Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser: Revealing the Secrets of Life Through Pirkei Avos Part 2

what a great it is for all of us to be together once again i would like to thank torah anytime an organization they stand at the heights of the world they spread torah to virtually every continent may they continue to have atslacha raba in all of their good work and may they have great siata deshmaya to have all that they need for the operation i would like to also thank our good friends khazakh an organization that is very dear to me what they have done to be moira to inspire to encourage that everybody should be closer to hashem they reach out to literally every background their work is the work of meshiach may they continue unbelievable kayak rabrabhi eva what an unreal person that goes entire day in the entire night only to make sure that torah is spread may they all have the entire organization may they have unprecedented hat sloka i believe that they are the ones that will bring mushy sidkenu our shirt today is going to be on the mishnah in percyavos in particular it is parikh base there we read the words that i think in today's world we have to study the mishna again and again and again russia don't be a russia in your own eyes don't look at yourself as a russia don't look down at yourself have a positive self-esteem have a positive self image too many people in so many different ways look at themselves negatively and once they do that it's a downward spiral so many people have come in to me if they would only understand don't look at yourself in a negative way look at yourself positively we all have miles we all have qualities we all have good middles we all have things that other people admire and respect us for nobody in this world doesn't have some special talent something that they can add to this world i had a individual that called me from out of town out of new york he said i have a very important issue that i would like to discuss with the rav can i make an appointment i said of course an important issue it sounded urgent and so he made an appointment and he came here and he met with me and he started to say uh i'm a gabai in the show it's quite a large shoal and of the gaba in part of my duties is to stand by the safer torah help to call people up to make me shivers and also to keep an eye that all the laning should go without a hitch i said beautiful hashem will pay you richly for every second that you're standing there he says rebbe that's the problem i don't want to stand there anymore i said why he says because unfortunately i fell into a certain of era i fell into a sin and i don't feel rajoi i feel that i'm not good anymore i'm a bad person i don't feel that it's proper for me to stand by the safer torah i said why he says i want you to know it's especially at those times when they read about that particular aveira that i'm doing that particular sin in the parsha how can i do that how can i stand there how can i operate like that and know that i'm standing right there and they are reading about that aveira i'm a fake i'm an imposter i'm not a gabai so i would like to stop being the gaba of the safer torah i was too embarrassed to speak to myrov about it he doesn't know any of this so i know i've watched you on many different urim and i would like to come and ask you what your opinion is i said to him your mind is made up he says yes somebody like me doesn't belong standing by the side of the safer torah i told him if you came to me that i should tell you to give up your position as gaba you came to the wrong grove because i'm going to tell you no matter what no matter what goes on in life never give your position it says that one should go up in matters of kedusha and not down you're a gaba you're an official part of the shoal it's a skusad english shire it is such a great merit it's a merit for you it's a merit for your family don't give it up for nothing he says but rav i didn't come here for that what i came here for is that you should hear me out and be masking that you should agree and acknowledge that i won't be the gob anymore i said to him again then you came to the wrong room because i have to tell you the best eights are eight sasha against that's proper for you you should stay where you're at don't give it up for anything when you hear about that avair in the torah it should go into your ears it should be mayor you it should light your heart that you feel here who rejuvenate thoughts of chuva and then vasu hashem you will stop and you will come back fully to hashem he says rob is that up sock i said yes it's up sock don't leave your position don't leave your position he left i think that he was more upset by the fact that he was still going to have to stand by the safer torah than anything else somehow he just couldn't put it together and he remained i got a call from him a few months ago and this particular person told me i stayed being a gaba and while i was there something happened one day a person came in someone who's not usual in the show and the individual we called up for an aliyah and when he came for the aliyah afterwards he wanted to make a mishibera so i made the mishaber for him and when he came to one of his daughter's names he broke down i didn't ask him i wait till he composed himself and then after the aliyah he left he went back to a seat after davening i went over to him and i asked him my friend i saw that you got very upset in the middle of the mishabera is there anything that perhaps i could do he says no no it's an it's a