Episode 11: A Life Complete

[Music] hi my name is Deborah Orlowski and welcome to once again the governor illowsky show brought to you each week through the magic of technology which allows me to come in to wherever you are and not saying that then we're able to watch you through you a smart device but who knows and it's amazing where these things go I just got an email from someone in South America who says he really can't get too touristy erm and he listens to this I'm so sorry for you but if this is what you got well then let's make the best of it that's it and this is a little out of I have to it a little out of order here this is episode 11 and it's gonna be parshas while your PE but we're recording a little earlier but i'm going to be this Shabbos and the agora of madison by Reisman and I remember Reisman he had a fellow who had not yet converted who was coming to his na'vi ship so he says why are you coming to the na'vi sure you know so he says well because I haven't converted yet and I'm only allowed to enter a Saab so he says but we also talk about other things turbo pet he says that's your problem that's not my problem so if you're looking at this because you want to really intense half an hour of Torah content oh you gotta go checking and tour anytime for a bunch of other people who have a lot more content than I do but mine is for sure more fun and whether you're watching on tour anytime , YouTube or iTunes or anywhere that you listen to podcasts we're happy to have you if you are listening if you are watching so however you happen to be seeing this and enjoying this thank you for listening thank you for watching and thank you for the tremendous support that you have shown for this program there's a rhythm I have always felt the safer asia's we start precious nya lake lacar voracious all of those first party shows are really at the beginning of the autumn we finished with early home Narayan we finished with circus we finished with simplest IRA we finished with all of our celebrations and now it's autumn and and when I see those first partials I always feel it's or tum no you can sort of feel it and we start to move slowly from the autumn into Chanukah into the beginning of the winter that that whole process begins and by the time we reach braces right at the end of say veracious partially it's coming to an end and we know that seifish MOS is already the winter and the fact that those parties come out in the winter is because it's when it's cold and when it's dark that's Gullah s-- that's what we do yeah and so there's a there's a feeling that the feeling that that we're moving into it and safe operations like I say it has a certain rhythm to it when it comes to by your feet you know we're at the end of this and for the benefit of those of you who are listening in the southern hemisphere just turn everything upside down what I just said because it probably gets more and more hot into the winter into the summer and the days get longer I have no idea yeah I did speak in Australia some years ago took me 20 hours to get there from Eric's show I remember I started off by saying you know there's an old story about a ruff who used to give a dresser every Shabbos morning 15 minutes in one week he gets up and he gives it for a half an hour everybody was surprised they said ruff what happened he goes what do you mean you spoke for him for now and he goes I did I didn't realize nice is because I always prepare my Russia on the way to show I used to live 15 minutes away and I moved now a half an hour away so I must have had more time to prepare so I began by saying it took me 20 hours to get here I have been preparing this dresser for the past 20 hours I hope you have no place to go but in any event that's the rhythm and now we finish with safe aberration and the theme of safe veracious is clearly the end the end micelle of a similar Barnum I mean safe aberration everything that you want is in safe aberration as robbery our Etan coined the phrase I assume it's his phrase but he was he was very good at a turn of a phrase he says Jewish history is Jewish destiny like that one yeah it means that if we look over the history we look through safe operations you can find what's going to happen in the end and in the end yeah Covino dies and his brought to Israel to be buried Yosef hatzadik dies and is buried in MIT's or I am and you turn to the haftorah and we hear about the death of David amela and so you're finding a theme here in via P there's a there's a certain there's a certain point where in these things are coming to an end the Ramban says where is the mice of a similar Bor name of Messiah and he says because when ya Covino returns to her cell he's dead and that's what's going to be be most mushiya clio so is going to be dead so I think we're just about there now the public Guardian says famous kamorin kiddin which is the Tito's stuck his sword into the Perot cos and blood came out so why was his I heard to that mace to be able to see such a thing he said I killed God you know the answer is because that miracle was for us says the grub to teach us that we died it according bias training we died and over the past two thousand years our body has been hiding away until there's nothing left but dry bones so a messiah comes it's going to be a resurrection it's gonna be at the PS a-- Mason we're gonna have to come back to life pretty dramatic insight the reason this is particularly poignant for me is because I would like to share a personal experience that's also a public experience sometimes they they coalesce I want to note the passing of robbery Moshe Guardsman who was the Dean of the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County for many years now so to appreciate this and put this into perspective yeah when