Parshas Vayeitzey: The Love of David and Yehonatan - The Revelation of the Rama Mipano

this Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime.com okay welcome everyone so this is our second sheare here at our new venue we want to welcome all of our Torah anytime viewers and we want to uh invite all of our viewers to join us in our new venue here in Cedarhurst at 568 Peninsula Boulevard um 11 1516 everyone's invited to our very comfortable and uh look forward to seeing everyone over here okay so um this evening we want to investigate a very interesting subject a very interesting topic tonight we're going to speak about a speak about love and the mishna says in that there are various categories OFA the mishna says that it all depends if it's conditional or unconditional says When Love is dependent on something when it's conditional so then whatever it's conditional on whatever it's to on when that thing ceases that's the end of the however any which is unconditional then will last forever and the Mish asked what's an example of what's an example of a conditional love the love of and which was not really AA was more like lust and as soon as the reason for it ended the AA ended and actually they each other however the Mish says what is an example of the most altruistic the purest unconditional love the love of David and that is held up as the Paragon as the quintessential example of AA and when we come to the love of David and yisan we encounter something very unusual janisan tells David you know right now I'm next in line to be king my father father my father is the king I'll be the next king of but the truth is I don't mind you'll be the next king I'll be your I'll be second in command okay so here was next in line to be the king and he says it's not a problem you D you could be the king I'll serve you I'll be second and Comm I'll be M I mean I don't know about you but in in the world of rabbis it doesn't work that way if somebody's the rashash and someone's the man I guarantee you it never happened in the history of the world where the rash you know what you could be the rash I'll be your assistant I can guarantee you it never happen in fact it never happened anywhere on planet Earth where somebody who was in charge said to the guy who was going to be his second in command you know what you can have the covet you can have the responsibility and I'll be M you something like that doesn't happen it's it's unusual human beings don't work that way when a person has a certain position they want to remain in that position when a person is being groomed to be the M they expect to be the M they don't they would never give such a thing up and here says no problem you you'll rule I'll be second in command what's the explanation of that also if you look in in when D found out about the demise of eulogized he was he gave a hit for he said the following he says it pains me I'm grieved over you my brother you are so sweet to me you know how much I love you your love is wondrous to me greater than the love of women I love you so much DAV DAV says son the I I just have an outpouring of AA for you I love you more than women I mean you would not expect D to invoke that you're not expecting to mention that why is he even using that as an analogy as much as I love I love you even more it's unusual for such a thing to come mouth why is he invoking in describing his love for yanes this is a very big question this is a question of the Rami ramam pan was one of the Italian Rao was a contemporary of the in fact the lived in in in is and in there were no printing presses so how's going to publish B on the Torah all the printing presses in the time were in Venice thei poano lived in Venice sent the folios the manuscripts of he sent it to ramano to publish for him so ramano was one of the early it he wants to know why would D Express himself in this way says why would he Express himself in this way okay so we come to and we know we meet in this week's par for the first time and we know thei tells us in we l it on the second day of about the Cry of the famous words of the right where says I hear I hear a voice on high wailing bitter crying crying for her children she she can't be consoled for her children they're not here says stop crying don't allow your eyes to cease from tears there's reward for your actions that's the famous promise of that in the Merit of your cry clo will once again return to this is the Eternal cry ofu and there's a famous medish and it's to know where it is and to see some of the words inside the medish in the the tells us that this is not just a cry of because after all all of our for us all of our for us but nevertheless of all the of all our illustrious ancestors the one which is most effective and is pile the most is the Cry of RA in fact the med tells us that the time ofik came to said how could you allow the B this to be destroyed I waited 100 years to have a child 100 years to have a son and you tell me go my son and I who was the greatest in history I took my son I took and he was 37 years old I was 137 years old and I had to be an AAR to my son and I had to tie up my own son and I had to be K I had to conquer my Mercy to my son if I could overcome my to my son can't you overcome your your feelings of anger to look at me look what I did and says n not good enough is nice