“Upon Leaving, One Says……”

I have a big for sadik and books. I find them inspiring and I like reading about our greats. I like knowing about our greats. I've asked Revesi over the last number of years. He shared about a lot of sadikim stories, ideas trying to give over who they were, what they were like. I find it very inspiring to to read and to study sadikim. In all sadikim books, there's a part of the book that I find very very intriguing. The day of their death I find is electric as like really really special. the last day of their life is something about it is and almost every tadic book I'll be honest I you realize when you read a book you don't want to read the ending already I often will skip to that page there's something wild magical it's sp it's spoken about in Asia that eulogy au said about his wife he said they laugh on their last day but sadik's last day is very very glorious there's a kayak and a power and a beauty and a specialness I was to experience this on my father my own father my last conversation the last the last day we saw a tremendous tremendous beauty that was powerful and there's there's a sa of the last day of sadik anybody thinks thinks about the question what would somebody do if they knew after 120 they knew it was their last day what would we do we would like to believe and again I'm this is if this is somewhat exaggerated if you ask the saddic what would you do to the saddic if today was your last day you'd like to believe and and the hope is and the goal of our life is that that we live every day and and we would be present to the things we're doing. We would be there present to our loved ones, to our wives, to our children, to our friends. We'd be living life in such a way. That's certainly the goal. Now, we're all human and we forget along the way and certainly if we had the clarity. Today is the last day, so we'd probably be hyperfocused. But the hope is that we're living the life that we would do the things we always do. We probably would be more present to it. But hopefully it's not like uh oh I totally missed the hope is Abakar just asked me a few minutes ago like what do you do the last day of muservad like what does that look like the last day of muservad I want to express that I'm sitting here now absorbing this I I I I want to do what we do every day I want to talk some words some words of Tyra try to talk some words of truth try to study tap topics together, topics of our lives. I want to do what we do every day, but I do admit I appreciate it more today. I sometimes take for granted. I sit Aram is here almost every single day. Abram Lewenstein and I mean it [applause] that that I appreciate I'm sitting here today. I'm [applause] sitting here today and I want to express how much I appreciate it. A guy once said to me and and there was some truth to what he said. He said, "You owe me to listen to me. I listen to you so many hours. You owe it to me. And there was a degree of truth like Aram sits here and gives >> why did everyone [laughter] exactly right now gonna lie the exact same thing >> I want to express that a daily is here and we have the opportunity you're making space that we can discuss terra we can discuss ideas truths and like and and and and and share with each other and share and you make space for that is I just tremendously appreciate it as real as sad and we've been together one of the most consistent in yeshiva [applause] and I just appreciate really I really I'm sitting here now [applause] what I maybe took for granted for months and months and try not to take it for granted today I'm not taking it for granted today I'm sitting here present to wanting to learn with you and I want to learn something with the with everybody here but I just appreciate I I could go around name and name and name I keep all the raves to go around just tremendously tremendously [applause] appreciated. So to sit down I don't know much like I don't know the name the dorm council is the name is like it it's not a normal name and and and what they are what they mean this seder in the afternoon that we learn mus is no connection it's not a mus I'm not giving muser I'm not as far what I'm doing I'm actually trying to like stop the yeshiva and like pause and give over what I'm seeing what I'm experiencing I'm mostly the guy said, "I'm listening to you, so you should listen to me." The irony is my the muser is just reflecting what I'm seeing in him. >> So, and and and in an honest way in the mir I'm trying to give words to a lot of things that I've learned with the guys from the guys >> and and trying to hear trying to trying to pass that along. I want to share something with the guys a vert that I said I said I said one night I came to yeshiva to say it I want to repeat the ver because it's something I'm feeling it's not a cute vert and I literally learned this here it means a lot to me this idea I want to share something I per I don't care is it rated as deep not deep I think it's true I think it's like on point and I learned it from the guy's here. Y I literally learned this from the guys and with the guys. So I want to share this with you. We're at a time that we're about we're leaving. We're leaving a man leaving a year leaving leaving something very