What Should You Get Your Husband For Chanukah?

Hi, this is David Olowski with a special Kaneka question and answer by Yahooa G. Hi Rabolowski, huge fan here. I've listened to every one of your podcasts. They are the highlight of my week. I'm so glad. Thank you. My questions are, what is the best gift you ever received and what should I get my husband for Kaneka? Oh, that's easy. A tie. [laughter] Just kidding there. Yeah. Um that's just a sort of standard thing that people give, you know, when you give a gift certificate or something like that. Not a lot of thought has gone into it, right? To be able to find a gift that's an appropriate gift is an art form and you have to really understand the person. Uh I've received uh gifts and like I say, I don't I don't expect really anything, you know. I I feel a little bit like Jacob and I don't really look at my life as being. So I asked my wife I said what's the best gift that I ever got? So she said probably your I was doing counseling with somebody and they want to pay me and I never take money for counseling because I have no qualifications and I don't know what I'm doing and so I don't believe that I have a right to take money for that. you know, if if I help anybody, it's dishes. Nonetheless, they wanted to buy me something and they bought me a tender, you know, one of those ones that, you know, you can with with the with the uh little knobs and you can lower it, you can raise it, etc. That was uh something that I still use to this day. And that's I suppose when you talk about a gift, what you have to think of is it's something that a person's going to use longterm. Um I have from my wedding um 43 years ago. People got me sparum and inscribed them. And some of these sparum are sperm that I that I use all the time. And uh I turn to it. I open it up. I see the inscription that's particularly meaningful to me. So you have to figure out what is going to be meaningful to your husband. And so therefore, what will work for me is not going to necessarily work for him. So, you get different presents that along the line that are like uh they seem like they're in at the time or that they're fun at the time, you know, but I've gotten family pictures that I could put up of all my family. That's a lot of fun. Um, you know, a car that's also nice, you know, but, uh, everybody has to look at it for themselves and see what's meaningful. And again, you have to figure out what's within your price range. So you have to be real. So sometimes a gift can be meaningful because of the effort that was put into it instead of the absolute value of it. And it might remind people years later of of something special that you held on to that uh that came in. So like I say, it's a very personal type of a thing. But I will tell you the following story since you ask about gifts. Um Ami Cohen who's the son of David Cohen Zazut Stark whatever the occasion was they wanted to buy him a present. They said what are we going to get him? He has like every safer ever. So they said Mustama he doesn't even know what he has. So they went down to the basement. And they found a box of sparum that was under the steps. And they took out one and wrapped it up. They gave it to him. He said, "Tat, we got you a gift." You know, he opens it up and he goes, "Ah, hashem, I've really wanted to get this safer." And they all smile to each other. He says, "Cuz I have a copy and it's missing three pages. I'm always wanted to see what was missing in those three pages. I'm so glad you got me another copy. [laughter] >> [gasps] >> So if you are going to give something, give it a little bit more thought. And that's it. We should have a