60: The Meaning of Paper Chains

[Music] hi I'm Debra laughs keselowski show and welcome to our special pre circus program as we get ready for a circus it says in the Terre about the Dalit meaning the four different things that we take for a costume ahem but yomaira show you will take it on the first day say that has ow what do you mean the first day it's the 15th of the month should have said we'll take it on the 15th of the month and so the sages make ad Russia they learn out of his puss ik y is sook is called the first day cuz it's the first day that you have a chance to sin no you come out of em Kippur and you have to build the sucker you have to decorate it and you have to get you dialed meet him and you have to do the shopping for Yun Tiffany do the cooking for hunter and this year we have a Shabbos in between last time you ever sharpest of Shabbos and then it's a review under that out so so tight people don't have a chance to sin so it's the first days of a chance to sin and I say it's just good planning if you plan it out properly miss Tommy to be able to sin even during these four days and Ralad over is that I'd very often do so there's a proof that you know if you if you plan things you could put up your Sokka get you don't mean them get all your food for you and still do a sin it takes a certain determination and organization but I think if you really put your mind to it but I mean you can't sit yeah we send away the Sutton on Yom Kippur there's no sentiment a problem and Yom Kippur is is a time when we are living out of this world out of this world and that energy propels us towards focus because circus is that time when we're half in this world and half out of this world now I had students who lived most of their life like that they would have been in heaven but the idea is that we're in walls that are regular house we don't have a real roof for those of you watching in Chicago roof yeah we have a temporary roof it says if we're in this world and not in this world for a week we're going through this process circus this is a man in San Jose no it's so happy because we're confident that we did true volume Kippur we're confident that we were forgiven and now we're going to suck his mind somehow saying we're gonna celebrate yeah we're gonna party that's what it's about simply visitors whoever he's the party in the basin mikdash now I share with you memories the memories I went to the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County and we had school during colloid the reason we had school is because they felt like there are a lot of kids who would never see a sucker unless there was school the school built the sukkah and they built the sukkah that was mokuba when I was growing up it was a metal frame with canvas sheets and these large bamboo poles on the top and it had it served the purpose it was a sucker the wind would blow and the walls would flap em up you know and he was usually freezing New York at that time and and it was on my synagogue we also Ida sucker people who came this one suka they go out they make it is you know now is it basically very few people where I was growing up and it's oka now I was I went to a synagogue in East Meadow which was a more Jewish neighborhood I lived in North America which was a distinctly not Jewish neighborhood and we were one of the very few suckers in North America now my father who was not a sentiment fellow part of that I ran off to the fact that he was a Polish again and that's how you would talk hi my Waco chimera and I remember my grandfather used to talk the same way you know is that kind of like its I may have told the story already but there's a spoiler she it is on his deathbed his families gathered around mrs. Marshall Union says yeah slain below you here says yeah Hika you here says yeah then who's in the store that people are not that emotional you know I mean yeah this man is on his deathbed he's all the senses don't worry pop you know we plan the funeral and get you a beautiful hearse we're gonna get you no limousine for the family it's gonna be a beautiful affair the second brother says what do we need a limousine for we all have our own guys get there in a hearse and we'll drive it our course the third son says what are we into her side I got a station wagon you know put down the backseat but they didn't take him to the think of the cemetery the father cause my friend says get my pants a walk it was only two times that I remember my father becoming sentimental Dan right emotional the first was the day after my casa I remember this it was the first Firma Casa de in the family and I'm gonna take from I mean you she was she was the one you know and it was it was beautiful was really very beautiful I have to say and and my father said you have to be careful because sometimes people wait for you when you're going out look for the fussing collar and they robbed them so I'll take all the gifts and I'll give it to you tomorrow when you come by the house okay it's a good gifts and the next day I come by my collar I'm married Mannie I remember when I got engaged I was allowed to sit on the couch in the living room that was the first time in my life my parents at six boys oh and we would you know tear the house apart I mean like yeah every now and then my father would move something to find all hole in the wall so my mother wanted one room that was an adult room that she could have people and she fixed up the living room she put these nice couches she put down carpeting