Shabbos: A Break From Creation (Ep. 209)

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was starting to get panic attacks and and uh my wife made me go to the doctor and the doctor sent me my cardiologist and he says no no it's probably your heart and uh and they did uh bunch of tests and it turned out that I had a blockage so I went in for uh a procedure where they first went in through my hand and after about an hour they said well that's not going so let's go in through the thigh and I said no absolutely not and he whispered to the nurse knock him out you know I woke up a while later they were already inside of my leg and so they were very happy they said one of my arteries and they already replaced two of them so other artery was clogged in like three places and they put in a bunch of Sten and balloons and things and uh he was very happy and uh he was very happy he felt that he really did a good job and that uh um I'm going to feel much better I don't know when that's going to happen exactly but as long as the doctor's happy I'm happy soem the procedure was a success and uh um yeah so I know there was some people who knew about it some people were doing so thank you very much I remember when I had 10 years ago my heart attack and bypass I met people all around the world the news spread and they said we were ding for you I said well it worked cuz uh the person who did the Ang Gam last time which by the way was not as painful and went very quickly uh he looked at me and said I don't know why you're still alive this guy didn't waste his time with that he was just going to fix the problem and he just went in and he said really you probably could have used a bypass but they don't like to keep opening you up you know what I mean and uh it's it's it's probably not a good thing so um uh so that's why he really worked very hard to get it out it's usually a you know um an hour and a half procedure I was there for four hours so uh but he was very happy so mem uh I will live a long sick [Laughter] life once said has nothing to do with gun says you could live a long sick life so my mother was in terrible Health till 89 when she when she was theis and uh she was in terrible Health but you know she held on held her had her marbles you know but uh anyway so I may at some point uh just to be on the safe side uh film The Last podcast of the rowski show so in case things go south I'll have a chance to say my goodbyes to everybody byebye anyway butm that won't be for a while so uh hopefully we'll all stick around together through good times and bad times okay we're talking about chabas this is actually the uh third installment in our shabas series um and uh we know that uh of G Torah have been speaking about the importance of being shabas during these days the attack took place on a shabas Yanti and uh there were stories of people who because of their M shabas was saved from this tragedy and um andem we will uh uh use Theus of chabas to bring us into the chabas of the world and um we'll talk maybe the next podcast about Theus of chabas but uh I want to deal with uh something that I think is more fundamental yeah and uh that is there are people who have all kinds of different ways of avoiding the fact that they have to keep shoers there are uh people who say things like uh sh is a day of rest you know I rest by playing golf we rest by going to the pool you know it's a day of rest enjoy ourselves you know um obviously Mala is not the same thing as a VOD yeah Mal is is a I remember when I was teaching Rabbi Dr goly came out me one point and he was very upset because he noticed that when it comes the ticle translates this work and he said to me how many problems have we had trying to differentiate the idea of Mal and work and they go and translate as work and just you know make it more difficult for us you know uh so uh I I've never really gotten myself worked up over a uh artal translation but some of these English translations you know preitner yeah pre bitna which is referenc to Children yeah so I saw an old translation translated as fruit of the womb it's a brand of undergarments you know fruit of the womb anyway but uh okay but we understand that um it's it's not a question of not doing work because as everybody knows you know uh if there's no AR you can't carry a handkerchief in your pocket that's M but if you have people go coming over for a sheer you can go down in the basement and schlep up all the chairs and set them all up for the people that's okay yeah that's that's not a problem so um uh it has nothing to do with that but because of the malus of shabas there are people particularly younger people who've developed a negative attitude toward shabas right they look at Chavis is a bunch of don'ts I can't do this I can't do that yeah um Mor be tells a story that he was staying once someplace in an Asian Hotel and they put him on like the 40th floor and uh he walked down the 40 floors to go and d and sha and he was almost out the door when he realized he forgot his Towers now me I would work with the Assumption they probably have one in but not Rabbi be and also he's in very good shape so he ran up the 40 flights of stairs to get his Talis and then ran back down and