Adar - A Month Of Sadness (Ep. 273)

[Music] [Laughter] hi this is dski and welcome to the other edition of the rabbi orlovski show and whether you're watching with our friends over at tney time whever you watch and listen to your podcast I hope you have a happy PM a happy ad and your life filled with Sim and don't forget to like Bim share Bim subscribe and comment Bim yeah hopefully something nice okay and we have a Sima sponsor for this week sponsored anonymously in honor of you thank you and all you do for CLA Israel may this sponsorship be Aus for you your listeners and all of clly Israel thank you so much for those warm wishes and warm ideas um you know I uh I occasionally have a studio audience sometimes we get a a lot of people sometimes we only get a few people sometimes we get only one person and I do what I often do before I do a podcast I say what should I talk about I'm doing this for a bunch of years already you know I know it seems like I just can keep talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and the fact I can but I um I usually need a starting point in fact one time when my children decided to take me out to a nice restaurant for my birthday so they decided to play a game and they had three piles of different you know kind of subjects and things that they had to mix and match and then you had uh 30 seconds to look at it and give a speech on it for two minutes I never had a problem I found plenty of ways of tying them all together and uh some of them they were actually pretty impressed yeah so uh I was paying for dinner what's the big deal anyway so um you better be impressed but uh but the uh the idea is that uh you know if I have an idea so um so sometimes people give me an idea and I do that right on the spot you know so uh I remember back in the day when producer M was in charge I would always say what should I talk about he like I don't know I gu my wife on the way what should I talk about I don't know yeah so uh there was somebody who was visiting he says well this is the first one of the new season talk about Beginnings I said okay let's go so uh so we had somebody who had our studio audience recently and I said what should I talk about and she suggested talking about Sim when I said I think I talk about sim a lot but I guess you can never talk about it too much especially today and uh I figured it was a good topic but I would save it for because as say which uh led a good friend of mine I don't know if he wants me to quote him the truth is because you know he's since gone on to become a very you know I don't know if he wants to wants me to mention all the funny things that he said because he was a very funny guy um so uh it probably still is but you know when you become a big time you have to like hide those things so so I M Shapiro who was hysterically funny but he worked very hard to keep it under control you know I remember when I first signed up for the when somebody was trying to get me into the shear so he says listen I have a friend dski he's apparently he had just been in London to speak in the j e and uh they had a post up for me so he mentions who Hab and goes K Kane is the funniest Rabbi in the [Laughter] world and the guy told it over to me I said was he making fun he goes no he was jealous because he thinks he's the funniest Rabbi in the world and he really is he was he was a master joke teller he was very funny he worked very hard to keep it under control you could see he worked very hard to to to to keep up the the level of year but he has a a fabulous sense sense of humor he would love to share jokes so um so I don't know if he wants to say this but he used to say that UMES is the saddest day on the Jewish calendar why because it says when a comes we lessen our but it doesn't say when to stop so you just gets sadder and sadder through the entire year through El through Tish yeah through through uh through T through and then finally when you get to R when you're as sad as you can possibly be now you start getting happy and so you have to build yourself all the way up into the happiest day of the year is because then just told to start limiting it clever clever Insight but um um the uh the idea of entering and being understand this um when uh used to point this out in the me inos every now and then there's a m [Music] sh you know all these things M Limited says what does that mean that means you're supposed to have it just not to an excess which means we're always supposed to be happy only now we're supposed to be Mar in the Sim that we already have but we have to be happy and this is such an important point because so many people are not happy you have to be happy um I can't tell you how many times people come up to me and say oh rowski you know I'm I'm you know I'm really down can you tell me a joke now as a rule I I don't really tell I have a few jokes that I do tell but for the most part I don't have too many jokes that's not what I really do I I say things in a funny way know when I'm speaking I can get up and just say good evening and I get a laugh you know that of itself is not really very funny what makes it funny is the fact that I'm saying it so I have a certain base level of credibility that