thing we remember on rash but at this time it ain't going to cut so comes says okay he was at least he would have been alive but I was an adult and I allowed myself to be Sheed I stuck out my neck so my father could slit my neck R look what I was willing to do for you can't that protect and said no not really it's not going to do it and then y says R 20 years I I ran to Love's house after 14 years spending in and after that I encounter and I was to try to save my family from as all that protect hasem said not really no nice try and finally the med says I want you see inside over here in the second column on page one says the med on the fourth line on second column at that moment jumps before God it's revealed before you know loved me a great love and he worked for my father for seven years and when the seven years were up I realized that my father was going to switch me with my sister I didn't like it it was very painful you know we think yeah ra just gave it up the M says no it hurt her deeply it hurt her acutely and I made up with my husband the Ser Simmon I made up with like a secret code that this way Loven would not be able to switch us and we made a deal Yakov and I made a deal that if Lin tries to play any any tricks we're going to catch him he's not going to be able to do it but I was worried about the shame of my sister I was worried about my my sister's embarrassment so what happened I gave over the to my sister Leia says if I flesh and blood if I wasn't jealous of my competitor I didn't allow her to be embarrassed you living and enduring God are you going to be jealous of other gods who are nothing re if I could overcome the jealousy to my sister can't you God overcome the jealousy that you have to the other says the med at that moment and the question we would like to deal with is what exactly did ra do greater than I meanu waited 100 years to have a kid 100 years okay he did everything possible did the a time went to every organization it didn't work they said I'm it's not going to work sorry she's not infertile she's not she's an Islander she doesn't have a re there's no chance sorry you have to go elsewhere it's not it's not possible he waits 100 years to have a kid he has the kid and when he's 37 years old hasm says him and he's ready to sh him and that can protect so so big deal ra wanted to marry one guy a lot of people on the market why was this a greater Z than anything Abraham did anything did anything yob did anything M did what's up what's up right what's up so and we know that was strategically placed at her Kev because not only did she was she aware that she would be needed one day but yab who who buried her there was also aware that she would be needed to be buried there one day in fact when asks to bury him take him out of and bring him to so yob says to Y look I know you're you're very bothered by this request cuz I'm ask asking you to do something that I myself did not do for your mother I know I when your mother died when died Rashi says that did not even bring her into is you know there's an amazing rashi rashi says that was buried in say how could that be she's buried in she's buried in look she says number seven that says I buried her there I didn't even bring her to to bring her into I just buried her in so there's a big on this rash what are you talking about he buried her in what does it mean but any event it's a it's a topic in and of itself what does Rashi mean but Rashi saying that y was saying look I know you're bothered I know you're upset that I'm asking you to do something that I might myself did not even do to to your mother I had a reason for that sayso you should know that I did it how's that that I for that one day would be exiling is and would be leaving and in the eyes of that's it they're leaving never to return again and ab is going Tove in and gonna dve in and jakob's gonna dve in and mha's gonna D is gonna say no no no sorry too bad it's all over andu as CL was passing by her Kev which was strategically located on the roadside is going to emerge on her grave she's gonna for and that's going to be the only thing that saves them so y don't be bothered why I didn't bring her into I needed to bury her there because CLA is dependent on HT nobody else like in fact even more interesting more interesting for the first time and the first time cries yeah what's so sad I mean this is the this is the kala over here what's he crying he he knew he was going to marry why is he crying so Rashi says on the spot that even though he's going to marry this lady he would not be to be buried next to her and that's why he was crying soes asked that's what kind of reason is that to cry what does it affect him that he's not going to be buried with Raa it bothers him it's so sad you know what first get married and then have a life and then you worry about it when you get when you die who you going to be buried no before he even marries the lady he's ready crying he's not going to be buried next to her says no why yob saw when when yob saw ra he realized he wasn't going to be very next to her why wasn't he going to be very next to her cuz he knew CLA would be in such hot water that the only person who could save them was RA so he saw the gas when he saw Rael he saw why we needed ra he saw the Goos and that's why y was crying he saw the hot water CL was