someone from the hotel saw him and said why didn't you use the elevator and he says because it's my day of rest so obviously there's something else going on here and with all of the negatives now person looks at this from the point of view of I can't do this I can't do that and I find that this infects the way people look at chabas um when I was running ncsy in long iseland in the 1980s so sometimes we would do shabbaton for totally secular kids who had no idea what chabas was and uh sometimes we would do them in a uh an an orthodox community and the kids were mostly Yeshua Day School kids there was a dramatic difference because uh in ncsy the idea of a shabat tone is that chabas is one of the best ways of showing people the beauty of Judaism and uh these kids come they have no idea what chabas is and they spend the chabas there's singing There's dancing there's you know all kinds of things I remember we were doing a uh shabbaton once in in Southshore and re lez uh the Ritson says this is nice but they should see a real chabas and re says why let them think this is what shabas is singing dancing people having a great time why should they know what it really is so we use chabas anyway as shabas begins to end there's uh tremendous opportunity to take advantage of the last times of shabis and so they have shalis now it's not that much dissimilar to what they do in Yas very often yes by shis they sing a lot ofus type of nunim and one of the Reams has a muso you know so we do it a little different we have what's called chabas e away called ebbing yeah the people who speak are ebers you know what so uh there's different ways of doing it sometimes one person does it sometimes three different people do it you know and uh everybody gets together in a big circle and somebody speaks and they sing and someone speaks and they sing you all these kind of like the vacacy N good it's really a very powerful program and then they DV and then they have havd havd is a is a major deal in ncsy uh they sing songs some places they use the band even at this point you [Music] know yeah and people are singing it dancing you know and then that's really the most dramatic Talk of the entire shabas it's very powerful It's Not Unusual for shabas to end an hour later than the time that's written in the in the calendar and when you do this for secular kids They Don't Really Care especially when you consider that most of the Shabbat are between November and March before they change the clock so shabus is going out at 5:30 at 6:30 you know okay so you go a little later but when I do it for orthodox kids as soon as we're within a half an hour of the zman when shabas ends they keep checking the I mean you're not going to finish after the time now this is not y Kipper where you're fasting you know we don't want to drag out the end of the doing because everyone's hungry it's chabus what if it goes a little longer what what's going to happen to you it underlies a principle that people don't like shabas and they're waiting for it to be over so that they can go and have a good time so today of course when people are addicted to their phones and their email and their social media so okay they have to wait for shabas to be over it's like a smoker who has to have a cigarette right away they have to get onto their phone they have to check their social media you know but um uh even without that people just waiting for shabas to be over they just they did not find this an enjoyable experience so what are all the negatives for what why are there all these malas that we can't do so uh I want to try to address that and uh I'm put into a context there's something very strange and we've talked about this in past years I know but uh I'm putting it now in the context of the shabas series so those of you who listen to all of my podcasts and Kaza over them and remember them I have met you I love you but you make my life more difficult because there's an old expression and that is you can repeat a joke once every three years you can enjoy repeat a story once a year and a devor you can even repeat it in the middle of the sh that you're giving so so I you know but what can I do I have I have uh you know R olowski crazies you know who you are I have met you many of you come over with pride and you start reciting to me verba him from various podcasts and Shear him I don't remember what I say and I had a guy a a good friend a good friend and you know comes to all the different things and uh he came to be part of the audience in the live podcast which by the way is an option if you and err contact me I'll tell you one we film and you can sit here and be the person who claps you know at the beginning anyway so um so I was uh I think I was filming two back-to-back podcasts you know iway I did my first podcast and he says I heard every single thing that you said already I said all right give new podcast they made up all new stuff you know I I can do that I just happen to think most of the things first of all I think most most of the things that I've said are absolutely brilliant and uh as Henny Youngman once said there are no old jokes only old audiences you know so uh you know people are always trying to reinvent the wheel when