17 Tammuz: Total Breakdown (Ep. 176)

hi this is deborah dolofsky and welcome to the robert roloff ski show whether you're watching with our friends over at attorney time or wherever you watch or listen to your podcasts uh it is as always a pleasure to have you along thank you for listening thank you for watching and thank you for being part of our community um we have been a little off schedule as you can see if you saw the live podcast it's an hour and a half that takes an enormous amount of work to put together and to upload and everything so that's why uh of the people who are writing me saying is everything all right yes everything is fine if there's no podcast it's only because of the technical effort being put together to make it all happen the days of me sitting in front of my little zoom camera in my house during corona are long gone but in order to maintain the level of excellence that we try to bring you on the rubber olowski show sometimes these things are a little more labor intensive so now we're back in the regular ruby alaska studios and everything is uh is going as should be so hashem we will be able to keep things flowing at a regular rate is our hope uh i've mentioned many times that uh the morale says that time is a spiral what does that mean it's a spiral well it's not a circle because the circle you keep coming back to the same exact place and you don't go anywhere with a spiral you come back to the same place only on a higher level so as we pointed out when you count your evo you don't count one two three four five six seven one two three four five six seven one two three four five six seven you count one two three four five six seven eight nine 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 you're going through the seven year cycle but always on a higher level and the same thing is true by sverisa oymer the same thing says with desolate should be true about every single week of your life that every shabbos should be slightly higher than the week before so therefore when we come to a moment in time it's upon us to understand that this is an opportunity that's been given to us and so we're coming up to shavasana patamus which has had significance to the jewish people for over 3 300 years because we came out of egypt and we traveled for seven weeks and we got to har sinai and moshe abandoned went up the mountain and we made a miscalculation we made a mistake and we thought that the 40th day was the 16th of ta'amu's instead of the 17th of thomas and of course we built the a gauze of the golden calf and mosh red mineral came down on the 17th of tamus and broke the lujos and that set into motion a series of events that have played out throughout history the mission and titus tells us that there are five things five tragedies that happen on shabbos for thomas and five on yom kipp these things are not by coincidence or by chance and tell you there were five tragedies that took place on shavasaputamus and five on yom kippur it means that there is an inherent connection between those two days and the five and the five so that the leucos that were broken had five mitres on one side and five mitsubis on the other side they make ten we know that the spheres are ten we know the parakim pyrochiavos that goes through ten expressions created the world ten tests of avraham ten plagues in egypt ten times we tested hashem ten generations from adam to noah ten generations from north to avraham these tens are all related right so the tragedy of the three weeks which takes us from shavasana tomorrow's to yom kippur are 10 tragedies and they're divided up thematically shavasana potamus and thematically by yom kippur so what's the theme what happened on javascript historically the first thing that happened is the luchos were broken moshe broke the tablets the walls of yerushalayim were breached broken through in the first place in magdesh and the second base to make dish now there are those some discussion on this whether the first one was on the 17th or not some say that it was some say that it um it was earlier but we put the two of them together but certainly the mishna presents two times the walls were broken down apostomus burnt the savatory until that point it was inconceivable to burn asafoetida now the gemara says h dos the say torah is black fire on white fire it's fire you shouldn't be able to burn it it's fire. was wrapped in the safety torah and being burnt he says i see the letters going up to shamami the idea of burning is safe this was the first time it was ever done in history that you were able to burn a safer torah this this new level had been reached and the fifth thing is that the carbon tumid ceased there was a time when we're not able to bring the carbon tummy it stopped so what do these five things have in common these five things have in common breaking the leucos were broken the walls of the city were broken the continuity of the carbon was broken the protection of the safety torah broke down shiva subatomus is breaking and tish above is destruction one basement was destroyed the second base image was destroyed her bias was plowed like a field because until that point it was a bias when you plow it like a field it moves from being a house to becoming a field and beta was wiped out and destroyed so you see that and of course the miragulum came back and said you're all going to brought the evil report and hashem said you were all going to die in the midburg and that was it it was it was the destruction and in fact amara and kitten tells the story of tito sarosha who comes into the koshkadosham and sticks a sword into the parochus and blood comes out and he says i killed the god of israel and asked the villain guy well how is this russia able to get this miracle and the answer is of course he didn't the miracle