Spread the Good News (Ep. 142)

did i win this title isn't it i have to remember you know i always make sure to change the time i usually button it but uh you know this is on zoom anyway the recording is so crummy you can't even tell what time where i keep disappearing in the background over here you don't even like you know sheesh well michael left me yeah expects me to do this myself he keeps saying so where's the next podcast but i have to do it by myself yeah is this recording i think it's recording so can you stop it oh let me take it out he left me here anyway let him edit it all right hold on he knows because i do a clap and then he knows when to when to start editing everything so i that's my cue all right would they have to put on my professional voice my rabbit hello this is rabbi yolovsky [Laughter] all right ready hi this is dominic [Music] okay i'm sorry hi this is dominolowski and welcome to the roberto show and whether you're watching with our friends over at tony time whoever you watch or listen to the raviolsky show we're excited to have you along for the experience i got some bits of business to take care of first of all we have a sponsorship now you know we've fallen behind a little bit i don't know if i mentioned this last time but my producer's not here and he left me to do this on my own and you know i i uh i'm totally irresponsible and there's no reason that anyone should leave me in charge of anything so uh i'll give you a little idea uh of this uh sponsorship and this is from a good friend of the rubble yolonovsky show who is a constant supporter and uh listener and and email her and you know just whatever one of my favorite this episode is sponsored on the occasion of my 58th birthday the 26th of tamu's july 6th well a happy belated birthday uh as this course for me a reformer shleimer shalom and a good zebra shaney amen ala good to see all kinds of good things and that brings me to oh i have two other bits of business one is uh i went to a early shabbos uh minion uh here because i'm old the idea of starting my shabbos student at nine o'clock at night is just too much for me because you know i i doze off in the middle and stuff and you know so uh i go to early chavez and uh my good friend and old neighbor uh howie uh maizel's was the schlitz sieber and he mentioned to me that his wife is a regular uh um participant in the rebellowski show so i want to give her a shout out so uh nice to see you and then i want to tell you something that i i wanted to do which i think is very exciting i hope you find it as exciting as i do and that is um that i uh i was gonna go around i'll tell you you know i'm not really good at keeping things to myself you know somebody said to me once i i see sometimes when you're speaking you pause and you think if whether or not what you're going to say is appropriate and regardless you say it anyway so i'll share with you i i i give some thought to this yeah i really do so what i wanted to do is go around to uh crush it and important people famous people and ask them i record them saying you know uh you know shana tova simultan to the listeners of the robert elovsky show and i thought that would be just like a nice thing to put out before shashana and then i said you know what would be even more fun since we have this online community and i know you exist because i keep meeting you everywhere all around the world yeah i was in arizona i found people listening to the rabbi alaski's show yeah there are people all over i get emails from people in in countries that are not israel or america or canada yeah but uh you know who england okay england also maybe other like weird countries i i know people are very sensitive when you're in front of their country i was doing a program once in london i remember and this i asked the question this girl starts to answer and uh and i said that's not an english accent she says no i'm from slovenia i said slovakia she says none of slovenia i said there's a country called slovenia i said you people are amazing every 20 people get together and make their own country you know but you have your own language and everything and she went oh people don't find that funny i don't know being an american and even worse than that in new york uh we know that everybody hates us and we don't care we revel in it but anyway so people were listening all over and i thought wouldn't it be great i i need your participation to make this work if it happens it happens it doesn't doesn't record a short message of yourself the queen of atmo wishing everybody in our extended family of the rebellowski show we're coming on uh you know to our anniversary show coming up but before rosh hashanah it would be a beautiful thing if my listeners would like a little participation just to give a shout out and wish uh sir simultaneous to all the other listeners and help us bring together this level of camaraderie because uh you know it's it's you who make this meaningful yeah i'm basically sitting in my room talking to myself something that i have mastered over the years people say to me why do you talk to yourself and i said sometimes i just have the need for intelligent conversation but uh but we would love to i think this would be so much fun but of course we need your participation for that okay so those are those are our bits of business i need to take care of and now uh we will uh go back to what we were