81: Make Purim Great Again

hi I'm Devin alaskey and welcome to the special permission of the rabbi Alaska show and when you're watching a tour any time however you watch you listen to your podcast we are so excited to have you along as we approach the Purim holiday which is going to be a very busy week for a lot of people for the Deaf yogi people we of course making a sim on the Christmas after Broncos for a lot of people that will be finishing their deaf yummy for another seven and a half years when they'll once again learn massages Broncos boss Shabbos blah Manuka this is my certain certain sectors for us of course mr. sham it should go well but on what is per day we will be making a bris for a new grandson who is just born and wash em sin cos and sin cos and of course there will be perm guess we should mention that one as well and for those of us who live in New Rochelle I am Shushan Purim and I have to tell you that when you live in you shall I'm and I'm living here 32 years your perspective changes dramatically because to to us that is perm in fact you don't even realize perms going on for the rest of the world what is porn for everybody for us is nothing yeah it's just it's a it's a much better day because I used to remember when I lived in America you would go from tiniest Esther straight into the Megillah reading and you were hungry and yet a headache it was hard to concentrate yeah and now you have a day you'll have to get ready for sure she'll go from honest and good Magilla like a mensch of course in america they had the shoeshine program as a day to be able to recover from the you know the ordeal of for him and we don't have that but but that's okay we don't have a sundae either over here so as uh-oh John used to refer to is the Shabbos Shamy shall goalies so everything's a trade-off as my father used to say all right before you afterwards but it certainly means the busy week filled with a lot of a lot of excitement in the year and in order of this I have decided to put on my Donald Trump toy and that is the theme for today I don't always have a theme I decide the truth my producer usually makes up the main but I'm giving you the name for today and that is make purim great again [Applause] pointing at people random there's a TV show that I have not seen but I've heard people quote I think it's called Adam ruins everything I think this was basically this guy goes and shows you all kinds of things that you thought about it and you believed and stuff and he shows you how the whole thing is a mistake so the alternative title for this is robbery illowsky ruins everything so I want to talk about I want to talk about Ferb I want to tell a story that I may have told you already but but it definitely bears repetition one of my daughter's was getting married and the other side asked are you gonna put out liquor for the boys and I said well I'll definitely buy a bottle that I'll keep by my side for my friends who come to the casa de and give them a look hi him but why would I want to just apply a bunch of issue about him with alcohol doesn't seem like that's the best way to go and he said to me no no the father's like to do this because then the boys dance more Leba dick and I said if my future son-in-law doesn't have any friends who want to dance and celebrate at his Casa unless they're drunk tell them not to come so the boys brought their own bottles but I remember was something that hit me over there and I got very upset and I told this over to my son Yakov who in fact was on my last Purim podcast and America and he said to me Abba you don't get it and he's right I don't get it I'm the first one to admit it I don't get it the the world has changed and I have not changed along with it so I probably mentioned this during my seminary series I don't know if I did or not but he said three rules in my class there's no talking there's no cellphones and there's no gumshoe and girls would break these rules at their peril because I can be extremely unpleasant when I want to I know that's hard to believe because I'm such a wonderful person but you know you can get upset sometimes because I only have three rules and I have a different rule I have a rule that once you've been assigned in for attendance you can go outside I don't care if you come to the rest of the class I don't care if you go to sleep I prefer you not snore but you know I just have three rules when you're in my class make sure your cell phone is switched off because when it rings it's very disturbing to other people don't talk because it's disturbing to other people and don't chew gum sounds girls would always asked about the gum chewing you know but what's what's with a gum tree and I said the Queen of England doesn't chew gum anybody whose hardship doesn't chew gum you know you'll never see them doing something like that and your crush if you don't know it yet but in this room you're very Kruschev and I expect you to live up to my expectations and most of the time in the close to 20 years that I was doing it there were very few exceptions and it's such an insane thing because I always felt like because I said a certain standard you know people people rose up to it in fact one time we got a memo to read to the girls and I said I'll read this even though I don't know what they're talking about but I was asked to read it no no texting during class don't talk during class know there are all kinds of things that I said I'll read this and I'll give you a paratha that the other