Time Traveling Jews (Ep. 252)

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share subscribe and comment okay um I I want to start by telling you uh aish that I I had yeah um and it'll tie into a little bit of what we're talking about this week um and we'll see whether or not I finish all of my of my business to to get to uh to more things that I have to say it's it's incredible you think that you know after like 250 hours I would have run out of stuff to say but uh as we'll see in a moment a lot of it is inspired by the good people who watch and listen to this podcast um uh as you know I give aish here and uh when you look at we started with and there are a lot of which is of course what we say at the beginning of and his fact is included in the itself right it's not actually sh but it is attached to it that is not considered a he between and it's considered part of it so somebody asked me how come by and by mus we add in the and I looked around I could not find mafam who talk about it don't don't explain why that's added on so uh what can you do uh you know uh it's it's fun to think that I know everything and that's one of the great things about having a podcast because you can edit out whatever you don't know and just keep in the buts that you do know this is how Joe Biden made a that video where he uh where he um uh told Trump he wanted to have a debate with him and you could see it was edited like times so that's the great thing about having a video reality as opposed to a real reality but um uh I didn't know anyway when we finally finished our first learning of we then went to and the beginning of andma really is is part of sura and it starts with and the explained why do we start with bar we start with because it's like because you cannot start anything without preparation so before you bench you say come we're going to bench you need time to prepare yourself things should not go uh there's a you can't just walk into sh and start ding you have to wait at least the amount of time that it takes to walk D otherwise it's uh just just start you have you need you need preparation you yeah um shadon used to take a boat to its shell not a plane uh I've heard different reasons for this one is that he didn't like flying but that's not what he said what he said is 12 hours is not enough time to prepare to come to you need uh you need um you know more time than that so I need a whole I need a whole boat ride you know to to prepare my to come toell because without preparation nothing is going to uh be successful you need time to stop and to think about it you know what am I doing why am I doing it and if you just walk in you know without anything there's a whole bunch of old Jewish jokes um and uh one of the areas that uh that I have uh I have a a bunch I I try to collect the old Jewish jokes there nothing else just to make sure that they stick around you know but um uh this woman comes to the rabbi and says I'm not coming to sh anymore yeah I'm sick of it every time I come it's the same thing right so yeah sure if you just walk in for you're not going to appreciate the whole y experience there's a whole El and then there's R and then there's s Chua and then there's an arum Kipper and a yum Kipper right and then you ker builds up to a crescend till you get to the but if you just walk in at the end you know the last the last there used to be these films where it would saying the ad no one will be seated during the last 15 minutes of the film The Dramatic conclusion you have to uh you have to be there for the whole thing and uh often people miss that so you need preparation so B is the same thing so as was looking into baru I came across a medish that says the following how do you know you're supposed to say B from the and I wanted to say I didn't see this any place but it suddenly hit me since we say before and we say before we have that preparation before we start daving MV and shakas and going into but there is no by and by so we add in the which is the P from which we learn out that you're supposed to say bar and we add that in at the beginning of the that to act as the bar and the preparation for it that's that's my own idea if you like it great if not uh well sign up for the share and see if you hear or anything you do like what are you want with me you got this one for free anyway but uh um but what it means is that that I never like that I used to hear people say because I don't know if the shot is true but the idea is definitely true you know uh I learned uh uh when you would say over a musm they would always say yeah is it is that really what it means in the that you're saying over to get this mus is it true doesn't matter if it's true if the shot's not true because who says that you're right you know when I started teaching in um uh an H I'll tell you just a little little fun thing so I was teaching an A so they gave me a bunch of classes to do and at some point they gave me the five levels of pleasure now there have been people who have leveled criticism that you know ASA Torah they do things that sound more like pop psychology instead of like you know um just you know a down a dirty Torah like or does and uh sometimes I have to say I saw an interview I think it was in the Wall Street Journal where some from a where they said we sell the sizzle not the steak okay I don't I don't think that's a good idea but to say but uh but I know that was a tremendous so there five levels of pleasure you know they have physical pleasure and then they move up to uh love and then they move up to meaning and then they they go to Power and the last one isem and that's the greatest pleasure so it it sounds cutesy like where'd you get this from and that's that's me I I always ask questions I think I told the story that when I was tricked in into taking an ncsy chapter in Los Angeles uh the fellow Who tricked me into taking it once I ended up with the job he says don't worry I'll walk you through it I'll