people know he's funny so whether what he said was funny or not there are times that I'll just ask a Kasha and people start laughing from the way I present the Kasha I build it up that itself is funny so um uh so I don't really tell jokes per se I have a few jokes that I tell but people who watch my podcast know them so I just recently had the opportunity to be with a family and sure enough one of the kids say he tell a joke and uh and someone else says but we've heard all your all of your recordings so we know all of your jokes I said but you never heard my parrot [Laughter] jokes I have a rather unusual collection of par jokes I don't know if I can remember them all right on the spot but you know there was this parrot that was in the window of a pet shop and this woman would walk by every day and the parrot would go hey lady you're ugly says that's enough every day the par would say hey lady you're ugly finally one day she had enough she goes into the pet store and says I'm not going to be abused by this this parrot if if he says that to me one more time I'm going to sue you I'm going to bring a lawsuit and me anguish don't think this so the pet owner says to the to the parrot listen you better uh you better knock it off you know or you know say going to go to that big uh big parrot cage in the sky so the next day the lady's walking down the street and the parot goes hey lady she walks up to window and says what you know there was a cousin and is getting ready for yum Kipper just getting ready for yum Kipper and um and he was um he was practicing his conid he goes to sleep and he hears his voice downstairs going now sometimes he uh he would tape himself thought maybe he left the recorder on he goes down the recorder is off goes back upstairs he hears it again [Music] [Applause] goes this is to much he goes down then he sees it's the parrot the parrot was listening as he was practicing and he learned K Nidra he said wow this is unbelievable and the next day T he brings his parrot with him in a cage and he says my parrot knows kidre they said that's ridiculous he said I'm telling you the truth they said I'll bet you $100 he can't do it he goes I'll take that bet and someone says I want a piece of the action I'm going to bet 100 I'm going to bet 100 anyway goes up to thousands of dollars he says to the parent go ahead do col nidr no no no col call B want a cracker anyway he loses thousands of dollars and he gets back home and he says why wouldn't you s sing and he goes cuz next year we'll clean up anyway this guy had a parrot you didn't know where it came from but apparently had a very fou am and it just kept cursing and he finally says to the parrot you better stop or you're going to get it and he wouldn't stop so he took the parrot and he stuck him in the freezer and the minute later he goes can I come out says you're going to behave yourself goes yes it takes him out says no more cursing okay can I ask you a question says yeah what are the chicken [Laughter] say so I guy does to do a pet store and he says I want to buy a parrot he says okay this one uh uh regular parrot $10 says okay he says this parrot's $100 he says why says he knows tanak says really he says yeah this parrot's $1,000 he says really he says yeah he knows tanak and M unbelievable says this one's $10,000 says why says he knows tanak M and all says wow says how much is that one you can't afford him how much is it it's a million dollar a million dollars why what does he know he says I don't know but when I take him out of the cage all the other parrots start going those aren't my only pair of jokes but that just gives you a sampling but you know I have to really dig to try to remember jokes I I I Comics have it very hard I always say if you're a comedian you just have to get up there and tell jokes and if you don't get to laugh you just die I can always fall back and do Torah you know what I mean so if they don't laugh at the joke that's why people say you know you don't wait for the laugh I said that's right because if there's no laugh then I'm stuck if you tell a joke you go nothing happens like these comedians are like I'm dying up here I'm dying hey is this on hello hello I know you're out there I can hear you breathing but I want to make a distinction because telling jokes has nothing to do with Sim that's and I probably have mentioned this in past years that Pur is not the holiday of su is the holiday of p is the holiday of of laughter laughter is the unexpected you laugh when something unexpected happens yeah guy walks into a bar orders a drink not very happy right not very funny guy walks into a bar says ouch it's also not very funny but at least it's a joke because you thought he walked into a pub and he actually walked into a bar you two men walk into a bar you think one of them would have seen it you know so the idea is it's unexpected it it it turned it on its side there's an old joke this is this is uh if you if you're if you're a joke teller you have to anticipate it's like when you're a magician and everyone knows how a trick is done you come up with a new way of doing the trick that fools people those are called sucker sucker gags in uh in the magic world if you will so uh