problem it's an old problem i have a daughter and she's older and she doesn't have a zebra yet and i feel very bad for her she's such a good girl a la milas she has so many great qualities to her but she can't get a shirt so i lost my composure the gaba said well that's very interesting i hear she has a lot of milos i have a son and my son is older and i'm also broken by the fact that he doesn't have a shidduch and he has a lot of milos could i tell you about him and the other man said yeah of course he told him they wound up going out together the son of the oil the son of the one that had the alien the son and the daughter both together they went out the son of the gaba and the daughter of the one that came up for the aliyah and they got married the gaba called me up and said rav i cannot thank you enough for telling me not to give up on myself if i would have done it who knows you help me to believe in myself i don't look at myself like a russia anymore that's exactly what the mishna is saying don't be a russia in your own eyes the bhartanura comments don't do something today that tomorrow you're going to say how did i ever do that i must be a bad person there's an interesting idea that is also expressed by the bhartanura he says don't let yourself fall in to feeling bad to having low feelings about yourself don't allow yourself to become sad because a person always has to be basimha if they'll be sad if they'll be upset they will lose their emunah and their betachon in themselves how important it is that a person should know always be muchasic ourselves look to ourselves as the tsalam elokim we are all created in hashem's image hashem's image is an image of kedusha an image of sydnus of righteousness so how could a person look at themselves as a russia even a person did the worst thing in the world even a person did something that they think that there's not chuvan in the safer it is written so many different times in gracious khafma that no matter what a person does they can have chuvan there's an exception but besides that a person can do chuba for anything it says in lakute maran even a person was over call out to arakula 600 times and then they do chuba chuvame it becomes like suryas it becomes like merits for them it becomes positive so how could a person ever let themselves feel down there were people that did quite a few of eras and afterwards they did chuga and they were accepted back by hashem into the highest level rebel loves ben dardoi he did so many things he did a lifetime of who knows what and afterwards when he did chuba so then it said that they accepted him in shamayim rebel also they gave him smith not only they let him come up to shamayim not only he got the ghanaian but they gave him smith and loser bender can you imagine it paro ancient pharaoh look what he did look what he did during his life while he was in the river while he was drowning and the water was already going into his mouth that's why it says the water was going into his mouth hashem accepted his chuba meekhum how great is hashem he walked out he went to the other side and hashem made him a melech in nineveh he became a king everybody should know that our chubb is accepted even a person does something very bad the torah service the great slaughter asked the question why do we say to hate sadiq russia that the person should be at sadiq and he shouldn't be a russia because indeed we learned something fascinating that is in the middah in the talmud it says the following dharashrabhi what is the vlad what is it that the fetus inside of its mama is compared to it comes like a folded notebook that's how it is in the side of mama and the maharao talks about the exact position and the reason why the fetus is found in the exact position inside of its mother it has exact opportunity to do good in this world equal opportunity it can become great any little boy any little girl i don't care who i don't care what they've done i don't care what promise they showed or what promise they haven't shown i don't care how they do in school i don't care how they don't do in school it doesn't matter a key who said they can get to godless they can get to greatness in this world so what happens once it emerges into this world what happens so there inside of its mama there is a malach that teaches it all the torah the entire torah and the malach holds a candle above the little baby so that the baby can see as it says mesaifa add sci-fi it can see from one end of the world to the other end of the world look at the start that a child gets the key in shabbat but it says that once it gets into the air space of the world the malach comes slaps it on its mouth um and unfortunately it forgets all of the torah there and it is leave its mothers inside ad shemashbi mysoy until they will make that little baby swear what is the shura tate sadiq every child says i promise i will be a tzadik or tzadegas and i will not be a russia that is unbelievable think of it everyone you and i we took an oath if we took an oath and hashem made us swear that means we couldn't be it sonic that means i could one day grow to be at santa cruz it's not something that's just theoretical it's not something that's just imagination it's not poetic it means that a person has that power each and every one of us the great vision cerebral zechat sadiq said one time he was saying over in the vedoi and when he came to a certain part and he said what a human being's potential is he began to cry so the gabba came over to him and said to the god and he said to the rabbi are