Parshas Ki Seitzei: The Etymology of the Get and Rabbeinu Gershon Meor Hagola

this Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime.com okay as we prepare for in one of the mitv in par is the inion of gin of G and even though the Torah does not use the word get the Torah just says that uh you send her away basically but the word that is used by the for the document of divorce is get the Mish begins in get so what does the word get mean what is get get the word get does not appear in the T not in the not in the and not in the so where does this word come from and what does it mean so in the beginning of he points out that other are also called G like it says in the fourth par only because of it's talking about but nevertheless is that is bother then if all if all documents are called get why does it why does it just say it should say maybe get Isa the answer is says T it doesn't have to say get Isa because most of the times that it says get it's talking about a get Isa so in other words the word get could refer to but mostly when you just see the word get you know it's talking about a document of divorce says is there such a thing as a get is why is it called a get is get is is when you tell a guy get a life but that's not what we're talking about but Hally there's only something called a get fine now the question is why do we write 12 lines in a get says but still why is it called a get and why are there 12 lines and again well the said he heard the name of ha and name of sya because it's a get is called because of in this week's para you should write for her a document of cutting off what does that mean well the we have to know what is the definition of being cut off in the Tyra the um where do we find cut offs we find cut offs between the various Paras between and Sh and the there four lines between sh Andra there four lines between and Bidar there four lines and between B midbar and there are four lines oh so if that that's the case so let's add up four plus Flor take out your Texas Instruments you know based on higher mathematics four + 4+ 4+ 4 is 16 but there only 12 lines in a get says tell you s we don't count the four spaces in between bid and because D is not a new book it it only repeats and a review of what it said previously so the reason why a get has 12 lines is because of the 12 lines of cutting off that there are in the tah between B and Sh sh Andra andb and the question would be what in the world does the severance of husband and wife got to do with the spaces in between and the cutting off in the between andbar interestingly there's there's a saf called was written by an by the name of b b lived in Italy and this summer I found his grave in um buried right next to R ofina what's amazing is v in Venice in Leo Island what's amazing is in the um some were not happy with the author ofur because he didn't have parasa so he moved in with a priest and the priest supported him for 12 years he lived in the house of the priest the priest supported him and in fact in the sa he quotes the Cardinal and he says over toyra from the Cardinal so you would think he would not be you know imagine somebody like that today forget it not only he would be he would be he would be chopped up however wrote the wrot a sa on the unbelievable anyway in the become a Jew afterwards the card no not that I know of anyway says the sa I'll even tell you what he says over from the car I'll tell you too that he says in the Cardinal he says that the word Italy um if you look in Rashi the Cardinal says Rashi says that when um stole the so as comes in and as says you have one for me so his father said okay I'll give you he named I'll give you the fat of the landash says Italy I'll give you Italy the Cardinal say it wasn't the whole country it was Calabria calal by the way that's where the uh many people get their from that region in Italy it's a very it's a very fertile region and the quotes the Cardinal Sayad and Rashi anyway you heard it here fine so was Rome right yeah yeah yeah yeah I don't know we'll find out I don't know anyway um the saer writes what does saer hus mean in the Torah it says the says get in for you pass me and I ped it thank you by the way when do we lay in I going to do we in the ah last week you ready excuse me no what is says the say why does it get have 12 lines why because of the others so two cashes number one the reason why it's called get is because it has 12 lines all are called G and they don't have 12 lines and number two that's the reason why it's called a get cuz it has 12 lines so call it a d or call it a ha or call it a tag or call it a yib you know you have so many nice options yab tag D I mean where did get come from so that's the question so there's a saer called from uh yov and he quotes the now he's one of the early M he had no problems with apparently neither or the pagod now ifak had a problem with something he would let you know okay so he had no problem that he's quoting to her from the Cardinal that's unbelievable he quotes and he asks so he quotes the husband and wife are coming to separate and in the whole all the letters of the T you will find either one place or another back to back yak you get the point yeah you will never find giml and test together there Bill there are millions of combinations you'll never find a giml and test together it's the only just like these two letters are so separate they have no Unity the husband and wife are becoming NR by the way there are another two letters that have uh never come together those and that are the letters giml and S gas meaning grub they also they they don't come together but but we we we we'll uh we'll talk about that maybe another time but the only two letters that that the says grub meaning food or grub meaning fat it means very physical it could mean arrogant also yeah gasa right so the it doesn't say that in the Torah those saying word yeah right so the reason why it's called a get is because these are the only two letters in kala that we'll never find together a again we see that the