comedians have to know how to change it around so like there's an old joke everybody knows they were in a prison and there was only one joke book in the library and everybody had memorized the jokes and so they wouldn't even bother telling the jokes they would just say the number so someone would get up and say number 16 and everybody would laugh and somebody would say number 22 and somebody would laugh so there a new guy he says what's going on they explained to him the rules he goes oh I want to try 19 nobody laughs he says how come nobody laughed goes some people don't know how to tell a joke okay that's that's the standard joke so I know everyone knows that joke already so I do a little twist there was a comedian Convention of course all these comedians know all the jokes already so they just you know just give the number so Johnny ciston Goes uh number 12 and everyone goes ah and Buddy hacky says number 33 and goes and one guy says number nine and this one guy is laughing and laughing says what's so funny goes I never heard that [Laughter] one as they say over here a joke and a joke yeah so it's unexpected but jokes are not sim people who need jokes to to cheer them up don't understand what SIM is all about so I'm sure I've done this in a previous podcast because it's one of my favorite Rants and there are people who like just to hear me rant you know and uh that's what they call it I like to say an in-depth examination of a societal issue but other people like to call them rants so I um I'm not going to uh uh I'm not going to argue with that you know uh in fact there was one president that always annoyed me Ulisses as rant all right what am I'm I going to tell you and that's about Jewish music Jewish music is always gotten me upset because it's not Jewish and that's why nobody has patience for it when I was growing up you could sing for 45 minutes straight sa sa and they just same same nobody felt like today we have to keep changing the niggan every three minutes that's because it's not it's not it's not real Jewish music it's real Jewish music you can spend a lot of time on a niggan it gets into you it gets into your soul but um you know these kind of things are especially when you have these techno uh hits and things you can't even sing and it's just uh the the the proof of a a song is one that you can sing it for a very long time yeah so um uh so I said I remember when Jewish music died I was there I still remember it you know um there was a you German rock group called genas Khan who wrote A some German rock song and M and David took it and wrote Jew Jewish words Yiddish words to it and called it yid and you'd be and everybody would be singing Whatever the usual Jewish songs [Music] were you know it doesn't get too wild sometimes if you're going dancing like this you know they'll suddenly change direction I mean that was like Wow over the top you know but these are all the songs the songs were like really kind of like you know lowkey and then at some point the band would [Music] go and everybody uh over the age of 30 got off the dance floor and the kids would come in and do the yiden dance you know it's like someone said to me once how do you know if uh it's one of these you know rip off or if it's an actual Jewish song I said if the girls on the other side of the Makita give a primal scream you know that that's not a Jewish song you never no one none of the girls ever screamed by tave T you like you know you know this is not a Jewish song The Primal scream is my is one of my uh things and you just see how it it changes how the how the how the whole dynamic of the room changes and the dancing and the attitude you know real Jewish song uh aren't like that there are Jewish songs which could be nice and were for no reason rocked up uh so that they just become you know someone told me once they had this post of like a Jewish concert you know and you see these Bas Yakov girls like you know gooing you know what I mean and there's some kid on on the stage like smashing his guitar you know what I mean and like you know it's like just like a regular Rock concert you know it's like yeah you know and uh and I said what is what is this all about you know Jewish entertainment you know people come out and do a dance a dance have to have moves you know this and that and the whole thing you know roll blading you know shtick I once saw a clip of uhas at a h a has concert ABY R is standing at sitting at the piano and everyone else is standing around and they're just singing shalom [Music] shalom and he's just playing and then they would stop and he would just play the piano and then they would sing again shalom shalom right and just not doing anything and people like well that's not much of a stage presence yeah cuz it's music I needed stage presence for you shtick have to have performance have the choreograph it they're dancing before before there was Jewish entertainment there was just k k would get out there with their their big Ken hat you [Music] know sometimes it be an organ in the background just you know for effect you know but you never saw the suddenly stop and go didn't have any moves you know and I said now there's this idea that we have to have Torah