doing which was perky of us this is our last round of thinking of us and i went to take a look i say i'm gonna do a mission i don't do a mission i do one line from one uh mishnah in one parrot each time there's so much to do i mean we could do victory of us here all the time you know if there's enough interest if we had if we had real sponsorships like you know people actually wanted to do this i would do this every single day but right now it's like you know i'm kind of pushing it you know once a week as you could probably tell but uh you know go to the ravioli studios and i i'm getting emails from people you know when is the we want to be part of the live audience we're live audience i'm sitting here in my room in front of a zoom camera oh how the mighty have fallen anyway but uh it's better than my my very first one michael filmed in my room i was sitting in a corner it looked like a hostage video so this is a you know a step further you get to see my bookcase which if you don't notice this one is falling over you see this over here it keeps tilting a little bit more you know and uh there are those who would suggest that one day it will tumble yeah but uh i think faith has that ability to keep things secure yeah because as we enter into the high holiday season all of our lives are a little off-kilter yeah so we need to we need to organize them and straighten ourselves um it's uh there's a beautiful field that we sing in keep an eye baked and it's a number of michelin like the clay in the hand of the potter who can either form it or destroy it and turn it back into clay beautiful one but there's one that's very interesting it says like the curtain in the hand of the rokin who either makes the stitches go straight or or they're not straight you think okay i understand you you shatter the glass you you melt the metal you know okay it's not straight and i have to tell you that one always had special meaning to me because it's sometimes your life's not bad it's just not straight it's just a little off-kilter you know it's not aligned right so like that bookcase it needs to be realigned okay uh let's do a a little picky of us from parikshilishi [Applause] in everybody happy beloved is a person beloved to hashem that he created him with selamela kim the image of god hebrews an extra level of love as he told him that we were creative and seldom it brings up beloved are the jewish people that they're called how precious is the show that hashem gave us the torah the cliffhanger islam okay so i'm not going to go into all of these points there's one point here that i want to address we are beloved there's an extra level of belovedness that hashem told us so it's one thing if you gave me something very valuable it's another thing if you tell it now there's no vested interest from my kurdish borough my father who he he had such street smarts he knew how to how to work with anybody and how to get around anybody so occasionally he would go with my mother to uh you know to some restaurant that was really packed and it was a waiting list or a show or whatever it is and you had to slip the maitre d some money or he wouldn't even pay attention to you so he would give him a bill the guy would grab it and he says no no look at it here we go oh yes sir we have a table right now now i don't know what the nomination it was but evidently whatever everybody was giving my father gave more and he knew how to move to the head of the line yeah this was a concept that he used many times when i was in yeshiva day school and i would get into trouble he had a standard response would a donation help and very often the answer was yes [Laughter] but okay yeah he's giving him the abilities take a look see what it is and i want you to appreciate what i which i gave you over there yeah that's not what this is this is something that is so much more important i want to tell you a story somebody told me that he calls his son's teachers and his daughter's teachers to find out how they're doing and they say oh you know he's doing good with this i'm good with that you know he says i get a lot of novice and i don't tell them he says i don't tell him that i called he said i want him to know and i said do you understand how much more meaningful it would be if you told your son you know i called you rebbe and he says you're doing great in class why would you hold that back tells the story that uh there was a shiva in a house and they bring him in to bring to make dominion and the boys are all sitting there not one of them is from and he sees the bookcases filled with swarm and he pulls down and there's notes written all over in the margins he says he was and he talks to somebody and they say oh yeah he was victimized he says so how come his children are this way he says he never told his children he never told his children he did everything he did he did quietly he kept it to himself and he said that's a mistake if you do something good you should tell your children you should let them know about it they should see it i know everybody said no no we want to keep it hidden we want to keep it secret you know but the fact of the matter is that kids kids people everyone learns okay i've heard this from many people who have been honored by organizations nobody wants to be the honoree to them nobody because you know that they're not giving it to you on the basis of exceptional merit they're doing it