64: Collect the Feathers

I am deaf girl ow ski welcome to the rabbi Orlovsky show thank you for that overwhelming expression you know it would make a lesser person perhaps feel a little insecure but I get so many emails some people constantly now who are telling me how much this podcast means to them how it is given them the physicai I got such a so many butyl every which one to pick just I should really read them out one time but just person was telling me about all the hard time she was going through and all the difficulties and how this podcast the way she put it re-established a relation where the courage bark oh my gosh who could ask for more than that I probably told this story already I don't remember what I say anymore but when when we're shocked started they go Latoya broke off from a good news to show good to show represented all of her ad jewelry for the most part yeah and United so nobody can represent everybody yeah but he broke off to make digger October and we're somos almond or buff didn't go along with him so so when the ax take that and mine came out which was the paper for deglet aura they wouldn't call refills almond Mehran they just called my Rev comas almond or about her but she cult or whatever they called him this is a story I heard by the way I haven't checked any of this I don't know if any of its true but there's no reason that should stop me from saying and someone said to him somebody tell me them heavy we have to make him a haha it's covered at IRA blows that was it covered it day right Johnny it you want to get cover to Tara he says your Moshe finds him when scold me in the middle of the night he says I know it's late by you but I have to pass canna Shayla and it's March cyclonus Natasha's and I don't know who else to talk it through with so emerges set up the whole Schuyler if someone Solomon gave his answer and Mauritius said oh that's what I thought you know shreya he says that remotion fights it would call me up to ask in my opinion okay but that I was mohab into what he was gonna say that's the greatest covetable so all these wonderful letters that I get from people telling me how much physically get from this half hour time that we spend together that's more than enough for anybody nobody could ask for more than that so whether you're watching on tour anytime or on youtube or on Apple podcasts or wherever you watch and listen to your find Spotify Facebook direct download from the satellite wherever you at my fam I you very lucky that come wherever you're watching we're so happy that you're with us and that we get to share this experience together so we are sponsored this week anonymously as it happens to be I know the people there's an old rabbi joke if in case you haven't be told rabbis no I tell them an old you know rabbis are called upon to do funerals it's part of their job it's one of the reasons that I was never really a prime candidate for the rabbinate because I'm a Cohen now there are abundant who somehow work around this I heard again just repeating what I heard there one farmer Riskin was rabbi of Lincoln Square he had a glass box built for himself and he would before the Levite go into the glass box and then and then they would bring in the mace and everybody else and he would give the has become the glass box you know so I said to one of the people once I said then that seems strange it says no you look just like a smitten what a terrible thing to say which is what we're gonna be talking about this week terrible things to say but anyway so sometimes you know rabbis called upon together to give a funeral and it could be a parent of somebody sometimes they just hire someone total total tangent Yakov Weinberg said that one of the things that destroy Judaism America was that people didn't feel an obligation to get a rough of their shul to be their spiritual leader they had you know debuck were they'd arvind and uh and rabbis would hang up signs outside their house rabbi or religious ceremonies performed and you go to a rabbi so if you had to live i something's just hire a rabbi come in you know so he doesn't know the person so this rabbi is giving a husband and he's talking about the person and the Nifty what a special person he was and and then you know what a light he wasn't and a whole thing and he looks and goes oh my goodness I know this guy so it's five for this week anonymously is this close for the donors and oh my goodness I know these people wonderful people this is one of those this is one of those wonderful she'd of him where I knew both sides before they got married and then they get married and now I know the one side I was at a wedding he says are you hearing from the customer from the qaule says the opposition that's for sure these are two wonderful wonderful people and this should be a big squeeze for them and all good things so this week is going to be partial viagra we are moving along embrasures already time flies whether you're having fun or not that's what I notice you just get old and time tends to go quickly so parshas vieira already well into parishes and there's so much so action-packed there's one area that I want to I want to try to focus in on Sara finally has baby at the age of 90 names of its and Avram already has a child from his first marriage she's 13 years old his name was Ishmael and it says he takes Yitzhak and to the field to be MIT's a fake says Rashi MIT's a fake to play to make fun to fool around he brings sukham to show that mensaje that word can mean