Matos-Masei: A Lesson From The Cows (Ep. 192)

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Tesla you know I mean like you know you can you can use it for cassette drive people around yeah with a very very long extension course just kidding about that anyway uh okay that's our sponsorship so you know um we've been doing this for years and I I go through kufas and what I haven't done in a long time is do a partial share uh somebody said to me um from the original the the old listeners they used to say you know when you um when you used to have the podcast so especially now that produce the Israel is getting it out before Shabbos and you can watch this you have something to say over on Shabbos but uh you know as uh as I move through um different uh phases and places and I've got uh I've got uh things that you know every now and then I go into a series and I I have I've promised already for a long time I was gonna do how to choose a Yeshiva because I did how to choose a seminary so well we've been waiting on that but we just have so much stuff going on I mean I haven't I've been I've been Incognito for these uh six months you know what I mean just disappeared I feel like John fetterman anyway so uh so much material just you don't have to do anything sometimes it's enough you know I'm gonna tell you I'll tell you a joke I'll tell you a joke um and this joke shows you that there's there's um certain jokes that you can tell your audience from the joke yeah I'll show you what I mean I heard the story from my good friend YY Rubenstein it is a hysterical joke he's very very funny if you watched our live show if not you can still go back and watch that that's the magic of the raviolowski show is that every now and then I get an email from somebody who says I just discovered this I started at the beginning I've been going straight through and uh I tell you the truth I don't remember right uh you know we we have up someplace to highlight reels of season one and two and uh I just go back and watch that I don't remember saying any of these things it is uh amazing I forget what I say I'll give you an example I don't forget I have to tell this joke from YY but okay so um my daughter is listening to a share and I'm overhearing this year and the guy quotes me saying something I have no recollection of everything I just don't even remember it yeah it was the famous gamara with a prayed we prayed uh he had this I had this student this talmud who had a hot head he had to repeat everything 400 times to the guy with hop it 400 times so he would sit there every day and say it over 400 times yeah and uh until the killer clapped it one day he said listen after we learn you know I got to go to Oklahoma you know and he teaches it the 400 times and the kid doesn't hop and he says my hi what happened today but you don't know it says I was nervous the whole time you were going to leave so he says all right we'll stay and do it another 400 times and after that the uh uh abasco came out for afraid and said because of this you're either going to get a very long life or you're going to get you know guaranteed a place in Aloha but you choose so the person giving the share said why didn't the kid get a Bosco he sat and striked 800 times to get this down why didn't he get a bicycle so he says Robert olowsky once said because you think the Bosco wanted to repeat itself 400 times now I have no recollection of everything even talking about that guitar I didn't know I haven't even mentioned it so he says of course that's not shot and he gave him a shot you know but but I was like what a brilliant line I have no idea I never said that anyway so um so why you said this joke it was hysterically funny because he has such a wonderful delivery if you remember when he was talking he has a Scottish accent because he's from Scotland right um but uh he could put on an American accent in a second he could put on almost any accent I heard Spanish I heard him do uh all different California anyway so um so he uh uh here's the joke this guy gets married and he's married a month and uh he says to his computer hey you want to come for supper you know you're always eating in Yeshiva well he's eating Yeshiva on a home home cooked meal I said sure so they come to their little apartment he goes in the kitchen he says honey I I invited uh you know show me home for a supper because what I I wasn't expecting anybody I only made food for two people like momish two people there are people like this by the way I'm interjecting into the story you know my mother doesn't know how you know my mother over Sean did not know how to make food for two people she wouldn't know how but you know sometimes people make two pieces of chicken and they make you know two uh this that's it that's all they you know but some people make a lot but okay so she's I only made for two people who all right I'll tell them to leave uh no no you can't don't believe he's here already so what are you gonna do he says I'll make everything into small portions whatever you do don't offer him uh doubles okay so they bring out the fish goes how's the fish it's just delicious do you want another piece and he goes no okay they bring out the soup everyone gets a have a bowl of soup because it has