description of a document of divorce is since in the T these two letters never come together so too when a husband and wife are separating sh we use the letters giml and test by the way comes in his commentary to the he says that he quotes that the the same shot that all the AL are M to build AES meaning it's not just these two letters never come together and therefore the document of divorce is called a get the way letters work are two letters are brought together to build a construct of a word except for the letters giml test because nothing could be built from them therefore the the decomposition the the taking apart of this mishbah and this couple the word to use is giml test by the way comes a Primm and the prim him quotes the same idea from the the brother of the pre of the Mah thata you will never find giml and Tess together so he asks what about giml and S you don't find so he says yeah but what so soas why are you calling it a g call it a guess he says no the reason why it's called a g is sometimes get R sometimes it's good for example if the woman is commits then it's a good thing or but otherwise that's what we pick at Fine By the way in the of he brings down the same idea that you never find the letters giml and test together and he attributes it to none other than the same sh okay very interesting to try to understand why the document of divorce we have 12 lines because in the T breaking apart is 12 what does this husband and wife got to do with the the CIS of the Tyra what does a husband and wife have to do with the fact that in the Tyra the giml and test are never together there is a reine who's given a title that no other is given a very unique title and that is there was a one of the who really the re of many of theim R he's called R you ever hear that expression I just want you know this is not just like one of these things that the who called him call you know or the who what his mother named him so when we call and that's also meaningful but when we call it's not just if you look inash they call him this title one many he made many look at number seven the this is the CH of this is a CH Rashi he illuminated the eyes of the gas it's a very incredible title the reason why he's given that title Rashi says we all live by his mouth all of Germany all of Rome they are all his students so Rashi calls him why was he all the to be called it's and this is I'm just going to quote to you a few he brings over here this is the question of Ra mayori he says rash is not called the R's not call that why why why this why notash what's the Indian mayor we all know made many many we all know two of them Tak number one it's brought down in and the doesn't just give us the he quotes he put in if you marry a second wife AC it's interesting brings it down this one the brings down maybe maybe others yeah I'm not getting into now who is it binding that was that's brought in you can't married two wives the second of is in you could divorce a woman against her will even if he can't pay her theba she can't stop you could divorce her and she'll take you to court put on someone not to divorce a woman against her will so two made you can't marry a second wife and you can't Divi divorce a woman against her will well can't divorce against her will well here's the idea the idea is why did rabam do this well you could think of the obvious reasons obvious reasons are not a good idea to have uh more than one wife and to divorce a wife against her will also he's protecting the woman but we all know that there's a concept that our relationship with ranam is relationship of husband and wife ranam so to speak is our husband and we are his spouse Hashem is our and we are his kala now with any relationship there could be Rocky times and if the kala is not doing her end of the deal the could say you know this is not what I had in mind and he could tell her go fly a kite he there's a parish of Gish in the T we know theam keeps the Tyra well there's a there's an OP out what's going to happen if ranam tells us look I married you once upon a time you know you're a beautiful woman you had beautiful character but you a you ain't the same col as you once were because forus so R has two options he could either get rid of us against our will or he could say fine you want to stay but I'm going to take the Japanese also or I'm going to take the North Korea or I'm going to take uh whoever you know you don't want to you don't want to get out of the house no problem I'm going to bring in has two options he could get rid of us against our will or he could take another wife as well comes ruine and he ties the hands of the he says you can't get rid of someone against your will and you can't take a second wife because was also Bound by the therefore says protected CL in the darkness of Galos in the in the dark times of Galos when we're on a very madga and maybe we're scared you know what's going to happen says is or I'll take someone else opens up and then okay so I guess I'll have to take somebody else no well look over here number 13 yeah he'll send us alimony he'll give us very uh generous checks in the mail every month he'll send us checks in the mail look what he says he deserve the title and two of his they shine like like gems what are they it's also to divorce one's wife against her will and it's also to take two wives like a husband with his wife like and if we're not because of our what's going to happen if he divorces us comes he's that he's and and is but maybe hasem will take another wife no and he guards us from that that you're not to take another wife and therefore he saved us in our GS so that we're not lost in our sins and we're not distanced from the it's all in and therefore we call him the name 26 okay and when you're divorced you're from the 26 that's why you have 12 on each side that's the 12 get 12 right half of man and the wife are 13 but when you get divorc you know have 13 anymore you have 12 that's the G okay by the way who says over this V from Thea you range from Mish one end of the