Forgotten Holiday (Pesach 2021 #3) (Ep. 131)

hi good morning welcome to the rabbi orlowski show special pesach calamoy edition so nice to be able to spend part of the yantiff together with you and uh we have a sponsor this week uh i will read what's written we are grateful and excited to be able to sponsor this episode in honor of the birth of our son abraham av may he grow to torah kopamasantovam and maybe even merit to be a guest one day on the raviolovsky show whichever episode is next available by ellie and rena grey big big mazel tub what a thrill it is a rare occasion i have had over the years tal medium i've had over the years but when one of them marries the other and i have a whole family there and now you know a uh a talmud grandson [Laughter] is a special special simcha uh i echo the sentiments that you should see only bracha and hatslacha and we would be delighted to have him on the podcast so uh so that's so nice so nice and uh what can i tell you a beautiful beautiful symphony um before i get started i want to share a story and this is a story that took place a whole bunch of years ago i used to write and um the uh i always looked to try to find something that would be a little bit novel this is the reason i eventually stopped writing because uh i didn't know how to churn out a column i have to be inspired i have the same problem with the podcast sometimes people notice that we fall behind on the podcast and that's because uh people who've actually come and watched the process are often surprised how when i sit down to the podcast i say well what what do you think i should talk about that's sometimes i have no idea and it's just sort of freestyle but that's much harder to do when you're writing writing has more of a sewer to it that's one of the reasons i i don't really write i haven't really you know written articles and things because it's easier for me to talk than it is for me to write i did write one book um which has not been published yet the last book you read before you assimilate and uh and in the book uh people who read it they say it sounds like you're talking which is the essence of what you want you want to capture uh the dialogue on the page not always easy right somewhat miraculous the russian sphere one said the aserus had di bryce they were written down but they were deborah they would debor etched in stone amazing concept but the the idea is to get it there's a process there's a process called marshava where you have an idea then you have to take that idea and put it into words once you do you limit it could be a tremendous thing once you put it into words becomes limited when you write that down on paper it becomes more limited to the point that you don't even own it anymore so the point is that uh you may not be able to say that's not what i meant yeah um when i wrote that because now it takes on a life of its own once it's written and even though uh nasi put out the mishna there were many bracers vishnayas so to speak that were written beforehand but they were never published uh there's a famous expression i forgot who said it first but not everything that's thought should be said not everything that's said should be written and not everything that's written should be published and uh that's that's definitely true so um so it's easier for me to talk than it is for me to write and uh one of the reasons i've gotten into more trouble for what i've said than from what i've written in fact when i was writing by column in hamadiya i have a whole file of started articles that i didn't finish because i decided it sounds too too trite to ordinary to ordinaire and i wanted to have a finish i wanted to say something not everyone gets hit with inspiration some people are inspired all the time i have to be inspired you know to be able to write something that's going to be uh meaningful but um i wrote a column about children's and in it i happen to uh give a special mention to the late shmuel kundan kunda who of course wrote recorded many many cassettes the most famous of them is the when zadie was young series and it was amazing that when we would play though when zadie is young uh when zadie was young yeah everybody enjoyed it the little children the older children it was funny it was interesting it was an amazing thing that's an amazing thing and i i spoke about this um now small kunda at the time was a world-class individual he was well known throughout uh throughout clay yourself for his many many works he called me up to thank me from speaking about him he said i got a copy and i brought it over to my mother that she should have knacks now at the time i was an obscure calmness i mean i wasn't you know that well known at the time and he was so moved and he was so touched by it that it just made such an impression on me that we forget the power of a nice word uh he later dropped off all of his cassettes uh had his son drop off of his cassettes which wasn't necessary but was definitely appreciated magic yamaka you know we had a we had a lot of fun [Laughter] but it was amazing to me it was a double push it that of course he knows how much he's appreciated and yet uh that doesn't always go you know very often when people say it goes without saying it doesn't really go without saying so that brings me to a letter that i received recently that i will read to you lord rabbi yolovsky that's me you know how life sometimes has those before and after moments moments that will stay with you forever and terribly transforming the person you are to become that's pretty heavy stuff that was just what happened when a friend's email floated into our inboxes last week innocently titled listen to this year check out the 8 30 mark and to our shock and greatest glee we heard those words immortalized on tour any time that would stay with us forever riolovsky reads the kickles and likes them he says to the greatest source of insight into from society those words are going to stay with you forever [Laughter] you know there was uh this woman comedian who once wrote a song called the mom's song and um it's set to the william tell overture and it's what um you know what a mom says in the course of a day you know um get your story straight and get uh