Impossible?? Or Simple??

Oh yeah. >> I want to I want to share a question with the that's bothered that's that's bothered me for many years a really good >> Ari share a question that's bothered me for many years and this year based on the sh of revisler based on things he taught us this summer like like something something hit me and resonated by me. I I want to share this with the in paran it's actually a double par this week but very short the laning both paras are extremely short par so even together is still shorter than many many paras but initim it's also it's also very very it's a beautiful para nitim is mishainu's last day of his life and mish Raenu's final conversations with us. Abaka yesterday was complaining to me about Kylum books that he was a big avid reader of books about kadum and he described his own journey. Gandylm books are complex in the car they were talking about gadylum books they're complex because it doesn't for I'm not even saying it's wrong. It doesn't always talk about the challenges of the great person. So they were born brilliant and are so amazing. So is is there hope to me? Could I what's the inspiration? I don't want to imitate them, but I want my own journey. So good books are complex. I'm not saying they should write the challenges. I happen to like I happen to get from Gdan books. But it's important to know these were human beings who faced human dilemma. They were human. They also were very very very very big people. And that's of >> that's inspirational to us. That's very inspirational to us. Reading about it sadic is reading about ourselves. What's in us? What we're sh to do. We're shy to very big things. To me, one of the the best part of Gdylan books to me one person. Maybe the most intriguing and like wow. There's something about it is the day of their death. And I've read in many of the GDA books I read, you know, I don't know if you're supposed to do this in a book. at us to skip to like the dramatic part, but I like I like reading the day of their death as something very exalted, very elevated the day of their death. Nitsavim is the parish of the day of Mish Rabenu's death and it's like his last message is you can imagine it's it's it's an important thing. What's the message of somebody upon their departing? Now, it's an interesting discussion. Haven't they told you? They waited till the last day to say it. It's an interesting discussion. I could My father the week my father the day of his departure really was the week of his departure and my family was with him the last week of consciousness. It was a very like lifechanging elevating very special place. sad and but very very special very elevated and parish is goodbye to so I think in a certain way things take like a heightened meaning meaning that my this is what he wanted us to part with and say one of his last messages of his life is arvos [clears throat] is y you're responsible for each other >> wow >> I find that cool that sometimes people look like the reby's job is that his job is to care. I've been asking like guys to take responsibility. If you're comfortable here, help the next guy get comfortable. I don't look at that as reserved like that's a a job. People will say I'm just a bach here. I'm not no person. It's interesting that Mishraenu our rebi who clearly assumed responsibility for Clausro. His party message, one of the party messages is assume responsibility for each other to each other >> only says to learn Torah >> only teach only >> million teachers everybody's teaching >> that the is share but here here's final message one of his final messages is be responsible for each Look out for each other each one. Look out for the next guy. That that's one of Mishraenu's party messages. Interesting. Revulba wrote a letter to his family upon his party and also said to his kids, look after each other. He copied Mishra Rabenu. I would picture anybody who cares about their children that would be a parting message like take care of each other. And Ma Rabenu said to Amisel, be there for each other. I had this sense, Ellie, when we face the more anti-semitism we face out there, I have a sense, let's be good to each other. Let's take care of each other. Let's be really nice to each other. It's It's not so easy out there. Let's Can we be good to each other? Can we be safe by each other? Can we I had that sense when we all had that picture of the hostages, of the Yid in unsafe places, in places that didn't like him, that it was just dangerous. I had that sense. Let's make our places more safer. Here ID safe here's loved here. Your mam with you're safe to mess up. You're safe not to be perfect. You're safe just to be you. So can we make a butu's parting messages was take care of each other. Responsibility look after just that's one of my parting messages. What I want to share the question Azi I want to share with the Israel is the following on the day of his death says to this mitzvah Rashi says it refers to to this that I am commanding you today that Hashem is commanding us today it's not far from you and it's not very distant It's not in the heavens that you should say who's going to go up there and get and I'll be able to