58: Live a Little Better

[Music] hi this is Deborah Orlowski and welcome to the rabbi Olaf ski show the first of the year and I hope you year is going well during this period of time which some other guy in tells us is a sort of a paradox because we know that there's 365 days to the year where you know this because from the marble Rashi tells us there were 365 days we know this because when they are making the cat iris they say they make 365 portions for one day every year so we know that there's a solar year and then we know there's a lunar year which is 354 or 355 384 depends on the year come out different ways but take it push it the potion thing is that there's 11 days between the lunar year and the solar year and the villa guardian says that the Astraeus makeover is that overlap from last year to this year so if I interesting concept it overlaps the Rambam says when the year closes out you have to look at yourself as 50/50 I have 50% good 50% bad and if you reach over then that pushes you over the side the chasm mission I ask why do you have to do too much just do one more Mitzvah and then you'll have even though the account so it's love laser says because not doing chuhwa during a service made chuva is so serious that it doesn't matter how many other misses you do that'll outweigh everything this time of year this week the focus on doing Shuba now is so important what kind of service gives a different reason he says because it doesn't matter what you do now the only thing you're doing is creating for the new account the old account school last year's gone so you're 50/50 it doesn't make a difference what you do now so sometimes for Lovitz except for chuhwa because Chava can work retro actively it can make what you did last year not exist in other words I'm 50/50 and I can take away from the bad side by doing children Shubh is the only thing that can affect last year interesting so this is a very special time there's this overlap between the two years there's a chance for us to do two ver and the importance of doing chuhwa during as Sarah's made chuhwa is so important why you hurt somebody and that person is the hurt party and he comes to you to give you an opportunity to try to work things out and you don't say anything dear Josh every Matsu how courage by Rojo is here now obviously he's not affected by time and place but it means you can feel how could his burro whose presence now more the sense of a coach but a coach Bart who is everywhere all right Sheamus here ahsha was there Hashem is truly everywhere right I think someone made a song out of it but coach Bravo's everywhere the word Olam is from the word head alum it means that he's hidden by the world and during his Harris made Shuba he peels away the layers it's easier to see him to sense him he's always there but now the mask is coming off it's easy to see him it's easier to come close to him this is a time when we really have to work on ourselves and this is a very special like I said the first one of 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when the food Expo comes up so I'll be cooking you know some of the things coming along yeah speaking of which I got a an email someone says you don't give desserts you don't give desserts it's true it's true I don't give desserts the reason is because my mother almost never made desserts she said she'd make an apple pie that was terrific I don't have the recipe for it unfortunately we'd buy cake at the bakery that was more than enough cuz there was almost nobody left at the table nobody ever left the table to lay down you would just slowly roll onto the floor from your chair my mother would serve for Antonia this is a reshammiya half uh honeydew melon and then gefilte fish she'd make her own gefilte fish it the girl was the day to make it she grind up the fish meat don't think it was feather-light yet but just made pieces like this you know then you have a good filter fish then she made chopped liver then she made stuffed cabbage then she made fricassee yeah then she had choice of soups she had cabbage soup and if you got that it came with pigs of lankan oh she had chicken soup and then you could have either regular noodles or healthy fat noodles and Chinese noodles to put it into the soup and chicken my father used to put in kasha yeah and you had all that stuff into the soup and then for the main course she would make a turkey and a brisket with all the side dishes to go with it with the turkey she would make sweet potatoes and stuffing and with the with the brisket she'd make a potato cocoa and luxan kugel and and creig's catch a virus I remember one stuff so really there wasn't too many people still at the table when it came for I came from desert and by the way my mother served the same thing at the Seder now get my father ran the Seder very quickly but as I you know got more into things I would just took me longer than say the Haggadah and the courses would be lining up down the table I don't know how anybody made it to the afikomen but so we weren't we weren't really big on desserts but I will tell you the following it's not my recipe no it's not my mother's recipe because like I said we didn't make this in America those you