spectrum to the next so in the saer Mahar title bam he quotes that he heard from theba that the reason why is called is because was not to marry two wives he's also not to be and these two are what our mayor like the says and we don't have to worry that hasem might cast look at there's a say from who brings from um we spoke about him last week who says the same V that the reason why he's called ra is for this reason in fact The Story Goes it's brought in the in a footnote that in the Vin one time the r from vanet was traveling with yeah you're related to the right yeah came and the over there said and we need a over here because we know that even though RAB was made Tak you can't marry more than one wife if you have a if you have 100 rabbis they sign for whatever reason you can marry a second wife and it's utilized today and they wanted to sign on it he says I don't sign on you know why because the reason why ra made the Tak of not to marry more than one wife is so that the re does not take another if I sign what's going to Happ goes up to sh says oh maybe I need to get a I'm going to get a I get 100 to sign to take the Japanese he says I don't get involved in het that's one version of the story the satmer version of the story it's brought over here in a sa for that a different version of the story that they once asked a certain Reb asked to him to sign he says like this I don't sign on hetam why cuz I'm a r of a city R of a city is always in Jeopardy because people people don't like rabbis no matter what so that's why I always say you might as well tell them the right thing because they're not going to like you either way you know so the problem is the problem is that um he said if I sign I'm always worried about my Kil either they're gonna fire me they're gonna divorce me or they're gonna get me an assistant Rabbi right so therefore I'm I never sign on because if I'm allow somebody to get rid of their wife or take another one then they're going to do that to me but you're a rebel everybody loves you anyway so you don't have to worry they're going to get rid of you he says okay so what do we see from here we see from here that the what's the concept the concept concept is that the relationship between a husband and wife is analogous relationship between and and by us being steadfast and loyal to our spouse responds that he doesn't get rid of us he doesn't take another wife he doesn't get rid of us in other words the way we are down here is how the is inav in the has a tremendous on this where he writes some very very interesting things in the and the med tells us look at number 18 the med in tells us on the that when were we when we when were we a do in the times of the yanim in times of the Greeks now what does that mean in the times of the Greeks we were like a dove so he explains as follows we know what animal is Greece compared to in the dreams of Daniel andanar we know that netar saw the Babylonians he saw them as a lion first of all the Babylonians were the mightiest Empire they were the first of the empires the king of the jungle then came the Paras Persians he saw them as a beer why so the moral explains the beers are corpulent they eat a lot they sleep a lot like a he ate he slept he was about TAA the Persian Empire he saw them as baleta then came the Greeks the Greeks were seen as what animal a leopard why a leopard well one thing is a leopard is very bold Havey as so too the Greeks were in to know wisdom you have to be bold but DAV K wants to explain why is the uh the Greek Nation compared to the leopard now if this sheer is somewhat racist sorry okay so the pkia says can a Kushi change his skin so to then a leopard could change his spots okay right it says it says can a Kushi change his skin can a leopard change I mean what do you want what are you bringing the cushi in over here like what is you can say a million things can a elephant take off its trunk can I mean there billion things you can think of can nothing changes what's the what's the connection between a Kushi and a the answer is as follows the gar says that the K says that instead of Cl being holy like Kim they made themselves like a leopard rash she says a leopard is not mid on their Z the leopard has goes from one mate to the next of all the animals the one which is less loyal least loyal to its mate is the num so what do we see from here the num is is not loyal to its spouse by the way as opposed to who the Y the Y never changes its spouse one never gete never never remarries is loyal to the spouse fine heden says there are three animals that had relations on the Tava and they were all punished the dog the Raven and his skin was stricken you got it yeah right you know what happened to yeah became Kushi interesting so what do we see from here that what's the punishment of those who are not loyal and those who are not chest the skin turns into dark that's the punishment of those who are not loyal it happened to that's why the has spots the spot is it's not loyal and that's an very good he makes the point the Raven is black that's why the because he's a the has because he's not that's why the gar says that if the is proven to be clean how do we show her innocence if she used to give birth to the children skin are whiter ah so R brings down from from doctors that what ingredient in the skin produces the darkness of color pigmentation melan melanin melanin that's what the causes the darkness of skin we know that a cushi has a lot more melanin than others now everybody has a certain degree of this in a person's body the highest concentration of melanin is in the reproductive organ so he brings that over here I'll let you see the number we'll leave it at that okay that much and therefore he says because they were not um modest and they went MOS that ingredient which is concentrated spread he says it could be what dogs also what didn't happen to dogs why were they maybe they did I don't know by the way it could be that's why there's is why is y one of the that the one of the xeros of the Greeks where anyone