teachers should see you as I do and it was interesting that in my class the girls understood that there was a certain standard and they they kept up that standard I left seminary years ago it was after my heart attack and but my daughter was still teaching still continues to teach the seminars and she says to me Abba you would not be able to handle it today it would get you crazy because the world has declined and people know this yeshivas that used to have a particular standard they took be students they had to switch to a students just to stay where they were because everything is changing the world is changing and as I always say the world has changed and I have not changed along with it I still share the thoughts and the feelings that I got from my parents and from my rib a him and the values that I always believed were eternal values which are not anymore they're not all really an example I'm sure I brought this example before but it bears repetition all of the books I'm finna are today worthless because all the books are kind of are based on the basic principle that I am the parent you're the child I tell you what to do so now the books are kind of will tell you how to say it what to say etc but the underlying assumption is going when you talk to a kid today the kid says no and you're like didn't you get the memo you know I'm the father you're the child this is no sorry and you can't make me let's face it most of parenting and education is a bluff you all know that a teacher says don't push me because you don't want to see what I'm gonna do that's true neither does eat sugars they really have no idea my daughter who later - in seminary you know when she was younger she still this joke you know this big monster comes he says do you wanna see what I can do with my big hairy hand in my big hairy lips like no no go away he comes close and says you want to see what I can do with my big area head and my big hairy lips he's like no no please you know and it comes over loud you get the idea and for he goes okay he goes but you know there's a certain editor that we're building things up into it into a pinion it's a big problem don't make me come down there or what look I just don't feel like walking down there there's an old pasta dish a joke story I don't know what it is I might be hearing the name I'm terrible with names I forget them but he he comes into an end and he says he says I was like a room for the night says he everybody says no he says he can't stay here says don't make me do what my father did I was like oh my gosh you know so he goes into the room many and he says how dinner now we're good but you don't have any money don't make me do it my father dead so they bring him a meal he eats it goes to his room and it gets up in the morning and he says where's breakfast like but sir you haven't paid for it don't make me do what my father did so okay they bring him breakfast he finishes he gets ready to leave he goes just tell me what did your father do it slept on the street and I'm hungry but it sounds a lot more dramatic yeah so um so when I was talking about this you know in the drinking so my son says miyabi you don't get it the world has changed the world has changed and it's true about everything I'm married 37 years one of the most poignant moments of my life was when I went to the bedecking I was being danced down with my father my father-in-law surrounded by friends yeah and we're dancing down the band is playing I had a really exceptional band yeah and my father who is very hard to impress I don't know if I've ever brought that across he said I never saw a band like this that never took a break they were playing the whole time the whole time anyway see going down to the bedecking and there's something so poignant so beautiful so special about it yeah today people go down I've seen this and they put rows they do a little dance why because the moment of the Baddeck in itself is not meaningful enough I have to create something artificial in order to be able to make it meaningful because the thing itself has lost its meaning so I believe this particular area is nowhere as clear as when it comes to perm and I'll explain to you what I mean perm used to be but I took the people more in my age group but I always used this line I said you remember when perm was fun and everybody laughs because they know there was a time when perm is fun I don't know that I can give a date to when it died but it definitely died at some point but it used to be fun yeah people would place put on a clown wig or red nose and you shall I make they buy these Turkish Fez that they put on their head they wear sometimes you could put on a funny toy you know okay so then they were the people would you know put on the the full gorilla suit you know I mean you know those are the exceptions you know and people would drink they would drink okay two times did get a little tipsy you know one guy in the Shiva would get really drunk and everybody would you know he was an idiot he made an idiot out of himself and everybody had fun at his expense frankly do you mean you know what it was like wow that guy's so cool look how wasted he is yeah and and they were you know drinking people used to make shots - there were no themes anybody themes I don't think we had cellophane we used to make hamantaschen and get a little bottle of wine but if he's fruit maybe I know what people who did all of a more elaborate you know I mean they'd make a kugel they take a challah you know