How to Talk to God (Meaningful Tefila #8 - Ep. 154)

hi this is doug dolowski and welcome to the rabbi orlowski show and whether you're watching with our friends over at or anytime or whoever you watch or listen to your podcasts as always thank you for letting me into your life and letting me be a part of it i've said many times and uh it remains just as true as the first time the fact that anybody takes time out of their schedule to listen to anything that i have to say is just a remarkable thing um sometimes i'm sitting [Music] it could be at my shabbos table it could be someone else's shoppers table and everyone's talking and giving opinions and no one even asks me what i think not even says giaba what do you think nothing i just sit there quietly uh so someone said to me you know don't you think it's strange that nobody asks what you think and i said no i've got a podcast i got thousands of people who care about what i think this allows me the luxury to sit quietly you know some people all they have to do is to sit and and darshan at 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to a zerg hogan as you say next episode we're going to be talking about our shasta shidduchim every year we managed to uh to push this particular event so we should definitely consider that as this course for people to get married it's a particularly learning shots for people to be able to uh find the shidduch so keep them in mind we'll talk about them next time also just as a public service announcement uh we always say at the end of the show to check out the website at alaska.com i've started putting up my weekly shiorim on the website uh record them and they are posted for the past um past weeks that i've been doing it i started back in parshas noah and you might want to check those out um each one's over in the hour i know this will come as a surprise that i find so much to talk about but and uh talking there about the parsha shabua of those particular weeks they have passed but the messages remain eternal so we're going to talk about something that i uh think has significance uh in every aspect of our lives now i used to do a class called a day in the life of a jew what what goes on in the uh regular day of the life of a jew i said it's a regular day there's no um uh life events you're not getting marriage you're not getting buried you didn't have a baby you know i mean there's no circumcision no pigeon of ben and no permit there's a regular regular day you know there's no holidays it's just you know it's not an unusual day you didn't kill anybody you know you didn't start a romantic relationship with a cow you know it's just a regular day yeah when you think about what mitzvos most of the mitzvahs are built in once you make your home kosher and you buy kosher food so you don't even have to think about keeping kosher um if you're a girl and you've made whatever wardrobe adjustments are necessary for you to dress with the sneeze laws so you just get up in the morning and get dressed i say that facetiously of course i have eight daughters no girl gets up in the morning and just gets dressed they spend an enormous amount of time staring at all their clothes in their closet and then they go to the second closet and then they conclude they have nothing to wear but uh but assuming that the clothes that you have meet uh your basic sneeze requirements you know if you're a young man you know get up in the morning put on your yarmulke and your titties the only thing that we would call ritualistic throughout the day is tefila and uh davening is the ongoing ritual that goes on during the day there are other aspects to your day but uh but as far as what we would call a mitzvah we would think of it as terms of a ritual with tefila that's uh so much of what takes up our time so i i talked about this a little bit when we talked about europe but i want to try to get a little more practical so i want to focus on an area and it's essential to feel it but it's essential to our entire life which i call god consciousness god consciousness means that there's a god and he exists and he's part of our life now you know there's something called the shay schmitz to medius six minsters that you get without too much effort one of them is just remembering that there's a god every time that you think that there's a god that and of itself is such a powerful thing you think that god is good you know you're you're an aura of god you love god all these things are missing you get them automatically that's why it's uh amazing thing when people try to make a hajj fish and calculate what they've done in the course of the day we don't even count the shay schmidt system medias and how many times we are racking up mitzvahs just by thinking that there's a good sparkle and uh and i want to try to talk about that a little bit from a practical point of view uh revenue laborats once said that it's possible for a guy to sit and learn in kylo an entire day and never once think about it coach parker you know it didn't pop up in any of the sugi's so i can sit there and work to get deeper and deeper into uh a particular area of halatha a particular understanding but where's the kurdish borough in all this yeah you have to remember that that's the central principle of everything as the message asharam says at the beginning where we created to get pleasure from god and enjoy the shrina his divine presence because that's the greatest pleasure of all so being able to have a relationship with a kurdish barrical is the greatest thing that there possibly