comprehend it and relate to it and ultimately I'll do it. I can't it's it's it's too distant says it's not don't say this that it's so far away and I can't relate it's not across the ocean that you should say who's supposed to get it for me and I could like comprehend it and relate to it and I'll do it rather either it's very close to you in your mouth and your heart to do it. So what bothers me for years I'm not asking last year's cash I'm bothered again when you learn theseim and when I read these and I sat down to learn what bothers me a lot is it doesn't make sense to talk this way you don't say I used this mush before I'm not trying to ask glasses cash if I'm looking past ari at the window at the outside >> the giant >> and I see something I'm looking outside and I say, "Is that an ant? It's a unique ant." Oh, no, no, no. It's not an ant. It's a bear. Kaish, are you are you okay? Why did you first see an ant? And then you saw a bear. What's happening with you? What What's Is that an ant? No, it's a bear. If I say, "Is that a dog?" "No, it's a wolf." Okay, close. I could hear the mixup. Is that an ant? No, it's a bear. What's Kaya? Are you okay, Kish? You seeing things? Why would you think it's an ant? And it turned out to be a bear. There's a line. Arie says he's curious. What's that outside? Just a swing of pergul. [laughter] >> But whenever whenever there's a line in the there's a line, what did you think initially and what did you later think? >> Love it. You don't. It's a very weird statement about it's not impossible, unreachable that you would say who could get it. Rather, it's easy. >> What would you think that it does? That statement doesn't make sense that there was a thought Tyrus completely murder. If you would say, Ezra, it's not murder with hard work. One can get it. That would make sense to me. It's not murder. It's just hard. It's not impossible. I know it's hard. You could hear such a thing. Somebody says on on medical school, it's not impossible. It's doable. I know it's hard. That's an to say don't think medical school's impossible, unattainable. You can never do it. Rather, it's like simple. That's a weird statement. If it's so simple, why would I think it's murder? The statement is weird. Asel. If if if there's a havamine that's murder you could either say by the way it's not even a little hard don't think it's even slightly difficult rather it's easy that out here somebody might think it's a little bit hard don't say ty is a little hard it's mish nothing coming but to say don't say it's impossible rather it's easy what's happening that I would think it's impossible like it's not a way of talking. Is it an ant there? No, it's a bear. What? What? What are you seeing? What are you looking at? You'd all look back and say, "What confused you so that at first you thought it was a tiny hand?" It's just not a way things work that you think it's tiny and it's really huge. You think it's Is that a monster? Is that a Is that an elephant? Oh my gosh. What? Oh, I'm sorry guys. It was just an ant like out of the Huh? Kish, what were you seeing at first that you were speculating it might be an elephant? That would be like more the exact analogy. If I look past Ari, oh my goodness, I never saw something big in my life. Oh, I'm sorry guys. Just an ant. Why did you think it was an elephant? What happened? What were you looking at? That's literally the sukim here. It's not impossible. Well, it's not in the heavens unreachable that you'd even say who's ever going to access that to me. Rather, it's very it's easy. What are you looking at that you're so confused? Ellie, you know what I'm asking? Hashem says in paren the last day of his life, he says about that it's not bashim. It's not in the heavens and unattainable. Tyra is not there's some there's like a thought that Tyra is in the heavens and you'll say who's going to get that for us. Who can go there and bring it to us the and make me understand it and I'll it's impossible says it's not true. It's easy. It's not up there and unattainable and unreachable and uncomprehensible. Rather, it's very simple. If it was so simple, then I'll find out it's simple. Like what? Clearly, there was some thought like it says here. So, what happened? What's going on that I think it's impossible? Rather, it's simple. What's happening? What is it discussing? What is it describing in Talmud? and what are we I'm I don't like pretend Ezra I really want to study Hashem's words I don't want to like don't trust me on the cash to me it's a weird thing to say >> that was the hashem says rashi says referring to it's not in the heavens that you should say who could get it who can go to the heavens and get it for me and I'll understand it and do it. It's not that way. Rather, it's very simple. >> It's more they're like scared of the angle like when they thought you died and then they immediately ran to find something. >> So much is worried about this weird >> be scared. Don't go into worry and and go. >> So So Dubby I like what Duby says. Dobby says that there's a there's a thought that people can go into panic mode, but won't they see quickly as easy? >> Well, did they see they didn't see