and you'd said the little thing some people would throw it a little cute thing here and there and you'd go to the Megillah reading kid's head Greiger's those little party crackers I go Greg Greg Greg Greg Greg Greg Greg you know and they say come on you know those would you know back in the flow of it and then we go on you get through the crea relatively unscathed and he said dad you have a serger which was essentially a shot to sue that maybe I had more family and it's something very special now for me it's particularly poignant because I grew up out in Long Island as I mentioned I did not come from a shomer Shabbos family I got from when I was 12 and and I had a Rebbe Yaakov Wales at South who invited the whole class over his house for a perm student in a neighborhood I'd never heard of before being a young man from Long Island called Borough Park and so my friend's father agreed to drive us in and he took us to sensual to to hear the Megillah and then we drove and I was astounded astounded because when Jews from Brooklyn like my father moved out to Long Island there wasn't enough room in the car full of the holidays so Pesach Pesach made it or should even keep her made it that's about it Purim didn't make it didn't make the cut no neither did the truth my father kept circus but but most people did not yeah and and so porn was like and I don't folks anything like it remember they were from school as far as I could remember so we got a bar fight and suddenly I come here and it's a young TIFF kids are walking around and costumes people are delivering shuttle come on us I mean I remember we've read about this in our little reader in school but I never saw it before it was something astounding in every house was making a sudha it was like before young TIF people were cooking everything's so exciting we sat by a red B's table he starts giving us wine that we never drink wine you know you know his vibe he took us outside to dance in the street you know it was it was for sure a life-changing event for me one of the most dramatic moments of my life I would have to say was was that first poem that I really kept and I've always tried to keep that up for myself now obviously when you know I I was in you shiva's it was a whole different experience because I'd have my my buckram of my house or would I was an NCS wired her menses why is it one my house we'd have a perm sudha but it was basically again a fun meal people laughing people talking etcetera what is firm turned into you go to McGill reading nobody has those little Greiger's anymore people are six foot Gregor's grow back reg reg reg reg reg reg reg reg reg right over you your bones are shaking people bring air horns and remembering cap guns and the kids are shooting off their cap guns until this the smoke fills the room and you can't breathe I was once at a wedding just goes to show you that great ideas are not always that great yeah they put a box of sparklers on every table and when the Husson caller came in they douse the lights and everybody stuck their sparklers into the candle on the table and the whole room was filled with sparkles it must have made a great shot and then the sparklers go out and one by one they fill the room with this acrid smoke and people were dancing and falling by the wayside I just remember that the saxophone play is standing outside the door play but he couldn't breathe good it was it seemed like such a great idea you know and these kids shooting off these cap guns that this smoke fills the room you can't breathe you know and that's already the ones who just have cap guns are the people coming with like m16s you know I mean like you know ak-47 assault rifles and I mean it's like the more noise I can make so the the better I am in general it always makes you wonder makes you wonder alright the purpose of it is to stay about a mullick what is Amalek yeah I'm alike as we mentioned last week is suffolk about your circus tries to cool us off do you think that makes for a better career set Magilla i think it makes for a better experience of appreciating the story i don't think so there was a wonderful cartoon and muhammediye I don't know how many years ago maybe 20 years ago maybe 30 years ago I'm trying to remember I haven't at home clip somewhere and it says porn 50 years ago and you see two Yudin with patch jackets and each one is bringing to the other one a shelf - with a few homemade treats and the exchanging Aetna smiling at each other it says today you see two people in two different rooms talking on their phones and they're surrounded by these gigantic cellophane wrapped packages with you know pre-board items and this is a bit for a more meaningful shot - doesn't make for a more meaningful experience I don't think so I don't think so we've we've lost that man Jake of it or you know you have to have a theme and so the theme has to everything has to fit into the theme and so you're not necessarily sending anybody things that they actually want just fits in nicely with you a theme yeah I remember more I shudder had this wonderful column firm it was so funny I actually saved it I don't save much yeah and just it was like like a Purim play you know what was goes on in Perm it was hysterically funny this fellow comes in and he's like I've got such a headache already you know he says oh don't worry I have my f to perm theme the shallows - you know it's got tylenol in it and you know whatever it is because you know everything has a theme to it every year the kids