who got engaged the Greek Emperor would have relations with them why in order to be p in the Z of Cl because they're like a leopard why are they called a leopard they're called a leopard because a leopard is not M but on their by the way one of the G of the um was the r says based on this that then he says an amazing thing the gamar says inas in Yehuda meaning and right there's Yehuda and gal I'm by the way if you want to know where I'm at I'm in number 18 I'm right over here on page three and Yehuda if you marry a woman right this week somebody marries a woman and he says what's going on I expected her to be a right you could you could say in yehud there was no why they were with the before the marriage and therefore no kidding she's not AA they did before so he says over here and not only that they did at the time of ARIS why did they do that what what in yehud they they were not they had at the time of the AR no it was just the opposit I didn't I never knew this it wasn't that in Yehuda they were with the Kal in Yehuda they were to be and to have relations immediately why because since there was a of and they were worried that if the woman would be taken right after Arison before relations with her husband she would have relations with the hegine bar so what they did was they were in Yehuda and they the the ISA already did basically the Z immediately in order to engender AA between is so that if the Hegman would come later it was I never knew that it was doing it was done um explicitly to make sure to preserve the sanctity of the Jewish marriage not in Yehuda they were more PR just the opposite in order to preserve they were at the time of Aris and they wanted they wanted that let the Greeks know she's a baa immediately so that they wouldn't take her in the first place okay because there's a concept fine so what do we see look in the bottom paragraph that cles and they did different in the times of the yanim not to destroy the institution of marriage but on the other hand we we see the yanim wanted to ruin the Z of that while the yanim we're trying to destroy the because we're looking to preserve the the and the so when were in the times of theim and we know that what color is the Y the Y is white no melanin as opposed to the the is black was was um on the maybe that's why the Yim are called it says um in the in theas it says like this is is y why is y called because darkness is a Simmon of immorality that's why Yan is called but here's the question if CL are calling um what Areo called times what why are we called y because we were loyal to our spouses but that's not why the is calling us the is calling us because we're loyal to him but what I don't understand what's going on over here here we're trying to say CL we're called because we did everything we could to preserve the sanctity of the Union of husband and wife but that's not what Ron meant you see he meant you're loyal to me but thead is like this in kalula we never find that Hashem is jealous or angry or KAS or k only byar why the answer is because K is what you have when you see that your wife is not faithful likewise when is jealous and angry when his when his re when his seems to be unfaithful by serving a and taking another God that means the concept and the between is the between and meaning says of the concept here is that when CL is faithful to their spouse and cl then says then I am faithful to you then you are you are you are loyal to me by being loyal to your spouse you're and I am designated to you when you're designated and when you try to preserve that they were to make sure that the woman is not taken by the hegine then I make sure that I am yours in other words the relationship between is ISA is the m between that again the same way we pointed out that is our light and Exile because since a man cannot divorce and a man cannot take is Al so to cannot get rid of us and the cannot divorce Us by but what we're bringing out that's the what happened in the times of that we are called when we are so it's an amazing thing we find two gazer of theim why one gazer theim was another we find is right on the Horn of of an ox that you're not connected to God are these two separate gazer it's the same exact gazer once the relationship between husband and wife is not faithful you're severed from God right away the connection a person has to the Loyalty hasem has to you the has to you is the loyalty and the connection and the vacas you have is is sh there's the in the is there's the in the is that's the it's not a it's Mish an exact parallel that the stronger the bond is between is is the stronger the bond is between Hashem and and when the K and the in is and and loyal then the re is steadfast is the made one Gaz it's not two different Gaz called if you if we get to violate your arusa then we are we are disconnecting you not only husband and wife we disconnecting the from that being the case we understand then why the get has 12 lines what because in the T the separation in the t is 12 lines therefore a get has 12 lines or because in the to the letters get and test are not together therefore that's how you break up husband wife yeah that's it exactly because the more mic the is is is the more is mic to you the breakup between is is is a breakup of the tah itself it's the breakup between and that's the LI of get and that's why tell at the end of where did create a person from from the he created man from the and why didem create man used to say that before hasem created man was hovering over the waters why is he hovering over the waters there there a lot of planes that they could land on the water right you ever see it there are planes that can land on the water so if a plane can land on the water why couldn't God land on the water why is he hovering the answer is God needs to rest where on a Jew but not on one Jew on Isa he's waiting for the mishan for theik which is the house of is and in that case that's why hasem created man for the and the break up sh you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com