could be so when we say years hashem which is almost always translated poorly as fear of god it's a big problem with english translations that they don't really capture the essence of what you're trying to to say in in judaism but fear of god is not yours hashem it's or and uh when we talk about or it's that wow factor let's say wow wow sparkle is awesome that's awesome filled with ore no unbelievable experience and i gave the example before that person gets ready to dive in and there he is oh my god i mean that's you so who do you think you were talking to nobody i didn't realize you were really there well as more than one from person said to me i know there's a god i just don't believe it which makes a lot of sense that's the possibility know it and place it on your heart it's not enough to know something intellectually it has to become a emotional reality to us and there are a lot of things that we know intellectually but don't become an emotional uh reality smoking right uh eventually they never wrote when i was growing up everybody smoked you know every room you went into had a had a haze over it of cigarette smoke you know and at some point they would write on the package the surgeon general has determined that smoking can be hazardous to health they changed that to smoking kills then they started putting on pictures of diseased lungs you know few and far between can possibly be the people who don't realize that smoking is going to kill you my father died of lung cancer i remember we were sitting shiva and the doctor came someone said do you think it was the smoking he said well he had heart disease uh lung cancer and emphysema i'm gonna have to say yes but my father started i mean he was born in 1925 he started smoking i don't know 1930s he uh everybody smoked then no one even knew there was a problem so uh so he was he was stuck in the end he drowned because the blood clots were forming in his lungs so quickly that there was no way for them to get rid of them and he literally just drowned to death i watched him die and that makes an impression on someone and then i see from people smoking so okay you see an old from man smoking so you figure okay he's addicted i see kids teenagers people in their 20s i see somebody walking with their uh baby in a carriage smoking a cigarette even though second-hand smoke is is uh there's also a terrible terrible thing and i used to try to engage these people and have conversations with them most of the time they would get angry but if they would bother even responding to me they'd be like i could stop any time i want to how about now not now but any other time [Laughter] and i'm thinking to myself if you knew what it was to to die of lung cancer it probably wouldn't be so flippant but it's not a reality not a reality two of my brothers smoked they had heart attacks in their 40s um me and my brother didn't smoke we had a heart attack uh you know in our 50s it's much better but uh when you have in your 30s that's pretty early both of them stopped smoking after the heart attack my father was a addicted smoker he used to say it's not hard to quit smoking i've done it dozens of times yeah it's very hard for me i remember once he had bronchitis and he's smoking and choking and choking and smoking couldn't stop after his heart attack he stopped smoking so what happened you know they had their heart attack and they had time to recover in the hospital so they decided to finally read the surgeon general report and they were like oh tucker this is dangerous no of course not it's because now it's a reality to me it's real you you don't um you don't sense the reality until then it it it brings a consciousness so i could know something intellectually but till it becomes an emotional reality to me robbie tatch tells the story that when he was uh working in medicine in south africa this fellow came in who had this condition i forgot the technical term for that i apologize uh where if you smoke it cuts off your blood flow to your limbs he says and it's very easy to cure just stop smoking he says i was in the hospital and by the end they had amputated both his arms and both of his legs and he had his friends hook up uh attachment to his wheelchair so he could keep smoking even though he didn't have any fingers and any arms to be able to put him in the reality did not sink in not sinking and i don't mean to minimize it it's very hard if tesla was a chain smoker when he found out it wasn't healthy he tried to stop smoking it was very hard so he put a picture of his family on his desk and whenever he reached for a cigarette he would say i don't want to make my wife a widow and my children orphans he says but i kept finding reasons to go outside of the office [Laughter] until i did a public nether took a public vow that i wouldn't smoke and i don't know what stopped me he said breaking the vow or getting caught breaking my public back so i understand it i am a diabetic type 2 diabetic some people get born with it big deal i worked hard took me years to get this diabetes and i have to be very careful and sometimes i am and sometimes i'm not yeah when i'm being good and my various uh you know dietitians over the years have always told me no you don't it's not put into terms of good and bad but yeah well those of us we know either being good at being bad not when i'm being good someone says do you want a piece of cake i said i don't know is it worth dying for i don't know if it's worth dying for i mean it's pretty good you know and every now and then they'd say yes