relationship hero that Sal was an iftar they were there were gatherings to give Hess paid them under my show and I didn't attend any of them I'll take the truth I didn't end any of them now bear in mind I had this quiz to go to she referred Moshe Shapiro's for over 10 years there are those who call me a Talmud I don't and neither did remind you I'm gonna go on record with that you know there was one time when something came up you know and I had was trying to explain something that Ramona had said and I I got into a lot of trouble with people who were not happy with formation and they were taking it out of me you know and I said to admire I said I told them you're angry at the King and you want to kill the jester you don't I mean I said do you really think information Shapiro wanted to get a message out to the world he would choose that guy sitting in the fourth row taking notes who doesn't really follow so much what's going on and romesha I was hoping would say ribbed of it don't be ridiculous you know you're one of my closest tell me them what he actually said was in English it's really pretty funny that was definitely not what I was hoping for but it certainly there was a confirmation there and what they already believed so when people were giving speeches you have to understand that I went to haschke fashi room by red mushy Shapiro not only that but there was never a time in my life that I had a major life decision or crisis that I had to deal with that read Moshe did not make time to see me and to speak to me or to speak to my children discuss whatever the issues were now I know for a fact that there were thousands of people who considered him their Rebbe but maybe move on would contend with questions with things and there was never a time when I told him I have to speak to you and I didn't use it lightly I have to speak to you that within 24 hours he didn't make time for me having said that and I went to the hush goofus room you know is my shove assume there were people who only went to his room and Tyrus he I was tremendous time Holcomb after his his daughter passed away used to give Sherman Tyrus BB used to go just just to his tie Reshiram so when they had all these different has Spade them I didn't go I didn't go because I had a personal relationship with Russia there were people like I said who would only go to him for special things for I don't Ella told me that he used to speak to remeasure only about kind of matters you know you know every tell is not like me he is very question for because he's very question of person you know and he decided once he'd go to Ramesh's Thursday nights here in the parish a you know which was my show and every tell is very tall and romesha it was not and he sees kind of teller there and he grabs him by his beard and pulls him down and says what are you doing here I'm very sorry won't happen again he says I spoke to him is better yeah he was very involved in the bow humor movement and with Bali tuvo who were very close to him yeah and he was involved in a lot of these organizations and things that he's to go up to Europe to Russia for Pesach to go to work with people but I had my own relationship with him and I didn't want my experience filtered through the lens of other people and people had a personal experience about if I was going to hear about a gutta that I didn't have cyclist do you know you listen you hear different people's perspective but I had my own perspective you know I he was a part of my life and that's how I remember him and that's how I said somebody once asked me to speak about red my shirt and and I said I can only share my own personal remembrances I didn't do any research I didn't look up and where he came from I can tell you about my experience of emotion well over a decade but but it was very personal that's very personal the Hebrew Academy in Nassau County changed the face of the world and I'm not saying that lightly I I grew up in Long Island during the time when there was nothing there by Maya Fidel who was a man of incredible vision and they will talk about him another time but he came out and he started he were giving us a County and he brought in every guy to summon early on by the time I came time I was a student when I started in 1964 every guy didn't was already and eventually every fendall made a yacht he moved there so and very God has been took over Hank and continued continued division there was a study in contrasts - del was a person who was cool Atari was cool time so he learned he spoke and Tigerettes that was it regardez Minh was a person who knew how to help you enjoy not just either sky but life itself he was a person who was filled with life now I have to give you my own perspective I mean my own perspective because there are there are people who like I say will know where every Guardsman as being the Dean of Hank oh they'll speak about his education they'll speak about his impact etc but regardez Minh became friends of our family when I say friends of my family I mean that when my father passed away over 20 years ago our God hasn't spoke at his l'viyah and said this was my you did Yod the biade I lost my friend today and he meant it absolute terms when my father had his heart attack you know he he never fully recovered and our guys when comes into the hospital room and he says you know he says I had a heart attack I recovered watch and he hits the ground and he starts doing push-ups yeah and he says says to my father you'll do this too he never did but but that was what he was and in fact I remember when my father had his heart attack 80% of his heart muscle was destroyed he was in really bad shape and the doctors told my family listen he needs an emergency triple bypass but he has to stabilize first and he's not going to you know he's not gonna