quickly after emotionally didn't come back? says always like Dovey says things people start there's the tendency to make it it's impossible I'm asking what is that even that I'm going to explain Dy because the simple thing is if it's simple we'll say it's simple then you don't have to address this >> in as but he's addressing something don't say it's unattainable rather it's easy >> why would I say it's unattainable if it's easy if if if by the way I'm not looking to make trouble if mishabain would Hey, don't say it's hard. Rather, it's easy. I have no problem. It's not even hard. You might say it must be a little bit hard. No, it's simple. That makes sense. The way of talking. I want to share something. It's going to be easy. Don't don't worry. It's not going to be hard to say. It's not impossible, but it's easy. Like, yes. >> Talking about learning it or doing the mitzvah. >> I'm open to anything. It could look like it's unlimited mitzvah and that's really hard to do. And he's like, God just wants you to do what he could. But >> a lot easier. >> I don't think here is not saying not to because he's talking about all of Tyra and he's saying the entirety of Tyra is I don't think it's saying don't worry you don't have to do it all. He's saying about Tyra, don't say it's impossible rather it's so what happened >> yeah like it's a weird way of talking like that's that's a big shift from impossible to easy the but he said don't say this there was a thought it is he says it's not in the heavens that you would say it's unattainable so there was such a thought he had to address that that's a weird thing to address that it might have been a thought. It's unattainable, impossible, but rather it's easy. What were you looking at? It's the same thing >> that what >> they said we're not going to ever sin. We're going to do exactly what it says. That's the whole idea. But don't think it's like saying that it's unattainable for human being to do everything and to fully never sin. But it's close to you that it is attainable. You could you do your best. Then don't say it's easy. Say then just say don't say it's like close to you. Say if it said it's not impossible rather one could do it. It's a lot of diligence. This won't be easy. Then I also hear there's a thought that it's impossible. You're asking so much impossible. >> Masan it's not impossible. One can do it a lot. It doesn't do that. It's not impossible. Rather it's easy. >> That's like that's like a funny thing. And as much as it looked brutally hard, sensei, it's not impossible. Rather, it's doable. As a forced question, what you like? This question troubles me. I don't think there's a normal thing to happen to say something's not imp. It's not impossible. Rather, it's easy. >> Ellie, you have the question I'm asking. >> So, I want to talk about something that Rebesler taught us this summer. I've spoken about it already this month because it resonated a lot by me. It like meant something to me and I want to share this with the and when Geisler said this, it very much made me while he was saying it in real time. I was I thought about par. >> Yeah. Wally was saying I'll I'll I'll tell you what he said that made me think of >> we're talking about am I impossible or easy? Can I ask you a question? Are people selfish or caring? Wait, what? >> Have Gler asked this this summer. He said, "Are people selfish or giving?" Have all of us I I can't I'm not going to speak for you. There are times in my life you look around say everybody's selfish. Every there times like similar to David Ael said, "Everybody's a liar." There are times in my life you say everybody's so even the nice guyy's selfish. He's just trying to be liked. But everybody's out for themselves. Is there have have anybody felt that energy in their life? A sense that everybody's just out for themselves, >> Ellie, you've ever had a moment of that sense? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I'm going to admit I'm going to admit this guy. I'm not saying you're experienc I'm not saying you have to have this experience. I'm saying that I have an experience in my life. I've heard people. Has anybody heard people say this? Everybody just doubting themselves. >> Now, there's another thought. is an amazing world of giving. What's the truth? It's funny if Gisler pointed this out that people look at the world and some can conclude what a selfish place. Somebody else can conclude there's a lot of kindness. That's weird. He pointed this out. So weird you could look at this world and see selfish and see kind. What's the truth? Well, I can tell you >> but but you could see in general that the prevalent thing is selfishness where you could say it's just so much gisler asked this cash like sim when he asked it I thought about nit it's not impossible it's easy he said what are we looking at a world and some can draw the conclusion everybody's selfish and somebody so much kindness here which is true so this is what Riser said and I I thought it resonated as a truth We have Gisler said about Tyra that when we study something in Tyra, we're studying our deep space. We're studying our soul and a space that we're shy to. That's what we're