this cake is worth dying for i said okay then i'll try it and only once they were right now that was not the best that i ever had i will tell you the best that i ever had there was a bakery in brooklyn called lowens i didn't know this but itchy low and brown was mishpochah and he was the head of ajob anyway a real really really special person but anyway um they made cream puffs i was in seventh or eighth grade we were at a chapiton at the youngest of woodmere we me and another kid were placed there and i don't know whose house i was i don't remember if you're still out there and you have to watch my podcast i want to publicly apologize for this but uh we sat down eric chavez and they pulled out a box of lauren's cream puffs that they had bought for shoppers and they you know gave us uh some juice and said oh help yourself my friend took a cream puff so delicious in my life and the two of us finished the whole box and just popped it off i apologize i'm very sorry especially because they went out of businesses even if i could find you they don't make them anymore i have never in my life had a cream puff that good i've tried i've i bought them from every bakery i can find i have never found anything on par with loans cream puffs if there's somebody out there who knows how to make them you know it might kill me but i will go with a smile on my face but uh okay so i know i'm not supposed to eat these i love cologne oh my gosh if anybody knows you know yeah just you know maybe [Laughter] when he was learning at our show benji reisman um who's across roy reisman's son uh i did a chapertone for reverend reisman shaw um but uh more important his grandfather owns reisman's bakery and i was talking once helen eric's shell there are no um prune hamentashen they haven't figured out that that concept over here so uh he sent me a box from his grandfather's bakery of of prune hamantaschen uh it was a very very special moment in my my 32 years of living in ed's show and have to say that was definitely one of my most special moments dominating the chrysler was also nice but but there was prune hamantage so if anybody out there knows somebody who could still make the loan hamantaschen you know i i love when cream puffs i'm not saying i'm gonna eat them all you know on a regular basis but like you know save it for a special occasion and you know take a little extra extra medication to you know another shot of insulin [Laughter] so okay i know i'm not supposed to be these things that's when i'm good when i'm good i say is it worth dying for other times i don't even think about it when i'm being bad so um so the the point is that you know something intellectually but to make that a reality so people say to me i know there's a god i just don't believe it so if he was to suddenly appear to you for real and there he is it would be a mind-blowing experience because even though you know intellectually but the emotional reality is so much more difficult so obviously when we dive in all right we're always supposed to picture the coach broncos in front of us but specifically when we're daving and we're in tafila we're supposed to feel like we're talking tacos that there's a give and take so how do you develop this what i'm i'm talking about god consciousness so i want to give you some techniques that uh i've employed in my own life never found anybody who was able to uh to give me these tips personally um but i know from my own life uh yeah that i've tried them and they are effective i've given them to other people who have tried them and they said they're also effective so let's start at the beginning intellectually we know is a god that's the first step first step is intellect if if you're not really sure if god exists then you have to spend at least the intellectual effort to see if it's true or not i had a guy when's the north summer and he says to me where's all the happiness in judaism and i said it comes from having a relationship with god this aniga hashem right having that relationship he says well i'm not sure if i believe in god i said then i have nothing to offer you if you like you filter fish great you want to eat a matzah enjoy yourself you know knock yourself out but if there's not a god and it's not real then the whole thing is make-believe if there's no god and and we're just keeping this going for fun forget about it jewish culture is not enough to keep the jewish people around it's just not that our culture is just not that much fun let's let's call it spade a spade no that's why we raise money to get jews to teach them about their culture you know ever hear italians raising money to get people to eat lasagna no people like lasagna but you have to pay people to eat that jarred gefilte fish because they keep wondering what's the goo in the jar and any answer you come up with just doesn't sound good [Laughter] so uh so it's a uh to challenge to come up with something that's that's uh going to be meaningful so we pay people to come you know and listen to klezmer and dance the hover and eat can filter fish but nobody wants to do it understand the culture's not enough so if there's a god and this whole thing is true and it makes sense i understand if not what's the point matti burger this is years ago when reform and reconstructionists still cared about into marriage so this reconstructionist rabbi said to him he says you know i tell people that they should marry jewish and they say i'm a racist he says you are a racist he says but you tell people to marry jewish because that's different i actually