because they want you to give a donation and uh i know this for a fact i used to be in jewish community work and people said to me uh you know how much do you want you know for you for this honor yes uh right up said such and such he says what i could be honored at a national dinner for that amount of money why would i come to your little dopey thing you know you know how much it's going to buy you but there's another flip side when they give it to you they're not just giving it to you based on how much you're going to give but how much you're going to bring in how many tables are you going to fill so you have to go to your friends and say i'm being honored i want you to come to the dinner i want you to take an ad out in the journal i want you to give a donation and you know that when they get honored they're going to come to you and they're going to ask you so i heard from more than one honoree so this is the last thing i want to do but i know that if i stand up and do it other people will as well so i'm doing it so other people will see because otherwise they don't know the amazing thing and therefore when uh people would like to do things quietly or anonymously they're told people should know what you're doing because it sets an example for other people so we do something and we come home and we tell our children i used to travel years ago before there was corona i don't know 10 10 15 years ago and i used to fly all around the country all around the world i'd speak in many different places people used to pay me to go and speak and i would fly in airplanes and i had a carry-on case and only i knew how to lower the little handle to it and and it was like really exciting i would go around and you know it wasn't that exciting i hit airports i hate flying airplane seats were made for lesser men than me midgets and dwarfs but anyway but uh you know uh once i got points it was it was pretty good because then i could move up at least to economy plus you know and the guy behind me when he puts his the guy in front of me when he puts his seat down it's not like in my lap you know so so uh i was on an ill flight years ago i remember and then the guy behind in front of me put his seat all the way down and you know the person behind me said don't put your seat down because i'm eating you know they bring around the meals and i and i look at the stores and i said where where do you want me to put this so he has the person in front to move it up just you know so i could eat and then put it back down on top of me you know so okay but i'm not crazy about flying i get very nervous i get nervous i'm a nervous flyer you know i'm always worried i won't have any place to put my overhead bag yeah i'm i'm nervous who am i going to sit next to you know fight with the elbow on the on the armrest the whole time you know it's uh the whole thing is tension so then you get someplace and yeah you know running around and then traveling it sounds a lot more exciting than it actually is yeah but um but when i come back i would i used to do it at the shoppers table when i come home i do a hazard of the trip and i said oh you know i got onto the plane and then you know somebody would sit next to me and suddenly they got bumped up the business class i had a seat empty next to me you know i got there and this happened hey so uh so i came back from one trip and one of my kids said so abba you're going to tell us all the siata de shmaya stories that you had and and i was i was moved by that because okay i i was doing it to like share with everybody what my experiences were but my kids were hearing the siata de shmaya there's a tremendous amount of seattle to destroy that hashem because helps me out in these trips and all the great things and i want my kids to hear it because we all know this the famous thing you know moshe feinstein said what killed the american jewelry was a schweitzer zaini that uh that everybody would complain oh yes it's only interesting yet i just saw a a write-up about uh urbach the love of tavario who was nifta and uh he said you know in old jerusalem there was such terrible poverty yeah so they said you know your grandfather he lives with the same poverty but all of his kids and grandchildren were from what happened to other families he says because we never lived in poverty poverty was something that was there it was the hunger was a constant problem but no one talked about it we talked about oh did you see the beautiful studio that we see we learned that nobody felt deprived nobody ever felt deprived when we're shocked went to see rebel joshua's house he says how did you bring up all these kids in this house he says me so i married are you levine's daughter this is well what's the story he said you know ariel levin didn't have too grush to his name you know and when i got engaged so he said oh and i'm going to give the apartment he's going to give me the apartment i was going to give an apartment yeah so the day of the casa he takes a rope and he hangs it up in the middle of the apartment and puts up a sheet he says this half is for me mama and the kendall welcome the other half is for you he says that's how i lived until the second daughter got engaged and he promised her an apartment so i moved into this place it's one room but it's you know it's spacious they say that there wasn't enough room for beds so half the kids stayed up all night and learned the other