was for us that he did kill us says the guru we died on and our bones have just been rotting away until there's nothing but dry bones left so that the gullah is really going to be tries to mason amazing concept but shavasana thomas which comes first is breaking first you have to break it in order to destroy it you have to break it open break it down i had a privilege of meeting with somebody who is very concerned about the pride movement which is taking place around the world he says okay it's a terrible thing in america but here in europe that uh that the pride movement is celebrated the fact that a pride club got permission to open yeshua university the fact that there are people from people who express a solidarity with this he says this is this is only going to end in something terrible because we're breaking down together and that's what it's all about today break down any institution break down any rule that still exists total breakdown there are people in eritsel hung up flags celebrating a normal family ima abba the illadim they were forced to take it down they were fined threatened with imprisonment because uh uh you know your you're instigating you're threatening why because we're asserting that there's something that's normal and real and always has been they can't tolerate that you can't tolerate it so he says when you break down society you break down institutions what ends up happening so we like to be positive here i don't want to be negative what's the good news the good news is that the mission in sota says how will you know when meshech is coming the young will attack the elders children will attack their parents uh the ignorant will attack the wise everything that we define as society will break down completely we're almost there we've managed to break down everything that it holds together i've been working for many years um on a book ostensibly it was on and it turned into and challenged and now it's turned into uh life that's the working title i have now life users guide and uh because i realize you can't talk about raising kids unless you talk about marriage you can't talk about marriage unless you talk about what life is all about what are you trying to accomplish what's the purpose yeah and uh i started this because i'd written a number of for a number of years i wrote a column in the hamadiya and they wanted to take all the columns and put it out as a book and i said a collection of columns is not a book being having written a column i can tell you the goal of the column is to reach 2500 words or 3 000 words or whatever the amount is that they give you and you just have to keep writing until you fill it in but it's not necessarily what you want to say yeah there was someone who had achieved and uh so he would go over what he didn't share he said what'd you do today he says i did a kazanish he said but you know if you ever learned the khazanesh he took out all the lambdas it's just he just states the fact he says it took me four hours to turn it into a shirt looked at him and said it took me six hours to make it natasha so that i could boil it down to its essence the more people talk there's no indication that you're saying anything more could be you saying worse this is again as a speaker yeah um the big problem of people who are not experienced speakers when they're speaking at a simcha they don't know how to end they don't know how to say what they want to say and finish it up so they say what they want to say and then they keep repeating it over and over and over again because they can't end it i don't know how to stop yeah the very first time i spoke at the schmerzolossen event here in jerusalem where they had thousands of women and uh it's one of my favorite events to speak at because if you don't like it you can't say anything so that's great you know perfect how was the how was the evening yeah it wasn't so good they took those translucents this guy wasn't so good this guy was boring you know can't do that so you have to come back and say it was wonderful anyway so it was my first time ever there that was invited to speak it was only because there was no management the old management never would have had me but uh so they told us speak between 35 and 40 minutes so the first rev spoke for an hour and then the mashikiak spoke for an hour and 20 minutes and i spoke for 37 minutes and everyone said wow that was unbelievable why was it so short i said you're asking the wrong question i wasn't short everybody else was too long asked them why they spoke so long once heard very friend tell a story about this who was giving a dress she went up for 45 minutes you know and uh and afterwards this guy came up to him and he says you know i'm in media i have this religion um program if you uh heard my interview with y yy so you know yy used to work for the bbc they would give him a two minute slot of three minutes he says uh i would like to take that drusha that you just gave and put it on the radio he says i'd be delighted he says but it's only a five minute slot can you sum it up in five minutes he says yeah he said then why didn't you it's a brilliant observation you know the first and only time that i spoke at the goodie convention pesotron said to me be prepared to run late you know because uh everyone speaks overtime and uh i said why it says because people can't believe that they're speaking at a good convention they just can't stop i come in in time you know and in fact one person who was speaking before me was going on for a very long time and my mother-in-law was there and she was talking to somebody so one behind him said i don't think you'd appreciate it if people were speaking when your son-in-law was speaking and she said when my son-in-law speaks nobody talks [Laughter] so what can i say but anyway i was