Rabbi Daniel Kalish

i wanna this shabbos i wanna learn a gemara with uh with everybody here but less than learn the gemara i wanna tell you the story what this gemara did to me it caused a lot of thoughts in my mind and i really want to share the story of what happened when i learned this gemara and the tysus i'm not coming to say shot in the gemara or the texas that we're going to study i want to really share the story of what happened to me when i learned this gemara and then i want to talk what will be i believe relevant to us everybody knows there was a there was a guy called dhamma benacina and very very his kibada aim is very very famous his respect to his parents is famous and the story the gemara brings a very famous story he doesn't wake up his dad and he gives up tremendous amounts of money that story has a lot of publicity i believe all of us know the story there's a second story that the gemara brings that i believe is much less famous about dhamma benesina and i want to discuss the second story that the gemara brings second story the first story he gives up a lot of money thomas benesina gives up significant amount of money to honor his father not to wake up his father from sleep and that story has gotten a lot of publicity the second story is a story of dhamma venusino was sitting bengal daily raymi he was sitting amongst the greats of rome and in the middle of this prestigious gathering he had a very beautiful garment on he was a well-dressed prestigious man and in the middle of this gathering a very social event and i'm sure it was very important to dhamma benesina his social status what he who he was how people looked at him and in middle he's hobnobbing he's sitting there with all the greats of rome very prestigious this is like and in the middle of this whole gathering his mother comes in rips his beautiful garment i can't like fathom this you're only there for your honor you're only there for how it looks and he's standing next to all the greats of rome and he's made it he's like with the big shots the big guns in society and this is like the moments people dream of and comes his mother rips his garment spits him in the face smacks him in the middle of the whole gathering everything that he wanted out of that gathering shattered and he doesn't say a negative word to his mother he contains himself and he says nothing to his mother that's how far this dumba benecina how far his covet his honor for his parents went i'm actually always much more taken by that story i used to worry going into a career of genoch i had a worry that that maybe i'm just a better businessman than people earn large money what's the point of money is they turn it into honor you buy things you buy a nice car and you get honor i used to worry that maybe a mechanic is just a smarter businessman why go from money to honor go right to coven like skip a step just seems a smarter business deal and i would worry about that that that may be and if it is a worry have to make sure that our cavanaugh's our intentions are proper and thought out otherwise we could just be a smarter businessman as such maybe being somebody who cares about covered more perhaps i was much more taken by the second story that he gave up money story number one okay but at least let him maintain his honor he gave up money but he still got bengali so clearly his honor was intact but then his mother took away his cupboard in front of such a gathering his mother ripped up his garment his mother spit him in the face his mother slapped him grab him disgrace he didn't say anything to his mama he accepted it and he didn't say that what a keeper i'm amazed from the story comes tysos and this thai says i don't think i had the experience in anything i've ever learned of being more disappointed comes tysos and he says yesh bimedrish he brings the medrash that his mother was metuhref es medeita his mother wasn't normal and when i learned this tysous i was devastated i happen to be very attracted to that second story that less famous story about dumba benecina his willingness to part with coven and respect his mother and then comes along texas and he says ahmedrish that his mother wasn't normal and i was so fresh i love tysus thai says geshmach to learn this tysons why'd he tell me the medrash i was devastated i was so taken by the story i was taken by an amazing story why would he bring this medrash that says she wasn't normal all of a sudden i'm less impressed with the story ah she wasn't normal okay what do you expect she wasn't normal so i'm less impressed he took away beforehand his healthy mama came in spit him in the face smacked and ripped his garment i was this time him i was amazed from the from the amazing self-control his amazing keyboard understanding of mama despite what she did to him he understood what it means a mother but then tysis brings a medrish that she he says there exists he's not even like this is saying there exists such a majorish that his mother was mature she wasn't normal why did this just bring this did he not ruin the whole gemara so i don't know about you are you i'm less impressed ah she was mature okay the story went down many notches by me so the truth is you have to analyze texas and there's what there's a lot of torah to think about what isis was addressing isis doesn't just quote random madrushim and i'm not here to discuss that i don't want that and i've thought about it and it's worthy of thought and if one day you want to learn tysons it would be young we should study that tyson's amazing amazing texas but i really came to tell you a story less than to learn this texas though have the thai space in your in your pocket that's only a good thing but the story i want to tell you is that when i thought over