113: Off to a Great Start (2nd Anniversary!)

hi david dolofsky and welcome to the rabbi rolofsky show and whether you're watching with our friends over at anytime or wherever you watch and listen to your podcast we are so excited to have you along and i say we because this is not just me this is a a community we are a community yeah i'll let you know a little secret i have spoken to a number of people here in earthshow looking for a piece of land where we would be able i would be able to build a community and actually after all of my my scary videos about making aliyah uh to try to put together a community for people who might want to actually move here in spite of everything that i've done and uh we could live in that show in our little bubble and uh you know uh have a show and schools and a whole community and that would be a lot of fun so i haven't found i haven't i have not been successful i've had a couple of of ideas and offers but nothing that will meet my uh demanding requirements but uh ad kadeka that's how i feel about everybody who participates in this podcast i say would that be great if we all got together and lived together that was also my deal with the pesach program luckily i didn't do it this year because we would have been closed out but uh you know we have to have a virtual pesach program and uh and uh this is a communal effort and so i say to my community mazel tov to everybody as we begin our third year it was two years ago that we started this hard to believe i who have the consistency that amounts to the memory of a goldfish which i think is about three seconds i've reached the stage where my father was when every single person he tried to mention was named uh uh uh what's that guy's name anyway no so uh so here we are now starting a third year and a special shout out to our purdue our producer mikhail who puts in hours of work to make this thing look professional because you know that if i was doing this on my own it would basically look like a hostage video please please come and save me they're going to kill it anyway so uh hashem uh a big big shout out hakkar sato and i'm speaking on behalf of the entire community when i say this so uh what can i say the uh it's it's such a tremendous thing and i've mentioned this many times that remission shapiro always said to me if you can do anything today that gives people physic then you have to do it and so i got an email my name is sv markowitz and i live in the us of a i think that's america i just wanted to say that i watch every single one of your shows and absolutely love them love is in capitals followed by three exclamation marks full disclosure i do too [Laughter] i actually have to sit down and watch the show and i say my gosh this is so much fun not to mention how much content there is i'm always shocked that i managed to get as much content as i do yeah some shows other shows i'm i'm so busy just just talking [Laughter] i was recently watching episode number 71 where you announced the new theme song and spoke about seminaries being too expensive i heard that in the beginning of the show you gave a shout out to a girl who emailed you i was wondering if you could do the same for me in the next episode no i'm sorry i can't okay um another thing that i haven't done a long time if i don't remember if i i can't remember anymore if i ever get my recipe for onion soup i just made it last night for my grandson's up sharon my uh my uh daughter and son-in-law have twins and uh that is no easy accomplishment and uh there's an upsharing for the boy twin dovey yesterday and uh and my daughter asked everybody to make one special dish that they were very good at and i was chosen to make the onion soup this was by uh by request so i don't know if i ever said it or not i don't know a large pot large pot uh by which i mean eight quarts ten quarts even um six to eight onions depends on the size of the onions sliced into rounds a little bit of olive oil you got to keep it to a minimum because you have to remember it's a soup and you don't want it to be uh uh oily i have been in yeshiva's where you could put a wick in the soup and recreate the chanukah miracle so not too much a little bit of olive oil and uh break up the onions and to rounds you know what i mean pop them out yeah put them into the pot and brown them up until they get very brown be careful you don't burn them but you want a deep brown a little flour i use white flour uh presumably you can use any flour it's just a thickener and you stir it up into a make mamashita paste now i've changed something uh that i used to do and that was actually uh something i i picked up from a cookbook once and that is you spice the onions before you add the water usually i just add the spices to the soup so salt i happen to use kosher salt which is better than dry salt no that just means thick salt yeah and uh and uh sprinkle some of that on and i use uh some black pepper and some curry i find the curry gives a little bit of a color and it's yeah nice anyway and you uh mix it all together until it makes like a thick paste add a pitcher of water when i say a pitch of water i'm saying two quarts stir it up yeah dislodge whatever's stuck to the bottom of the pot as best as you can use a wooden spoon if you have one if not use a plastic spoon if not put on a very strong glove and use your hands but anyway mix it up until it starts to bubble once that's the bubble i take three medium red onions and these i i like dice them i don't uh not dice them finely dice them into large pieces and i add that in with another two quarts of water and i stir it all together wait till it comes to a boil um and uh and when it comes to a boil i then add either dry red wine or dry white wine depending on which one you have in the refrigerator this is a thing how much do you add you go like this look look look look a little bit glove and that's how much you had unless there's a little bit left in the bottle then you go go go go go let me just fill it in because what i'm going to do same thing a little bit anyway um i do that with most spices