Rabbi David Aaron - Living on Purpose

a lot from his teachers should and early shot I imagine most of you many of you are soon as it is so whatever wisdom the rabbi shared with us tonight just attributing part of it you guys already those who have learned with the rabbi before it and I think we're in for a real treat one of the one of the themes that we were working on at you by net we have some sponsors who are interested in us providing avenues for all of us you just come better people and who else could we think of to speak other than rabbi be there come on no I guess they understand I'll get the Olli and I am more than intended all right saying all these smiley faces so I see or inviting speakers to talk about being a better person so you just wanted to bring someone I need to work on being a better person so I recently share how I'm failing at that but I'm gonna try my best okay while I share with you an idea and it's an idea of channel 4 so I don't know if you ever heard this but if you have I've added a lot more to it so listen very carefully if you heard this before but what I want to talk about is I think the most important thing I could talk about if I had something to say to every single human being in the world if I had one class that I would this would be it that I should every single human being could be invented from and so this is really the most important thing so we're talking about living on purpose and I want to deal with what is my purpose how do I get in touch with my purpose but how do I feel empowered purpose so I talk about purpose and in order to talk about the purpose of cast I'd imagine you who are you why are you okay who are you so number years ago I had a student if I make dinner and she was talking about her family she had mentioned in passing that her mother was in Japan so I asked her what is your mother doing in Japan and she said well my mother's looking for herself okay you know okay you could be in Japan looking for yourself but my daughter who is time with like seven years old my kids are very Israeli and the understand English not incredibly well but when they hear English they translated into Hebrew in their head so my owner was following the conversation but then the girl said her mother's in Japan looking for herself and my daughter didn't know how to translate that so she turned to me she said Papa money around daddy what did she say said well you know she loved her mother Eva yep and she's in Japan VD missile president month and she is looking for herself at that moment my tournament like this bull and I got inside her head and I realized how frightening that is she lost herself in Japan how do you do that and how you lose your thumb okay she's in a hotel she checked out of the hotel myself wait this second I could have sworn I had myself with me well actually the last thought I saw myself was in the mirror the bathroom I mean maybe I'm still never goes back to recessions you can't they kind of add myself to the room or sorry man we've cleaned up that room home that I think might be there well we do have a loss in the family but the folks till tomorrow morning but how do you lose yourself have you find yourself cool what is the cells okay we talked to slay all the time we talk about writing ourselves who to you but like you sadly there seems to be a lot more people that don't like themselves who see you that doesn't like you there are people hurting those cells was the humans hurting you I was in on the Upper West Side Manhattan if I hear from Manhattan okay good well we're very happy that you're no longer there to here right so I was in the Upper West Side I was in a supermarket and a fella walks in and he started screaming how could I show myself I'm going to kill myself I'm going to kill myself and I don't know what to do I'm not from Manhattan from a small town called Toronto and I've never really witnessed the scene of a guy screaming they got us to be entire drunk or something like that the old police please may comes in that scene I would give myself over to myself so the policeman engages him in discussion and says now why are you going to kill yourself that is he didn't expect that so he said he thought United well but because uh because my mama meets me and my Papa hates me and quite frankly I hate me so I'm going to show myself so the police business but what do you hope to accomplish if you kill yourself and the I said well covers wanna kill myself I mean happy yeah I'll be real happy when I kill myself so these medicines for listen to what you're saying if you kill yourself you're going to be dead like I said huh yeah and if you did how will you know you're happy you're dead and it's only a second you if I kill myself I'm going to be dead that's right and his army our line no I'm happy I'm dead and we step in that's right and Kevin oh man I can't even tell what they'll be happy true story well who would be trying to kill who is who that's trying to kill who so what I want to keep you is a map this is based on the secrets of toads language that I use I promise me myself and buy some I talk about me I'm supposed to cry on this yes that would be a problem right me myself and I who is the self who's the me who's the I and when you click this is mama some amazing it'll give you such popularity and so many things I could go on and on and on about it but I'm just going to give you a few thoughts and there's so much more they can be drawn from it ok so the first thing I want you to know is the self is the soul when we talk about the self in Torah consciousness that's called neshama the soul you are a soul you don't have