get your story straight and tell the truth for once for goodness sake and uh for your friends jumped off the bridge would you jump too it's just all the things that the mom says you know i mean yeah stop crying or i'll give you something real to cry about oh that's like it's very funny anyway she made a follow-up video to it she said you know you think about life and if i had known how many people were going to watch that video i would have made an effort to sing a lot better you know we say things and we don't appreciate them i i've said this word before but but i think it's it's so beautiful everyone knows the ghazal if rouvey know that the torah said that he saved joseph he would have carried him back on his shoulders to his father if arun would have known that it says that uh uh he went out to meet moshe and he was happy in his heart he would have brought a band if boaz knew that the torah would mention that he gave a suda to russ he would give him a sudo like so what does that mean they didn't know no so i told this void over from her left reset left the rubber from he says because we're always saying and doing things but we don't understand which of them have cosmic consequences you know what you do that that's going to make an impact i gave a share on the topic of platonic relationships uh 25 years ago i cannot tell you how many people i have met who told me that banshee you know changed their lives that they they they ended unhealthy relationships and you know and all kinds of under the things that came out of that i just came in and i spoke i didn't really think about it you know these words will stay with us forever now until that year we would have said that the greatest insane from society it's foibles and flaws it's quirks and community these are people who know how to write [Laughter] was it rob ryolovsky sheer podcast but who are we to argue with such an august personality certainly not in march seriously thank you for the incredibly affirming pinterest this is real compliment which made our week we were thrilled to hear that you like the kickles and hope that you enjoy this collection of our strips and they sent us a copy of let's see if we can get it in there yikes jump with my uh the kickle collection and uh it uh it's really great i didn't expect to receive a response frankly because to my mind the kettles are you know i know everybody reads the kisses you know much more than listen to the raviolovsky podcast you know and uh you know and i certainly didn't expect to get such uh such praise and it's only not a free book and i do want to take a moment to tell the lexus people how much i appreciate your product and i really am impressed by your car and i think it does a lot of wonderful things for the world okay so uh i do want to say the following though and i think the only thing that would be appropriate at this point would be for me uh to make a guest appearance in the keckle comic strip i think you should think about including me in a future one and you think to yourself could roberolowski possibly be a cartoon character and the answer is yes this is me i appear in the torah live videos which is a combination of live action and cartoon this is supposed to be me rabbi sitter and uh really very exciting so just throw that your way [Laughter] so uh how you work that in is your own business anyway so i really just had to uh had to do that little bit of business which brings us to the topic of today which is quite appropriately and uh the uh um the last kickles in the last issue dealt with all kinds of different issues uh relating to peggy zachman of course is the kalamoyi trip that was the chart this is you know what's the most popular thing arguing about what we're going to do today [Laughter] correct amundo but i want to talk about something slightly different and as you know starting uh the shabbos after pesach we begin to learn pirkiyavos so i want to quote a mishna from turkey elbows and you embarrass the holidays and you embarrass someone in public and you teach the wrong message that the torah is trying to give avo yodai torah or masen toivim even though you have torah and mass and taivin there's no place in the world to come now before i go into why this is what aspect of it you're taking away et cetera but let's take a moment the the countryman the base of mikdash that we understand very seriously everyone knows that you embarrass somebody in public don't have a brisk meela one of the two assays that you're high of courage by the blood you will live the blood of the carbon pesach and the blood of the bruce milah the only two assay mitzvah i say that you are high of curies if you don't fulfill and mavaza is says the bharatanura like weekdays do you understand what this mission is telling us is that a person who is [Applause] astounding so i wanted to get on my soapbox just for a little bit during this uh particular homeowner and uh i start by wedding doing what i always do which is going into the past i spent a lot of time in the past now it's easier to try to you know remember the future and i just can't watch i i just i can't watch any news or listen to the news anymore it's so depressing in this country in america and every place you listen it's just ah you just get sick just sickening you know but um but you know uh so you go back to the past the old days the good old days yeah there's an amazing thing when when donald trump said make america great again people say oh it's racist he wants a white country without any blacks that's not what he means he means let's go back to a time when people were proud to be americans where you didn't have to apologize for for who we are and what we've accomplished and everything that we've done and etc etc but uh but there was somebody said was nostalgia is not what it used to be [Laughter] but uh you know there was a time when you when you you look back to remember i'm still old enough to remember people crying on tisha not from a holocaust film just saying the guinness they were deeply moved i still remember people you know doing things with the with the with the old spirit of what the midst was supposed to be and i remember colomboid as a kid as a kid if you were a firm jew i'm calmod