the fact matter is that if it works a if it ain't broke don't fix it you know um and that's why uh R OWI tells the story where he was talking to a guy who was a rebi teaching Korea to little boys um for uh 40 years he says how you not get burnt out he says what do you mean I'm giving people the gift of reading that's such a wonderful thing he says but you're doing the same thing come come B come he goes not to this kid to this kid it's the first time he's hearing it and that's what I look at you know I'm looking I'm looking at the person who's enjoying the experience so uh when I was a magician uh in my youth um my I think for my 12th birthday my mother brought me a magic set and uh I had about 10 years when I was uh practicing magic and until they caught me but um uh I would do different tricks and shows and things I was pretty I was okay I wasn't a great magician but I I did it but there was a principal I read a number of the books and there's a principle called uh doing tricks for magicians what does that mean I mean everyone knows how this trick is done and it's it's a tremendous trick but magicians know how it's done so they're not being fooled so P would come with a new method that would fool a m a magician but it may not even be as effective for the audience so for example an Abbott's Encyclopedia of rope tricks which I think I still have someplace um he has a whole chapter on Cut and restored rope tricks most people are familiar with this you take a rope you cut it in half you tie it up presso change o and it becomes whole again right there there's a classic method that everybody who ever bought a magic set knows how to do yeah so um uh he comes up with 20 different methods I'm exaggerating 10 different methods to do the same trick and none of the effects are as good as the original but it'll fool that one magician and the audience who knows how it's done so uh so that's why when you're giving over shum also you try to do tricks for magician you know yeah yeah talk to the people who are there who who need to hear the information as opposed to trying to be you know too clever by half and try to impress everybody you ever go to a Chev where somebody gets up to speak and he spends the whole time looking at the real of the rashash and he's saying this whole lha thing and rash is like nodding along and nobody in the room knows what's going on you're not doing anybody any favors you know what I mean talk to the people I've told this story in the past yeah um there was this education expert who was talking to a bunch of teachers and said what's your name and what do you teach you know I'm Susie I teach math you know I'm I'm Harry I teach uh I teach science uh you know I'm Karen I teach English whatever it is when he was done he says gee nobody here gave the right answer you teach students and uh and people get caught up with uh you know what they're saying [Music] is re LL who was in h Academy of Long Beach for many many years and he retired here and so always used to say to me he says have to read the P differently [Laughter] in says they should learn they have eyes but they don't see the ears to know whether or not people are doing it I've mentioned this in the past when I give my online shim um that uh I always encourage people please please turn on your cameras because if I'm just looking at a bunch of blank screens so I don't know are you getting what I'm saying you're not getting what I'm saying is it is it effective is not effective and and I'm just sitting there talking to myself it's much less effective than if I see there are people there and there's an inter reaction that's uh that's a it's a whole different thing otherwise I don't even need to give the sh I could just record it and put it up and you could listen to it there anyway uh I digress so uh um there's a very strange thing and that is the Torah spends an enormous amount of time talking about the mishkan Trum and then since it was so much fun viak AUD half of Kisa all of it goes into how to build and uh maintain uh this temporary structure in the desert yeah okay so some of the principles are applied to the B Mikes but a lot of them were mishan specific and uh for that particular period of time and uh we spend enormous four and a half pario discussing it whereas shabis we don't know anything it just says keep the shabas we don't know what that means yeah so everybody knows the gar says the heish in pases it tells us it puts shabas next to the mishkan to tell us that what you're not allowed to do on chabas is what they did in the mishkan I'm say you go to G ab and it says okay where was this in the mishkan where was that in the mishkan and they spend the time going into the construction of the mishkan to try to figure out what went into it how it went into it might only in the way it was done my in a different way you know and an enormous amount of effort is being put into the understanding of the construction of the mishkan and then Stelling that back to shabas now it seems to me right even if you want to say that the mishkan was uh um learned out everything you need for the Bas of mikdash and and Mish Shilo and everything went into it okay so uh first Bas in mikash and Shilo and uh the different