Parshas Chayei Sarah: Yishmael's Teshuva - Too Late???

okay welcome everyone sh we're continuing our sh on are dedicated by our dear friend Dr Zak they should be for their whole family this week's share is dedicated anonymously for sh from a listener in Germany should watch over all of Cl is okay so now if you don't have yet your saer on Kaneka you can get it here artscroll.com or better bookstores near you okay this week Wednesday night is Monday night we're going to go back to last week's paraa and then Circle our way to this week's paraa to uncover a very important dimension of the personality that's on everybody's mind namely y the Torah tells us that was vacillating about a certain prophecy that he wanted to tell abru should I tell him should I not tell him should I say something should I not say something and Hashem says how could I hide it from him can I hide from Abraham what I'm going to do I love him why do I love Abraham because he will command his sons and his children after him and his household and they will guard the path of hem to do righteousness and Justice so that God could bring on Abraham in other words the says of course I have to tell Abraham because I love him now if I were to ask you why does Hashem love Abraham what is it about abrah that hasem loves I guarantee you every single person would come up with 10 reasons and the reason the tah gives would not have been on the list say Hashem loves Abraham because he jumped into the fire for him because he went around the world teaching the world about one God because he is the greatest who ever lived because he was no you know why I love Abraham because he's children that's what the PK says it doesn't say that I love him because he's the first guy to ding I don't not because he learns more to than anyone because he DAV better he does more he does more mitz God says the reason I love him is because he's his children it's a why does hem love abah because he teaches his children does anybody know does it say anywhere in theah no does it say anywhere in the Tyra teach your children the mitz no all it says is learn Tyra with your children but the MIT does not appear in the if is a woman according to many technically not is a woman to learn with her children according no the says a father is obligated to his son and a woman is not to her children why because it's parallel to it's a good idea it's an important idea but technically she's not obligated on the father we in the T does it say a father has to be children well I don't know says the source of the is this that loves Abraham because abah is his children at the end of he he says the is learned from the that's say and accordingly says if the source of this it would come out a father is obligated to his sons and his daughters because a says who's B presumably it's one's daughters says this is the clearest and the only reference to the mitah of the whole b means his wife wife is the bias yeah I would have thought so also perhaps but the M seems to feel that it's going on the whole household including his daughters bottom line is that we see two very interesting things number one the Tyra does not talk about the of number two Hashem loves Abraham because he's children even though if I would have asked you on the street tell me the hund most um the 100 accolades of abrah ainu nobody would have even put this on the list yet this is number one you know what the greatness of Abraham is you know why God loves him because he excels in the midst of so it's interesting what did Abraham do and who is he do we find he was his children what what's interesting is right before this the P says to the cattle Abraham went ran he took a young cow he gave it to the lad says he gave it to to in mitz mitz what what are the mitz is there even a Mitzvah here I always understood it to mean the Mitzvah of butash doesn't say rash says so what what are the MIT the says do not eat meat unless it's Sheed even if it dies on its own they she it and then they eat it that's a strange uh practice why are they Shing a dead animal but bottom line is that's the custom of in the of is that your Reby he says in his opinion he would say that the custom of that they don't eat meat without Shing it comes from the what else was the truth is until today there two MIT that excel in besides mil that abam did to what's amazing is you see the impact of the simple reading of rash is there are two involved over here one is the Mitzvah of and the other is the Mitzvah and until today despite all the other atrocities that they perpetrate they can't rid themselves of the of abah it's pretty amazing and pretty powerful the influence ofin in fact there's also he learns out that the the two MIT that the fact that excel in today is also because of the influence of Abu and it could beu did that in order to eradicate the of so there's a there's a humble work it's called p and it brings the following observation a very interesting observation why was why wasn't he why was in shab in Arin in why of all things is is it's it's thear tells us you know like the the V famously says that if somebody's born under a certain masle under Mars let's say the gar says either he'll be a doctor or a mo or a or um or a blood Letter or a robber so I meaning if some nobody has the personality of Bloodshed they're not going to shed it they're going to be shedding blood so there's nothing you could do to change it all you could do is harness it for the right things clearly yesma was a blood shedder we saw we see later he's rash says so probably saw the inherent character of is and like the gamar says that somebody who has the character of bloodletting should be a moel or butcher so was probably giving a tailor made he didn't he didn't train to be he trained is to be because he saw is had the character trait of murder so he wanted to harness it for a uh posit in a positive way by teaching him to be a now what's interesting is another observation on the P when AB says bring a little bit of water Rashi says who was Abraham sending to get a little bit of water remember what Rashi says a messenger who's the messenger presumably it's not is