three things avodah Zarah idol worship gilja Rao's immorality and shreeka stubbing murder murder and you smile the son of a Braun growing up in the house of Aram when three angels come to visit at the beginning of the Paris tree he tells you shroud to hurry and start making preparations so him and his father Avram of running around preparing a suitor for three angels and a year later he's engaging in the three cardinal sins murder immorality and idol worship pretty astounding I'm astounding concept it's hard to wrap your head around this and Rashi continues and says that he and Yitzhak were having an argument about who was going to become the inheritor of Avram and your Schmoll said I'm the oldest son and yet heart didn't really say too much because he was a little kid yeah so let's hug go he invites you to talk out into the field and uses him as target practice and start shooting arrows at him well he talks mother Sarah is not surprisingly upset about this behavior now listen sometimes kids fool around my daughter goes to a parenting class and one of the principles they taught her is that when kids are fighting you don't have to intervene at every juncture sometimes you have to let kids work it out for themselves I'm not arguing the pros and cons of that but I think everyone would agree though that if one of the kids is shooting arrows at the other one you have to draw the line there especially if he's got 13 year advantage on the other one right so she goes over the eyebrow and she says this kid is not going to inherit in place of my son send him away now yes i Romney is very troubled by this and a curse Bravo says listen listen to your wife she knows what she's saying yeah a plus ik that I'm sure every wife is happy to hear yeah Robyn goping who is one of the legends of Jewish education yeah it's it's so amazing you know we live in a world and we don't understand where where everything came from it's almost a year since the passing of every guy's friend and I spoke about this and a podcast after he passed away about there were people who built call yourself built the Judaism at the time when when it looked like there was nothing left and there were heroes copán was one of those he was a legend and the things that he had got not that he's not yeah the tremendous things that he did in fact he listened to the podcast last week and he heard me quote was salivating about Halloween you must mother he brought me a safer that he wrote called governing with the roof where he shares his own experiences and particularly as far as the rough-in in Fela goes so when he came to give me his book first of all so hard that he listens to the show but so I told him I said I always say over I was at his doing as fast and I was on precious yes sir and and he was the Masada condition and he spoken to the Hopa and and he said to his future son Aloha cos there's a plastic of this week's parsha that I really think should be your direction for the rest of your life and Moshe listen to everything his father-in-law said he said to me you're not the only one every part is true cause we have to say hi every time I come to this part I think of what you said so that's a good partner for father-in-law's this is a good partner for wives yeah so so I was very upset now it seems to me like that Sarah put the emphasis on the wrong point right because I would go to a broom and say listen break this to you but he's shooting arrows at our son like he's trying to kill him like that Rizzo avodah Zarah get it right so we have reached a certain a certain breaking point here where and whatever it is that we're trying to accomplish we're not we're not succeeding with chosen say men she says listen he's claiming that he's gonna inherit and he's not gonna inherit over Y it's and so send them away so that his claim it's clear that he's not going to inherit gosh you're you're really hiding them you know the main point over here the main point over here is averted circularize triggers done in the three cardinal sins the worst things you could possibly do things that you're to allow yourself to get killed rather than violate and he's doing these things and instead you're talking about who's going to inherit that's the point so I'm gonna say the kiddush and it's my own idea I didn't see it anywhere but if you've been watching you know that I'm certainly not afraid to say my own thing I usually give a every other mozi shop isn't hard enough I know if I've mentioned this already every other mostly Shabbos I give a share in hard enough and I give a share in Mesilla Sasaram to ladies in heart enough they were up to precious already if you want to come and join that one and but I just started brand new share and tell stone if you anywhere in the area and you want to come to my missile sharpen share and that's for men and women so if you're interested its its Intel stone in the and the pie is said it's like when you first come in you make a left it's right there so that's a eight a clock on Tuesdays sharp sharp they like to start on time anyway so so I want to say my own code issue and so when I'm preparing my mother Shabbos year there's certain time to come I call up to check out the ideas that I'm saying cuz I don't wanna come out and say actual kefir if I could avoid it yeah so there's one I go up and I say you know I offer whatever my finish is gonna be you know and I said can I say that this is you you can say anything yeah that's about right anyway he's shooting arrows at him and you find that