Slichos: Be The Korban (Ep. 200🎉)

hi this is David rollinski and welcome to the rabbi golowski show and whether you're watching with our friends over at already time whoever you watch or listen to your podcasts as always it is a pleasure to have you along for the experience and that you've taken out time from your schedule to listen to anything I have to share so uh we're going to start this week with a sponsorship from two dear dear friends I was friendly with each one of them separately yeah and uh and then they got married which has made it easier for me I always appreciate that when people that I have uh friendships with when they're single get married so that I get to keep things more concentrated so the episode is sponsored by sipura USB sipara and Sean karp Lily and SRI may have been reviewhuda now um the these names may or may not mean anything to most people but the if I tell you the English names it might be a little easier for you uh very hacked off and Harold Schechter um my parents when they reached a certain age and they could not make pesach anymore used to go away to the Granite Hotel and uh it was run by the hackedovs and the shaktars and uh and a few times they actually brought me in to be a scholar in Residence and uh it was uh they're very very special people and um when I lived in Far Rockaway I also had discussed to be able to have a cashier with them and uh what can I tell you you know good people and good children and good grandchildren and uh you know they should uh they should be that it should be and Aliyah from the nishamas that they are being married and Claudia Israel and uh I have to say this is a particularly poignant moment because this is our 200th episode [Applause] these things and every now and then people will ask me to speak they say you know can you you know speak do you need any you know prep time and I say the one thing I've learned from this podcast is that I can speak for 200 hours with no preparation whatsoever put on your party hats you know I would I would have made a major celebration but you know what we always have one on the anniversary of the show so um when we come to the 50th fifth year anniversary coming up um so we'll talk about it then I guess we'll have a little bit of partying break out the bubbly and the party hats and uh and all those kind of great things but in the meantime um we uh we have more pressing business to deal with and uh that is as you know if you are of the ashkenazic tradition so we begin saying this moti Shabbos and uh this year it works out well because we uh have a full week until Rosh Hashanah Rosh Hashanah is of course on Shabbos so you have a week but you have to have a minimum of four days now remember everything's a trade-off so if you want to have the minimum amount of slichos that means you're going to have a three-day untip because the only way to start on Saturday night and get in four days is when Rosh Hashanah comes out on Wednesday night which means Rosh Hashanah is going to be Thursday Friday and go straight into Shabbos I wouldn't mind doing a few extra mornings not to have to have a three-day yontive I've mentioned this in the past people know that 3D yante was something that the khazal invented to encourage Aliyah so uh I remember the first year that I came it was that kind of a year and I had a three-day Rosh Hashanah we came originally the plan was to come for three years and try it out and see what we would do but after I went through a three-day Rosh Hashanah and I realized it was going to be a three-day circus and a three-dayra I said it's difficult living in Israel away from family and friends uh the economy is sometimes challenging uh the danger of war and terrorist attacks but there's nothing that could be worse than two more three-day young deaths and I made the decision at that time to uh to uh you know put my fate in with the Jewish people very strong because I couldn't handle it another three-day Advent but otherwise it has nothing uh so uh this year of course we have a week of Sleepless coming up and uh I I mentioned if you're of Ashkenazi tradition because vardim have been saying hello and uh I remember once I was talking to a friend of mine who was of spartic descent and I was complaining about how they can eat the kidneys on uh on pesach and he says yeah I know but then we have to say sleekas for a whole month to make up for it so everything's a trade-off what is what is unsept of starting number one on moti Shabbos and number two of having a minimum of four days is obviously two different requirements and uh what what is the basis for it so in order to understand this we have to figure out what is uh the concept of slichos what is it that we're doing we are preparing ourselves obviously for yomadin and that's why the assessment and the four days before Rosh Hashanah have to be spent saying specials and the highlight of slickhouse is of course the yud gimo midos and we keep coming back to that yeah and repeating it and saying it in different ways um you may not realize it but if you think about it Yom Kippur Knight is Justice League service you know it's another and Neila is essentially another sleeper service and that's why of course repeated the you know Hashem Hashem over and over again um when it's repeated so much in the ELA yeah so I remember when I when I grew up in uh in Long Island we're going to the youngest of North Belmore so they used to sing the yogimo midos right [Music] so uh when you get to Nila and you have to do it like over and over and over and