studying in Tyra. He quoted a book of the told of the story of man. It's our story. It's us itself. It's us. We're we're we're learning our deep spaces. So as follows, I was watching this summer. I was watching this summer our guys come back as married. A lot of marries pop come into Sulam and I like seeing our guys. I'm going to watch in a short while. I'm going to watch Ahri like running after his children and run these cute. They'll they'll be sweet like the father. The whole world will be lucky. I was describing Ari what he brings to like a weekend to hoodie last night. I was describing to Ari. I said I want to describe because he had told me things about Ari. So I was validating and agreeing to what he told me. But Ari, I watch guys in the summer run after their kids and I appreciate it a lot. Every single guy Hashem is going to become a husband and a father and you access space. It's crazy to be a parent. My wife worked with guy for eight years. They would tell good people, nice people. They would express Rachel, we don't want kids. Kids, you gotta be You're crazy. They would say to Rachel, to my wife, we don't want kids. To Rachel, we don't want kids. We're selfish. They were nice people. You're a kid. You're going to wake up middle of the night to give up highlights like you're crazy. You're crazy. The tension, the energy, the efforts for a child is nuts. And I want to express that having a child helps us access spaces. We have an is that wants to give that's born to give. I quoted yesterday person was created by our nature were created to give. That's the just wants to give. Feels very comfortable giving and sharing. Feels very energized giving. said Ref Geisler that the initial space you'll meet in a person is selfishness. That's the initial space you and it's okay. He said it's not a bad thing. The goal is not to break that. Hashem actually uses by the way we get married because we're selfish. It's so cool. We take care of oursel. We build our ani and then by the way we expand our ani >> only because we're selfish. >> Sure. That's a good thing. We care about self. That's great. And then we expand our ani. We find deeper places. I always like that the very incentive to give is money. You think you have your if you're not giving you're like cut off from so much of yourself that wants to share that wants to give. Rev. Geisler expressed that a person finds the deeper place inside of themselves and we have to access it not through trucking any part of ourselves. It's not by way of our story, by way of analyzing and figuring out, we find deeper places in oursel. >> So I wanted to express Rav Geyser said that's how it's possible. The way I understood it, that's how it's possible. People could look at this world and say what a selfish place because the starting point the gimm the bodies of us at the starting point was not a bad thing is we're selfish at our starting point at our initial space. We're very selfish. Think about anybody dating is not thinking about giving to her. He wants to find he's lonely. He wants companionship. He wants to find a spa spouse. A guy's not like dating thinking hey I hope I could be good to her. It's not what he's thinking about himself. And then all of a sudden he become >> no geyser wasn't going that way. He was like very happy that we're human and Hashem built us right and the person wants thinking about themselves but then along the way of marriage they access a deeper place all of a sudden the guy becomes a husband and he starts like seeing I can expand then he has children it's wild somebody I don't say be easy and I don't say parts won't protest we have to work with ourselves you'll see the possibility of crazy expansion that I could be about another and care for another and take care of another you'll see inside of ourselves we have such expansion such a possibility of expansion of being bigger that's guys that describe ty if I could say it's interesting when a guy goes to a therapist with an issue the therapist validates I don't want to say a rebby doesn't validate because a rebby should validate as well but a rebby also tells you deeper spaces it's interesting If a guy says to his friend, "Have a meaningful fast." I always think, "What a lousy friend." Your job is to say, "Have an easy fast." Clalia's throw historically says to somebody else, "Have an easy fast." So green should be easy. People said, "Oh, it should be easy." You don't don't get from should have a meaningful fast. Be quiet. You're my friend. A Rebi could say to us, "Thid you should have a meaningful fast." He's accessing deeper places. There's such a thing. The Reb is teaching Tyra means teaching the deeper space. Somebody just told me this morning somebody broke him bad news and said to him and he was very upset. The guy told me I was on the swings. The guy he said you're not supposed to say Gam I'll say you you like cry with me like say some good curses like don't tell me this and this Gamula. You're playing my Rebi. Now a rebi could say there is a space for a rebi to tell you that you're when the rebi says gamua he's telling you I want to say deeper space you're capable of >> my a relative of mine when she