destined to be in and therefore again like we see Ru was strategically located in a place where we needed her and we were able to utilize her in fact the Met says that the conversation between yaku and the Shepherds of laan when they ask when they when yaku asks the Shepherds may I and they said the reads into this that what was says I feel I feel I feel one day is going to be in a terrible mat and the Shepherds say don't worry meaning you'll be safe from it why because you have so ra is you know the last the last hope when all else fails when there's a concept right there's such a thing we D every day remember but on the other hand the says there's a concept it's that we could be in a situation where we Max stand on our and at the end of the day the only one who could help us is what is it about her why is she the one could pull through for us when nothing else helps in fact the Z says the same thing number 13 Z says on the words says in the Merit of the mother will end ultimately because of the Cry of and brings down from that every night when have accustom to get down on the floor and to say why at that moment says every midnight ra comes out over her grave and she cries over so this is not just One Time Event it wasn't just when was exiling us it's every single night ouru he's not helping us at midnight it's not it's not anybody else it's only ra what did ra do okay so we know well look she gave up her husband her whole life she was uh anticipating awaiting this to marry and at the last moment she gave up her her whole future how did she give it up so we're all familiar the ptic says take a look at number 15 it was the morning behold Le right we know whenever it says the word in the h means surprise right in Yesa they translate behold but nobody has any clue what the word behold means it's not like when you talk to somebody how you doing behold I would like it's not a word that anybody uses normal people don't the word means it's a surprise something unexpected in the morning surprise that's p a big surprise wrong WR girl right a little bit of a mixup so ask about what do you mean in the morning is what about at night it was also Leia at night it was also surprise at night so Rashi said No at night y had no clue that it was LE y thought it was RA why how's that but what about what happened to the Rashi brings down look at the rash gave signs to but saw that they bringing in Le she said my sister is going to be embarrassed she gave them she gave her the the says the same thing asash the calls it something very interesting in the Merit of Ra's modesty that she gave over the she merited to have sha who came from sha who Sha's son J son and the Merit of the of sh came Esther and what kind of did ra have so the says that when Rael met so told by the way you know my father's love meaning he's the biggest scam artist in history yob said no problem I could match him I could deal with him I could you know go go measure to measure with ra with with no problem so ra says but you're a only a trick is not true with a trickster with a scam artist you could be a scam a liar I will go measure to measure with him so ra said but but what are you going to do so no problem we'll make S on him we'll make a code and whatever kind of stick he plays we'll catch him so the L of the gar is gave to by the way if you look back in the med in the was right the is RA gave the to the of the is gave theim to ra so we'll have to deal with that so the says the of that she gave over the Simon Le by the way there just a t tangental what do you mean the how's that it's modesty to give up I understand if the would say that ra Gave Over the because she she felt bad she didn't want her sister to be embarrassed what kind of it's notos to give over s how is that modesty so once heard many years he said there really two things going on over here because what did ra do ra Gave Over the to to Le why did ra have to give over the ra could have gone to LA and say laan you could pull every trick in the world it's not going to help we have a secret code and that would have stopped it just as well instead of giving it over to Leia why didn't ra just tell nothing you could pull we have a secret code the answer is it would be a lack ofos for L to know that there's like person things going on between between ra this is for her to dul it to the outside world of personal conversation personal things that would be a lack ofas fine so she didn't do that but she could have um she didn't have to give it over to Leia the fact she gave it over to Leia that was also protecting her shame as okay so now we come to something something very interesting the Mas asked how did yakob fall for it okay very nice Le knew the S and we'll have to see what exactly were the S but Yakov must have asked her you know what's going on how do you enjoy the wedding what's happening you had a good time and she must have said something right so he didn't recognize her voice I mean the gamar says the biggest is a voice no two people in the world have the same voice in fact the gamar even says that a blind person cannot have relations until he hears the voice otherwise he doesn't know who it is the voice is the most distinguish distinguishable characteristic of a person so yob didn't hear the lady speak that's the so it's point that if you look back at the medis in