over again the tune starts to lose a little of its appeal is an essential uh moment and in fact is a uh Fila when I say trila I mean like I've mentioned this in the past that uh we know there are what are called the Sheva Rohit Zone the seven um Shepherds yeah of the Jewish people they come on sukis in the form of the usbizen of Moshe iron Yosef and David they are the seven and we all know that avram and Yitzhak and yaakov made Phyllis avraham was matakane chakras and Yeti says clearly and um the yaakov I'm going to discusses the aspect of these feelers and why these people are related to him but all the royton made it so our own yeah obviously uh he's he's Nila he's the special Thriller of Yom Kippur because that's the uh kongados day Yosef who is a lotion of josefa of adding on he made musaf the extra David and Moshe made and that's where the Gamora and uh uh brajos describes who says to him when the Jewish people have sinned and they want to do chuva tell them to do it and it says who wraps himself in the palace like a schlier and he says that you're giving me those yeah um it's very interesting you know we don't say that you'd give me those uh on Shabbos and we don't say it on Rosh Hashanah but we say when we take out the Torah so I heard went through with my Shapiro that's not called the you'd give them me those yes you say Hashem Hashem but that's not the who's giving me this has to be in the Seder that most robino heard of from foreign so um the it's a Tila and that's why uh it starts with an ashtray and a hatsikadish and ends with just like just like another toilet and what's inside is the is the uh the body of the Thriller itself so this is a whole separate feeling that we say so why was this set up this way so let's understand um when we send we destroy the world we don't appreciate this obviously we don't appreciate it if we understood the consequences that our actions have but we don't see it it's not immediate when you lived in the mid bar you knew that you complained and whooshed you know fire came down from shamayam you know or the Earth opened up and swallowed you or something else dramatic happened snakes came and bit you you know there was there was more of an immediate consequence but we don't see it we don't know what we do we don't realize how every time we do a hate we're breaking down the fabric of the time space continuum existence as we understand it so we don't we really don't understand the consequences of we're doing because we would uh we would act differently if we did you know person sees a button pushes a button pulls a lever they don't understand you know you might have just started nuclear war if you push the wrong button and you don't know what you're doing so uh we do a hate and we don't understand the cosmic consequences we're destroying creation so what we have to do is rebuild creation we have to fix the world up and uh that's why the al-qaedes are according to the alephase because just like the world was created with the aleph Bays we destroyed it with our averas and therefore we have to rebuild it with the olive base and there that's that's the idea of what we're doing when we say vide and what are we doing with us so okay so this is which is a little more intense yeah what are these first lichas so we start a motor shop is why so let's understand what Rosh Hashanah is because Roshana is the beginning of the world and why is that because before I start something I have to ask myself should I be doing this or not now very often people don't do that very often people just do things mindlessly needless to say is very smart and before you start a project that's why very often before they do something they make a preliminary study to see whether or not this is going to be successful when you want to go to a bank you want to secure a loan for a business venture they said let's see your business plan let's see what you're planning on doing let's see if it's worthwhile let's see if it's going to work when you commit yourself to something without having thought it through you end up with World War One was one of the most dramatic periods of time in world history we don't put so much focus on it because World War II was so much more dramatic but the very fact that it's called World War II is just that we understand it's the continuation of World War One it was just a break in the middle most of the same characters in the same places um it's uh today you find people you know always make movies you know Spider-Man one Spider-Man two Spider-Man three Iron Man one Iron Man two I mean these kind of things um the first movie to ever do that was The Godfather and it was basically Godfather part one and Godfather Part Two because they took the novel and they broke it into two stories but it was just meant to be uh one moving in two parts that's basically what world war one was when World War One first came by they didn't call World War one that would have been too depressing they called it the Great War the war to end all wars when World War II came out they understood that that was just a continuation of World War One but what happened in World War one is the world was in a delicate balance from the time that they defeated Napoleon fitted Napoleon and they established the the concert of Europe where they tried to get all of the great Powers together to negotiate out issues now of course it didn't always work there were there were battles that took place and wars that took place most notably the franco-prussian war in 1870 before Germany was unified