teach you everything don't worry about it and a week later he resigned so uh I didn't know what I was doing so I went down to regional office and I read everything every old brochure every booklet every now I didn't know people don't do that they just make it up as they go along which is why if you ever go to your last to play Risk it's a lot more fun than if you play by the rules cuz none of us had the patience to actually read the rules we got a general idea and we made it up as we went along it's a lot more exciting than the real game you know uh there are this they call them house rules you know like the $500 that you put in um Monopoly and you get if you land on on free parking that doesn't exist anywhere doubles when you land on you know you get 400 when you land on go all these are house rules they're not true you know but um uh they make him most go along but we made it up a little bit you know so um uh so I so I like to ask questions I didn't know that by NC's wife so I read everything and it turned out that I was the second most knowledgeable person about ncsy in Los Angeles the first was Lee Samson who had started the region 10 years earlier and the second was me cu no one ever read this stuff or knew what was going on which I I think is so interesting you know people take a job and and they don't know what they're doing where they're coming from the background is when I became Regional director I knew nothing you know so uh the gold standard in ncsy was someone by the name of uh ity loen Brown in uh in Baltimore zal so uh I called up ity and I asked him could I come down to Baltimore you know and maybe you could show me the ropes he says yeah sure so we set an appointment and I got into my little Chevy Nova and I drove down to Baltimore and uh no there's no cell phones back then so I I found a uh pay phone I called him up I said I'm trying to find your exact address and he says to me where are you I said I'm I'm here on uh um I'm here in Baltimore I'm looking for Park Heights I know you live over here goes um okay and I was a little confused because it sound like he wasn't expecting me you know and uh I found the place and I drove over weoo a little bit and then he stops and he says I've been doing this for seven years you're the first person who ever asked me what I'm doing and he took me to the office and he gave me copies of all of his Flyers all of his booklets all of his things people go in and they don't they don't bother asking they don't try to find anything so you're going to walk into yum Kipper and you don't have an El and you don't have a you don't have a rashash CH you don't have you don't have you know everything that goes into the preparation you're going to be at a terrible disadvantage so we so we say get ready and if we don't say we say and so we have to have that prep anyway I'm looking at this class the five levels of pleasure and I said this has to come from someplace and I start asking around and no one seems to know no one seems to know I had the same experience when I was Ling shki he would get up and he give shear and I would write over my notes and I'd see there's like four steps missing I don't know how he got from here to there and I went around to everybody in the shear I couldn't find anybody who knew where those missing four steps were until I went with one of the guys who was in The Shear room when he was preparing the shear and he says oh yeah he spoke this out he spoke it out in the shear room but he didn't do it in sheer and nobody else seem to notice you know so uh I I've told this story before you know but uh so there was a show in the afternoon big and uh whenever I'd come over to ask a question he would get that nervous look I get that a lot from people like I'd like to be anywhere other than here talking to you so uh I said I'm not the I'm not I'm not you know one of the major Learners in this place what do you get nervous for me he say he the only guy in the base meage who makes me nervous I said why said because you ask easy questions I know why you're here you want to know what these two lines are doing in tvus I said yeah that's what I was going to ask you he goes I know nobody knows what those two lines are doing in tus but you're the only one who will ask it so when people say things like you know this might not be shot but you know the idea is correct it doesn't work that way you know there's the was very big on first it has to make sense I heard from R nissl who said he heard from Reber who heard from reim who heard from the Ala who heard from him if you saw salant how to learn mus and he says he would sit down with and he would learn it m and ask all the Casas and rip it all apart until he felt that he really had shot and once he felt that he really had shot he would say it over and over and over again until the tears began to flow but the M only works if what you're saying is accurate otherwise you can say anything you want and who says that it's true you know so whenever I hear people say well you I don't know I don't know theot is true but the idea is certainly true no it doesn't work that way you better you better be able to back it up you know so I finally found someone who said he based did on the on theah inma so I look it up and he said this is what the says the way you get to is by knowing that AEM is greater than uh Bim now I got it that's what they call fifth level pleasure you know physical Pleasures money things that you can buy Bim that's love that's family and and the riot is people who have money will end up you know spending it on their children right every year they make a study uh if you have a kid what is going to cost you to raise him till uh till he graduates College you know some enormous amount of money that nobody has um so uh uh abundance you money and people will sacrifice their children for covod meaning meaning it says coved here means it means meaning right um and uh R is people encourage their children