what tyson's told me not saying why he told it to me but taiser says she was metuhrefs medaita she wasn't normal i want to say that haridama venezina come to sacha madrega his mother disgraced him embarrassed him in public he doesn't say anything to her and i want to tell you that all of us have things we're very good at and things we're not so good at and in all our lives they're two sugars it's very important to take stock what you're good at and what you're not very important to learn what we're good at and what we're not it's an important part of life i'll tell you an interesting thing in yeshiva bayas is a very kind place a gentle place and you would think we have sports teams you would think what we would do is every player should get equal time you see my warp mine we spoke like sports last night today we just won a big game i'm just t4 i haven't gone past the wolf packs big win last night and you would think every player gets equal time in a place that's kind and gentle so let's make sure every guy gets equal time i don't i think that's damaging youngsters if you do that it's damaging people because there's a sugar of finding out i excel at this i'm i do this this and each thing deserves honor one guy draws and it doesn't mean i shouldn't do things i'm not good at it doesn't mean that at all and by the way there are many times to come out of our comfort zones i've analyzed this so do it myself i don't swim i'm not good at it and i think about it but maybe you should put yourself out there who said you shouldn't and a lot of life is going out of our comfort zones so it's a subject knowing what i'm good at what i'm not good at and certainly if we have talents and skills we're making that and things we're not so good at okay so when that okay so and then we have to think about it sometimes what we're strong at is a big guide of our life that tells me i should get busy with those things hashem gave me gifts hashem gave you gifts and it's a subject to study and to really learn what i'm strong and what i'm not a very healthy subject and to play every guy equal time is defying a very healthy sugar of self-acceptance of knowing my strengths encourage the guy who's weak at basketball get on the team and you made it there's a player one of the guys is the weak one of the weakest guys on the team and he worked his heart out i'm so proud of him and finally the best player fouled out of the game three games ago the best player fouled out we all i was at the game it was on long island we're all like oh no our best guy failed out he's now five fouls high school rules he's out of the game and the guy who never gets minutes came in and then it was a tight tight game and he shoots from the corner i have to say i was in the stands i'm like oh like oh no swish the biggest shot of the game he hit so of course come out of your comfort zone and push and the whole team was rallied around him so for sure but there's a surgery of what we're good at and what we're not and to direct ourselves to what our missions every person has to know their strengths and weaknesses and i want to say that you and i are terrible judges terrible we're weak judges we're not good at judging we all have to know that we are not good at judging how did dumbo benecina come to such madregas that his mother ripped his garment publicly spit him in the face and slapped him tysonist brings a medrish that it's possible yes there exists that she was mature f s medita that she wasn't normal there exists such a madrid that she wasn't well was stable and the answer unhealthy people make the sugar of their life judging the other person that person's bad that person's fault but we're not good at that we don't know the other by the way whoever we're dealing with there might be a madrish that them to refuse we don't know what they're capable of that and dhamma ben nasino didn't make the subject of his life about his mother he knew that yesh medrash she might not be normal and instead the sugya is a place he could control himself his reactions his healthiness his sense of security the suggestion let's stick to what we're good at and let's avoid in this case you and i are not good judges we're just not we're never are we it's so good i think to myself all the time that hashem is the judge not you and i because we're just not good at it there's too much information we don't know there's too much information that we can't know so i want to say in studying this tysons that it actually gave me tremendous hazard in the final analysis because in dealing with all the situations always remember that tysons that we really don't know how much somebody's responsible we are not good judges we're not good at that at that game at that activity we aren't good judges so in a topic one that were gathered together and the topic was about when our children don't reach what we judge to be there that what we judged and hope for them to reach i want to start message one that we are not good judges we're just not and i believe that's an important thing to keep in mind amongst our skills and we're skilled and talented being a judge is not our greatest skill encouraging loving all things that we're great at we have a power and a force at that inspiring encouraging loving even criticizing when it's needed and to the right amount all things we could do judging is not our strength yesh madrish i want to say a second point and then i want to get to really the top the nukuda i want to share with everybody here the second point i want to make is that when we have dreams for our children and when we sense frustration all of us are our kids reaching our dream there's a tremendous beauty to that and the beauty there's a beauty to that frustration and this is extremely real