a soul that's confusing people think I have a buyer you have a soul who are you now if you don't have a soul you are a soul just as you don't have a self but you talk about myself computer they don't have stuff you are itself and so to soul it's talking to Souls you're a soul but you as a soul come into this world to play a character that we're going to call me right that's your character like an actor comes into the world and plays a character in other words I'm not really Rabbi David Aaron rapping David Aaron is a character that I'm soul play in this life and be very specific this light okay I am way rabbi david and now multiply relegated eric in good health to 120 but i want you to know something wrapping in the Darrin's going to die run but I ain't going anywhere because I'm not resting over there I'm a soul and souls don't die it's like an actor give it a part he's so excited that it get that smarts another is reading through the script he seasoned scene eight he's going to die he freaks out I don't want to die Oh silly movie I have directed sorry to get the wrong guy I can't do this mark oh why not you're perfect for the part a little high if either one time you can die you're gonna play dead you're going to get out again laughter employee something else but that's the point who did this guy want to kill his character you had tired of playing a homeless drunk we understand that that he intuited something very profound he included the self that transcends his physical emotional characteristics intellectual character the truth is everything you can sell say about yourself is really about your character the self could not be described two indescribable okay you are a soul you come in this world to play a character in other words let's be honest how many of you here can honestly say that you're not the same person to dating that you were five years ago say I like to say Isis to work okay I very loud Artur thank you very much for this patient hey Adam okay how can you not be the same person you were playing five years ago because five years ago you might have been playing a different character you understand that yeah a couple weeks ago I found in my closet a notebook well I didn't I did not recognize the handwriting I did not recall any of the contents of this notebook and then I realized this was a my notebook I wrote it too basic of register that I risk your handwriting in the item I didn't sign that check so you are so old you come in a swirl to play care to help us this question you call recall ever wondering is a child who would I have been if my mother would have married another man anybody if anybody hurts me that I love that when I was a child I really wondered the Assad was really deep in error because I was the only redhead in the family I asked my mother why am I the only variant in the family weird red come from my father has black hair my mother said that my father had grit here with his child come on how did red turn to black getting older right I try to clean not read it it doesn't black that's for sure but as I thought maybe I'm adopted right they know about me they always I was sure I wasn't adopted I use my parents would never spend that kind of money on me when I was in fact the sounds is the soul the soul comes in the world to play a character now let's get it back to the woman in Japan looking for herself who's she's looking for what don't lost well we're not quite sure right and that's very important you want to figure out your purpose are you lost you don't know your character you don't know your strengths you don't know your weaknesses you don't know what character you're supposed to play you're an actor in the film if you don't know what character you're playing that incredibly frustrating you can imagine how frustrating that would be but let it be one thing but that could be but there's another kind of lost and that's getting lost in your character you start to think you start to think that I am wrapping David Aaron and my whole self worth is for a stop it with the image of grab like David Aaron and get lost in your character you start to thank your whole self worth it's based on your great looks and all the money that you have and all the things that you have and all the Facebook friends that you have by the way I have ups right all that all that you can want there is a favorite actor that got lost in the character took his life who is that no come on ten points come on boy we'll make it more interesting with these ledger club thought he was until I get Washington character and this is world of the question that we're all asking ourselves what is the source of genuine unconditional self-worth and the answer is not your character right a lot of people don't think it's their guarantee you have a friend and sit in his home and on his desk was a picture of Anna ball to present hated woman see what but she's in her 90s so I said is this your grandmother he said nah I said this your great-aunt he said no I said well who is this woman why is she on your death he's actually don't know her personally woman who is she she was Miss America 1910 I didn't you know I could they understand a man having a picture of Miss America taken in 1910 why not picture Miss America was she also consumed out years old he said it humbles me and reminds me she has the thought she was really something in 1910 you see that's already nothing says isolation akid it's forbidden to become bold people who are lost in their bodies lost in their character be bold that's a person looking at their car and thinking just because their car is 50 years old their old mission will never get