the soup delicious wanted some more no okay they bring out the main course Etc they bring out the dessert you know how is it delicious one another piece of cake no okay after he leaves the wife said what did you do what do you mean I told you not to offer doubles we didn't have any more food he goes I forgot why didn't you say something because what do you mean I was kicking you under the table the whole time my husband goes I didn't feel anything no there are some people you don't have to give the last line they copped it already they already got the joke because then she's not kick on it they got it and other people needed a little more you know spelled out till they they said so like you tell jokes like that and half the audience last and the other half the audience laughed you know so okay um so let's talk about departure yeah um say we finish up uh um there's a beautiful schmooze by Muse I don't even know if it's in print anymore I one time went to sabatka Yeshiva in benebra and I put out all their copies and I used to give it as a bar mitzvah present because you could be pretty sure nobody else is giving a legacy by reviews Isaac share and every schmooze speaks to me I can't say that about every muscle saver there are some frozen it speaks to it doesn't speak to you some of them are a little too esoteric some of them are a little too rough but he has this way of talking that is so uh brilliant so to the point so positive that I can honestly say that every schmooze I looked at in that safer was meaningful to me and in fact there was a takufu I used to go and speak in ephrat uh I haven't done in a while and very often I would say uh you know an idea over from Isaac share and include it in and one time I met somebody years later and he says listen I enjoyed all your speeches but the thing I have to thank you for is getting me into it because I went out and bought the safer and you're right every single schmooze is a gem and speaks to you so I just thought I would say that okay so I want to share this idea it was interesting last week I I pulled the actual safer out of the bookcase to show that it's the real bookcase somebody wrote and said you didn't have to do that because I could tell you weren't using a green screen because your arm wouldn't keep disappearing every time you would move it over so I knew already that it wasn't a green screen and somebody else said I could tell that it wasn't the green screen because your shelf is broken [Laughter] so I thought oh my gosh he's right I should really fix the shelf or instead I just put the rubber olowski sign in front of it my brothers did this once they were having some kind of fight and they made a hole in the wall and so they just kept the pillow in front of it it took years then my father found it out anyway I'm reading to you from paraglamic base plastic Olive that's 32 uh chapter 32 number verse 1 in numbers for um for my Christian listeners because I everyone and I get an email that there are non-jews who follow my podcast and uh and enjoy it um so I'm giving you a a Biblical reference to make a little easier for you for the yidden it's paraglama based garlic I gotta be careful because that's Jackie Mason says that's how he started is that he was giving his sermons and then we'd put in some jokes and uh and after well non-jews were coming to the service because they wanted to hear the jokes and so I became the only Rabbi of a Christian congregation had a lot of cows but you know it's Yazoo because there's Gillette and this is cattle country Yeehaw you've opened a God and they come to everybody and they say Ataris with even villages this is cattle country and we have cattle now there's this South Parish over here which is kind of strange because it's in the middle of their speech they continue so the Parsha ends yeah and if we find favor in your eyes so give us this land as a narrative so we will not cross over the Jordan so when Esther C koshalovsky ones why is there a break in the middle of their speech you end the parachute three says I can see you never fundraised because if you have a fundraise you know you sit down with the person you say we have Yeshiva we have X number of tal medium this is our budget and when the guy doesn't get it you say therefore we want you to give us money so they kept a motion they say listen we got a lot of cows and this is cattle country no okay so therefore give us this land as an inheritance and we will not cross over the yardbane and Moshe says the following what you're not gonna go and fight with your brothers you're going to leave them to fight for themselves they hope to catch a capture every yard then and when people see you guys are strong and you're not gonna go over God was known that when you always knew when God was in the Battle because they used to cut off the head and the arm with one stroke you know they were very good good they were armies powerful people they say you're not going to come they're gonna they're gonna lose heart then we'll have the homeraglam all over again miraculum too you know is that what you want yeah so they said no we'll go in the front of the battle and we'll fight him we won't go back home until everybody gets their land 100 she says okay no problem share could you imagine