anneristo may not even know what I'm talking about in America there's a treat that they make this time of year it's called peggeleh and take a lot a little pieces of dough that are fried in honey that are stacked up in a little beehive shape with baking cherries and counter-intuitively nuts because we don't usually eat that sunrise shoshana analogous come a trio of egos as hate and so it's sin and we don't want that in there but that's how they make they make it the whole things coming with honey and you pull it apart and you eat it and you find every cavity in your mouth and it's incredibly painful I love it so when I go to America if I'd have a trip during ello I bring back peggle already have it if not we would make it ourselves it is a patch gun you have to be deeply dedicated to do this if not then I don't know what to tell you I live in areas show there's no take a look one year Brooklyn bakery actually made tangela you ever gone by teyla and they said it was such a mess and so difficult they never did it again the sacrifices I make when I live in Israel because for some reason they don't have any Jewish food here I don't know why kreplach you know America you going to take our place and get kreplach anything what here you can only get kreplach on this special kreplach holiday before Yom Kippur before hoshanah Rabbah and before Purim otherwise there's not a to be found in this town and I say that if you can make eight different salads out of eggplant then you should be able to provide kreplach for the Jews of Israel but it's not there likewise I can't get any prune hamantaschen I don't want hamantaschen with chocolate in it okay that's not a hamantaschen that's a guy chocolate cookie I didn't this year you know the famous of arise man the brother of the good of Madison where a discourse of being this past year for Shabbos and Irish even turbid Hasina and he's known for course for his Navi sure and he would which is really broadcast all around the world and when his son happened to be in my shear yeah Benji was a good friend of mine if he's watching this give him a shout-out and I did this rant on there's no firm hamantaschen now oh well known fact that Reger iseman is of course part of the famous Reisman bakery family and that year before Purim I got a giant box of prune hamantaschen and I tell this story over all the time because maybe one day I'll get more but it's hard to mail the kreplach from America because they you know they probably go bad but you know I don't know why it's so hard to get the Jewish before take a lot so I have to make I make tag la before we Shoshanna because it's a sure thing so I get the recipe from classic kosher cooking by mrs. Sarah Finkel you can see it this is so used it's taped together already this is this is our go-to book and she has a great recipe look at this take a look really say that this is a go-to I'm not saying that stop yeah and it's we get the recipe from there for those who are unaware she would sometimes meet buffer and she'd say will you learn says you know in the mirror he says oh you know my son Matt he's there so he says Matt nan who you know not Finkel he's a you know he's in charge because you mean with nothing speak he was nat Finkel in Chicago before he was with no sand speak think old and this is his mother's recipe this is our mother's cookbook it's a knack anyway this is the recipe old-fashioned Tagalog you can go look it up for yourself it is a patch kit and a half but there is my suggestion if you're looking for a dessert that's one of the few desserts maybe before the circus I'll give you my daughter's honey cake recipe that she uses but like I said we we we never baked when I was growing up there was can buy such great stuff in the bakery you know there's this woman told me she was my son FS every Erev Shabbos to make collars for her family and one week she was whatever happened there was some incredible she couldn't she bought collars her children were so happy you have to make really good college to you know to beat some of these bakeries I mean they they you get such good stuff today there's so many cakes and cookies and things but like I said when I was growing up nobody was left at the table when I came to dessert you know so I was like we have all this stuff and then a cup of tea oh yeah yeah but anyway that's that's the you know so here's my here's my honey cake recipe go to the store buy honey cake and I call that my easy honey cake recipe many event we're coming out of her Shonda we're in the Astaire's makes you and it's a time when we have a special opportunity it's brought down and hallo ha that you take on Homer during a serious match or something you do not intend to keep doing the whole year now why are we pulling a fast one on a college bar oh ho no because this is very important yeah the Southwark akan says that we went seven weeks in the desert till we reach the point that we could stand a tyrosine eye and experience a guillotine ah but it says it was a Gilad screen at the yam soup the splitting of the red see that God revealed himself and it says what a shift car what a slave saw at the sea you Chris cope and Busey the great navi the great prophet didn't see