the medis says an amazing thing now other disagree with this but if you look in the says that not only gave her the she went into the room she was and when spoke to Leia Leia didn't say a word Rael spoke for Leia could you can you imagine such a thing could anyone tolerate it's bad enough that gave up not only did she give him up she gave over not only she facilitated the otherwise she would have been caught she was there she was didn't say a word how a human being could possibly ever reach such a madga where they gave up everything in their life you know if anybody could ever do such a thing they would say fine you want him take him and and they would move to a different planet or something no she's right there she's speaking onal of now most most disagree with this how they could dis with the medi for examplei says in number 20 is bothered by this how could y not recognize Leia's voice and says well that's because there is no conversation taking place is that at that situation at that time so this show the certain guide guiding conversation you could take a look in in inim there certain and they were abiding by these yob didn't hear the didn't hear the yob didn't hear so he was not he did not recognize the uh he did not recognize the voice by the way there's a saer written by wrote a where he also writes that um Leia nobody spoke there was no there's no talking and did not hear anything that didn't recognize didn't recognize what were these what were the what were these what was the code 613 you know what was the code if that's the code I mean you could get into anywhere that every single right what was the code what was the code says the this says the code was like this we know there are three that women need to know what are they this was the magical formula you know he does what do you have to say and she maybe she said bang she's good she's good to go that's whates an amazing thing say the way the she's she comes into contact with the right big toe and the right big thumb and the right earlobe says that was the Simmon that gave to the right big toe the right big thumb and the right big ear and this chases out of the man sh them somehow men have a lot of Shad in them it's t true you know so the way you get it out is you have this the right big toe right big earo I can't get into anymore these These are the facts you know if you want to know more then we'll talk about it privately these were the Sim gave says says like this it says that Tamar was the first woman talking about this we know says that that a woman will not become pregnant from the first from the first relations right so the question is what do you mean said about ruu is is the first seed of how's that such a thing possible so there's an idea the says that was a first lady she was she removed her manually and that rendered her a CLE and that's how was able to be so then asks was the first person obviously Le did it first because Le was right how because we know so says like this the Simon that made with ra is Yu said that I'm is I'm yes and I am I don't even want be to go so therefore you need to be you need to render yourself a CLE even before the Kad that's the Simon ra then went ahead and told Leia the Simon so Leia was the first person who did but she didn't do it on her own so that's why the gamar says the first person to do it was T that's why when Tamar says to Yehuda Yehuda you want to know where how come the I'm pregnant she uses the following could be arranged know you know where I got this from your mother you're blaming it on me go to your own mother she's the one who invented this so so far we have three okay one isot is what the brings down the the toe the thumb the earlobe and the other shot is so let's go back to the the G says that gave the says gave to is it a not they're three different they're different some of theob gave to ra ra gave to it's not a just it's that's why it's called it wasn't one sim that had a whole host of things she had to like do different tricks to prove that she in fact is is Rael and Rael and gave them all up to to another amazing thing talk about the you know you have you have it was no different back then you have to give the kala gifts you got to give her the diamond ring you got to give her the bracelet the with the name on it all the things they have the candlesticks right there are a lot of gifts they have to give especially they're engaged for seven years and every shabas he sent her and every week you know UPS came with delivery to Lan's house and it said on the gift to ra says the medish Lan ripped off the address ripped off the name and he wrote Leia on it and what's going on where are my gifts and she didn't say a word she didn't want to embarrass her sister and every Friday Leia would come sit at the table with her jewelry with her bracelets and raal kept her man closed knowing for well that yakob sent it to her and Lan switched it for leam but now we come across something which is the most astounding of all cuz if you look in the P look at number 27 we know that in the house of the other there was a m there's a big competition going on you know when people are close to each other by naturally there's competition so it depends what people are into sometimes people are into material ISM so there becomes competition who could have more who could have more this