as Germany it was various city-states and one of the most powerful ones was Prussia they all supported in the Napoleonic Wars and uh Prussia invaded uh France captured was almost captured Paris they're outside of Paris and uh France surrendered uh uh they had to give up territory and so they were chafing they were very upset at German and when pressure became Germany they were very upset at Germany French and the Germans and they were preparing that one day there'd be a rematch they knew this but in the meantime the great Powers were all trying to keep balance so they ended up setting up alliances the Triple Alliance and the triple entant so it was France and England and surprisingly Russia against Germany Austria-Hungary and Italy and uh each one was planning when there will be a war what our battle plan is going to be how we gonna handle this so the Germans had what was called the shefflin plan wherein they would make a large pincer movement um around uh the Ardennes and go through Belgium to be able to attack France and this was the only plan that they really had and they realized at some point they just don't have enough time it's too big a sweep they won't be able to do it fast enough and get everybody there it's not gonna work but when the war broke out that was the only plan that they had so they used it and that of course led to the stalemate that lasted for four years that destroyed an entire generation millions of young men lost their lives and it was Devastation that that in many ways Europe never recovered from and that's why uh everything was laid in place for a rematch only now the technology had changed I remember reading Martin Gilbert his book on World War one and he said it was an impossible War to win with the technology of that time but when World War II came in and they had planes and they had tanks and they had paratroopers it changed the entire Dynamic and suddenly everything you could have a blitzkrieg where instead of getting you know stuck throwing a million people against a million people and the battle of the psalm you know just to kill each other you know War of Attrition mostly just to see if you could wear out the other side it was mechanized it was fast things fell in in weeks and uh it was a whole different thing but Germany went into this war using a plan that the generals already told them is not going to work was the only one they had which is interesting I remember seeing Shamir when he was prime minister of Israel and before they had the Oslo Accords they were in Madrid working on a peace deal and he was on Meet the Press and they were saying to him you know are you gonna sign this peace deal so he says look the Arabs aren't willing to even say they're not going to destroy us the Arabs aren't willing to do this the Arabs aren't willing to how do you sign a peace treaty like that and finally they tried this they tried that and he had a turrets for everything he answered it up and finally they said so what are you going to do and he said the Jewish people are very patient we've rated hundreds of years thousands of years for peace we're not going to assign some ridiculous deal just to get us out of it of course just like Robin did the Oslo Accords but but he was like what you can't just say any deals better than a bad deal it's not true don't sign a bad deal but you know it's a Reven felt he had no choice or whatever his considerations were and he signed the deal that was a terrible deal yeah um when President Biden decided to grab and run out of Afghanistan leaving behind uh billions of dollars of equipment leaving behind the people everything just ran out he said look you just gotta go you just got to go yeah sometimes you gotta just go why don't you have a plan why don't you plan it out yeah okay you gotta go but first take out all the equipment then take out all the civilians and then slow it finally bring out the the uh the troops but don't just grab the troops and run leave everything behind I just gotta go you just gotta go oh we don't have a plan we don't really know how to implement it but we gotta we gotta do something so uh at the end if you want to do something you first have to think it through what am I doing and how am I gonna do it where's it going to come from I remember years ago uh Asia Torah and I'm talking 1982 83 asked me to give some talks in the Yeshiva about uh you know making a Curative organization I had at the time been running ncsy Long Island and I had basically built it from scratch and so they gave me a list of topics they wanted to talk to me about one of them was called professionalism in kirif and so I uh I sat down with Ruby motion Shades that's all who I was learning in the afternoons and uh to ask him and he said look I don't know what that means exactly but maybe this measures will help you and it says that during that week that Moshe Urbana was arguing with him he says look you want me to take the Jews out of Egypt how am I going to protect him from the heat how am I going to protect them from the cold there are all kinds of different uh people there are nursing women and pregnant women oh there's elderly there's little children where am I getting the nuts and the candies for the little children and I remember every chain only wanted to make a point he would dramatically take off his glasses and he said Jews are dying in Egypt and you're worried about where I'm going to get the nuts and the candies for the children because you got to plan it out you can't just do something you have to really think