diving 515 Filas for the chance to be able to go into itself he says to Hashem make me into a bird and let me fly into it so just fly over it you know let me let me have a chance and Coach Barack will let him at least see the land imagine you're sitting there you're about your pain or after all this and Reuben and God came and said nah that's okay we don't have to go to it so we'll stay right here you don't wanna go there it's one sec you don't want to go to Eric's job and live in houses that you didn't build and eat from Vineyards that you didn't plant and drink from cisterns that you didn't dig as the plastic says you you could have all of this and you're giving it up because you have a lot of cows that's the problem cows it says I can solve the problem I'll shut them off uh we're still uh we're not allowed bus to type it yet but we'll bring him more as a commercial library and we'll have the biggest Barbecue on the Range yeehaw everybody will come in and there'll be steaks Galore and everybody will be as thrilled as they possibly could be how about that and then you could go in there and show that's your problems you have cows he says and you don't find that Hashem is upset that they're giving a great show and you don't find that Moshe is upset with the giving up herself the only thing is he wants to make sure you're going to do you a part for the Jewish people but the fact that uh that you're giving up your job doesn't seem to care that's his question and his answer is so incredibly important because it affects every single person every single day of their life if you're smart um okay I'm sitting here poisoning thinking is is this something controversial I'm going to say and then I realize why do I characters never makes a difference in the past but um I have eight daughters and they're all talented all talented my son's a talented too but I'm speaking specifically by dance most of my sons have not taken dance to the best of my knowledge I don't really know but yeah but my a lot of my daughters have taken dance they've taken ballet they've taken uh different types of dance they're very good one of them is Dan's teacher one of them is a Zumba teacher one of them had a dance studio you know okay they having the Tia towards dance I always one of the many contradictions of living in eggshell is that the base Yakov here says you can't take belly but the classes were given in the base Yakov which was kind of strange one of the many contradictions that you learned so I remember I mentioned this to uh Mendel Weinbach and he said to me yushalayim is um is provincial and their approach it's a great word you know he was a very very smart guy that's a that's provincial is a fancy word for stethlegate but it's like nah what are they need it for us yeah and very often you encounter this is gave you a lot of cows you don't have a right to just throw it away you have an obligation says anyone who says they're too poor to learn Torah not true no Hillel was very very poor and uh and uh and he was able to enter and anyone who says he's too rich to learn Terror it's not true it makes it kind of that owned 70 cities I was able to learn to her so I thought to myself that's your problem because you're so rich so you know what sell everything put into a CD or whatever they had back in the ancient world you know uh gimldalid and uh invest it and said learn you have to worry about taking care of all the cities and all the businesses and all the places you hear hear what he's saying what do I need this for I was a article and uh and read his Digest um about the town where uh um the entire town was based on the textile business that was being run by a Jewish guy from Guy the factory burnt down and at that point everybody was moving their production overseas and he didn't he kept it yeah he kept it in the town and he rebuilt the factory and he paid everybody their salaries while he was rebuilding the factory including their holiday bonus and the whole article is just talking about how he saved the town and the families and what they would have done and you know everything go on and on and on the last paragraph they took to the guy Mo first the last paragraph and they said why did you do this I mean this goes against well business practice it doesn't make any sense and he said because I'm an orthodox Jew ish Hashem yeah so I have an obligation to all these families I can't just I can't just twist the map you know you want to hear a sad story oh yeah it sounds like sad I'm sure you do um there's a shawl that was a church and whatever the congregation was I think they were Quakers there weren't that many Quakers around anymore so they um so they uh instead they went to um they sold it to the show still had a steeple on top you know and there was an extra house and they said you don't get the house even though they bought the whole thing you don't get the house until the Parsons Widow dies because she's going to stay there until the end of her life and it was decades before she died they couldn't use theirs and some of the show said you know one day we'll make a mcfad of that we'll do something with the house you know because but now you know they they want the Widow to stay and the person in the show said to me you know says