more that well in the house of the other there was a different kind of competition who could have more children because the other viewed every child was the biggest BR in the world so naturally there was a lot of competition who's going to be M the biggest Mish and they all knew there were only going to be 12 children so the first one went to Leia the second one went to Leia the third one went to Leia R's going out of her mind what if she has one more she's going to have more than more than her share they're going and they're trying everybody's trying different ways to increase their fertility and one day the apost says Ruan went out look at number 27u even the children were competing in other words even the children wanted their mother to come out on top they wanted their mother to come out with like the gold medal most children from Yak so Ruan was searching the forest for like a fertility and deing herbs and he came across he came across the D was a certain type of herb which enhances ferity look her mother look what I got you won't believe it you're going to be on T you're going to win the race so ra do me a favor I don't have any kids you mind giving me some of the seeds you know at least can have one child it's bad enough you have the goal to steal and live with my husband you live with I married him first it's bad enough you're living with and now you want to take my my herbs my nutritional supplements it's bad enough you took my husband now you want to take my vitamins so ra said you're right it wasn't so wasn't so nice of me to take Yu so do me a favor you give me your nutrition nutritional supplements and you can have Yakov tonight what kind ofah is this of Leia it's bad enough he took my husband doesn't she know she's lucky she ever got to to live in yako has for one second she didn't belong here at all ra is the one who gave her everything she had she owed her life to ra she owed every minute with and she has a it's bad enough you stole my husband like Leia thinks who does Leia think she is she she thinks she's that she turn she turns to ra and she says bad enough you ever lived with my husband and now you want to take my nutritional supplements now you want to take my how could she ever bring herself to say those words I mean isn't that I mean in the whole tire I don't think I ever came across a bigger that's what that's how Leia talked to ra ra gave Leia everything and Leia's Making Believe like she forgot now she has three kids she thinks she's the is and ra is stealing yob if I if I were ra I would say to Leia the go of you the goal of you you shouldn't even be in this house get out of here you don't belong you were you were the one go marry asov you know I think asa's calling I think asov uh maybe I could set up a date with asov you and asov you're lucky I didn't have you know if he would have married to asov you'd be locked up in a room somewhere and ASA would have cut the telephone wire so you couldn't call the relief hotline you would have need y to Res res you from him it's and this what this is how ra talks to this how Leia talks to ra so you have to say that Rael made it that she wasn't doing a big deal by giving yob over to to to Leia ra made it no sweat off her back you want to marry him you can marry him in other words after ra gave the S to Leia how would Leia be able to live with herself her whole life knowing she owes her whole life to ra every minute she had with is because of what ra gave to her it'll be like let's say let's say you have a guy who has no money at all and you give him a million dollars but you insist on walking right next to him his whole life I mean he'll feel like a piece of dirt because every second you're rubbing it in that you gave him everything he has so I mean how did Leo live with herself next to Rael in the same house Rael must have really gone out of her way to make Leia feel so comfortable that Leia starts to begin to feel you know what I deserve y but still I mean this is Leia how could she ever bring herself to the state where she feels such a sense of entitlement that she owns yob and if ra wants to take her nutritional supplements she says it's bad enough you live with Y now you want to take my says Shalom one of the most astounding things you'll ever hear you have to say that the s that ra gave to Leia Rael never told Leia that she was giving her the S Leon never knew that ra gave her the S one day ra said to Le you know I hear uh yaku loves you so much every Friday he's sending you gifts it's it's beautiful I wish you all the BR in the world I just wanted to tell you a few things you know it's important you know there three Halas you really need to know because there are a lot of out there that they're going to want to make sure you know this the the wedding night so when you get married you need to know you need to know you need to know you know there's something that you might need to know maybe your's going to want want you to know something and then she told her over you know I just want to call you over you see this says that you know the right earlobe the right toe and the right thumb oh Lea thank you for telling me it's good to know that's how I'll get the Shad them out of my husband and the and also said look you know a lot of they're very holy you need to be never in a moment did Rael ever tell Leia she was