we were not allowed to walk into that room if for necessity you had to cut across he didn't have enough time to walk around the entire house which we usually did it was a plastic runner going through the living room you had to walk on the runner to get across you couldn't do that and I never said on the catch when I got engaged my my mother invited McCullough into the living room and I guess I was allowed to come with her which between me and you were highly overrated but in any event but you know so so I I came with my collet now the first time and my father's eyes watered and he said I wish my mother had lived to see this and that was the only time that he ever mentioned it after that whatever he would talk about the wedding he says I was a man after hundreds of people there was a it's crazy that moment no men do we felt it was it at a time that's when he built his soca now so that you appreciate this my father was a florist my father was an interesting fellow he did a lot of different things but he ended up becoming a florist he was very creative very creative Philip had florist in a nursery and he says the sukkah is supposed to be the Harvest Festival it's not supposed to pretty bad out of canvas in bamboo it's supposed to be something that's that's life so my father nailed up a wooden frame made a wooden frame and then he nailed trellises onto the wooden frame if you don't know what trellises are these wouldn't laddus like works we put them all around and then he brought in boxes of cedar greens and an America florist often decorate arrangements would see the greens and he and he got see the greens and he wired on the greens on the entire side and then the other side of the sucker so the entire sucker was made out of cedar grades and then for the stock he put down some slats and the entire Scott with cedar grades there's what smelled beautiful and it looked beautiful and he would decorate it with Indian corn which I have not found here in Israel it's corn that grows and different kinds of colors and things he would hang Indian corn gourds now here in art sell I have bought gourds because there's a mimic and Cora to eat gourd and it's gigantic large green thing but in America they have these decorative gourds which are these small things that come in different shapes and colors and gorgeous we'd hang them from the from the ceiling the Indian corn he bought autumn leaves it was the florist and the entrance was covered with autumn leaves as well as different places around the walls and otherwise he had dried dried flowers with : straw flowers and he covered the outside all over with this rough silence and then he brought potted mums plants and put them around the outside of it and it was they used to bring groups to come and see the sucker it was it was something that was so magnificent just just to experience my father would go out and eat in the sukkah the whole week the whole week he'd come home from work you know my mother would say he wants up because I have it in the sucker it's in the so good in him and there was one that was the first night okay it was very cold and I was an FPT those you unfamiliar with the term I was a fiery about you but I remember one of my first year as I told my father I'm gonna sleep in the Succa he says me you crazy you'll catch pneumonia I said the MS Leslie was like I took my bed out for in the sukkah and of course my father was wrong I only got bronchitis but I tried that trick but you know but like you know anyway right but I used to sit with him at Masuka and that was the only time you would wax sentimental for some reason so cos he had these wonderful memories of circus and and many we talk about his father and we talk about his mother he never talked about these things it was only this hooker there was something in the sukkah that that just took it to a different place and at some point my father started making he didn't call it simple as business or a reason I make a Sukkah party you start inviting people and it got bigger and bigger he had to have caterers there chafing dishes and all kinds of things going on it was it was quite the happening I've tried to imitate that in my own small way I've never been able to duplicated what my parents did with that with that beautiful beautiful silver jewelry if it was something that was out of the world in fact a little fun but it's not really tying into circus but it's a good buddy I don't even know how to explain this to your generation if you're my generation you understand but there was this Mateus that was called the candy store a candy store it wasn't dabka candy but you go in there and buy soda now today if you want to buy soda or if you're from the Midwest pop soft drink what have you call it yeah I kept soda yet that you didn't didn't just get that you would go to the you'd go to the candy store there was a soda fountain they had a faucet that Seltzer came out of and they had syrup and they would put the coca-cola syrup in and they did the salsa and they mixed it up and I gave you the drink on the spot and the these things don't exist anymore obviously and they had ice cream and they had malteds and they were all kinds of different things you know in the candy store and they had other stuff that you needed like grace cigarettes and they're all the important things yeah anyway this was a dying breed so when I was growing up my father found this candy store that was going out of business and he he bought the soda fountain it's a whole sort of mountain