beautiful. We're leaving a very beautiful journey and the garbus describes it's a Mishna braus and it says it speaks about a tana when he would arrive to the basra he would pray when he entered the bra she said a beautiful prayer and kazal bring what his prayer was he wanted I think about the beginning the hopes the dreams dreams, the aspirations. I think about when a guy comes to yeshiva, a guy usually often drags his parents who say, "No way, you ain't going to waterberry." Not always this is the story, but a guy comes with his or maybe his parents drag him or maybe they both came together nervously or maybe both are excited. But the original journey coming here to having hopes and thoughts and dreams of how it can look and there's the prayer of the beginning. There's the prayer of the start of a journey. And then upon exiting, what would he say? And the prayer upon exiting of was thank you. Thank you. I feel fortunate to have sat here. I feel fortunate to have been part of this. Thank you. I am thankful to have been here. I have been thankful to have been part of this. So I have the following cash I want to ask you. It's a beautiful prayer and it's printed in many gimaras and clas. even brought in such a concept of praying upon entering and praying upon exiting. My question to everybody here is why did say it's an obligation make such a and it seems in the pkim there is such a such a strange Mishna a Mishna is meant to hand over the law Mishnay don't tell stories Mishna is the giving over of the law what a strange way to teach me the lawn upon entry Entrance would say this upon exiting would say this. Why doesn't he say why doesn't the Mishna talk normal when you leave this is what one shall do? Doesn't say that. It doesn't say upon exiting one should thank one should be full of gratitude. It why didn't it talk normal? It instead tells us a story. the Mishna this Tana upon exiting was grateful >> and I'm supposed to say hey you know I should be grateful too what a weird way of teaching Allah tell me upon exiting be grateful be full of gratitude we'd all understand that that would be a Mishna I can relate to upon exiting this is the task this is the job that's not how the Mishna teaches it the Mishna tells a story of a tana of a great person who upon exiting appreciated. What an interesting way of expressing something. And what I learned here, what I learned in this yeshiva I want to give over. This is what I this is what I want to suggest is why the Mishna talks this way. Gratitude is not something you tell a youngster say thank you. Now certainly you should say thank you. Of course we should express thank you. Say thank you to your dorm counselor who spent his year thinking about you. Say thank you to the rebi. Of course say thank you to your parents who allow for everything that happens in your life. Thank you was nice is very nice. Much deeper is gratitude. Gratitude is under the thank you is a place is an honest space that I'm feeling something. I'm feeling grateful. Gratitude is not just an ex the thank you comes from a place now. It could be by saying thank you. And you should say thank yous. I don't want my kids to say thank you. I want them to be alive and a world of gratitude, a space, an overflowing heart of feeling something. Hey, my parents brought me into the world. Hey, I have friends. I like my friends. I'm really grateful for your friendship. Hey, I'm feeling something. It's a space. Gratitude is a real space. It's a space you can get to and be grateful. Now, saying thank you may help. And when you feel nothing, it's a nice thing to say thank you. And sometimes in saying thank you, it may even The outer arouses the inner. So by saying thank you, it will perhaps arouse an inner. Don't forget we don't raise our kids say thank you. That's secular. The west likes that. But yet and it could be you'll tell your kids to say thank you. But to the west we show our children a world of gratitude. We access in inner space and there and if somebody's not there and not feeling gratitude there's a question why can't they access what's the blockage to their inner world. The Mishna doesn't say one is obligated upon leaving to express gratitude because that's very superficial. The Mishna's telling a story because when you leave that's what you feel. I'm not working today. Message note to self Dan appreciate. Aram is here daily wanting to learn. Open to hear and to explore and talk. I'm feeling it because that's what happens when you leave. >> I had last night a night that was otherworldly to me and I asked and I've been talking to Schlommo. I've gone many places with Schlommo. something my soul was very open last night and I think myself that it's the end of a year the end of a tufa the end of a period in my mind I think we'll be married maybe his wife will come along maybe it'll be >> I want to express that when you finish something that's natural and normal at the end you you feel gratitude it's just it's the space that's natural now of course one is obligated brings out an inner reality and truth. The Mishna doesn't want to say when you leave the base thank it's saying what happens to somebody who's alive to the experience. Now I learned here we're very good at not being present to