make it so if they do the operation he'll die on the table so say you goodbyes and my family was a wreck and we guys Minh came in and he says who's that doctor he's not God he doesn't decide these things that Coach Brown equipped besides these things he's gonna have the operation he's gonna survive I flew in from Eric's show and I got there after the operation was over the cardiologist was standing outside of my father's hospital room shaking his head and I worked I came in early in the morning I'd landed I rented a car in shade to the hospital I said what's the story it's a miracle we were sure he was gonna die on the table we couldn't find a surgeon to do the operation because the top surgeons are top surgeons because people don't die and the reason they don't die is because they don't operate on anyone who might die you want to be very safe or as Mark Twain once said a banker is somebody who lends you his umbrella and asks for it back when it starts to rain you know so top surgeons they don't want to take a chance of operating on anybody who's in dangerous situation every guy's been said I'll find somebody and he helped the family find a doctor and and my father survived for number several several number of years but he was always there he was there at every simcha he was there at every at every tragedy he was always there it'll be two years in schrott in another month it'll be two years two and a month and a half since my mother passed away and her guys when was erick now well but somebody told him that my mother passed away and they said he started crying my father passed away and for the next 20 years the regattas when used to come every week and have lunch with my mother and she would make soup for him and they would have soup and they would talk and that was my mother's that was my mother's whole week she waited for a gazmin to come she he would tell her stories about what he was involved in what was going on and my mother used to say guys I I think he's telling me the same stories but I don't remember them I said mom that's why you were always a great audience yeah he would come and he would sit with them and and and reverencing got his man and is was our family it was it was something more it was something more than just an educator he became a part of your life and and he wanted the kids to be happy he wanted the kids to have fun I never forget one time when they brought in one of those roller skating vans I don't know if you remember these I'm even know if they still have them but I mean when I went to sleepaway camp so they would have a realist getting night this big van would pull up with roller skates and everybody would get roller skates and he'd go into the gym and you skate around and that was your roller skating rink he did this once and hang and he had his skates on and he was running around just you know with everybody else I remember well we would have baseball games with other with other schools he was leading the chance he was really the cheers yeah it was it was there was something that was so special and it it brings home the point that since the Gemara the end of tiniest it says that Colts either get sadiq will make a circle the coach Burkle in the middle yeah and that's gonna be Messiah where we left the revolution my vizio likes to say the Gemara at the end of Thainess and if we understand this it'll be the end of tynus yeah the tsadikim form a circle which means the guy who is on this side is 180 degrees away from the guys over here they're on opposite sides but there's got to be somebody who's there to you know make sure that there's seder and the people were learning and the people appreciate Tyra and you know the the vision yeah George Bush Senior passed away recently and I remember when he was running you always used to say I have a problem with the vision thing you know I didn't have a vision he was good at running things and making sure things took place and you know handling things I never vision there were certain people who were visionaries and for sure - Dell was a visionary regardez Minh knew how to be able to take that vision and make it you know something that was that was fun and with enjoyable it's exciting for the people who were involved said he came I I am Nick grew actually I feel with me sauce and Nick real high Siddiq him even when they're dead they called the life because everything that they do continues on in this world regime even when they're alive they're called dead yeah never but a but a person who is alive these kind of people make contributions to the world and they're able to there's a there's a there's a powerful gamar powerful kumar that says if you don't mourn the passing of its sadiq than small children died sounds sounds terrible so sensibly so salon to why does that happen what's the what's the cause and effect because when somebody dies it's a tragedy Ella what you hold it's not a tragedy life is hard life is difficult and listen he's in a better place not suffering you know you see this very often with older people when all the people pass away you know they say alright listen you know he lived long life he was sick already you know it's enough when I use do questions and answers you know so somebody would ask to me how do you explain the death of a small child I said inherent in that question is you have no problem with the death of an older person so you don't mind if people died they just to be at an age that you're comfortable with how old 16 so okay if they go at six 280 yeah I imagine the 80 year old might be you know less inclined to go you know even though you were okay with it you could tap him on the shoulder and say listen philosophically I'm okay if you died tomorrow I just want you to know that you won't you won't cause any difficulties from