believe in this i think there's a god he gave the torah there's a mission of the jewish people you you're just a cultural jew it's just racism for you so i have to do the intellectual effort and i have to sit down and try to look at all of the evidence for god's existence your shock once said to the brisket rav who needs a moona any intelligent person can figure out there's a god who gave the torah just based on the evidence that exists he answered them you're right the muna begins when it doesn't make sense but the concept of figuring out that there's a god well any intelligent person could do that but you have to do the work you can't just say there's a god because i heard there was a god you got to figure it out for yourself according to the rambam that's the first myth from the torah no is to know that god exists i have to figure it out intellectually so that's the first step but once you know that god exists the next step is making it a reality now it's always difficult having a relationship with someone that you don't see and who you talk to and you don't get an answer from so i learned tonight's trail 1975. we used to write eragrams back home you could write an actual letter but then you had to pay for a stamp aerograms were cheaper it's a piece of tissue paper it would write very small on it and then you fold it over afterwards came out with the glue and it got ripped off didn't make a difference took two weeks to get there two weeks for you to get an answer by the time you got the answer you didn't remember what you wrote the letter so it was mostly just to you know let your parents know you were still alive yeah if you had a really good friend you would make them a tape you had to get a tape recorder and you would record an entire tape for them this is very hard there's nobody there you're just talking to the tape recorder uh it's eight o'clock um well we finished the afternoon seder and uh we had dinner and i just wanted to make you a cassette to let you know i was thinking of you and to let you know what's going on uh here in yeshiva it's uh it's 801. um we learned obviously it's what we do in yeshiva morning seder and afternoon seder and um now we're gonna have night saturn and uh and i'll get back to you later [Laughter] this is what they're talking to nobody i know people who cannot leave messages on answering machines hi this is so-and-so please remember to leave a message after the beep huh i just hang up the phone it's too hard for them to talk so i'm supposed to be having a conversation with somebody who doesn't exist and i say when people say to me how do i know what god is and i have a relationship with god i said try talking to him they said aidavan i said i didn't say darwin davin becomes meaningful once you already have a relationship with the kurdish borough i said talk to him as if he really exists so i know god exists i didn't tell you know that god exists you know god exists now talk to him as if it's real not just that you know it have a conversation it's very hard it's very hard it's very hard yeah it's one of those things where i can honestly say you know when people say easier said than done no it's just as hard to say it as to do it because doing it is saying it so try telling the god um okay uh double dolovsky here well you know that um anyway just wanted to share with you what's going on in my life what's happening here you know very uncomfortable you're talking to somebody who's invisible you know intellectually that he's listening but you certainly don't feel anything keep at it talk to god all day maybe you have a chance i'm not saying do this in front of people they might think you're a little crazy but there's usually some down time if you're nervous take out your phone pretend you're talking to somebody [Laughter] and you have to start talking to god now if you stick at this gotta stick to it you're going to move to the second phase and the second phase is you feel like someone's listening to you now you know what that means stephen covey in the seven habits of highly effective people lists as one of his seven habits active listening this is people who don't just listen to you but you can feel they listen to you you can sense that they're listening to you now there's some people who have a lot of trouble with this i have certain people now i've never been one of those uh-huh uh-huh people i find it very disruptive and and it throws off my train of thought so when someone's talking to me i tend to listen very intensely so somebody will call me on the phone and they'll talk to me and uh i don't keep going oh yeah oh yeah i'm just listening and you have people every now and then i get a phone call from them and every half a minute like hello hello are you there hello yeah i'm here i'm here oh okay no because i didn't hear anything no nor will you because i'm busy listening to you anyway so i wasn't hello i'm here i'm still here they don't feel that i that i'm there sometimes one of my kids say to me i feel like you're not listening to me i say what but uh but the point is that sometimes you're talking to somebody and you sense that they hear you even if you don't see them like i say it could be if you're on a phone call you're just sensing that they're listening to you if you stick at this and you talk to barucho eventually you will see or you will feel and the coach baruch is listening to you it's it's internal no way to measure this but just like you sometimes talk to a person and you know they're listening to you sometimes you talk to a karija