Iggeres HaGra #13 - Don't Exert To Yourself To Be Able To Leave Money To Your Children

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay welcome back everyone brookham abbaam uh we continue in the garrison um i want to remind everybody american is coming thursday night at 9 30 there's a special uh nittel nacht program on shots illuminated everybody is uh invited and cards to join us at 9 30 p.m on thursday evening we're in the igaras hagra and the grant mentioned that one has to be careful to groom raise their children gently to not be stingy and paying the tuition and the scar lemur for one's children and the gra seem to say that one one has to oversee that uh their one's children uh he said that i left over a lot of svarim and uh he keeps on reminding again and again to guide one's children to be to oversee their health and their food that they shouldn't be missing anything and the order of the growth says is that they should learn the whole hummus that they should be frequent in it and accost them to in it uh kemat and again the grower repeats three times banachas and we pointed out that uh in contra distinction to the daughters the gross seems to be dealing more gently with his sons and that we discussed last time and then the gross says as follows one has to always be mindful about the children and everything else is nothing is empty one will not take with him to the next world more than his mitzvah samantha taubim the garage quotes apos again to hill and park memphis don't be afraid if somebody is wealthy because he won't take his money with him and then the grass says and don't say well i need to amass money and gather money to be able to leave over to my children so the girl here is sort of addressing a uh very instinctive and natural feeling that people have that they want to have a certain amount of monies to be able to give and leave over to their children after all it's a parent's responsibility to see to it that their children are cared for and the grass sort of bursts this bubble and this feeling well you know i have to leave over money to my children he says first of all don't say that i'll leave over to my children a certain allotment he says people are like the grass of the field some spread and some flourish what that means is as follows the grass says don't make the mistake and say you know i have to have 10 million dollars in my bank account because i have 10 kids and i have to leave every one each one of them a million dollars because says the guru every person has their own so to speak mazel and hatswaha and even that kid that you think well needs your million dollars otherwise they won't be successful without it they won't be successful with it because that kid has his own muzzle and you can leave him 10 million dollars and it's not going to help him and the child that is matsuyak and the child that is a successful type of person that you could leave them nothing and they'll still be successful so the gross sort of burst the bubble of a person working overtime you know i need to leave over i need to leave over because the grass says people are like herbs of the field some flourish and some wither each human being is born in his are dependent on one's muzzle and the gemara brings a story that in the house of chisda they had bread even for the dogs made out of fine flour and the dogs didn't even even eat it in the house of rabba they had simple bread made out of barley for people and they didn't have enough in other words some people their masala is they have money some people they're muslims they don't have money and if you think i'm to work extra so i could leave more money over to that kid who doesn't have a good if he doesn't have a mazel whatever you leave over for him is not going to help him an iota and the kid that has a good muzzle then the extra money you leave over for him is not going to help him in iota every human being has their independent muscle and whatever you leave over for them will not help them at all either they won't need it or it won't do anything for them says the gra don't don't think that you know if you leave over more money for a kid the child will have a better feeling to you know the bottom line is when a person dies everybody is basimatsuma finally he left already he went already to him the family is happy about the yeah they make believe they're sad for who you're in the show and the person goes into the grave in fact rebecca vager wrote a by the way you guys had grows not for the faint-hearted if you if you thought this was going to be a nice pick-me-up at 5 30 p.m after a long hard day you know not sure this is uh you might want to join us for your vamas instead at 9 15. that might that might do the trick but the grow wrote a letter and actually check it out on tour anytime we were at the grave of the gra about two summers ago and we were zoe had to read uh the the grave of rabiki vagar excuse me and we read the um kinah that is about the about a person's life and the gras and the ricky vega says remember the day you leave this world you're going to leave all your mother money to others you won't be able to take it back and all they're going to say is toiv those who inherit you are going to say better off he is dead than alive um they're going to make a shahianu your children they'll forget you once a year they'll light a candle for you so says the groud don't think it's worthwhile to spend your life amassing money to be able to leave it over says the grudge don't you remember reschlock-ish left over kava myrica one small measurement of saffron which is basically he left over like two dollars to his name and when he died he said you know what what should be said about me he left over all of his wealth to others the man had a few dollars to his name but he felt that he the fact that he had a work an extra 15 minutes in his life to make those two dollars and then leave it over to others it was sort of it was a waste of time it should be said about him says to people who think they're going to leave over to their children once a person dies their children do nothing for them other than the mitzvos that they do so if someone's fortunate enough that they're supporting a family let's say they're involved in limana taira so that's a different thing than then it's tsudaka then they're supporting torah but just to leave over so that the family is comfortable sort of the gra is bursting that bubble ah says the girl what are you worried about god decrees on rosh hashanah they should have food regardless of whether you leave over for them an album it's like no it's food is established for them now graw is going to say that ultimately what the growth is saying is that it's sort of a fallacy that it's important to leave over wealth to one's children i believe he quotes the father of the sh and the father of the i believe he does reckon that there is some value of leaving money over to one's children and the guideline that he says um is that you should split it you should split it between sadaka and one's mishpacha now i can't tell you if in the times of the gra you should give it all to tsudakka and the father of the shelah said 50 50 you know i can't say what the ratio is today but it's a certain hashgaffer that it's if a person has the opportunity to amass him to to learn more to do more mitzvos and it says well i have to work why because i have to pay for my great grandchildren's you know college tuition i have to you know who's gonna buy my great-grandson his boy celino had for his bar mitzvah you know relax he wasn't even born yet so there's a sort of a notion that you have to amass a mass and s to leave over the grass so to speak is uh bursting that bubble and he's sort of under under valuing uh that the the importance of such an idea and he's quoting a gemara the great raishlankish considered that the fact that he left over the few dollars that he had we could say about him okay rubble so we're going to hold it over here bezel shum we'll pick it up tomorrow uh 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