this becomes something of a theme when they go off into the desert and his mother puts him a arrows length away the amount to shoot an arrow that's how far she put some awake and after they get saved it says you sh ma grows up and becomes a real bit Cassius he becomes an archer you're funding a little arrow theme over here you know what's the what's the idea here so anytime you find the idea of an arrow it's always talking about the tongue the leshawna I'm not sticking my tongue out of just showing you four kids you don't understand that's it yeah I I hate so many thinks I've never gotten over from my youth one of them is I can't eat tongue I'm sure it's very tasty I've never tasted it I just can't I just can't taste something that has tastebuds I feel like it's tasting me back just me but there it's gel you can still get real kishka in America it's against the law real kishka is the kishkes the intestines they clean them out and then they stuff them with filling and they cook it up and it's quite a treat in America you can't do this anymore because they don't feel like you can really clean out those intestines well enough you're in Israel that's good enough but a tongue anyway whenever you see an arrow it means a tongue okay the tongue looks like an arrow but it's more than that too and that is that you can say something and it goes very far away like an arrow that's the finish of an arrow a sword is something that I have to hold in my hand and I can strike you and there's only so far I can go with it with a sword an arrow narrower gives me the advantage of distance England was able to defeat France and the Hundred Years War their secret weapon was the longbow and in fact in England it was forbidden to do any sports other than archery because they wanted to train people in the use of the longbow so they would have these arches and these arches could stand at a distance and as the Knights would come in and these were strong enough that they could pierce armor and so of course they will come in and they're already tuned tuned to them and they just slice them up anyway but eras go very fun you don't know the distance we all know the famous Marshall they give with blush inherited a guy comes to the rough and he says I killed somebody how do I do too but he says go find the biggest rock you can in the woods and bring it into the center of town and he does he says what do I do now he says bring it back now the person comes to her and says I spoke lush and her what do I do he says go into the center of town and take a feather pillow rip it open and throw all the feathers in the air and he comes back to the river says what do I do now he says collect all the feathers he says why can't they blow no around he says that's the problem in legend huh you say something bad it goes all over the place it's like an arrow it goes distance yesh mile is a fascinating enemy we know there are the del ignacio's the four major kingdoms that the Jewish people have to battle they are alluded to and parshas lake lacar they're alluded to in part inspiration I'm sorry so so of a vulture company so home they're the four non kosher animals the Torah specifies they're the four different materials that went into the giant Idol and that's his dream whenever you find these four the four kingdoms Bevelle Babylonia Persia media the Greeks and the Romans but at the end of time says desire Kadesh when we finally come back to itself waiting for us is going to be Ishmael and he took our trail while we were away because he could only have heroin Eretz Joe was deserted why because his bris Mila was not a complete person me a little but it was enough for him to get aired show when we weren't there and when we come back he wants it so he's an insidious enemy in the Quran they tell the story of a kata see it's hug from this week's Barcia the only thing is they substitute you smile for you talk Avram takes you swallow up the mountain that he offers him and you know in the West when he saves him it's vanished the whole the whole campus you talked the whole binding of issac story only its smile instead yeah so they really want to be us and not only do they want to be us but his name is Ishmael God will hear him we fight ace of it's nice easy conflict it's one that we understand her colca Yaakov you die every day Asaph we our powers and I voice his powers and his hands his it's physical power ours is is religious power through our prayer yesh mal has the same power of prayer that we have he's able to use his voice he is in a sense our closest enemy because he's fighting with the same weapons that we have and that's why the only ultimate enemy for any superhero is of course the personal has the same powers for Superman it's General Zod because they're both Kryptonians they both of the same pout for Ironman it's some other guy in a giant Orion two people who have the same abilities as you they are the worst enemy to have to fight because you have to beat them on your terms Captain America Red Skull yeah they both had the Super Soldier Serum yeah I'm not sure what happened in the film I'm going back to the the comic books I'm going back to the source material yeah so so yeah you have people who have much the same powers as you your Shmuel has the same power of coal more than that Rashi says by the akkada that the reason for the acadia was because he Shmuel said huh you got you a bris Mila when you were 8 days old I did mine when I was 13 what's the source of their argument I have more mysterious