once on a panel with two very famous speakers and we were sitting up front and i noticed this one fellow was on his computer the whole time through the first speech of the second speech so i said he's my target audience if i can get him not to look at his computer anyway i got up i spoke i was very good because i put i put my cheese into it how do i know because the next night i had my heart attack so i managed i put all my life into that speech i almost died anyway i'm watching this guy he didn't look at his computer once that's what i was shooting for you know but uh i spoke in ursumer in toronto at their minion they told me to speak in between kabbalah chavez samara if i said how long they said between 14 and 18 minutes so i spoke for 17 minutes and i went to sit down and they ran over in a panic and i said why'd you speak for so short i said okay i i don't know a lot of math but between 14 and 18 is 17. so i think i fit your instructions and they said whenever we tell that to a rub it's between 25 and 35 minutes because people people just keep going you know people don't know how to stop so everything's broken down you can see you can see people are breaking down everything that exists so uh so i was saying i was writing this book on on uh like i said just taking a whole bunch of articles together and making a book out of it that's that's not a book to my mind because yeah like i say you're obligated to keep talking even if you have nothing else to say yeah so i started rewriting it and i realized as i looked over the existing works on bonim they weren't going to help me because all of hindi is predicated on i am the father you are the child and i will tell you what to do and you will listen that's how i grew up nobody ever told their parents no not twice you know you understood your parents tell you something and you say okay you could mumble under your breath if they weren't watching but that was about it now you tell a kid something and they go no you're like didn't you get the memo i'm your father you're the child i tell you nope not going to you can't make you can throw me out i got places to go like oh my gosh this is not in the book because we're in your muslim everything has broken down all of society that's shavasana thomas it's a total breakdown when moshe have been describes uh what was happening by the miraglim he says everybody was pushing and shoving the young were pushing the old the old were pushing the leaders everyone was demanding there's no seder there's no there's no propriety someone just said it to me the other day and i and i um i remembered robert left spoke about this once he says today the biggest guy in yeshiva is the one who can remember vatto everyone he's nothing he's nothing and if you can mavato everybody then you're the biggest guy because you're the biggest vato there is who does this guy think he is who is he what that's why people can go into these these websites where they go on anonymously and just trash people has some kind of value and people rally to that and break everything down the united states just celebrated the fourth of july fourth of july is an unbelievable thing what america has done and and the the rest of that it's done and so many things that it's done is really amazing and you have all these people trash in the united states everyone talks about how terrible the united states is and then we're terrible because all these people from around the world who are trying to get in we don't let them in what do they want to come in for if it's so terrible go back where you come from when a line omar says i've never seen the in somalia the level of violence that i've seen here in america in somalia it was such a it was such a a paradise once you go back why sacrifice to live here in america when somalia is such a wonderful place to live by trash is trashes tear it down tear it down you can't have a country if you don't believe in anything there was a person who wrote a column in uh haaretz or one of these papers and he was unusually frank he says the reason that we hate the haradim so much is because they believe in something and we don't anymore i don't have anything to believe it when we believed in the early years building a state making this doing something you know now a great victory is if we beat ben and jerry's yay we got ben and jerry's out we can't keep their ice cream can't write it in english anymore you know and better jerry's is free to do what they want you know hamas chocolate chip know nazi nougat whatever they decide to do nobody cares but i mean like that's it that's what we believe in now and said that on the 50th anniversary of the state of israel they did a poll was the greatest accomplishment of the state of israel in 50 years and the answer was seedless watermelon we brought seedless watermelon to the world as uh jerry seinfeld once said i'd like to meet the scientists who decided to make this their area of study you know what are you doing i'm curing cancer what are you doing oh i'm working on hardening of the arteries you know what are you doing you know i'm trying to develop a new mechanical leg for people who don't have a leg what are you doing this has to stop that's what i decided to dedicate my life to you know he says yeah it makes sense because on the outside is green because that's the zionist dream but inside it's all red because there were all communists who found it and the only problem is these little black spots these create them if we could just spit them out and get rid of them then we'll have a true paradise all right so what do we have to do we have to build shivers with thomas is about breaking we broke down we broke things down people are breaking things down the family's falling apart covered up terrorists falling apart but masha shapiro once