Rabbi Daniel Kalish Choosing High Sch Project Inspire Convention 2023

to everybody and thank you very very much for coming I want to she I want to study together with everybody here my son Israel mayor and everybody here I want to study two parts to the parish show with everybody here the zip that that can be thought about a lot in in this week's parishes trauma it says in the rings of the Orion should be the polls they should never be moved the Rings the polls the poles of the Aran I'm a lady and the jarab of aslavian was to carry one of the jobs to carry the RN and the polls with which you carry the orange should remain in the taboys and the Rings men who don't remove the polls from the Aaron this person intrigues me and whenever you're studying Tyra stop by the things that Intrigue you stop and pause I have watched for many years in Yeshiva we bring down many many singers the Yeshiva many performers and I want to tell you what separates the good singers the amazing ones from the good ones Hashem they're all talented and amazing but I want to tell you what separates the greats people come to Yeshiva and perform Talent beautiful but every once in a while a certain song resonates by the guys you can feel it in the room for whatever reason it might be relevant to the time if a certain song hits home and people are excited by it stay on that song don't move and the great performers don't run away if they see a song Hit at a concert they play it for longer and they go back to it later and the performers maybe they're nervous and they're not as experienced and they're not like attuned to the crowd like a song hits and then a minute later they're on a different song you look up like keep going like we were excited the island was dancing it's a very big art in our private lives when you're praying and you hit a certain thing in davening and it resonates stay there different days for different reasons different things are on our mind if something hits home stay there if I hear a song guys in Yeshiva like oh no five years we've been singing Hashem now for a year straight because the song resonated by us and I'm not running from it because it resonated and it hit home and we were excited by it learn to pause when you learn Terror and we study Tyra different succulent you and you and me learn to pause by a positive that hits you now why does this Posse hit me it's it's rather a funny person the polls of the Orion is it is it's probably one of the less least known the tariagama said Oscar derisa to take the polls out of the urine now kalish why does that there are a lot of Mitzvahs we don't have an orange today somehow this intrigues me and I want to tell you why we have very little rules in Yeshiva we're not a rulesy place there are very little rules in Yeshiva there's definitely rules we have rules but very little we're not a very rulesy place in my share a guy can come and and schmooz and biggest shmack easy gong the I have a rule that I'm very tough on and the rule is no quotes by sheer I'm like fire Connecticut could be a cold place and the weather gets freezing and I have a rule that's we are quote and share but I'm tough on it no way I don't care it could be a visiting dignitary luminary it doesn't matter who it is there's no coats during sheer that's like the reason I do that is I feel strongly that to learn Tyreek to present yourself I'd rather a guy come to share and throw spitballs then he like disassociates just come be you bring you I'd rather a guy more leban dick and cheer than he's like trying to come and bring you bring you be you present yourself let's study Tyra come let's do it let's learn let's let's so I just feel the code is like a guy hiding take off take your walls down let's study let's learn let's do it so by me no coats as somebody whose Only Rule and cheers no coats think of the baddam the baddam is the code of the orange a guy like me the first thing I would say to the Aaron is take off your poles you know we had the polls because we traveled in the 42 years we had 42 maasai's in the 40 years in the midbrain we had 42 travels and when we traveled we certainly had to pick up the arine but we had years at a time when we just stayed in one place sometimes two three years we're in one spot so when the orange stops take off the poles and let's get comfortable and it intrigues me because I'd be the first guy to try to take off the polls and it's us in this week's parishion in the rings of the orange shall remain the bottom lawyers take out the polls that's intriguing to me it's just strange I mean shouldn't we and what's Hashem say now certainly we follow all the myths of sashem I obviously wouldn't touch those polls despite an instinct to say to the r and make yourself at home take off your coat take off your you're not traveling you're here now let's go but it leaves on the polls and the simple question is is what's being said here I want to tell you a story I want to tell you a story and then it's very very relevant to our lives my wife and I talk about this concept very very often and I want to tell you what happened to me I rarely this Shabbos is an out Shabbos in Yeshiva on an end Shabbos in many many years I we tried my we don't miss in Shabbos in Yeshiva and there was a particular Shabbos that I was flying to Los Angeles for Shabbos that was something I was doing there and I was flying to La I don't like leaving my family for Shabbos the mishbachas together and I don't like leaving these Shava Shabbos and I was breaking those two Cardinal rules and I was on a plane headed to La for Shabbos and on the plane I first Was preparing I was giving shioram in Los Angeles I Was preparing the shioram after I finished