the experience. We can come to something and we're so performative that we're just if you pause and allow hey something's ending. What will fill is all different thoughts amongst them sadness at what's leaving for sure one of the things will come that will fill the heart is a gratitude for what I have not what I had what I have what I've gotten that will be that will remain. It's natural the thanking and the prayer upon exiting. It's true. It's it's true. But it's reflecting an inner truth. It's reflecting an inner. You know what happens when you leave? It's very easy to enter a world of gratitude. You mish feel grateful. I can't believe what I have. I can't believe what I had. I mamish appreciate it. I appreciate it. It's a beautiful space. It's the opportunity of exiting. It's the opportunity guys asked the last night in Yesh. It's a different realm. It's you can't. So why don't we do that earlier? Do that more times because there's a realm called mahim. Upon exiting a guy's four minutes walking out the doors, it brings up stuff. Guys who swear I'm not speaking last night. guys who can't access an inner world the last night like things just fall and the guy's like there he's feel and a guy prepares well I'm not doing that I'm just gonna stop saying what you're just going to do and allow for a moment of I feel like last night I don't know I felt like I entered a realm called when you're exiting when some when you're completing a task I feel like in a certain way three years ago I made up Schlommo, we made a decision to travel around. I do have a sense not cuz we're not going to travel more. I feel like a certain commitment and a certain period is was done. We did something and I felt last night that Beatasa upon completing something. You know what it means? A guy went around my appreciate one of my best friends in the world and for three years the guy we went together to many places to sing what to sing a couple of songs. It wasn't people's speeches. I don't I don't know. I don't like speeches. I'm against speeches. I don't like speeches. I don't appreciate them. To go around and to like we fang with y. What does fabbranging mean? People said hello to each other. A few hugs. The hugs are the main thing. The sch smoozing at the beginning. They didn't like and enjoyed and came and had a very nice time together. We went around and sang with our people. and the niceness, the kindness of Schlommo, the way he's done it for three years were just so nice and kind about it and beautiful about it and beasa upon exiting something that I have a sense and again we we'll sing yet we're not but but I felt like a certain commitment was coming to a close last night a certain thing that we were busy with it brings a space of gratitude I couldn't stop last night I was thinking I just appreciate I was driving home alone very very late at night and I was thinking I have tremendous gratitude to you Schlommo to what you bring here to yeshiva what you've allowed some guys have a question I have a question and I'm into manning your your your your post what are you bringing it to other places Kish why' you go one of the last nights of yeshiva what about our bish I can't I don't know to tell you this that the world has plugged in to you to to our journey the world when people are begging can I get in I'm not kicking guys out of here these doors are open and the doors are open means that we greet that we go out cuz they're in the base medish we're going to places of people it's interesting songs we sing here two years ago taugh a year and a half ago nobody knew it today he can't sing ashu he starts the song hundreds of people are joining him they're they're listening to the music but much deeper to the journey of here to the honesty of here. Ara Miller's journey I promised Claudius by [applause] hundreds of thousands. Your story is hundreds of thousands of yen. It's just true. I see it. I go out there. They're plugged into your story. Whether they know your name or not, heaven knows your name that Gabe taught us. >> Whether they know whether they know your name or not. >> Our people have tuned in here. Our people have tuned in here in a very very big way. And what here is is a space of honesty, a space of struggle, a space where you don't just have to perform. You could actually ask what's hitting me. It's changing my life. A space where just much more there's a certain honesty, presentness, realness that promotes connection and people being people [snorts] could be here. People mameish could be here. So I feel I feel the world's plugged in here. I feel our responsibilities to go and greet and meet otherwise you're shutting the bish doors. This is the opposite. There was a base medish the garra speaks about that there were reasons there was a guard at the door didn't let people in. Our base medish doors are open to the point that that's our way. We have traveled a lot of miles just to open. I'm just opening the doors of the bes. That's all I'm trying to do to open the doors. I have asked the guys who dab in at the early minion. I don't know I'm right. I'm afraid to say it. One should try to make your leav much later, but one should try to make I ask our minion in the morning that we have a hardy bunch that come and