places the mishan was set up was 850 years go 40 years in the in the midbar okay you have 890 years uh add 420 for the next B mikdash yeah so you're talking about a minority of Jewish history where the B MDES ever even existed or the mishk majority of time not whereas shabas comes every single week for over 3,300 years so I would argue teach me all ofab in the to and then say and by the way build a mishan and then you can put that into Bry Mish and tell me everything I need to know about how to build the Mishka but the PK should be telling me about shabas isn't shabas more important in the life of a Jew it comes every single week it's so incredibly important might owski mug just it's making its return so let's understand what this means God created the world in six days and he rested on the seventh day what did he do you know went out for a couple of drinks with his friends he said oh I can't believe the week I had what' you do I made the entire universe really yeah was it hard um no not really I said 10 Expressions I spoke 10 times yeah by he or stuff like that says wow doesn't sound like it was such a tough week you really need a vacation now what does that mean so obviously it doesn't mean that God rested because he was tired resting you know sh means it comes to rest it means the thing stops uh moving and lands I.E uh [Music] um brings a m to explain the relationship between the three parts of the soul that we access on a regular basis known as Naran abbreviation Ru and Nees and he says picture a glass blower takes a tube puts it into molten glass and blows through the tube and expands uh the CLE when I was a kid uh an old Beth Page they had a revolutionary era um um village and I I watch them you know do glass blowing it's it's liquid they put in the tube and they blow and make the clean um on the island of Morano outside of Venice um I had this twice to go with the Freds and the SAS tours and got to watch them do glass blowing and make things out of the glass as they went along but he says the person takes a breath blows it through the tube it expands and comes to rest inside of the glass CLE so the breath the Nish that's the nishima the breath when he blows it through the tube that's the ru and when it comes to rest inside of the CLE that's the nees from the it doesn't mean that he rested like a person rests when they're tired it means that he stopped creating and therefore what do we do we work for six days and on the seventh day we stop creating now Hashem created the universe so I have to tell you the truth that's really very easy for me because I can go weeks without making as much as an asteroid so what does it mean that he rested from creation so Hashem can't tell us to rest from creating we don't create we don't make worlds we don't have that power so Hashem gave us our own world to create called the mishkan and if you look in the MIM they explain how every aspect of it corresponds to the to the world as Rashi says there were 50 loops and blue loops on each side and there were gold hooks that held them together those are the stars in the sky and so everything that went into the creation of the world went into the creation of the mishkan and that's what Rashi says says b was oos to create the mishkan what does that mean he used the letters to create the mishan the mishan was made out of wood and gold and uh you know and uh cloth it means that the mishun had the powers that went into uh the entire world was put into the mishkan so I'll tell youas SAS says there are four levels of creation four four separate planes of existence there's it's known by the C AB abbreviation ABIA Aus Bria Y and AIA and if you're even slightly cabalistic Savvy you don't have to be even in the cabalist the ramban makes reference to the uh es speris you don't even need the ran if you uh have an art schol s when you say SP tells you the sphere for each one of those weeks and each day of the week so you know that starting on the top it's and then comes and then in descending order it's and Mal so there are these 10 spheres um and says there are 10 uh spher in each one of the levels of a each one has its own level of existence so alt together that comes to 40 and he says this explains a very strange thing if you think about it because what is the mishna and shabas saying it says it doesn't say there were 39 malas we all know L malas it doesn't say that it says 40 minus 1 that's a strange way to put it so why would you say 40 minus 1 just say 39 so uh the tff says because that's the way we talk right when there is a Torah expression for a number we use that and since by uh giving someone malus lashes it says you give 40 which is really 39 so it's really you don't say 39 you say 40 minus one so to by the of shabas which are 39 we say 40 minus one the says no because the M of chabas completely parallel the creation of the entire universe physical and spiritual all the indep pendings and all of that power went into the mishkan and so the 39 actions that we did in the making the mishkan directly correspond to the 39 uh spheres that went into the creation of a beia of the our universe except for one and that's yes that we can't do we can't make something out of nothing but uh but