you wish i was close oh when you wear a dress shirt you wear tight you know and that's how you went about obviously if you were going to go swimming you loosened your tie obviously obviously you're going to go to you know you put on sneakers you know but there was a surah now the truth matter is um i still remember khala maui used to go around and visit your rebellion there's a kadali torah their home was opened their sukkah was open on sukkos their home was open on facebook there was a there was a special madrega there was something special that used to feel it and uh there was a time when in sukkahs people spent sukkahs in their sukkah and then they came up to you lim you have to go off until take the kids so the kids are little okay so you have to keep going way up to your limb and you know when my kids were little i said you know i suckers i don't think i spent any time in my soccer running around doing trips doing all kinds of other things but uh you still have to keep a tour it has to look like yamcha it's still supposed to be a moed and the way people talk and the way people act the way the the way people behave it should have a yunta thicker feel to it you go through the gemara and it discusses what you're allowed to do how you allowed to do it what kind of a shenoy you can do it's uh major things major things because you go into colombo and homoid has to have the kedusha of a young tiff okay we're allowed to do certain things but but you understand there's the difference between saying it's whole and we say yeah and saying it's it's a young and we're allowed to do certain things just like on yandeff as opposed to shabbos you're allowed to cook you're allowed to do certain melakas so you're allowed to do some more malafa's but not to the point that it loses its surah so he says it's not weekday what does that mean it means you sit down and you have a sudah and and you wash i talked about this years ago i think maybe months ago it could have been yesterday i don't remember anymore but uh my father of the shalom would never sit down to a meal without bread my father-in-law was jealous your titus calamari pesa would never sit down to a meal without bread it's unheard of so repelling who's the revolutionary zedek hospital he told me years ago he went to memphis yoshi and he asked him what broccoli do you make on schnitzel now i mentioned schnitzel as opposed to a chicken chicken cutlets obviously chicken cutlet is a piece of chicken that is egged and battered and lightly fried on both sides now if you were to take that chicken covered and beat it with a mallet until it was four times its original size and then soak it in oil until the point that you could put in a wick and recreate the chanukah miracle and then you put a crust of breading on top of it to the point where you see sometimes if you pull up all the breading there's this tiny little piece of chicken left yeah um so what broccoli do you make on it if it's mostly breading or if you make a zionist shackle so he went there scribble the ocean what brother do you make internet so he says i don't know what's a schnitzel so he went to the rabbits in a repellant and he says you never gave the rubber schnitzel he said tell me what he had for lunch he says oh i never thought about it because you always wash and make a mozzie who would just sit down and eat a schnitzel so there was a tsura that you would sit down and have a uh but especially on yandere and ya is supposed to be like shabbos says when when you see alcohol moed the way somebody dresses the way somebody talks the way somebody eats the way somebody behaves it should look like young death now things have changed i lived here in that show when i came over 30 years ago calamari you couldn't buy anything everything was closed you couldn't you there was no my color open there was no supermarket open there was nothing was open whatever you needed for the interview you bought beforehand you stored it up and that was it okay today a lot of stores are open it's not the same thing at all yeah it's sort of like uh back in america they used to have what was called the sunday blue lords you weren't allowed to have anything open on sunday i remember on sunday you couldn't get anything everything was closed you'd search around to try to find a deli or something that was open where you could pick up uh you know milk or bread or or something but for the most part everything was closed on something um that's what it was like here couldn't find anything open i remember that was one of my big shocks when i moved there so i lived in for rockaway i don't know if it's still around i doubted i'm here over 30 years but there was this store called big banana and no matter how close to shabbos it was you could always run out pick up anything you were short like uh some uh fruits and vegetables or you were short you know some uh quick groceries that you had to fill in you could always run out to big banana pick it up you know um uh you know i was i was i was in america i mean the kosher supermarkets closed the place an hour before shoppers here by one o'clock in the afternoon everything's closed you can find one might call it over here or one store over there that might still be open but for the most part country closes down it's it's a different way of looking at eric shabbas and the same thing uh colombo everything used to be closed because you felt it was a young death so what did people do they went visiting you visited friends you visited relatives you visited rebellion that's what you did you know well the bachelor wanted to go on the deal so that's what business modem was for that is modern you go out you go hiking you go swimming but uh so what would they do is uh they would uh here nerds you know you go to um uh you go to the zoo that's packed packed backpack back there you can even you know the animals are hiding inside it the they're traumatized with the crowds you go to god yeshua yeah thousands of all dressed in the shop is best making a barbecue [Laughter] you know you you get together with the family and you do something and this idea of yeah we have to have to do something to do something that says a lot about us you know that that we just can't enjoy