there's a beauty to that frustration and we have to pause and celebrate that beauty this is not pretend stuff i want to share a story of visceral cilantro that if you study it well is something profound i want to share with you there's something to me you very deep about this story and very powerful rebistrol cilantro is thank you so much dancing review tyre with his tamid their dancing mac rebecca was known was very very lebanese tyra and they're dancing crazy lebanon champion they're excited for tyra please hear this story deeper than this there's a tremendous depth to this planet so the dancing ismak in the middle of all the lebanese dancing rab israel disappears from the room to the shack of the talmidim to the chagrin of the talmidam they wanted a dance with the holy rebel visceral is gone and middle tell me you dance tyra what a dream with that rebbe with the torah it doesn't get better than that and the red was gone talmidam are very curious and they find rebusro in a different room somewhere and he's sitting there sad rabbi stroll on yamcha was never said they had a healthy fear of their rebbe and nobody wanted to disturb his thoughts why is and he went off private but the talmudim found him and saw the rebbe out of sadness one there was one person there who was a caver of yisrael he was a friend of your throat he wasn't the talmud and as such he had a little more guts he was like what they call a talmud he was a friend and a talmud so he went up to rebus throne and he whispered to be thrown young what's going on so it was a big throw it was open and vulnerable he said i was dancing and loving it we have a tyrant and then he said i felt some contradictions i felt my own insecurities and my own questions on myself and i got sad about it and he expressed some of his insecurities about his own i'm dancing with the torah do i always take this so seriously and rebistrol was open with his friend about feelings difficult feelings his friend heard rebus rolls open heart and his friend burst out crying he started thinking of his own hearing remy rebuttal with real insecurities made his friend feel insecure also he started crying now the talmudim saw the friend cry they weren't afraid of him they said why are you crying and he expressed and all the time they're all crying it's like for for for us laughing at the muslim movement don't laugh so fast listen to this they're all crying sam christopher young to be in the tarnish you're not allowed rebuceros stands up like a lion and he says something so profound he said rabbi say we had a first part of simcha tyra where we danced and sang us with the torah then an insecure thought a longing a lacking hit us all and we cried he said rabbi say come back to the dance floor with me and let you see our chukos you see our yearnings you see what we want and what we're interested in everybody back to the dance floor harder stronger with more look at us look at what we want look at what hurts us and they dance like they never dance before all rabies thrall with all the talmidam and the second point i want to make on this subject is that when a person experiences such a pain there's a realness because archoka is to be abde hashem and archoka is farmers bachuis and you can have a whole simchastira coming in touch with that choker so it's not to give answers to it's to make a simphous tyron the choker rebuchta mispadi lemakhali he turned the eulogy into a dance her father you have turned miss but the asmid a eulogy lumacholi into a circle and radius roll was yurid that when we touch chuka when we touch a craving and we touch a frustration there's a sim card there that's authentic that's deeply authentic it's to authenticate that we're here shabbos that all of us have a choker in honesty an honest choker to serve hashem and an honest choker that amish bach serve hashem because authentically we desire that which is true authentically we desire that's what's real i have a suspicion that our whole shabbos and our whole gathering it passed us to me we should like dance the rest of shabbos that we walked into stamford is a chuka is a deep choker for hashem that me and you have we should then dance and sing a whole shabbos for the ms that you and i want to serve hashem and we want our children to serve hashem that's what's valuable that's what's precious before studying any suggest before attempting any answers that's that's a deep answer it's the deepest answer rabbi scroll wasn't like a schtick he had a hap he came to ansem because of samhastra he came to the deepest place he came to that place him in his talmidam and he through feeling through difficult why was he matter himself to cry in synchronic it happened there was an anus it was an anus but he but he could have stopped the shalom to stop it he came to satoru he came to a profound hakara of his desire for torah of his love of torah and he brought his talmidam to that love of torah so i want to say rabbi say this second point that just standing here in stamford connecticut you and i have a chuuka of deep profound choker it expresses itself often by our desires for our children but there's a profound choker for hashem a choke of a careless hashem profound profound feel it in our sadness feel it feel it and dance over that feel that that's that's powerful to feel it's just to feel bashoka for for for kirba's hashem that i often think perhaps in our tsar in our difficult in difficulties we don't trade we don't we don't get in touch with this point that there's a beauty there's a choker there's a profound choker for kiribati hashem for avoid this hashem that's oh so real and oh so powerful and reviseral and islamida made a sim on this choker they made a satyr it's hard for me to go to point three because it's hard