bold souls are not bold they don't get old the more you live in a funny with your character or you get lost your character what do you think you find your character and make all do you get one and the weaker you get so then it is absolutely absolutely critical to learn to live as a soul now what I'm going to deny the character we're just going to get back to the importance of the character but don't get lost in your character is multi-millionaire I I have a meeting with them I was hoping he'd maybe make a donation to my organization put him in a meeting this kind of private jet a limo you slide all over the world he meets with the most important people in the world after my meeting he was meeting with the Prime Minister of Israel the instructor of being and this is absolutely the fan I'm sorry so uniques with your cutter then after meeting with me colors but amenity anyways so after walking something's wrong with my character not connected okay so they'll walk away this guy I don't know him my first time medium I turn to my second mr. Sun so what an amazing life you live what's it like the guy stops looks leave me honest and says rabbi unlovely we do share that with me and I ask remotes again because you never alone and I said you're lonely it's a revelant I know that if I were to lose all my money tomorrow nobody would give me the time of day see that's a man who's lost and his character and a lot of other people got lost as character with him and you confuse his net worth but it is some form do you know people on that that have lost their self-worth in their network so this is the mistake we all want to know what's a source of self war and we sadly not make the mistake to think it's our looks our status our bodies our fame or our art property are slowly whatever it is but this won't you that your character that your car you need your car you respect your carts keep your car level run jump with the car drive you you as an Hashanah Drive your parrot to where so now to get to understandings of where I want to talk about the eye and the eye is a big shock for some people the eye is a shell the reason why that shots to people is because most people think that I've shed is God some guy in the sky somewhere over there telling us what to do the first Russian astronaut when he was in outer space was asked what you see and he said I don't see God what do you think you see he drive me in a spaceship suddenly - right here at him from outer space and waving : I am God believes along from these either even when you can't see God and then because I show is so far not because it shouldn't so far drop keep the soul connection to the right not because Hashem is so far because the scheme' so close he's closer than behind your eyeballs because according to Torah the Shenzhen itself and Sinai the first words we heard as an OT a Shem it will kick up which mean that I am all that ever was it never will be I am the source of all your power I am yourself that doesn't mean that you are God don't get me wrong because I am God so I don't want that to be perfect you know you're not God I'm not God but if Michelle was son metaphorically then he would be raised of his light we need means light you are a ray of Hashem and the neshamah a soulless pilot ellicott mean al a soul is a facet a part of hashem the ballot Tanya says the soul is literally actually a fairly Chilika a part of a shell all right Stan people have said to me students I have said to me you know like this is my life and I can do did it like Elise let's just check out how much this life is you are away if you don't want to do a quick experiment if you don't mind for just two minutes if you if you don't mind we're going to have everybody turn their hearts boss I'll let you know in two minutes I'm going to take out my smartphone okay everybody ready we're going to turn our hearts off and then I'll go when you could turn them back on okay you can't turn your heart off and on it will but if you can't turn your heart off and on it will that means you're not beating your heart and you're not eating your heart then who is whoever that is I suggest we stay in good contact the courage the level okay what am I thinking let's stop thinking you can't stop thinking what you think is your choice is that you think that you have no choice you're always speaking the nearest thought coming from you the source of thought right this very second there are 17 muscles in my face that has to work in perfect coordination for every syllable to come out of my mouth now I'm gonna with is plates in my face for 17 muscles but you know what I don't even know how to talk that that's going to do for a living and talk all day long so when I get home I don't talk about it but but I can talk all day long I don't know how to talk I'm going to do this you see how to do I would not do that usually that all the powers within you are not from you that's the meaning of the name Elohim or say just tell us that Elohim means buh buh buh buh buh the master the owner of all powers another scheme' location i am all there ever was is it ever will be handled with Adi there is nothing but me hello Peppa I am the master and the owner all your powers I am your inner higher creative self that you share with the universe they're the big ships for most people but in actually important shift to get but it is very sick it you want to connected - em and there's absolutely nothing you can do to stop that connection what you can do is deny that connection to lose yourself at there in terms of connection but when you realize that if you want to feel the SH M just take your pulse because that's