he pours down into the basement and he set it up and he put in a compressor said it would make sense a-- and for the singers busy show ever he filled up all the flavors of of soda and hit ice cream and a malted machine and he had you know all the different toppings in a maraschino cherries in the and the wet nuts and they whipped cream my one of my brothers he used to run the when the soda fountain down there you know and and it was it was just something that was so spectacular and my parents was some hobby the sukkah mahabad circus I remember it now it was just something that was so glorious when I come into suka so okay so maybe next podcast we'll have a chance to see my SoCo yeah but it's it's basically I have a little hotel here in there out the walls are made out of stone and I have a pergola and we have the Scot Lynette saw that you roll out you know the mats and it's distinctly not my father so there's no Indian corn and there's no gourds and there's no water leaves and there's no potted plants and there's no straw flowers and there's no seed of greens yeah but yeah I feel like the PIAT that we say on Yom Kippur you know a line of Chiara Valen okay live a little God with nothing with nothing yeah but but I have a coach ahsoka and we decorated you know my daughter Mendel is really the one at this point was in charge of it they my eighth daughter she's she's the one who's usually in charge of that and everybody else is out of the house and she really fills in a lot listen when you're the eighth girl you better you bet you have something live up to you my seventh daughter I named a bat Sheva and my eighth thought I was gonna name her batch Mona but I didn't I went with I went with a traditional name from one of my one of my mother-in-law his aunt's and I had he braised I some of the names they changed other names and my my Hayley I named it for my mother-in-law his mother you know I said named Ralph your mother is her name was really raffle when my Miriam was when I told my father I send a few mother her name was really Miriam so so I asked this was Fantini I said what's her name it's min don't okay I'm not crazy about that but I'm gonna do it right I told Madeline I named him indels and my she never liked that name [Laughter] just in case you're wondering you will never get it right as we say in Hebrew ain't chance chance you get it right anyway but so she does a lot of decorations and one of the decorations that is most popular not just here now it's relevant also in America are paper chains I had somebody come to my suka one six well it was pick chains for the picket chains would you hang paper chains in your house no I would definitely consider it a lot of fun you know when you have a little kids they're running around making trouble yeah I mean everybody like to make paper chains at different colors and things and make enough of them you can hang them all over the place yeah it's very very exciting paper chains now that's interesting why we decorate with paper chains and on the subject to change his interesting thing he was supposed to lie again the lulav you're supposed to tie them together yeah my son Warren knows already cuz he helps me with my yeah I'll meet him by which I mean he gets him for me and not that I wouldn't do it it's just that I give off pusle race I don't know why it is one year I put the most expensive little up from one of these places came in a closed box I took it the guy said to me I took it to the Pasic the price exceda it was good yeah so somebody's in my house checking my little living cos I think it's puzzle I said it can't be it's got a hutch girl who did it so right my Simon Thomas Moser lives across the street for me and I said I'll pray through him Iseman so he says you know how hard it is to find a puzzle live i wanted to make rings i was going through to try to find a puzzle whoever it's almost impossible let me see I hear that's puzzle oh yeah yeah it's so that's why I just I try to keep it protected so that I had the least amount of contact with he's fixed it actually goes back to the fact that as I mentioned my father had a florist a nursery and all the boys worked in the store except for me he asked me if I would please not come because I evidently give off rays that kill living things this is a deep cut but there's there's different types of kryptonite you know no one knows the green kryptonite that kills Superman but there's different types one of them is white kryptonite that only kills plant life evidently I've been affected by white kryptonite the best I could I mean I have artificial plants that have died on me I mean just forget about it on the I'm the black thumb of the family but you know but I tell them I don't like those very small cutter clocks kocha clocks are those little you know woven things that you put on to the lulav to hold it in and when you get the real small ones you stick in you know your husband loving all the leaves come home I like the wider ones and then you have to tie them together you know and you make the ring supposed to tie them up cuz to keep supposed to be tied up until the end of circus of shudder ABBA and then we take the Rings off so that the lulav can flow freely says the SH law because when you unbind the love it's a symphony Segre what is the happiness involved the FLE free flowing lulav now so that you appreciate this yeah your March around with the love and the Eric and you have to say the whole shyness it's a little tricky when you're holding the