to go and fight even though they know that there's a chance they'll get killed instead of just trying to you know to to get them out you know because meaning is more important and AEM is greater than all those I said that's four levels of pleasure so it took me a while to track it down they said yeah yeah yeah that the also adds after cover me power said no he doesn't and I went around I got three sa none of them said it they all said so I finally found the English and in the footnotes he mentions that there's AER that says me but that's a mistake it doesn't belong in the text there's only four levels of pleasure and that's why when I try giving the class and I watch other people go the class nobody can explain the second level that the desire for power is greater than meaning in your life a meaningful life people will trade meaning for power there might be people but that's not a given it's not an absolute and that's why people always have trouble explaining it it's really the four levels of pleasure and I told this to the people in the upper ups and they said yeah it's okay we we already wrote up five levels of pleasure so uh so you got to know where it's coming from you got to understand it before you do anything so L is a time of preparation this is a time we're getting ready and as the posk in AEV says about from the beginning of the year to the end end of the year and shap would often point out this teaches us that there's something called the beginning of the year and the end of the year when the year ends the year is over right that's it the year ends and now a new year begins and uh we hope we hope for a good year that's what we hope for but at the end of the year we have to take care of all the things that need to be taken care of we need to do all of our housekeeping the waya explained it was that you're given a certain amount of Life on rashash and it runs out at the end of the year and comes R you need a KES to make a new deposit in the account for you and without that life you won't continue but that's it life is over it's just one year a year is a totality everything is inside of that year and now it's all done so comes the end end of the year we have to make AES and make an account of our lives and put things into seder and you know maybe I I'll share one more ver over here um somebody asked me about time travel J didn't believe in time travel the answer is no there's no time travel you can't the only thing that really exists is the present because when the future comes it's the present and what was the present is the past so you live in the present this is sort of the concept that the idea that there's a continuity is an illusion is not there's only this moment in existence and keeps creating the world a new every moment it's an illusion that we think there's a continuity it's so interesting I read an article once in scientific America where a person um actually has equations where he suggested that there's no such a thing as time there's just uh endless amount of parallel universes and you exist for only in that universe and only in that moment and the next moment is a different universe and it's an illusion that you have it's an amazing concept only he's got fancy equations to go with it but um uh so I said there's only one instance I know of time travel and that is the rambam says when the year ends so you look at yourself if you're a Russia so you get written in the if you're get written in the so so what is it gives what's the definition sadic means you have more Mitzvah than a varus uh a um if you're Russ means you have more varus than and a is 5050 exactly 50/50 so if you do chuva during the Asser May chuva then you'll go [Music] into and if not well you'll go into the other book yeah because the ban and the book is just a temp file you know then we close it down so uh so the kive mission over there ask the question what do you mean if I do the mission of MIT chuva because if you do one more Mitzvah it'll change from 5050 says why well if I do one more Mitzvah why does it have to be chuva put on fill say kishma give it why if I do CH why is that the key his answer is it doesn't matter what else you do if is right there and he's so close to you and you have the opportunity to be able to do chuva and you don't there's nothing you're going to do that's going to outweigh how terrible that is that's his answer and gives a different answer he says that's not the point when last year ends when this year ends right you're 50/50 I don't care what other Mitzvah you do the only other Mitzvah that you do get counted towards next year this year is closed the books are closed if you were 5050 when the books closed it doesn't matter what else you do next year that's how next year's kin unless you can do time travel and and that's what chuva does that when you do Chua you can turn your Aus into mitzvos so that when you do Chua in the new year on the actions you did last year you can take some of your a virus and either turn them into sh or turn them if you do M into mitv and then it's not 50/50 anymore you took some of the negative ones off the scale by going back in time and changing retroactively your kavas that's what Chua does so uh so you understand you're you're have to you have to get the accounts done because the books are going to close and everything's done so uh all of that is by way of [Laughter] introduction because I've been getting a lot of uh of emails recently from people I'm not going to go through all of them but I don't know I've been saying a lot of things that seem to be uh inspiring people a lot and uh by the way um I'll just throw it out there again I mentioned the idea of starting another online Shear I was thinking of doing pavos I've gotten two responses so far not really enough to make a Shear out of uh if anybody else might be interested and wants to let me know the other thing is that someone who is a professional in the podcast industry says that in