a sham saying I'm with you I believe in you I'm going to work through you I'm going to give you life right now so the important thing to understand that every move you make and every breath you take he's not just watching you that's gonna sting 11 okay and the single relevant sense from every breath you take every move you make fine every little you can't even move your finger without a because I'm Asian I am so this very second my little self is rooted in and flooding from the one great self the creative notion and now the question is so what is the source of sellswords and what is our purpose on earth and now we go back to the character the source of self-worth unconditional support is called a bow - M serving Hashem now the confusion is because people say the show is some particular individual being super being over there imposing his will on a bunch of us over here so that sounds like slavery but I understand that I am - gone like a ray of light is to the Sun and just as the race serves the Sun and it is available and there cover a vehicle through which the ones and the energy look like force this one becomes analysis in the world so to you you are soul and the great self the oneself a Shem want to come in this world through you and that's where the character comes in right the character is not the source of self-worth is a vehicle for you to do your iboga Hashem your surface but your self-worth is rooted in serving to brave in the unique way that you can oneself one soul what your consciousness Sh'ma Israel Hashem looking a shame of us that's what total life is about it is to increase one self-consciousness one soul consciousness is over first agenda which mechanism of the soul of our souls why there are souls and there is the soul of our souls think of it like electricity in this room there are lights there is an air conditioner there might be a hot pot for tea and coffee so they're all meant in the same self electricity right notice L is an electricity but so electricity and then as electricity flows through the air conditioned the power cooling is manifest that's the soul of the air conditioner but when electricity flows through the light bulbs the power of lighting becomes manifest that's the soul of the white bulb and when they urgently flows through the hot pot by the kettle then the power of heating because magic at the soul of the kettle but is the soul of the souls and that's electricity we are connected this very second all of us to oneself one soul one God each and be one of this is a part of a packet of one of the powers of the one God and so it's a character with air-conditioner the soul would become how moving hashem ability and our goal is to let the presence of Hashem flow into the world in the unique way that you could be given to do and now comes the purpose part so look at the carrot you've been given you've been given characteristics well I was given the capacity to speak in public I did nothing for this I didn't take any lessons and never really practice it I was never given any guidance in it I gave a talk at a conference a fella comes up to me he says very to studying public speaking other than every state public speaking he said do you know that a public speaker has to hit end points you are achieving more tourism as well and where they are is about how do you do this I don't know how I do it it just do it it just a gift it's a gift they say that the number one fear in the United States is public speaking the number two fear of the United States is yes that means if you be asked to give a eulogy you'd rather be in the Box they give you and that's from Seinfeld I must quote much resources ok I don't have a problem with public speaking under how do you have that because for me to be haughty about my ability to be composed to be as stupid as me be haughty over my ability to scratch my beard did you see that yeah I worked at that took me a while and I got it and I got to this whole uh listening I'm really good at this one thing quickly can you scratch your ear you've been given the gift of scratching your ear every single person in this room has being given a constellation of talents well there's something else you'd be given which is just as important as your talents it's your problems well it's your problems right we wrap it's my three attic instructions like well I heard this very nice metaphor for my bike that just going to add a little bit to it and imagine you're at this construction site and you don't know what you're doing here but yeah they give your dad you open up your bag and in your bag there's a saw hammer nails you got you're a carpenter next year's person open up their bag and in there there's wires and testers and fuses we don't I get it I love electrician but but I don't like to answer that metaphor then at the bottom of your bag does something broke in and that is as important as all the towels you be given something is broken you've been given something broken and that makes you a compassionate person who has the capacity of being empathetic to other people that have that brokenness you know but look at what Hashem is giving you in your character right it says a little more of a combo but a person is born at the time of Mars will have a bloodthirsty character it's just little okay now the question is what's your choice well you have two choices right you could be a surgeon and enjoy a blood and save lives or you could be a serial murderer and take lives but if there's nothing wrong with being bloodthirsty I have a glass every morning right there's nothing wrong with that it's what do you do with it what do you do with it there's