preparing the children it was this week's parishes truma and I opened up a safer to learn precious Truman and the first word I opened up I'm on a plane leaving my family and leaving the Shiva and the first vert that I the first person the first thing I study is the following story it's a pillar following story review of the mirror had it sad to retire from being he was going to hang up the cleats that's it retiring and go learn tire and kelm he was going to go spend the rest of his days to learning kelm and he decided before he took such a move to do a girl Agra there's a way of opening the Torah and there's a way of checking what to you know what the Hashem will tell you this that people today my rebby has done the girl my father-in-law has done the girl there are people that know how to do the gairol Agra and you ask the Tyra questions and you can get answers to find out if he should retire from the mirror Yeshiva and become the rest of his life sit and learning Kyle and kelm he does the girl Agra this is what I'm reading on the plane leaving my family and the Yeshiva and he reads and he I read that the first thing I read after I prepare the shioram when I wanted to learn myself and he says that does the gorilla Quran the pastic that came out is this should remain in their in the in the Sackets thank you thank you thanking the Sackets the polls of dance remaining this lawyers to remove the poles as a message from Hashem when you're carrying something don't put it down this is your job this is what you're carrying the polls remain don't put it down you have a Christ you have responsibility you're carrying something don't put it down and spent the rest of his life as the Mary Yeshiva he saw us a message from Hashem you're carrying something don't put it down foreign somebody I love very very dearly entire wonderful very inspiring person he invested somewhere lost a lot of money and I after consoling him and feeling his pain I asked him what his takeaway from his experience was and he told me his takeaway is stay in your lane he feels like he feels like he he went to a place he had no business going and he said his takeaways stay in your lane there's a world full of good things to do and we came on a Shabbos to project Inspire which is really being my IRS all arousing and encouraging us to be idealists we're all beneath run we come from avram avinu and we're pushed anybody who studies tire is an idealist and wants to accomplish and be mccarrative and lift up and and bring people closer to Hashem but of course I want to say that a tremendous tremendous thing all of us have to learn in the Soggy of idealism is to carry that which we're responsible for bitter boys there are often so many attractive things to do but it's not what you're meant to be carrying and in our lives we have to all think about and it's not as opposed this is not like as opposed of course reaching out but reaching out to the person next to you to the person nearest I sometimes once in a while I'll hear people ex like say lines as if like I haven't seen my family in months I'm so busy with my Yeshiva I always think never what a what a terrible thing why aren't you carrying your family we have responsibilities and we have precious things that we're supposed to carry of course even in the reaching out is the neighbor is the brother is the cousin is the great uncle are the people that are right around us that are in our responsibilities it will always feel tempting out there and certainly there's reach out of course but carrying our responsibilities you're carrying something stay focused carry what you're supposed to be carrying I saw this on the plane leaving my family and the Yeshiva and I felt that Hashem was giving me a big hug with a little love tap Daniel I was like Hashem what do you want I was on the way to Los Angeles to ask the pilot to turn around I'm not so selfish and arrogant the guy's a whole plane's going to La I decided right when I got to the airport I called guys who had learned in Yeshiva I gathered them that night straight from literally can match straight from the airport and we sat I felt like at least as a message guys who had learned in Yeshiva went La I gathered there was a baker who was around La I asked my host at the airport if I could have this normally in Iraq Magnus Iraq I asked them if it's possible I can have this blocker with me I felt there was a message you're carrying things carry the things you're carrying I think that number one message of this person applies to all of us all of us of idealists to make sure that the things that were actually for our own Families Our Own neighbors our own Community it's always there's a tendency to look to look far when their things were responsible right here a friend right here who needs us I think it's always an important lesson the poles of the orange must always remain in their Sackets what you're supposed to carry I think it's instructive to many things that come our way it's instructive and an important lesson to carry that which was supposed to carry I want to add something of the tab I saw you about them a second chat that that that I think also is being said here what is it that the Orion has polls take off the pulse I can't the question a question is energy in any sheer you go to there's no room for answers until you're literally bothered by the question I'm going fastly I really if if this was in Yeshiva I wouldn't go so fast to answers like saying a second and a second it's these are not lectures not a second answer wow nice interesting hashems talking to me and talking to you are you bothered by this the online has polls in it take off the polls let's get comfortable let's