the from World there are people in Kar who would like to know what's going on in erel people in erel don't want to know what's going on inel but people in might and he suggested that like once a month I have somebody and will do a podcast uh bringing uh in all the current things that are going on in ell and the politics and the and the things like that so there might be some people who are interested in that there might be people are not reach out to me if you think it's the kind of thing you might like or might not like to do um because my son who has actual contacts in the government uh I thought of the idea of having him on to talk about the Matel and the politics and what's going on behind the scenes and whatever he can say without ending up in jail so uh if that sounds like something you might be interested in give me a shout out let me know but uh uh n of the things I've been saying lately have uh elicited a lot of response and I want to share some of them with you so this is end of the year housekeeping if you will uh I got a lot of response to the first part uh of our interview with r Greenwald yeah as a rabbi olowski crazy I love you already and you'll find out at the end of this that that she's a in case you think r olowski crazies are only uh teens and people in their 20s there are little children and elderly and everything in between who can be a rovski crazy as a rovski crazy I've heard you lament about our spoiled generation more than once but you did not really touch upon any solutions no of course not what's the point i' this point I'm just a cranky old man who likes to sit and complain hey how come come the kids are in the kidish why isn't somebody do something if you're not it used to be an old expression if you're not part of the solution then you're me may I humbly offer the following now this is this is mind-blowing this uh this little email and I feel like I'm reading this mostly to make everybody else feel a tremendous sense of inadequacy I certainly did number one have a large family now full disclosure not everybody has that option um you know when I was younger uh and I don't have didn't have the tact and the grace that I have today you know I met this fellow that I knew and uh I said you have Kindel he says yeah I have two and I guess he saw the expression on my face and he says yeah me and my wife aren't that fertile I was like yikes have a large family kids in a large family learn to help to get along with others and realize that the world does not revolve around me myself and I caveat it really depends on how the parents do it there are children who are in a large family who have no problem um uh you know uh all sitting around and watching the parents run around like chickens without their head on so uh so again it really depends to the point that you make at the end of how you are them uh after I had a heart attack and my brother Galia had a heart attack and I had what was supposed to be a triple bypass and was only a double bypasser it's still an embarrassment at the family SAS everyone had got a triple bypass except for me and then my brother Galia got a quadruple bypass so one of my brothers you know he says you know my kids are really frightened for me now when I go outside the sh snow they watch from the window with a concerned look on their face two don't have a lot of money or have money the way I read about in the book about mosha reichman where they would dismiss their Maids one day a week and all children were required to clean their very large house from top to bottom with no time for friends that day this beautiful K shows up later in the book where his daughter who was living was a young married in Israel would clean her house herself instead of hiring help so as not to make herself different than her Israeli friends who couldn't afford an o zerit That's again that comes down that's not inherent it all comes down to I know families that get into into financial distress because the kids demand a lot of things even though they don't have a lot of money so again it'll come down to how you do it obviously showing respect to your parents and not demanding expecting everything from them Will Go On to the Next Generation my father used to say it to me he says one of my uncles never gave his kids anything and they all liked them he says my father would say I gave my kids everything they can't stand me number four bring kids up with auna and where we are imbued with the idea that everything comes from Hashem we don't get mad or Sue or expect too much from people we realize whatever Hashem wants us to have we will have no matter the messenger maybe this should be number one on the list 100% 100% this one 100% if you could imbue people with a sense of trust in Hashem it goes a very long way well I feel really bad for the father whose daughter and son-in-law broke off connection with him for not paying for a top college did he really need to wait until they were 30 to say no to them where was his until then if you raised children to feel entitled and support them fully all along what else was he expecting at this point there's no question that has to start when you're young the uh the older they get the harder it is to change bad habits as a case in point I was raised in a family of 12 children my father was first in coell then a magir and Yeshiva Katana we were raised in a happy home that obviously was not too rich in gmas most of my siblings are either still in learning or in 10 have made Aliah and live in Israel as my parents do none of us have any expectations from our parents monetarily and rather try to Shield them from any financial difficulties we might have and that does not preclude us from having a close relationship galic going to the Next Generation I'm expecting my 12th can iara and yes my husband mostly learns and works part-time in a Yeshiva my children are bar mature helpful and happy I married off my oldest a year ago and is in common in our