106: Tefilla: Less is More (Yamim Noraim Tefillos Pt. 1)

hi this is devon orlowski and welcome to the robert ellow ski show whether you're watching with our friends over at tour anytime or wherever you watch or listen to your podcast it's wonderful to have you along so we got some business to take care of first we have a sponsorship this week sponsored by ari and karen leland nishmas my grandmother dvorah rifka bas rip hillel upon her 10th yard site she was a family's symbol of hussain love and humility what can i tell you these days i'm i have the extras course of having a lot of very very special people who i feel a tremendous cash for two who are sponsoring it and since they don't want to include all their names i won't either but uh thank you and uh it's wonderful to hear from you and should we take a uh elena for your grandmother uh i have a little uh letter that i got that i feel like i need to read because the person said to me specifically please read this my whole family including both my parents my 18 year old brother me i'm 16 and my younger siblings who watch sometimes when my parents do love your style of speaking my father commented to me today when he saw me watching your most recent shearer slash podcast good that he likes you that you're real and some other compliments that i'm sorry i don't remember he kissed you on the screen now that's very nice because there was a time in my life that people used to say i had a very slappable face [Laughter] so it's nice to have uh shayna put him that uh that uh that's a whole different thing i i usually have a lot of people who use them want to give me hugs i don't know why there's something teddy bearish would help me i guess now i do the elbow bomb so you should know that for all the people out there who don't like you there are plenty of people who find you refreshing but you know that already because you said yourself that there are plenty of serious rabbis that trying to fill the gap please read this out loud on your next podcast so i know you read this and because it's very interesting when you read people's letters by the way i'm laughing now just imagining how you read this thank you for being funny i hear my siblings watching a torah live video featuring uh you where you're a sitter you mentioned that one it's amazing that you cater to all ages kids teens and adults most people can't do that thank you very much and it is true first of all it's only real senior citizens who get most of my jokes their references from so long ago um but uh yeah i have read uh letters from people who were in elementary school to high school to uh collegiates uh to young adults young marrieds middle aged what we do here is uh something sort of universal and uh i remember somebody wrote me once they said it must take you such a long time to prepare what you're going to say and i said no usually uh before i get in to speak i say to my wife well what should i talk about i was like i don't know what you should talk about so the other thing is my kids and something somebody mentions a suggestion you know and sometimes i'm more inspired sometimes and less inspired but i got an email that i must share with you hi robert i'll ask you thank you for your podcast i really look forward to it every week i was wondering if you would consider doing a series on the young naroyan philos there's a very good possibility that i will be developing from home this year because there's a shortage of space in shores without a hazard leading with fearless with song and feeling i started looking through the marxia to see how to make it meaningful on my own i would love to hear your thoughts on some of the crucial to felis and yes i've listened to all of you on ello that are available until anytime now this touched me in a very deep level i have eight daughters and um and uh you know to find in america it's different america you have actual shoes here we have a lot of apartment tools stieblor things like that and even the regular shoes the ezra's nostrim is not very large now with corona where they're breaking uh the minion down even smaller in fact there's even talk of a general shutdown here for rosh hashanah like they did for pesach which would be absolutely devastating as far as i'm concerned on a lot of different levels but but even the places that are going and are going to be open a lot of them aren't going to have an adversary and uh and i know from my daughters and from my wife that they gain a tremendous amount by coming to shul and rosh hashanah so when i saw this it touched me in a very very profound way and ad kadeka that i'm gonna do something that i have not done in a long time and that is i'm going to make more than one a week because we don't have that much time left to leonarium when i got this email and i was inspired so hopefully they'll be coming out like every two days that's my plan to help people get ready for rosh hashanah because i think this is such an important and brilliant idea so uh so let's get priorities straight okay first things first the most important thing on yom kippur is to fast that's the most important thing the next most important thing is to say the shamdo that's the icker mitzvah of the day everything else is secondary the most important thing on rosh hashanah is to hear the chamfer yeah and everything else is secondary now obviously the doppening has been set up in such a way as to be able to help us accomplish what it is was trying to do during that day