said all the service of arador is all because of a lack of covetour torah and we're breaking down everything has been breaking down sneezes breaking down schmidt's shabbos everything's falling apart and and we have to build we have to build in our own lives for ourselves you know make a kazoko in a field fields hefty you want to take possession of it you know you just have to build you have to break something down or build it doesn't have to be a lot just a little bit building just have to fill a little hole so as we prepare ourselves chavos to repair claudius oil from all of the breaking that has taken place on thousands of years and i know people always say well if if all the great duros couldn't solve it how am i gonna solve it and i say well someone's gotta do it so who's left you're waiting for the next generation do you think they'll be more qualified than you it's time we gotta make we gotta make opinion i have to build something to build ourselves and our middles we have to build ourselves a torah have to build our families and build our friendships we have to build whatever we can build and if we do then it's hashem will be zoyoka too when tisha comes around instead of celebrating a destruction we could be celebrating a rebirth miata and that brings us to our question and answer portion of our program anonymous asks how do you know if you are getting a message for hashem or if just nothing what a brilliant question it's a brilliant question because when a christian says to me i feel yashka in my heart and you can't say that i don't they're right i can't say that you don't feel that that doesn't mean it's true my brother one year in purim he stuck a little scratch off lottery ticket in northern charleston and uh you know someone scratched it off won a million dollars he called his whole family they were so excited they planned how they were going to spend the money it was just you know then they finally they remember to call my brother and thank him and he says uh-oh those were joke lottery tickets i just put them in as a joke guy never talked to him again but until he spoke to my brother he was sure he was holding a million dollars in his hand he was sure he was wrong but he was short they say there's a fine line between genius and insanity so how do you know if hashem is sending me a message or if it's just indigestion you understand how do you know what it is so i'm going to give you two answers one is you have to have a spiritual guide in your life and i'm pretty sure that if god comes to you in the form of your dog and tells you to go around shooting people then you're probably son of sam and you're crazy and don't do it okay trust me on this one the idea is that a coach barracuda is going to send you messages throughout your life there's no question about it and you have to decide if i think the message is wrong or i'm afraid of the implications somebody uh wanted me to start a youth organization in england this was many years ago a very wealthy fellow and i really didn't want to go i liked being here in israel i didn't want to go he followed me to america he followed me he met with me in england he came into airtel meet with me and he kept pushing so far i wanted to scare him off i said listen the budget is going to be tremendous give me a national office i need an assistant director you know i need an entire office staff i need printing you know i i need uh i need uh you know um um 50 uh youth directors that i want to put into all the communities i need district coordinators i'm guessing uh five districts one in one in the north uh you know one in manchester let's say one in um i think at the time it was leeds three in london you know and all the i went through the money and he says yes yes i'm prepared to fund all that and i want a guarantee of you for three years and um and i will uh make sure that the end of those three years you have a house your children's tuition payments are paid um you have uh cleaning help you have a car um you have an entertainment budget for going out and at the end you should come back with fifty thousand dollars in the bank in addition and i said oh [Laughter] and so i know i had to go and ask shyla but i really didn't want to because i was pretty sure what the shia would be because when i asked rebel yoshiv the year i got married i came to eric's challenge i was supposed to be going back to ncsy and i didn't want to go and i i asked her rebel yoshi but he told me i had to go back so i'm pretty sure if i escoble yoshi and the fellow said to me at the end remember that if you do this you will change the face of uk jewry because once you get the youth everything else changes so i made the mistake of mentioning it to my good friend jacob bear who was very close with evil yoshi and he says well let's go and ask the good rabbi he takes me his card he drives me off and he pushes me to the front of the line and as i was leaving the house i told my wife start packing because i'm sure i would have to move to england he told me not to go whatever the reasons told me not to go i was very surprised and yaakov was asking different questions to make sure that he understood all aspects of the sheila he understood and uh but if he tells me to go i speak many places around the world and people say would you ever consider leaving israel and working here i said make me an orphan i was in sydney australia somebody said to me he goes would you consider moving to australia and i said make me an offer you can show me there's something i can do here that nobody else can do i would consider it and so we talk through different options and different things and then he says i'll get back to you that was four years ago anyway uh but but if someone could tell me this is rotten hashem i'm ready to go but the fact that hashem