if that was the rabbitin no question they would throw her out in a minute I don't know if that's true but it's definitely a sad commentary yeah that's it there's something Beyond the bottom line who gave me these towns and people were living there and there are businesses and there are things that have to be taken care of I have an obligation to those people I can't just walk away from it Reuben and good was smart they realized we got an unusual amount of cattle more than everybody else and so we have to say because obviously wants us to be Cowboys don't let your sons grow up to be Cowboys we're gonna be herders yeah that's uh correct way of referring to uh people who take care of uh of cattle right I don't know if you'll if you're old enough to remember this joke from being a kid I don't know if kids still tell this joke you know someone says look at those bunch of cows they said no no heard of what heard of cows of course I've heard of cows I don't know cow herd what do I care what a cow hurt I have no secrets from a cow wants us to be herders so we're going to take the gift that a coach about who gave us and we're going to use it because everybody has gifts everyone is Milos this is this is how it goes some people have a lot of mileage some people have a lot of cousinus but everybody has certain abilities whatever those abilities may be each person has to look for themselves and figure out where their talents and abilities lie but you can't just let let it go to waste yeah I had a grown Darkly BINA years ago and her dream was you know the theater she wanted the theater she loved the theater now if you're a fruit girl your options in the theater a particularly musical theater are extremely Limited you know you understand dancing in the chorus singing you know all these kind of things can be problematic and uh she used to speak to me about this by the end of the first year she realized that uh this this is not gonna work so by the second year she said but I have all of these talents and abilities and I I Hashem gave me them I'm supposed to do something with them I said so as we used to say in The Little Rascals let's put on a show make a show so she says how what I said you have all the talents and all the abilities you figure out how to put on a production now listen to this is in Chicago yeah Chicago Chicago a wonderful town right she was in Chicago and she wrote uh play out of Mary Poppins now they've done this on Broadway but she hers was first and she with the songs with the dance everything that she wrote a host grip and she recruited women from all parts of the community and she put people in charge of a scenery and people in charge of choreographic and people in charge of sing and stockers uh were supporting this so that they would get the profits from it and they put on this production and they had to add on extra shows and it was she told me afterwards she says Not only was it successful not only everybody enjoy it says but we made money for stalker and it brought the community together aspects of the community who otherwise would maybe not have nothing to do with each other everybody came together with this project because the coach Barnacle gave her talents and abilities and she wanted to use them why did I give it to me why would I should give someone a beautiful singing voice if they're not supposed to sing okay so you can't sing for men but that's a mean you can't sing yamara says khalili someone has a beautiful voice is supposed to use that voice you know to David to the lead to inspire um we haven't had a music guest in a while we missed our shabashira maybe we'll do one yet beforehand I reached out to uh to a well-known personality in the music world recently I don't want to mention his name in case he decides not to come on the show and I don't want to get a lot of hate mail from the raviolowski community I will see if he comes on if so we'll give him a good welcome but uh you know that I I don't just take musicians I don't just take music people I take people who are marbite and understand that the music is is Tim said to be able to be makadishamite in that event um uh when I was running ncsy in the early 80s so there was a fellow by the name of Dove Levine he was a music star back then yeah ask your grandparents about it yeah my younger my younger audience [Laughter] he actually sang at my wedding yeah and uh he was uh because I know he was he was really somebody anyway he came to Earth's shell and he was learning in Yeshiva and he stayed by us sukis because he wanted to go to the simplest baser show Avis in Jerusalem and the the Great yeshivas and wherever he went people recognized him and they asked him to sing and the whole simplest military over his singing night after night and towards the end he told me people said to me what are you doing you're going to ruin your voice and he said to me what did Hashem give me a voice for if not to sing at a simple space of brilliant right absolutely brilliant and uh and that's the uh that's the fact that everybody gets something in this world you know there are people who are very good at business and they decided to use that skill to be able to help yeshivas to be able to build them up there is a a few different organizations but uh