nefesh for hakodesh burro who than you do I'm willing to go through any amount of pain I'm willing to blow myself up for what I believe in are you well this one Arab terrorist who said we're gonna win this war because we're willing to die and you're not willing to die for what you believe in anymore the ultimate battle to noose religion and your smile is my serous nephesh that's the power of speech and so when Sarah says she's shooting arrows at him I would like to suggest that he wasn't actually shooting arrows because otherwise that really should have been the lead send you run away because he's trying to kill yet what he's trying to do is destroy him with his words and that's why where was his words his words where I'm going to inherit and you're not because I'm the before I'm the firstborn I have more mysterious nefesh than you I Dobbin more than you do I care more than you do to the point that we needed a Cadis Yitzhak where we had to offer up his hug to show no I have more mysterious and efforts than you do that's how serious the threat was his words what does a good marinara can say loshon hora is connect give their Irish because that minute voters are Russian hora is equal to the three cardinal sins speaking evil is just as bad as all of those things put together so maybe when it says Misaka and the only thing you find Sarah says is what your Schmo said maybe it wasn't actually all of these actions because it's kind of hard to believe the kid who grew up in Iver almshouse and under the tutelage of Iver arm and under the eyes of Iver arm that he would be doing these things and that you could fool I've Romani wouldn't know about it that's the battle the battle comes down to the end the speech the reason there's been so much emphasis on Schmidt Salah should no have Italian wrote the safer as he says it's what stopping Michele from coming it's our words how can we dive in them a who's gonna come when our own words betray us how can we how can we use the power of two Fela when when all these bad words are stopping us and that's the wolf this was by way of introduction because that's really what I wanted to talk about this week is the character assassination that we participate in on a regular basis is a scary scary story these two girls on the bus and they're talking loudly I know that would come as a surprise to you but they're talking about a friend of theirs who got married shiny honey bunny who ever was yet the things you believe that trying to get such a great I don't know because you know shinies this and Chinese then you know Shani did this in Chinese did that saying on and on and on and not and and finally this woman turns around is sitting in front of them and said thank you so much what do you mean he says Chinese engaged to my son I didn't know anything about her I'm going home right now in breaking the it probably wasn't as bad as they made it sound but how do you backtrack now what do you do and they were just devastated the woman gets up to leave it's her stop she turns around and says my son's not engaged to that girl but I could have been the mother-in-law now if these were serious things that there was really problems there nobody's perfect oh it's obviously nobody's everybody has shortcomings but when we say things do we stop to think don't forget about how we color it comes time brings example where somebody tells somebody something and he goes back you know he goes he goes to prove it and said you said this about me he says no I didn't and then he runs back to Shimon and he brings Sherman over and he says you said that Ruane said this and he says yeah you did it goes that's not what I said I said it differently I didn't say it the way you're saying it they said well that's it then I was nothing to talk about I damage that we do that's taken out of context people don't understand what they're saying it's an amazing concept of a lot of Osman says how come a coach ba who was allowed to tell Moshe obey know what Miriam and Aaron said about him isn't that lush in heart so we know coach bro who keeps the turrets come on Shabbos where they say how could I could probably make it rain he's Frankie from one wrist to another and he says to God everything is one matures it's all one area says no caring but he keeps the Torah so several hundred Bosman listen to this he says cuz you're allowed to speak illusion are as long as everything you say is true but there's no way for me to say something over exactly the way it took place you don't have the context you don't understand how it was said there's always gonna be some coloring that goes into it and this is this is the terrible situation where you destroy people's lives with words now go collect all the feathers go collect all the things that you said all the things that you did so it used to be guys used to sit the back of show land they used to conventionally used to complain they used to say things now bar Hashem we have the Internet we can destroy somebody in a second people spread things and they go all over the place score him I'm not talking about Skyrim I had people say thanks to me because I know 100% that this is true I called up the person who wasn't sure I know this for a fact and people could say anything they want and and once we've heard it our opinion is colored though as a fellow I know he was protects eeeh that's what they call it in Israel in order to get certain things accomplished you need what you call protects eeeh it sounds a lot better than corruption but