#21: Iggeres HaRamban (10 Minutes of Meaning) - Humility 101

good morning good morning BTO to everyone may it be a day that we hear BOS toos yeshu peace in the North and the South hostages coming home soldiers returning to their families and only good news 10 minutes series is generously sponsored bytz Le father G of her mother today is also sponsor Mar and S Shandon in memory of Jerry ketki a incredible leader of our community to him we owe a great debt of gratitude alah a big loss for our community we are learning ra raan's letter to his son the raan's letter to each and every one of us the raan has been teaching us how to be a better version of ourselves condition ourselves to always speak calmly and sweetly and in that will be spared anger if you always speak calmly and with tranquility and serenity then you'll never get angry if a person never raises their voice they never get angry it's not that be determined you'll never get angry you won't raise your voice be detered to never raise your voice says the raan and you'll never get angry and in Li of the anger what fills your heart instead is and a fear of hem and a sense a healthy sense of humility of if anger is a if anger is a categorically bad Mida then humility is a categorically good Mida humility to be grounded to be anchored to recognize that we submit and surrender to Hashem the talents the skills the blessings he's given us they're on loan they're not part of our permanent collection we're responsible to use them to their fullest every day and then ran writes and now my son we spoke last week the ran again invokes same way he began same way he began the letter to his son quoting the my son I Come From Love you're my son I care I love not trying to catch you I'm not trying to criticize you I'm not trying to condemn you trying to be your father I love you so again he brings it back now my son I love you I'm not here to knock you down I'm here to lift you up know and see last week we asked if you know why do you need to see if you see why do you need to know and the answer is that which we know up here needs to filter down you can't be you can't speak between them because you're not reliable you're not Dependable it has to be seamless what we know up here to filter down to our hands and our heart to put it into practice more than that we spoke last week from the how does a person live life to its fullest to see our future self don't only live in the present what I want what I need what feels good how will that impact me if I eat that now what will be my lab report in 20 years from now if I deprive myself of sleep now how will that impact my neurological my cognitive capacity in 20 years from now if I speak do go watch look see how does that impact me the girl said what is gam it's in the future we sit on a couch gathers everyone we ever knew do our mothers our fathers our spouse our children our family our friends and we watch the movie of our life public and private we can edit out the parts we don't want anyone to see that's called chuva if we don't that's gam sitting and watching it with Hashem so when you're making the decision look at that say that do that go there I don't want to have to watch that on a big screen with my whole family in front of hasem later so that's what it means road to see the future ran writes a person who's arrogant person has an inflated ego over others such a person is rebelling against the royalty the monarchy the kingship of he's trying to glorify himself he's trying to dress he's trying to be adorned in the uniform in the of as the says we incorporate into our daving Friday morning Friday night Hashem the king he he he wears Gus he wears Pride greatness royalty that's what he glory and if a person tries to put that on for himself they're so the question is if I'm arrogant over others what is that to do with god with God I'm humble I'm modest I I Surrender your god king of the universe I'm a nothing you are everything what does that have to do with taka feeling though I'm smarter I'm more handsome more artistic more athletic I'm wealthier I'm more more charismatic than everyone else why can't a person be ar I'm trying not to feel that that was an example why can't a person feel arrogant over others and still be humble before God thean is telling his son if you're arrogant to others so you're so the simple understanding of in his commentary understands this way he says because if you're arrogant you're arrogant whether over God or whether over others and just like when it came to Mor he put on the clothing of the king that was his reward for saving the king that's what killed hon person who arrogant who thinks they're in power they're in control over others so such a person is K putting on the Lush you're trying to wear the Royal Garb of hem but you're not God you're not even close to God let God do his thing don't get involved stay out of his way you're not God you're not God don't try to imitate God your poor impostor of God don't put on the clothing the Garb the Royal Garb of God get get out of the way get out of the way that's why it's but I would like to humbly suggest to you this morning perhaps another interpretation you know why you're because if you're arrogant over other people you know what you're denying in other people their their godliness famously writes that a person the mitvah am demands that we believe and have faith and know that there is a hasem but just like there's a mitvah of Amun in Hashem there's also a Mitzvah ofun in ourselves that there's a in us and in people when we relate to when we connect with others we shouldn't see their faults and their failures and their foibles and their shortcoming we should see the godliness in them what's redeemable now some people that's right on the surface they're amazing they're incredible they're special for other people you got to dig deep you got to search it's not easy to find but that's what means love others like yourself you give yourself the benefit of the doubt you know what's redeemable you know the good part the godliness in you find the godliness and the good in the other believe not only inem that there's hasem in you every every Jew is a piece of and that means that if every Jew is there's a piece of God in every Jew what happens when you criticize or condemn or marginalize or exclude when you feel arrogant to Superior to another Jew you know who you're arrogant to Superior over a piece of if every Jew is and you're arrogant and greater than and better than and more entitled to than some other Jew then you're not only you're not only arrogant and Superior and obnoxious to a fellow person you're you're denying the god in them perhaps that's what the ran means when he says that language that's The Language by the way he sayso let's say you walk around incredibly humble modest and you're humble and you don't speak and I'm so humble I can't speak I'm the most humble so you don't it's only bbo on the outside you act humble but in your heart you're M every time you're in a room with people you think what a bunch of idiots I'm so much smarter than them I'm so much more right than they are what a bunch of morons but it's Belio it's in your heart on the outside no no I don't have to express my opinion very humble I'm very humble on the outside you're very humble on the inside all you're thinking is bunch of morons bunch of fools so much smarter than all of them what do these people know it's only Belo still the ran says to his son even if it's only in your heart why because it's not about what you behave demonstrate it's not about what's on the outside it's about if in your heart you feel better than a fellow Jew you're not only feeling you're better than a fellow Jew whom are you feeling better than himself because every fellow Jew is a is a piece of God and every when you feel better than them you're feeling better than says walk around and not only on the outside but also work that on the inside every Jew including a three-year-old Jew you say there's something to learn there's some way that they're going to be better or greater than I there's something to gain who am I what am I whatever I have maybe I have a high IQ maybe I have a good memory maybe I have a full head of hair I'm not better than the rabbi or some other Jew that doesn't it's not their fault they don't so I'm not better guys are all asleep nothing getting I'm getting nothing absolutely nothing back have a cup of coffee a slushie a pastry this cold weather we got to put up a crock pot of soup it's coming it's coming soon it's coming soon so a person shouldn't feel on better than anybody else and you think thean could leave it there we'll see next week he continues what are you gonna be arrogant about wealth you think it's your wealth I didn't check the Mega Millions last night could be I'm the wealthiest person here I didn't check the longer you go without checking the longer you can think maybe you won on check it's all over it's not for me it's for this campus that's what I played for that's what I played for so you going to be arrogant about money whose money is it it's Hashem what are you gonna be arrogant about COV the COV could disappear overnight the's gonna go on so important to be humble and continue to unpack it it be a day that we hear wonderful wonderful Wednesday