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hi this is Deborah Orlowski and welcome to the Deborah Lasky Show episode number 80 oh my goodness every now and then somebody discovers the rather alaskey show and they start from the beginning well 80 hours no 80 1/2 hours that's 40 hours 40 hours of your listening pleasure boy I think I'm gonna go back to the beginning and listen to all of them just so I can it's basically the best thing out there you know when I had the podcast for every Lieberman last week so somebody he asked me afterwards he says what did you think and I said I would listen to it that's a big level if I would listen to it that's that's my acid test because when when I speak someplace people tell me you know oh it's so nice listening to you and I said listen I have spoken publicly and I have listened to Publix Europe and I can tell you it's much harder to listen than it is to speak because I almost never fall asleep when I'm speaking sometimes when you but for the most part not and whereas when you're listening you know some some speakers you know they a little look to my voice so so if I can listen to it that's always my so I said to someone want something it's not that I'm such a good speaker I'm just such a bad listener yeah so so well welcome welcome on board once again at the 80th show whether you're listening on tour anytime dot-com or wherever you listen or watch your podcast we're happy to have you along and a few audience shout outs you may not be aware of the fact that we have a studio audience we want to give a Mazel Tov to laser and devar Cohen two of our regulars who had a baby girl otherwise I'm sure they would be here mister if they had a baby boy they would be here but the baby girl you know it's more attention I guess I don't know and Yaakov grew Hinske one of our regulars comes all the time just turned 19 down on his birthday should be a wonderful time to be a great year and it's basically the last year before if a coach merical decides you're no good he decides to zap you at the age of 20 anyway but don't think about that I would when I was a magician I used by this book of magician jokes you know they were called patter just to keep you know the audience a little slightly off balance so that you can like you know slip somebody's watching your pocket whatever but one of these lines is like the guy tells like in a really funny joke and it was this yeah having a great time who knows right now your house could be burning down and it always makes people uncomfortable when you say something like that so anyway so that's the story I don't know if I hope everyone's feeling well pretty sure the corona virus can't be spread through the internet although I had a virus on my computer but I don't think about the corona virus good to know anyway okay it's almost Purim I have by the way of my mug back the real house key show mug somebody asked me when are we going to start selling merch evidently that's a cool term for merchandise yeah then we're gonna make available and in fact somebody wanted a to give the rebel a ski show mug to their children and we're gonna have to get started on that because almost everything that I have was made by other people so but we're gonna start looking into this we have a lot of stuff to do I might end up publishing my book that way and then I'll forget it out I wrote a book some years ago it was called the last book you read before you was some late I just never published it I've been meaning to it was 30 years ago I'm gonna get around to it but I basically was asked to write a book about Judaism for people who don't want to read a book about Judaism people are just not that motivated so this is a brilliant introduction laugh out loud funny and I just I just have to finish it you know but I've really have at the top of my list to deal with my procrastination I just haven't gotten around to it anyway so I want to share a something that's that has bothered me for a long time and that is the tension that exists between whether or not one can say I could borrow home meant for this to happen or not now there's a lot of different levels to work on this but but there's one particular one as I remember somebody wrote a letter once to the editor of a particular Jewish periodical was a newspaper magazine was so long ago and he quoted the a high Mercker dish which says that Yosef was thrown into the pit of snakes and scorpions and the reason he survived is because he's it sonic but it could be that if you are put yourself in a mahkum sack Conda just the fact that you're in a Malcolm Sakana is enough that nature will take control of you and therefore people get killed and national natural disaster know was people die all the time yeah I heard but much of Shapiro speak about this once and he said it's not so simple because a lot has to do with you approach to life meaning a cottage borough who is me the connected me then he will run your world the world that you want people don't always understand this if you lock yourself in a room you don't come out and people knock in the door and they say come out and you say no don't complain that you're lonely I could aspire oh why did you make me so lonely you can't pin that one on it cutters borrow that's not God's fault that's because you decided to live inside of a world that's closed off from other people that's not a crisper oh that's your choice and very often we choose certain existences and then we complain about them I'll give an example when I was back and cut its time the receiver was in great demand he was a