sends you a message you have to decide whether or not that's something you want to do or whether it's a challenge someone called me up to do a shabbos to do a shop is uh here in eric's show they're going to pay me money obviously when they write my biography it's going to be called all for the bucks but they're going to pay me money and they explain to me i could do some really good work but my mother-in-law was in from america and all the kids were coming for shops so my wife says listen if you feel like you have to go then go so i had to weigh there's a question who want me to go on this shabbos or did you want me to stay home to be makhabe my mother-in-law and my family i decided the ladder and i think that the the shabbaton was there as a as a test towards the end of my life his life when my father didn't have long to go i came into america and i made arrangements to spend shabbos with my mother and father and this school offered me to go to a chavez and i said i can't i have to go with my parents and they kept raising the amount of money they were offering me i used my mom [Applause] there was a shelter there yeah i finally said no so i told my father i said you know they offered me a lot of money to do the shabbos and i gave it up to spend the shabbos with you he said you should have taken the money that was my dad anyway if i would have taken the money goes you don't spend the showers with me he was the master of the double message so when you get a message you need someone to speak it over with and decide is this an opportunity or is this a challenge yeah okay david herbsman asks why by ashkenazi yeshiva communities is there no emphasis on masara of minhagim unlike svardham and yakis and i should add hasidam when i was teaching i had persians in my class and one of them said i'm not allowed to marry anyone i said unless they're a persian no unless i said unless this is from tehran no unless they're from the right neighborhood in tehran [Laughter] wow that's pretty intense yeah somebody was talking to this uh german yid originally from frankfurt and he was doing whatever and he says shukhan ark says not like that and he says and frankfurt i'm in agima before no question about it my nephew married a girl from the german community and he had to get married under a towel i think with a whimple i don't know but whatever it was you know i mean they're very serious and by the ashkenazim not so much and the reason i think is very very simple it's very simple i may have told this story alan king was a comedian and uh uh he says i was very close to my zeida and as a little boy he said to me whatever you do don't marry a galiciana okay know what that meant anyway i was going out with this girl in college and i was getting serious and i said uh you know i said i want to bring you home to me my family i just have one question are you a galiciana she says what's a galiciana she's he says i don't know he said i'll go home and ask my grandfather so he comes back and says yeah i'm a glitzianna she says i now i got a problem he says why because i'll tell you later so he goes home and he speaks to his aid they say zayd i met a nice girl she's a nice jewish girl she's she's willing to keep uh you know a kosher home and then keep shabbos she's willing to visit all kinds of nice things the only problem is she's a galiciana he says absolutely not but why zeda he says because galicianas put raisins in their stuffed cabbage he says that's it he says that's not enough [Laughter] okay how often do you meet somebody today who's serious about being a palacia or a galician i'm a polisher my father came from vengarev outside of warsaw so the only time i assert my messora is when there's before korea satoru there's two little paragraphs there one is mini poland so i say that one i don't know my father did my grandfather did but i'm i'm a painless chef [Laughter] you know but what do you mean people today he's a palestinian he's like you know every town every little area had their own at their own uh monogamous what do you see that today so no one understood when the time wrote the mishna brewer what he was doing it was not accepted in europe and people relied on the er but the uh this was seen as uh you know and if they hindish there he kept trying to make sure between all the monogamy anyway after the holocaust and we knew that him knew about the holocaust of uh khan invasive and says he knew it was coming the house in nation of moshe feinstein pushed very hard for the mishnah brewer to become the standard halachic text and he said because there was going to be a corbin in europe and no one's going to remember what town they come from or what their minute is or where they they come from and so he wanted to make one minig for claudius that he could bring together all the men hugging so that's why is that khasidam you know this is my casitas i follow this rabbit this is what we do this is how we do it yeah kids they know the germans know that this is the community we come from sparta no it wasn't that long ago that they that they left they know which country they came from what they meant hugging more and what they did and they're very proud of it the average ashkenazi doesn't know where they came from so it's not like being you know stark on this minute i got that medic that's what i really think the realism is dna asked why do people die hey ruby mayor it says he used to write in his say torah uh kim ki tov tov mavis why what if he never died what would happen life wouldn't have any meaning as it is people don't start getting serious about life until their midlife crisis in their 50s and 60s they start thinking about what's what's my life going to be but when you're in your teens and your 20s everything's ahead of you you don't stop to think about it death