became from very special person went to labatureba and complained that it's not easy that I'm struggling I just became from and the rebba said something at the time right away she was frustrated and later on she Like love what he said. The Reb said a yid is from. That's what a yid is. Four minutes ago. Your you look at it. My family. We were never from. So I'm like I'm like this oddball. I'm trying to be what I'm not. It's so hard. The Reb said 14 minutes ago your family was serving Hashem. When she found out her grandparents were because of the Holocaust, we lost sight. She saw pictures of her grandfather was Shid. She like felt very good and like resonated what the Reb said. The rabbi said a minute ago, "Your family was serving Hashem. That's what you didn't do. That's what we are." Said, "You look at it. This so new what I'm doing. You're just doing what we do, what we always done." Now, she at first felt very not validated. And her therapist would have said, "Oh, I'm so hard for you. Wow, it must be difficult." And the Reb was not a was not a contradiction to that. But you go to the Reb to know, do I have a deeper space? The Reb said, I want you to know now. It's not as opposed to validating. I would want my rebi to tell me my rebi is a letter say I go to him for that. The very name rebi means rav means larger. I want I want to be more. I want you to tell me I go to you for that. Your friend should comfort you in a certain way. In a certain way I'm not saying how he should say it. I want my rebi to tell me the deeper space. I just I literally was at a casta met with an old derm an old water break. I literally and he told me something and I wanted to like I wanted to like tell him a deeper space and I said I feel so badly. I really should just be comforting and he said I don't come to you. I didn't come to you for that. Himish said it. You're my friend. You're not my like I have people to validate. Now I'm not saying you shouldn't validate. Everybody deserves validation. I am saying that people also want access to deeper spaces means that I'm capable with work first feeling frustrated and upset but I could access I could go to a deep space inside me that I'm but I have to work for this it might take a week a month a year 10 years I could access a place in me that has faith runs the world but mish and like be comforted and really be in that space it's a space I'm shy Isn't that >> I'm sorry. >> It's bad. >> I hear I I I never heard that distinction. I'm I'm willing that could be says this is the I hear I he's he's two I could be I don't know I I I hear what Rabbson is saying this suga though of accessing the deeper place is what Rebesler called Tyra So I want to express all of a sudden I think I've shoten theim it says on Tyra that it's not impossible outside of how could I access that rather it's easy and we ask like what's the story why would I think it's impossible it's easy I think the answer is there's this place in us of bad you tell you I I picture telling a guy in the door about being a father you're crazy the guy literally you tell him running after my wife at work had people who say to be a parent you're nuts at a certain space you would stand in us it's like you're out of your mind that's that space you say this world's abund it's just a selfish place but we can access something deeper it takes accessing the nishama is very subtle and sensitive and but it's there and it's in us you see people you see people who engage in in in parenthood and it brings something very beautiful out the being a father. You'll see Sashe. You'll see. It's crazy. It's crazy. Picture a guy and and one day he was just take and then he becomes a parent. I've watched kids of today who are emotionally sensitive. They're like amazed. They can't believe and they like experience fatherhood. And you watch it. You watch somebody become a mother. Becoming a mother is what in her body she gives up her whole body. Raising a child. It's crazy. And she's in it's difficult. The first three months are very hard. Sometimes the whole pregnancy and the the the person physically changing becoming a mama a giver becoming about another a father like the expansion that a person fathers usually will operate a little behind mama mama's body she feels it quicker the dad slowly becoming a father becoming bigger thinking bigger guy becoming a husband first becoming a husband thinking expanding I have a wife I have somebody else I giving becoming larger. It's crazy. We say we say when a child's born. Now why is that at 13? So then the next thing should be good deeds. We say in a certain way in a certain way the level of giving is after marriage that's like the of the world I actually saw I I actually found where it is I saw in a safer I like on marriage the we always discuss in yeshiva he says where it is I saw where it is I have the safe I didn't memorize where it was this I don't know But in this safer I have on marriage he quotes that the towards a wife it's not the exact words but he says when we say love your friend it's talking about a wife all of a sudden your mom before you're married you could do nice things to another but you're dominated with self