circles we're kidish we split the rent for the first year with the other side now that we have to renew the contract we asked the other side if we could maybe split it for another year a third on us a third on them and a third for the new couple just to give them a little extra help as my son-in-law barem is still sitting and learning and my daughter is working as a Moet my daughter just told me last week that her husband said he does not feel comfortable that we should help them anymore they have enough from her small salary to live and don't want us to stretch ourselves what can I say pure Nas and I hope this renews your faith in the upcoming generation it does not but it renew renews my faith in you and all I can say is with whatever you are doing in your please Ben sir miror throwing a good word for me because uh you are that lady in the in the um in the parenting group that makes all the rest of us want to go home and kill [Laughter] ourselves okay another one uh is this the spoiled brat one uh oh another of people wrote with concerns about my health this one is in Hebrew now this is very interesting I meet Israelis uh who don't understand much English and listen to my podcast and I said and they [Music] HEB I said you understand the English goes must speak it reminds me when they used to have the big evening for shashan they would have a big evening for Israelis in Hebrew and one for English speakers uh in English and I often would participate in it and uh these Israeli girls would come up to me afterwards and say oh you know you know and um and I was like you understood the English it was enough you know you know must speak I said well why don't you go to the Hebrew one he goes it's so heavy he says when you come here everybody's smiling everybody's happy everybody builds you up you walk out feeling AIC there I feel like I'm beaten up so uh I have had a number of people who told me that they find the podcast is like one of the few positive Jewish experiences that they have in their life you know so uh so this is in Hebrew he enjoys listening to the podcast as he drives de deia I think that's an English word listen we start coming up none of us know the more people who want me around that can only help my standing up in [Music] yeah don't keep saying how you're going to drop dead okay I won't say [Laughter] it I really enjoyed listening to the conversation you had with rbbi Greenwall that brought similar feelings of Pride for me because like the r my parents with balich Chua in the 50s Not in their 50s in the 1950s my parents were first generation Americans who did grow up with Judaism in their homes but I think their fathers worked on chabas my father was sent to ker and spoke Yiddish but as my parents got older they became less observant we just stopped being Jewish like our Z was after worldw two my father reconnected with the rub of the sh he grew up in by offering him ride since the r did not drive in the process the r was M my father my mother agreed to come on board when they got married my father is the only one from his family who have any descendants or Legacy none of my cousins had children in fact one is a female Rabbi that doesn't mean she can't have children of course they say at an orthodox wedding the mother of the kala is pregnant at a conservative wedding the kala is pregnant at a reform redit wedding the rabbi is pregnant anyway and even though two of my three brothers were not religious for a period of time they met fantastic women who were very interested and I can proudly report that they all have tdic homes with observing children personally I consider myself somewhere in between a BT and an ffb since I had to learn many things on my own and am still learning so thank you for the conversation and thank you for gra greenw world for addressing the issues uh as a long-term average follower of your podcast I was very concerned to hear about your health challenges could I please trouble to let me know your name so I can add you to my D H Ben s Mira um by the way somebody sent me a very long email a doctor and said I really think you should get a second opinion and I tried that you know the doctor told me that there's really not much you can do I said well want a second opinion he says okay you're also fat anyway that's an old joke um wish you um I'm in the middle of the show about spoiled brats for the McDonald's case was mentioned today I saw a sign in a kosher establishment in Lakewood that said please use right door the problem was that under that sign with another sign which read disclaimer and then spelled out right and left with two arrows to indicate which direction it was I would like to Echo the feedback you got recently from a fellow traveling cerous auditor apparently I am helping the international kist scene I do this too and your pods are one of the highlights of my week I've listened to them from India to Ireland Edinburgh to esorn Dublin to Durban Durban dban yeah keep up the gavala work wishing you have all your faculties uh about you to 120 listen I hope I keep them till next [Laughter] week I'm at the stage where my father was when everybody that he knew the name was uh uh uh uh who's that guy uh uh uh anyway this one I just had to read because it was just amazing I I saw the subject and I misread it rovski saved my hike now I don't know why I thought it read rowski saved my life but it doesn't rovski saved my hike now I want to give you uh there was a young lady who wrote a book about uh her battle with cancer and surviving cancer and she said one of the things that got her through were my sh and I've gotten a good dozen people over the years who told me that when they were sick they listened to my sh and I gave them the and the strength to be able to get through their illnesses and I said Kim should really offer my uh my sh as part of the package you know but I I didn't save his life but I did save his hike on the most western Tip of Texas lies a