half slept and then in the morning they went to the issue and the other half slept they did in shifts yeah and uh nobody felt deprived let me feel surprised then you have people where everybody has their own room and they're deprived you know they can't they can't double up for one shopping so that guests could have a place to stay no i can't i can't give up my room i can't i can't yeah he says you didn't hear that what you heard was and uh hashem and all the wonderful things because gives us so many wonderful things but it's not enough that he gives it to us he tells us i want you to know i want you to know what i gave you do you know how precious this is it's an amazing thing you know we we get so many good things in our lives and we should let people know hashem that's a straight story it's an interesting story my my brother-in-law of david lippmann so he comes back he was in america after he was in new york after the the hurricane [Music] hurricane sandy and you know the electricity was out so a lot of the gas stations weren't working those that were were like you know limited supplies he says so i waited online to get gas and slowly we're inching ahead and inching his head and just as i pull up to the pump they ran out of gifts and he looks at my kids and goes so like that's not a siata dish my story that's a terrible story and he says why you think siata de shmaya is only when it turns out good i couldn't who had the gas run out just for me [Laughter] okay i have to figure out why but you know but that wasn't by accident it didn't run out of four cars beforehand mom is just i pulled up yeah so uh so when something happens you say yes amazing thing so you say i want you to know i want you to know any kipper when the hazen says so there's a little thing there in the mahzarim where you can have kavana for one of three things either riches proper children or rochester which one should you be miscaving for which which governor should you have he says oh definitely for wealth because when you're rich everybody says you have codex and your kids are great but penguins came home and looked at his children he says kendall i want you to know i turned down a fortune for you today i could have asked like aspirable for one thing i could have asked him for wealth or that you should turn out well i did it for you [Music] a beautiful idea i did it for you and i want you to know yeah i want you to know and so uh when a kid of mine was starting you know was looking to be accepted into so the principal said i hear you travel a lot what if i need to get a hold of you and you're not in the country i said first of all as my father used to say from your mouth to god's ears i travel so much that you can't get a hold of me i said but i tell you the following if you call up and say you need me i'll cancel the trip and i'll come in the next day and he says no not good i said no no for my kids for sure i would do that i'm sure i would do that i had a heart attack i didn't know i was having a heart attack it was during my grandson's uh but it was pretty bad i was pretty sure i was dying i remember it was my birthday i said to my wife only taddi can die on their birthday and i've worked my whole life not to be exotic i can't believe this is happening to me turns out i was rape but they took me away and they did an angiogram and they said i don't know why you're still alive you're not getting enough blood you should be dead yeah so they do uh uh a uh they do a bypass operation and uh it was kind of rough i won't deny it i i had a better time than most people apparently on the ward because i was so young it was only 55 you know a lot of these people were much older you know in fact my wife heard one of the people saying no no he's not depressed apparently after you have one of these operations one of the side effects is you suffer from the pressure and you know i wasn't depressed i was i was annoyed [Laughter] anyway so the kupah wants you to um want you to uh go to a better chrome afterwards to rest up like a recovery place and they bring you these brochures some of the places are gorgeous they're on the water and they're nice and you know but what can i tell you i'm at a point in my life now where that's more or less what i'm looking forward to i'm looking to go to the retirement home you know sit outside you know with a blanket this is this my mother used to say why do you think when you get old you speak english because everyone i ever knew was all spoken i don't know my mother said i was born in america where is this why do you talk that way i said boss but anyway but uh you know i was looking for shorts and stuff and my wife said you know we have a wedding coming up in a week and a half it might be a lot easier for the family if you come home we'll keep it quiet and we'll you know etc but probably better if you recover at home yeah so i said but they're gonna pay for me to go to one of these fancy places when am i ever gonna have a chance to do that again you know they do this by the way when you have a baby baby uh women get to go to bed where they take care of the baby and you know so this woman you know she felt like she couldn't go and so she went home and then like six months later when the kid was six months she went they were a little surprised because he has all these infants of the six month old in the nursery mommy but anyway so but i i told my kids i said