that's what the word really means yeah in America protects eeeh that's what they call it corruption like I I go socialized medicine I make an appointment at the doctor and I first department to get us in a month but it happens to be my mother's friendly with the secretary calls her up and she pushes me ahead of everybody else the next day that's getting full or here record protects you anyways they used protects eeeh and this girl got into the high school and then a couple weeks later the principal calls him up and says she has been unaccepted so the parents are very upset co-op the rabbi the rabbi calls up the principal he said well the parents had divorced the girl has a DD and I forgot what the third thing was so she says look I don't want to tell you I don't know if a DD is a reason not to accept somebody or attention but she doesn't have anything she doesn't and the parents are happily married and the third thing also wasn't true and what did the principal say there's no smoke without fire why the other thing is the line guy says to me once you know I know I came up here yeah Oh your daughter made the teacher cry oh my gosh so I go home and I was very upset at my daughter and she says it wasn't the teacher it was the woman and the swimming hook she didn't cry she just got upset because I didn't want to go in the water because it was cold this guy he said the story to me he might said the story to other people I was all shake I caught the guy briefed was because I I must have the wrong information shooting arrows they go distance we say things we we don't understand how we're affecting people yeah somebody who said something that was relatively innocuous and the people in the internet went to destroy him and this guy who was a real tubbing he was unprepared for this I've been killed three times already on the internet so I got four lives left there must be a cat but you know this guy was it's destroyed him and I called him up to give him physic yeah I said let's don't worry about it you're only died once people gonna say horrible things what are you gonna do you make accusations unsubstantiated them nothing to do somebody said something I do believe in my don't believe in my just outrageous there's no proved an accusation go prove the accusation destroy a person's life in the process it's okay I'm not talking about when there's really a crime has been committed and you're trying to protect society but you understand you understand what the what the ramifications are and I gotta talk about it there have been disagreements among kadoya Torah very serious good yeah disagreements in our generation it wasn't as bad as the fight between be honest and I'm shits and yaakov Hamden which apparently ripped Europe apart it wasn't as bad as the fight between us either minmus nagging him where people were fighting in the streets terrible things but there were disagreements and people asked me about it and I said for my misspent youth I picked up a few lessons and one of them is that when King Kong and Godzilla fight stay out of the way now if you don't know the reference don't worry about it's unimportant nobody goes to my wo me says you have to know so much literature and pop culture and history you know in science just to get through your references in fact when we go up and said tameka's do you think most of your audience gets most of your references I forget 70% I'm okay if I get all of them years I'm old enough that borrowed a minute so I remember there was a older fellow when I was in Los Angeles I was much younger and the two of us used to sing el Jolson songs together now there weren't too many kids in my age with Al Jolson but yeah I was born in the wrong generation what can I tell you somebody asked me once about Gil Gulen reincarnation so I said I'll tell you the truth in my last life I didn't believe in it but now I'm really coming around to the idea so I have an old soul but we have to take upon ourselves now we're in the end game now this is the final chapter and Michelle is around the corner and where our enemy as you smile his power is the power of speech we have to battle him on our own terms this is the fellow with the same powers that we have it's now that we have to take our time to be mohassid ourselves in our speech think three times before you say anything and I have to tell you as I look back on my life the things I regret the most are not the times that I didn't say something although I do relive those moments that say I should have said this I should have said that you know this would have been a great line you nothing but the things that I really regret at the times that I open my mouth it's definitely things that I say that I regret much more than the things that I don't say so let us strengthen ourselves in this area and just be careful what we say because the ramifications can be tremendous and it takes it's really hard to pick up those feathers after they've flown around and if you're wrong what you say it in a way that's coloured in any way the destruction that we create is tremendous so that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show you go to reverie orlansky comm you can make a comment you could find out about my upcoming event schedule as I mentioned I'm going to be in America the end of November you can send me an email and if you want to sponsor an episode you go to rebel ascii that come slash podcast click on the sponsor an episode button I'm Deborah Orlowski and this is the rebel our ski show [Music]