sir Southwark says because sometimes the coach burrow who lets you see the goal before you there so I won it during the first week of the year do something that I can't keep up I'll give you a simple example right depends will you diamond but doing a sales meet you over we have very long sleepless and I normally go to a seven o'clock minion and slickin starts at 6:20 except on some Gedaliah we start 6:15 yeah oh yeah I managed to put in a few extra sleepless and and I get up then I go and one year somebody said to me you know if you went to darling everyday at 6:15 or 6:20 you'd have much more time in your day you'd have much more of your morning I said that's true but I would also die no then I I can't do that the only way I get through a sense my childre is with coffee now having said that there was one year was an of these things always happen enough and somebody was talking to me and I said I can't talk to you I got a I got a have a coffee I didn't like the way that sounded so I took him myself that I wasn't gonna drink coffee from my squirtle until after Yom Kippur and I got through that sleepless without coffee okay but that was only because I was trying to prove a point my natural stubbornness carried me through but normally I could do it I could do it for we can get up very early for a long sleep us during says me trooper I can't keep that up the whole year so what am i doing we're fooling the coach merical no for one week we're showing ourselves I'm capable of more I'm showing you something you're not holding by yet but you could you could you're just not ready yet and that's okay that is more than okay it's so nice to have a taste of something that I'm not quite ready for yet I grew up in a home that wasn't shy my shop is when I was a kid we would every now and then the school would take us away to a community that were shava shava shava I was mind blowing that kid I was kid I mean I became so much I was at 12 so but so took men I was much younger just to see it and I might not have been ready to do it yet but I saw this now is something that could be part of my life and that's always important you have to be able to see the destination where I'm going so this week we're gonna try to live life a little bit more than we usually do it's the first week of the year let's start off on our best foot and we don't try to do something that's impossible we try to take on something that's a little bit harder for us to keep yeah it's brought down and so on our path Sock'em it might have been that the Baker was not Jewish and okay all the ingredients were kosher and the face the key part but it was possum it was big plane engine and and so at least assessment Yuva you want to have pasta so now here inherits show it's not such a problem yeah because we have a lot of juice I mean America there are a lot of stuff with good hash caucus that are baked goods that are very very yummy yeah full disclosure they are very yummy yet so I don't want to take upon myself that I'm never gonna handle them again I have a nephew who relied on promotion Feinstein in America and he ate things with what relationship cause all of her companies and it gets Myesha what we called today they called static olive he felt it was like a tequila in fact Rabbi Frankel probably a good of a Long Island put together a Contras of different questions he asked with David Feinstein and one of them was should a person be mock bid if he normally realized over in Russia should be marked with during a serious mate shoe but not to have color stamp and what David said no but Mercia didn't hold it was a even so but okay but yeah I'm at my table Brava yeah so so he went to get married goes down the Hopa and afterwards they went into like the custom room you know in America you know that the caller has a room and Hudson has a room you know and in Eretz show the cousin you know has as his room it's called the it's called the hall and kala has a room it's called the bathroom and we're not when I quit is but the you know so empty was his brother Tommy's as he went into the room and just before he went down to the chuppah he had his last Kit Kat they were the wrappers over there because he was gonna take on after you got married you know the keep hungry it is less KitKat yet so okay there he says my children people who may not be mocked Mia and pass you throughout the whole year during this week we take on a little bit more we do something else because it's it's such a special week because birth was so close we want to be better and listen you know many women out there know that when their mother-in-law is coming to visit they clean the house in a way that's different than the way that they clean it normally because they mother was come first time I met my future the autonomy the cut cases who live in room at Beit Shemesh there was nothing on any of their counters I couldn't do that if I wanted to I got enough room in my cabins to hide everything [Laughter] yeah I remember what am i doing is when she was dating you know so they picked over the house and you know she has that none of the children be around you know it's like all the children were locked in the back room until they were ready to get more