#16: Iggeres HaRamban (10 Minutes of Meaning) - Finding Humility, Happiness, and Holiness:

good morning BTO welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting please help yourself if you come D and if you come learn a PRS enjoy a slushy coffee station heish a pastry cold bottle of water we have an incredible setup now you'd like to sponsor a day people will make bras on all that delicious food in honor and memory please do so 10 minutes of meeting is sponsored by father of her mother basuma RKA we already ran the letter of the raan to his son the letter of the ran to each and every one of us reminding us that we have the ability to regulate ourselves that we do not have to give in or indulge anger or rage and then sabotage and destroy the relationships of our life but we have that capacity to regulate ourselves that we can transform ourselves to always speak calmly and gently and nicely and when we do when we do if we speak Bas then we'll be spared from C from anger and in Li of anger will be filled with humility which is the greatest of all qualities that one can have and when one is filled with humility we look into ourselves and always wonder where are we from where are we going and we're filled with the humility of realizing how mere mortal and how fragile we are before whom we're going to have to give an accounting spoke about the gr will be accountable for the mistakes we made and we'll be accountable that we didn't use that energy that time those resources to do good things and then he quotes a when we think about all this will fill with awe from our creator when we're able to sublimate our ego an ego edging God out there's no room for hasem if we're filled with ego when we able to sublimate our ego then we'll be filled with a now there's a lot of space a lot of room to say wow hashem's world is incredible it's amazing we won't want to miss the opportunities to draw close to him and with these qualities will find happiness who doesn't want happiness who doesn't want happiness it's one of the rights that we have here in this country The Pursuit of Happiness people wake up in the morning you pursue you you chase after something that's running away from you so the Torah gives us the formula to not only pursue happiness but to attain it to find it to have it the answer is don't live for happiness live for Holiness when you live for Holiness you find happiness we'll be happy with our lot in life rash was used to say people search desperately all over the world to find a city of Happiness not realizing it can be found in a state of mind they look all over for the city of Happiness not realizing it can be found in a state of mind happiness is not an emotion happiness is a decision it's a decision that's not to judge the people who are unhappy we live in a time that people struggle there are mental health challenges we're not sitting in judgment there are all kinds of reasons but we're not talking about somebody who has a diagnosable reason they're not happy we're talking about just general mainstream happiness we wait to feel happy I'd feel happy if I won the lottery I'd feel happy if my spouse listen to what I say I'd feel happy if my children would just be obedient and we wait to feel happy I'd feel happy if the rabbi would finally stop talking I'd feel happy I'd feel happy but happiness is not a feeling it's a decision it is the decision to what we focus on it is the decision to realize my happiness won't be defined by what's missing then I'll never be happy because there's always more I could have my happiness can be defined by what I have focusing on what I have and I always have something so I can always be happy so when a person is able to get rid of the anger and rage when a person is able to not be driven by and led by ego and then now there's room for God and now we're really willing to submit and surrender Hashem this is your world I work for you now you say sh whatever you made for me is that's what I need I have everything I need and I can find happiness so on this word on this result if we are able to condition ourselves speak softly and gently and kindly then don't indulge anger be filled with humility which helps us be filled with awe and Y which helps us find happiness which helps us find happiness and I just want to connect this to R for a moment tells us he saw that was sad why you said why you why you miserable why do you have a frown I forgot to make an a of so I'm sad I forgot to make this year you have to make an a of what do you see from here say shom muger he didn't say you know why I'm sad rash my life in the balance to walk around like this with my head down and a sad face and miserable and Afraid and cing and shaking and he said I'm sad I forgot to make the you know I wish I I remember to make it says he says would walk around with a smile and Joy on rash and he'd say the following I saw this brought also says similarly tells us R night some people make a bigger seder than pesak night you got the apple and the honey and the pomegranate and the leak and the carrots and the fen Greek and the head of the sheep and the head of the fish and you got all seder why SSA if we indulge and enjoy all these props all these symbols the symbols are meaningful the symbols are going to bring a great year how that works we don't believe in Superstition is for another time but the G says these symbols matter said of schuger you know which is the biggest symbol the biggest Simon you could have at rash table that will help you have a good year a happy year a sweet New Year you want a badon for rashash be miserable and anxious and worried and frowning and sad and trembling sit at your rashash table as a scary place an unhappy place a miserable place that is a Simon for a bad year you want Sima for a good year said of schuger sit at your rash table with a smile with joy with happiness with happiness that is critical and there's a lot to say he has a lot to say so if we're able to not indulge our impulse towards anger or rage speak kindly and softly you want to Simon for a good year we have that ability rashash yes it's y yes we're ding for our lives but so what it happens to be that the judge is also our father happens to be the king is also our father so we can go in said the tour are confident we can go in with a smile we got work to do don't come late don't Coast don't tune out don't read books tune in come on time come early don't talk during that there's a lot of work to do on on rash but put in the work and you could have a smile simsa and the biggest Simon on rashash is don't walk around sad and miserable and for walk around with a smile to be in his if a person gets a hard reset a hard reboot you get to start again you get a fresh start wipe the Slate clean what would bring greater Sim and joy than that so it's a time to be with humility with humility and speaking Softly a lot of prep that has to go into yff don't lose your cool don't get angry someone wasn't ready something didn't happen someone didn't the didn't dip the Apple properly you know you have the kid you spread this honey all over the place all over their hands all over the table the honey they messed up the honey Honey's tricky Honey's tricky go all the way through the end of sukus I think BR uses honey on his the whole year that's why he's always so happy that's why he's always so honey is messy someone's gonna make a mess out of it that's okay smile that smile that Joy it's going to be the biggest Simon of the whole year so follow the Ran's formula to his son everyone and at all times to always speak calmly and gently and happy always speak calm and then will be spared anger and Without Anger we'll feel humility and with humility we'll be filled with awe and with awe we'll feel humble we'll be able to find the happiness that we all Crave You Won't only have to pursue it we'll be able to catch up with it and I'm not sure yet what we're having this year next week pay attention to the WhatsApp group we announce it but I want to reward you for coming to sh this morning have a Slurpee on the way out cup of coffee a pastry enjoy coming to learn and Dav PRS we're here B