we try to make. I ask that we stand at the door and the people at hold the doors open and the rest of the prayers I've I asked the should be the man because the doors were not letting the door shut the because there's a minion here that davisman that represents all yeshiva and each prayer throughout the day was standing by that minion stands by the door and doesn't let it close the doors are open and I want to express that the B medish doors here are open and the world is listening if you don't know it when guys come different guys have come on I remember when I leo came on his first came on his first trip with Schlommanoi he couldn't believe what he was saying people are crying they're listening into you Tazel Burl he couldn't believe it if you haven't if you didn't if the people yo came to Queens last night he saw what I'm talking about beach came to Queens last night. People who have come, they see like a world that's tuned into something. What they're tuned in is to a world of honesty, a world of friendship. Michilliantly expressed that with the honesty of Durham, what it does is it allows for friendship where I'm pretending and hiding and being who I'm not and just saying the right things. The cost is relationship to myself and connection to others. At the space where I'm honest, where I'm sharing, I have gotten extremely close to Akiva Gug and I we are close friends because we have shared honesty [applause] with each other. I want to I want to at this at this time of of leaving that we're talking about gratitude. So Czecha Gertzburg his father is here. I want to express that one of the beautiful souls in this place. Well, check. He's working his head off for a couple of weeks out right outside building something beautiful. Is he in here right now? >> He's outside. Okay. He doesn't have to hear it. I'm not I'm not saying it to flatter. I want to say in truth to the guys in here. >> I want to express that what she has brought to the yeshiva an honest person, a growthful person, a person who has room for other people and respects people deeply. deeply. He's brought something incredible here to yeshiva. I appreciate him a lot. What he's built worlds he's building now. He's built he's built a lot more than what he's bu just physical structure that bez shall be beautiful. Their lives that have built with him and through him. His kindness, his concern. What that guy will do in a second for another year is wild. He'll drive. He'll drive seven hours in a second. It's good for somebody. and help somebody. He's an incredibly kind and caring person and I'm appreciative. I'm appreciative to Tata for being here today and for the son that you sent here and raised. I'm very appreciative. CHECKERS [applause] [applause] >> [applause] [applause] >> I want to say that I've asked I've always sensed things I've learned from the guys I from my children. I've always sensed it to be true but I couldn't put words to it. But I I had a gut that there was truth in the world. Hashem made a world that he calls good. I knew there had to be truth. And I want to express that I've always been bothered at the end of a year when you ask a guy, "How was your year?" And a guy says, "It could have been better." There's something remarkably dumb about that. How was your year? Could have been better. There's something remarkably silly about it. Like, and I always sensed it, but I couldn't put words to it. Now, could have been better is just saying I'm a human. I'm also human. Nice to meet you. >> Could have been better is a remarkably shallow and I could have told you before the year. Could have. It's after a year. Could have been. You're just saying nothing. You're saying I'm human. I'm a human also. Oh, nice to meet you. So, you're saying I'm a human. Yeah. I'm not an angel per you're not. You haven't said zero. But I've learned that the guy and I wonder a person who thinks like that. He's not plugged into reality. When I think when I'm sitting here very much feeling from last night in the end of a journey and I'm feeling gratitude, it's not like if somebody it could have been better that we could have done I'm just thinking then there what are you talk I don't know what you're talking about. By the way before I start next year before I begin something it's a good conversation. what can we do better in the ending that you you're not saying anything you're not you you haven't said anything you're not you're not present to the moment what I started is it's not just against the Tyra and the world are one and the same a is rebelling against reality you're not present to an ending like it could have been better you haven't told me there's no there's nothing you're present into so you're just saying I'm disconnected in a space of present to reality be it what will happen what emerges from the space of ending is the appreciation of what I had is there is there thoughts I'm not like gaslighting a thought why I could have done better that's allowed to be that thought >> right >> that thought could be but what even what that thought go deeper so you're saying it was very Nice like I wish I had more. So you're saying is your mom should appreciate what you have. That's an energy. That's a very big presentness at the conclusion of