everybody uh i have i've emailed now uh i produced some funnel when he uh set up my website so he also sent me a facebook page so uh i'm facebook page but i you know i don't really know it i i i opened it up under a different name so that like you know yeah you you i don't really have a page you could you could do something on the ravioli page but it's not it's not under my name um but uh i used to get these emails i don't know if they still do these get emails from some people they would say so and so wants to friend you so what does that mean they want to be your friend i said oh okay tell me give me a call go out for a cup of coffee you know and we'll talk you know i'm always happy to have another meaningful relationship they said no no they want to add you to their list of 300 friends so you can see their uh private pictures i said it's okay i already have enough friends like that those kind of friends i don't need yeah i said but to have a relationship we get together i i may have mentioned this recently i feel like i did but it was an interview with jerry seinfeld who at one time at the number one uh sitcom in america and uh they said to him could you make that show today he says no because the show involved people getting together why would anyone get together today you just text somebody or what's up them or message them why should people ever see each other ever get together i mean this is one of the worst things that came about from this whole pandemic is the fact that people just don't get together anymore my da viomi shir that i used to give in person has been on zoom now for almost a year and i'm trying you know after scholar myself and start going back to in person someone said will the zoom continue i said yeah then we'll continue but you can't compare it to when you have actual people sitting together yeah you can't make a virtual minion and sometimes you see a million people like governing from their smartphone so i said you know you could probably program it just to dive in for you you know so you don't even have to down so the guy says no i need a minion i said no problem beforehand haven't called nine other iphones they could all dab it together in fact you could put it on vibrates a little shuckle [Laughter] oh yeah yeah in america these have the big great adventure day and you'd say there was some people who came dressed for uh you know for uh homo eight some people came to us for being as matter most of the time you saw them dressed for the winter with a parker it was always freezing and great adventure you know you know mostly you would make your way to the kosher pavilion but you could you know well you could buy a coach of frankfurt for 35 dollars and uh you know coaching pays off coke for like you know a little bag of potato chips you know about this big you know for 15 you know and that was the highlight [Laughter] when the winds are blowing and it's raining you know to be in some you know machine swinging you around upside down 100 miles an hour it's not exactly the most exciting experience i again teach their own you know my granddaughter told me she says zadie what should i do that i'm always bored i said well do what i did get add then you can be any place you want you're never limited by anything you could just have fun all by yourself yeah wife looks at me sometimes and she says you know what's so funny about it nothing nothing no no tell me okay let's go down the rabbit hole because it's going to be pretty complicated i have gone far broad and far about but uh imagination imagination used to be such a great thing you know my father oversong used to say you could go buy your kid the the greatest toy you'd have more fun playing with the box his imagination there used to be this uh series of short films called the little rascals and hal roach who developed it he says he was looking out his window and he saw a bunch of kids sitting there fighting over some stick that they found so at the end of the day they'll toss it down and walk away they don't care about it but that moment it becomes the most important thing to him and he says that's what i wanted to try to capture that essence you know how people could have fun just by being together and i have to go and do things i mentioned this back when i was talking about my shidduchim series that uh you know here in earth's shell basically you go to a hotel lounge and you uh kind of drink and you sit and talk and then the next date you go to another one another one you keep this doing until you get married and then you stay at home and you drink tea and you know die die coke and have the same conversations it's not so lonely as it used to be because i got my wife and seven kids along with me but uh you know but in america i told you this i had a ton but it was he says you have to do activities you have to go uh archery you know go-karting you know it's like you know it's like they're not looking for a husband looking for camp director you know what i mean to uh to make activities you know anyway be that as it may uh i just wanted to to take a moment to reflect on the fact that as so many of other things have slipped away so is hallo maui is a melodies says the tenure yeah that means holy moly when we do malach that we're not allowed to do it's not wow that's harsh so i encourage everybody with what's left of alcohol maui make it meaningful yeah take that opportunity to turn it into a yantif where you're allowed to do things instead of a hole where you just say yellow viable and eat matzah and that's what i wanted to talk about this week as we uh finish up our pesach program uh podcast and that's it if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website every alaska.com you can make a comment send an email sponsor an episode and uh um and that's it that's it i have to go now and have my sudah this is davidolowski it's the rabbi orlovsky show torah [Music] knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun in every episode and we don't have to rhyme no it's the rabbi orlovsky show on rabbi orlovsky.com torah anytime youtube and more it's rabbi orlowski show [Music] torah show till next time till we meet again 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