of course not a complete expansion All of a sudden the guy has a wife then children then he has children then he has children. Revesi and I have discussed the topic what a parent being there for their kids thinking about their kids the selflessness of a parent my child my child's needs my child the worrying about the child for the child and this this expansiveness of life and children is a deeper place inside of us that we could access that we mamish it's hard to believe you watch it I love watching and when we access it it's wonderful and it's energizing So Gisler described this about finding our deeper spaces finding our nish finding something that we're really shy to in this world that looks so limited. We have an unlimited the peace of God that's unlimited that's out of this world in a world that looks so selfish with to be selfless. So that's what I want to express this mask. There's a because there's a place we're in when we're in our body and in that perspective where we say there's impossible. It's like what it's not it's not doable from this vantage point. It's not doable. How am I accessing that? No, it's impossible from the vantage from the starting point of g from the starting point of selfishness of bad of physical of what I want. It should look impossible to and hashem has to say it's might it's close to you. It's in you. You have it already. You're built for this. It's not something outside of you. You're built for this. It's in you. You're to this. It's in you. Now you have to find that space. I'm not and we have to access it through experiences finding that deeper space. It's I've heard from Revary Weiss different times describe to guys like why don't you see he's somebody in our world who's an incredible giver. The generosity is mind-blowing. He describes to guys like don't you see how much fun it is, how positive, how energizing it is to give. He's describing having touched and experienced deeper spaces that he's found deeper spaces. And when I give, I'm like born for this. This feels right. This gives energy. I was meant for this. That's accessing a deeper space. And when you access that deeper space, it's close to you. This is in your mouth and your heart to do it. Somebody asked me a cash last night that I liked a lot. Somebody had an observation and I I this I I'm not positive. Somebody asked me last night that in the we say don't let's not in the heavens that you should say lamer that would move somebody to say who's going to go up to heavens and bring it to me and I'll be able to hear it. Who's going to access that? I could say neshma means I relate to this. I love this. It resonates by me. Who's going to access that? I should resonate vin and I'll do it. I want to point out that the thought that it's impossible is not that I can't do it. There's my own har the is not that it's impossible. Doesn't say it doesn't say who's going to go to heavens. I could do it. You could do tyra but I'll always be a robot. I think many of us have this havina. You know the rebian like younger says isn't this gishmach? I always had that I one day also could be a robot and say that could I ever be that I could I could okay one day I'll grind it out and I'll also be robotic. I'll also grind it out. But what what the havamina is is could I ever be that? Could I ever could I ever like flow in that and I'll just love this. That's what mamish the words are. I love the words. It doesn't say it's not in heavens that who will bring it to me and I could do it because that I could do it. I I could do it. I could just fight and just be miserable and do it. Theina is who's going to go to the heavens and bring it to me the and I'll like hear it. It will resonate by me and I'll do it that I don't know if I'll ever this will never be magical to me. It will never be flowing. Maybe one day I'll like flip out. I'll just after I have after I had enough fun. Somebody once told me, somebody like accuse the yeshiva that I get your yeshiva. Let guys party like crazy and then they get that out of the system. Okay, I partied enough now. I'm now like you pay them off enough parties then I'll do I'm partied out now. I'll do I got it out of my system. Yehuda that getting it out of the system. I promise we're not that's not the No, that you don't understand the yeshiva. No, that's not the goal. The guy partied enough that he's like so partied out. Okay. So now I y now now I lock in. Not at all. I actually think when somebody understands in the space they actually find that that that wasn't me in the look. They they didn't like finish with that cuz I'm partied out now. I'll lock in. Okay. I got enough. That didn't work for me. It didn't energize me. It didn't answer what I was looking for. And I want the That's a good question. That's fair. Maybe that's fair. Yuda, that's I don't know. I don't know. That's a good question. But very good question. But but when But a person comes to a space a person comes to a space that I found this is to me. So the I love it. doesn't say you hear I'm saying the doesn't say who's going to get it and I could do it doesn't say that I could do it says but I'll never who's going to access it to me that it will be