means there's a certain finality there's an end to the show so when we used to live for eight nine hundred years people used most of their time to become evil so cruz broken kept shortening it until it was enough time that you could accomplish something without feeling like it goes on forever anonymous asks should high school boys learn daf yummy opinion is an opinion um i don't think that should be you equally would but unfortunately i know people who never finish shas when i started daffy on me three cycles ago it was the first time in my life that i ever made a siemens never finished now the first time i described going through shots it was like sitting on a train looking out the window so every now and then you you know go have a drink you take a little nap you know you look back out the window again the doctor were flying by second time i got more out of it the third time obviously getting a lot more but there is a certain value just to seeing shots that you're like oh my gosh i heard of that gemara i've seen this concept like i say i wouldn't spend a lot of time on it i'd find one of these recordings or you could of course join the remembrance da fiomi online you know and in a relatively short period of time you can be exposed to tashas because when you see all of shah's it's a different type and when you just see the first seven blot of six yeshiva shima saftas you really don't get a feeling for the breath of torah forget about the depth but the breath of torah so i wouldn't make it an icker but considering the amount of time that the average high school kid wastes if you could definitely take 45 minutes to listen to one of these shurim on da fiomi and go through the duff that's my opinion yosef al qabas asks you've mentioned that you go upstairs to the basement do you have a basement from your building as robiolowski's crazies this is something we need to know yeah well it's a it's a painful subject i did uh rev cries worth lived in my building he had trouble walking so when he was in israel he would ask to make a minion by him and so he made in the base magician his apartment and people would go to the darwin and they enjoyed davening there and they asked could we keep the minion going and the minion kept going when he was nifter his son rip dive uh was nominally the head but he didn't come in territorial that often and it kept going when he was nifter so it kept going for a little while for a while i'm saying years yes but the whole time they were trying to build a building and on lag baoma they finally moved into the new building and they closed down the base madrid in my building it has left a hole in my heart oh don't get me wrong the neutral is very big and it's nice it has but i used to just be able to go into an elevator go upstairs sit in the basement it uh i had a dream once upon a time i was going to sell my apartment in hartnev and based on how the prices were i could have bought myself a piece of land and ramad bay chemist gimmel and built my own house with the money i could have put up a pool on the roof and i could have made my own little basement wish maybe not such a small basement you know maybe get a minion it's always been a dream of mine to have my own baby i said if i ever become fabulously wealthy i'm gonna pay nine people i'm gonna say your job is that when i text you you have 15 minutes to get to wherever i am and be my minion that is my dream that's what i different people i i don't need a lexus i just need my people here's my minion but anyway um so yeah i had that for many years i don't anymore so uh so that's the story um i just want to make a uh personal appeal uh just something to think about you've got a few months um you know here on the rabbi yolowski show we often have musical guests we've been zaika to have um rabbi foglegorn and his boys from australia we had ari goldwag we had lenny solomon we had of course the waterbury boys and uh i realized to this point we've never had any khasidisha singers now uh i've always talked about how there's only one new york and how annoying it is and so one of our khasir listeners sent me a copy says by the casino we have a whole bunch of them send me a copy of a different one so i thought it would be a really nice thing for homemade sukkas if we made a podcast might bring down some to sing and if anyone knows how to play an instrument you know what i mean and have a little khasirisha you know i i can't call it a tish because i'm not a rabbit but uh you know kasirisha you know so if anyone uh out there is a clustered or just wants to be or you can dress like one you know and uh you have any musical ability i know there's a whole bunch of these little groups out there i just i'm not that familiar with it it would be a great thing if we could get it together and do that so i'm just throwing that appeal out there for you uh you know who i'm talking about and i know there are a lot of casita will listen to the show i've met you over the years so if you're here in eritsel and uh before sukkas you want to make a podcast so i think it would be a lot of fun and you'd be doing a public service for the many uh lit fisher who are part of my audience okay that's it for this episode if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website rubyalaski.com and you can sponsor an episode you can write me a letter you can leave a comment you could join any of our online shiorim the daphyomi either one of the two mercilesser charms and of course the fila sheer which is extremely vibrant getting a lot of wonderful feedback and we're still in the first project there's no problem you can join it at any point because any words that you pick up that'll be meaningful to you trust me are worthwhile and uh that's it for this time i'm deborah dolowski and this is the ravioloski show