it through and so people who just do things and then afterwards worry about what they're going to do right is that famous little cartoon of a guy who was painting the floor and he's in the corner now with no place to go and it says plan ahead which is uh of course brilliant yeah think think ahead and how are you gonna do this so coach Bob who is going to decide whether to create the world and the creation of the world began on mostly Shabbos obviously Yom Rishon the first day there was night and there was day which means the creation of the world began on Saturday night and Sunday and that was the first day so because Brooke was going to have to decide now is it worth recreating this world now the entire world is created only for the sake of people human beings you understand that and that's why in the flood the animals and birds were destroyed and the question is why so Rashi brings two answers one is because uh they're they also sin they also went against the natural way gave birth to monsters the other answer is because God didn't make the world for birds and animals he made the world for people and without people there's no purpose to the world I learned this word once when I was teaching in Ursa mayach where I said a similar idea and a guy says so Judaism is anthrocentric and I said yes it is having no idea what the word meant but luckily I paid attention during my SAT preparation course and I know anthro means people as an anthropology or someone who hates people as a misanthrope yeah and uh Centric is of course that it centers around as in whether the world is heliocentric or geocentric does it go around the earth or around the Sun so anthrocentric means so you basically focusing on people and I said yes real more I guess he might impress me with a big word yeah pay attention during High School boys and girls that's the message but uh you know uh the the world if a Coach Mark was going to create the world is going to be for people it's because he's going to find that there are people who it's worth creating the world for and that's what we have to present now the mission says there are about Russia right and likewise four times a year the world is judged the world is judged on pesach for tavua for green it is judged unsure for Paris ha Ilan fruits of the tree we are judged on sukis for water yeah and on Rosh Hashanah call boy Olam over the fun of everybody passes before God like the name around brings three explanations of what that is but uh everyone comes before Coach Park so the Bryce it goes on to say therefore we offer up something that we're being judged with on each one of these holidays so in Circus we actually pour water on the musbayak when we're bringing the Corbin in the morning because we're being judged for water so we offer up water on pesach we bring the Corbin oymer two loaves of barley of the new crop because we're being judged on grain on shavuas were being judged on fruits of the tree uh therefore we bring the stay lechem the two loaves of wheat bread says the camera but wheat doesn't grow on a tree he's going according to the view that the eight sadas was wheat and that bread used to grow on the trees in gun Aden but today you have to plow and you have to plant and you have to fertilize and harvest and thresh and Bueno and grind and sift into need and uh and bacon or to get a piece of bread and Grenadian it was just on the tree loaf of bread it was a dark wood tree it was probably pump a nickel you know if it had a hole in the middle it was probably a bagel tree you understand so uh so whatever you think about screw on the trees but what about for Rosh Hashanah called by Olam is going to pass before so what are we offering up the reason there has to be a minimum of four days is because before you bring a carbon you have to check it for four days which means what we're going to offer up on Rosh Hashanah starting on moti Shabbos barucho is going to decide whether or not to create this world is we're going to offer up ourselves we are the Corbin and that's what we are preparing ourselves to do they bring a carbon it happens to be a very very powerful idea if you think about it is one of the main Concepts that we're dealing with when we uh when we talk about Rosh Hashanah right and the Schaefer is an Isle to remember the io that yes that was offered up in place of yitzclock was ready to give his entire life over taco the most interesting thing why is it called the Cadence Yitzhak the Torah presents it as a nissanian for avraham Lafayette that's not how it's presented but we call it Cadence yes is the one who's getting the credit for this you know when you see these depictions when they drew up pictures you know YouTube is this little boy and his father is standing over him with a knife yes was 37 years old avram was uh 137 yes probably could have taken him if he had to you know I mean like if he didn't want his dad to kill him he probably could have knocked him over and ran for it yeah grab the donkey and go leave him behind but in fact as Rashi says they're walking up the mountain and he says well I you know I see the knife I see the fire where's the where's the animal and Hashem says you're the ola I'm bringing you up it says again and yitzoo was like okay cool now why do we put the emphasis on YouTube there's two reasons why one is you know when we think about nabua we imagine there's like this voice leave your home in the home where you grow up and go to the holy there was no words only most Rabino got words nobody else got words there was no voice