everything else is not a problem everything else uh we can do and every one of those malas correspond to one of those levels that went into the fabric of creation Now I can't line them up for you I don't know I mean it's cabalistic and I can't reveal it that was a good safe anyway but the point is that these are things that that uh um when we are told not to do these malas these aren't just D malas has nothing to do with that has to do with the fact that these things correspond to uh the fabric of the universe and so like who rested from creating the world when we stop from creating the mishkan we are stopping to create the world that we were given that's what the malas are not just that we're not doing doing something you know random it's we're actually becoming like a and resting from creating our world that was given to us to create a new world a whole a whole separate existence in the mishkan yeah gave that to us to be a separate World a whole new world for me and you right okay so that's what goes into the it's an amazing thing because it seems when you're learning H shabas So Random so many different things a lot ofas lot ofas and uh to get it down as someone said to me once I don't think anybody really knows what Bora is every sh I see people going is this B then they do it anyway because to know h shabas is a very important thing person has to has to understand that I'm not just when I'm saying being shabas it means that I'm going against what himself chose to do by stopping creation and we have that opportunity as well to stop the creation to to be able to become Godlike this is a very important point I said this once to R Brown I had this to he by Shapiro but not as much as he did he was uh much more dedicated than I ever could be the the day of his daughter's wedding he went to says what are you doing here you have a wedding to prepare for and he said to him you don't understand this is my life my life so I said to him once I said I've started saying over something that I've heard from Risha many times and I'm still I'm still terrified every every time I say it and he said to me I've heard it many more times than you and I also say it over and I'm also terrified it's a very important concept God did not create us to be a creation God created us to be a God when he says to adaran here is the world now you're in charge don't destroy it it's because basically gave it to Marisha not that he should serve Hashem but that he should be Hashem I when he talks about the level of Kad where the and says there are three keys that only has one of them is but he gave it over to he gave it over to Elisha how could you give him over if only hasm has him says There were so it was as if was holding it so when we keep shabas We are Becoming likees it's a very very deep idea and you know we sell ourselves short by thinking that we're so small you know this fellow came to see R mosha once he was he wasn't from person but someone brought him to R mha and he says I view the world as if we were put into this world to help people and he said no that's why dogs are here that's why cows are here that's why the stars are here you're here to be God not to serve people it's it's a whole different level of understanding and existence and when we accept upon ourselves the meas of chabas that's what we're saying okay so I don't want to get too esoteric this was a little esoteric but I think it's an important concept but let's uh let's go into another level um I used to explain this by saying the following there's something called a radio I don't if anybody even knows what it is today yeah there's a radio and I'd say to people I say you know there's beautiful music playing in the room right now does anyone hear it from time to time people would say yes I hear the music and I would uh give them a referral to a mental health professional you can't hear the music but I'm telling you that there's beautiful music playing it's radio waves moving through the air some of the most beautiful music that's ever been written and rap it's moving through the world right now but you can't hear it why because you don't have a receiver so I get a radio and I say oh now I have a receiver I don't hear the music got to turn it on ah no turn it on I just hear static says because you have a tuner we supposed to tune into the station and remove all the static and now you can hear the music now to be fair there's still two other things you have to do one is you have to listen if you turn on the radio and leave the room you're probably not going to appreciate the music and the second thing you have to do is possibly take a course in music appreciation because if you don't appreciate music you know if if your idea of great music [Music] is you're not probably not going to appreciate you know great Symphonies when you study music and and you see how the 1812 Overture you can hear the battle [Music] boom you can hear the Cannons you can hear the the horses it's unbelievable or the William to vure [Music] you hear the hoof beats or the Flight of the [Music] Bumblebee so music has the ability to convey things but if you don't know what you're listening to it's like yeah it doesn't do anything for me so every seventh