barucho and you sense that the coach baruch who is hearing you and listening to you now if you keep working at this the third thing is you'll start to get answers now if you start hearing voices you have serious problems i would definitely check myself into an institution could be lithium will help but uh but there's a problem you shouldn't be hearing voices yeah when i say start getting answers it means you start to see hakuras in your life doing things directly for you that are weird i've had people who were hanging around me and one guy put it so interesting he goes i feel like there's a rip in the time space continuum around you and i said no that's just because my buddy karishma does stuff for me all the time and my kids know it's one of my expressions you know all of a sudden we'll go someplace and the car will pull out and we'll have a parking spot right in the front and someone says wow that's unbelievable i said nah cause probably does stuff like that for me all the time and he does he does so many things like i say we talked about last time but every now and then there's things that are out of the ordinary where you say wow that's unusual of galinsky during the gulf war so uh someone said you know uh all the missiles that were falling and nobody was getting killed you know he says uh you know it's uh you know siata de shmaya you know is that he goes no no no no if you have to get to the bus and the bus pulls up just when you get there and you run and you catch the bus that's the athleticism if you're in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the desert knows when the bus pulls up that's a nice this these are nissim right there's something in between making the bus and the bus magically appearing where it's um unusual siata deshmaya where is looking out for you and when you incorporate a koshborohu into your life is more likely to let you see him as it says in sherm peeking through the cracks such a powerful idea my kids were little and i would take them to gun so we're talking about they could be two three years old you know one kid would say don't wait for me i would come up in the elevator and say don't wait for me i say okay and i would as if get back into the elevator but i would stay and i would watch through the bars in the stairwell and watch them walking to god and they would turn around to see if i was there but they didn't see me peeking through the cracks i guess because they didn't expect to find me there but if you look you could have seen me peeking through the cracks hakurez baruch the passage says is peeking through the cracks he's watching us and if you develop this consciousness you can see him there now when you start to send sakuras in your life and it's a two-way relationship because you're talking to him and you feel like you're being heard and then you start to see things in your life that is in a reaction to that now when you get up to darwin the whole davening is completely different thing tefila is a different experience when you know the person that you're talking to is really there and really listening and that yeah it could be that what i'm gonna say is going to have a profound impact okay um we'll go to the question and answer section of the show anonymous asks can you please explain the whole concept around sota it can't really be about a couple having an affair and only the woman gets punished can it no no can't be [Laughter] next question [Laughter] so let's understand the concept um the the story of the sota does not exist in a vacuum right the husband sees that his wife is having an intimate relationship with bob i i have to say this because i got a question where someone says usually when you make up like a name you take harry rabinowitz you know is there any significance to it because that was my grandfather's name no i i'm not myth calvin for your um uh grandfather the reason one of my go-to names is harry rubinowicz is because of a joke that i heard when i was a kid where uh there was a um an appeal and this guy stands up and says aye harry rabinowitz of rabinowitz ladies we are located on orchard street this week we're having a special seller sale on skirts to hereby donate one million dollars anonymously [Laughter] so that name harry bennerwood stays there but my go-to names for um just people when i when i talk about a guy it's usually bob there's something about the name bob that i find so you know uh basically harmless hey there bob let's turn to our correspondent yes bob you know and for a girl my go-to name is susie yeah susie unless i'm dealing with more than one girl in which case it's um khanibani and shani [Laughter] anyway so uh so he sees that his wife is hanging around with bob and he says to his wife i'm not comfortable with you hanging around with bob he goes oh don't be silly we're just friends because i know but every now and then you lock yourself in a room with bob long enough in order to have relations and i gotta say i'm real uncomfortable with that and she's like oh pooh we're just playing othello anyway her husband brings over two witnesses and says i do not want you to lock yourself in a room with bob long enough to have relations now to my mind i don't think that's an unreasonable expectation you want to go with bob have a cappuccino i'm okay with that i'm not thrilled but okay but when the two of you lock yourself in a room i get a little edgy so sure enough two witnesses uh see her in a locked room locked they tried the door it's locked with bob long enough for them to be able to have relations