you know you sprinkle in a certain amount of paprika a certain amount of garlic and then if there's a little bit left you add that in too because why not stick it back in there most people put back the milk with like you know like this much milk left in it come on come on anyway see there's no more room left in the cup all right so uh you know take a sip and add to it what is that gosh you would take out the milk there's one drop left you're like now in america it's not so bad because you use cartons they actually brought them here in israel but for many years we only had plastic bags so you like to take out the plastic bag and put it in another plastic bag and cut it open that's a whole procedure so you stick back the whole milk container with the empty plastic bag with a drop of milk back into it yeah i have to be done the cups question it could be people are just so mahmir on baltashres they're afraid of that milk going and i don't think so it's because people don't like to have to change the milk bag anyway um and uh and then i add a leak how long a leak medium leak yeah uh if you don't know how to prepare leaks uh you can go someplace else but first you pull out all of the you know the the yucky leaves you cut off the top eventually cut off the bottom of it and then you have to slit it lengthwise and wash it briskly under the water and check make sure that you've removed all the sand and that you've removed all of the bugs yeah how exactly are you supposed to check for it etc i don't really know uh how to explain it where you live please consult your local uh bug uh bug authorities yeah um people say to me i don't like to bug the rabbi but find a bug rabbi and then you'll be fine and then you slice them up into what would be rounds if they were attached but they're half rounds and sprinkle it on top yeah i don't know if we said we had another picture yet another pitch of water and uh bring it back to a boil and at that point uh you'll see let it boil down a little bit check the spices you may choose that into the pitcher or not that's up to you of water um but just check the spices yeah and spice lightly because you can always add salt very hard to remove okay so that's good as we're going into the vinta that's yiddish by the way for those who are not familiar like i am which means have a healthy winter yeah they translate them to hebrew here in israel yeah so i guess in english as they have a healthy winter but uh that's good on those uh she was cold now you can add some uh when it's done you can add some grated cheese to it you can add some croutons if you do i always suggest using the smaller croutons because the larger croutons tend to fall apart and just become a big mushroom there you ever have an onion soup where they put in like a lot of cheese a lot of the big thick croutons and the whole thing becomes a big goosh about a big massive not a super super has to be something that you you know you can use to annoy people [Applause] right okay so that's it i could be i even gave this recipe once before but i just made it and it's on my mind and uh that's it you know it's the third anniversary show i can't not everybody is like smee who watches every single show i've had emails and people told me i've watched every show multiple times i might do that i just don't remember [Laughter] but anyway um so that's it we start our third uh our third year and the sponsor for the third year is sponsored by benji and alana rosenbluth as a squish for our children on the k occasion of the bar mitzvah of our son moisha gabriel on shop inspirations moshe loves listening to the podcast clearly an intelligent and mature young man and we think he would really be touched by a shout out well you get one moja mazel tov mazel tov and i will share with you what i often say to a bar mitzvah boy and that is that until now you have been the epitome of evil which means there is nothing in this world more evil than a small child and if you don't believe me i'm prepared to name names [Laughter] but uh that's beautiful your mamas have joined the claw you the the the claudia the the kahol you're a member of the congregation it's an amazing thing when it comes to counting a mitzvah counting a minion or doing a mitzvah your status is just up there with the greatest gadoli torah you have now assumed a role of responsibility and take it seriously because klausov needs you how many intelligent 12 year olds were there out there in the world watching the robert jellowski show understanding the depth of meaning and inspiration that comes out uh i was going to say every week but sometimes it's more than every week yeah multiple multiple occasions so uh big mazel tov to the rosenbluth family and mayu sinakas from moshe gabriel and from all of your kindle i i always tell the story when uh when my um when my father had vietnam uh we went to the square rubber my father wanted to do this virus treatment in hungary because the the uh chemotherapy was killing him yeah and uh we were waiting online waiting online and personally if the person if the person came to the wrap up and whatever they came for whatever issue they were coming for and again they spoke relatively low but at the end the the rebel would always give a big brother knock us from the kingdom that was the greatest thing so uh since you bar mitzvah is barcelona's berations i'll throw in a little vert about punishment i actually i'm gonna pick up a theme from partial voracious today but um i'll i'll throw in a little art yeah when the klola is given the kaaba yeah uh since i know i do have people who are not so hebrew savvy and some people who are not jewish who watch this podcast i will translate the terms when god gave the curse to eve uh so he gives a whole curse and rashi explains it first he says you're going to have tsar gidobanim you're going to have the pain from raising your children second one is you're going to have the pain of pregnancy and the third is you're going to have the pain of childbirth so strange strange it's out of order you should have first said pregnancy and then you