lulav all tied together and the Eric and a sitter so they make this much fun a card I mentioned this once in shear and the young lady told the father and he sent it to me Chicago yeah there's a band that you can wear around that has the vaginas that you can read it on your arm as you're carrying it this was a game-changer for me anyway but the guy behind me who's usually much taller than me has the article circus master which is twelve thousand pages and weighs 52 pounds I know because it's hard for him to maneuver it so he rests it on my head as we're marching around you know and that's that's really quite challenging yeah and there's always somebody poking me with their little especially it's not okay I used to be a magician so there's this trick you know where you put a magician in a box and you stick in all these swords you know you have to be able to avoid them you know so I have a little practice at this but these little element coming at me from all directions so now all I need is for you to pull off them and you know now you can have it like a bullwhip so it's a it's a challenge at Sookie's there so I thought you know the only time the eraser when we say full hallow for a week I've seen eight days of course circus the padishah rim one year said anyone who says oh no ha Shem but a lot of qivana will have all that feliz answered well you can imagine and show that year I know somebody I know how the place was rocking you know came to the Rebbe at the end of the year incident I don't know I said it with all my component I didn't get it answered he says there's the wrong honor oh no Hashem Kiani there huh I'm your slave any of the huh then huh I'm a slave my mother was a slave p-taff the limo's say right you don't have to tie me up I'm not looking to escape I want to be a slave I was born into slavery I'm good at it this is where I want to be yeah if you say to a Kurdish bar Who I am you a slave I want to serve you then we break the chains well I that's the reason that we decorated a sucker with paper chains easy to break out of maybe that's why after a whole week of holding the Zulu lovin and then and the estwick so tight we take what the Rings and let it flow and you have the huh and I'm us a honey of the car and I'm uh I just I noticed that the musical episodes get higher views so I'm gonna have to do a lot more singing yeah he's after them I say [Music] anyway open us up we live yom kippur out of this world and you know be a vote of the coin god it was so careful you have to go like this go like that and bring the dime hear me that when you're all done you reach the culture code ocean in the michigan the coastal ocean was ten armas by ten hours and we had the our own that had poles that were ten hours lon and the cohen gather on yom kippur had to get in between those two poles carrying a spoon of incense in one hand and a pan of hot coals in the other how does he get in between the poles well he could jump but if he spills the coals or the incense we lands in the air and he's finished they used to tie a rope them in case he died if you're good at limbo Donna yeah you can go underneath I wouldn't recommend that considering especially considering that Aaron was 10 I was tall um little of the neck and and and and then then they like come and I want to go home I wouldn't suggest that so how do you do it so because I'll say because the Aaron wasn't tell face Malcolm it didn't take up any space sided student once asked me why did a coach borrow who make the cars readership 10 I must play ten hours and then he put in the arm with the poles ten hours long and then he had a problem how the cone together was gonna get in there and so he made the disappearing Aaron trick why didn't he just make the room bigger I said good Kasia but goodish lucky up because in the base of Mick Dodge the room was twenty hours by twenty hours and we put the our own in the middle and we stuck the Bulls all the way to the end so we had the same problem this wasn't an architectural floor that we solved by a miracle the reality was that the aroan is not tow free smoke home the our own is outside of time and face when you reach the base of mikdash and you get into the Koscheck adoshem you're in a place that is beyond time and space you are literally out of this world with a physical and the and the spiritual meet says yakima vino my no your aha Malcolm was a look how awesome it is says about Durham no respects is our own it's the Ark where that goes that's where the neighbor comes down it's the interface of Shimon Verret and so we work and we working with work out wingman out of this world and now we go through suckers we were slowly going to the process of integrating this world and that world that we were in that world of yom kippur reach the end we say okay we're not in the kosher good ocean well it take off all those rings we're gonna move beyond all limitations we're gonna be out of this world in this world that's the happiness of circus circus were sitting in a building but we're Taha's Khan Fiorina it was absolutely amazing we are having this intense experience you know you have seven weeks it's fierce armor and it leads up to show us which is called at saris and each week we focus on one of the me dice pressing forward to Ferris it's a total capitalistic stuff and circus we finish which Meany at saris it's also at saris but we only have seven days and and every day we have to put in an entire week of effort and every single time we're moving slightly beyond