go let's let's do this let's let's get comfortable it's a Pella Hashem wants the picture of the urine is the polls remain on there's a second point that I think questions our energy questions are forces and they bring us when we say a second answer it doesn't like me no and some say if you want to say hashem's Torah and the questions that it causes us to wonder drive us places and Hashem intends that Journey that the question brings so when you read a post look like that it's just ah now if the answer so satisfies you that you're not bothered anymore there's no such thing as a second answer it's only if the question but I'm still bothered so we heard a first point that the polls stay in the RN as a lesson if you're carrying something don't stop carrying it but it needs more it needs more it's it needs more because why is the lesson taught here that could be taught by other Calum that's a general lesson but that could be taught by the bottom of the show Khan it could be taught in other places why Hashem teach me that here that lesson is true what your responsibilities are but that didn't need to be taught by the Aaron as such it's a good answer and a truth changed his life and didn't leave the mirror kept its mashkier because of this person in Los Angeles I had a gathering and a baker who was the schnickel Lost we spent Shabbos together and he was found because of this so the person talks to us the polls Russia remain in the Iran don't remove it what you carry and keep carrying don't let go so it's certainly an important lesson we need another terrets we need another turrets because why they are in so I want to share something else but I'm not saying a vert if you this is not a word you didn't you might say Shabbos we listened to oil Shabbos there's not a nice vert a verse like you know we could study Tyra to hear of art or we could hear what the tiger is saying I wanna I wanna try to tap into what Hashem saying to us he said that the online keeps its polls the Orange is Terror in the are in the iron house is a safe attire next to the iron it houses the lucrez the Arenas Tyran represents Tyra and Tyra has poles Tyrese polls the aura in that item that represents Tyler their poles to it and I want to say that the exact story that happened to review rochum and he reads apostic and he stays the rest of his career in the mirror made it sad to retire from the mirror and go to learning Kyle and kelm and he saw the passage and he heard a message from Hashem you're carrying something don't put it down people get tempted and caught maybe go here maybe do that you're carrying something focus and stay stay in your lane stay in your lane it's a funny word to me stay in your lane I have a lot of problems with Lane Integrity when there are no when they know vehicles around I'm not so like mock but to stay in my Lane my car has this feature I don't know how to turn off that it buzzes when you're not in your lane so I always ask my kids are with me or a buck or could you turn off I'm not so good at Lane Integrity but in life we have to learn Lane Integrity stay in your lane you're focused on something stay in your lane I'm a careful driver you have to be a careful driver it's only when there are no cars around late at night I find it safe for a little bit in the middle you don't have to be to the side maybe I worry about deers I'm on the Merit a lot so fine so I'm not so Elaine Integrity there but in life you got to be careful with Lane Integrity stay in your lane you're carrying something keep carrying it but how boys are you about them review isn't that remarkable review Suffolk in his life and he's reading the tyrant and I think there's a message the polls on the Orange is the tire is meant to come with us through our life and I want to explain that on a very simplistic level in all the journeys of our life we keep the Tyra but I want to say deeper bring the questions of your life to the Tyra learn the terror with the questions that you have I got a call I got a call before Hanukkah and a guy tells me I not somebody I know so well I want to know him better this person calls me and say I'm not lighting them in early this year funny phone I'm not letting them in there what's happening describe to me tremendous Sarah being an older single not feeling he has his own bias and he described tremendous sir said I'm not lighting the manager so I very much such a sad of a person amidst on the biased narrishubasa describe my lighting at home I feel I should be out of my house and my lighting and yeshave I'm an older bar I don't feel at home in this Shiva he was in base I brought out emotion I I'm not I didn't tell him this but I want to tell you this and I want to tell me this he should light the manure is not like forget your stuff and do the Mitzvah Hashem is talking to you light them in naira with your tear nearest my bias what's my by the Mitzvah itself another guy another guy nothing to do with this fellow this was a guy I'm very very close to knocks on my door the last night of Hanukkah like a tough knock late at night he drove on over to my house he lit the last candle and he was bawling about his bias where his butt that wasn't the side point to nerganica the mitz was spoke to him narish obey so I light your house shine out to the world and he started asking about his bias about shining he came he bawled on my couch he said I have to he was white when I answered I have to sit down he made a beeline right to our to the to the kids playroom sat on the couch and started crying isn't the side point he's present the rub spoke rev zakatinsky spoke by Shall assure this about 11 the Katara but a tire that that that has a that has a naked with it that's