entertainment you have to dance have to be movement have to be costumes have to be this you know all kinds of stuff why why what what do we need Torah entertainment for as I told this story I'm sure I must have talked about this in the past you know the Miami Boys Choir wanted to make a concert in jerus this is many years ago they want to get permission from the bedat and they said uh we want to make a concert he said ma concert they never even heard of it they said Sim Sim so they did it in televis instead but uh but it was such a great question what does that mean you're making a s so I said this whole idea of concerts and entertainment or what is it all about and I used to do this almost every year when I was I don't remember where it was in M Sharm that would set me off on this and one year a girl said something that was so poignant she said because our lives are so sad that we need a reason to be happy that's what people mean when they say tell me a joke I need I need to be happy so let's talk a little bit about happiness first of all people say I can't help it I love that I can't help it I'm not happy not happy if you look in you'll find that Sim is Aid which means you have the ability to control it not such a thing as I'm not happy and this is one of the biggest problems in a marriage so he doesn't make me happy she doesn't make me happy no one makes you happy you make yourself happy or you make yourself miserable you choose you have control over it you're not a victim I know we live in a society with a victim mentality it's not my fault of course it's your fault it's not my fault I lost my temper they pushed me they pushed me of course it's your fault you know I'm not happy what does that mean I'm not happy I've told this over in the past but uh somehow never minimizes the shock value I am by Nature a depressed person that's my nature I'm depressed and I'm shy if I was a kid today they would probably have me on meds you know back then they didn't have meds they just said cheer up which is also good advice but uh I couldn't I I'm it was I'm sure it was something chemical it was something in me uh maybe it was related to my ADD I don't know what it was but I was constantly depressed like I had a a cloud hanging over me and I couldn't not I couldn't be happy it was so hard and uh and I tried I tried all kinds of different things I remember I had a somebody in Bas medish who finally said to me okay so you're not happy so now go on and live life I thought wow that's the first practical piece of advice that I had who says you have to be happy to live life you just have to do what you have to do and worry about it later and that's what I did but it's time went on I realized that the Depression was debilitating to me it was really holding me back and it took me many years to get over it it's still my default if I'm tired or if I'm uh if I'm sick I'm under the weather I slip into my natural state which is being depressed that's my natural state um and I'm naturally shy which people find surprising because I'm a public speaker but I'm naturally shy yeah when I go to a I look for an empty table you know where Bar Mitzvah you know here in Israel you have a bar mitzvah you know they don't have seating sit at an empty table they bring me my plate with three starches on it and and vegetables that might have been stir fried once upon a time but now just looks sad and I sit there and by myself the required amount of time and then I go and I give my safer and I go home you know and I don't look to talk to anybody that's just not just not who I am you know I'm I'm a shy person sometimes somebody will come over and say oh Rabbi olski and they'll talk to me and then okay so I I slip into rowski mode and I have a whole conversation but by Nature I'm a very shy person I don't engage people it's it doesn't come naturally to me um so I also by Nature a very sad person but I made a decision to become happy and I worked on it very hard I would uh for me Broadway show music helped they're all balancy kind of tunes you know that pick you up you know Steve Martin you know he used to play the banjo he says can't play a sad song On the Banjo you know oh death destruction that's pretty funny so I would listen to music that would that would pick me up you know um I would work to reframe I I would look in the mirror and smile just to see a smiling face you know you you mirror it you know things like that and I would have to refocus my mind because you know you have a computer sometimes a computer if you do a lot of the same keys in a while you can make a macro where you just push one button it does it that's essentially what a computer program is when you start it up it makes a whole bunch of click click click click clicks very quickly and that's a macro your brain does the same thing if you keep thinking the same set of thoughts it makes a shortcut so as soon as the first thought comes boom boom bo boom boom boom you end up in the same place so you have to change your thinking you have to shift it and break that pattern right like say it's unhealthy ways of thinking unhealthy obsessions it's true I work very hard that's I always got a kick out of it when I meet people say oh you're one