of Hashem there was a movie in the 1970s I think with Dudley Moore um where he plays moshe's brother-in-law like he married a different daughter of sipara and he happened to also be up on her Sinai with the sheep and he hears God talking to Moshe and he thinks he's talking to him so he goes down to Egypt to like confront borrow that's ridiculous it's not it's not a voice over a loudspeaker than anybody could possibly hear it's just silly yeah is uh giving you divine inspiration and you get a picture and this is what um Hashem says to motion Aaron says you're not afraid to start up emotion because you're a prophet you're a prophet you get a picture you get an image you have to try to understand it but uh Moshe gets words that's a whole different thing he gets it Direct that's why when you read something in the Torah it's not what happened it's been edited yeah simply put avram sees these three Arabs coming by and he bows down to him and he gives him this whole little speech it wouldn't have been in Hebrew nobody understood Hebrew they were Arabs that's what you see that when Joseph gets down to mitraim you know power doesn't know lushina kodesh doesn't speak it was a language that was known to the Jews not to everybody else so he must have been speaking to the Arabs in Arabic when he spoke to pyro it was probably an Egyptian the door puts it into into the terms that we need to hear and we need to understand so that when you read about a Honda vua take your son your only son the son that you love yitzha can bring him up the mountain and offer him as an offering avram didn't get those words he got a picture and he had to understand so as they're walking up the mountain and yet says where's the uh where's the Ola you're the ola one thing you mean Hashem said that you should take me up the mountain and kill uh kill me I mean not in so many words you know but but you're sure that's what he said yeah yeah yeah kill you thank you up the map had to hope that his dad got it right because if he you know you ever seen those little pictures you know where's Waldo you know Waldo you know however you sure you got it right take them up the mountain tie me up and kill me yep yep that's what he wants me to do so I had to believe that his father got it straight that's one level on another level he says okay I'm gonna be at Corbin I'm ready to be a Corbin but tie me down because I'm afraid that when I see the knife I might get scared and flinch and then because yet was so ready to do it he tied himself down well is now she is what are we gonna offer up not water not barley bread or wheat bread we're going to offer up ourselves and that's why we have to say sleekus for at least four days like you check a Corbin because we're gonna be the Corbin we're going to say and I'm ready to give you the life as yet did Rosh Hashanah I'm gonna be the carbon powerful idea was in America when World War II broke out who escaped with the mirror um through Russia to Shanghai so he learned by the big Russia she was and somebody asked him once why did Rebel khanan go back says nobody anticipated the Holocaust you couldn't see it coming who could imagine they had been pogroms there'd been exiles uh we we had that during World War One those kind of situations but a systematic extermination of the Jewish people people didn't see this coming so he goes back to be with his tummy them and they understand they're being taken out to be killed and he says to his tummy them everybody clear your mind and just have the right Mark Chavis so there shouldn't be any mum in your carbon that you're going to become because you know you can pass a Corbin with the incorrect thought that's what pegel is you have the wrong thought and the even though you did everything right it's not good make sure you have the right thoughts and there were people who that was their entire Focus I've played this through in my mind many times I really have because I I find the experience in the Holocaust to be so mind-blowing so impossible for me to wrap my head around I'm pretty sure I wouldn't make it to the train they'd probably shoot me before I made it to the train I'm I'm not good in these kind of situations the strength that these people had is beyond understanding they put them in the trains and they're there for days and they have um no food no water no sanitary facilities very little air and uh and somehow yeah some of them survived maybe the majority survive but people died on the trains the Heat Suffocation starvation anyway when they came out so they gave everybody a container of water and then they brought him over to the gas Chambers which people some of them guessed what they were and other people didn't know and this girl is watching this one old man holding his little glass of water everybody drank it immediately they were so thirsty he held on to it and they bring them over and they'll everybody take off all your clothes and he still didn't drink his water and they're leading him into the gas chamber and he takes the water and washes his hands so he can make a bracha Hashem that he can die with the correct intention you know we're gonna offer up on Rosh Hashanah ourselves did it's a yomadin and in din you don't deserve anything God you gave me life you want it back it's yours the poignant Gamora with their two sons died Arrow Shabbos it was not enough time to arranged for burial so she brought them up in the attic and she covered them over and she lit a candle she came down and throughout Travis Renee would say we're the boys they