nothing wrong with anybody in this room except there's nothing wrong with anybody's room that they made in vain we may think there's something wrong with us there's nothing wrong with us this is what we doing with it mask the mistake they say a story about a doll that went to a great great master and he asked them what is the secret to life and the master said would wires nails go contemplate so he contemplated but he could figure it out a little wider the middle I don't know what he's talking about or years later he forgot the meeting many jurors on his front porch he hears his beautiful guitar music so he follows this ears in the air in the park down the street is a guard playing acoustic guitar the central joints the music and suddenly hears wood wires and nails realize the secret life if your wood wines are nails you can create a weapon but wood wires menials you could create a musical instrument there's nothing wrong with wires and nails and there's nothing wrong with anybody in this room in what you're doing with it what are you doing with it so I'd only years ago my wife's was very involved with astrology now there's the phonological astrology all the lot of opinions that you cannot use astrology for horoscope and telling the future there are some a lot of opinions that you can use astrology to understand your character trait my always actually doesn't do it anymore but she was really very good at it and she actually shows me this relishable to something called astrological pendants neither to people who aren't at the same time same place not related at all they look like identical twins it's really shocking stuff my wife is very very very challenged by this and pushing back to their teachers that will where's free choice and we need to Sahab with your problem the strategies have nothing about your soul talking about your character you can have two children that don't be giving me saying five colored crayons right each one's good do something different all music inconsiderate numbers of songs are all made by cutting that number of knots and the new song a new song is just amazing you come to write a song but we serve thing and that's which got asks how are you taking your character traits and using them to serve to bring greater oneself one soul one consciousness to the world that's what's that because if we could agree once saw oneself one God constant world then the world would be a loving place in a peaceful place learning for usually expect each other be here for each other but sadly enough we don't really believe we're connected we don't really believe that in the deepest depths we all share one South and when you're in a state of service it is the most incredible joy it's a egoless because if you've experienced that I've experienced that many times but I know it's not me speaking anymore it's not David Herren this is not be that they aren't speaking baby there it doesn't know how to speak all I'm going to be is a channel on one of these in service all of the in some way if they're the gift of gab and my crazy jokes I could be a vehicle to bring up a little bit more oneself one soul one God consciousness and I'm living a little bit more in my goodness so that's what you're going to ask yourself maybe not just so maybe somebody else that knows you could sadly enough I ask people my students give me three strings if the making of people can come up with three strengths right and I said okay give me three weaknesses oh I got a lot more than that you know they can just download all these because it's so easy to sell all these bad things about ourselves but is there a good thing neither feeling comfortable not nice to say good things about myself humility in Jewish tradition isn't putting yourself down and pretending you're not good at something that's just lying if you're good at something then say but with Hashem Hashem of the sort I'm looking given this gift I have to use this gift as your creative writing you're great at writing if you've created marketing you're great at marketing if you write amuse if you teach if you're a doctor whatever it is just take a shower wash em what you doing with it you also have to say that Shem thank you for my problems brother we save a morning chef that recalls our key Hashem you have made for me everything I need but cook said that includes your problems you gave me the heart some problems also I listed them in order to be able to be the kind of character that I could be to serve swing in the unique way that I could bring into the world a little bit more of the one soul one self one ash and consciousness so this is what it's about living on purpose what is your purpose starts with for you you are a soul over the soul the soul is a ray of a shed what am I doing here what is a ray of a chef doing on this planet I've been given a character and with this character I have problems a challenges and strengths weaknesses and now choose life choose love choose to do something that will bring more of that sense of connectivity of all of us the entire torus unfolding from a hospital kabocha love your neighbor as yourself you know I know a lot of people are looking further not to love me the way they love themselves you know maybe do a little bit better than that right so most people don't know the end of the bus circle love your neighbor as yourself can you ship because I am Shem which means I am all that ever one isn't ever will be and of your bundle at the zoo moto there is nothing from one I am there's only one I am and you're I am in my I am is one of the colors in the spectrum of the white light of one I am and your character that