a tire with the tone you don't just like forget yourself and robotically like the menaira he brought his journey to the Tyra it's the very other story had a suffix and he read a plastic that spoke to his life I want to tell you a story that happened to me I want to tell you a story and always learn to read the parachute with who you are even that this pasok resonates I'm a guy who thinks he should take off your coat and share and my only rule is you can do what you want and share smoke a pipe in my face just don't wear a coat so this plastic is troubling for me bring your issues to the Tyra and let something resonate bring what bring yourself bring your experiences to Tyra the tire has polls and it means that it comes with you on your journey and the picture of the Orion is their polls in it means it's ever relevant ever talking to your story it's not relegated to one place in your life it doesn't stay there the Orion has polls it comes with and it goes with wherever you are it talks to you I want to tell you a cool story that happened to me when you do when your RN has poles you'll see your learning becomes not vertum you don't have a vert you have like a story all the different Tyra hashems talking to you and guiding listen to this story listen to this interesting story in Yeshiva so I'll give a muscle that's happening this minute 60 guys applied to one Yeshiva and the Yeshiva told me we have 20 spots we could take 20 out of 60. I think we could push in their amazing people ten more will probably be able to push in don't don't say anything maybe we'll even push 20 more so I said we'll get it to 30 or 40. but it's at a 60 and very complicated very emotional complicated who gets to go who not how do you even decide very very very serious people's lives wants to go learn so he just wants to go to stag very complicated shyless now let's say a guy one of the 60 says kalish should I should I go to that Yeshiva but he has another option now for him it would be better to go to that Yeshiva that 60 guys wants to go but for the overall system it's better if he goes elsewhere he can go elsewhere and for him he'll do just fine going elsewhere so maybe advise him to go elsewhere and it's a good answer it's a good answer for the Clown it's better for more people if he goes elsewhere but on the other hand for him it might be even a drip better to go to that Yeshiva 61 want to go to what do you do and I've grappled what this Shiloh do you give an AIDS and say listen you go there it's better for the system it's a good Shiloh very good show I noticed the Rashi I never noticed in my life like two years ago I had this Shiloh and I noticed the ratio Good Charlotte somebody asks advice 60 guys want to go to the same Yeshiva they only have spots for 20 and maybe you'll get in 30. if you advise this one bucket to go elsewhere it opens up a slot for somebody else and he could go elsewhere but it's better for him to go to that Yeshiva is that called now the gazal there's an Israel said to give bad advice to give bad advice don't put a stumbling block in front of a blind man is it is it all right so give bad advice now I always all of us have seen that hazal in AIDS don't give do you know gazelle don't say it's a Shayla again if they add one word I never noticed in my life says don't give an eight it says in front of a blind guy don't put a stumbling block says gazal don't give an ace of Shane or higenous lie to him why did stick in Tim don't give bad advice it's a shay no he Guinness says lie don't give bad advice to him what if to say to him don't give bad advice show somebody else advice don't give an age again a spare advice says bear advice for him he's the one asking that's what I mean I never noticed the word lie but my if your Aaron has polls means you bring your life's worries to Terror learn presently all of a sudden you notice gazal that's what hazal are saying again it's not bad advice it's good for most it's good for everybody and overall it's a better advice but your obligation it's also the racer to say what's bad advice for him I have seen heads of schools tell about good advice to go they figure good advice is good for other people for the rest of the Yeshiva but they give it as advice is the head of the school a trouser is you know I want to give the guy bad advice for him doesn't matter it's better for other people that's called for him it's bad advice he should be told absolutely stay in the Yeshiva because better for him the fact that it's better for others the one who asks the advice to give the best possible advice to this person we learned Tyra the orange always has polls as the fact bring your worries to your learning Saddam bring yourself bring your person bring your own quirks by the way you're the type of certain plastic will be will be interesting to you that's called your RN has polls it's coming on your journey so Apostle and by the way different years different circum will resonate by you because your RN has polls it's not relegator over there there I learn and then I disconnect and I have my life I bring it I bring along the terror through my Journeys into every aspect of my life that's all part of the aren't having polls that's the first to the first possic I wanted to learn with the heavier tonight this these two lessons of a tabasa and if you're carrying something don't put it down keep stay in your lane carry what you're supposed to carry don't neglect what you're supposed to carry for something fancy there was a summer my wife and I live my son we live on a little mountain and that Shabbos in the summer there were 11 or 12 men gonna be in Shore it's a small show with 45 50 families that we have to we're a small