meaningful to me >> wow >> meansma that it's via who I want to do it in a way that I'm like charged that I like I love this I want this I need this this is my life and I'm like this is this is me me is this this is like magical to me that's the havina that that it's in shm I can't access who's going to bring that to me who how is that going me and this are so dist who's bridging that gap says now it's interesting when it says it's says it's in your heart it's in your mouth and heart to do it now it doesn't say the that's what it means your heart mouth to do it means you were born for this the exact words mean you will find that you there's a that I'll never be magical I'll never and that is very much in the space of go if you're not aware of your nishama and you're at a very superficial view of a person you will look that way look to be a giver I don't know all my thoughts are about me you'll access a deeper space says this will never be magical. I'm never being that guy giving doing deep in the shad of things. I'll never be that says Hashem you were meant for this. I really put an in you and you'll access it. You'll find an you'll see and you'll access spaces. I was born for this. I relate to this a lot in the So I'm using parenting. I relate to that a lot that a youngster would think about being a giver and a parent and if he's logical be like I don't know great to see welcome home moi [applause] >> Ari do you like what do you hold >> this this idea you you heard the rabbis say it with me in the summer in the I think like it makes a lot of sense to me in theukim I wasn't so >> Well, you didn't like the question so much. >> That's fair. >> Just bothered by that like extreme statement. It's not impossible. Rather, it's easy. >> That what it seems like it's impossible. >> Just would be funny. Why would such a thing be? What would you ever describe that looks tiny and really it's huge? Looks huge as tiny. Well, this has to be something you'd experience that would make you see it as huge. So, it's a weird it's an oddity. If you'd say it's not the biggest thing, it's just big. You'd say it's not it's not unseeable. It's just tiny. That's like hava mascana. It's not like a thing we can see. If you strain hard, you'll see it. That would like make sense to me. But to say it's not huge, it's not impossible. rather it's easy what changed I'm just describing what Geisler said about about Tyra that it's our deeper spaces and described that a person can access deeper space when you're in the space of go giving is like crazy you're to be a parents but when I access deeper spaces you find mom is born for that we're born to share to give we have those deeper spaces >> the whole entire part of deeper space going to I feel it's like not like almost like a smack in the is like sitting in a pain with another Y like I feel your pain like that entire thing of like I'm coming before I am but like that before that there's a space I'm I feel your pain >> cuz there's an entrance where I think we're supposed to feel we we were given a goof for a reason you're not supposed to truck the goof >> right but when you go when you said about going to Arabia they want something deeper than just validation >> true but I think that's something to get to and like just like bad with him >> I agree I'm not saying a rebi I'm not like pasing I think there's a space in going to a rebi that you want him to tell you about a deeper space that's all I'm saying but I'm not even discussing how to get there how that works how that looks but I think what were you saying Ellie >> there's more space for friends situation >> I was saying like a friend who says a meaningful fast I always think that's weird he's your friend just tell him an easy fast a rebi says a meaningful fast I want a rebby to tell me at a meaningful fast he's telling me deeper a rebi is telling me what we're sh to I don't mind a rebi tells me that almost doesn't validate a rebi could say or like a friend feels your pain I'm not saying a rebi shouldn't feel your pain but that a rebi introduces a deeper space that's why I went to the rebi I want to find I want he's my rebi I want to find what's rebi what's you know people even say to you what's You're saying what's the deeper space? Now a friend shouldn't tell the I want to tell your deepest fear that we have a s in us. We have what we're experiencing and then we have what we're sh to where's hashem bring me I'm asking my rebi to try to help me where hashem's bringing me that's what I'm saying now the rebi if you're early stage you go to your rebby I don't want you as my rebi right now could you be my friend for a few minutes and like we can feel together but I'm ultimately want want to find my deeper space what this is bringing me where I can access how I can access that anyway >> [snorts] >> Wow. >> Ari, could you relate to that? That aspect that someone speak to a Revy could almost get away with demanding something in a difficult situation even though some I I'm thinking of a certain story with my father where he like showed me a deeper space and it wasn't like hurtful. It wasn't what did you say? >> He wouldn't say any question, >> right? He happened to