one of my uh good friends who uh was hearing that show and that was is in Minneapolis uh Josh last he was part of an organization of people who get into financial trouble he's a businessman he's an accountant himself you know he understands numbers and business and he would sit down with the family and say okay how much are you spending how much are you making you know you can see this doesn't work right you know so he put them on a budget in fact uh um he says Flight of the conditions is you have to close all your accounts and open an account in the post office bank because the post office Bank does not have overdraft you can only spend the money that you have I know in America many people are familiar with this concept but in Israel doesn't exist you know you know you don't have to have money to spend it and um and uh he organizes them and sets them up on a budget they give them a loan to pay back their past debts and get them on their feet and here's here he says I have I have a gift I have an ability what do I have it for if not to help call yourself yeah and so everybody has gifts what are those gifts may be some people are great listeners and you know I've been told this by more than one psychologist a lot of what I do could be replaced by a good friend so just somebody to listen but there's nobody to listen yeah I need somebody to talk to so instead I'll pay this guy to sit and listen to me what what a friend could just hear them out and carry their burden yeah so uh so that's the message of these cows is that these cows came from and you don't have a right to to to throw them away and whatever you're given you're given with a sense of obligation I have to do something with it um and so uh Miss Hashem everybody out there uh has talents and abilities and we have to figure out if if you if if it's artistic if your art you play an instrument you can sing you can speak you can organize you can whatever your gift is understand that you cannot waste it you have to use it and because gonna expect you to to uh to do that Burke shade his father Moshe that's how it was so when they have a simple disservice so you know so Barry would pull out his guitar and his father would take out a harmonica and they would they would uh sink they would they would use their abilities to be able to uh to use it to be Mikado okay now we are up to the question answer portion of our program first question would you ever consider moving from Arizona to America to running Yeshiva yes I would consider anything I never say no yeah um what do I mean when I married my wife wanna well I was going out with my wife one of the many reasons she didn't want to marry me and there were a lot of them but one of them was because she wanted to go to Eric's show and I didn't I said I was running ncsy in Long Island right now and I can't go and I said because I want to go to Eric shell because I believe it's rutson Hashem for people to live in a hotel I've got sukum that support me but uh I think I think it's you know ramesha Feinstein passkins it's a mitzis say that is to live in itself and you know it's a tremendous thing but I said but right now because your brother wants me here you think we might think didn't want to go there itself of course he did but he had an obligation you know to to the Jews over there you have to know um one of uh my dear friends the zolbergs in Johannesburg so uh they have uh there was when when the crime in South Africa was getting terrible so everybody who had means was trying to leave and get out of there and I said to them would you ever consider living and he said no he says if all the people with means leave what happens to the people without means who's going to take care of them who's going to support the yeshivas and the institutions we can't we can't just turn our back and run away we have to be here we have an obligation to be in so uh so I said I have an obligation to be here but if the situation changes um then of course I I would love to move that y'all so we got married and I ran into his wife for a number of years until I got so burnt out I still remember I would be in my office and the secretary would uh buzz me and say so-and-so is on the phone and I'd say tell them I'm dead he says every Alaskan can't come to the phone right now and I said no tell them I'm dead so people start to realize that I was losing at my old unreality I I was burnt out I had nothing left to give I I was a an empty vessel so I went there and started this didn't learn yeah so I said okay now I'm ready to go I originally came for three years to sit and learn and then go back and write bonus that was 35 years ago uh so I'm still here I guess I never found a job but um but I never say no I say let's hear I was in Australia Australia flew down to Australia and the dye School in Sydney which is the largest High School in the world so I met with them and they said would you ever consider coming to Australia I said if you can show me this something I can do here that nobody else can do that's what Hashem then I would consider it and we sat and we met and we discussed and we worked it out on that and at the end uh they said okay we'll be in contact that was about four years ago so but if if someone can tell me that because wants