very hands-on Russia Shiva and he was you know spent a lot of time with his bokram but certain people were more assertive than others I remember one time I had an important Shila and my friend Yacouba who was very close to a blue Yosef that's how it brought me in to ask the Shayla and it was a mob scene a lot of clash with people attention and I didn't know how to get it ahead of a line or get into the line he only had a certain amount of time that he saw people and if Yakov bass said to me toughie do you know what your problem is you don't have any elbows if the elbow your way in and he was a master at that one time he comes to CW Sherman and nobody else have says Tim there's nobody nobody came today he says well the gate is locked he said what did you do he says I climbed over it nobody I sure said good for you maybe they'll buzz I'm not so good at it anyway so a guy in knowing you shoot me system and I think I'm gonna kill myself I said why he says I don't know any other way to get an appointment that I should she yeah okay so people go to the wishes she'd rather go to ask to ask ASA ESCA Shila whatever word you want to use and they say you know I'm getting on in years you know 22 I'm 23 I'm 24 I really think I should get married and I'm feel lonely and and I feel like it's time for me to move on with my life and he gives all these explanations so our Shiva says okay then you should start dating that guy comes out says I don't know what to do though is she the time I should start dating I don't know if I'm ready to get married do I want to do this one I want to do this - you created a reality and then you pretend that this is not the reality that I want to live in yeah sometimes you see you think I need all this like I need the big house in the expensive clothes that I don't need any of this nice think well we gonna have it you know and I don't think it just fell out of shibai him you know and someone put a gun to your head and said you're gonna live here you know there's a series of choices that went into making that happen you know my I'm I'm reaching the age where I'm old enough that my house is slowly gonna collapse you know when you go into old people's houses area rating I'm I'm one step away from having that old house smell you know my grandma had one of those hats with the little bingo chips all over it you know one step away I if I ever lose some weight I'm gonna get myself one of those big sweaters that just sort of hangs on you and you can wander around like this from room to room that's good what are you doing so one of my son Louis is in construction he says well why don't we redo the hands move it all apart and put it back together and I was like what's the point my kids are going my grandchildren are just gonna trash the place we're not boarding two couches and they just literally ripped them apart they get stuffing out is like I was like forget it what's the point I'm just going to die here yeah he'll rubble and then when they sell the apartment people come in first thing they do is trash the whole place you know rip it all down and rebuild it you know I still have a lot though than the floor you know you know in Israel they have those it used to be every place had a lot of I don't even know the name of it until I went to buy my apartment it was an American built and he says it comes with terrazzo floors I thought well I want to rise a foot it's blood though that's the fancy name so you live within the reality that you choose to live in so says with Misha the high mokou dish is talking about is someone who chooses to live within tefa and if you choose to live with int ever then that is the world you're going to live Masha aim came if a person chooses to live a life of hash cava practice where Kurdish baroque was involved in my life and the coach bar will be involved in every aspect of your life and he used a very often quote Rubirosa Lanza who said that even a thief who's breaking into a home to rob it if he has be talking that he's going to be successful he'll be successful he trusts their close borrow which means there's a natural way that the world orders and if you choose to live outside of the normal parameters of the world you're not limited by it you can live lamella minute ever if you choose to live within sight ever so he didn't bring this example but it's a famous example right when it comes to shemitah so it tells you do not plow do not plant do not harvest yeah and if you ask what am I gonna eat I haven't plowed and I haven't planted I've been harvested I will send a triple blessing to you in the sixth year so you'll have enough food for the sixth year for the seventh year and for the eighth year until your new crops come in s this for know it's a very strange way to describe it and if you'll ask what am I gonna eat so I said you a triple crop what if I don't ask there's been a tummy and cosgrove is it don't plant don't plow I didn't plant that in plough so uh what am I gonna eat what if I don't ask the question says the Spore no you won't get the triple crop so what ye eat no no you'll do one year of harvest and that food will be enough for three years how wonders of wonders and miracles and miracles God took a farmer by the hand make it work out he's good that way yeah so you have one guy who's nervous that's a nervous guy and he says Schmidt is coming what am I gonna eat that I didn't send up enough food I'm really nervous etcetra etcetra he goes out in the sixth year miracle he's got a triple crop now he's got to work three times as hard he's got a harvest and he has to Thresh