mountain range that has the highest altitude of Texas within it this is known as the guadaloop peak I got to I got to set the uh the scene as part of a traveling camp out west I had attempted to hike the trail three previous times but had so far failed to reach the summit I feel that way when I have to leave my building on shoers and it's five it's five flights up okay okay a few more steps you can do it you can do it just a moment to speak about myself again because it is one of my favorite topics you know um my daughter lives um here in harno but you know in harno when you say someone lives two blocks away it's vertical so I have to go five flights of stairs up in my building building go across the street to walk down to her building and then she's like eight flights up might be nine flights nine flights so uh you know somebody they invited us for Friday night and you know I I I often uh send my apologies my wife said I really want to go I said send my regards but he really wanted me to go so before shabas I took the elevator up and I took the next elevator up up and I went I learned in yiva so I walked to their house I only had to walk up three stories and then walk back 25 stories to get back home but anyway so he's co going in the tallest mountain in Texas uh as I attempted my fourth as part of the traveling Camp I had attempted to hike the trail three previous times but had so far failed to reach the summit as I attempted my fourth and what would probably be my last chance to surmount the Peak I failed I'm not proud of it but a quarter of the way up the first two treacherous miles I collapsed and gave up five minutes later as I desperately searched my phone for some motivation I Came Upon Your Schmo titled why are Jewish people depressed I began playing with it and my and with my mind H playing it and with my mind off of my struggling body I continued the hike it must have been funny to see me there in over 100° Texas Sun grimacing up the trail but laughing uncontrollably every few minutes I Smile as I remember that hourong Journey that brought me to a comma section of the hike where I was able to surmount the peak which had defeated me Thrice times before I don't know how old you are but you have a really impressive vocabul L not everybody uses words like Summit and Thrice so um uh this is uh definitely inspirational and uh when I wrote him back he said to me oh yeah and by the way I I gave that share to a friend of mine who was off the D came from that's that's sort of a PS so I've been getting a lot of mail lately I'm not reading all of them to you but you know I there's a there's a lot of comments and a lot of observations uh that people make and what can I tell you that is you know I want to tell you something that uh uh stuck with me maybe it was 20 years ago I assume it was 20 years ago when cell phones were being introduced and re sharfman at the time his Seminary was not a Bas yako Seminary but he said to me I'm thinking of Outlaw exporing cell phones now this was interesting because the bakov you know they had a cell phone plan that everybody in the school got the same cell phone and they wanted everybody to to be working together and having the same thing and so okay so um uh he says I'm thinking of uh you know getting rid of cell phones and I said why why you know he says not for religious reasons he says it used to be that I would give uh shear and the girls would go out and it challenged them and they'd be talking about what we said what we discussed and it would continue on with these discussions and that's that's effective when you say over an idea when the person is able to kazer it over you know in most Yas they have what they call have to give this she you go over it you know place they give and they you know I mean but um you you you go over it you consider it uh in fact I remember there was a story with RNA a and Bin he uh after a whole day of learning he gets on the bus to go home and he opens up a safer and RNA looked and he said he didn't learn one thing today that's worth thinking about he right away has to open another safer um raal clco I saw him once just standing outside of the basement I just thinking and I said what was this he said I saw these two older learning and one of them would ask a question and then two of them would just stand there and and think I thought that's the way he's supposed to learn so don't just jump to the next thing you know nober used to point out he says you know uh as you're talking people ask questions and they're not even sure what the question is they're working it out as they're talking instead of stopping to think and understand what the person said and then and then see if you understood it or not and what the question is but people just start talking right away and leave you that time to have consideration so the fact that we say things on this podcast that inspire people to go back and think about it and inspire people to write a comment um one person told me I I comment on all of your videos because I know it pushes up the the uh um the formula that they use to calculate things Etc so even if I have nothing to say I make a comment but the fact that people you know I say things that that really challenge people and get people to think that's great I don't care if you agree with me or not you know you can disagree with me as long as it's uh you know respectful you know and somebody uh had written me an email once where I I quoted a shot from one of my kids and they wrote me this very brusk email your daughter is wrong look at the ramom I thought that's not a way you speak to somebody you have any respect for I wrote him back and I said listen do me a favor don't write me anymore you know CU if that's the way you talk to me then obviously you have no respect for me says wa what's the problem what did I say so it was pretty clear he didn't get it so then I get a handwritten note with like terrible attacks and insults and stuff