be wouldn't say I'm talking about a certain question I asked him and he told me a deeper space I wanted that from him somebody else would say that what are you doing like just well I'm in a tough pickle like understand me the deeper space we go to somebody to ask that's why I'm asking you I want to know the deeper space I've se I've seen this I've seen this >> the I think I don't know I think a lot of times like we demand the guy to find a deeper space within him and not just telling him deeper Yeah, that's fair. That's fair. That's Yehuda is saying there's a danger. That's why I'm not saying how the Rebi will do this. The Rebi tells him the deeper. You have to find it and there's a journey and if it's there, be confident to find. I'm not talking how to do it. But I think there's an aspect of a Rebi. I say Reb, let's study. Could we study? That's what people say. What's my aid? What's I want to study with you where I could go and how I could go there and what would it look like? Almost the Rebi won't tell you to go there. I could almost you almost see in your rebby what it means the deeper space that's what moves you to begin with that he's functioning that's >> there's a space in what I'm claiming is that in the space in g we're selfish we're distant from things like that so that's the h it's impossible this will never resonate by me I'll never be a fire in doing this at the very best I'll be a force chilling it says you could like flow in this can anybody here to me this p became thank you the p like became magical because it's this is like something many of us think about will I ever will I always be just a forest in doing this or will I flow in this and that's precisely what the are telling us yeah if the does the mind could we sing would it be like corn if It's corny. Maybe we should do it. Maybe not. Could we sing kar? That's like way too corny. Did you sing carv last night? Let's do it. It's the parach carv too corny. >> It's not corny. >> Who said I've been waiting? Ellie was like, hello. You're learning the bus. Like, can you sing? >> Could you key us? Oh, do what? They want to do guitar. with the guitar. Yeah. >> I want to introduce in the back there, the cool guy in the back is Mish Orner. Welcome to Yeshiva. [applause] Who which Waterberry legend is going to now take pride that he's Mishner's brother-in-law? >> Mandy. Mandy. Very good. >> Good. I'm happy we have you. >> Aka Ferman is the younger his older brother was maybe the best second base we ever had in Yeshiva. maybe excellent softball player but amazing person. Is he living in five towns now? Aka >> I saw him in five towns. I don't know what he was doing there. Aka Ferman. Yako Ferman's brother. Yako Ferman's Aka's brother. Good to have Yaka. Aka, where were you last year? >> YMC. >> The principal in YMC was the principal here first. You know that? >> You knew that. What? Where? >> In YMC where he was was here. >> You know who it is? No. Tell him who your prince was. Tell Rabzi. >> Rab Gber Gber's the principal there. >> Oh, cool. Where is he? >> In Baltimore. >> I was in Durham, right? He was He was a principal. >> He was the principal right here. He was the principal right here right there. The I'm introducing Eton, but the knows knows Ean already. >> Yeah. [applause] >> Eton, I'm happy we have you. >> Thank you, Eton. Raiden Raidens. Okay, let's let's do Key Car. Are you Arie >> once Ellie once and it's Good. [music] Thank you. [music] [singing] [music] >> [music] >> if [singing] [music] I sat. [singing] [music] >> [singing] >> Love him. [music] [singing] [music] [music] Yeah. [singing] [music] [singing and music] Oh yeah. [singing] [music] [music and singing] La. [music] [singing] [music] [singing] >> Beautiful. [music] >> One more time. Should we have Yehuda do a solo? >> Yehuda and Ellie. Maybe >> Yud and Ellie. >> No, no, no. Ellie. Ellie and Yehuda. Ask him. >> I got a guitar. I'll play it anyway. >> You want to play it? >> Come, Ellie. Come play it. >> You got to sing. >> You'll do the solo. >> Did you play last night? [music] at the Shishi. It's not yet. [music] You do the trailer. [music] Let's get it done. [singing] The voice of the [music] Lord. Oh [singing] [music] my god. [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] Give me [music and singing] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] a Natal [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [singing and music] yeah [music and singing] high yeah [music] Beautiful. [singing] [applause] Thank you. is going to be at 7:00 invites to a that's going to take place now for the rest who don't d followed by Shabas the breaking point 78 is don't get confused candle lighting 7 718 brick wall the invite remind the in the dorm to be ready by then Shabas will be right after this man. Let's do it. >> I have to leave. When are you going to do it though? >> I want you to do it. >> Is it open Sunday? >> It's open all day. Every Sunday. >> I apologize. Thank you, brother. in my life. >> I agree. 78. So simp so obvious question we're talking about from a friendship perspective someone comes in and you're like you know it's wrong but it's not so much your space is it That's right.