because byash identifies as so when it says rash says that means it wasn't isma why didn't Abraham send isma to get the water so this is very interesting idea this is a another possible Theory and that is you know the Z says that there are two forces there's a force of fire and the for force of water asov came from the force of fire isal comes from the force of water water is the water is the force of ofu nowu had said but he was a he controlled this torrent of water you see uncontrolled is G like like the PK says don't marry your sister marrying your sister is a no means unbridled kindness is promiscuity so yesal was the force of water but calls it it's like un a torrent of unbridled water that's why in tanak every time he's mentioned he's always hanging out by the water he's making people die of thirst he doesn't have enough to drink he's looking for water every single time he's always by the water you could take it to the bank whenever you's mentioned he's always by the water why because he's the of but uncontrolled was afraid to send is to get the water he had to keep him away from the water yesma was too drawn after to the water so he sent someone else and he made sure you know you got to you got to curtail it a little bit you can't be so drawn after okay anyway here's the subject that we're going to speak about tonight let's talk about the end of is what happened in the end so the PK says that when Abraham die at the end of this week's paracha look at number eight and his sons buried him in the cave of in the field of who buried Abraham in that order who's older y orak is's older so why does it sayak and it should say and then yeah says from here we learn and he let go first and this is the that AB was promised he's going to die now this is very difficult yesma was not a good guy until now he was a murderer he was an adulterer so you're telling me here you have a murderer and an adulterer and if you're walking into a room and he holds the door open for you oh he did chuva that's the guy you need to watch out for anytime you see a guy open to hold the door open for you you got to be very careful what does he want from you this is the ri he did in other words y murdered people he committed adultery his character was questionable oh but he held the door open for oh he's a good guy now how do we know how is it conclusive evidence that did so says something very very beautiful what was isma's what was his main sin his main sin was he always claimed he is the only rightful heir of abrah aino that Palestine belongs to him that Israel belongs to him so they say yeah but you but Sarah had a kid SAR is the main wife Sarah had a kid dad was married to her for 90 years nothing doing all of a sudden she spends one night without and she's pregnant oh yeah so um the kid is from from uh Sarah that's the biggest the joke in the world my father was with this lady for 90 years nothing doing she spends one night by a and she's pregnant the next day may may who is the chief remember the late who said May who's the chief lets but brings the med that when the Mal came to and he said you know you're gonna have a kid listening at the open of the the entrance of the tent Rashi says and the door was behind him the Met says no yes was behind him yes was there when the angel said y's going to be the main progeny but is denied it he said no way I'm the only rightful Heir Yak is the beautiful son of the king of the Philistines he's the son of a so says the fact that at the burial of Y of Abraham he let y go first means he repented this whole this whole lie that may have that he that means he's allowing to consider himself the main heir of abrah that's how we know he did Chua but it's very interesting you know if I would have asked you knowing what you know about yes would you have thought he did Chua as didn't do chva H didn't do chuva didn't do chuva the the wicked guys in the Tanakh they don't do chuva no yes did Chua who else did chuva in the family of the Patriarchs Patriarchs Abraham's father it says Hashem tells Abraham don't worry you're going to go and return to your forefathers in peace Rashi says forefathers to your fathers in peace was why are all these people doing Chua and if they did chuva then why aren't why don't we consider them good guys I mean is ter a good guy do you ever think of ter as a good guy nowadays in our generation what y was a G right okay right that's true like in other words y we think he's a m he has a para named after him we go to his Kev but I don't think you ever do you know do you know anyone who went to Kev ter even I never went to K maybe next trip ter who the B of balua is does anybody go to is's Kev do we even know where he's buried no what what exactly are kazal trying to tell us thatal did cha is that a compliment to him presumably it's a good thing thing so why are pointing out that did and why do we need to know this of what value is it does it help them where where does it place them in our in our uh evaluation of them let's come back to the original question why does ream love Abu because he's a sadic no because he's a no because he's a no because he's no because he's his [Music] children if I were to ask you what's the difference between Abraham and after all say the difference is a lifetime of the service of what's the difference between and a lifetime of the service of hm yeah but so what at the end of the day they're both at they're both they're both in the right place they both believe in Hashem wholeheartedly isn't the one that was his children he called them well Cen right the F that's the first sh right baras that that Cen went wrong because he he never received he was just born and he popped out an adult he thought he was the first to his children yeah but what what I asking is him isn't isn't it interesting maybe Hashem did but of all people it seems like God loved abrah I want to share with you an amazing Mal turns to look at number 14 what are you going to give me I am Barren and childless F the malum what in the world is Abraham asking God what what are you going to give me AB doesn't believe Hashem Hashem already promised AB three times you're