okay then i'll come home my dear friend rabbi center from santa's yeshiva it has a real name but you know you know some people they they're known by who they are more than you know so it's known as the cover time as opposed to michelle mayer cohen uh simcha is usually known as even though he's the urus american you know so i represented to me something you know so he called me up and he says david where are you going to be i think it'll be better for the family if i go home he says absolutely not this is what he says to me he says i will rent you a room in the renaissance and i'll hire a nurse to look after you i want you to go there and recover i i cherish that memory because you know only a dear dear friend would would say something like that but uh but i said it would be better for the family and so i came home it was stupid and i usually go crazy on tuba shot you know tuba shroud was one of my father's uh holidays because he had a flourish to nursery and he was like he he thought you know i should shut up note you know the new year of the trees very special occasion you know but i always try to find as many fruit as i can you know but obviously i couldn't get too many because what was being in the hospital and all and i came home to which one we had a more subdued little sunday you know but i told my kids i said listen man i turned out i better climb out of be with you i hope you appreciate it why because when you do something nice for people let them know let them know who says listen not doing this behind your back i want you to know i gave you a clichemder i want you to know vanimattan when i was in europe david mary garnovsky who uh we had this close of having on the show and admits to show we will again because uh we're going to tell you with the the present setup and everything it's hard for me to have guests on the show until we get back to the ravioli studios yeah and um but um we used to have we used to have a shabbaton very often it came out on partisans by midfield and he would always say the same rashi all the time it says the ayla todos uh motion of an arrow and then the list iron's children it says rashi to teach you that right if you teach your friend's child torah it's like you're his father and he would stop and he would look around in the issue and he says you're like my children you like my children and he really meant it as groucho marx once said the most important thing is sincerity once you can fake that the rest is but he actually had it he really felt that way he really cared and he wanted them to know and want them to know how i feel about you that's such an important issue you know what bothers me i know you can pick this up a lot of the podcast is me basically complaining about stuff [Laughter] somebody said to me you know can't you be a little more positive i said i can't stand people like you you know like i just you know i don't know how to say hey you're a muscle anyway um uh how come we only find out all these golem stories after the person has lifted and then afterwards you hear about you know oh this man how great they were why don't we hear about it when they're alive don't we write up stories about people in their life afterwards you hear okay once you know who you missed out on or you could have had an opportunity to have a have a catchy would be close to it yeah some of them we know yeah my good friend rabiaco bear yeah he's from south africa certificate anyway so uh he was very close to yoshi and he used to follow him around you know in fact one day he walks in and he says how'd you get in the the gate is locked he says i climbed over and he says good for you anyway he sits down with rebel yoshi and tells him all the rebel usher stories he says these are the stories they tell and he tells them all the rebel yoshi's stories yeah i won't go through them now would you notice them i said what did he say he says he smiled and said i see all the stories come to you ramyakum but gosh you know why do we when we have to wait till afterwards to hear about it we need to tell people and there are so many things how many times have you heard this where somebody sniffed us there's so many things i wanted to tell the person but why didn't you why don't you take the opportunity to tell them now why don't you why don't you tell your parents how much you appreciate them i wish i had done that i i have this uh this running daydream where i go to sleep and i wake up and i'm five years old i have more or less a day picked out you know my first day of school i started first grade when i was five i i'm obviously very advanced and um graduated high school at 16 it was only you graduated after 11th but uh but still i was i've always been advanced so uh i never told my parents that i appreciated the fact that they gave me issue education i never told it to them and and i wish i would have come home for that first day five years old called my dad and said dad thank you so much for celebrating the issue i never told him my brother went to public school i had one brother who was a genius so they had to switch him to a private school so my father sent them to yeshiva and mary fidel convinced him to send the younger boys so i started in first grade i never knew any other school the only school i ever went through my father had done bankrupt he had to rebuild he had no money he had to go on a scholarship i asked my mother when was it she