something guys have asked me by the have asked me I want to be present at my wedding. Our guys want to be grounded. I don't want to find my and it's hard to be present. There's a lot of noise. The guys who are most present are thanking their parents because your mom is leaving and building something. I think a guy I've been in many a room before the a guy is crying and he thanks Tat and mama that's the most present guy in the the most present in the world. Himish knows that he's walking to Bas. He's mameish leaving his home. When the parents walk down the aisle is the craziest walk in the world. The craziest walk. If you're shallow you say they're walking down the aisle nice songs or what song should it? It's the craziest walk a kid is leaving home. It's nothing to do with the crowd there. If nobody's there, when the father's on one side and the mother's on the other side is the craziest thing in the world. The parents raise this child. Their every thought was on the hopes of this child. Most are about our children. Most of our prayers we're thinking Hashem please and we're dabbing for the needs of our children. Understand when a father on one side a walking the child down it's not a ceremony. It's not like oh that's so it's there's the most profound our is true yiddish kite's true. We're not some like we're not a museum of something when the parents are walking down the kid down the aisle is crazy. They're saying goodbye. Why they do it in public, I have no idea. They're walking their kids and bringing him to the bringing her to the Ka. And they're saying here and they're saying they're partying. Mameish. They're walking down their final walk. They're still parents. They'll still be close, but the kids really leaving home. Mameish. Mameish. It's crazy. I remember the first time bringing my kids to the airport. the first time I like bringing my kids there but I'm picking them up when my kid goes the first time to throw there's a certain change it's not like marriage but there's a degree the certain part of the is ending I promise you I fall on the bench I can't get home my wife knows I I walk I wait till I can't see them anymore I wait and try to find them a little longer and then I collapse on some bench in an airport I can't move there's a certain state a certain a certain job is ending and there's it's a crazy space and a lot of thoughts come in. The main the main basis of the thoughts are a lot of gratitude for opportunity [laughter] for the kindness of Hashem of giving us nama for the opportunities. The main thoughts there are allowed to be regrets and that's normal. don't push you any thoughts but there's there's a moment of the main dominant thoughts will always be gratitude will be appreci you're in that space not say thank you it's not what you're thinking gratitude for your child gratitude for the journey gratitude for the challenges that's the main space you'll have regrets also that's normal we're human but that's and when you walk down the aisle it's like a real you're watching a story if you're quiet. If you want to just space out, talk and that's it. You can miss the story. There's something mishuga. I go to more weddings than most people. The walking down the aisle is freaky. [snorts] It's freaky. You're seeing parents. This was their dream. This is their hopes. This is everything. And they're walking down the aisle handing their child over to a spouse is is is holy. Is absorb it. Sit there. Think your own story. Watch the story. Don't be a rock. Watch the story. Don't talk. Watch the story. Be present to a story. People are walking their child down. That's been a long journey and they're handing over. >> I'm going to ask Schlommo. I want Schlommo to come up. I'm going to ask Schlommo specifically. There's there's many songs that we can share together and do together today. I I find it fascinating the song Ashienu that he gave to the world. I want to express I want to express that my son my son once my son Jacob once spoke about this in this song we say make our days like old now we're not people you know I don't like celebrating what was we're present people the best is here the best is yet to come whenever we speak about Hashem is called sham we don't mean what was we mean what is we don't speak about what was we're talking about what were Shia what happened here friendship honesty growth is what we have not what we had it's present it remains I want to get back to kadmos to the states that I'm shu that I'm really I'm connected to I want to ask to sing it should sing with you alone I think just let everybody jump in should just sing >> last Tonight I announced last night at this gathering I announced the Josh Schlommo. I like that people don't accept my distruths. I announced Schlommo and Gabe will be singing alone. The second time everybody could join in about five seconds in the whole place with like his slav was singing. People like Kaish you have all your nice plans. We're singing along. So I was like, how how many seconds into >> Not even >> did he not even >> I was [snorts] miss Say duh. >> We didn't want to break this down. >> Thank you for being there. Last plan for being here today. >> Big BG. Where's Aaron? Schlommo wants Aaron to come join on the