for me to get past that to be honest it's hard to me because because that's kiera sally kimberly is is deep runs deep and is just a truth it's a truth it's a truth that all of us know and sense and different things of our life bring us to that i know a person i know a person who was thinking about who was in a wasn't from and was making life's decisions a very holy person today was making wasn't sure how she wanted to go in her life she was clearing serious things she read in a book that anybody who doesn't do a certain thing is not a yid so she called up the author being a seeker and she said is it true if you don't do this you're not a yidd am i slugged up so the person profoundly said it's true so this lady this wonderful girl screams into the phone yippee i'm excited you slugged me up if she was a boy she'd hand in her yarmulke you slugged me up the most profound thing we can be handed the most profound is to be in touch with our choker it's the most profound thing is to get in touch i'll tell you a story that that i want to share with you the early days of yeshiva i did a lot of beginners and we were figuring out who we can take into the yeshiva so i had a fact that i learned from my tattoo i had a shot that i learned from my father the hap is a guy would come to date my sisters so my father is going to give the guy your beginner the guy just traveled in from lakewood from baltimore you're going to give him start being boyfriend the guy so my father would tell him of heart would talk tyra and see how excited he was that was how instead of being bullied and tell him tyra and see how excited he was so i decided a guy comes for an interview i'm going to describe rochnius to the guy i'm going to describe as best as i can kirbus hashem and that's my beginner's gonna be i would see guys in the office drooling the guy was begging i want to start this minute i want to come i want it craving it and then i'd meet the guy and he was a difficult guy we couldn't manage so a cynic would say okay he's an actor he's not an actor you know everybody in the office they know what to say promise they're very few i'm a horrible actor in the plays my mother was in the camp i grew up in she was the judges that russell can testify so they had me in the play to earn points by my mama she'll give him more points for the team i can't act the same acting as murder to be somebody else's heart how do you be somebody else if you it's it's like a complicated zack i'm like people act they become somebody else and it's hard enough to be me would be him to adaptation to be somebody else is pretty amazing so here every guy all of a sudden is good they should make millions i there's one tom cruise each guy this guy every guy mamish we should have like a world of actors actors wouldn't make so much money actresses yadayan is a good actor a good actress not it's a shecker it's a lie the answer is kayla's you were interviewing the guy you were trying to find out if he hasn't a summer by the way it's a stupid question he has a soul basically i was interviewing we crave rookies we crave it and so the interview is trying to find out if he has a soul and i found out the olive souls now i only interview the eight zoro i want to meet his yeah it's harder to know what we can do i only want to know about what's the eighth half what's the nature of yet do you have a soul we have a craving souls but it's important to get in touch with that but it's important and when we have sincere authentic moments and different things in our life when we touch that we're powerful when we touch that we're powerful and when some when the question you and i ask is how do we contend with the terror of a child that's not that's not going in the way that we desire the first step is feel it feel it understand you and i have a choker for hashem have a choker well passed we're not worried what the neighbors we'll nevada what the neighbors are going to say what the what the school's going to say you and i care profoundly about avoid this hashem touch that feel that live with that understand that and then go pray understand that get in touch let's get in touch with that that's an answer not a question that is an answer that's something we must feel and touch it wasn't those interviews weren't a waste i should go back to except it had no shakers it's not the question about accepting again but they were good for me to touch that people have a massive craving a craving for hashem my two favorite moments in yeshiva like not clothes are kiddish friday night i love kiddish when you didn't stand around their table and acknowledge hashem's deburry and i love shallow shoulders when we sing you did nephesh shabbos is bookended and every kid sings about hashem are you that which the the adidas that passionate that we crave hashem's attachment we crave a connection to we have to touch that and feel that i'm supposed to move on to a third point i'm struggling to move on from that let me share a third point but with that second point i really want to go right into shabbos off that second point let's share a third point my kids and i have a you know i said you should know your strengths so again i don't know everything's going back to sports i hope they don't throw me out before chavez but aya russell could testify very good peripheral vision i i see very well from the side i played point guard my whole life and i'm good for him i'm right now i'm looking at rebel hill you can believe me now i see him clearly i'm looking at him right now i have good peripheral vision it's an oddity in in in sports if you're a point guard you tend you have to watch this guy cut to throw him a good pass you see this guy cutting it's good for classroom management that you can look straight