you crying wha what's the matter so the rabbit says i want you to know i just read these words about the human capabilities so the government says so why does it make you cry he says because before i was born i took the oath takes sadiq valter russia and i never fulfilled it i didn't become the tsatik so if i took the oath i didn't make good and during the video we were talking about where we talk about yeshua that i might have dealt in a false way with i didn't come true that sure that i took i never made good on so that's the reason why i'm crying that is something that each and every one of us has the power to fulfill that shavuot and one of those ideas that have come out from this sure is that a person should never in their life look at themselves as a russia i had an amazing amazing meeting and it was with a young woman that the parents could never ask to ask her to go out they kept reminding her about it and she said i'm not ready yet i'm not ready yet i'm not ready yet she's already older and she kept pushing them off for one reason i want to finish this first i want to do that first finally they couldn't wait any longer and they asked her if she would come to meet with me she never said the reason why she didn't want to go out she came in i was in this spoil i sat down with her after about 20 minutes i got onto the subject i said you know your parents are a little bit concerned that you don't want to go out she says yes yes i know i said was there any particular reason she looked down at the floor and said rebbe who would ever want to go out with me when i heard those words it hurt me here is a wonderful young woman many miles many talents very wonderful person with a good position disposition with a wonderful ashkafa and she said who would want to go out with me there for a moment i didn't say a word finally i said to her who would want to go out i tell you the truth i think that a lot of people would want to go out with you i think that if you would let the door go open and you would let people apply for the position you would find an unbelievable hassan she said you think so i said yes she said but i have so many things that are not good i said we all have things malek said there's not a person in the world that just does good and doesn't do something not so good so you're human you're like everybody else but go out borealum has somebody great in store for you try it look at yourself in a different way be my chassis yourself you have the same chance that anybody else does you're a wonderful person i'm here with you a half an hour you're delightful please i beg of you listen to what your parents want for you try and go out i don't care what the kuvim are in fact it says that there are many times that the satan tries to prevent people from meeting doesn't want shidduchim to be made wants to destroy shalom bias that's part of what the satan does lo allah you can't tell what's going to happen i was very thrilled when the parents called me approximately a year later to tell me she's engaged a person has to be very careful how they look at themselves a person has to be very careful in the way that we picture ourselves even one little incident can sometimes overshadow what we think about ourselves one little mice one incident can sometimes make us feel completely different and it doesn't have to be every day we wake up hashem gives the sound the summer back then the shovel was up in chamayim i get it back in the morning i have to wash the teal as you dying because of that my hands are tomay they're ritually unclean i have to wash hashem gave me the shaman hashem you gave me back my neshama i didn't have it during the night what did i say in hamapio what did i say scary before i went to sleep i gave my neshama back and now it came back to me every person has a chance every single day of our lives to shine to do tuva and to become great and so there was a rav arov he was a distinguished person he was a person that was pretty special and one time he was sitting to at a sudden and when he was at the sunnah unfortunately he had good wine and the wine was maisha he took another cup of wine you know how it is took another cup of wine he didn't realize it people sometimes don't know their limits before he knew it he was shaker intoxicated drunk he was so drunk he took off his coat and he began to take his shirt and unbutton it a little bit he got up on the table he stood up on the table when he began dancing and dancing and dancing oh he had a great time he had a great time and there unfortunately at the end he collapsed he fainted straight on the table okay of course when he got up and he realized he fell asleep drunk on the table and he didn't have his jacket on and his shirt was unbuttoned he realized what had happened and he was so upset he couldn't even go outside into the street he was so embarrassed he didn't leave his house for months finally one day he gathered up the courage he got the omens and he went outside he started walking down the street and he noticed in the window of a picture store there was a picture of him and the picture was of him on top of the table without the jacket with the shirt on button dancing how embarrassed he got he was so humiliated that he traveled abroad one day while he was abroad he entered a bookstore and there was a book that was intended to teach the public about the dangers of drinking and alcoholism on the cover was his picture the picture that they chose to be the dugma to be the example of where drunkenness intoxication addiction can lead a person