drums. [applause] Good. You're welcome. He has like special >> [music] >> I tried [music] to play. [singing] [music] Oh [music] my in [singing] [music] living a show. [singing] [music] [singing] Your [music] >> [music] >> Yeah. are Baby, [singing] [music] we are Never [singing] [music] [singing] show. [music] I show [singing] [music] you. [singing] [music] [singing] Yes, he's right outside [music] [singing] [music] [music] your [singing] [music] [singing] >> [music] [singing] >> is [music] what is your [singing] [music] In [music and singing] our show, I show [singing] [music] I show [music] [singing] You [music] [singing] [music and singing] might as your man [music] is your man. >> [singing] [music] >> I is [singing] your man. [music] God is your man. [music and singing] Living [music] a [singing] show just living a [singing] show. [music] Living a show. [singing] Yeah. [applause] >> I want I want to ask Schlommo to play us a song that I want to speak about for a few minutes and it's a song that Schlommo just recently taught in the yeshiva and the world will yet learn a song from from Zusha. But I want to talk about this song. We we've come recently we've come from the beautiful yant of shuis this bmed medish was on fire night and clas said something that I want to talk about two words Judah but I want to like I want to give meaning I want to explain these two words Jamie two words said it is I want to talk about those two words we could spend years on just the word nasa and we could spend years on the word nishma. I'd like to express how I hear nasam and nishma. What we said, they're profound words. They're words that gave us two crowns. Each one is saying something. If I had to say there's a dialogue between our parents and children, this is the yeshiva that wants parents close to children and children close to parents. If I had explained the dialogue in all different versions of this, I would frame it. That last d is saying nasa and this d is saying nishma. And we need the two dyus to connect. And I'd like to express it as follows. Please in an honest way, do you hear this as a conversation? If the last jet hundred years of our people could speak, I think they can and they are speaking. And it's a powerful NASA. And today's d I hear a powerful nishma. Allow me to explain. NASA is is the following statement we're saying to Hashem. Hashem, I have learned that you care about me. You have proved in my own life. I feel your love. I feel your presence and I trust you. We've all had people in our lives that we've come to trust. Could Hashem it's parents? It's a rebi. It's a friend. I trust you. I see you care about my goodness. Claudius says to Hashem, "Nasa, I so trust you deeply and profoundly. You told me a set of laws that's for my benefit. NASA, I'm doing it. If I feel zero, I believe what you say, Hashem. If I put on fill in and it's boring to me, it's disconnected. I don't even see what I get from it. But I have learned, Hashem, from my life, from my experiences with you. What you tell me is for my goodness and mitzvah are for our own benefit. God is not asking for him. He does ask one thing for him. We'll talk about that later. God asks for us. And means even when I feel nothing, I'm in. I'm in. I'll do what you say because I trust you because our fathers trusted you. You taught them. NASA means and 100 years of our people said to Hashem much more but the last 100 years were a powerful declaration. NASA you say Hashem you say this is good. You say this is right. You say this important nasa I'll do it. That's very powerful declaration. Many many yidden have said this in powerful ways. Nasa I'm in Hashem. You have asked me. You have been mit when I don't understand anything. When I'm like I don't get it. I don't feel it. It doesn't seem to be magical to me. But nasa you have commanded me. I'm in. I'll do what you say and I'll plug in because you say it's true. NASA powerful, strong, a trust, a faith in Hashem, a faith that belongs to our people. Tumas, the tuma means the faith, theos, the faithfulness of the straight ones, which is it guides us. Hashem, we have trust in you. I don't understand why you ask me to put on sitsus, but I have faith. I don't know why you ask this and the next thing, but I have faith. Nasa, I'm going to do it even when I don't understand, even when it's not magical to me. That is powerful. But there's a second said, and nishma means I want to understand. I want to relate. I want to connect. I don't want to be a robot to your mitzvah, nishma. I want it to resonate. I want my pinky. I want my arms. I want to get goosebumps when I do your mitzvah. I want to like feel it. I don't want to be a guy who sits at a pes and just says ver. I want to be at the sed and I'm full of gratitude to you. I'm full of a sensei. I'll keep Shabasa, but I shabas. I crave the sweetness of Shabas. I want to have goosebumps. I want to be shabas and like wait all week cuz I feel shabas in my bones. That is nishma. Nishma means I want to understand. I want to connect. I want to relate. I want it to be beautiful for me. Nishma. You gave me mitzvah. You don't want me just to be a robot and I'll be a robot NASA but nishma I'm I want and I know you want this from me. We understood nishma and we said nishma