at that point she is now forbidden to have her husband it's not just a jealous suspicion i told her in front of two witnesses not to lock herself up in a room with this guy and she did so that's it according to the torah at that point they're forbidden they have to get divorced parenthetically that's true today the husband says to his wife i don't want you locking yourself up in a room long enough to have relations with bob and she does and two witnesses testify they have to get divorced there's no way out so the woman protests her innocence nothing happened i tell you nothing happened he was showing me pictures of his children there was nothing here so we say listen lady you gotta admit you know you crossed some lines here she says i'll do anything to prove my innocence and they're like listen just get a divorce maybe marry bob get off your life says no no i am sure i'm innocent she has the option to go to the base of mcdush and drink this uh potion made up of of dirt and the name of god and water and if she wants if she wants she can drink it to prove her innocence and if she's innocent she'll be okay and if she's not innocent then she'll fall apart not fall apart like when you get bad news like literally fall apart you know pieces are going to stop falling off parenthetically the same thing will happen to bob bob also gets it yeah so at any time keep telling her you know you want to just drop out you could just drop out they keep giving her options to drop out you know but if she wants to prove her innocence the torah gives it and the way it's presented is that god allows his name to be erased into this water to try to make peace between a husband and a wife so um uh so is that the woman's getting punished we don't drag her in and force her to drink this stuff we say listen you know you have uh broken all moires in your marriage uh a woman who's locking herself up with a man who's not her husband long enough to have relations uh you know you could say it was just poor judgment but when the husband tells her specifically not to and she does at that point there is as we say regulateover there is a basis to this suspicion it's not just a jealous husband who's nervous he really is afraid that his wife is having an affair and uh and that is the concept of sota and like i say all goes up to her if she wants to say i don't need to take this i don't have to i don't have to be abused this way i'm i don't have to prove anything to you i'm going off on my way come with me bob do they get divorced and uh hey better luck the next time you know okay next question topher black asks is there a substantial difference in the ashkenazi good hectorium in israel or is it all politics oh my goodness [Laughter] well uncle dave's gonna get himself into a little trouble now i'm afraid uh i spoke to uh mashiach in uh earthshow and i said what's the best hashgrapher and he says for sure they owe you i said the oh you why he says because with the exception of the ou every hashikaka is a private hashgatcher which means someone's making money on it the orthodox union has a separate cash risk department that is run by professionals they don't get a bonus if they sign up a new company they don't make money if they do something that's new they're providing a service and it's being run by professionals and that what he says they don't do everything to the highest levels but whatever they do you know is trustworthy other hashgauges are privately run basically every other hush guard in america is privately run um people in the koshers field have said to me that the uh most reliable hashtag in the world is uh kj kahala dashi shorin because they yakis and they don't know from any any any stick like we did at the frankfurt anyway so they don't flow around and that's why a lot of the casual scandals in america were uncovered by kj because before they um will use any product they check it out personally to to check up on the other hashgauges and that's why they have found problems so back in the 1980s we had the famous vinegar scandal uh if anyone's old enough to remember the vinegar scandal there was one of the from hashgraphers that had a uh vinegar that came from france under it's hashgraph and um and all the from companies were using it because they trust each other except kadal kahal dasty sharon who don't trust anybody that's why there's an expression why you're being such a yucca that's where it comes from and so they called it the company in france and they said you know going into pesach does this vinegar um have any grain in it and they're like yeah sure so they stop and they say does it have any grape products in it and he says yeah sure he says uh is that kosher wine that you're using because no he says well what does the masjid say he says the supervising rabbi they said what's supervising rabbi the company called us up and asked if we would like to have a rabbinic certification they sent us a form we filled it out and they sent us a [Music] a certificate and we paid the money every month so it got out that this vinegar that everybody had been using was strife that's right and uh and there's a tremendous pressure to give hashgraph to things we read by blooming france that sells pesach guide which is still coming out even though he's not around um similar to there was this uh marshmallows that were coached for pesach that the rav had passed away and still had his hashgraph on it so i guess it was divine supervision anyway we answered to a higher authority but in any man um so if you go to the very blue machines