day sends a wave of kadia over the world but you don't hear it why cuz you're not turning on your radio now turn on your radio ah I'm only hearing static why because you're busy with so many other things you can't hear the music so hasm says listen don't drive don't go shopping don't cook yeah don't answer your phone don't don't uh don't go to the uh computer Ben chapiro was saying you know he had been in arus and he went back forish minat and he didn't know what was going on in Israel cuz he couldn't check anything so his partner Jeremy boring says I called up one of his security people to tell him so he should know was going on but they didn't know he says for 48 hours I don't turn on any electric I don't turn on any you know uh devices I I have I was was a news blackout I didn't know what was happening so we take away all of the distractions now here's a thing that I get very often especially when I used to run in csy person says I know you took about the beauty of shabas I've been keeping shabas my whole life and I never found the beautiful sure cuz you weren't listening you turned on the radio but you left the room somebody tells me once you know uh you know perfect shabas you know I you know I eat a fast make kidish eat a fast meal there was a girl in Stern College totally St she's que quick meal she sleeps gets the morning makes kidish has lunch goes back to sleep wakes up afterwards so I know I didn't really enjoy shabas because no because your shabas is indistinguishable from being in a coma of course if you sleep through shabas you're not going to feel anything you have to you have to listen the person says okay I stay up for showers I still don't enjoy it okay maybe you need a course in spiritual appreciation so you learn how to enjoy all of these things that we're doing but as long as all these things are going on so it's an old joke I don't know if anybody will appreciate it anymore more uh because uh this goes back to the time when they were fax machines so okay you know that's how old this joke is so a guy's walking down the street and he sees somebody holding his hand he's going hey Bob how are things going yeah I haven't seen you in a while May a we get together in lunch and I said what are you doing so I'm talking on the phone he says this no phone he goes you still use a phone says I have the hearing device put into my thumb I have the speaker put into my pinky I've got the uh dial right here under the under the surface of my skin I just dial the number and I can talk without a phone he says wow that's amazing what on the street and he see a guy saying I don't know Harry what are you thinking about IBM you think I should buy some you know I have a couple shares of this we should this you know that says you're talking to yourself he says no I'm talking on the phone he goes you're not even using your hand he goes that that's 6 months old so I have a hearing device implanted in my ear have a speaking device put into my l I have the uh dial put into my brain I just have to think the number and I can start talking wow that's amazing walks down the street sees somebody Bend bent over in pain going ah uh says mister are you okay he says yeah I'm getting a fact anyway what does this mean what this means is people are so busy they're so busy they're so distracted they miss everything that's happening around them I was in in bahaba and it's a beautiful area and they rent out these uh motorboats and speedboats I remember looking at this one tourist he's standing up in his speedboat his speedboat is just zooming along and he's holding his camera he's missing the experience because he's taking pictures yeah I have been to well you can't see what's going on because the photographers and video guyses taking over you can't even see what's happening one guy said to me I always walk up straight and I watch the little window on the camera that's how I see what's happening out of the you missed the whole thing because people would rather watch it later instead of live it now some sometimes you used to add tag lines to their email I remember somebody had the tagline life is what happens while you're making plans and people are so busy doing other stuff that they miss life and it slips away shabas is you know stop and look and consider and think about what life is about because people are so busy going someplace they don't have time to think if that's where they want to go and shabas because we can't do any malas forces us to become people for at least those 25 hours and that of course brings us to our question and answer uh part of our program our first question is by k s you mentioned in a previous episode that the older generation isn't wanted in anymore that's me rather the young ream and teachers that can relate to the students what can we do about this for this is the opposite of yish kite exclamation mark absolutely of course it's the opposite you know the the uh the idea is uh like we say in the so one of those levels is called zum what does that mean it's life experience I've had kids who have gotten into trouble with different teachers and different things and R Weinbach said to me once an older teacher wouldn't have had this problem they have experience I