like that you know left in my mailbox you know he just couldn't let it go he wanted to get me G to get me you know so I save yourself the time you know when I when I read these things they don't really make a deep impact on me you know but a person who wants to disagree with me and make a valid point like the lady who is can accepting her expecting her 12th child and has no money and her parents had no money and all of her children are respectful and delightful you know uh so I can honestly say I cannot relate to you but was I inspired reading that I hope somebody else got inspiration from it anyway that that's it that's my end my year housekeeping I got a lot more emails but I'm not going to read them all because uh we got more things to do and now we come to the question and answer portion of our program and a lot of people look forward to the question and answer but you know this is people say to me like why don't you do like a Live question and answer I I I I do all the questions you know I think most of the people sentimental live I don't think they're Bots Yeah by Anonymous if the reason we have SAR is because hm wants us to get close to him by realizing it's from him why isn't he just give us good once we realize it's all from Hashem and we can see how good he is this is a fundamental question fundamental question I I think we've talked about this in the past but uh but we'll make a Sor just to you know if I've spoken about this before just consider this Kazar but it's such an important idea because as the begins first question that's the foundation of everything is why you're alive so that's very important why would we put into this world where we have to do Mitzvah and we have to work so hard and we have nonos and we have all these struggles and we have all these SAS just put us Ina so the famous answer the Z kades gives is because of the bread of Shame meaning if I just hand it to you you will not appreciate it in order to appreciate something you have to have earned it on your own and that's why wanted to create the world because that's the ideal world the ideal world is you deserve everything you get and as much as has to take you by the henty and walk you down the street and give you everything you're a baby like somebody said to me once will forgive me anyway right even if I don't do chuva I said sure if you can convince him you're a baby a two-year-old goes in the kitchen and makes a big mess you know the parents don't expect them to show any growth from that or to any change you understand the person's a baby that's the best they can do so if you're a baby yeah no one expects anything more from you if you're an adult you want to be an adult you want to be big so then you have to stand up and take responsibility and that's why the more that you're the greater it is I spoke about this in the past people say to me why does rashash come before y Kipper why don't you first forgive us and then have the Judgment so I said because and I say this a lot just because you can't do do everything doesn't mean you can't do anything and first you have a Yad so that you can get rewarded for what you did do okay then we'll deal with the things that you didn't do or the things that you did wrong but but you deserve reward for what you did do and and that's the big problem when people make they just count the bad things they did instead of the good things that they did but you have to take a look at your life and say look at all the good things that I did I deserve reward for that so that's the ideal now if he would just put us Inaba it wouldn't mean anything right uh if I create a computer program and I push a button and it goes happy happy happy happy it's not really happy I just programmed it that way if just puts us someplace and says oh you're very happy you did nothing to achieve it it doesn't mean anything now I heard a big time say this and I've never really understood it but he said obviously the fact that we're only happy if we earn it is because Hashem made us that way but he could have made us that we could have been just as happy without it well you just short circuited the entire Z KES says the reason that we're in this world is because Nam the Kaz now you're saying n just kidding yeah no we're just put into this world uh you know CU Hashem decided to create the world that way but he could have made us happy without it in which case the question is why do we have to be in this world and the answer actually is we don't have no idea and the Z just says that's how hasem chose to make it but that's not what he says so I heard a recording of rakab Weinberg the Riva of N isal and someone asked him this question and he said couldn't Hashem just make us already Inaba and be happy without having to go through anything and he said no otherwise he would have that that rang more correct with me and he said the greatest thing is to be a KES because made us like him that we have Choice without choice we're animals or we're Angels we're pre-programmed we do whatever it is that we're supposed to do and and that's it we follow Instinct you know and and nobody can stop to think anything more than that but who made us like him therefore the more you're likees the greater you are so what ises is infinite he's unlimited right he he he he he has everything we by contrast are finite and limited and uh we're not able to to be independent we're very dependent having said that you could be less dependent less limited and uh uh less finite you can become more like AES maybe you can't become KES but you can break beyond your limitations the more you break beyond your limitations the more you become like a so gives you that opportunity to become independent to become Limitless and to become infinite more than you are now you'll never enjoy the pleasure of being a you'll be an animal so I buy a puppy and I say good puppy and the puppy barks and has no understanding but if you have the opportunity to become more