invested how are you in a conversation but if we understand that is the biggest so we think I gotta get ding out of the way because I have the doctor's office I gotta go to I gotta get ding out of the way because I got appointments customers and clients I gotta get ding out of the way because I got solicitations for the campus to do no don't get daving out of the way daving will determine the outcome of all those things we have to do it is the greatest tadas of our day and the first step of thatas called is remove eliminate all the friction all the impediments all the obstacles make a clear path between you and asem for a few minutes even if it's not the whole daving on a Monday morning daving is 40 minutes depending on the minion 18 minutes an hour and a half whatever but daving is but just just five minutes of it just five minutes how long is your amida after all because that's the only part of ding that we're actually talking to Hashem the rest we're building up to talking to Hashem the rest we're recovering coming down from talking to the only part is the how long is it already five minutes time yourself it's less it's embarrassingly less how long it takes us to say the amid but let's say three four F five minutes out of the 45 just just clear out everything else don't let your head go to anything else it'll all be there waiting and just be in conversation that's the biggest but we can't be successful in that conversation if we don't take the moment so we'll pick up next week the raan talks about you can't be successful with any unless you prepare so how you going to walk into Ding have a successful conversation if you didn't prepare who here walks into a meeting you got a big meeting with a customer client you didn't prepare you got a big solicitation you didn't prepare you didn't do your research you didn't think about what you're GNA say you got a big speech to give you got a big you don't prepare so this is the biggest meeting of the day biggest meeting of the day my friend till fold sometimes posts a picture himself in tson filling he says starting off with the most important meeting of the day it's the biggest meeting of the day P policy conference used to have 18,000 people and I used to say I used to feel that the growing segment of that conference of the 18,000 shz would have minion first thing in the morning before you go to Capitol Hill for all the meetings the most important meeting of the day most this is the mo whatever meetings you have today doming is the most important meeting of the day and it won't go well unless you first clear that path and then take it from there we'll pick up next week m