going to have a kid didn't has already promised that he's going to have a kid and then said the ream promised abam three times he's going to have a kid so what's AB getting all emotional God what are you going to give me I have no children relax God only told you three times you're going to have a kid KAS the Mal says the Mal did not doubt for a moment that he was going to have a child but here's the thing he looked in his astrological signs and he saw that according to the nature of the world he can have a child so yes is going to miraculously give him give him a child there's no question but in order for the to miraculously give him a child he's going to have to change his name he's going to have to wait some time the malum says till like all the stars realign so probably abam said he'll give me a child like when I'm uh 99 years old I have one foot out the door or maybe even better yet he'll give me a child after I'm dead maybe my child will be born when I'm not alive any anymore Abraham believed with every fiber in his being and the promise of hasem that he would have children but he thought because Al he couldn't have children and the were antagonistic to his having a child he would definitely have a child but it would have to be naturally when he was so old he would not be able to raise and be the child so he said what are you going to give me I'm childless yes you'll give me a child but by the time I have it I can't continue and give over anything to him so he's going to be just like is that's what AB was afraid of by the way the b in a footnote in the end of seas on the as look at number 16 Ash fortunate is the man does it mean fortunate is a man and not a woman no fortunate is a man who prevails over Hisar when he's young says the tah is telling us the importance of getting your act together when you still have ability and strength and vigor and influence because the truth is that even if you recognize AES in your last moments it's a full-fledged chuva and you will reach the highest echelons of G and you will have but you know what you'll miss out on you'll miss out on generations of God-fearing Jews because it's too late it's too late in the game what about your children what about your grandchildren if you wake up when you got nothing left in the tank then you might have a nice but you're going to have to deal with the repercussions of lack of on your children that's what it means many people say when I retire when I become 99 when they put me out to pasture that's when I'm going to get my act together better late than ever but there's going to be a problem and that is what's going to be with your progeny with your future Generations arrau believed Hashem wholeheartedly that he's going to have a child but his question is I'm going to be so old and frail and so useless at that time I won't be able to influence them there's a say for Shir Yuda who says a very beautiful idea that if you cut to the Chase and you want to know what's the difference between abah and T oh abah was a big sadic yeah t was also sadic he also at the end of the day he was a big sadic Abraham was a big maybe was also was a big maybe was also the difference is abam did it his whole life so what so what when you get there you get get there who cares whether Abraham did it his whole life or he didn't do it his whole life the point is you know why theam loves Abraham because he was able to teach his children that means he got his act together when he was still with all of his ability that's the emphasis that's the the focus of the tah I love Abraham because he's he is loyal to me he is righteous he is devoted he is dedicated when he's still the head of his family and he's able to influence his family that's the difference between Abraham and ter when kazal point out that did Chu this is not necessarily a compliment to yma here's the thing yes did Chua but look at all the nas he gets today wow I'm sure he's shepping a lot of Nas so the point is not that yesal did Chua but is that going to cut it so it's a very a dramatic observation when we say is Dida what are we supposed to take from there supposed to take from there that obviously doing chuva when you're on your death bed it's not going to do the job it might do the job for you but for you as a in terms of your mission in this world you got to start you got to start getting your act together sooner than that the says you know the gar tells us about how there were people who were big rasham people who you know they sin their whole life tells us stories with every Harlot and then in their last moments they cried and they cried and they cried and Heaven L voice came out and said right this the the the Heavenly voice cried out this person's going to and rebi cried rebi cried that what why was rebbi crying what was rebbi crying about so simply we understand the gamar rebbi was crying look what somebody could accomplish in one moment that in one moment a person could turn their whole life around or the way the mar understands it is if this what you could is if this is what you could accomplish in one moment imagine if every moment of life was treated this way if you could turn your life around in a in a second imagine if you took advantage of every moment of life but the Shuda says rebi was crying because it's very nice this person turned it around in the last moment but how sad how painful it is that it doesn't always always make up for everything not he doesn't fix everything and the bottom line is why does love abrah ainu because he made sure that his values and his ideals he was able to inculcate at a time that he was able to give it over to his Generations are you supposed to divorce or wife if you you can't have children is that uh is that connected to anything we said my next question is I mean well the gumar says that if someone's married for 10 years somebody said the gar says if somebody's married for 10 years they don't have children then they get divorced but then divorced or they have to get divorced they should but but um he's living with her 100 years but then he went to is so the shot clock starts again and then we once spoke about this