serious you know and then they were allowed out they were so excited yet but I could not hide everything yet so when your mother was coming you know yeah you try to clean on a different level could who's right here I want to stand a little taller I want to speak a little nicer I want to put my best foot forward put on my best face my coach bro he's right here with us this is this is the journey that we experienced from Russia shun TM Kippur the usual shall be Matsu he's right here why would we let that opportunity slip away and so that's what we are it's so interesting that some Gedaliah comes out during assess my children because it's really been related but you know the story is the story is that after all the Jews went into gullies the little youth folks stayed behind never kind that's it didn't even wanna you stay here and he took Gedaliah who was a big Sadiq I put him in charge and this was a golden opportunity after the burn and after the ghost for those Jews who had such good excuses I never made it cuz I didn't have a good job I never made it cuz I have any money I didn't make it cuz I didn't have any heroes I didn't make it for this for that when it's over I'm a victim of circumstances everybody's gone it's yours you got the run of the place sometimes you're going to show there's no seats to be had and telling us is not so many people you know you get a whole road to yourself you know that is probably one of the greatest moments in a person's life when they get onto the plane and it's mostly empty get a whole row for yourself lie down delightful but when you understand that you have this opportunity coach borrow who's right here so what was what was some Gedaliah these people had another chance they had everything to themselves so what they do they killed Gedaliah gotten through hunting that's angry he came in XOS everybody and that was the end that was the last chance this week is that chance that we have to be better and during the year we have all kinds of things going on and all kinds of problems and but this is the week coach Burke was right there with us he's got his arm around us so how's it going a chance to be close we want to be a little better don't have to be perfect I don't wanted to be perfect trust me think of me a lot of years but the person to be perfect this guy once said to me I feel like a perfect idiot I said nobody's perfect I try to be perfect I don't have to be perfect the my goal this year is to be better and the goal for assessment rumor is I put on the tie for the picture I'll comb my hair if you happen to be one of those people don't usually do that you know I'll make sure that I tuck in my shirt I'm gonna look as good as I can because Chris Burke was right here with me that's a serious my children such an opportunity how the coach Bofill gives us he's right here and he's gonna stay with us till Yom Kippur close close close he's coming closer and closer every day we're coming out of Russia shut up we blue chauffeur and a Kurdish bar who moved till the key said then to the keys they are after him and now he's in a generous mood mercy he wants you he's come down he's come to you he's mentioned more than halfway he went all over this room I have all the way down here with you now's not the time to ignore him that's what it's lit blaze it means when he says if you don't do too but now when a cruise brokers come all the way to you that level of apathy is that's not a Jewish heart can't you can't be that empathetic better care couch bar was there and this is hard for us because don't believe in God don't take that the wrong way but I'll prove it to you you davon e ba ha ha oh my god I mean that's you well yeah would you think you were domine - nobody go ahead ok Avraham I remember an Omaha boy I love that guy ok it's luck you know he was ready to give up his life for me now ok I have to tell you this is really uncomfortable well one second you know I was always standing there not really now if you go down Brooke I thought shamon God's standing like oh hi let me keep going ok yeah and it it doesn't affect you that's why mace is from the word nice Sian because when a miracle takes place it's real hard to doubt her cutters burger whose existence and because of that we we feel more of a sense of like wow as janice made true ver is that well it's that mace as the torah says we go into russia shun a confident that i Shem will make an ace for us and save us this is this is that time of year so mister Shem we are gonna take advantage of this time don't let opportunity slip away or as my father said to me once when I turned down one what he considered to be really golden opportunity he said to me when opportunity knocks you have to open the door he said opportunity is knocking a Kurdish burrows right here let's take advantage of his presence for us to be able to turn our life into the life that we want it to be and that's it for this week first year of the year for his podcast of the essay whoops for a show of the year forgot myself for a moment and that's it I'm gonna find out more about the show you go to reveal Alaska calm you can find about events you could contact me 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