and we're we were given tremendous people think nas I'll do nishma and then I'll find out what to do. It's not what we're saying to do. You have to know what to do. NASA means whether even if I don't perceive and don't understand and don't connect I'm going to do nishma is though I want what you're telling me to be magical to me I want to marry what you're saying I want to be a fire I want to connect to mitzvah that I'm like a guy possessed I'm excited I have chaos nishma it means the world to me like this is this is my life nishma That's what Clus said nasa. I hear generations saying nasa and I hear today's d is a call of nishma. Now we have to teach the nishmas that you're born from nasa. Your roots the milk you drank from the mama were roots in nasa nasaishma. But I hear the conversation the two dyus many forms of this. The Tata and Mama are saying as of their child NASA and the child is saying of the Tat and Mama Nishma together is I think this is what it says Msiah times. The heart of the parents is going to bring the children close and the children are going to bring the parents close. The parents nasa that stubborn tenacity of this is what we do to the child's want to connect and relate is each one's going to bring taught us a song prayer as everything's in his heart is the heart of the people and their words praise to God he says says, "I beg you, Hashem. Give me a tam, a taste. I want to be I want to be electrified by mitzvah. I want to feel it. I want like a like ice cream's delicious that I want to mean something to measion reality. I want to be present." But you know why? Because I have amun in mitzvah. When I feel nothing, I'm confident. I when you ate lunch, you didn't tell your body where to put all the nutrients and everything. Our bodies work. Hashem made us. And I'm confident. I ate matzah. I put on film. I have no idea what I did for my soul, what I did for, but I have faith in I have you. Hashem. The marriage of these two things. the is the but the I want it to be magical to me. I want to connect to it. And when we have those two together, we express we say the of your mouth is better to me than all the gold and silver in the world. I love your I want your and these two aspects the which is to the to the prayer. I love that David switched to order. When we said it, we said but David forever speaking to the heart of the people is talking to our and David who understood us. He says, "It's our generation begging, give me a hashem, I want to connect, but we have to remember we're born from place of Gabe, could you come up with you know the tambas? Come right next to What you say? >> Where's Yehuda? Sh. You come. >> What? >> Where's Ysef? Warm. Joe Warm. Come. Come. We need you. We want you. Please come. 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Well, are you're not connected emotionally. You're not always connected to what you're saying. When somebody says something from the deepest spaces of their essence, this is who they are. It's what they're about. The words are very powerful. He said, "The stones that the builders disgust in, the stone that the builders just throw it away like We're all watching Czecha do construction outside right here. So picture builders constructors and they [music] look at a certain stone and they're nothing to do with this one and they toss the stone. The stone that the builders Evan is the stone is to disgust. AJ the stone that he's disgusted in the builders say this is useless. His solar pina it becomes the cornerstone. It ends up being the most important stone in the whole construction. It's the weirdest thing. You have to ask builders why would such a thing be. The stone that a builder would say I can't use this useless ends up being the cornerstone of the whole structure. The whole building only works with that stone. Now what is that? Why is that? David Amelik that is is describing his own journey. David Amelik had seven brothers who were big guns. David Amelik was thought to be a mamzer. David Amelik was the rejected one. He grew up was thought to be the outcast, the mamzer. When his family sang mirus in one room, David Amelik ate privately in a different space, lonely, disconnected. And he said he said the stone that is rejected becomes the cornerstone. David Msiah comes from David Melik. It's a truth of our people in wild number of sadikim. Crazy numbers of went through difficult use. It's uncanny. [snorts] The numbers are so extreme. It's weird. The Svas who is like a staple of this yeshiva a rebi rashiva of our holy yeshiva theas was raised by his grandfather that's wild he didn't experience father the love of a father a mother he was raised by his a wild number of an incredible number had difficult youths there's a sashem made in the world it doesn't mean somebody had a good youth is written off. It doesn't mean that. But there's some experience in the world that this is what happens. The stone that was rejected becomes the cornerstone. Why is that? What is that? One could say I do not have a monopoly. [snorts] I'm shot. My suspicion is that for anything great to be, there must be humility. There must be bit. When people are full of themselves, I don't think it could build godliness on that. I think it's a contradiction