should have said birth and then you just said raising the children that should be the correct order love and marriage love and marriage go together like a horse and carrick right so uh first you get married then you get pregnant then you have a child then you have targeted the bottom how can you kill children give you aggravation before they've been born don't worry they make up for it but uh you know how do you have your psyche at the bottom so one one of them affirmation given answer it's pragmatic uh other mahava had their children um in ganedan before the hate that means it was in in a minute now if you're old enough to appreciate this and many people are not but um it used to be that if you took a picture on a camera a photograph it came out on a on film now my father used to make his own little um uh dark room he uh my dad could do anything whatever it was he he would teach himself how to do it he would put on this little red light you know and he had the different chemicals and you would take out the film and you would you know put it in this solution and that solution this and hang up the dry and then afterwards you can make prints from it for those of us who were not as savvy we would put a little envelope mail it and uh eventually you'd get back your photographs um and it was a process it took a while to get those pictures yeah now they have digital cameras you see when people go to they're taking hundreds of pictures hundreds of pictures and for some reason they have to put all of them up on whatsapp i don't know why they don't just like pick the the ones that are most uh engrossing yeah but uh everything goes up because the take pictures are so easy i've uh uh i've uh the the freeds uh used to uh take you know bring me along to uh to trips in europe and everybody had this like little ipad and they were just every place they were taking pictures hundreds of pictures it was it was nothing when i was there and you had a roll of film you know 12 pictures you had to be more discriminating what you did with it yeah but now digital it's a digital so when khabib gave birth in ghanaian it was digital yeah it was like how it came yeah that was the kid so there was no pregnancy and childbirth to speak of yeah it happened like that as i popped today the orders changed but when he was giving the curse to hava the children there was no pain of pregnancy or childhood there would be in the future but for now the only thing she was going to start with is targeted by them and if your kids are kind and heavill trust me you had psychedelic another answer and that is not everybody has pain and pregnancy there is more than one story of a woman who went to the doctor complaining of stomach pains and the doctor checked her and said you are in labor for childbirth she didn't know the the pregnancy was so you know so it was so it was so painless it wasn't even aware of it my sister-in-law uh shelley olofsky gave her a little shout out um she said her grandmother used to have to keep a towel uh between her legs in the ninth month because the baby would just fall out so not everybody has pain and pregnancy not everybody has pain with childbirth but everybody has psychedelics so uh so that's why when the square rebel was said everybody knock us from the kinder what a tremendous bra so uh moshe gabrielle i'm sure you will be a source of knockouts to your parents and told clay so okay my gosh i've had i've had such time to relax they're going to be lifting the uh the closure soon in jerusalem i managed to uh to find somebody to cut my hair anyway because uh uh it was getting somewhat unwieldy in fact i actually sold it to a shaytan so if you want the rapper elastic look anyway but [Music] yeah you think i'm kidding you'll see some woman going around with a big white beard and you'll think oh my gosh she got the raviolasculin but anyway be there is it me what do i want to talk about well this is the beginning we start the torah over again and pasha's voracious we start the stories yeah first two story the first two partios there's not even a jew in the story gracious and noah no jews for for i mean abram avino is born on the hebrew calendar in the year coincidence yeah anyway um but uh but it is cool i've pointed this out in the past sometimes there are coincidences that are just so cool you just have to point them out although they are of no particular significance for example if you made a gematria out of the abc a being one bb two c being c three d being four then the word g-o-d d being four um g being seven is eleven o being fifteen equals twenty-six in gematria of the abc comes out to the same gematria as uk buff k it doesn't make a difference totally insignificant there's no concept of making a watch right out of the abc but it's one of those cool coincidences that just add a little um flavor and texture to our lives yeah all right um so uh so the first two parties is that really so i wanna i wanna use a phrase and this is a phrase that the use a number of times in the gemara in different contexts and the phrase is call has hollis cautious i know i've quoted this in the past all beginnings are hard um says that if you take up sia gasa you take a big step you lose one five hundredth of our a notes the light of your eyes just to lose some of your eyesight if you take a large step so ask isis in that case 500 steps you'll go blind right so he gives two terrorism um one is zeno's paradox those of you who are familiar with greek philosophy xenos paradox like all paradoxes are things that sound like they make sense but they really don't right you have to you have to look to see where the paradox lies but like when a kid says i have 11 fingers right 10 9 seven six and five makes 11. yeah that's a paradox you might not figure it out right away it's a trick it's a trick but um xena's paradox is that if i have to walk from here to the end of the room i'll never get there why because in order to get there i first have to walk half the distance and then i have to walk half the remaining distance and then i have to walk half of that remaining distance