and he has to winnow and he has to you know stir it up and break them he builds two more silos so he has enough for three years and when he's all done uh he feels great and his neighbor has the same amount that he always has yeah he says what are you gonna do this uh-huh he suppose you're nervous I'm not nervous I don't have to worry it cuz bar who told me don't plow don't don't harvest that what's gonna be I don't know what's gonna be I assume uh colors burrow hole has worked to this out he knows what he's doing so if you if you are not sure so you gonna have to work very hard in order to be able to have that sense of security that it's there I wanted their hay and older Israeli said to me I don't know what it is with young couples today he says they won't have an apartment but you have to have to buy them a department but has to be a three-bedroom apartment I have one big moment what am I gonna do with that says in my day they butcher one-bedroom apartment you were happy what'll happen when the family grows and we'll worry about it then I have to have everything right now well shock went to see bubble your chefs home I don't know if you have a Soviet leadership something that was not very large it was in fact very small and who shot who did not live in a palace himself he says how did you raise all these children here he says what do you mean I married I live ins daughter this is what you take this off I live in said in I'm gonna provide the apartment that we all thought i elephant's gonna provide the apartment I live in doesn't have two dimes to rub together grush to rub together he's gonna get an apartment so comes the day of the wedding and I say listen I have to move my stuff in this no problem take care of it right now he goes down to the hardware store anybody's have rope and two hooks and the middle of the house he hangs up a curtain and he says this side will be for me mama and the kinder luck and you and your Rebbetzin will have the other side says that's how I lived until the second daughter got engaged and he promised her an apartment I'm moving out so this is really very spacious because I need it now I have everything it's it's a it's a scary reality but you want to have enough money to make sure you're secure that's really hard if you get a catastrophic illness I knew a fellow who was on a medication that cost $1,000 a pill yeah and we get the money get the money you burn through your savings because somebody gets sick you have enough money to cover that you know when do when do you have enough enough it's a it's a pretty scary reality so but if she wouldn't be nervous you'll never have enough there's never enough if you choose to live Livan whatever I cannot tell you how many times I met Israelis they marry off their kids they promised them apartments I said how do you do it this says I can't tell you I can tell you it's not there whatever I don't make enough money to be able to do it I don't know I don't know how I did it coach merical suddenly sends money from here money from there I don't know how it's uh it's an amazing thing but there are other people who are not so worried certain people get married and they say I want it upfront when you hear a terrible story sure you do that's why you watch this podcast well the terrible stories I share yeah friend of mine had a fellow who was successful in business and I asked him if he could borrow money so he said sure and I trusted for it but my height he says all my money is right now tied up in deals and in real estate I can't I can't liquidate anything right now and well my daughter got married I promised them an apartment so I knew that until I sell something or a deal comes through I don't have cash right now so I'm paying the rent in a very nice apartment and I got a husband owed to based in from my son-in-law it's going to sue me for the apartment that I promised him so I'm borrowing money I'll buy him an apartment right next to his parents and goodbye well I'm gonna take me to paste it I'm gonna sue me cuz I didn't get my apartment I need that I need that it it so you want to live and in that kind of a world that's what you're gonna live in the palm story comes about because of a mullick a mole egg has the same numerical value as the word Suffolk doubt because where does a mullick appear on the stage of world history immediately after the Jewish people say a yesh Hashem Bakr Bay no a Mayan is God really with us or not Suffolk maybe gods abandon us maybe God's not there for us I think or maybe he's not taking care of us and that's where a male comes from a male comes from that sense of doubt maybe God doesn't care about us anymore the Gemara Magilla says what what instigated the Purim story the Jewish people came to us cone of a Ezekiel and he says to him do we still have to keep the tar if a husband divorces his wife so she's still home anything and that's what happened we had a home the base of McNish where we lived together as each and Isha's man and woman and now god destroyed our home and sent this away he divorced us so we still don't owe anything to God we're on our own God has abandoned us so the kokoity points out it's interesting that all of the gamora's that discuss the horbet not all of them but the main goomar's that discussed the herb in the destruction of the base emic - is in gomorrah get divorce that's how we felt God has abandoned us God has sent us away comes along Hammond from Amalek and says I'm gonna destroy them because they're not with a Kurdish Morocco anymore because we're filled with doubts because we're not sure