you've been given it's the perfect you know how to arrange it know how to use it and don't get lost in it but behind yourself and help everybody else find quarter self through it so there's one thing on the purpose that's the secret to untraditional self worth serve find your service live your service and the service is in what way can you add a little bit more bring a little bit more of love of a half the recipe mocha a little bit more of the clarity of Anisha aina there is only one I am and we are one and we will always be one and we have to just stop thinking and talking and acting in ways that confuse ourselves to think that there's anything but just one so thank you so much yeah because it seemed that yes air conditioner is the character the power of cooling is the soul the electricity is a sham in a metaphor yeah what's your name soul which is visioning yes they're the stage name yes [Music] so that it didn't rain so powerful exactly so I'm glad you brought that up ego stands for editing dog out okay that's Ichiro editing gone happen because ego is when a person gets trapped in their character and starts the same I am random David and David Aaron is white now and all I have to do is I'm going to take care of the video I can make sure everybody knows and David airinas it's all times even in so about me and me me me me it's not about me me me it's about i I've our ourselves not myself not yourself not the collection of ourselves the one self by the oneself that we're all flowing from all right so yes that's the problem ego convinces us that I'm self-contained self-sufficient independent these are my powers this is my strength right Cohiba olson yuppies fasabi thought I was dead Mike how it's my strength that is given me ability to succeed as soon as you surrender as soon as you genuinely know these are not my powers Morgan our to you right but first step to empowerment is surrender but but as long as I think this is my ability to speak my mind yes that because of the people yesh you know if I had sense that this is mine I don't mind so yeah thank you for bringing up what else would you like to ask a common soul tell everybody your stage name yes but famous stage name you know that yeah you should be laksa okay versus improving on the character phrase when you're not good for that you think where does that come in the personal development area where your feet and it's just the way oh no no no no you have okay the question is well what about the areas in your life that you should work on and improve on maybe you should just do what you're good at no no that's why you have an eat around you yet Gazzara actually points the most to your purpose because your purpose is to choose something to do when it comes natural is good but it's only part what what you really need to focus on is what you're not so good at but what does it mean not so good at all right you know any person does have such a great sense of humor there's no coloca there's no Mitzvah thou shalt be funny right so you're funny yes funny so you feel like a funny funny but it won't be funny and I sorry just is what it is right but very much what you've come to school to do is very much your eat - hurrah will tell you what to do is you understand the people days better some people may have a gate there are things I'll be later from money and that's what you have to work on because anyway you really choose to show that we are all part of one's self it's precisely where you're challenged in your ability to recognize that we're all part of oneself I mean what is unconditional love you need in order to succeed conditions against your luck right if they are all the condition for a fever of your world when would you have a chance to demonstrate an exercise unconditional love you know what I have seen with my wife and I said them I turned to my wife I said Sarah why do you love me she said my name is Connie okay I'm confused with my other wife okay but why do you love me she said why do you soon that I said okay and I said why do you love me she said I have no reason to love you what no peace until about me we're not how do you say that you what one reason to love me still only do I have no reason to love you you want even mommy to have a reason to love you I just 100 would I really would like you have not not know she's because my other reason to love you then it would be the reason I love is not you and at that reason at any point we're no longer relevant I wouldn't love you anywhere would i right I don't want you even when you give me good reasons not to I give up right this we love that's your love so that you hate the Haram it's like to really bring one soul one self constant to really bring love into the world you know minion has been sentenced especially where love is challenged is where the love becomes manifest it's more powerful way I want people understand that they think when they're having problems our marriage that's a problem with their marriage I'm going to create a marriage that doesn't have problems is such a big marriage but two people that are really close the closer you get to somebody the more you step on their toes because you're close but the problem is the opportunity to get even deeper and feel what connected and try to sell that to get to a much more profound sense of connectivity so the problems are really important and working on your character traits a very important right but if I'm trying to get a character you don't have but if you don't need it right but if you have a mix of of prognosis working well then you need to work on being hospitable because you have a mitzvah and so the ministers