of those naturally happy people and I say no I'm one of those naturally depressed people but I worked very hard to be happy and the person says I'm not happy that's not an excuse so make yourself happy so so you have to work on the medida you have to find some way to do it now I I made a difference over here between and right what does that mean say the greatest happiness is removing doubts doubts makes us sad and that's why when you look in he brings a Mida and it's opposite so he'll bring GAA and he'll bring a NOA he has K he has R yeah he has Sim and he has da worry worries is why stops us from being happy and that's why B is extremely powerful for us to be able to become happy it's part of sim because if you know that you have an all powerful being who wants to be your friend and wants to help you that'll go a long way people let me tell you about my best friend it's anyway so um you know Hashem is looking out for you you know if you could internalize that message why aren't we happy because we're always worrying what's going to be what's going to happen yeah digas digas yeah I'm happy with what I have and I learn to make this happy and so much of it is tied into be talk let it go is there you're not alone and that's why suus is why are we so happy on suus CU we just came out of R and we were right we carry the lul and the es because as the kazal say if someone goes into judgment and they walk out carrying the king's scepter and orb that's a uh that's so popular today but a scepter and an orb signs of malus and the King gives those things to you then you know that you was We Know It wasem forgave us we know that we are clean that our sins were forgiven right we we we we get a Kap right I I I I'm gotten forgiven for my sins and to help us says the Hashem set up the world at that time that it should be so we take in all of our grain and we take in all of our barrels of oil and we take in all of our barrels of wine and we take in all of our fruit and we store them in and our our storehouses are full and we feel secure that's Simka Simka is copasetic it's it's a it's a even high uh as a diabetic you know one of the ways you become a diabetic unless you're born with it right but those of us who are type two diabet diabetics who worked very hard to get there you eat a lot of sugar or high carb stuff and that causes your blood sugar to shoot up then it causes your body to release a lot of insulin to deal with it and it goes crashing down so that's why the example they always give is those people who are like feeling a little tired they don't realize their blood sugar is low so they eat a candy bar at five o'clock and they get a burst of energy and then they have another crash because it shoots up and it shoots back down whereas if you eat you know whole grains fruits and vegetables they help your blood sugar stay stable that's such an important aspect to keep it stable the same thing is true about your moods you want to keep your mood stable not with big highs now there are certain times when we add to our s that's called s s is more than Sim is supposed to be taking us Beyond just the simple Sim yeah yeah that's a higher level we're supposed to have more than we normally do on we're supposed to have more um there are times when we say you should have so then we try to pull it up a notch and that's the whole month of whole month of is we're supposed to be happier move it up a level but there's a Bas Sim that's why it say it means you're always supposed to be there's supposed to be a certain Bas that everybody has and like I say if I had to point to the one thing that people can work on the most it's the because then you have nothing to worry about um and uh and the musim movement the book the Muslim movement uh no the Fire Within about the Muslim movement so um so he writes that the happiest people were nardus that seems very interesting because narik is always the butt of jokes you know because they spent their whole time focusing on B I'm a nothing I'm a nobody I'm a nothing I'm a nobody a guy walks into a theiva and he sees everyone sitting there saying I'm a nothing I'm a nobody you know and he's inspired and he sits down and starts going I'm a nothing I'm a nobody one of the older guys says who do you think you are it took me years to become a nobody you don't become a nobody overnight but these are you know people make fun of narus you know but the truth is he says they were the happiest people why because what gets us upset I didn't get what I wanted the they didn't treat me with enough Co I didn't get this I didn't that I'm always upset but if I have everything I I need and I believe that I have everything I need and I have nothing to worry about and A's taking care of me there's nothing to be sad about what am I sad about I'm not missing anything that's all be talking I'm sure I told this story before yeah um I was driving and I saw a great spot but it was on the other side of the street so I went to turn around and in between someone slipped in parked the wrong way on that spot and the person I was with said that guy took your spot and I said if he took it it wasn't my spot because you can't take my spot yeah nobody can take anything you supposed