yeah and then happens that's when Emily comes a mullux source of power comes from our lack of sensibility that occurs Baro who is there and when we decide I'm on my own life is absurd look for the best expect the worst the world's a play we run rehearsed no way of knowing which way it's going look for the best to expect the worst no it's random and and this if you want to trace this back to its source kaien brings a carbon decorators burrow and he brings an offering that he knows is no good he even brings flax seeds the lotion is Masha bub you die he scooped up something in four detectors burrow he didn't bring him the best and he said why should I pick up the best you don't run the world fair it's unfair I'm the older brother back then you had to marry your sister there was nobody else give me your mother but she was already married yeah she marry your sister so kyon was born with one sister hello his brother yeah he was born with two sisters hello was able to populate the world had twice as good a possibility so he says you're not fair so he brings his offering to indicate that a coach girl does not fair cuz you run the world random so you run the world randoms I'm gonna bring you a random order for him just a scoop of something to say here you go I'm not gonna choose it because you don't choose how things work in this world this world is absurd not fair because burro who took heavens carbon and not Chi ants and cayenne got very upset and he says what he upset full you know why I didn't take it it's not fair that's the problem when you're a very narrow position when you see world through a very small window when you open up the world a little bit and you can see more they used to be this unbelievable book called zoom it was so fantastic you you look inside and you see like a little boy a little girl and then zoom the next picture pulls out and you see there inside a little house and the zoom you realize that the house is like a little farm and then you zoom and you see there's a little girl playing with them it's it's a toy and then you zoom and the girl is the cover of a magazine then you zoom and the magazine is being held by this person lying in a chaise lounge and then you zoom and that's an ad that's on the back of a bus and then you zoom and the buses on our little TV you zoom and you see some guy watching the TV you know I keep zooming until finally you leave each out of space and when you're you're looking at a particular detail this doesn't make sense to you so you say well things didn't go my way it must be the universe is random the the worlds are random we just don't always see the full picture because there's his details there's little there's little waves - del Sol's Lanka's dark he we were talking once and then I had to go forgive a shear and I basically said over everything that he said so he was amazed and he says now I see how you prepare a show you just listen in on other people's conversations 100 percent is what I've done for years anyway I'm working I'm working through my building and I see these two guys staring like nose up to this painting this daring and I slowed down and I said I got some material here and let me listen in and one guy said to the other you see slimey when you look really close all you see is little paint strokes you want to see a masterpiece you have to stand back and see the masterpiece but if you go all the way in I don't know how how computer graphics work today but when I was much younger and they'd have this computer graphics they're basically a collection of dots so you could enlarge the picture and there were people who would keep enlarging the picture until it just does that's what it was if you're looking at that you say doesn't look like a kitten to me cuz not you have to zoom out a little bit and get a little bit more of a perspective and so we look at a situation we say hey Shosh amber Kirby know him ayan is a coach burro who really with us or not does he care about us Amalek traveled hundreds of miles and a forced march so they could appear to bump into us Micra an accident Karaka by Derrick says Rashi lush and Micra we just bumped into them oh look who's here they made it look like it was an accident but it was well planned out in advance car club Madera why she brings three be shuttin Carl federa lush and carve a home they cooled you off and that's what I'm Alec does cool us off you know why because if we understand that a coach burro who is always there with us I don't know what the source is it's a famous old thing where this guy is walking along the beach and he says I gotta borrow who God you always said you'd be there for me my wife died and I'm walking along the beach and you're not there because I looked down at the sand and I only seen one set of Prince and God says I am there the footprints you see are mine I'm carrying you we don't see it and so we left with this sense of maybe I could aspire who has forgotten about me or has abandoned me I've had many wonderful people over the years who worried about the fact that I've lost all my jobs and you know and I don't get so many speaking our paternity as I used to basically it's just this podcast is all I do is I just sit here for an entire week and then every half hour the camera goes on and I talk and then I just sit here and I don't do anything else but so people have ideas you should advertise you should this you do that and I said I could borrow who knows who I am he knows where I live he knows what I need my file is open on his desk you know have to worry he hasn't forgotten about me I would