me in this place at this time there was a very large uh uh Day School uh with about a thousand kids between all the different divisions that was offering me uh three come the head of the school and uh I met with ramesha Shapiro to work out technical details Etc and when it was all done I said but Rebbie I don't want to go and he said to me David we don't go where we want we go where when needed and I can't be move out there on a thousand kids but they turned me down so it wasn't a problem anyway so uh so would I in theory consider a position sure but uh let's face it you know when you're in your mid-60s you're not as marketable as uh as you might believe even though you know my mom made it to 89 in terrible health so you know uh you know it's it used to be people retired at 65 because most people died at 70 but today you meet people all the time at 11 to 90 you know so 65 my gosh it's only two thirds of the way through so anyway but I I never say no someone can make an argument that this is something that you can do that nobody else can do and it's important though I love it so and uh I only breathe here I can't breathe anyplace else you know uh but I will do whatever Watson Hashem is or whatever it sends me okay and the next question is is there ever a time where I could see something I could do in my voters Hashem but I don't think I'm on the level or is there no such thing this is a tricky question yeah we say Inova says remove the sudden from in front of me and from behind me so the sudden in front of me we know that's our typical yet Sahara who is tempting us to do a various and to go against Torah and and okay that we understand who's this Sutton behind us that's the one pushing us to go faster than we can and when you push somebody to go faster than they can very often they crash so you have to be realistic it would be realistic they tell a story that you know in Europe they didn't have these fancy uh um you know tables covered in formica you know that they have today they were regular wooden tables so if you leaned on your on the table you could very often wear out your elbow so the Russia Shiva who had frock coats would pull up their coat put on the table and lean on the cloth so that their elbows wouldn't get worn out so Baja sees this has a short coat he pulls his coat up and he's twisting to get onto it anyway the restiva season comes over and says for some things you need a long coat you can't pull it off so you have to know where you are and what your limitations are and if I try to take on too much listen you see this all the time right um so an email he says I didn't get to the gym today that makes four years so you find people haven't gone to the gym in a long time and they say okay I'm gonna go so they do a race four push-ups and they say well that's not too bad I could do three more do three more guys you know what I could probably do three more and by the end they're dead and I said I knew I couldn't work out no it's because you said unreasonable goals for yourself and the introduction to Safe he says there were two people wanted to die with cabana one guy said I'm not moving here till I dive in the entire Cabana the other guy says I'm going to work on the first broker when I get that down I'll move to the second bro I want to get that down I'll move to the third broadcast so the second guy it took him years but he eventually done with cavana the first guy had a nervous breakdown because it was unrealistic So when you say is there something in my voters Hashem that I could be doing you gotta this is why I said you need someone to help you in your development as a year and to say is this something I can do or I can't do you can try it and see if it's working for you or not you know backtrack you can you put your toe in the water but you got to be realistic and if you end up doing things that make you resentful or or strip your sim card then it's it's not working it's not working so when it comes to verse Hashem you got to be honest in your evaluation and our next question is why do you think many people are happy if they can have into a reason's question but aren't as happy when they ask the gamara's question okay for those of you who uh don't have a gamara background it means like this when you're learning talmud so it's question and answer we can ask the question it gives an answer they're going to ask the question give it an answer etc etc right and very often the reshonium who are the early commentators Medieval Times they will ask questions on the Gemar so every now and then you come up with a question and someone says oh it's the rash massage yeah the rashford is that question or the ramban asked that question yeah or the written asks that question and you see that people are very happy but if they anticipate the next question the gemara they're not as happy so um the answer is I don't know if I'm having the commercial and I very often am when I'm preparing this year and I come up and I say I don't understand and then I see thinking about ask that question oh now sometimes when I'm giving sheer and somebody says they ask a question that's in the reshonam and I say oh brilliant question but you're a thousand years too late somebody asked it already and sometimes they ask a