goes just around when you were born every child brings their own muzzle she said to me but my parents had the really scrimped safe to be able to afford to achieve education for the younger children i never told my father i appreciated the fact that he sacrificed to give me that i speak about it after he's lifted you know and i talk about it but if i could go back in time and say thanks dad and i know my father i know when he fully beats him he's like yeah well anyway he wasn't really good with that kind of stuff [Laughter] that wasn't his strong point you know it's a polish the old time belgium you know it's like i may have told this story you know and the doctor was discussing the surgeon who was going to do the surgery in my heart surgery so he was telling the family he says okay tomorrow morning wednesday he'll go in for surgery it'll be about you know four to six hours and and then uh he'll be unconscious until friday so uh you know he'll uh you know he'll be in the icu you won't really be able to see him you know you know and friday morning he should wake up so my wife and my children start discussing who's going to be here who's going to stay who's going to this i said did you hear them i'm going to be unconscious i'm not going to know everyone go home we've had a casino in a week and a half you know we're gonna constantly take care of everyone come back on friday you know dab your eyes a little bit and say oh we were outside saying to him i won't know the difference so the surgeon who was not a person against a pile of i didn't know they still had those and then i realized my father would have said the same thing my grandfather would have said the same thing you know that's what it was like it's that polish a year you know publishing it is on his deathbed he says are you here yes papa he says uh he says uh marshall are you here he says yes papa is yes papa says who's watching the store yeah yup yup yup somebody once saw him i was running against his wife and shabbaton you know and he calls up my father and says you should have knackers your son was there kids were singing they would be coming from they were changing their lives it was such an inspiring sight my father said yeah we wanted him to go to college you know but okay that was my dad but you know whatever i would tell him things he would always be like yeah i don't know but he would tell anybody else you know but we forget we forget to say the most important people in our lives we spend the least time for you've seen this you say to a mother who's more important to you uh somebody calls up on the phone or your children so of course my children so the person goes on the phone hi how are you hold on a second hold it down i'm serious you better be quiet hi yeah how's everything oh really that's it i'm serious if i have to come down there you're going to be sorry why that's the way it is that's that we take people for granted we take the more important things are the less likely we are to pay attention to them that's just a reality the most important things in our lives we take for granted the unusual those are the things that get the most attention so happy birthday yehuda and uh those of you who would like to send in a little video message to our shared online community i would love to see it and in the meantime go tell somebody how special they are to you go tell somebody something nice that you did for them don't keep it to yourself tell them love say i'm proud of you son yeah sweetheart i'm so proud of you that's for your daughter if you're saying that to your son okay [Music] uh tell your parents if you're lucky enough to still have parents you know i don't have any parents yeah uh if you have any parents call them up i want to appreciate how much you've done for me tell your spouse that's so nice all the things you do for me yeah um i heard david kaplan speaking once before uh yum the royal and he mentioned you know people forget that you know that a wife has to also ask her husband for makila you know we know he has gone too far [Music] so this is to a woman's group says well does a husband have to ask his wife from achilles he says no he is the big [Laughter] we take people for granted they're the most important people in our lives so let's grasp this opportunity while we haven't and tell people how much they mean to us well that's it for this show and if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website wherever alaska.com you can sponsor an episode you can leave a comment you can uh um you can look into the theme song you can send an email and uh whatever whatever you want to do we're happy to have you uh on board i i want to thank everybody i've said it before but but i will stress it how much i appreciate the fact that you take time out of your busy schedule to listen to anything that i have to say how much it means to me and uh and uh how meaningful it is so that's it i'm deborah dolowski and this is the ruby alaska show okay we're done i gotta turn this thing it's the rabbi on my show okay here it is it's the rabbi orlovsky show knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun in every episode and we don't have to write the rabbi orlovsky show on rabbi orlocki.com torah anytime youtube and more it's rabbi orlowski show [Music] show till next time till we meet again throughout my orlovsky show it's the rabbi yolowski show it's the rabbi orlowski [Music]