like to see things go my way but that doesn't mean because I don't see these not there I used to give this example people say you know bad things happen to people that proves that God's not there so I said it's a little bit illogical I said that's like saying you know your mother says clean up your room you say well the problem is mom that I don't know if you exist then your mother gives you a smack poon and you say now I know you don't exist because so I had a mother she'd never hit me that doesn't prove non-existence that might just prove you don't like her there's no guarantee that everything's gonna go your way but that doesn't mean that a coach bar who isn't watching over us and if history has taught us one thing he more or less knows what he's doing I tell this story I must have told him the podcast before cuz I tell it all the time someone told it to me I got such tremendous physic and I always share it with other people yeah believe me it's a bad itch it was walking with this I seen him and he said if I was a coach Berkeley know what I would do and they said what River this is just what he's doing now why you think I'm smarter than him because yeah we're sure we're smarter than God we're sure if I was in charge I'd fixed this place up first thing that's penalty for double parking no question about we're sure we know it better and the older I get the more I realize I really don't know what I'm doing coz bra who knows everything Maxwell's legal adult of Adar he understands everything and the whole Purim story is you never understood what was happening it wasn't until the very end that you finally understand the story but until that point even before hummin becomes raised up to his position Esther tells our flesh parish that Mordechai saved his life by figuring out what big sin of sarrish were planning against him and that guy written into the book and that's it now the whole story is already over but nobody knows it because we're waiting for that card to be played huh huh cementery my dear Watson but you don't know that that's gonna happen so you don't see how things are going and you're sure you know the story I know what's gonna happen look at those gallows yeah Mordechai is gonna be hanging on the gallows humming is going to destroy the entire Jewish people I know how this ends or do you but which is why the holiday of strike is poor simcha is circus but Turner miss hike laughter you know when you laugh at the unexpected a man walks into a bar or does a drink not very funny a man walks into a bar says ouch it's also not very funny but at least it's a joke because you thought he walks into a bar he didn't he walked into an actual bar BAM ah man walked into a bar you think one of them would have seen it BAM that's what humor is based on humorous based on the unexpected I interpret it satellite radio is this like comedy channel on it you know this guy says I was working construction on a high-rise building and the guy next to me says I've had enough I'm throwing myself to my death and he throws himself overboard unbeknownst to him Jack's trampoline store was having a going-out-of-business sale he falls hits the trampoline jumps all the way back up to the sky just where I am looks at me and says your jokes are ridiculously far-fetched because there's no way you saw that coming there's no way yeah and then you have to laugh because it's so unexpected the whole firm story was unexpected that's why we laugh cuz the coach burro who never abandons Jewish people he's always with us sometimes we see it and sometimes we don't but as the poem that was found from the little girl - which said I believe in the Sun even when I don't see it shining and I believe in God even when I don't see his goodness so like I've said in the past I met somebody who was unhappy and I said cheer up things can be worse he cheered up sure enough things got worse so we go into parishes Elfa and you have to remember one thing a mullet can do whatever they want their power comes from Suffolk if they can get you to doubt they can get you to suspect a Yasha schember carabane oh and meiyan is God really with us or not that's where their power lies and if we say you're nothing me and a coach boho man like this two of us we're in this together yeah then you can withstand anything things will not always go your way because I Got News for you you don't understand everything you're looking at the brushstroke you see the little boy and girl and you don't understand that they are a toy that's being played with a girl on a magazine cover on the back of a bus that's that's on a TV that somebody's watching you know I mean you don't understand you don't see the whole picture but the coach burro who never forgets us and in the end it's all gonna be good everything will be good in the end it's gonna be a happy ending yeah it might be a somewhat difficult journey to get there but get there we will and that's why if there's two months of either you put Purim in the second either why be so much cool Allah gula the Google affirm to the Google Earth Pacer because first you have to know how Kurdish Borough Hall has never abandoned you and when you can integrate that concept then you can have the real cooler that's it if you want to find out more about the show you can visit River Alaska calm where you can add comments see my upcoming event schedule contact me directly you can join the online Scheuer remember Alaska dot-com slash life we've got Mozilla Charmin DAF yomi you can be a part of that if you want to 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