little mountain and that it was the summer a lot of family 11 12 men in the show somebody wanted me to do something would have been literally a thousand like a serious match it was very exciting for me like I was very very thought maybe there's such a big Zack but I thought to myself this word that you're supposed to carry this is your show this is your place is carry what you're supposed to carry carry what you're supposed to carry but not begrudgingly with chaos with chaos I didn't stay and it was like a tough Shabbos I didn't stay and stay over the swear trust me I stayed because you carry what you're supposed to carry don't put down what you're supposed to carry this is what you're supposed to carry carry this they're always I speak over with my wife we talk over there always many opportunities to do many things and it's tempting to do this do that such good things but if they entail putting down what you're supposed to carry don't run carry what you're supposed to carry but that boys are in you about them while you're serum and you carry what you're supposed to carry very important lesson message number one for us all the lesson number two is to bring the Tyra through our life into our life bring our life to Tyron the tire to our life remember that the RN has polls it comes with it talks to our lives it helps it guides Us in the details of our life bring your life and the journey of our life to Tyra that's this posse are you about them I want to share one more thing and then really to thank everybody might say Shabbos after a Shabbos people are coming to learn amazing I I really owe you I always ask guys to pay up with music if there was a bucker here could sing I'd have him sing you the most creative nicest songs in the world you deserve everything this part maybe you'll like this but maybe this will be considered this will be a gift this I'll share you a gift that I want to share with everybody here the mishkan the mishk on this week's Parish of the mishkan will these parishes anybody who all of us study Tyra anybody who asked to speak the whole safer voracious electric magical it's the story of our others the beginning of our nation the people who founded our nation magical my Messiah for my voracious parishes of rum showed up to are Yeshiva my rebbe brought him Abraham is my Tata and my rebia like introduced of ramadin who sat with us my Rabbi should ever before shlema is somebody who brought avram into our lives me and my friends always said about him without knowing that I don't remember hearing him say this the who knows if it's in my brain somewhere but we always said that he made the others real to us the others were our fathers we asked ourselves we what were they like we try to emulate them from Arabi I was so happy my Webbie wrote a book about his own father and he thanked his father in the book that his father brought the others into his life in a very real way it was very neat to say his father was his rebbe and to hear him write about his father doing that for him was something cool that my friends and I always felt he did that for us so gracious magical shemais is the story of the banim of our ummah the formation of our nation ever present in our life culminating with the whole purpose the Practical law that must emanate from receiving the Torah excellent then starts a whole bunch of parashas that are more difficult to connect to the mishkan the mishkan was a one-time structure not to be rebuilt very technical different laws and details about the mishkan and starts a series of parishes that it's a little more challenging to connect to understand so we just took one pasak in truma is talking to me and talking to you ever relevant ever practical we have to study it see what we can understand what it's saying to us but I want to study the mishkan in general so the mishkan is the structure that built the ver to house that the shrinage it's the shackham the meshkans called the meshkan Rashi says in picodin in a couple of parishes that the meshkan is called the meshka and it says it twice in apasak in pecode and peric La metres it says it twice in the past of mishkan and Rashi says that the mishkan is a mashcon is collateral it's a mask it's a collateral for the sins of the Jewish people what does that mean we got two base which is the first house of Hashem it was the original House in the desert and then we got Eric's Israel and we are two but they miktas and it says twice mishkan because when we did our varus it was a mashkin it was collateral that God took away the meshkan when we sinned that's what's the mishkan is called The Gift of the place where Hashem dwells in our midst and it's called collateral that if we sin we lose it I'll tell you why this is Stan it's a wild name for the base of mcdushkin it's a mishkan if we sin we lose such a Negative take I love positivity negativity to me we're people I don't think positivity is like acute need I think it just means to be a yid our name is yehudim we're thinkers we're thinkers it's who we are missionaries we're the joyous people who are thinkers where you hold them where might it is positivity is not a side mileage just like the essence of Yiddish kite people who notice the brother is Hashem it's collateral if we sin we lose it that's like the introduction to the thing I have advice for parents I advise parents I don't like when parents buy their youngster a cell phone and then every time they make a mistake they close their service on there I don't like that your kid has a cell phone he keeps it you buy your kid a gift you know what happens when every time they misbehave you take away your gift you never buy your kid gifts it ends up just being a leash to