me every every death of the tragedy right it should be if a death is not a tragedy than you know what you're saying life is a tragedy and boy Hashem Hashem he's moved on to a better place he doesn't have to suffer anymore you know you get older there's pains and things are difficult things are hard you know and and people wake up in the morning you know so they passed away they say all right listen he was in pain he was suffering it just as well just as well when when it's Sadiq dies whose life was a work of art as it says tsadikim are not affected by the age of Gehenna because there H in this world what does that mean there H in this world that means there could be air and if it's blowing it's wind there could be water and if it's moving it's a wave there's fire and a fire isn't burning it's called wood it just exists in potential tsadikim didn't exist in potential they existed the poyo they were kinetic energy they were moving in this world they were accomplishing so if you treat the death of a special person the same way you do as an ordinary person and you're saying I don't care how you live your life life's a curse so a small child who dies he was protected he was saved from having to go through these many years of suffering yeah and that's that's the tragedy when when a life goes by that was exceptional you know and one of the things they used to say above every guy's 'men you know is that he looked for every kid there was no there was no such a thing as we can't deal with this kid I have to tell you this was an exception there are very few educators today who are like this who say every Jewish deserves a Jewish education regardless of if they have learning disabilities if they're they misbehave there's a problem you know when I was in in Hank there was this kid who was who was a real troublemaker everybody know he was atomic have a guy's been told this story over to my parents that's how I know this thing so one time every guy's man was using the bathroom facilities and this kid was in the bath bathroom trying to sell a screwdriver to another kid so the kid says well how do I know it's a good screwdriver he says here I'll take the door or from the store and he starts unstuck it says there might be somebody in there so he sticks his head under the door and he says oh I remember guys man now you know in some schools that kid might not have continued but three guys man it was a funny story you know I mean I'm gonna throw a kid out and he would he used to sell you'd have fights with the board I wouldn't fight because I want to keep every kid and there were kids who he held on to who went on to live really special lives because somebody was able to look at them and be able to see beyond so when somebody like our guys went passes away to my mind yeah it requires us to stop and think I was you know kid from from Long Island you know a pathetic background you know and he was also the tour director and Steph Emmett and he convinced my parents to take mr. Hyman wow what a culture shock you know I mean you know I was with these kids who were like really intensely from my counselor was a sad to mikasa you know it's to wake us up in the morning girls you didn't evolve well I thought it was in a one of those war movies [Laughter] we have your thanks for lineup you know and I got exposed to so many different things things that I never would have seen experienced it was it was somebody was so special yeah Irish ire Cohen he was the learning director you know it was it was something I really got to say went for two years I can tell you the fact that I've been living now in aerotrevel for 30 years I just celebrated at the end of August 30 years and I'm here has something to do with the fact that every guys been brought meat Eric's shell for two summers gave me a chance to be able to appreciate it so in a whole different level yeah in a way that I wouldn't have otherwise so we have to look at a life a life that was meaningful and a life that changed in life that did things in this world and it has to inspire us not to be ordinary not to be like everybody else or somebody said to me went to one of these things where they made speeches or everybody should borough and he told me he says it was chic uppity a Hebrew word that's like it was ordinary it was it was you know it was filling the gut 'l could say this about anybody and romesha shapiro was not like anybody else and relationship goddess man was not like anybody else yeah when you when you say the last words on a yakima v no double amela obviously there was one Dovid amount of those one yahoo every no but every single person famous for Busha i'm not worried what am I gonna do when I got a Scirocco asked me why I wasn't moshe of boehner i'll say because i wasn't on the level of moisture be no i didn't have the claim as a mushroom you know but what am I gonna do when he asked me why was in Azusa you don't have to be the best you have to be the best you Markova sober hola Murray what is your obligation in this world says the missile so Sherman every person has to look at the reality that they're in and figure out how to make that their best world so those are some thoughts as we reach the end of safe aberration and if you want to find out more about the rebbe Orlovsky show you can go to a real ASCII that cop slash podcast if you want to make a comment specifically on today's episode you can go to reveal ask you that calm slash podcast slash 11 if you want to about any upcoming events that are scheduled to go to rebel Alaska datacom slash advance and if you would like to contact Ravi Olaf ski who is not beyond speaking of himself in the third person he can be reached by regular ask you that come slash contact have a beautiful Shabbos have a great week and we'll see you next time [Music] you