and half of that distance and have that distance and i'll keep me walking half distances and i'll never arrive at my destination so it's a paradox because it sounds cute but we know it's not true yeah so it makes it a paradox right also um you know when uh when a cardiologist uh meets an oncologist it's also a paradox but anyway um so the uh the taster says like this you lose 1 500th of the eyesight the next big step you lose 1 500th of the i said you have left then the next step you lose 1 500th of the ice age you have left and you keep losing only one portion of what's there so you'll never run out completely the other one he says is it's only the first step it's only the first step that you take if it's a gossip why because it doesn't matter what you do after that cause cause crushes starting is always hard starting is hard no what does that mean yeah you know so okay so you could say psychologically the anticipation is difficult getting yourself up and going yeah as an older fellow said to me once my get up and go get up and when you know you have to get up and you have to get started and you have to stop moving and you have to do whatever it is that you have to do okay okay that's that's pragmatic but uh but there's something deeper here and that's the following i'm sure you've heard this hazal as well um with the right hand and push away with the left hand okay again that's learnt in terms of psychological um make more of an effort to draw somebody close and when you have to push somebody away do it with your weaker hand with your left hand um because uh you know you don't wanna you know spend as much effort pulling somebody close as you do pushing them away and unfortunately as somebody once said the out of slovakia knew how to take a boy apart and put it back together today we're half as good we're very good at taking people apart we're not so good at putting them back together and uh how many people in education yeah um can destroy a kid without taking the time to realize the consequences i must have told the story of the past two years uh this boy was in slobodka we've been there for 10 years and he got a not aliyah he was called up to the torah for not one of the more important police so he knew that the aldo was behind because the altar was behind everything in slovakia so he says rebbi are you upset at me he says why he says well i i i you know i didn't get one of the federal lease i assume there's a reason because you got an alley at all a belgaeva like you you egotist they gave you a leah wow i'm shocked he says rebbe what did i do he says oh you don't even know he says no he says when you came here 10 years ago it was an old mishashima he was starting to lose his uh faculties it was getting old and he didn't realize it was shabbos and he went to put on his children and i told you go over and tell him it's shabbos and as you walked over you had a smile on your face you can you can laugh at somebody who even broken you can't come up to his ankles and you're going to laugh at him he says you're right i'm sorry i didn't forget uh i'll work uh i'll work on my guyva i'm like melissa he says but baby that was ten years ago why don't you say anything tell them he says it took me 10 years to build you up to the point that i could say that to you you have to know whether a person is ready to hear it so as much as much effort as you're going to put to push away you have to put a lot more effort to pull close but there's a deeper idea and that is as we know from the spheres coming out of sukis we know the ushen corresponds to the spheres if you pay the attention on hoshanah rabbah each of the little sukim you say after each hoshanah one is one is blura right that's a whole you see the sphere is over there and you know the spheres represent parts of your body your right hand is and your left hand is gluer one is me and one is me the world was created with kindness there is no way in din to create the world and that's why the rashi at the beginning when it says yeah because who wanted to create the world and din of course he couldn't create the world and din there's no way to create the world in din din means justice getting what you deserve how can someone deserve to exist before they exist it doesn't make any sense you have to you have to earn that right so no child you know when a child says i didn't ask to be born well yeah who exactly was i supposed to talk to about it you know i decide to bring children this world as an act of christ that can't be dim so to be beaurey to create creation is always god says stop other words the world would just keep going and going and going and uh if the marble the flood teaches us one thing it's too much of a good thing it's not a good thing yeah anybody who has overeaten over this holiday season knows that too much of a good thing is a bad thing so uh so you have to you have to have din to temper the chasse but all glory can do all din can do is maintain hold back control a guru can create you can't create with your left hand yeah you have to create with your right hand it's the meters that creates so when you say curve be a min it means that the right hand has more power and if i want to bring you close to me if i want to create something if i want to build you into a person the only way to do that is to reset i can only do that with the right hand to push away i could push with the left hand once something exists i can control it i can't control something that doesn't exist cause means that beginnings are hard because it takes a lot more effort to start something and therefore his place for some soccer says that first step starts the process that gets things going and [Music] you have to you have to ask yourself right before you create something you have to think what is it i want what am i trying to accomplish i've told the story i'm sure many times already i was at a chapel town the fellow in charge says to me it's a very successful shabbaton i said really why he says well we have a lot of students then they're having a great time i said was that the purpose of the