control them it's a leash the kid will start happening every gift is that now I have a thing that if you misbehave I'll take it away so it's not a gift it's a leash they'll start seeing it as such you give a gift the kids has the gift that's it you gave it you gave it but say to him you want to punish their other punishments to give the gift he has the gift he has we start taking it away it stops being a gift solution then what's the base I make those called it's a mashkin it's collateral if we sin we lose it what's happening sounds like a it sounds funny the mishkan's called collateral that if we sin we lose it we have something a mesh kind of place where we can connect Hashem hashems and kaviaco and dwells in our midst hashras and it's called collateral like this when somebody takes collateral if I lend money to somebody and it gives me candlesticks as collateral do I want those candlesticks it's not the Candlestick there's a word there's a famous and he says he says when I hold the candlesticks it's just my way of holding the hive candlesticks I'm holding I'm holding the hive he owes me money and that's what I want it's the money I want the collateral is just it's just a way of grabbing on to that which I really want is the shot that the mishk on the base is called collateral what a funny name if we sin we lose it that's what it's called there's an iMac that the mechtas is what what we want of course we want the base of English but we want what it houses what it houses is a close cashier between Hashem and us us and Hashem it's called collateral that if we sin we lose it it means that the building only represents it's something deeper represents and it's houses in the mishkan a connection to Hashem our own homes are a physical structure and the physical structure is important and glorious Jewish Home is wonderful but what's the point of a Jewish Home what it houses love warmth connection the house is only a physical manifestation of what's contained inside of the house is huge is huge we yearn we ever see peace a tremendous yearning for the Binion base and we wanted and need it badly we want to base some ignition and what the base is is that which it can house what's in the base of the relationship the close connection Hashem it's called the mashkin collateral is the chat we do have highness we lose it means that the purpose of the house is the relationship in US when we do have highness and and the hell stops representing it no longer contains the relationship we lose the house it's called the mashkin because what do you call something so precious collateral that we could lose it means the point is not the thing itself it's what it it's what it it's what it brings to and what it contains the relationship the close connection that's what the mesh on the base is called collateral and I want to say this this is something that I think all of us if we focus on the panemia sadaver of all of our roaches of all of our Journeys if we focus on the premise evangelus golus is not just an inesh that Hashem is mads he sends us in tagalus Godless the purpose of golus is that he wants us to focus on the thing of course once we're focused on the thing itself the cashier the tremendous yearning that yet for the gulat Yeshua we have an innate yearning for the Gola Godless brings out the CP silly Yeshua this sense that I want something so badly it brings us and focuses us on the panemia sadaver and the purpose of Godless is that people go through struggles all different struggles and it brings out tremendous craving and yearning this this this and it describes things that we would describe as negative some last night the conversation on Shabbos kadish it was spoken about divorce and gazal speak about such things that what is happening why is that the footsteps of a share that seems the opposite of mashiach difficult things hospice spreads that's footsteps of mashiach and I want to say that a lot of the difficulties we Face people face challenges with their children people face challenges with him people face challenges with Shalom bias do you know all these things and we certainly want Shalom for our youth gazunt Health we want all these things do you know all these things bring up but see peace a craving for for for marriage a craving for billion bias a craving for all the important things in our life the very difficulty brings up a craving for all that's right the very difficult I'm going to tell you one of the best vertum I ever heard in my life and we're going to close with this on this topic I'm going to close with this here again steals and he sold Us in every difficult situation whether he got it for stealing or he was so distilled he was so poor and he sold as an Evidence he sold as an effort here's a yet in bad shape let's say he stole his mom is in trouble he's a god of very difficult bad place to be and he's in Avid now when Audrey has rules how we should treat his effort it's supposed to be Mark he's supposed to be wonderful to his Evan the end of the period of avdos the event says I love my master my wife now it's not a real wife he has a real wife back at home but his ordain is a lot of give him he has upon him that are not his real Bonham he has will burn him at home now but the guy at the end of his period of Abdul says that this guy in his golus he was in everdog do you know we just came to the highest madriguez every dream for my son Israel mayor I want all my children to say in all of us dream the dream of our existence is to say I have to yes I love my master Abba sashem I love my other in do you have that this guy came to McGregor after sadani he's talking about his other and who acted like Hashem was good to him and he