give a shout out to my niece toak Khan uh she chose when everybody was going off to Israel to go to yava in Cleveland and she said to me I don't need to go to Israel and have some you know 19 20 year old lady teach me when you go to yava you're having people who are have have years and years of experience so they used to give us a test in Rashi Bas and okay we didn't take it that seriously you know and one of the one of the teachers said she goes you don't know Kish Rashi how would we have gotten through aitz without K Rashi and he was like oh boy yeah there's a certain voice of experience that you get the um famous story of ketki on the plane who sitting next to a professor of HW University and rak's Grandson kept coming over to check on him make sure he was okay does he need this does he need that and finally the professor said you know if my uh if my grandson was here he wouldn't want anyone to know that we were related soak says sure because you believe in evolution so you come from monkeys so you are bigger monkey than he is you're two generations closer to a monkey we believe in m and my grandson knows I'm two generations closer to the Revelation I went to France say uh when he was talking about rudan is rebi he says when you shook his hand you shook the Hand That Shook the hand of the out ofka people can bring us back to times that that we can only read in history books D Sal when he give mus he would stop at some point and say ah what can I expect from you boys what have you ever seen I went saw come out of the bathroom and make changed my life so how do we change it we need a we need to go back to the beginning and rethink our entire system how it works and what the purpose is the fact that you see Russia Yeshiva running around trying to recruit B and beg them to come to the yeshivas this never happened in Jewish history you came to learn Torah by by Riva and uh you know because you wanted to learn from him not because it was good for for me to be in this Yeshiva or that Yeshiva nobody cared you wanted you want to be by this Riva you want to be by this m Shir you want to gain from the and now you have these like you know 17 year olds like think why should I come to your you what do you get for me well you know we have very fine [Laughter] level as the gamar says Went to went toh and I saw an upside down world this world it's all just crazy how do we solve the problem well if if they ever put me in charge of the world this is on my list not at the top of my list top of my list is death penalty for double parking but uh I I I I don't know how we charge change it I can point out the problems I've had people over the years tell me that I'm negative and I said no I'm a social critic you know I have I have a forum and I try to raise the problems I don't know how to fix it other than to try to speak to individuals and have them reexamine um you know what they're doing I'll give another shout out actually to to's brother Ari orlovski and uh he was accepted to go to brisk big brisk not one of the little baby brisks you know the real IU is brisk and instead he decided to go to keski which does not have the same reputation and they were like you could go to brisk and he goes yeah but if gives a Mahal learning I could go there and gain tremendous am I learning and people are like so what you could go to brisk who cares if you learn anything and that's how it that's how it works today unfortunately so uh so yeah we need to uh we need to um uh to reexamine this and um uh maybe I I'll give a shout out to my good friend Ari edman and his kids who have asked me to a series I did a series on how to choose a a seminary how to choose a Yeshiva so this will be part of that series but right now I'm doing shabas because you know of the the uh situation but I have not forgotten you we'll get there okay our next question is by Anonymous what is your understanding of Arvis if a Jew on the other side of the planet does something wrong why is that my fault why are we all punished together what happened to the concept of personal responsibility there definitely is acept the personal responsibility of course person doesn't AAR he's going to get punished but I want you to to think about this for a moment uh Rashi says why was Dena uh raped and kidnapped so she was the atus she was the atus she was going out why was she going out in a goha town you know good she was going with the girls just to see what was happening you know but you put yourself out in the public like that that's what Dina did and then Rashi later says Yakov says um I uh uh you know Hashem says go back to to Basel and bring the konus that you promised and you know don't forget and he says because you delayed this is what happened to Dena so was it yakov's fault or was it Dina's fault and the answer is when a tragedy happened it affects everybody it affects the person it affects their parents and affects the people around them you know and uh you know a father dies and it changes the wife's the the children his brothers his parents changes everybody's life all around them you know and uh it's it's something to really consider that you many different contributions therefore um bant told the boys who are learning Yesa