are telling us what we need to work on but there's lots of things that people working on this is oh it's going to do that so they'll work on something that you need to work on not you just feel like working on any more much yeah so television your stage name kind of paraphrase what you said in terms of things have been said probably refer to also some of them to think like oh you know why was it even is life why do I have this law why are these why do I have this burden but really what's actually happening is only go out to Tony ocean Sharon wants to be so sweet fix their finger need fixings of that creates a physical universe and radiates out soul so to speak and the souls choose so to speak eight say something that needs fixing they say okay I volunteer I'm gonna go to the physical in the guise of human being and I'm going to fix this thing when you're caught as you say in your character and you think oh I had this problem it's not there it's not it at all in volunteer to fix this problem of the universe that God has us between 60 and you are volunteering to fix it the second part is that people tend to think well you know my goal my purpose here in the universe is to become the teacher that I would teach subset or I'm going to be a carpenter or a little columns for people which is true to some degree but the bottom line the person is wise it realizes the thing that needs fixing on inside themselves of see and somehow that which they are doing in the outside world is a musician or artist or whatever it is it's part of the metrans it's part of what they have to do but the main task in the end is is fixing things ins items up and so it's a combination of those two things a person feels why am i so broken why do I have all these flaws why well the answer is because there were these flaws in the universe that are not just muses needed to be created or building needed to be built there were flawed that translated this universe turn out to be psychological flaws those were the cosmic flaws that God created the universe 6 and the soul that is kind of your character to Barnabas this personality in order to be able to fix this broken essence that manifests in this is the world as a personality flaw of the character that you say alright well that was a lot there and some of it couldn't be missed understood by a lot of people so I don't want to go there right now that God has something that you need my fixed what would it mean that God would need something safe although what I didn't want to qualify is the legend explains that Appy cappella according to Coppola who you came to this world you were shown the script you were showing all the episodes and you are asked do you want to play the character you said yes I want to and then you're a born and component well how come why do what have been affected by what happens problem a problem so imagine you're an actor you really excited about it I remember you know one of my students was an active I mean Kirk Douglas just turned a hundred little while ago and he told me that he always he got he's always getting his part as a bad guy or a criminal or a tough guy and he wanted as an actor to play any part he heard that Vincent van Gogh the lust for life movie was looking for Vincent van Gogh and he said I want to play that Marty was so had a character for him a struggling sensitive artist and so he got the job but he got the job and he was so excited about that and then his good friend John Wayne Colma Kirk told me the story and said Kirk is this true you took a [ __ ] bark like Vincent van Gogh with a cowboy like you villain hideous is he part like that and Kirk said to John means John we're not can boys work heard of janaab and he said that John wasn't such a great actor because he became a cowboy I get only giant sandbox but engine the current gets above the magic curtain gets victim and oh no forget ladies Kirk Douglas and they said he gets lost and Vincent van Gogh they so angry why is my life so difficult why Heights this poor artist and why not funny money Rob why am I going through all this land and then summit Isaiah Kirk Kirk you want it to play this role you knew you could do such a great job with this role and so that relation says that we actually said yes and I wanted to play that roll and now I have to ask myself okay so how do I serve with this role to bring my soul and the soul souls into the world yeah Solar gestation action meditation by de leche okay I gotta gotta get anybody okay so you're talking about this process connectivity dimension to Shannon sound like the gold flow that's a house of October your ego and you were any kind of certain hitting external upstream dick conscious analytical self to drops away and who we really are try to the direct light or flow through to like to North thank for all this Biden shampoo etc and so that's how you connect to the world and you're basically there's nothing less be about this connection you on this so that seems like go to go with records that will be self nullification that it's part of the result but it's also I think part of what you need to do in order to get there is to somehow figure out a way to to get rid of that part of you that is all in a negative word incorrectly stories messages so obviously a part of that is focusing on the bottom of that what you do need to do but there there also needs to be like Joan happen to do some way to to get rid of all of that all the drop I don't completely grieve and slow about getting rid of the analytical mind because there are people sitting achieve all day long do we have Apple things where I don't want to go there right now