who were still left they I was like what are we gonna do for him what are we gonna theme and I said I have an idea how about we make the theme perm mm I don't bake some hamantaschen a little bottle wine guess what they roll their eyes and say ah but you don't get it nope don't get I don't get ya the only idea they were throwing around that seemed to get an appeal was make firm great again which is the inspiration for this podcast yeah so get like a red bag you know and quit Trump related things in it but what does that mean that boy did it yes just have everything in the shape of a tea I don't know what it means but anyway you know this the this used to be something that was so warm so nice you I was sending you something that was meaningful to me that I wanted to share with you yeah and the drinking is completely out of hands so me one of the highlights of my poem which I cannot enjoy anymore is I used to go to visit with Marsha Shapiro and I'd sit at the table and he'd always say to me new Dominion and Hashem ketch complain about those you have watch this podcast understand the significance so I said yeah let me tell you story Ramat Eshkol was a changing over neighborhood it had a lot of older israelis it was not meant to be a religious neighborhood for example didn't have any suka mere pursuit but young couples as the as the community aged realized they could get themselves an apartment at a good price and so the neighborhood was in flux and it was starting to change over so the person says to me I live in one of these buildings and there were a lot of older secular people who live there and a neighbor of mine ad Shiva guy decided to perm night he's gonna make it's gonna make a Missy bar for his friends a new plastic music and with loud and drinking and goes and I saw the people on the floor keep opening their doors the older people are looking down the hallway they didn't know how to stop this they had not seen a party like this and it was very disturbing so my wife went to knock on the door and tell the wife of this young couple you know you disturbing the other neighbors and she said screw me and her mind your own business don't tell us what to do a whole thing like this so this is the story it told us relation and he got very upset I'm good at that and get various service tear up no I'd you give them a pot she says says first of all there's no onion of of drinking at night the drinking is only the day and it's only part of the sudha the drinking is only wine and the drinking and he used to say this is his drinking if only for people who are over 40 he said because the purpose of drinking is Nicholas II I in for your it's a soda and I'll tell you 40 there's nothing inside of you that's worth coming out I had an addendum and what does come out is much better if it stayed inside yeah and he's very upset you going to permit and have no consideration for other people which brings me to the top him I don't know if they have this experience everywhere in their cell we do they hire limousines or you know horse and carriages or whatever there you have some kind of stick now hold on to you sugar guys come into your house and they sing and they dance and then they ask for money and then they do a whole drunk routine some of the guys are drunk sometime are throwing up you know you give money not enough that there's not that you know they make a hole make a hole in another way I remember one very prominent yeshiva came and no bunch of drunk guys they were acting stupid they asked me for money and I said why there's a bunch of a heinous why would I give you money I said you're coming in here claiming that your yeshiva where people sit and learn so instead of sitting down like mention you know staying over different area and instead of acting like like a bento would act you act like an idiot and then you expect me to give you money and so a couple of the sober guys were like no no no pay attention they try to drag him out is not going to go there's a couple of these drunk guys that knocking over things you know they're spilling things it uh-huh I said I said no you don't get it you don't get a dime out of me I don't give a bunch of drunken the animals the money you tell me you told me they're so hot yeah Bonet tell you gets my family crazy but when my son is their home you know the Tatem he'd hear them bag on the door and he would go outside first and he explained to them the rules so anybody's drunk don't bring them in sit down nicely I'm trying to drag him into a dancing circle say over the rad Toya you don't be polite whatever he gives you say thank you so the amount of Tatem who come around to me have dropped dramatically so somebody said to me no it's fine it's fine I understand that if you know if you're a a couple with two little kids you know and a bunch of sugars come in and dance in your living room you know I mean probably adds the affirm you know and I don't even mind if it's a dancing but when people acted not nicely it's uh it's it's it's and I understand that what do you what's the message you're trying to give a crew us but that's what porn is act like an animal get drunk I might as event people throwing up at my prom Sudha yeah when I was in yeshiva many years ago many years goes by I too used to be like one guy get drunk and perm was on Friday and this guy got drunk didn't wake up to moti Shabbos and he walks in he's so proud of himself William would you drink I said it's so impressive come my freshman you missed kiddush the