guide which is still coming out here's a whole section on problems that exist in kosher hotels and the problems are extensive when i went for pesach to gateways so kahal that's why i i felt comfortable when i used to go to the granite bisman the masjid were all from and is about as imaginative as kawadashi sure now they've also also like this you know there's no little shtick involved yeah when i taught in derek i had two guys in my shirt who could not read hebrew who were mash kierkem in a famous peso hotel and they said to me listen listen we don't really know too much about cashews but me and i our friends we wouldn't eat there we went out and bought ourselves a frying pan and made ourselves eggs we wouldn't eat anything that was cooked in that kitchen this wasn't i'm not a big dog or anything but i could tell trey when i see it anyway the so so when you have a private institution yeah now here in israel we do better than that we take private institution and mix it together with politics so are there politics yes is it only politics no it's always an issue of conscious and therefore you have to see so sometimes it's politics what do i mean okay i didn't check out anything i'm about to say it could be everything i'm saying is sheker i'm just telling you that up front but this is not you know me already i just repeat what i hear right yeah so there was a bakery in brooklyn where evidently there's some difficulty between the satsuma and the bells so they got two hashgraphers one from southam one from bells so somebody opened up a bakery here uh it was in curate bells um it's near the osha art over there in uh and chef mahaden and they uh called moishis and they also wanted to get a ashkaka from bells and from satmar in this case it would mean the badass of the edgar reiders and and the bells hashtag and the badass said if you get abel's hashgraph we will not give you ashgarh and he says no no we'll buy everything that you want us to buy because if you have a bell we will not give yeah that's politics that's politics yeah um there was a hexa that was started by a heredi political party i don't know its status today but for a long time everyone knew it was unreliable and but it was sponsored by this political party why was it unreliable because they gave the positions out to uh people who had worked for the election campaign so you want to reward these people by giving them positions they gave them positions in their conscious organization they were not experts and cautious so sometimes the problems are politics but not just politics sometimes they're problems just to politics and sometimes they're problems of actual cautious and you have to know what and where and it is uh it is a minefield i spoke to one diane and he said to me i said what can you trust without any question and he said to me the reuben and that's why a lot of people trust the reuben hashgraph somebody told me that he was at a bar mitzvah of the son of one of his master and the guy who uh he gave the hashgracher to his factory he gave him an envelope ruben ran over and said give give it back to he says the bar mitzvah gift he says no no no i pay you he doesn't pay you you don't take any money from this man give him back the envelope so uh there was a reuben restaurant my son was there and one of the people from cashews walked in and everyone dropped what they were doing and backed away on the plane there's this tv show of this uh cooking show called chopped you know and when they say time's up everyone has to drop what they're doing move away from the table that's what it was like everyone dropped them doing move the wig [Laughter] he comes he's looking around my son says what's going on he goes oh you don't understand he came in here once he didn't like something he kicked everybody out of the store locked the store and wouldn't reopen until he was happy [Laughter] there was a hall that had a reuben hashgauge and uh the guy in charge told the masjid we don't have a party tomorrow another party tomorrow and uh it was suspicious you have to be suspicious if the muncie chicken uh debacle teaches us one thing it's that you when you're mashiach you've got to be suspicious so he stops in the next day and sure enough there's a party going on under the badass of the ada herreras i'm not saying it but this is not kosher i'm just telling you this was an exclusive reuben place so he called up somebody from the head office he came in walked into the guy's thing took down his ripped it up said you were no longer in the room and he says no no this is a separate but he says no problem no problem you want to be under badass beyond the dots he says but but i have people who booked parties they want ruben he goes tell them you're a crook and a liar and so you don't have reuben well i guess you could forge a certificate and put it up for them he's can't you reconsider he says call me in six months and i'll think about it [Laughter] so as one person said to me either everything's coach or everything's traif i i don't think that that's true but are there problems there are definitely problems because as bad as profit motive is um politics and profit motive is even worse so uh are there problems their problems caveat empire buyer beware ask questions yeah um things are uh things are difficult and if the new cartridge legislation that they want to pass gets passed it's going to be even worse okay well uh on that happy note that cheerful thought uh want to thank everybody for uh your 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