but I also don't want to be the whole other class editions of this but maybe we should because the question is it really is not the choice and that part is the biggest part of the story but we don't have enough time to go into it but we are here to choose love not to just love to choose love are you - Hara are so it's appetizing you know energy whatever words we use our needs that are wrong is our greatest asset in so many ways because without it we couldn't choose to love and if you don't choose to love then then love is very natural but it's not this unconditional love it's just useful oh and you don't feel like loving it's to choose goodness when you don't see what it being good is to choose to be kind me there's no feel like it does that's the most powerful affirmation that we're one because you know what I don't see you like being at one with you I'm going to choose to be in one with you and then I reveal something very profound so the choice here the hard to claim choosing life Jewish life is about making choices right and our y8l are on put those choices in our face you know and that's what we have to work on is to make those choices so that's a piece so that I think is really super super key to all this is them to serve a sham of ultimately a choice that you have to make and I've actually come more on you show me that says that as soon as you get a mitzvah you get a geeks of horror that comes with it to tell you not to do it sound ridiculous like you give me a minute some and you may eat so hard not to do it but the answer is the goal is to do it from a place of choice not just naturally but to choose to even you don't feel like it and that's what's love and now the deepest level of love is to show love to people you don't feel like loving but you're choosin doing anyways yes soul totally when you're sold in your state stationing I'm question about names actually is a Hebrew name living of the soul so or the Hebrew name the name of the meter me me yes the question is who were you before you were Anders the I am before you say I am Anders that I am is neshama and then the Zelda's I am Anders I am a healer I am you know a just but those are more and more layers of the envelope or the garb that you're wearing right but the I am before I say I am David Aaron right that's us going to your neshama if there's something that you know in when they doing children the Ramos talks about changing your knee actually yeah because you got lost in this parenthetic break and the allowing this care of it so by taking a different name you can return it step away a little bit you see the problem is that the mission they have to step away from your character to save and give direction to your character for instance it's not a good thing to say I'm angry and then you can anger if you angry then how you are going to not be angry it healthier to speak a soul language is I feel angry and therefore there's a little bit of a distance there right or to say I'm depressed let's say I'm depressed because then you become depression say I feel depressed okay just I and I'm looking at that feeling right and you know and you could give the depression a name you know does breath whatever you know David whatever whatever they give it but try to get a little bit outside of it so that it doesn't control you or you never say I'm wrong because you are not wrong souls are okay you can say I was wrong in my thinking but the reason why I want to think Gomorrah such an incredible soul therapy just people actually sitting there arguing you know and once that it means this the other one says it means that and then you echo surfing or all I think I might be wrong he's wrong this is a wrong thought so let go of it don't become stuck in your thought you're not your thought you're in the shower that had that thought you liked all of that thought that's why it's incredibly humbling when you're learning sex with somebody and they have a commentary on it you have a different interpretation and you argue it and you start really start pulling out with your wife to your interpretation when you start something but you're actually wrong and you're afraid that you're going to end up realizing you're wrong but you can't be wrong you summon them not wrong but it was just a wrong way to sink and now you should be happy that you have a better way to think Arnold Schwarzenegger once said something very profound like only once now I'm sure he said more profound big than that he said why did I become mr. universe five times he said the other way trainers were afraid to be piqued I was afraid not to be critiqued because I knew that if they could show me what I'm doing wrong I could do it better but that's the difference they were afraid to some of us say they're wrong and he about wrong I just got it wrong but this tell me did way to it and I'll tell it to getting stuck a lot of us suck this is why I gotta learn to speak a language of neshama right and take a little step away from the character just get a little break you know from the carrot n11 thank you very much I just very much okay with into the quick commercial I'm not my coercion lately if you're interested in hearing more of this kind of stuff then I have a website called Rabbi David Aaron calm out right I'm having a veneering calm and I've got lots of material there as well as I'm very active on Facebook and if you want we could put a piece of paper back there if you're interested to get a migrate either emails then every weekend without I now doing produce animations short animation that illustrate these ideas like a 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