went to the basement they went here they went there and finally after Abdullah she says uh just remember I I have a lucky question it's okay someone gave me a peak cut down because I don't mean something to hold and Trust I have to tell you I've fallen in love with this because I I don't want to give it back can I keep it somebody says bro you're a smart girl you know you can't do that belongs to somebody else you have to give it back but what if I really really want it it doesn't make a difference so she brings him upstairs and shows them their two dead Sons and said I should ask for his picardo and back because it was only given to us in Trust that you gave me you put into me yeah it's only it's only on loan fashem says he wants his life back he gets it back even though we've grown somewhat attached to it yeah but uh we understand yeah it's not us and that's what we're going to be doing during Sleepless week for the week before Rosh Hashanah during the days of creation the first second third fourth fifth sixth days of creation till we go into Shabbos which is Rosh Hashanah and the courage baraku is going to say should I create the world for you and I say Hashem I'm Yours do with me as you will I belong to you I give you everything I have that's what we're going to be saying that's why we're starting it Saturday night because it has to do with the beginning of creation and we do it four days because we understand that we're the korban with what's going to be offered up and we want to be as pure as we possibly can Emirates Hashem we will use this week well and we'll be to go into Rosh Hashanah and have exiva for ourselves our family and Clyde Israel and that brings us to the question and answer part of the program Anonymous asks and the past you mentioned various issues in the system I would go so far as to say that it's worse than you made it out to be what is your view on homeschooling uh definitely worse than I made it out to be because you know me I don't like to say anything negative such a positive person I repeat over the words that Maisha said to me probably not meant for Publications and uh but he should have thought better before telling it to somebody as irresponsible as myself the Yeshiva World is in a Zone as soon as a disaster like an earthquake or a flood you know a tornado the Russia Zone I don't know if you can fix it you have to take the whole thing apart and rebuild it and so yeah you know there are serious serious problems what do I think about homeschooling so what are the pluses and what are the minuses um the minus is that there is a uh value to being socially involved with other kids your age it's an important thing yeah and the uh PESA Crone tells the story that in the early years of America there was really only one uh Yeshiva Elementary School was rjj had a waiting list of like a thousand kids it's like impossible to get in so this woman comes from Europe the first thing to does is she takes us onto rjj to sign up and says lady we don't have a spot another spot what am I supposed to do with my son because I don't know but we don't have any room here so thank you very much as she took her son outside and they said on the steps and they sat there all day it was time for lunch she took out his lunch you know I went inside to wash and make a Mochi and I came out it is lunch benched and they sat there they were still sitting there the second day and this lady we told you we don't have any room for you because I know and she was saying the other third day and they said lady but we don't have any room for you son I know but I want him at least to see what boys who learning Yeshiva look like they fell the spot that's it determination sometimes pays off you know but um uh so there is a value to interaction um on the other hand you have to really determine where you live and what the school options are that are available to you because sometimes those are less positive options uh I know certain care of organizations where they said they used to send their kids to the local day school and they ended up getting turned off from Yiddish guy so they would keep them in public school and send them off there and chill it was more effective you know at least in public school they knew they went public school you know so uh but there's definitely a value to that the second thing is that a school does have the opportunity and sometimes the resources to get really top professional educators uh most parents are not top educators but the same token sometimes they don't get the top educators yeah um it can sometimes be hit or miss um at one point JK Rowling who is writing the Harry Potter series didn't want to give away the ending but somebody said why would Professor Dumbledore keep Snape as a teacher if he's such a terrible teacher so the answer came out at the end of the book but the answer she gave bintan was because it's an education to know that you're not always going to have good teachers and I've had to tell this to my own children because they have had teachers who were bad teachers they've had people who were bad people and they every now and then they have a sociopath I mean mom is just sociopian should not only not be teaching but they should really be in an institution in my opinion my opinion I can cite reasons why I came to this conclusion but okay so I would tell them just suck it up and you got to get through the air you know but I was able to supplement you know what they were doing in their education and things like this you know but okay so there is