doing her a favor Rael never said Leia I'm now doing you the biggest favor in the world Leia went her whole life thinking she deserved she was entitled to she never knew ra gave her the she thought that Ra was just helping her long she was a good K teacher she told her she told her the she told her the and Leia married yob thinking yob loved her yob gave her gifts and she never knew ra did her a favor so when Rael comes could you do could you you know maybe give me some of the D Leia said what D it's bad enough that he had to marry you also and you have to it's it's not enough that I let you move into the house it's bad enough that I did you a that you could also was so altruistic in her love for Leia to the point she never let on to Leia that she gave over the she never let on that that she was giving up all the she never let on she gave up her whole life for latea was one moment Hashem tells he was willing to do it and ultimately hasem said no and the AA was over and he got to go home and live the rest of his life in peace and quiet every second of Ra's life she Tippy toed around her sister so that her sister should not feel that she was seconding just the opposite she made it that she was second class Citizen and Leo was doing her a favor being married to yab that is the greatest how do you have such to give up everything where you're going to be the M you're going to be and you give it up to somebody else where you're second fiddle that's this was the greatest love in history the love that ra had to Leia there was another the love of David and David was the descendant of Leia Ra was the descendant of um yis was descendant of Ra yis was from how is it possible for a human being like Yan who was being groomed to be the next to give every everything up to DAV say David you'll be the king and I'll be your assistant that could only have come through Thea of RA giving over the to Le because Rael was the great ancestress of Y and Leo was the ANC ancestress of says when you look at the love that we have to each other it's it's unconditional love it's inexplicable it's undescribable where does such a thing come from how is it humanly possible who injected this into you that you say you'll be the king and I'll be second fin where does that come from says the ra says you know how wondrous your love is to me you know where it comes from from the love of two women you know it's two women ra and Le when Rael Gave Over the S to what Ra was doing was he she was injecting into CL the ability first of all to create could only come from complete when ra gave up her entire life all her hopes all her aspirations to the point she gave it up so altruistically where she made the other person feel that they deserved it and ra made herself feel she was second class that in that created M says son you should know that my love for you is not happens it's not just you know we we click we get along this was created May from the love that ra had to when ra gave over those she created so it comes out very beautiful let's Point down the sa P that until Leia had Yehuda ra did not even try to have a child Lea had ruin doesn't say ra wanted a child Leia had once Yehuda was born ra said okay that's why I gave you the to begin with I wanted to create okay now it's my turn then said give me give me a chance give me some give me something throw me a bone but not until Yehuda was born ra kept her mouth closed he belongs to you he's all yours I don't even belong here like says to says this is a final we're just going to bring out one more Point writes says was happy to be second fiddle to DAV this is what it doesn't make any sense not logical that one human being could be so giving to another human being you be the ruler and I be nothing where does that come from from the that ra is willing to give up everything give over the to Leia what the love of Rael to Leia was the first example of right the M says what's where is come from we know that there's a concept that you can't always tap into sometimes we've maxed out so at the end of days when we're maxed out on and we say help us says I can't you already used it up you ready build the sh for 5,000 R what do you want from me it doesn't working and there's nothing left the only thing we could Bank on is we could say to but you don't love us because of you don't love us because of this because of that you don't love us because we deserve it your love for us is it's unconditional what awakens the after all that's the only thing we could Bank on when all else fa fails well we know the's love for cl is a mirror image of the way that we act toward each other so when there's that engenders that awakens unconditional so at the end of days say everything else has been depleted there's nothing else to tap into but you know that you love don't you remember when I did that for my sister don't you remember when I was to my sister don't you remember I gave up everything for her she kept the she I was I was speaking in herstead she never knew that I gave her the that was and that created and says yes everything else all else has failed but when it's when you remind me of the alteristic love that you had to says that's something I can never ignore says my love for you where does it come from the love that had for his sister you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com