Mi Ha'ish - Loshon Hara Reveals Who YOU Are

is not about the other guy it's about you the gar tells us a bride whose eyes are beautiful nothing more needs to be checked simply the gar saying the most distinguishing characteristic of the beauty of a Kala are her eyes the question though is there are many Kalos they may have beautiful eyes but they may not be beautiful or there may be a Kala who may be very beautiful and their eyes are not their distinguishing characteristic what is the gamar teaching us a Kala whose eyes are beautiful nothing else needs to be checked I believe what the gar is saying is based on the simple revelation of Rab in last session we learned the story of the rebi who was walking with tamidim and they saw the carcass and they said how smelly the carcass is and the RBI says no you're not looking at it correctly how wide are its RAB gives us another analogy says R did you ever notice flies where do flies hang out do they hang out in pen houses that are spotless and clean no you won't see flies there you'll see flies in the garbage flies feel comfortable with garbage because since they're disgusting and lowly creatures they feel comfortable in the garbage they don't feel comfortable in clean hygienic pent hous so too says someone who speaks and enjoys uncovering the filth the grime the shame the imperfection the mistake of someone else you know either they like to speak about someone else's faults cuz they're a fly because they're a lowly creature and they only feel comfortable in the garbage but a noble noble person doesn't feel comfortable speaking about the good the deficiency and the problems and the shortcomings of someone else he's the noble being he doesn't feel comfortable in such an environment he's not a fly he's a noble person therefore the key to overcoming lashara is to have beautiful eyes you see someone who sees the good that reveals they are a good person and they only feel comfortable in a pleasant environment they don't feel com comtable talking about people's faults deficiencies shortcomings so what lashara reveals about a person is it reveals the quality of the person someone who's uncomfortable speaking about someone else's faults that reveals that they are an upstanding refined Noble individual but if someone's always looking for the Grime on someone what does that say about them someone who has beautiful eyes someone who only sees the good that means they're a wonderful person nothing else has to be checked we know exactly who they are the eyes the key to overcoming lashar is what do you see in someone else become someone who is not comfortable being in an environment of garbage only be comfortable in an environment of the positive qualities of someone else wishing everyone