to construction. I see people [clears throat] in around that people are all about themselves. They're all we all care about ourselves, but there's a place of vital give it up. Let go a little bit. I've watched I'm speaking about Schlommo today. I've watched the way he goes around. Not about self. Of course, we want to sound good. We want to be present but the way he shares and gives it up and there's an aid of such there's a task of such to ask to let my soul to to give it up to let go a bit I think when there's arrogance you can't have a lot of construction construction happens where there's godliness where people are very selfish and full of their own ga their own it doesn't work you don't have construction and I tend to Wonder the stone that was rejected is is prepared properly. It doesn't have Ga. I have been asked by people on he had a tough youth. He went to therapy. And I say, you don't understand. He's humble. Your daughter is going to be lucky. If there are challenges, he's going to ask for help. He's he's humble. He's not full of himself. There'll actually be room for your daughter. There'll be room to say, "I'm sorry." There'll be room to figure things out. The stone that was rejected in youth >> is perfectly prepared because it's humble because it gets that it's not it doesn't have the arrogance peanut becomes the cornerstone becomes the central stone of construction I want to figure out I have to speak to check building it's using a mushel the nimshell makes sense I don't know the story in construction I would suspect when they're building and they throw away the stone it doesn't become the cornerstone. So I get the nshall what's the it's saying that there's a certain stone that you would say gh and you end up needing it. I tend to wonder and I've seen maybe this is just crazy me in construction you have neat neat neat and at the end you always need something sloppy. It seems to me you always need one piece like the everything's like orderly but nothing happens exact. And when you construct, you want it all to be perfect. There needs to be a piece that like holds this all together cuz the ground wasn't so settled in every construction. So there ends up needing a piece that's not the most orderly, that's not so rigid, that's a little funny. I know in my own construction projects, which are far and few in between, that you need the disorganized piece. I know in constructing institutions you always want I had a meeting for an hour this morning discussing systems but always deeper than systems you need an unorganized piece you need something a little messy that can handle it becomes the cornerstone because real life is not so neat there's always an unsettling and so the stone that the constructor say whoa this one's not neat solar pina becomes the stone that allows for the entire construction and I see on it people who've been through it might be some people reject it it ends up they're the cornerstones of because they have humility they have a sense of they they have a certain sense to work to figure out to ask they have a sense of not about self and it allows for beautiful construction so I wanted I thought it's appropriate that Schlommo sang us that gorgeous Kasuk. I want to express to everybody here tremendous appreciation for coming today for being a part of of a beautiful holy space. Tremendously appreciate each person that's part. I want to end this end this this month with gratitude to Hashem. What you've put together here, what you are the space of we talk about making space, you are malum. What you've made space for here, what's been put together, only the great creator could have put this together. It's highly improbable. It's unlikely. It's improbable. It's like a crazy story. are being together and for each person coming Yanka from Pittsburgh, Joe from Muny each one Morty from Brooklyn, Beach from five towns, Gabri from Israel, Lei from England, from Manchester, Nahi from Florida, Ben from Philadelphia, Yehuda from Toronto. Each one of us like it doesn't make sense, but the great creator put us together. Each one ar from Queens from New Jersey. Each one of us brought together from different worlds. I'm Rammy from Detroit. From different worlds from the deserts of Israel. Hashem has put together something beautiful. And we appreciate I appreciate we appreciate our opportunity here. I expressed I expressed to Hashem a prayer for the future. the same care you've given all of us to give us this experience continue to be with us please Hashem we want to continue to grow and develop I'm going to ask the guys it is now 5:05 at 5:45 in 40 minutes there'll be a gathering I'm asking every [clears throat] single 12th and 13th grader to please be there I we need to speak that will [music] take what' you say >> while the guys are leaving >> I'm talking guys leaving >> what about the 11th grader What? >> Anybody who's part of the graduation, anybody part of the graduation, and I promise an 11th or 10th grader won't get kicked out [music] or a dorm counselor, but if you're part of the graduation, please make sure to be there at 5:45. >> [music] >> We're going to hold [music] on. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] >> [music] >> Where the fear? [music] [singing]