they put his picture on the cover now he got very upset he actually found out that the book was well received and it was internationally a bestseller all had been incorporated into the school curriculum said this over who is that rav it was and every year the children learn in the schools what happened to nayach but what does it say about noyah i see that sadiq but one myself one mice it can turn the whole thing around one mice it can spoil the person one mice that can drive him out of town one mice can drive him out of the country one mice that can drive him away from yiddish hashem says don't worry those mices happen in life there are incidents that every once in a while do happen when they happen shivoban showed him hashem says don't worry no matter what you've done even you've gone so far away i will gather you meesham i will gather you there and i will bring you in no matter where a person is gone no matter what has happened an individual has to be willing to forget about it and to move forward hashem says i don't remember anything anything that a person erases with chuva will never ever be remembered but we have to have the kayak in order to know that we have that potential to keep on the great prisoner says on this an interesting thing that in life when we do chuva this is from the safer urus israel when we do chuva so we do chew on three things one because the shoulder person did something wrong they did an aveira so they have to do chuva number two if i did a mitzvah and i didn't do it in the best way if i didn't learn in the best way i could if i didn't pray in davan in the best way that i really could if i didn't give stukka with a kind heart with a smile i could have done it in the best way i could if i didn't greet my friend or my sister or my brother or my wife or my mother in the nicest way and show them a smile then i got to do chuva on that i have to do two of that i wasn't making the mitsubishi i did the mitzvah but i could have done it a little better way and then finally the arizona says the third level is i have to do chuva that i'm not doing specifically what hashem has put me in this world to that which i'm here in order to accomplish and when i wasn't making that yet i have to remember i got potential inside i can still go further i can still accomplish a lot that is something that everyone has the power to do then they will not look at themselves like a russia i wish we could go on the entire evening but unfortunately all good things have to come to an end i'd just like to mention the sponsorship of chickens for shabbos it is a hessed organization that i believe that it's building worlds chickens for shabbos giving to those that might not be recognized by the general community those that are grocers those that are never people that don't have others to look in on them rahman al-islam people that are somehow forgotten about people that need food for shabbos that need dignified clothing children the children that need so much how unbelievable it is that they provide for the children the children of rabbeim and mechanics teachers our rabbis our morals that sometimes are not i hate to say the words making a livable wage but i'm going to say it because i'm going to tell you the truth it's not me that said it no no to me yehudah said that sometimes there obey him they got to make more we want to attract the best the best murders we got to pay on that level so chickens for shabbos comes along that great sadiq robbie newman comes around and says i'm going to be makhab those people i'm going to make sure that they have the honor that they deserve the dignity that they deserve that's unbelievable if you ask me that is the greatest way to build self-esteem in others one time it was on the night of the seder and a father came to a moshe khan he says i got a son and he's off to derek he's not here and i want to begin to save her ramosa cohen who was a close gob of the stipler said don't begin go and ask the stipeler so they went to the stipeler and they explained we weren't making the mitzvos of the seder yet we're waiting for him and actually the people are hungry what should we do the stifler said la humpteen wait on them they went home they waited a while later it was really getting late they came back to the stipler and they said stipler he's still not here he's in a bad way what should we do the stipel looked him and he said le humpteen wait on him to come home they went back everybody was waiting it was nearing khat's eyes they didn't know what to do finally one more time they came to the stipeler the stifler said la humpteen wait for the boy shortly after they came back the boy came and he said when he walked in he saw all of the people gathered around not one thing on the table was touched not one piece of food not the kiddush that was already in the coast in the bakker nobody touched it he saw his seat where he used to sit saved for him with a special algona he came in without a word sat in his seat it was so moving they did their seder the scene was mashbia it had great influence on this boy he saw that he was shaba mashahu that he was worth something at that moment his heart was inspired he returned to his family and slowly but surely over the coming months he returned to yiddish they say in the name of the stipeler if they wouldn't have waited for the boy if they wouldn't have shown him that he wasn't a russia and he wouldn't have come home in the middle of the seder to see everybody sitting waiting for been something that they would have regretted for their entire life