and i have good peripheral vision just funny zach i was a good point guard my master show off a little so i have good privilege yeah i never told my son this story i was on a plane with my son mush true story we were flying somewhere and i was i told this guy we were flying somewhere and he had the middle seat and an elderly gentleman he had the file seat and an elderly gentleman had the middle seat and i was the aisle so we both had aisles and next is us now i was standing up talking to my son and the elderly man had gone to use the facilities and he returned and the guy says and i say to my son i'm talking to my son and i see him there i say to my son my shift you can stand up to let him through the man says to me the exact words he says whoa you have good peripheral vision my son couldn't stop laughing he's like you paid him before he's asking the man did my father pay you to say true story the guy said my son was like asking if i paid that we couldn't stop okay so the man i got a little validation in life he said i have good peripheral vision why am i telling you about peripheral vision a very sad point i was speaking at a school and i was talking to the rebellion in school and i see it's a it's a conversation a serious conversation and peripheral vision maybe like sitting with mrs mandel right where you're sitting miss mendel and the guy a guy stands up now during a q a when a guy stands up to ask a question that's not like normal we're talking it was like a schnickel even threatening and that was maybe bad i wish i didn't have peripheral vision but i see a guy like stand up to ask something i knew this is going to be a tough guy this is going to be serious if you know the world of texts if i ever get a text that says dear rabbi kalish you know when you see your text before you open it you can see the first few words if it says dear abe cash i hold on to my seat the person is going to rip it's going that's just how it is dear rabbi kalish it means he's good i know you mean well but i don't know why this dear right because that's just the don't you see those words be ready to open that text so solomyssa the guy stands up you know what's coming and out of my peripheral vision i see the guy stanza and he says to me that you're a dangerous man so i said okay let me hear it's interesting explain say says to me that you're dangerous he said you honor people that are doing bad things that are not doing what we want and you're dangerous you're validating you're validating things you're very dangerous by giving honor to somebody who's struggling say you're a dangerous man very very dangerous so i that's what this man right corner stood up and announced how dangerous that you're giving honor to somebody who's doing things that we don't approve of and you're validating behavior there's a big soggy like this there's a big soggy you're not allowed to give honor to a russia it's an israelis and he's saying your honor and you're dangerous is it says you have to give up your life not to do it and he's saying kayla you're troublesome i asked him if i can rephrase his question if i can if i if he allows me could i resale your question i said is it possible that you have the following plan you have a plan we all want our youth we have dreams we have values we have places we want them to get is it possible that you have the following plan that your plan is produce i'll respect you produce and i'll respect you don't produce you know you're the guy who's getting good grades you're the guy coming to minion so then you get respect we all crave covered we crave respect so you have a plan do it do what we want you to do and you'll get respect don't then you get no respect that's a very cool plan it probably would work to to some degree if we said in our homes that i only you only get to eat if you get behaviors you don't eat so it might cause good baby pavlov tried this with dogs so you have a plan with honor that's your plan so comes this person and give if you give that kid in my class respect who i'm telling him that produce get respect don't produce and don't get respect so you mamish destroyed my system you gave him respect how dare you how dare you your mom is shrugged up my whole system my i had a plan a brilliant plan produce respect don't produce no respect if anybody dares give respect you're dangerous you mean you slug you're like you're destroying my whole system i asked him two questions he said what should i do if i do respect the guy i just think he's good like it took giving respect like it's a candy let's say i respect the guy let's say i talk of respect that the person said ben adam his let's say i just what should i do so after work and you're saying okay don't don't don't you dare show them yeah if we have to teach courses that if you respect the guy because it's a person or ben adam who's working so you probably should have to work you're telling me we should all have enough courses to make sure not to respect somebody one of the first questions were asked after 120 is did you show respect to your friend there is a suggest called covered for tamil and we can analyze and think about that production and certain production may give more respect there is room for higher levels we don't stand up when every kid walks into the room but there's a covered that is owed to every yid by his essence [Applause] a yid is owed and an intelligent person respects a person a person is dignified a person a yid specific guy is dignified a guy is precious have even adam it's a mishna it's nothing short of a mishna if somebody puts down nagoya's problems have even odom a person is precious it's a mishna it doesn't speak about what his accomplishments are never been and then a yid that's higher is abundant