to get yeah you're going to get everything you're going to get you don't have to worry I was at a and they served like everyone at the table and they skipped me and everybody was in a panic you know he didn't get a portion get a portion tell the way I said if I'm going if I'm supposed to get a portion I'll get the portion and if not not I don't have to worry now as the story in tells where Shiva got up he was about to make kidish and he puts down the K and he walks all the way around to one of the tables and he sees that a boy already took a piece of cake and put it on his plate he says you're worried you won't get a piece of cake put it back on the platter I'll make sure you get a piece of cake people are nervous I'm not going to get you know um Stephen Kobe and The Seven Habits of Highly affected people he calls this the scarcity mentality that's why people look into a negotiation being that the only way I win is if you lose he says the best negotiations a win-win where both people walk away satisfied but I think there's not enough for everybody so I have to take and you don't I'm always amazed when I go to a hotel here in ell and very often the meals are uh are buffets and so they put out watermelon for dessert and when I get up to the to the dessert table there's no watermelon left and I look on tables big plates filled with watermelon the people couldn't possibly have eaten that much watermelon they took as much as they possibly could they ate a couple of pieces and they left all the rest they couldn't eat it but they made sure that nobody else got it you know because it's not going to be enough because we're going to run out a scarcity mentality and so I'm always afraid a k is not going to be able to provide for me Hashem is not going to be able to help me when I get stuck in traffic nothing I can do I just have a regular car I couldn't rent Chitty Chitty Bang Bang Which flies oh my Chitty Chitty Bang Bang Chitty jitty Bang Bang we love you and our chitty like all children's movies it's absolutely terrifying I know children's movies they're all so incredibly scary the wizard of O forget about it people still have nightmares from that Willie woner in the drug Factory when they go into that tunnel oh my goodness you know terrifying terrifying but um uh the um uh nothing I can do I can't I can't make the cars move I can't go any faster sometimes I'm elate for an appointment some of that nothing I can do I have no I have no options here know I I just have to wait till it goes hopefully I'll get there if I don't I don't if I miss my flight I miss my flight I I can't do anything you know not going to phone in a bomb threat you know there's nothing I can do and uh once you Embrace that you're so happy because I'm getting everything I'm supposed to get you never feel like I didn't get what I was supposed to get you never feel like I'm missing out you never have to worry is there is taking care of everything is the key to the more you trust in hem the happier you will be and what is AD all about other is all about that we had no idea what was going on we thought we did at each point we thought we understood and it turns out we never understood what was happening at all M said don't go to the party morai is wrong yeah morai won't bow down to hm morai is wrong they're building The Gallows morai is going to get hanged and we're all going to get killed and it turns out we were wrong about everything and when they realize that they laughed because that was unexpected and they said to themselves K who's running the show he has not forgotten about us he hasn't you know I've mentioned a number of times How uh uh uh my speaking career sort of imploded just before covid I used to go every month every every two months I used to have a trip every two months and I go to America and speak and just just fell out I don't know why exactly but uh but um uh so people like to give me ASAS why did you send people emails did you this did you try that did you go here you know you have to you have to um promote yourself more you have to this you know I said I don't believe there's anybody out there who hasn't heard of me who is in the business you know I'm I'm pretty well known by this point everyone knows who I am and um uh and knows who I am he knows where I live he's got my file on his desk you know he hasn't forgotten about me I didn't get lost in the shuffle I don't have to remind him I'm I'm I'm doing fine doing fine now when my son was looking for his he had a very long list of what he was looking for every girl who' go out with nope she's not smart enough she's not pretty enough she's not firm enough she's not this enough that so finally I said to him you know y got to do some hisas he says I am I'm Ding and I have that's all you need and sure enough he found the girl had everything on his list it's a friend of my daughters so like you K delivered him to the house he didn't even have to go it's like the M for sadik would fall right outside the window came fell you know right to his house you know hand delivery you know so uh uh and I I tell this to all the singles whenever I can I tell this story I said that's your hisus you know you have to have and and you have to Davin and