those advantages the downside is if the kids in the school are not very nice and the kid gets bullied or if the teachers are not so qualified yeah or they insult children which I can tell you many stories of or other things that problems that go on can homeschooling be a option yes if you know what you're doing and not just if you like you know you stay in bed and you let the kid uh you know play in the computer you know and say yeah yeah okay uh do a couple of math problems you know if you know how to homeschool and you're dedicated to it because it takes a lot of times commitment of time then uh Studies have shown that kids who are homeschooled properly um are superior to kids who are in an educational system and I would go uh a little further because I heard very old say this and he said I used to say it my own name but then I heard with matisio Solomon say it so I say it in his name and that is everything that's artificial has side effects I'm on a lot of medications and every box comes with this little booklet of all the things that could go wrong the first thing I do is throw it away because if I read it I wouldn't take any of my medicines of course everything has side effects so uh uh the way the Torah anticipated education was shinanden you're going to teach your children a father has a Mitzvah to teach his children um Sternberg tells the story that when he had his first son he went to the stapler together so this type of said who's going to do the Mila and he says I hope to do it myself I'm not a trained Boyle but I have a boy who set it off for me and I'll do the actual cut so he says to him you can appoint a representative to do it for you like most people do he says yeah but the general principle is it's always better to do something yourself than to give it over to a Shalia and the stapler looked at me and said remember that when it comes to his same thing when it comes to education anyone who thinks you're going to send your kid off to a school even if it's a good school and that's going to absolve you of your obligation are going to find out that you are sorely mistaken my wife and one of the many um parent teaches me things that she's gone to and she goes to most of them because we have eight daughters and one son so I would go to the boys I said you go to the girls I'll go to the boys anyway some say I could tell that you're uh daughter comes from a very special home and my wife would say well it's a very special school and she's like no no I know the school you know it has to be the home and that's what we do my children know they can ask me anything now I have to be uniquely poised to be able to answer questions because I do that for a living not all parents can but uh I I supplement whatever they're doing every one of my girls in eighth grade they know that they get this final test on vayicra and Sav it's all of kobanas and uh most people don't really know it and they sat through class and I don't know how much of it they absorbed so before the test I would sit down with each one of my daughters and we would haza over what's the Miss bayach what's the mishkan where does everything go what different Cabanas are there what are the vote this where does things go and go over all the details and basically give them a primer unconscious and not everyone can do that but for Hashem I can and so you know we would we would go over the things that they were learning and try to supplement it as much as possible so if all things being equal if you could do a good job at homeschooling I think it's a wonderful thing just make sure to introduce the social aspect okay by Anonymous almost no time to learn a special in yeshivas that have a 15 minute break during the day isn't there a missile higisable Yama Villa yes there's a mystery geez but that doesn't mean that I have to be learning 24 hours a day right obviously you're allowed to go to work because so you don't have to learn 24 hours a day unless you wish but otherwise you know you have other things you have to do during the day I asked this once to Moshe Shapiro they have this thing in Israel called yeshiva's uh [Music] I think it's called I think where um they make like obvious in the middle of Purim I I don't know where you find the time but okay um I I should correct that that's because there are people who have a Purim where basically they have a Shabbat Suda you know and um somebody puts on a funny hat and maybe they put out a little bottle of wine but he has a little reviews you know and and that's about it you know my house is a raucous affair on perm and especially when I used to teach and I'd have my tal medium and Seminary girls and and people would be coming over Etc and I would have to run out in the middle and go to relationship bureau's uh Tish you know to spend some time over there and come back in the shall come on us and it it's it's uh how you fit all these things in I answered Maisha when I was added to the what he thought of it and he said he says in yerushalayim there's a Mitzvah to learn because it's 30 days before pesach you know he said he says but to be learning during the day that's not the myth same thing with Yom Kipper the Mitzvah of Yom Kippur is Fila and vidoy so we say things in the morning we say things and of course there are people who have the minig to uh to learn yeah so of course there are things that we learn but that's not the Mitzvah of the day the Mitzvah of the day is chuva vidoy the fasting that's what you're supposed to be 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