so um [Music] so you have to prioritize that's all i'm saying yeah there was a letter once in the hamadi i think but a woman who said that she couldn't believe that these young mothers come to shul with their little kids the little kids are making noise they're interrupting she said when i had little kids i stayed home with my kids and i took care of them i didn't go to school she says i had somebody in the edge of this notion changing the day baby's diaper right in the front of everybody why did you have consideration with the blue because i waited till my kids were old enough they didn't have to stay home with them and then i went to show so what can i tell you i remember one time uh i was diving in shawn that was a small show and um uh this fellow came just for convincing and uh uh i don't know why i don't know what his situation was full disclosure i don't have all the details all i know is he came with a little kid and the little kid was fetching this and he would push past and it was very packed he would push past me and go out and come back and go out and come back and talk and carry on it killed the kneeler for me and at the end of neela he obviously was aware of it because at the end of neela he says to me sorry but there was nothing i could do and i thought sure there is you see that guy over there his kid was scratching he took him outside he darvened in the hallway so that his kid wouldn't disturb anybody else so your icker mitzvah is to take care of your kids that's the most important thing and so you got to be real you got to be real there was a young lady who came and asked me the following question she says i really get a tremendous amount for the rest shutting and keep adopting but it was before yom kippur and my sister said listen i got a bunch of little kids and i'm pregnant i'm going to have a very hard time fasting could you come and help me with the kids so she asked me and she says listen i'm going to lose that on my whole yum kippa david should i do that or not i said listen i'm not going to basket this this is too serious so i went to ask somebody who if he's not a place like he has access to all the places without hesitating he said what's the question of course he helped me sister yeah the mitsubishi is the eraser the the the dominguez what's the question we don't we don't always put the emphasis on the right things that's a bit of a problem but uh okay so first thing first is get your priorities straight okay you don't have to say everything uh if you can't you gotta be real and uh the general the mishapuru itself brings down it's better to say less with kavanagh than to say more without kabut so again you have to be real there are people who are not as fluent in the yom narayan dhavni i have reached an age where hashem even yom kippur has become wrote for me yeah there's no no more surprises i know where everything is coming and how everything is going but my daughter when she was uh 13 or 14 she says i'm going to show i don't know what's going on i don't want to sit i don't know where to stand at all so either you're my zad's six years later i sit down with her hashana airbn kipper with a master and we go over what do you say what do you skip what do you do you do this for sleepos we do this for uh shady and kipper i guess really one time we should do this for sleepers but for now let's i'm going to start focusing on our shoulder kip because i just don't think we have enough time so um first thing is you have to have the tools of the trade remember somebody came to my son's bar mitzvah and um my son was was leaning the whole parasha and he bought him a yad you know those those little things that are shaped like a hand with a little finger sticking out that you used to follow the place and he said to me a professional needs his tools and i thought that was such an interesting thing you know you need your tools you have to you have to know what works well um if you've ever had to carve meat you know that having the right knife makes all the difference in the world i had a a friend of mine who was a mashiach hotel and he was talking about how you have to watch the chefs because they like to use their own knives and when no one's looking they substitute them they're used to their knife and a particular knife is good for this will be good for cutting this and cutting that and there's a whole science to it you know jackie mason once said he says you know it says gentiles they love screwdrivers they have regular screwdrivers they have phillip head school drivers they have electric screwdrivers they have screwdrivers with lights on them things that spin things that do all kinds of things so joe has a butter knife welcome to every jewish home there's a butter knife with a little with a little fetch at the end that i use [Laughter] and let's just say if you have the right tools and using it the right way it goes tremendous there's a tremendous difference you know i uh when i used to travel you know years ago when people used to fly you know so we do it do a lot of shopping and i used to have a little scale a little portable scales like about this big with the with a hook that you lift up the suitcase and see exactly how much it weighs you know so for me it was a good investment because i travel so much and i do a lot of shopping and so i have to you know keep track of the things but every professional needs his whatever his tools are my father was friendly with a caterer and uh he was making uh