Parshas Toldos: How Do I Know If I Am A Good Parent?

this Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime.com good evening friends Yakov comes masqueraded like as and Y recognizes there's something very unusual here something suspicious he could tell by the way this man was speaking this is not the typical way that ASA would speak firstly Rashi points out he says n he says please ASA never said please secondly Rashi points out he kept on mentioning the name of didn't mention the name of hasem so there were two ways that this person was speaking that made y very suspicious this was not a this was somebody else but what's interesting is even though Rashi points out these two differences between the way as spoke in the way yob spoke yob said hashem's name yob said please there's a third distin between the way they spoke and in this way it seems like had more than how so when yov comes in he says Kum Kum is second person get up please you get up you you get up like like I talk to you you talk to me second person when comes and he says will the father get up third person like you talk to your Rabbi you don't say to a rabbi you you say say the rabbi so it seems like esav had more respect for his father than yob this is the observation of ran Adler ratan Adler rebi ofam s says ratan Adler in fact Gentiles speak to their parent in third person but Jews should speak to their parents second person because we're closer to our parents than the Gentiles are explains that by the Gentiles there's a generation gap there's no connection between Father and Son but by there's such a closeness between Father and Son the MIT of the son go to the Father the child is the leg of the father we're so close to our parents we don't talk third person we're supposed to talk second person says s so from here we see something very important that there's an aspect of parenting that we sometimes forget about let me give you an example in we talk about the worst in the Tor you know what is to seduce someone to speak to serve AAR a Seducer meis so it talks about even if your relative wants to seduce you your brother the son of your mother or your son or your daughter or your wife or your best friend who's your best friend who is this person the Tor is speaking about says Rashi your father your best friend is your father sayab if you want to ask yourself am I doing a good job as a parent what do you mean I dve do carpool and I give them money and I tell them don't do this do that those are all side things is of parenting who says this rashi rashi was an orthodox Rabbi Rashi says this I'll bring you another proof when Yosef goes down to M and the brothers come down y reveals himself says Leo don't worry God made me parro's father says Rashi y's not power's father Rashi says the definition of parent is friend the definition of parent is friend so you say I don't know rash wasi I want to hear fromi Source somebody brought me this week a saer with the signature of the original original what yeah and I have it I have it I have it just this [Laughter] week presently no was g a present I can't I can't divulge everything but I have it right nowas so they make aov says to his brothers Li to gather Stones so asks Rashi what do you mean yob says to his brothers yob doesn't have brothers he has one brother and as wanted to kill him so yakob wasn't calling as so who are yacob's brothers says Rashi his sons are his brothers writes the in his commentary to say treated his children like his brothers not don't do that do this no says you don't have to have you don't have to do this you want peace in your house you treat your older children like they're your brothers treat them like brothers they have very big you would think that this is like a a modern idea you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com