says I have to Assad do you hear what they did saying it's not by accident a half day as ishti means obviously slowly became a giver our main Giver is to our spouse the reason writes the Accord need the navratulations to a spouse he wants to give he wants to teach he wants to raise everything we dream of a human being happen to this game he comes out from his Sorrows a half dear sardonia as isht as a dream fellow now the problem says the svasemusi the Godless did something to him but he's afraid for gaula is supposed to happen to him and in all his difficulty he learned to appreciate the other why was the other so nice because he was imitating that doing a coil isty this is only a imitation of you you have an Isha at home be good to your Isha and his and his period of Abdus brought out it healed the guy you have to assist go home to your wife now you now care for your children go home for your real upon him the guy says he doesn't get it he like stops right there it brought out wonderful things my wife and I went on a shabbatone an incredible place of people that that are struggling with an incredible incredible Gathering the the yearnings that see peace was probably like nothing I've seen in my life every dream of it brought out to me we we all of us we don't live minute by I don't live minute by minute with my dreams that I want to serve Hashem that I want to raise a family of avde Hashem a fire a passion the difficulties and we don't ask for difficulties but the difficulties and the goals bring out they bring out a tremendous and it's Icarus those are the footsteps of mashiach golus is not hashem's casting us away he's bringing out the yearnings and the exam daughter itself that the very building was supposed to house it's a mashkin it's supposed to house those things by losing the external brings out our tremendous craving for the thing itself and the difficulties all of us encounter in our Journeys all different difficult the difficulty in finding Shadow and bring out or rot sign to build a bias for Hashem a massive certainly we have to think about people who are struggling and dive in and feel that Sarah of course but but also listen to the side we have it sad because we want to build a bias everybody has to listen to that sir everybody all of us that have a bias pay attention to the desire we want to build houses for Hashem does it see Pisa that's there go free with that move further what's that take it I'm stuck here it brought out remarkable things your difficulty it brought out with sinus a half Tia sadani was created now run with that and find your true Adam it brought out a half this ishti now find your wife it brought out a half day as bunai so go home to your sons the difficulties we encounter the Godless itself he says it's a bigger athlete that brings out higher madragas he says swasem is on the spot than we have during even the Glorious Days of Gola he speaks that out what it brings out of the person the difficulties they bring out tremendous yearnings tremendous all our challenges now we don't ask for challenges and by the way we want to go back to based on English we want to go Khushi because we want to take the panemia sadaver that we certainly care about and we want it housed in the basement we want the building back and we want richness we don't ask Hashem like continue pouring we want richness we want the next step we've been we don't want to stay the event the danger of the evid as he likes the Godless and it brought out some good stuff in him I'm staying right here he loses his want for a life of richness we can have it rich the one who's we're looking for him so it brought out a tremendous yearning to build a bias among a collective yearning of Claudia's throw we want bathroom now we want him I'm not saying but we're going to live with what we learned the want and the drive to build the bias we're going to bring that we're going to bring what you you brought out of us we want kizund we want Shalom bias and we learned something from the challenges we learned all about our drive for Unity our one to share I have this is give us spouses give us children give us wholesome homes give us the gaula and we'll live with what we learned in the eight we don't want to stay in this we're not like the Evan who the drives have been so learned that he says I'll stay right here late she would not like them we want the hit sinus but we promise and we our commitment is to bring the things that have been this Ira through our difficulties in our Journeys good see peace that our difficulties bring out of all of us we all have our forms I don't know a person who can't relate to that beginning of parishism it's the first lesson I don't know one person who can't relate to them the difficulties in the avdos that the person there but that bring out the dream wants of a person you can have been more fixed up I have this a dream human being who wants an ordain who wants a wife and children is a dream and the difficulties brought it out but don't say we want the freedom is tragic tragic he gets so used to the difficulties that he says I don't want I don't want change no no no we have and we celebrate what we and it brought out things we want to now bring it into the stages of our life into our families into so when misspell tashem that is we want to go free we don't need our ears we want to go out Hashem should be mazaka Israel our daughters with our sons were families with gazunt and the lessons we learned are deep drives and wants for you Hashem for our wives for our children to give to share to teach top lift we're going to build from a place of assurance Hashem should bless us and all of clients are with all our needs thank you