slightly beyond past all of our limitations that's the amazing thing about Circus Circus is a time when there's this intensity it takes place and that's where the camera describes what happened the best make their own circus says by nightfall the young Kohanim would light these drug Cantus lamps on top of the higher bias and every courtyard was lit up and you wish a lime it was unbelievable and then that people would come to the basic McNish and have someone special even a party the whole night and before dawn they would go off and they would draw the water and they would march it back and they would blow the chauffeur's and they would sing and they'd bring it to the base and make touch and they would bring the carbon Tom 'add I bring the morning offering and then they would go off in the oven chakras and then they would come back and they would bring the Musa for furring and then they would go off and they would davon rusev and then they would go through the go through the process you know of the rest of yontiff they would they would eat their sudan then they would learn Torah and they would bring the afternoon offering and me with that vanilla and then they would eat another sudha and then they would and then they would again you know learn Thai right and before you know it it was time to start the party again and they did this day after day after day Esther Kamara when did they sleep if you had to sleep you put your head down on your friends shoulder for a little bit and then you went back in stay how intense this time is there's no sleeping during this time there's nothing to sleep we're living life we're out of this world we're in this world and out of this world the closest thing we have to being dead is sleeping the gomorrah says sleep is one sixtieth of death if you want to experience what death is like you go to sleep talking to these teenagers once I said what's the greatest pleasure in this world may said sleep I said no you're kidding me so if you have a day off so sure I sleep all day I said need a vacation so what I mean two months in the summer I slept the whole time I said why but you can't wait till you're dead you'll sleep prep so one of them said no cuz I'll never have the pleasure of waking up and going back to bed but if every now and then I can open up the cover is a everything's still here close it turn it over go back to sleep I'm fine we lived Yom Kippur we went out of this for people like my luck and my look I'm down sleep we're out of this world angels and then we go into the sukkah we're half in and half out we want to live life we don't want to sleep it away little children don't want to go to sleep now I don't want to drag them up to their beds they don't want to go down the guy's leg I'm gonna miss something get to be my age someone sent me a cartoon once you don't sometimes in a bar they have what's called a happy hour you know where the drinks are half price whatever it is this is when you get to be my age happy hour is a nap oh yeah you're just sleeping my life away not circus so there's no time to sleep we have to live life the lipids are fullest to have to enjoy everything eventually we can go back into our house and go back to everyday life and live things the way that we need to but until then live life to the extreme live life to the max that's what Circus is any of the and I myself eat after them I say right take off my chains unshackle me set me free I could serve you so much better hey take off these ropes think of these chains I'm not going anywhere I want to serve you I want to be here for you I want to do for you let's do it together we're in the sukkah it's true you give me an amid store that completely surrounds you when you go to the mikveh and I made an oblique reference to the mikveh experience somebody brought me and said you never finish that don't worry we got and we're not even done with that first year yet going to the mikveh completely encases you when you go into the sukkah it completely surrounds you it's a mitzvah that you can live in that becomes part of you so that's it go build your suka hang your paper chains make you a sucker as beautiful as you possibly can heron air its shell eyes do sleep in the sukkah sometimes I have the opposite problem it's too hot to sleep in the Sun I friend of mine who married a girl from Miami they have air conditioning in the sukkah it says otherwise you can't stay there because if it's tire has putted on the sukkah if you're in pain you can't stay there so if it's too cold or it's raining or it's too hot you can't stay there usually though it's beautiful I sleep I have my regulus we can I have my little sleeping suka I have the Ameerpet you know my little porch off of my or from one of the bedrooms it's the wall its tenth bottom is high enough so I just lay out the stock on top of it and I crawl into it yeah and I just sleep there so nice she wake up in the morning too fast you bang your head into the sky okay but you know but but oh so nice just to be surrounded so we'll talk more about this next week when we talk about our suka I have a special circus podcast and until then if you want to find out more about the show or this episode or make a comment or find about upcoming events of a book and I'm cupping a van tour you sponsor an episode or anything you go you know the drill you go to River Alaska calm and it's all there waiting for you and we should all have a beautiful yontiff this is Deborah Orlowski and this is the reverie Alaska show [Music]