he was making uh uh silkes basically and he wanted to borrow his chafing dishes or whatever it was and he said to my my father would always know the story he says marty says i will give you my car i'll give you my house i'll give you the shirt off my back i'll give you my last nickel but you can never have my my caleb i don't give my calendar anybody says i'm responsible for the captures of them i take care of them people rely on me nothing so uh so they understand if you have the right if you have the right tools yeah um i have a son who's a foodie and you know what can i say when i when i used to go to me before when i used to go to america years ago and people used to fly here so uh i always want to add in going to bed bed bath and beyond i love looking at gadgets and and stuff like that so they had this one thing it wasn't expensive it was a basically a plastic stick with a little plastic x at the end it was used for when you brown chopped meat for chopping it up not to to keep it separate so my son sees it now my son is a foodie he watches uh watches all these videos he knows all about food you know and he says to me uh elton brown i think that's what it was that i remember all the names he says i never buy a clay unless you can use it for more than one thing that can only be used for one thing so i wouldn't get it okay i hear it yeah there's a concept of multitasking it certainly is uh certainly makes sense yeah but uh but be that as it may um you know when you when you have the right tools life is so much easier right you know when you have to like peel a lot of things you don't have a good peeler life is just that much more difficult so if you're talking about davinci rosh hashanah the first thing is you have to decide what is my master of choice and i would say have a few at least two you switch off yeah i know certain balticus who have two shoulders they're blowing one chauffeur if they see the it's getting stuck for them they switch to the other one yeah there's actually a fellow became a balticater and he told me that there's a guy in a brock who matches the shaffer to your mouth he looks at your mouth he hands you a chauffeur he says blow that he goes nope take this one no there's another 35 says that's your shelf he says it's the easiest chauffeur that i ever blew in my life because it was it was designed for me yeah so uh obviously if you have the right tools life goes much easier so you need a master some people like tradition and i have here still my old burn balance um when i was growing up this was the this is the this was a big step phone because before that joey had adlers i think i still have an adler one yeah and uh this was a big step forward burn bound uh maxa there was a bird-bound syndrome it burned down maxa right for most uh modern english speaking jews obviously they use the art scroll now full disclosure i don't like the print i know you're not allowed to say that because they checked it out is that exactly that i find the prank very hard to to read also they have this uh concept that i have to tell you i never really understood where they uh suddenly write things in little dark gray windows see if i can find one for you and i find them very difficult to read there you go like modem derived so it's like dark writing dark grey this one's not even as dark as some of them it's very hard i'm an old man but obviously since not everybody is conversant particularly with the various pu dim so the art school comes in handy yeah i heard of an other girl who grew up in america who said that he dives from the art school because he says listen i don't know what everything means in every period okay as you can see from the fact that the back binding is coming off my uh default maxer that i usually use is called the maxa hagra it follows by the grower i like it because i find the print to be large and clear and you know it uh i i find it personally helpful there is of course the standard maxeraba and i will sometimes go to this just because it flows there's a certain flow to it it's not interrupted by commentaries and explanations now a word about commentary uh there are these things that are available um there are different ones i don't want to mention any of my name which is a parish on different lines in uh in the city or i strongly recommend against them because you're not davening you're learning which is a nice thing to do but that's not what happening is and so they go to shem okay new obviously that's a person reading very quickly that's not happening whatever preparation you're going to do you have to do beforehand but bashar smith you get a diamond now i don't know if anybody else is in my matzo i may have mentioned this in the past i have add and so my mind has a tendency to wander anyway so if i dive in slow forget about it and i did that for years i used i used to dive in a schmooner uh over an hour because my mind would just keep drifting and i had to come back and remember where i was and what i was doing so i asked a number of people for an eight site mentioned this earlier that you asked people for nature and the ace that they gave me was move it along move fast enough before your mind has a chance to wander away and so i doffing faster than almost any but almost anybody else in the manyana my dave in arizona in america very often i'm bringing up the rear depending on which sure i'm in but uh you got to keep it going keep it moving that's that's has been my own personal experience and