doesn't talk about his accomplishments a person is valuable and precious and has meaning and purpose who they are who they are basic of yet a person's precious but then yes shucks uh-oh so now you have to be mkhabit people oh what happened i had a good plan i'm only going to feed covet if you behave so i want to tell you a little secret that being the way this world works i think it's not an awareness how this world works let's study the nature of the world khazal tell us that his garments didn't warm him khazal explained that david hamelech caught shawl's garment and there was a level he wasn't and since he didn't respect them they lost their kayak they didn't warm the nature of the world the nature respects something it gives it kayak a friend of mine went to the stipeler and he asked him about a certain yid who seems to be pile your shoes who does amazing stuff and my friend i heard this with these ears he is my friend told it to me and he went to the sniper he said in midst of the conversation that is this i hear such stories about this year and the stifler said of course people are meshabbit him it gives him kindness people respect him it gives him power the way hashem made the world is if your mohabbate begot them they warm it gives the kayak to the item the smartest man says that if your mushab mitzvahs mitzvahs have a power to impact us in turn if you study it and appreciate this mitzvah this particular mitzvah i just went to a friend of mine married off this week his daughter's first child was a very happy and i went to the semra my friend before the khasna he's the type he's studying cooper he studied the suggest of marriage a married wife a child he was on fire at the chasm he was present he was focused he was that he was doing something at this hustler if you value something if you appreciate something it gives the thing a kayak it gives it a value it gives it a power that's how this world works we're surrounded by beautiful things what unlocks what unleashes things what allows begotten to warm is being mishabbed so it's pompa carrot saying dangerous you give coven it's the only danger is you'll have people all over unlocked it is dangerous because you'll have a powerful world a damnit he's right it's dangerous but latoya it's fire and it's not it's this is not us this is not a small give covered like it's a chocolate bar you hand out be merchable that hashem chose a people chose a people created a people that hashem was he chose the people as his own beni israel hashem called us and on any person he or she hashem said on him hashem said on her beni i'm so fascinated that hashem didn't say it to us a good tribute question in the torah that were called the children of hashem who was it said to yes people they assume it said to us i'm so fascinated that hashem said it to paris because better than telling your kid how much you love them of course you tell them how much you're into them though of course you tell them is they over here then the best time you ever spoke about our children is that they're not even in the room or in the house the world their waves their waves when you're sitting somewhere far away you're just gushing about your child the best time their waves their ways it's more powerful than what you told them much more they're waves it's powerful you're alone some we're just talking a little the most powerful time you ever complimented your child is it made him me and god you and god he said hashem i really appreciate this precious person she's so sweet he's so hashem thank you that's the most precious time you ever think you ever appreciated your child i promise it's postured their waves we sit here we studied taira beni bihari's throw with every person was told this you know why they were told because god said it to paris there's a soggy called torah that's had that's hashem speaking to para with his messenger when when every girl and boy any yidd ever was told this because hashem said it through his messenger through his through his loyal messenger mushroom so this saw you that respecting somebody but not for what they could be not what they will be but for who they are respecting and appreciating in a profound way in a profound way rev hirsch calls this the bedrack of education he calls it the bus as the base of education everything else is like built on this the rambam's sound liberal like crazy you'll sound but who cares how you sound in a world devoid of coven if you speak about such a revolution you sound crazy but we'll create and we'll have people capable of course it's a world that's supposed to have so much honor honor the parents honored to rebellion honor to elders will start the revolution by raising people who have been respected who are capable of respecting who are capable of appreciating will raise generations like them so being meshabed unleashes kais it unlocks that's how hashem made the world be and it warms hashem chose is the secret of this world so i wanna hazard the three points that we studied this arab shabbas kudish and i'm told i'm overtime it's an old problem so i have two reasons to get fired a lot of sports and overtime so i want to we're ending right now the three the three things are one we're in talking about the suggest of judging we're bad judges we're not good at it yes with two reference mediator we're coming in touch with a choker that's very very real very powerful and worthy of doing something with that of harnessing that of experiencing that as a there's a beauty right there and the third point that being the habit being the habit and seeing beauty in people unleashes congress it's probably the biggest force in the world to unleash kirkus that exists in everything in this world a good narrative shabbos and thank you so much