shabbaton he says i don't know what is the purpose of a shabbaton supposed to be i said travis milk is the wrong time to ask that question i'm i i'm almost positive i mentioned this recently yeah alka seltzer had a whole bunch of really successful commercials and they were very entertaining and they run all kinds of awards they just didn't sell arkansas you have to ask yourself what is the purpose that you're trying to do so before you create something you have to really put a lot of thought into it what is it i'm trying to do and why they have a fancy word for this in the business world it's called a mission statement what am i trying to accomplish let's establish our value system before i sit down and start making decisions the first step you take will determine the rest of the journey and there's a chinese proverb that every great journey begins with one step or to quote bilbo baggins to his uh nephew frodo be careful when you step out of your front door because the road that runs through the shire leads to the lonely mountain how true you you make a decision and so obviously you decide to get married that one step is going to set into motion a whole bunch of other decisions you uh you become uh you decide to have a child that's gonna have a whole bunch of decisions you decide to move to a particular town you decide to make aliyah you decide to become from speak to belly chuba when they have to sit down and make that decision and that decision once you do that decision everything else follows in its wake you've set into motion a process that has so many other but the first decision is the hardest i moved territory some 32 years ago i had to make a decision which school to send my kid for kindergarten a couple of different schools and once i chose my school all my other decisions were made for me i knew which newspaper i read i knew which uh hashgraph i was allowed to eat i knew what people could associate with [Laughter] everything else fell into place what is that first decision the first decision cause caution so we're starting our third year wow and uh it's interesting that i have received a number of emails over the past few months with suggestions of what to do with the show besides what i always do yeah uh someone said i should have uh add segments to the show uh maybe we should have a question and answer um um section where every week i answer one or two questions from the mailbag you know honestly uh suggestions came in i don't know what to think about it because cautious when you when you start something whatever it happens to be yeah i used to write a column in the hamadiya it was very hard for me because i had to create a work of art from scratch every single week and my wife said to me look at columnists they don't do that they have uh they they have a formula they do this they do this they do that there's no way to keep grinding out uh columns each each week you're trying to basically you know write you know a masterpiece essay yeah that's why i stopped writing college um but uh but it is it is an interesting uh it is an interesting thing so uh it's cause cautious so i i want to leave with one last message to my friend moshe gabriel and that is the following um the uh uh this the the guns here in earth's jail brushline he brought his bar mitzvah boy to the stipelin my name is bar mitzvah together to get a bracha then he should be a telephone so the stapler says fine i'll give you a broker but how are you going to become a telephone no hard question to ask a 13 year old so he said you're 13 years old he says sleep eight hours a day either eight hours a night or seven hours and take a nap whatever it is and you need time to dive in and to eat and you know hygiene all that kind of stuff and it should leave you with about well that should take about four hours you should be left with 12 hours a day it says you learn for 12 hours a day from now till you get married and i promise you you'll be a telephone closed captioning not available everyone's not not so easy but there were people who made a decision back in voracious and they said excuse me back in broncos and they said we're going to start that filming that's a commitment that's every day sounds grinding you turn around seven and a half years later when you finish shots and you say that was because of the decision i made that was that first big step i took that put me onto the road and i just followed through go on a journey and i'll show you the destination but you have to set yourself on a journey of the president but this world is a there's a pathway corridor we're going someplace hashem everyone should have a great start to this new year everyone should uh make an effort to go through the parasha every week with rashi make an effort it'll change your life trust me i'm speaking from experience yeah and you finally bite the bullet you sit down your mouth go through all the rashes sure life-changing experience you do that every year after about three years it'll come almost automatically to you whereas we're saying hebrew but anyway so that's it give everybody a bracha it should be a great cheer everything should go well and that's it for this week if you want to find out more about the show you can go to my website rebeloft.com you can leave comments you can contact me i'm way behind in my emails i apologize it's it's between the young tov him and the corona scare and all that kind of stuff i fell behind but i want to get to everybody i really do please please don't think that i've forgotten about you um uh because i i i my memory is uh anyway so uh you can contact me you can sponsor an episode and uh that's it for this week i'm deborah dolofsky and this is the robbie yolovski show it's the rabbi orlowski show torah [Music] knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun in every episode and we don't have to rhyme no it's the rabbi orlovsky show on rabbi orlovsky.com torah anytime youtube and more it's rabbi orlovsky show torah show till next time till we meet again throughout my orolovsky show it's the rabbi yolowski show it's the rabbi orlovsky