that's it everything else everything else is is is clinite you know I have these girls uh they they say you have to dress a little uh you know provocative is too strong a word but a little more you know with it you know you want to attract a good from boy in learning this girl told me that's what they sh told her and she said if the only way I can find a boy in learning is to compromise on Myas I'd rather not get married boy boy you know it's uh uh you have be talk by the way she got married I most of my stories have no endings but this one had a happy ending I'm married and um uh we have to we have to learn to have and trust and like I say when it's easy to trust that's not that's not the trick I'm sure I've told the story where asked the brisar says amuna how H is amuna anybody with have a brain can figure out that there's a God and he gave the Torah the evidence is overwhelming the bris says I know auna starts when it doesn't make any sense so when everything's going well and you have B that's one thing when things start to go bad and I don't even mean like EO begag but for most people they don't need the trials of job in order to start uh questioning a you know something goes wrong that they wanted something happens and suddenly K abandoned me K baru doesn't care about me how do you how do you make that kind of a jump and if you live in that kind of a world where K is not taking care of you then there's no question you're going to be unhappy a lot and if a is with you and a who is taking care of you I've got a all powerful friend sitting on my shoulder and the sky blue above yeah nothing to worry about no reason not to be happy yeah and whatever happens you deal with it I've told this before I have a used to had a poster on my wall when I was running ncsy that said if they're running you out of town grab a baton and make it look like a parade yeah I can't control events but I can control how I choose to react to those events that's Sim you're always happy if you know how kesu is steering the ship not me gives a mush of people who work on shabas he says it's like a guy who's in a train the Train's going and he has to get to some meeting is not going fast enough and he finally says that's it and the person next him says what are you going to do says I'm going out back to push he says you're going to be left in on the track the Train's going 100 miles an hour you're not going to make it go any faster he says has a pinosa for you so you think that if you add if if you go work on chabas then you're going to get make more money he says it's like you have a barrel of wine and you add an extra spigot you didn't get any more wine just coming out faster but it's the same amount of wine at the end that's going to come out out and so a person who has that will always have and so as we enter it's time for us to work on our which is what is always there for you and when you feel like he's not if you that's not good enough strengthen yourself and then hope for God's Yeshua and salvation andem all of clel will come out of the darkness and into the light this is the time to celebrate the light and the and the and the happiness coming out of all the sadness and destruction that the Jewish people have suffered and now we come to the question answer Pro portion of our program that's not as easy to say as you might imagine this is the perfect position to po po proportion the questions for the programs question answer portion it is sponsored the Q&A is sponsored in honor of the RV everyone is being so nice to me today for the endless kizic over the years and for answering many of my questions which aren statements or texts all sincere attempts to hear Ms and in of my wonderful Uncle Rafael and Tanta kevi clco absolutely absolutely uh the clco family is a uh is a institution and uh it's a for me to know most of them I don't know all of them I know a lot of them it's they're really wonderful wonderful group of people Anonymous asks do you believe in teaching children's ASAP fables stories like the goose that laid the golden egg the boy who cried wolf the tortoise in the hair do these stories have values worth teaching or should we only use Torah sources and nothing else someone once asked Raa Shapiro if you're allowed to study English literature and he said if you hold it you can learn it what does that mean that means that I never read the book but an Englishman told me that he had read a book called uh little Lord faly or something like that and he says it has more muser in it than all of the Contemporary from children's books which very often don't have good muser in them um there are products made for from kids that uh do not always uh reflect Torah values I don't want to name names but uh but you can think of it for yourself things that don't bring across you know kids don't behave in nice ways and and don't do the right thing and and you know but they do it for humor so it's supposed to be entertaining um but things that can teach you uh um muser yeah again as long as the lesson is a good lesson right if the moral of the story is therefore never help [Laughter] anybody the moral of the story is people stink you know what I mean so then no that's that's a bad one but