eraser you missed my roof Krish Medea Raisa yeah you missed the Shabbos Judah next day you miss Chris at i-i'm if to have Tyra you missed the kids show yo you mr. Suder show y'all push I'll show this you know you miss Mendeley Matt Wow why would a great what a great myths for you did what a freshman there was one time that he ran in usual I am Shushan Portman came out on a Friday and and this guy comes to show and he's like he's screaming he's carrying on your dancing and he's Okoboji opposite he's like he's I guess he was drunk or he was acting like he was drunk there's a fine line between those two and so I finally turned to him and I say you're in a shul and this is Shabbos stop it and his friend says yeah he can't help it he's drunk I said they'd take him out of here he doesn't belong in a shul what is what is this what is this a drunken party this is Sheol this is Darwin kodesh over here with governing if you can't do it then go outside to come in here and act like an idiot that porn becomes an excuse to act like an idiot they're doing a poor meal and an rotten sometimes that remember Shimura solution applies also on the farm I can say whatever I want do whatever I want Jeff Kurr that's not that's our firm is supposed to be promised this day of such tremendous power of - fela I know people spend the whole pearl diving co-op wash it yacht anyone who puts out their hand the king will grant your request and perm becomes a day for them of tremendous feeling I may have mentioned this if I didn't last podcast they have these things called the Shiva Budokai Yehudi yeah you know they go and they said learn I asked this sir admission and Mishra wouldn't permit he says no that's not the din that's not the abode of the day yeah since there's an Indian of learning something at the SU dub that's a did in the student here in Yerushalayim we have a didn't to say over some hopeless Pesach because it's thirty days before Pesach and Shushan poem comes out obviously which is also a plug for our special Pesach program that's gonna be coming up second year that we're doing a Pesach program and it's a you start learning help us Pesach already 30 days before so should we cut the Mac leg so that's coming up so can I change things I don't know if I can change this it's very hard to turn back the clock time is marching to a to a conclusion and someone told me a story about it was Tish about afternoon and people going crazy someone cuts it will go crazy so they set up this kind of like you know rope trap and anyone who worked at the base matters they would pull the rope and the guy would dangle from his ankle you know i'm tish buff anyway the rebel walks in midian realizes the river and they catch him and he's hanging upside down like a vase the Rebbe goes they'll encourage and he says a coach bro what do you want for these people anymore they don't understand anything just bring Michelle already this nut there's no point to this anymore that was some years ago and as a wise man once observed we already hit rock bottom and we started to dig so so it's it's not it's let's make perm great again let's make a nice shelf - it's not crazy yeah that that we're going to deliver the people let's make let's make a a nice Sudha with singing and divert IRA yeah let's let's let's make the Megillah reading something that doesn't become you know onerous like I say imagine if you live anyplace else besides you Vishal I mean you're coming out from a tiny sand you're sitting there and these people are making all this terrible noise and you know and all the smoke and everything I think it's possible to recapture at least on some level and Stephen Covey's the seven Habits of Highly Effective People speaks about your circle of influence you have a circle of influence that includes you and if you work on yourself you can expand it out and include more people and so more people come into your circle of influence because they're drawn to what you're doing there's no expression build a better mousetrap and they'll be the path to your door and if we could figure out a way to make part of something that once again is fun has a certain purity to it has a certain Tamira skate to it yeah but that are given crazy so I think there's I think there's a value to that so that's our hope that's our prayer that we're gonna make this poem a really old time for old-time religion give me that old-time religion give me that old-time religion give me that old-time religion it's good enough for me you can sing that if you say and that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show go to River Alaska dot-com you can hit comments see my schedule contact me directly you could join the online cheer em now if you owe me miss Elsa Sharon if you want to sponsor an episode go to reveal Alaska dot-com / sponsor if you would like to sing the Revlon ski theme song at your at your promise today you can get the karaoke fill a ski that comes lash music and that's it for this week a frail confirm to O of Clio spell thank you for listening I'm Deborah Orlowski and this is the rebel off ski show it's the rabbi Orlovsky show Turin simple ready to go the rabbi Orlovsky show knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun at every episode of we don't have to rise it's the rabbi Orlovsky show Arab oil on skis.com no rush anytime you to more its rabbi Orlovsky show tourism our lab ski show till it's time so we meet again for a biro lousy show it's the raviolo ski show it's the rabbi Orlovsky [Music]