question like tomorrow and I say uh brilliant question you're 1500 years too late and somebody has a question that's in the mission I go oh brilliant question you're two thousand years too late but um to my mind the skill of learning you don't need me but sweet kushalovski said this that the definition of a London is somebody who knows that he has good questions you have to figure out the questions he says giving answers that's part muscle that's how you make a living you know it's like giving answers but but if you look at it and you you don't see the question I think it was the cousins who said you know it says if you learn Texas and you didn't anticipate the Mario Shaw's question then you probably didn't learn the places right you know that's that that's not called learning yeah you have to see the questions that are there yeah and you have to encourage people to ask those questions and to see them so I guess the idea is that since the later commentaries are commenting on what went beforehand so you'll have acronym who are commenting on the reasonable commenting on the gemara so uh to my mind if you anticipate any question I think it's a great thing but I guess it's because since the gemara is there in black and white and it's like you sure you know all jobs I mean gosh what's the big deal you figure out the question you did it you know you know last year when you ran through shots you know what I said you know David Feinstein used to finish shots every year for Mauritius yard site yeah so uh so that's the only thing I could possibly imagine but uh but to my mind I think if you anticipate the question uh any of these steps is tremendous thing and Torah why is it that people inherit the status of their parents a person is Jewish because of their mother Cohen lavio Israel is from their father someone whose father was a slave automatically becomes a slave but why aren't these things determined by Merit instead of inheritance it's a very interesting question and uh I would say the following there's a certain reality we inherit things from our parents we inherit character traits by the way yeah I remember reading Psychology today uh Maybe 40 years ago that they did a study and they found that that character traits like moral character traits of your kind and things like that can be inherited it took about two twins you know they both came from kind parents and they were adopted by different families and it didn't matter the family was kind or not these kids became kind it was built into them and so uh in we look at it from the point of view of not only is there a gen a genetic predisposition to certain things there is also a spiritual genetics and that's why I remember imbued the Jewish people with certain innate traits Andre the gemara says that Jews are by shanam by Nature Jews have a sense of Shame that's what they call the Jewish guilt you know and they're kind and they're merciful you can kill those traits but you're starting off with those whereas other people don't necessarily have those traits and uh um it's it's been passed down to you in a particular way I remember the famous story with Schwab when it comes to him he's about to take a position in Germany and so he says uh are you a coin says no he says you were leaving he says no he says why not my father wasn't why wasn't he is his father one his father was he says you know you're not a lady because stood in the camp and said Mila who is for God my great great grandfather came in U.S didn't say you're going to Germany now you're going to hear the quote don't miss it a second time so there are moments in history which are very dramatic and it imbues us with a certain sense now we're weak that's the Jewish concept each generation gets weaker and weaker is it possible to change that choice was able to do an action that was so dramatic that it made him a Cohen there was there was a change that took place yeah um it's only possible when you're on that kind of a level to imbue it at the at the beginning of of your existence to build into yourself those kind of spiritual genetics and then you're born with certain predispositions right physically it could be a predisposition the breast cancer to to um uh to diabetes to heart disease to you know to being overweight it could be a mido's predisposition and it could be a spiritual predisposition where you are have a natural tendency towards a particular thing and uh that is passed down from father to son so um it's an opportunity you can do whatever you want with it right somebody pointed out that is a long string of zeros if you put a one in front of it Priceless if you don't then it was just wasted potential but we believe that there were decisions that were made that imbued the Jewish people on the one hand levium on the one hand uh Cohen on the other hand and avid who becomes an Evan the uh swazama said not every Kanani becomes an Evan but people who have a tendency towards that original crime of ham and Canaan which led the curse of of slavery and means that they have those character traits they become slaves so uh this is what we believe we believe in innate spiritual potential okay well that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my 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