there is an asap's Fable that I use because I think it's an absolutely brilliant mushel and remember that's all we're talking about our Mich that's what they are so if you can use a mush to bring it across there's the one where the grandfather and the grandson are taking their mule to sell him and they're both walking and they meet the first person and he says how come uh you're both walking what is one of you ride the mule so the grandson says Grandpa why don't you ride so they meet the next person next person says you selfish old man you make the little boy walk and you ride so they switch places and uh they come along to the next person and he says you selfish little boy you make your old grandfather walk so they both ride next person they met says look at that poor mule look at look at how weak he is you know uh the uh uh you're both writing on him he doesn't have the strength you should be carrying him so they get a pole and they tie the mule to the pole and they start carrying it and the MU mule is kicking and and biting and shoving because he's not meant to do this you know and eventually they come to a bridge and he breaks off Falls in and drowns the moral of the story is you try to make everybody happy you make nobody happy I think it's a brilliant example I think it's a brilliant example so they're just mum and I would like to suggest that that's what I hope Risha meant I don't know if that's what he meant I'm going to guess that that's what he meant is that English literature is a marshall I bring examples from English literature all the time as MIM and uh um there are some Dickens works that have just absolutely brilliant satire that you can use to quote I often quote examples from larab um of uh moral lessons you can learn from that and uh there are always opportunities I'm pretty sure I told the story um where the told this a y was by the best and this non-jewish uh um fix it man comes in and says Rabbi you need anything fixed and he says no everything's fine he says come on Rabbi I'm sure if you look hard enough you can find something to fix so when he leaves he turns to me he says you hear you hear that who sent that mus yeah if you look hard enough there's always something to fix so he looks at the bmov and says come on this guy is here to give us M I can't accept that and B says you can you just don't want to all right so eventually he heads home and this polish farmer has a cart with big bales of hay and they fell off and he he said can you help me put the Bales back on he says I can I'm an old man I'm not strong enough I can't do it and he looks at him and says you can you just don't want to the idea is that there's mus everywhere around us if we keep our eyes open and we look for it so if you find wisdom in the asap's fables like all things you have to make sure that the message is a message um that has meaning right one of the worst aspects of the Harry Potter series is um it basically uh is a attack on the fact that Jews marry Jews because in the books they have this concept of pure Bloods should only marry pure Bloods regular magicians ER you know Sorcerers and they should not marry uh Muggles who are like non you know uh non-magic people and that's of course terrible and and therefore uh Hagrid is a giant who married a regular magician and Lupin is a werewolf and we should have you know respect for werewolves and regular magicians get married and that and the whole thing is into marriage so if you're careful only to marry among your own then you're basically a Death Eater so that means of course Jews who are careful to only marry other Jews are Death Eaters so so you may not get that message when you first read it but the idea of tolerance to the point of being intolerant of people who want to stay among their own is a message that comes across and so um with anything with any uh with any children's book or any um uh or any um you know thing that you try look at the wizard Wiz is supposed to have a moral message there's no place like home but the fact matter is that the good witch basically manipulates Dorthy into doing her dirty work for her and killing the evil witch because she doesn't want to do it herself she could have told her the whole time just wish on those ruby slippers and go home but instead she takes advantage of her the whole time that's a terrible [Laughter] message so um uh so if if the I don't know all the ASAP fables Bal you know um but if the message itself is a positive I brought you an example of one that I think is a good example so if there's um if there's a one that has a positive message you want to use the musall you can in fact uh R Ari Khan told me he heard from I don't know if he heard from him or he heard that you're allowed to make up stories and tell them as if they're true you can say listen I knew a person who and tell a whole story why because um according to one M never happened the whole thing was just made up to prove a point so they wrote a whole book in tanak which is not true but is presented as if it's true and it's just a mush to bring a point across he says so you can also make up a story to be able to make a point that's the way he puts 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