the more that you keep it moving so to speak the better off you're going to be and being able to keep your focus keep your focus on what you're doing right okay so um when you're going through and we're going to go through the dominating it's worthwhile to do it with the moxer that you're going to be using because there are certain points that are more important than other points and you have to try to focus on that and you have to keep your focus because i can't can't do everything let's be realistic right if you're not yeah if you're not used to doing this for many years okay so let's talk about the structure of the felis rosh hashanah you're going to have a mairev you're going to have a chakras you're going to have a music and you're going to have a min the amidah for myrev chakras and uh are all exactly the same mustaf is the long longest amida of the entire year because there are ten sukim and mauryas and so the whole thing takes a very long time when you do hazardous shots it takes even longer because of all the pu dim that they end in yeah um i've never davened in a spartak rosh hashanah but they tell me it goes much faster they don't have a lot of the putin and i've allowed putin and this is what i was told and i don't want to on the limb but they do some of the key is during the silent schwann estrella so their rosh hashanah dabbling is much shorter i have a i have a classic shir of mine called yb jewish you can find it online i'm sure i've done it many times probably my my my most go-to share that i give especially for new audiences and um [Music] i gave it once in a swardic school and part of it there is i do a whole thing on the side of tokyo who will live and who will die and they had no idea what i was talking about they don't say the son of duke you don't seem to sign a token i told this story before but like when i was growing up i did spaghettish my parents it was their secret language and i went to yeshivas that either tyched into english or into going to ibret so i never learned uh i never learned jewish you know and you you'd meet all the yidden in the old generation and he'd start talking to you in the edition i'm saying so i don't speak english you don't speak jewish but you're a jew and you don't speak jewish you don't speak jewish that's what i felt like you don't see this how to take it thank you jewish so um so that's obviously the crescendo now let's go through my riff first off my riff is the same as every other mairev for shabbas and fiance if you dive in like they do here in erzhel so then uh at the end of hashke venue you go right into kaddish right and shabbos they don't do the vishamaru and uh so in russia they undo the tikuba uh uh stop is a little different in that normally the first three brachas are the same the last three brothers are the same and uh and in the middle it changes on a on a on a young div right the middle of rock is different here the atar khadosh changes so that itself changes yeah there's a much longer attacker and of course it ends so uh but it gets us from the estate you say uh you at the end you just say one little capital um obviously the shabbos and otherwise you just say the quepito the david bizwa right and you say that and then you say eleno and you say so except for the for the amidah right it's the same as the maya river during any other time during l right obviously if you add in the tikka bakarashofa so that's you know a little extra addition otherwise it's like basically the same that's my earth chakras is like any other shabbos or yonder chakras um i should say right because unless they're shabbos then you you don't do kale i don't right so you have the sugar zimra say the same thing the only difference is you don't study you move a little bit beforehand and you started otherwise it's it's the same the language over there in what would be show changes a little bit because normally by the ashkenazim yes which goes otherwise it's more or less the same and then you have birches which again if it's a weekday is the same as any other weekday and you end with me and then you say the amiga the same one that you said at night and uh if you're in a minion obviously and then there's the kia shaifa and they do the first and you do hazardous with the number of putin that are added in but otherwise you can find hazardous shots spelled out um part of the um part of the mustaf is alainu and when you do this on rosh hashanah in sure the men actually bow at elena which is like what you see the muslims do where they bow their head down to the ground on their knees um and uh they go through mustaf sprinkled throughout musaf is muat shaifah and then uh the end of davening is like every other shabbos as angelo keno [Music] and they finish up the government hug them will you finish it up and they finish up the last of the tequilas that is [Music] in shabbos you have kriya satyra if not you go right into your amidah which is the same as the one you said in myriv and the same as the one you said in chakras and at the end you say elena that's it that is the structure of the davening so if you're not taking into account the putin the dominant is not much different than the dominant you used to the tunes are different to be sure uh there are certain other additions and changes that go on but that's essentially the structure so we're going to look at more of this as we proceed but i want to at least start by giving you the 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