learn so that the baltim in Paris don't end to marry they weren't doing kir the answer is if you are Stark enough in your yish kite it'll spread to the next town and the next town and the next town by the time it's France there'll at least be enough sensitivity that people won't into marry so we're responsible for everybody we have to take contr to everyone do they have to take responsibility for themselves too sure but if we don't if we don't care about uh other people I've told the story in the past so you'll forgive me for for repeating I was once at a youth group and they were doing values clarifications values clarifications they tell a story and there's no right or wrong answer what do you think and based on what you think it's supposed to reveal you know your value system yeah okay here's the story Romeo loves Juliet but Romeo is on Crocodile Island and you can't get across to Crocodile Island uh except by the ferry otherwise the crocodiles will eat you and Juliet misses Romeo so much she doesn't know what to do and she goes to the boat man she says I'll pay you whatever you want then he has only one thing he wants uh Juliet to sleep with him and she's so torn CU she doesn't want to do this but she wants to get to Romeo and she's not sure what to do and she asks why is why is Ivan Ivan says I don't want to get involved so she feels she has no choice and she pays the boat man's price and she goes across and when she gets to the island Romeo is so happy to see her he says but how did you convince The Boatman and she tells him and Romeo casts her away now after she made this tremendous sacrifice Romeo is throwing her away she's broken she goes to her friend Sluggo in P in tears and Sluggo feels so bad for her that he beats up Romeo to an inch of his life and as the sun sets Juliet is laughing that Romeo got what was coming to him the end the question is who's the worst person in the story sobody was arguing Juliet not only did she do this thing and then she wanted to see him uh beaten up some people say Sluggo because you know there's never an excuse for violence some say Romeo what everyone else did they were motivated by desire he was motivated only by disdain and yeah anyway when I heard the question I immediately said why is Ivan no apparently nobody says that and the guy looked at me he says why is Ivan I said he's the only one who could have prevented this but he didn't want to get involved so he says to me in your value system there's nothing worse than being able to help somebody and not that's true I always look at the situation and say how could I possibly help this person and so I always try to make an effort to speak to people and say things so the gar says that when it was time for theb told the Malik go put an O on the head of every sadic so they will be saved from the destruction and the Malik says but uh they didn't give they didn't try to get people to come back to the good says I know it wouldn't have helped he says but they didn't he says you're right put an ice on their head and they'll be the first to die why don't you care why don't you care about somebody um I was speaking at a Hava at a leadership shabat in uh California in [Music] 1986 and so I told the following idea I said okay you guys are all the leaders of ncsy and let's face it some of you are uh you know moros you know you keep uh keep shabas in in secret you the only one in your school know about it so fine you go to your shabat you learn you keep shabas and you manag to avoid let anyone anyone know at the end of your life you get up to sh and of course you'll get on the express line because you guys are big sadik yeah and as you're going towards your final judgment you pass a kid who is in your class and uh he grabs you by your Celestial sleeve he say wait a second you knew about this says yeah you knew about Torah and Judaism and then God andab and you knew all this stuff cuz yeah so all those Friday nights when you said you weren't going to go out with us cuz you had to study for a test really you were keeping shabas cuz yeah so why didn't you ever tell us I didn't think you would listen I thought you'd make fun of us and the kid says maybe I would have but maybe I would have listened maybe I would have come with you to a shabbaton maybe I would have become from and I'd have from children and from grandchildren maybe I'd be on that line with you I can't say for sure but wasn't I worth the chance at the end some kid said to me Rabbi you play dirty I said 100% I do so that's what Arvis means Arvis means that you may not be able to solve the problem but try try say something reach out to somebody so that's uh that's the challenge of Arvis where we have to um we have to take responsibility whether or not we can change it yeah you you have to try have to try that's called responsibility so if I can't I can't but if we are strong enough and make a strong enough impression then we can uh change the world around us and if we don't that's what we held responsible for okay so that does it for this episode uh if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website R ali.com you can leave a comment you can ask a question you can 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