topic whether um it doesn't really apply B man and that's why Abino after afterwards he he married Hagar I want to share with you one one further idea gu how did abrah know that that the importance of whatever how did he know on his own where did he learn it from right well Abu understood the whole Tyra before it was given right so the same way he was able to be M all the Mitzvah in the T he was he understood the importance of give you a son so that you can you know hand down all the no but yeah yeah what's very interesting um what's very interesting is that of all the things that Abraham did this is the this is what found favor in hashem's eyes more than anything else the his dedication to give it over to his children I want to share with you one final CER if we look back in the P I love Abraham because He commands his children and his household after him and he tells them keep the Mitzvah so that Hashem will bring on Abraham everything that he said he would that's what he tells them keep the Torah so hasem will bring on Abraham he should say so hasem will bring on you everything that Hashem promises to do why that Hashem bring on Abraham do you remember the famous gamar the gamar tells us in that Amar went to visit rabu in pan and Rua said what do they what do they teach say in the B madish so they said rabi you're our rabi you're asking us what they taught maybe you should teach us something so Rua said no you went to the med so um please tell me something by the way who shabas was it this week meaning which Rabbi was giving share this week r or so they said it wasar so said knew what did he say so they saidar dar there's a MIT of H for the men to come the women to come and the children to come the men come to learn the women come to listen why do the children come to bring to give to those who bring the children says Rua such a diamond and you weren't going to tell me so by the way says why was this such a diamond to Rua do you remember what we say in about Risha what say about R he said fortunate is his mother Rashi explains because Rua's mother used to bring him into the B medas when he was very very young so his ears should hear the uh sound of Tyra so Risha understood that his whole greatness in learning his development of learning was because his mother brought him to the base Med so when he heard Reb aarya daring that why do the children come to bring reward to those who bring them in other words when he heard the value of bringing children to learn even if they don't quite understand he realized that this was the whole source of his greatness that his T his came from his mother from the his mother gave him so he was very moved I can't believe this diamond that raria thought you were going to you were going to take it away from me what do we see from here rebelar Ben aarya emphasized the importance of to bring even little children and to the B medish who maybe don't have a comprehension of what's being taught but just so that their eardrums should hear the words that was the message ofar says the gar continues that they said there is never a orphaned generation that rebab b aarya is part of what does that mean there's never an orphan generation even an orphan whose fathers have died it's like the fathers are alive why because through Reb aaria the fathers would would have made sure to teach their children so even though the fathers are not alive but through the influence of re aarya the influence of the father is still in the kids so it's like the father's alive meaning in the generation ofes aarya who he gave over to clao the importance of bringing the children to hear the words of Tyra even if the father's not alive there it's not an orphan generation cuz it's like the fathers alive CU even if the father is in the world of truth but they will have made sure to give over to their children and what's interesting is the m in its account of the story says that they went to Abu and they said Abu you are fortunate to have a descendant like rear aarya what's the connection between Abu andar we're all descendants of Abino why why don't we you know why don't we say AB you're fortunate Raba comes from you AB you're fortunate that any t comes from you the answer is of all the good deeds of Abraham ainu of all the righteousness of all of his but ultimately the reason the re loved him is because of the extraordinary that he gave his children and therefore if he has a descendant like AAR so of all of the progenitors ofar but forar is teaching clo the the importance of that's most attributed to because that was what Abu excelled in more than anything else and therefore Kaz tell we only have three Abraham and what about you can't put him on the resume he's not an a no he's not an a cuz he wasn't there for us at the time of his Aus at the time of fatherhood ter was MIA he was missing an action how how ter where we see that he went to um AAR seminar and he he heard the the codes and he was very moved and he did Chua serious I don't know who is M him no where did we see that he went to the Western Wall someone tapped him on the shoulder we see that because it says by the bris hasem told ABR you're going to you're going to die in an old age and you'll be gathered onto your fathers so Rashi says why would AB want to go back his fathers his father is an idolator but the point is that to be an A in is it's to follow in the ways ofu andu above and beyond all of his great accolades being the great but ultimately why does love him B but what's interesting is we could just point out that in that hasm says I love Abraham because of his what do we ever see Abraham doing the only is what we see right before that he it's almost like you know what the greatest example and illustration of the power of that he and whatever he tried to put in the kit imagine what y would have been had he not had and until today that of abrah is still is still apparent in is ultimately um I don't know if it was a greatest success story but that that's the reason why loves abru and to follow and to continue in the ways of Abraham means to sell in this area Okay say thank you for listening have a wonderful night okay