independent more unlimited yeah more infinite as much as you push yourself that's how much you're going to be more likees and the more you're like AES the more you get the pleasure from relating to a as uh MTI berer once said you know people say opposites attract he says of course that's not true otherwise you would take a nice Bas yakob girl and set her up with a Nazi you know opposites don't attract likes attract the more things have in common the closer they become that's what a is and so the closer we get to the greater the experience is going to be and so therefore put us Us in this world for us to become more unlimited than we are more independent yeah Abraham Rashi says by Noah yeah it says by abah he says you go on up ahead and the more you can go on on ahead and do it on your own to be able to live in din the more you can reach that level then that's the greater pleas pleasure you're going to have that's the that's the true pleasure it comes from independent and that's why ultimately the world should been made in din where you can earn everything works out that we need Rim but the less Rim you need and the more you can do it on your own the more we are going to enjoy the pleasure of being in this world we're in this world as says to do Tor mitas to improve ourselves and to stand up toos because aan helps us to grow and become a better person next question by Anonymous why do you think different places develop different accents if it's the same language that's interesting babies can make any type of sound and you can hear them when they're practicing sound they're practicing all different sounds they're making the sounds to speak an Asian language and they to be able to speak you know a semetic language and uh they have uh you know you want to speak French you can hear every sound being made and then they filter out the ones that aren't being used so uh the Jews who lived more in let's say Arabic countries they kept the sounds that were more Arabic the ones who lived in countries with they didn't have those sounds they were able to have more of the European sounding uh sounds so for example H aard has no problem doing a or you know the kind of gutural words whereas in ashkanazi has a problem with it on the other hand a um a uh sari has a problem with a r you know R American R ra they can do a where they roll it but a regular R they can't do that's why the tamim who had nothing to do with anybody kept all of the sounds because they weren't talking to anyone so they Incorporated the most sounds but every place you go obviously they're going to have it now how that works in with regional accents you know um Henry Higgins uh and uh pigmalion um he could tell where somebody was from from their accent often within a few blocks and different places pick it up same thing in America there's a Southern accent and there's a main accent you know CU pepp Farm that's a m that's a main accent you know uh there's a slightly nasal American you know accent that's uh more like Michigan you know and then like when I was in the Aly and people talk like this you know and uh you know there a Texas accent you know different places where they are uh sometimes it's influenced so for example the American accent there were a lot of Italians who moved to America to New York and um and so you ended up with 303 Street you know you have a lot of the Italian sound to the New York accent that's where it's coming from yeah so uh you know you pick up those accents and his mother comes into her son's room 3:30 in the afternoon he's still sleeping she kicks the bed she says Angelo what are you doing it's a 3:30 in the afternoon and you're still in bed you don't got no job you don't uh get married you don't do nothing I'm so disappointed in you looks at her and says mama how can you talk like that we're not Italian whereas the Irish if you ever listened to Irish Irish has a l and so there's an Irish L that goes on it comes along with it that you know and so uh these are different accents that where the regions come from and they tend to come in and uh get adopted uh by them the southern accent is closer to the English accent because uh uh the English influence was more in the South than in the north uh this is uh this is the a Layman's understanding of these accents so uh so uh that's the idea the only pure way of speaking is of course those of us who grew up in Long Island we have no accent this is the correct way to talk and everyone should remember that and there's one last story I was on a panel with YY Rubenstein and you know he has a quite a Scottish brog you know so he was saying at one point you know if you look at the verse I said what's a verse there's no I in that word it's a verse and he switches into perfect American accent he goes oh I'm sorry I didn't realize this was difficult for you I said now you're talking like a person but you know everyone has the different accents that come along with their particular languages and uh pronunciation and uh I guess the California people got it also from England because in England very often they'll end a statement with a question would you like a cup of tea which is similar to the to the valley accent you know um the special today is salmon so uh so that's the idea all right that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website ri.com you can uh leave a comment you can sponsor an episode you can sponsor a Q&A um you can sponsor Paran 5 uh you can sign up for one of our online shm also remember to let me know if you want to if anyone's interested in pyos if anyone's interested in Israeli uh events uh having someone come in and speak about that and uh that's it for this week until next time I am d olowski and this has been the rabbi olowski show it's the rabbi orlovski show Torah and S ready to go the rabbi orlovski show knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun in every episode and we don't 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